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(2388, 5193, 'Leaders, Are You Comfortable Being Held to a Higher Standard?', '', '', '74.117.222.41', '2011-06-20 08:37:45', '2011-06-20 13:37:45', '[...] Read full article Source: Lead Change Group   Filed Under: Article Tagged With: confidence, corporate culture, corporate leadership, employee expectations, feedback, leadership accountability, leadership strategy, leadership styles, talent visibility [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2389, 5193, 'Shawn', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '99.17.7.206', '2011-06-20 10:56:07', '2011-06-20 15:56:07', 'Mary,\nWow, some interesting nuances explored in your online conversations.  I like to simplify this for myself: I give respect (and trust) to those whom I meet. Its when there are behaviors, even words, that show negligence, bias, gossip, pettiness, favoring, and over/covert sabotage from employees when I withdraw trust and/or respect.\n\nThere is entitlement in organizations (public and private).  But it is hardly reason to disrespect an employee.  To dismiss entitlement behaviors and use it as a way to judge employees unfairly is like saying \"It\'s not worth my time to help this employee know how this behavior is limiting their potential.\"  To be balanced, only after repeated attempts to coach an employee to grow from entitlement-related behaviors does a manager begin to question his or her trust and respect for the person.  This, however, is not a one or two-shot deal.\n\nA bigger question we must ask ourselves is, \"when do we turn our back on another human being that needs coaching?\"\n\nGreat conversation.  I hope others join in.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2390, 5193, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.203.124.74', '2011-06-20 12:17:52', '2011-06-20 17:17:52', 'Wow Shawn.  Thanks for adding your comment.  I especially liked: \"To dismiss entitlement behaviors and use it as a way to judge employees unfairly is like saying “It’s not worth my time to help this employee know how this behavior is limiting their potential.”\n\nAND, \"A bigger question we must ask ourselves is, “when do we turn our back on another human being that needs coaching?”\n\nLove that you brought potential and coaching into the conversation.\n\nLet\'s drum up some more responses!', 0, '1', '', '', 2389, 1),
(2391, 5193, 'David Locke', 'Dave44000@yahoo.com', '', '70.114.15.111', '2011-06-21 01:41:52', '2011-06-21 06:41:52', 'It is this transition from expected respect to earned respect that one moves from manager to leader. I get tired of managers thinking they are leaders. Sorry, for a manager to become a leader, they must lead, and that is vastly different from just managing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2392, 5193, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.203.124.74', '2011-06-21 08:50:05', '2011-06-21 13:50:05', 'Thanks for commenting, David.  I couldn\'t have said it better myself.\n\nWarmly,\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 2391, 1),
(2393, 5196, 'Ed Han', 'ed.m.han@gmail.com', 'http://edmusesupon.wordpress.com/', '173.71.84.31', '2011-06-22 06:09:01', '2011-06-22 11:09:01', 'Becky, what an excellent source of inspiration. It\'s easy not to see opportunities in issues and what a great teaching moment for your daughters, too!\n\nIncidentally: where might one find such wristbands?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2394, 5196, 'Will Lukang', 'Will.Lukang@gmail.com', '', '166.137.139.14', '2011-06-22 06:13:18', '2011-06-22 11:13:18', 'Excellent post!  You gave Saul a nudge and let him know that there is hope.  Sometimes people need to be reassured and not to give up.  Thanks for sharing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2395, 5196, 'Jon M', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jhmertz/', '72.48.93.4', '2011-06-22 07:43:42', '2011-06-22 12:43:42', 'Spreading a spark of the possibility of not accepting indifference is an excellent approach. You may never know what change that gesture ignites, but it is much better to challenge someone to think and act differently. Great post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2396, 5196, 'Becky Robinson', 'becky@kevineikenberry.com', 'http://www.weavinginfluence.com', '72.241.131.58', '2011-06-22 07:57:29', '2011-06-22 12:57:29', 'Hi Ed,\n\nThanks for your encouragement and your interest in the wristbands. You can find out more about the Remarkable Wristbands at youareremarkable.com\n\nI hope my daughters picked up on the lesson. They see me wearing my wristband daily and they see me giving them away. It\'s hard to know what they pick up from my interactions with other adults. I would certainly love to inspire them to make a difference, every day, where they are. You can do that at any age!', 0, '1', '', '', 2393, 0),
(2397, 5196, 'Becky Robinson', 'becky@kevineikenberry.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/beckyrbnsn/', '72.241.131.58', '2011-06-22 08:01:21', '2011-06-22 13:01:21', 'Thanks, Will. I hope that Saul followed through to see what he could do to make a difference.', 0, '1', '', '', 2394, 0),
(2398, 5196, 'Becky Robinson', 'becky@kevineikenberry.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/beckyrbnsn/', '72.241.131.58', '2011-06-22 08:02:20', '2011-06-22 13:02:20', 'Jon,\n\nThanks for taking the time to comment. I\'m glad you enjoyed the post and I hope it inspires people to action!\n\nBecky', 0, '1', '', '', 2395, 0),
(2399, 5196, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com', '68.13.251.23', '2011-06-22 08:30:27', '2011-06-22 13:30:27', 'Thank you Becky!  You consistently take an every-day experience and turn it into a leadership lesson that others can relate to with ease.\n\nThis story in particular provided both vision and encouragement to Saul, to use his experience, his knowledge and his voice to create a change ripple that will make a difference for thousands of people.  For the rest of us it is a reminder that every person at every level has something of great value to contribute and we should all be looking for way to unleash that potential in each other.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2400, 5196, 'Mark Sturgell CBC', 'askthecoach@pdncoach.com', 'http://purposeandnow.com', '98.214.227.160', '2011-06-22 08:34:53', '2011-06-22 13:34:53', 'Becky,\n\nWonderful message that is so simple yet so easily passed up in our daily lives.\n\nFirst, I loved the distinction that Saul makes in his response, \"We don\'t CONTROL that.\"  There are many things that are, truthfully, beyond our control. Yet our potential for INFLUENCE remains.\n\nSecond, it is all too easy to submit ourselves to the role of victim by announcing that the proverbial \"somebody should\" do something about it, whatever the circumstantial \"it\" is in life at the moment.  We need others like you to ask of us, \"Is there something YOU can do?\" (the ultimate role of a coach is to ask this question.)\n\nHere is my simple credo:\n\nMaybe I can\'t change what HAS happened, but by golly I sure am responsible for what happens next!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2401, 5196, 'John S', 'brandleadership@ymail.com', '', '66.0.28.250', '2011-06-22 09:31:25', '2011-06-22 14:31:25', 'Becky,\n\nSome great thoughts.\n\nA two questions come to mind....\n\n1.) Why didn\'t Saul get you and the girls transportation back to your correct gate?\n\n2.) If one of our associates responded, \"We don\'t have control over that\" to a customer, they would be looking for another job. Like Saul, we have to contend with unions and govermental agencies everyday on the trade show floor. I hope our response is not the same.\n\nI think you were trying to highlight how Saul was being a good representative of the Southwest brand.\n\nMy thoughts are the opposite.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2402, 5196, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '69.137.161.0', '2011-06-22 14:48:58', '2011-06-22 19:48:58', 'What a great example of committing an act of leadership on your part Becky and an opportunity for committing an act of leadership for Saul.  Wondering what he will choose to do...good for you for not letting the opportunity pass by.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2403, 5196, 'Sharon Reed', 'sharon_reed@live.com', 'http://www.heartpath.wordpress.com', '24.224.116.218', '2011-06-22 19:48:55', '2011-06-23 00:48:55', 'Great post, Becky!  Sometimes we all need a nudge, encouragement, or a simple green band to remind us that we are indeed remarkable; that we all have the power and opportunity to lead and influence change if we are willing to step outside of our comfort zone.  I am certain that regardless of whatever action Saul may or may not have taken that day, you planted an important seed that is likely to remain with him for some time to come - possibly just what Saul needed to grow the leader within.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2404, 5196, 'Erin Schreyer', 'eschreyer@sagestone-partners.com', 'http://www.sagestone-partners.com', '184.57.239.217', '2011-06-23 08:48:41', '2011-06-23 13:48:41', 'I love, love, love this post Becky!!!  \"Instigate.\"  My very favorite word, as it relates to our encouragement of taking responsiblity for leadership!  We CAN influence others in positive ways.  It CAN ripple out.  It CAN make a difference.  Why not try and see what happens?  I\'ll bet we WILL see a better world...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2405, 5196, 'Steve Browne', 'sbrowne@larosas.com', 'http://sbrownehr.com', '70.61.142.6', '2011-06-23 08:59:09', '2011-06-23 13:59:09', 'Becky - what a great example of how a simple conversation can allow people to be intentional. Thanks for modeling what you believe in to not only the attendant, but your daughters.  That\'s powerful stuff !!  Thanks for sharing how what we \"do\" can happen in all environments.  Great post.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2406, 5196, 'Christo Strom', 'cstrominvestments@gmail.com', 'http://www.orangeracecardangels.blogspot.com', '50.12.254.127', '2011-06-23 09:41:23', '2011-06-23 14:41:23', 'Becky,\nSimple every day interactions with people in a spirit of harmony does wonders\neverywhere.  Do they make those wristbands in ORANGE?\n\nRespectfully in TRUTH\n\nChristo Strom\nSole Owner of Orange Race Card Angels\nHead of Angel Promotions\n\nP.S. You are remarkable +(~~+~~)+', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2407, 5196, 'Becky Robinson', 'becky@kevineikenberry.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/beckyrbnsn/', '72.241.131.58', '2011-06-23 09:44:32', '2011-06-23 14:44:32', 'Hi Christo,\n\nThanks! You are REMARKABLE, also. We don\'t make the wristbands in orange. We make them in GREEN to remind us of the growth! I can see why you would want orange, though. :) I\'ll have to pitch the idea to my boss.', 0, '1', '', '', 2406, 0),
(2408, 5196, 'Paul Nicholas', 'paul54nicholas@yahoo.co.uk', 'http://www.soul-chaplain.com', '86.138.184.223', '2011-07-01 06:56:05', '2011-07-01 11:56:05', 'I enjoyed this - thanks Becky.\n\nI suppose the green wristband is a tangible or embodied metaphor for some intangible and subliminal behavioural signal that you must be imparting at the same time - what non-verbal messages do you think you are giving at these moments?\n\nAnd I liked Steve Brown\'s comment that \"a simple conversation can allow people to be intentional\". I\'m often telling people that \"a single conversation can be transformational\" - and I shall now add \"and it\'s the simplest conversations that are the most powerful\".\n\nBest wishes\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2409, 5196, 'Marvin LeBlanc', 'marvinleblanc@aol.com', 'http://www.marvinleblanc.com', '96.25.100.212', '2011-07-12 12:12:40', '2011-07-12 17:12:40', 'WOW!  Great story and very inspiring.  People in Saul\'s position must often feel very helpless and a simple conversation and an gentle but powerful reminder (the wristband) will make a big difference in his life.  I tell my clients all the time that everyday conversations are far more meaningful and powerful than \"sales appointments\".  Thank for the inspiring article.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2410, 5203, 'Paul Nicholas', 'paul54nicholas@yahoo.co.uk', 'http://www.soul-chaplain.com', '86.138.184.223', '2011-07-01 06:39:42', '2011-07-01 11:39:42', 'Hi Chad,\nThis is really interesting and enjoyable - thank you!\nI haven\'t thought in terms of \"disruption\" before - but I feel a strong resonance here with my pleas to developing leaders to \"be unreasonable\" and \"seek inspiration in chaos\". The first because it is unreasoableness that leads us to question and seek change - and the second because all creativity comes from a pre-existing \"something\" - nothing can be created from a vacuum.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2411, 5217, 'Leadership Development Training', 'chriss@ithakaleadership.co.uk', 'http://www.ithakaleadership.co.uk', '80.42.135.87', '2011-06-23 15:20:45', '2011-06-23 20:20:45', 'Very good article on leadership. I agree that a good leader has the engagement of everybody around them. As mentioned in the article, the second one party no longer feels the relationship benefits them', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2412, 5231, 'Diana', 'diabratical@yahoo.ca', '', '198.103.184.76', '2011-07-21 13:11:32', '2011-07-21 18:11:32', 'Thank you for a great title Mary!  I am a fairly new senior supervisor and was fortunate enough to have a mentor that shared your views!  I learned from him that the sharing of information, perspective and views are just that.  The inference from the receiver is the negative side, the defensive wall and what, as human being, we easily react to.    My mantra has been to \"put it on the table for discussion and do with the the right intent, not to humilate, hurt or attack, but to help, grow and open a mutually respectful relationship.\"\nThis was a lesson learned by me when, at my wits end with an employee who had performance issues and was not ameniable to making any necessary changes, I simply stopped my \'constructive feedback\', closed my notebook, put down my pen and leaned forward to ask \"You don\'t trust me, do you?\"  The shift in response was huge, and we started making steps towards a mutally respectful working relationship.\nDiana', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2413, 5231, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '69.242.114.141', '2011-07-21 14:37:41', '2011-07-21 19:37:41', 'Wow Diana, that is a *powerful* story about how you handled that difficult employee situation.  Your mentor is wise and my guess is that you have some intuitive leadership traits yourself even though you are a fairly new senior supervisor.  I would love to see a post from you on this!\n\nThanks for commenting,\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 2412, 1),
(2414, 5232, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-06-29 09:51:57', '2011-06-29 14:51:57', 'Great post Jennifer.  I appreciate your perspective.\n\nAnother way to look at it is, if your point of view doesn\'t attract some criticism, you must be doing what everyone else is.  Making a difference almost requires some criticism. Expect it; even plan for it.  If you\'re ideas and pursuits can\'t stand some criticism, what are you doing?\n\nThanks!  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2415, 5232, 'Jennifer V. Miller', 'jmiller@people-equation.com', 'http://people-equation.com', '76.235.201.149', '2011-06-29 19:08:18', '2011-06-30 00:08:18', 'Mike,\n\n\"Making a difference almost requires some criticism\"-- what a healthy perspective. Thanks for offering yet another way to look at this issue.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2416, 5232, 'Subha Balagopal', 'balagopal.subha@gmail.com', 'https://subhabb.wordpress.com', '50.90.5.50', '2011-07-08 12:01:14', '2011-07-08 17:01:14', 'Thank you for this post, and a great quote worth remembering. Recently, a mentor shared a quote from a speech by Roosevelt (the excerpt is called \'The Man in the Arena\'), which has freed me to be able to have a balanced perspective about criticism. I wrote about my reflections on facing criticism and shared the quote here: https://subhabb.wordpress.com/2011/06/15/unbound-from-here-on/ and it has taken me to a different level in my leadership role. It is ultimately about the beliefs and principles that drive our work and the learning and growing that happens along the way!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2417, 5237, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-06-29 07:25:45', '2011-06-29 12:25:45', 'Will, thanks for the great post.  Because I notice the differences between positional authority and character-based leadership, I also notice them in your post.\n\nSometimes we reach positions of authority because of our performance rather than who we are.  People give us the position, authority and influence because of our performance.  Whether or not we get the influence through our character or our performance, we choose to kick it into overdrive and let our position maintain our authority and influence and we drop our guard on the character front.\n\nAs a result, our selfish nature takes over.  We stop giving over and above the call.  The energy and life that once came from our leadership is gone.  As a result, our contributors must fend for themselves too.  And all of the life is sapped from our leadership.  The end result is some scandal or empty effort - no character-based servant leadership, no life.  It\'s simple, yet profound that we see so many examples every day.\n\nThanks for your excellent post that reminds us 6 ways to stay on track.  I appreciate it.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2418, 5237, 'Jon M', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jhmertz/', '72.48.93.4', '2011-06-29 09:27:54', '2011-06-29 14:27:54', 'Will,\n\nVery insightful post! Being self-aware is essential, and it is often missed when people reach certain levels. Although we are all human, it does not dismiss the need for standards of conduct.\n\nOne element I would add is accountability. There is degree of self-accountability that needs to be present.  Additionally, we all need friends who will hold us accountable and challenge us.  We need to have these type of people in our networks, and we need to engage them proactively as well.\n\nThank you for post and insights!\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2419, 5237, 'Jim Fierce', 'jfcqe@aol.com', '', '98.151.250.176', '2011-06-29 09:42:16', '2011-06-29 14:42:16', 'Such a great and timely post.  There are so many examples of so called leaders that are so full of themselves that they forget their purpose and calling.  It\'s sad because most of the ones who fall hard have been given a gift that most of us would cherish if we had it.  If that gift were used for good instead of just for personal benefit our society would be so much better for it. I believe this problem is so prevalent in politics today (in both parties) and corporate America  that our country is at risk.  I\'m not sure how we can start steering this ship away from the iceberg.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2420, 5237, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '69.137.161.0', '2011-06-29 19:55:15', '2011-06-30 00:55:15', 'Excellent Will.  Being self aware is clearly essential to keeping our integrity in tact as we rise on the ladder of success.  One way to make sure we don\'t forget is to continue to surround ourselves with people who will keep us honest and humble. If all we are hearing is accolades chances are we don\'t have a balanced view of ourselves.  We are after all human!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2421, 5237, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.wordpress.com/', '71.127.246.50', '2011-06-29 20:04:07', '2011-06-30 01:04:07', 'Hi Jon,\n\nYou brought up a good point about being accountable.   Leaders also need to surround themselves with people they can trust to help remind them to be true to themselves.\n\nThanks,', 0, '1', '', '', 2418, 0),
(2422, 5237, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.wordpress.com/', '71.127.246.50', '2011-06-29 20:07:01', '2011-06-30 01:07:01', 'Hi Jim,\n\nI believe greed is partly to blame for it.  Some leaders end up putting their own agenda ahead of everyone else.  As a result, they failed to do what is right for their constituents.  Being self aware is essential in safeguarding ourselves from mental lapses.\n\nThanks,', 0, '1', '', '', 2419, 0),
(2423, 5237, 'Ernest Dieteman', 'Bodziony19163@yahoo.com', '', '184.82.48.94', '2011-09-12 16:34:23', '2011-09-12 21:34:23', 'This design is spectacular! You most certainly know how to keep a reader amused. Between your wit and your videos, I was almost moved to start my own blog (well, almost...HaHa!) Fantastic job. I really loved what you had to say, and more than that, how you presented it. Too cool!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2424, 5241, 'sethupathy', 'sethupathyts@gmail.com', '', '89.211.222.199', '2011-07-01 11:30:40', '2011-07-01 16:30:40', 'I agree understand the  opponent  emotion or step in their shoes when situation in very tense,\nyou will achieve 100 % success.\n\nYou rightly said here.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2425, 5241, 'Fergus Gibson', 'fergus@sustainablylush.com', 'http://www.sustainablylush.com', '74.198.150.219', '2011-07-02 07:45:35', '2011-07-02 12:45:35', 'I would tweak your conclusion slightly. In my opinion, the simplest way to understand it is that people who are emotional want their feelings validated. It might seem like I\'m splitting hairs, but I think there is a slight improvement in clarity to say that what you\'re describing is the process, the goal is validation.\n\nThe other person wants to know that their communication has been received, understood, and the emotional content validated. I believe the goal was achieved in your story by your focus on solving the problem -- thereby validating the emotion of the other party because your response indicated there was in fact a problem thus the concern was valid.\n\nThe process will never be as effective if the receiving party only reflects that they understand the emotion exists. \"I hear you\'re concerned,\" by itself has some value, but far less than, \"i understand your concern. There\'s a problem here. Let\'s work together to resolve it so that you needn\'t be concern anymore.\" The latter is far more effective because it acknowledges the essentially rightness of the feeling.\n\nIn his seminal book \"How to Win Friends and Influence People\", Dale Carnegie has a novel approach to the problem. He recommends that in every case we can sincerely say, \"If I were in your position, I\'d feel exactly the same.\" He rather cunningly points to be in the other person\'s position, we\'d have to BE the other person; thus we would experience precisely the same feelings.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2426, 5241, 'Christina Haxton', 'christina@sustainable-leaders.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/sustainableleaders/', '99.197.0.57', '2011-07-03 16:46:11', '2011-07-03 21:46:11', 'Guy,\n\nThank you for a spot-on post about how emotions are contagious. Remember the sage advice we all heard at some point ... \"Leave your feelings at the door when you come to work.\"  The latest brain science research tells us this is not only bad advice, it\'s impossible.  We cannot leave our \"human at the door\" when we come to work.\n\nIf we understand the strengths and limitations of our human brain, we can choose to either react (and fuel dissonance) or respond (and build resonance).\n\nUsing the power of acknowledgment, as you described in your conversation, you simply simply acknowledged his emotion which resulted in his feeling trust.  Effectively, you pushed in the clutch and took the gearshift out of high gear (conflict, dissonance) and wiggled it a bit to be sure you were in neutral, then thoughtfully selected the gear he needed you to be in.  It was only then you could go in a solution-finding direction.  Simple, not always easy.\n\nHow many opportunities do we have each day to choose to respond and acknowledge an emotion (your own or another person\'s) or to react and fuel the fire?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2427, 5241, 'Guy Harris', 'guy.harris@principledriven.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/recovengineer/', '99.189.253.76', '2011-07-03 19:34:24', '2011-07-04 00:34:24', 'Fergus - Thanks for your additional thoughts. You\'ve added something to the conversation to encourage a slightly different way to look at the situation.\n\nGuy', 0, '1', '', '', 2425, 1),
(2428, 5241, 'Guy Harris', 'guy.harris@principledriven.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/recovengineer/', '99.189.253.76', '2011-07-03 19:35:59', '2011-07-04 00:35:59', 'Christina - Thanks for both your comment and encouragement. Great question to consider at the end of your comment - \"How many opportunities do we have each day to choose to respond and acknowledge an emotion (your own or another person’s) or to react and fuel the fire?\" That\'s definitely something to consider as we interact with others every day.\n\nGuy', 0, '1', '', '', 2426, 1),
(2429, 5241, 'Jeff Pitts', 'japitts59@hotmail.com', '', '216.196.190.114', '2011-07-05 09:54:47', '2011-07-05 14:54:47', 'Guy,\n\nI can\'t agree more with you in this. Acknowledging a person\'s current emotional state is effective in diffusing the \"charged\" situation. Although it might be just arguing semantics, and I\'m not a trained counselor/psychologist, etc., I would disagree with Fergus that we don\'t necessarily want to validate a person\'s emotional state. There are times where the anger may be misplaced and inappropriate, and to validate it says that you\'re right to be angry, which could give license to stay angry.  I have found that if you acknowledge a person\'s emotional state and seek to understand why, they are more likely to move to the solution phase much quicker. Especially in these times of virtual relationships and feeling like we have no control, just knowing we have been heard can diffuse most situations.\n\nJeff.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2430, 5241, 'Are You Sinking Ships With Your Communication Style? | CallCenterBestPractices.com', '', 'http://www.callcenterbestpractices.com/are-you-sinking-ships-with-your-communication-style/', '66.147.242.83', '2011-09-23 15:48:23', '2011-09-23 20:48:23', '[...] Lips Sink ShipsLoose Lips Sink Ships [Small Precaution]loose lips sink shipsLoose lips sink shipsEffective Communication Skills: Acknowledge Emotions Before Solving Problems - Lead Change Group  if (top!=self) { window.location = [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2431, 5253, 'Ed Han', 'ed.m.han@gmail.com', 'http://edmusesupon.wordpress.com/', '173.71.101.80', '2011-06-30 06:13:42', '2011-06-30 11:13:42', 'Christina, what a place to make a stand! I applaud your decision: I think that everyone got so gun-shy in the 90s that standing up to things like that are important.\n\nI\'m not sure that I would have had the courage of my convictions now to make that choice then, to be honest.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2432, 5253, 'Lee Schwarz', 'leeglx@gmail.com', 'http://www.blacklionmarketing.com', '173.49.94.232', '2011-06-30 06:42:44', '2011-06-30 11:42:44', 'Kudos to you for taking a stand and making the right decision at the right time.\n\nI am disappointed that you now question that decision- and wonder if it hindered your career.\n\nIt bolstered your integrity and created a better you to handle the world.\nBe proud you put yourself in a position to look forward with self confidence and hope and look backward with no regrets.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2433, 5253, 'Daud Yar', 'daud.yar@gmail.com', '', '98.250.74.6', '2011-06-30 10:10:03', '2011-06-30 15:10:03', 'I would have changed the title because:\n\n1) It is kind of misleading, especially at the time.\n\n2) By changing the name of the paper — and not the overall message or thesis — it would have been printed and still have the same effect on readers. It is far better to choose your battles carefully, than hold your ground most or all of the time.\n\nI did enjoy reading this post. Even though I suggested some things, I make the same mistakes from time to time.\n\nIf you still have the paper, in an electronic format, I would love to read it. The topic sounds very interesting. Again, the post was great, and thank you for asking for others\' opinions.\n\nHave a nice day. :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2434, 5253, 'Christina Haxton', 'christina@sustainable-leaders.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/sustainableleaders/', '70.41.0.38', '2011-07-15 13:31:44', '2011-07-15 18:31:44', 'Daud, Lee &amp; Ed,\n\nI appreciate your thoughtful responses to \"Professional Intimacy: The Secret of Sustainable Leaders\" post.  While I unfortunately no longer have the paper in electronic format (yes, it was that long ago), I am revising, updating and submitting part of the paper as a Chapter for the Lead Change Group Book Project on Character-Based Leadership ... stay tuned!\n\nChristina', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2435, 5259, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.224.4.26', '2011-07-05 19:40:23', '2011-07-06 00:40:23', 'LOVE this Mike: \"What if our respect was measured by what we gave rather than what we got?  What if your respect was the total of what you gave?  How would you be doing?\"  So thought-provoking.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2436, 5259, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-06 14:36:54', '2011-07-06 19:36:54', 'Thanks Mary. I\'ve thought a lot lately from your posts on this topic up to now on how respect comes from appreciation.  If we\'re grateful for others, we\'ll esteem them and respect them.  Focusing \"respect\" on ourselves just seems to hollow it out.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2435, 1),
(2437, 5259, 'Beyond Horizons', 'beyondhorizonspune@gmail.com', 'http://www.beyondhorizons.in', '203.124.166.179', '2011-07-12 02:34:45', '2011-07-12 07:34:45', '\"When someone demands respect, I am tempted to withhold it instantly.  (I’m rather contrary.)\" &lt;--- I know what you mean and I react in exactly the same way! I think respect isn&#039;t a one way street. You need to give to get.\nAlso, I believe that in order to get respect, you need to first develop a healthy sense of respect for yourself as well. No one will respect you if you don&#039;t consider yourself worthy of respect.\n\n-Sindoora (http://www.beyondhorizons.in)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2438, 5259, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-12 05:38:55', '2011-07-12 10:38:55', 'Sindoora, thanks for the observation.  I did leave out the necessity to have a \"healthy sense of respect for yourself.\"  Nice catch.  That\'s probably another post altogether because the traps associated with self-respect are the same as those with respect.  We can have too little or we can have too much.  Thanks for the reminder.', 0, '1', '', '', 2437, 1),
(2439, 5259, 'Dynamics of Respect in the Workplace | The QuickBase Blog', '', 'http://quickbase.intuit.com/blog/2011/07/20/dynamics-of-respect-in-the-workplace/', '174.143.108.98', '2011-07-20 09:06:17', '2011-07-20 14:06:17', '[...] Henry at the Lead Change Group wrote an article about respect that caught myattention. Here is a snippet:  “No one wants to have [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2440, 5269, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '67.97.209.36', '2011-07-06 10:15:53', '2011-07-06 15:15:53', 'Hmmm,\n\nYes, I do believe I\'ve been \"pointy-haired\" a time or two when giving choices, especially to my KIDS!  Time to flatten the \"do\" and honestly communicate, in advance, whether or not decisions will be collaborative, consensus or otherwise.\n\nThanks, Mike\n\nTristan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2441, 5269, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-06 14:35:04', '2011-07-06 19:35:04', 'Thanks Tristan.  It\'s a great reminder to communicate honestly in advance.  It\'s part of my current focus on respect.  I often think of Monica Diaz\' Otheresteem too.  If we esteem others, we won\'t \"forget\" them when we\'re making decisions.  Thanks again.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2440, 1),
(2442, 5236, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '143.127.128.10', '2011-07-13 08:38:54', '2011-07-13 13:38:54', 'I flat out love this, Chery.\n\nIt reminds me of the show \"Undercover Boss\" as well as all of the modern moves made by leaders (political and in business) to understand and relate to those they lead.\n\nThe era of the servant leader is dawning.\n\nBravo.\n\nTristan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2443, 5236, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-07-13 10:23:13', '2011-07-13 15:23:13', 'Tristan,\n\nThank you so much for the comment!  The Gardens at Versailles was supposed to be a great vacation spot,and ended up providing such an AWEsome leadership lesson I can\'t stop sharing it!\n\nI love that you tied the story to Undercover Boss, they do such a great job of providing visual examples of why it is so important for titled leaders to be involved and approachable. ...The way the show resonates with the public just emphasizes the need for leaders to listen and respond.\n\nThank you for being a Servant Leader Champion!  It is an honor to work with you!\n\nChery', 0, '1', '', '', 2442, 1),
(2444, 5236, 'Poul Andreassen', 'PoulAndreassen@live.in', 'http://tangoleadership.wordpress.com/', '27.251.16.70', '2011-07-14 04:10:45', '2011-07-14 09:10:45', 'The art of converting feelings into thoughts is very difficult.. Nicely written Chery :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2445, 5236, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-07-14 12:30:18', '2011-07-14 17:30:18', 'Thanks Poul!\n\nI appreciate the feedback!\n\nHave a great day!\n\nChery', 0, '1', '', '', 2444, 1),
(2446, 5243, 'Tara R. Alemany', 'alewebsocial@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/alewebsocial/', '68.191.62.10', '2011-07-11 10:10:15', '2011-07-11 15:10:15', 'Great post, Kevin! I first became aware of my walk when I became a parent. Suddenly, it became clear to me that I couldn\'t say one thing and do another because my kids would be getting mixed messages. It was only later that I started to see how this same principle applies in any leadership capacity. Being consistent, letting your actions speak louder than words, and listening to what others have to share are all critical to taking a walk that others will want to join in. Thanks for reminding us of that!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2447, 5243, 'Connie McKnight', 'connie@conniemcknight.com', '', '70.65.252.201', '2011-07-11 11:15:03', '2011-07-11 16:15:03', 'Kevin,\nWhat a beautiful way of describing the leadership journey - the walk. I\'ve heard of \"walk the talk\" and \"actions speak louder than words\", but never \"the walk\". It\'s makes it so clear; something easily visualized.\n\nYour questions were spot on. Something we all need to keep asking ourselves as we continue to improve our leadership skills.\n\nConnie', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2448, 5243, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '69.137.161.0', '2011-07-11 19:33:40', '2011-07-12 00:33:40', 'Great Kevin. Love this line:  \"Ultimately it is your walk that matters.  Make sure you are watching your steps.\"\n\nThis doesn\'t mean you have to be perfect though.  In fact a sure sign that you are consistently walking your talk is when you misstep and someone actually points it out.  People in leadership positions can sometimes get false signals about how they really are perceived as leaders because it typically takes a lot of courage to tell the truth when a  leader does not seem to be walking their talk. Most people aren\'t willing to risk it.  Unless of course you create an environment in which you invite others to hold you accountable and thank them when they do.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2449, 5243, 'The Tawdry Side of Testing and the Higher Road &laquo; Using Data for Meaningful Change', '', 'http://usingdata.wordpress.com/2011/07/17/the-tawdry-side-of-testing-and-the-higher-road/', '72.233.2.31', '2011-07-17 15:40:40', '2011-07-17 20:40:40', '[...] valued test scores over seeking pathways to better student learning, read this blog post about The Leadership Walk. We need to recognize that, in a way, we all are potential education leaders, so reflect on who [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2450, 5243, '3 Ways to Keep Your Next Meeting Out of the Weeds | CallCenterBestPractices.com', '', 'http://www.callcenterbestpractices.com/3-ways-to-keep-your-next-meeting-out-of-the-weeds/', '66.147.242.83', '2011-09-29 08:45:33', '2011-09-29 13:45:33', '[...] = &#039;&#039;;} } Keeping Your Meetings On Topic and Out of the WeedsYour Leadership Walk - Lead Change Group  if (top!=self) { window.location = [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
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(2452, 5263, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-07 08:47:24', '2011-07-07 13:47:24', 'Deb, I appreciate your thoughtful, challenging posts.  Leadership is a character-trait, or maybe a bundle of them.  You describe that so well as you write your thoughts.\n\nI realize you\'re traveling again today, so we\'ll all be watching for comments on this post.  I wanted to publish it rather than wait.  We can all see what thoughts others share in response.  Thanks again for a great post.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2453, 5263, 'Herve Tunga', 'herve.tunga@gmail.com', 'http://hervetunga.com', '62.39.177.125', '2011-07-07 08:56:57', '2011-07-07 13:56:57', '\"Because we can\", a sentence which I first heard coming out of a joke few years ago gained new meanings into me through similar experiences.\n\nIt was not just me being the \"star\" of the show, there are also numerous people doing amazing things in a disinterested manner, making others benefit from their kindness just because they can, and sometimes it even cost to them though it didn\'t matter to them.\n\nI do think it\'s not just because we can, it\'s also because we want!\n\nThanks for this article...\n\nRv.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2454, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '98.85.131.197', '2011-07-07 09:32:27', '2011-07-07 14:32:27', 'Thanks Mike!  I love the opportunity to highlight some of the positive and wonderful things that go on in the world.  Too often I hear people lament about all the terrible news.  They ask, \"Why does the media focus on all the bad? Did nothing good happen today?\"  I think good happens every day.  People are kind to us and we are kind as well, but it is so rarely acknowleged.  Just today a friend once agani gave me a forum to speak on the internet.  I am grateful!', 0, '1', '', '', 2452, 1),
(2455, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '98.85.131.197', '2011-07-07 09:40:33', '2011-07-07 14:40:33', 'Herve,\nI definitely see your point, and it does make me think.  I think there are often unexpected and maybe even delightful benefits to being kind.  Perhaps these results do make us want to do more kind things, even if nothing comes of them, they are not \"cost effective\" and we are not even a \"star.\"  I hope we can at least direct our efforts knowing they do not always have to result in short or long term benefits to us.  Is it enough just to be kind?\n\nOn another note, I wonder what you think about how we actually work to increase acts of kindness.  Why do some people act in this way without thought while it never occurs to others?', 0, '1', '', '', 2453, 1),
(2456, 5263, 'Herve Tunga', 'herve.tunga@gmail.com', 'http://hervetunga.com', '62.39.177.125', '2011-07-07 09:51:28', '2011-07-07 14:51:28', 'Why do we act that way?\n\nWhen disoriented in an unknown city or town, which happen quite often... :) I welcome locals, even foreigners, helping find my way. So I find it normal to do the same when they visit known territories. Same goes with any kind of difficulty or challenge I could help others solving in my area of influence.\n\nIn my personal case, it came from a life choice I made when a teenager. Of course, there are influences and circumstances which eased my decision though it has to come from within. Relating positively to others, even unknown, is one of my way of being human.', 0, '1', '', '', 2455, 0),
(2457, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '98.85.131.197', '2011-07-07 10:10:57', '2011-07-07 15:10:57', 'Herve,\nPerhaps it is indeed a matter of people making a conscious choice.  It is true that a lot of the good in this world is a matter of acting consciously and deliberately.  Let\'s hope more people move in this direction!  Thank you for your comments this morning!\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 2456, 1),
(2458, 5263, 'Thomas', 'tmpastortom@gmail.com', 'http://www.lifebridge.tv', '12.5.83.18', '2011-07-07 16:14:43', '2011-07-07 21:14:43', 'Love it, love it, love it!  You inspired me to do more!  Because I CAN!\n\nThanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2459, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '166.137.10.81', '2011-07-07 17:20:26', '2011-07-07 22:20:26', 'Thank you Thomas!  Woo hoo! I hope you\'ll come back and tell us how it goes!', 0, '1', '', '', 2458, 1),
(2460, 5263, 'Shawn', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '99.17.7.206', '2011-07-07 17:55:11', '2011-07-07 22:55:11', 'Deb,\nThe world is not nearly as dismal as it seems when we stop long enough to notice such acts like you write about in this post.  And more importantly, when we step aside from the false perception that we are the center of the universe. Such an act opens up opportunities like the inspired examples you shared.\n\nGood share! Good reminder.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2461, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '166.137.8.14', '2011-07-07 18:44:30', '2011-07-07 23:44:30', 'You are absolutely right Shawn! What I loved was these acts didn\'t cost a dime, took only a little time, and no return was expected or really possible beyond thanks. But each event had impact, more than could really be foreseen. And more than the giver probably knows. That\'s my real hope. Maybe we are kind never expecting return or knowing the outcome. It\'s a gamble based on hope. Deal me in!\n\nThanks for your kindness, Shawn!\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 2460, 1),
(2462, 5263, 'Dale Burket', 'daburket@gmail.com', 'http://www.commerciallygreenflorida.com', '66.240.125.194', '2011-07-08 08:30:03', '2011-07-08 13:30:03', 'Deborah, this was a very insightful and interesting post.  It may also point out that when you are looking for opportunities to do good, you will most certainly find them.  And when you find them, you need ACT right away because the opportunity is fleeting.  In each of your examples, there was a split second where the good citizen could take action or not, and without much hesitation they did.  Thanks for observing and, more importantly, acting.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2463, 5263, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.203.124.74', '2011-07-08 08:57:10', '2011-07-08 13:57:10', 'I love the stories, Deb.  They warm my heart.  Thank you so much for sharing them, simply because you could!  And also thank you for reinforcing that we can find joy and gratitude in common and inconvenient moments.\n\nI think part of helping \"because we can\" is many times in the hurry of our day, we don\'t \"see\" each other.  I know when I do have the opportunity to help because I can, I am fulfilled by the gratitude I see in the receiver\'s eyes, but also bemused a bit because there is also there is an astonishment - which I can only guess is astonishment that they were seen.  I like surprising people like that.  And am sad that it is not more common.\n\nWarmly,\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2464, 5263, 'Lissa Millspaugh', 'Lmillspa@yahoo.com', 'http://Winergyinc.com', '76.254.36.238', '2011-07-08 09:30:45', '2011-07-08 14:30:45', 'Great post! It\'s hard, sometimes, to be aware of these opportunities. If I were having travel drama, or wandering lost on a college campus, I might miss the chance to help someone else. It\'s a lesson in the Bhuddist concept of practicing non-attachment, I think. By stepping back from our own suffering and observing those around us, we get more chances to alleviate their suffering. Thanks for the post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2465, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '98.85.138.188', '2011-07-08 09:54:08', '2011-07-08 14:54:08', 'Dale,\n\nYou are absolutely right.  Time is often of the essence.  We blink and the opportunity is lost.  Perhaps this is why acts of kindness do not happen more often.  We look away, become distracted, or forget to act consciously and before you know it, the moment is lost.\n\nThanks for a really, important insight!\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 2462, 0);
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(2466, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '98.85.138.188', '2011-07-08 10:00:53', '2011-07-08 15:00:53', 'Mary,\nI can totally see your point!  In the hurry of life, there\'s is plenty we don\'t see.  I think this astonishment you mention is so real.  I know I am stunned when people do kind things for me out of seeming nowhere.  I often wonder, what did I do to deserve that?  (We think that when life deals us an unexpected blow as well I think. What did I do to deserve THAT?)  Our world is so often cause and effect.  We believe we get what we deserve.  But is its also wonderful to get a good surprise, and I think even better if we can give one!\nThanks so much for pointing out our need to see each other, to take note.  It comes back to an earlier discussion of being counscious and deliberate.  You hit this nail on the head!\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 2463, 0),
(2467, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '98.85.138.188', '2011-07-08 10:07:24', '2011-07-08 15:07:24', 'You know, Lissa, I never even thought of that.  Caught up in my own problems and drama, I might very well have missed an opportunity to return the favor or at least pay it forward.  I was so grateful to have my own problem solved, that I may well have been blind to the drama of the next person in line or in the seat behind me, something I might have assisted with.  Keeping perspective is so vital in life.  I often have to remind myself that no matter how bad my problems are, someone else has it so much worse, and I wouldn\'t trade places for a minute.  Thanks for taking my thought processes one step further here and helping me think about this in a better way.\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 2464, 0),
(2468, 5263, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.224.6.134', '2011-07-08 16:54:18', '2011-07-08 21:54:18', 'Lissa, thanks for the reminder about non-attachment and realizing others have needs despite our own drama.  All good reminders shared today.\n\nDeb, congrats for penning such a thought-provoking post!  Mary', 0, '1', '', '', 2464, 1),
(2469, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '98.85.138.188', '2011-07-08 20:19:34', '2011-07-09 01:19:34', ':)  Thanks Mary!', 0, '1', '', '', 2468, 1),
(2470, 5263, 'Denise W. Barreto', 'mdwilmer@att.net', 'http://www.relationshipsmatternow.com', '108.68.189.33', '2011-07-10 20:44:12', '2011-07-11 01:44:12', 'Thanks for this post. I agree 100% and strive to be that \"person\" that takes your breath away with kindness and simple compassion. Not giving money to the poor (although that is part of my brand of compassion, too) but the everyday, greet your fellow man - make eye contact - SMILE and be thankful for your life brand of compassion.\n\nIt is coming back and I\'m leading the way.\n\nPeace', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2471, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '166.137.14.55', '2011-07-11 06:07:28', '2011-07-11 11:07:28', 'Denise,\nThank you for your thoughts and more importantly, your deeds. I wish more folks had the commitment you discuss. I wish you well and appreciate your kindness.\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 2470, 1),
(2472, 5263, 'Pam', 'pam_rogers_01@yahoo.com', 'http://www.rosewoodgraphics.us', '70.119.247.37', '2011-08-01 10:40:51', '2011-08-01 15:40:51', 'Deborah,\n\nThank you for this wonderful post.  In this day of constant negativity, it is a delight to read about kindness and consideration.  You have made my day.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2473, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '208.111.7.162', '2011-08-01 10:49:27', '2011-08-01 15:49:27', 'Thank you for stopping by and commenting Pam.  I am happy to report that since I wrote this post, I have been the recipient of many more kindnesses and have even found a way to make a little kindness for others.  I hope you find the same in your days.  Have an awesome week!', 0, '1', '', '', 2472, 1),
(2474, 5282, 'Billy Kirsch', 'billy@kidbillymusic.com', 'http://kidbillymusic.com', '98.87.38.227', '2011-07-18 08:38:01', '2011-07-18 13:38:01', 'Great post Peter. The more I learn, the less I speak and the more I listen. I used to generate conversation, now I try to invite conversation, listen after the invitation and then respond, making sure to show that I\'ve \'heard\' the people I\'m engaging with. This empowers action and initiative from others.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2475, 5282, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '67.97.209.36', '2011-07-18 09:14:09', '2011-07-18 14:14:09', 'Bravo, Peter.\n\nI\'ve long believed that wise leaders lean in to listen. Thanks for clarifying it so well.\n\nTristan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2476, 5300, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://www.facebook.com/LeadershipPartners', '173.23.60.141', '2011-07-21 06:51:00', '2011-07-21 11:51:00', 'Excellent post (as always). One of The Five Practices of Exemplary Leadership in The Leadership Challenge by Jim Kouzes &amp; Barry Posner is Enable Others to Act. This practice requires investment in others, and one basic ingredient: TRUST. By enabling others to act, a leader willingly gives his/her power away, which makes the leader more powerful. That\'s one of the truths of leadership that many \"leaders\" haven\'t fully grasped -- the more power we give away, the more powerful we become.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2477, 5300, 'Simon Harevy', 'simongb@n2peopleskills.com', 'http://about.me/simongb', '67.237.186.145', '2011-07-21 07:34:15', '2011-07-21 12:34:15', 'Lisa,\n\nGreat post and I will have to write a book to answer all the questions it brings up for me. So for now as I have to go with this moment and get going away from this screen, I say thanks and don\'t let the moment get away.\n\nSimon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2478, 5300, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/lisapetrilli/', '98.222.78.7', '2011-07-21 07:36:01', '2011-07-21 12:36:01', 'Thank you so much, Angie. You bring up such a great point - the power of trust that is created when we are truly present with our teams.  By being present we tap into our own power, and then we are more capable of giving it away by empowering others.  The cycle itself is fulfilling and even more empowering.\n\nI genuinely appreciate you sharing that insight!', 0, '1', '', '', 2476, 1),
(2479, 5300, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/lisapetrilli/', '98.222.78.7', '2011-07-21 10:19:03', '2011-07-21 15:19:03', 'Simon,\n\nPerhaps in that moment the message for you was you are meant to write that book?  Pretty powerful... Thanks for reading and commenting!', 0, '1', '', '', 2477, 1),
(2480, 5300, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '64.134.234.49', '2011-07-21 12:02:12', '2011-07-21 17:02:12', 'Lisa,\nWhat an important message for all leaders today- positional or influencers. Getting present to today opens up our perspective.  We wonder why we didn\'t do it sooner the moment we do it and the more fluid things fall into place. It sounds foreign for those constantly battling the ghosts and the enemies we make of the future.\n\nI like the passion in this post.\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2481, 5300, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '143.127.128.10', '2011-07-21 12:33:49', '2011-07-21 17:33:49', 'Fantastic, Lisa. It\'s all about facing reality and responding accordingly. The best leaders take responsibility, not credit. They find solutions, not fault. Appreciating the reminder! :) Tristan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2482, 5300, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/lisapetrilli/', '98.222.78.7', '2011-07-21 13:06:39', '2011-07-21 18:06:39', 'Shawn,\n\nI so appreciate that you felt the passion and love how you describe the battles with ghosts and the enemies we make of the future. What a compelling way to truly convey the reality of living somewhere other than the present moment.\n\nThanks so much for taking the time to comment, I genuinely appreciate it!', 0, '1', '', '', 2480, 1),
(2483, 5300, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/lisapetrilli/', '98.222.78.7', '2011-07-21 13:07:34', '2011-07-21 18:07:34', 'Thank you, Tristan! And...you\'re welcome. :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2484, 5300, 'Garry Trammell', 'gltram@me.com', '', '50.33.212.141', '2011-07-23 09:35:18', '2011-07-23 14:35:18', 'Excellent Lisa, thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2485, 5300, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/lisapetrilli/', '98.222.78.7', '2011-07-24 14:39:50', '2011-07-24 19:39:50', 'Thanks so much for reading and taking the time to comment, Garry - I appreciate all the support you give me!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2486, 5300, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '69.254.17.65', '2011-07-29 23:55:24', '2011-07-30 04:55:24', 'Very powerful message Lisa.  Your article had me think about a distinction from Christine Comaford - striding vs. striving.  When we are striving chances are we aren\'t being present in the moment because we are so busy doing stuff trying to get somewhere.  When we are present time seems to slow down just a bit and the experience is more one of striding.  Sometimes to use our power most effectively in the present moment we have to just stop doing and start paying attention.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2487, 5300, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'Lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://www.LisaPetrilli.com', '98.222.78.7', '2011-07-30 08:28:31', '2011-07-30 13:28:31', 'Susan,\n\nThat\'s a lovely point! I appreciate you letting me know how it resonated with you.  I always enjoy knowing how my thoughts have led others down a complementary path.  Thanks so much for sharing!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2488, 5300, 'Randy Hall', 'randy.hall@4thgearconsulting.com', 'http://4thgearconsulting.com/blog', '98.24.26.38', '2011-07-31 18:32:36', '2011-07-31 23:32:36', 'Lisa,\n\nThanks for the thoughts and the great article.  So often we forget that choosing to do nothing when we have the chance to is a conscious choice as well.  The convenient part of that is if we fail to act we can blame bad outcomes on circumstances instead of our actions.  The truth is, in most cases, we caused the results either way.\n\nThanks for making us think,\n\nRandy', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2489, 5300, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'Lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://www.LisaPetrilli.com', '98.222.78.7', '2011-08-01 07:23:39', '2011-08-01 12:23:39', 'Randy,\n\nI love that insight - it\'s fascinating to see how this concept resonates differently with readers.  Thanks so much for taking the time to read and to share your thoughts; it means a lot to me!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2490, 5300, 'Ashley S.C. Walls', 'ashleyscwalls@gmail.com', 'http://ashleyscwalls.com', '207.229.182.152', '2011-08-08 16:03:17', '2011-08-08 21:03:17', 'GREAT POST!\n\nThanks', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2491, 5302, 'Lisa D.', 'lisa@onboardlearning.com', 'http://blog.eboardsolutions.com/', '68.191.241.225', '2011-07-20 08:00:13', '2011-07-20 13:00:13', 'Wow. I\'m sure this list will bring up concrete memories in most folks; minds!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2492, 5302, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-20 08:04:08', '2011-07-20 13:04:08', 'It certainly did for me!  When I was writing the post about the ways to build trust over at Smartblog, I couldn\'t help but list the ways to tear it down.  Thanks for checking it out!\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2491, 1),
(2493, 5302, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '67.97.209.36', '2011-07-20 08:26:58', '2011-07-20 13:26:58', 'This is just KILLER content.  We must break the barriers. We MUST slay the siloes. In the name of all that is good and right and customer-centric!\n\nThanks Mike, you\'ve strengthened my resolve, again, to do whatever it takes!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2494, 5302, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-20 08:35:41', '2011-07-20 13:35:41', 'Thanks back Tristan. I appreciate how you continue to encourage the revolution.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2493, 1),
(2495, 5302, 'Louise Sorensen', 'louise3anne@gmail.com', 'http://wordpress.com', '93.246.33.245', '2011-07-20 10:24:33', '2011-07-20 15:24:33', '1A) Don\'t Listen to anything anyone says.\n1B) Explode when anyone criticizes you, points out a mistake you made, or tries to have any input at all. Why this is good; spontaneous hissy fits discourage creativity, loyalty and team cohesiveness. Because who wants that, right?\n1C) Be a Non-Stop Talker. No one else has anything interesting to say, anyway. Note:You will have to learn how to talk while breathing both in and out.\n1D) Spread lies about your staff. This will keep them in a constant state of adrenaline anxiety and they are less apt to approach you with any questions. Downside: They probably wouldn\'t spit on you if you were on fire. But what\'s the likelihood of someone setting you on fire???\n1E) Never keep a confidence. If someone confides in you, make sure the whole office knows about it. Especially if it will get you ahead.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2496, 5302, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-20 18:33:55', '2011-07-20 23:33:55', 'Louise, thanks so much for the additional input.  These are great additions.  Much appreciated.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2495, 1),
(2497, 5302, 'Adam L. Stanley', 'connect@alswharton.com', 'http://alswharton.com/in', '98.206.144.237', '2011-07-21 00:22:11', '2011-07-21 05:22:11', 'Astounding how obvious these items seem yet how frequently people (myself included) forget themselves and demonstrate just these trust killing traits.  I believe leadership, teamwork, and collaboration are all manifestations of RELATIONSHIP and trust is a primary building block of relationships. You simply cannot have relationship without trust. Thanks for sharing this blog.\n\nPledging again to work hard to build trust and avoid the traps that destroy trust.\n\nIn relationship,\nAdam\n\n@ALSWharton on twitter', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2498, 5302, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-21 06:07:28', '2011-07-21 11:07:28', 'Adam, thanks for the honest comment.  When it comes to building trust and being trustworthy, we all go through cycles where we do well for a while and then we come up short because of timing, attitude, lack of sleep or a host of other reasons.  The list of why and how to drop the ball seems endless.  Being aware of when we drop the ball and working to make it right also builds trust, too.  Thanks again.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2497, 1),
(2499, 5302, 'Stephanie', 'coach@lifebeyondsport.com', 'http://www.lifebeyondsport.com', '24.164.85.192', '2011-07-21 08:23:55', '2011-07-21 13:23:55', 'Great list. Another one is talking poorly about people when they are not present. When I hear people do this it always makes me wonder what they are saying about me when I\'m not there!\n\n—Stephanie', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2500, 5302, 'Michael Griffen', 'nygriffen@gmail.com', '', '24.213.146.240', '2011-07-22 13:50:29', '2011-07-22 18:50:29', 'Hello Mr. Henry,\n\nI find it very difficult to trust someone who doesn\'t listen after they ask a question.  Perhaps, not surprisingly, I have run in to a few of these individuals over the years.  If you are wanting me to trust you, slow down, listen, and stop trying to get your next comment out before I finish answering YOUR question...\n\nThanks for this post Mike.\n\n-Mike', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2501, 5302, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-22 14:12:19', '2011-07-22 19:12:19', 'Thanks for the great comment Mike.  It\'s so good, I included it even though you referred to me as Mr. Henry. You weren\'t trying to remind me of the times I did this to you, were you?  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2500, 1),
(2502, 5302, 'Michael Griffen', 'nygriffen@gmail.com', '', '24.213.146.240', '2011-07-22 15:04:21', '2011-07-22 20:04:21', 'I have learned and adopted a tremendous amount from you.  I don\'t think listening is a weakness in your playbook.\n\n-Mike', 0, '1', '', '', 2501, 0),
(2503, 5302, 'Mitch Mitchell', 'mitch@ttmitchellconsulting.com', 'http://www.ttmitchellconsulting.com/Mitchblog', '24.58.37.44', '2011-07-24 10:05:59', '2011-07-24 15:05:59', 'To start with, a trust killer is having a captcha that\'s hard for some people to read; a second trust killer is moderating comments, though I won\'t know if you do that until I hit \'submit\'.  Both of those probably covers #10.\n\nNow, you\'ll probably see what I did as #7, and you\'d probably be correct.  However, I think people underestimate #7 at times because it\'s not correcting people in general but in how you decide to do it.  For instance, what I\'ve pointed out can be seen as a correction, but I\'d explain myself further if that\'s what this post was about; I don\'t want to hijack the topic so I\'m leaving it alone.  But we do have this thing about constructive criticism and the principles of having crucial conversations as mentioned in the book of the same name.\n\nBeing more on topic, I tend to believe that true leaders, not temporary situational leaders or people put into leadership positions without the proper skills, have these 3 components:  loyalty, honesty, and trustworthiness.  I think these encompass indirectly some of your points above.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2504, 5302, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-24 11:33:47', '2011-07-24 16:33:47', 'Thanks for the comment, Mitch.  Thanks for persisting through the CAPTCHA and the moderation.\n\nI don\'t see what you did as #7, pointing out the mistakes of others.  This post was written speaking to a supervisor relating to their team or direct reports.  (Besides, the CAPTCHA and moderation aren\'t a mistake; they\'re both on purpose, although I admit that I don\'t have the programming skills to use a friendlier CAPTCHA.  Once someone comments or registers the behavior changes.)\n\nMy point about #7 is that there are some bosses or stakeholders who choose to comment about what can be improved almost to the exclusion of what was done well.  The supervisors I\'ve had that have done that have all done it claiming that it was a service to me almost as if they were serving me by being totally honest.  Honesty doesn\'t justify a critical spirit.  Over time, I\'ll share less with critical people and I trust them with less regardless of their reasoning.  If someone wants me to trust them, they will be honest in a way that makes me feel I\'ve been helped.  I\'ve never met anyone who didn\'t already have a pretty good idea what they could be doing better.  Most appreciate the opportunity to ask for the help rather than having it volunteered frequently.  I heard someone onetime say that all unsolicited advice is received as criticism.\n\nBeyond that, we agree that disloyalty, dishonesty and untrustworthiness are trust killers.  Thanks again for the comment.  I\'m glad that you read and commented.', 0, '1', '', '', 2503, 1),
(2505, 5302, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-24 11:37:23', '2011-07-24 16:37:23', 'This is a great addition Stephanie. Thanks for adding it.  I agree with you that the easiest way for me to stop trusting someone is gossip.  Unfortunately, gossip is also a weakness of mine that I must constantly struggle with so that may be why I left it off the list.  Thanks for the reminder that people often see us as doing to them the very thing we\'re doing.  That\'s why giving others the benefit of the doubt and appreciating them are on the list.  Gossip definitely needs to be added.  Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 2499, 1),
(2506, 5302, 'Mitch Mitchell', 'mitch@ttmitchellconsulting.com', 'http://www.ttmitchellconsulting.com/Mitchblog', '24.58.37.44', '2011-07-24 12:20:37', '2011-07-24 17:20:37', 'I thank you for your reply Mike.  And with the full explanation, now #7 makes a lot of sense; who could disagree with that?  And you\'re right about your last line as well; most of the time unsolicited advice is seen as criticism, so I\'m glad you accepted what I had to say in the manner in which I meant it.\n\nIf this is a Wordpress blog there are many other options to use rather than captcha that get the job done and encourage conversation; that\'s why I brought it up.  And then one can turn off moderation because you\'re more confident in what\'s going to show up on your blog.  I\'ll just mentioned Akismet &amp; GASP anti-spybot in case you\'re interested; those are the only two I need for all 4 of my blogs.', 0, '1', '', '', 2504, 0),
(2507, 5302, 'Pete Friedes', 'pfriedes@mac.com', 'http://www.managingpeoplebetter.com', '68.175.120.48', '2011-07-25 07:40:29', '2011-07-25 12:40:29', 'I\'m a little late with this response, but nothing makes an employee\'s distrust-antenna go up faster than the manager using \"I\" all the time, when it really should be \"we.\"  Whenever a manager says \"My group\" in front of his group, it shows he doesn\'t view it as a team, he views it as something he owns and runs and will do what he wants, probably without input from \"his people.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2508, 5302, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-25 07:45:42', '2011-07-25 12:45:42', 'Pete, great addition.  When a manager talks in the first person (as I have had a terrible time doing in the past) he or she shows that they think they are the center of the effort and the team (their people) exist to serve them.  Thanks for adding this.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2507, 1),
(2509, 5302, 'Trusting Leadership &#8211; A Blogging Perspective | Mitch&#039;s Blog', '', 'http://www.ttmitchellconsulting.com/Mitchblog/trusting-leadership-a-blogging-perspective/', '74.208.16.88', '2011-07-25 08:53:55', '2011-07-25 13:53:55', '[...] http://leadchangegroup.com/top-10-trust-killers [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2510, 5302, 'Katie', 'katie.stroud@live.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/katiestroudpro/', '97.126.67.7', '2011-08-12 18:39:50', '2011-08-12 23:39:50', 'Pete,\n\nYou think you were late with a response...here\'s mine: Minimize contact with the team and make sure feedback is non-existent (that way they can\'t accuse you of being negative).\n\nI\'m surprised this one hadn\'t turned up yet. I find it to be a very common problem among leaders.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2511, 5310, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '67.97.209.36', '2011-07-25 09:02:16', '2011-07-25 14:02:16', 'Hi Will,\n\nExcellent thoughts: thanks for sharing them! I believe that, while good leaders plan for the future, the great leaders are busy shaping it via innovation and adjustment. Preparation is the great differentiator! :)\n\nHave an awesome day.\n\nTristan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2512, 5329, 'Thomas Waterhouse', 'tdwclients@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/encouraging/', '70.126.196.29', '2011-07-27 17:12:33', '2011-07-27 22:12:33', 'How about people with GREAT strategies!  :)  Excellent thought, Larry. Thanks, Mike!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2513, 5336, 'Jon M', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jhmertz/', '72.48.93.4', '2011-08-02 08:13:05', '2011-08-02 13:13:05', 'Your action points are so very accurate. It is easy to get discouraged and then forget to recommit, admit errors, or seek time for reflection and guidance. These are essential things to do to keep moving the mission forward.\n\nYour insights are inspiring and challenging, a wonderful combination. Posts like this is why I believe the Lead Change Group is one of the best!\n\nThanks.\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2514, 5336, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-02 10:54:23', '2011-08-02 15:54:23', 'Jon,\n\nThank you for your feedback!  It is such an honor to be a part of Lead Change!\n\nI checked out your blog and discovered that we have both received lessons in leadership from toothpaste tubes!  Interesting how we see the same object, and yet observe different things.\nhttp://www.thindifference.com/2011/07/27/the-toothpaste-test/\nhttp://www.gianaconsulting.com/blog/people-are-not-toothpaste-tubes-', 0, '1', '', '', 2513, 1),
(2515, 5336, 'Jon M', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jhmertz/', '72.48.93.4', '2011-08-02 10:59:34', '2011-08-02 15:59:34', 'Chery,\n\nWhat a coincidence! I guess we think within a similar \"tube\" of sorts! I like your perspective as well on toothpaste leadership. Good people insights, without a doubt!\n\nThanks!\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2516, 5336, 'Shawn', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '99.17.7.206', '2011-08-02 12:59:21', '2011-08-02 17:59:21', 'Chery,\nI have no doubts that your message today will remind others that we are stronger when we lean on others to help us make things happen.\n\nGreat message and examples.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2517, 5336, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-02 13:36:39', '2011-08-02 18:36:39', 'Shawn, Thanks for being one of the examples in the message!\n\nThe timing of our call that week was so perfect:\n\nEarlier in the week I read Lisa Petrilli\'s Blog and had been reminded how important it is for us to ask for help.  http://www.lisapetrilli.com/2011/07/14/when-leadership-means-leaning-on-letting-go/\n\nWithin in days you and I were sharing similar thoughts about our journeys through unfamiliar territory and finding encouragement simply from knowing that someone else was \"there\" too.\n\nThankful,\n\nChery', 0, '1', '', '', 2516, 1),
(2518, 5336, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-02 13:56:58', '2011-08-02 18:56:58', 'I just received this link from Jesse Lyn Stoner, the author I quoted in this blog.\n\nThis is a link to a blog she wrote about the creative tension titled:  \"The shortest distance between what is and what could be.\"  http://seapointcenter.com/creative-tension/\n\nThanks Jesse!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2519, 5336, 'Jesse Stoner', 'jstoner@seapointcenter.com', 'http://www.seapointcenter.com', '76.119.118.214', '2011-08-02 14:05:24', '2011-08-02 19:05:24', 'Chery, I really appreciate your post. I love your examples of people who did not allow themselves to be limited by their present reality and your advice on how to deal with the \"creative tension\" is very helpful.\nJesse', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2520, 5336, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-02 15:26:08', '2011-08-02 20:26:08', 'Thank you so much Jesse!  You\'re examples have been teaching me for years!', 0, '1', '', '', 2519, 1),
(2521, 5336, 'Ryan Vet - Leadership', 'Ryan@ryanvet.com', 'http://ryanvet.com/blog/leadership', '96.10.22.122', '2011-08-12 15:14:57', '2011-08-12 20:14:57', 'Chery- Thanks for sharing this post. This tension you talk about is definitely something that I struggle with. However those people you mentioned, Columbus, Mandela, and so on was extremely compelling. They are stories we all know well, but I have never looked at them in this light. Thank you!\n-ryan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2522, 5336, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-09-02 10:23:59', '2011-09-02 15:23:59', 'Ryan - I apologize for the long delay in responding to you.\n\nIt is interesting to me that as humans we all struggle with this.  Yet so often we struggle in isolation instead of realizing that this tension is a normal part of living and celebrating that it is growth-causing.\n\nAlso so interesting how we stand back and admire someone who has achieved something that took years of dedication, without realizing that it was a journey, not an event.\n\nAmazing how vision can give us hope for the length of the journey...', 0, '1', '', '', 2521, 1),
(2523, 5348, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '208.111.7.162', '2011-08-01 11:00:50', '2011-08-01 16:00:50', 'Jane,\n\nMaybe our current political leaders need to read this post and take a lesson or two from you.  Somehow compromise is a dirty word and cooperation is the work of traitors.  Going to the mat over everything leaves us all angry, unproductive, and frustrated.  I would love to see more of this at every level of leadership.  Well said!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2524, 5348, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/janeperdue/', '76.23.122.124', '2011-08-01 13:17:42', '2011-08-01 18:17:42', 'Deb -\n\nHow I would love to coach the folks in DC...the whole lead change group could pass along such wisdom - perhaps someday. As always, so appreciate your kind words and insights that enrich the dialogue.\n\nWith a smile,\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2525, 5348, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '67.97.209.36', '2011-08-02 08:50:06', '2011-08-02 13:50:06', 'Thank you Jane!\n\nVery timely and effective. I often say, \"Wise warriors wait for the battles that matter.\"\n\nAppreciate the reminder in age of debilitating gridlock.\n\nTristan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2526, 5348, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/janeperdue/', '76.23.122.124', '2011-08-02 17:24:50', '2011-08-02 22:24:50', 'Tristan - love your wise counsel and kinds words...thanks much!', 0, '1', '', '', 2525, 1),
(2527, 5365, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '69.254.17.65', '2011-08-01 21:24:26', '2011-08-02 02:24:26', 'What a wonderful tribute to an amazing woman. Thanks for pointing to such a wonderful example of authentic leadership.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2528, 5343, 'Matt', 'hellerm@cfl.rr.com', 'http://www.performanceoptimist.com', '184.91.144.218', '2011-08-05 20:51:10', '2011-08-06 01:51:10', 'Great post and great information!  I\'ve always wondered where people got the idea that ANY work was beneath them?  Maybe it\'s an ego issue... they don\'t have enough self confidence to perform that duty and NOT let it define them.  Really makes you think about some \"leaders\".\n\nThanks for sharing!\n\nMatt', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2529, 5343, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.224.4.26', '2011-08-06 11:34:20', '2011-08-06 16:34:20', 'Thanks so much for your comment, Matt.  I totally agree with you that some folks are letting a task define them, and that demonstrates problems with ego, confidence and I think insecurity is also part of the equation.  Sigh.  Well, in the meantime, we\'ll just go on leading. :)', 0, '1', '', '', 2528, 1),
(2530, 5343, 'Jon M', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jhmertz/', '207.239.83.130', '2011-08-06 17:48:15', '2011-08-06 22:48:15', 'As a farm kid, I can relate to your post! Growing up on a farm teaches you many solid life and leadership lessons. One I would add to your list is that you learn to deal with circumstances. In farming, much is out of your control, but you work through the challenging times and savor the good ones.\n\nI think spending a summer on a farm should be a required camp for future leaders!\n\nThanks!\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2531, 5343, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.224.6.134', '2011-08-06 18:09:36', '2011-08-06 23:09:36', 'Really good addition, Jon. So true!', 0, '1', '', '', 2530, 1),
(2532, 5345, 'Ayesha Akram', 'ayesha.rocket.scientist@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/aish123/', '203.99.174.36', '2011-08-03 11:56:16', '2011-08-03 16:56:16', 'recently I had been through an interview and believe me what I noticed about the employer\'s thinking and job responsibilities was my communication to him about my past achievements. Everytime I spoke more about it, I myself felt how dramatically the mode of your communication can affect once you are truely aware of the term. All around the world they are researching and bringing up new technicalities of llinguistics. These days there is no denying the fact that expression comes best when we are focused . To sum it \"focus\" &amp; \"effective communication\" are two ways to actually know where you want to be in future. All it needs is little effort on thinking.\n\nGreat article! Have a good day.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2533, 5345, 'Leadership Lessons from the Horse&#8217;s Mouth &#8211; Sustainable Leadership', '', 'http://sustainable-leaders.com/leadership-lessons-from-the-horses-mouth/', '184.168.193.115', '2011-08-11 10:39:42', '2011-08-11 15:39:42', '[...] could tell some stories &#8230; well, here&#8217;s mine from a recent post I wrote for Leaders at The LeadChange Group Blog: &quot; ... a reining horse is willingly guided by seemingly imperceptible cues between horse and [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2534, 5362, 'Steve Riege', 'steve@ovationleadership.com', 'http://www.ovationleadership.com', '65.29.150.136', '2011-08-04 08:35:32', '2011-08-04 13:35:32', 'thanks Susan for a great article and insight on choosing to trust.  Trust is the foundation of teamwork, whether at home or at work, and it seems so many people today avoid it.  But you put it back on our shoulders to choose.  Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2535, 5362, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '208.111.7.162', '2011-08-04 08:58:29', '2011-08-04 13:58:29', 'I think the idea of setting clear expectations is really important.  If people know what is expected, then they can mindfully meet your expectations or choose not to.  When the process is vague, then they may willfully choose not to meet expectations or may not meet them because they do not understand.  Either way trust is lost.  In addition, failure to set clear expectations makes others lose faith in your ability to lead.  As a leader, your desire to help others be successful should result in you making your expectations clear.\n\nThanks for this reminder as I begin a new school year.  I will need to make my expectations clear in order to help my students become successful!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2536, 5362, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '69.254.17.65', '2011-08-04 10:31:33', '2011-08-04 15:31:33', 'Love this point you make in particular:  \"As a leader, your desire to help others be successful should result in you making your expectations clear.\"\n\nYou also point out the importance of choosing to be trustworthy.  A leaders role is often to bring people to choice - setting clear expectations is one way to do that.  When you set clear expectations you remove the \"wriggle room\" someone has to justify why they didn\'t deliver and instead cause them to choose so they can be personally responsible for the consequences of their choice for better or for worse.\n\nThanks for adding your wisdom Deb!', 0, '1', '', '', 2535, 1),
(2537, 5362, 'Shawn', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '99.17.7.206', '2011-08-04 11:19:08', '2011-08-04 16:19:08', 'Susan,\nYou have a magnificent way of clearly distinguishing intangibles. And trust is one big intangible. Heck, Covey\'s son wrote a 300+ page book on the topic. You gave us a succinct, power-punch in &lt;500 words.\n\nWhat kept going through my mind as I read this is how all types of leaders could use this information to restore optimism in the workplace and strengthen relationships.\n\nMy favorite point: have the difficult or awkward conversations when trust is broken. Holding it in only weakens chances of building stronger relationships.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2538, 5362, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '69.254.17.65', '2011-08-04 23:35:53', '2011-08-05 04:35:53', 'Thanks Steve.  Interesting point that people \"try to avoid it\".  When it\'s there it\'s easy.  But when it is not or it gets broken it often requires a tough conversation.  the cost of avoidance is huge!', 0, '1', '', '', 2534, 1),
(2539, 5362, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '69.254.17.65', '2011-08-04 23:43:04', '2011-08-05 04:43:04', 'Appreciate your kind words Shawn. I think taking this point of view and putting it into practice can absolutely restore optimism in the workplace BECAUSE it strengthens relationships. Somewhere between trust and optimism is faith - if you don\'t trust the people you work with then you probably don\'t have much faith in the relationships or the future.  Without that faith how could you be optimistic?', 0, '1', '', '', 2537, 1),
(2540, 5362, 'Randy Hall', 'randy.hall@4thgearconsulting.com', 'http://4thgearconsulting.com/blog', '64.128.78.147', '2011-08-05 11:15:06', '2011-08-05 16:15:06', 'Susan,\n\nInsightful as always.\n\nI love the way you framed trust as the choice that it is rather than the way many people think about it - something that I have or don\'t, but can\'t control.  Trust is not a feeling, or a result, its a decision.  There are so many choices that we have that we leave to others to make for us when we can simply make them for ourselves.\n\nAll the best,\n\nRandy', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2541, 5362, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '69.254.17.65', '2011-08-05 15:25:47', '2011-08-05 20:25:47', 'Thanks Randy.  People seem to have a hard time taking personal responsibility for anything they think they can\'t control. especially other people\'s behavior.  While we of course can\'t control other people\'s behavior we can make personal choices that can influence behavior.', 0, '1', '', '', 2540, 1),
(2542, 5362, 'Barbara Kimmel', 'barbara@trustacrossamerica.com', 'http://www.trustacrossamerica.com', '184.6.216.58', '2011-08-07 12:37:01', '2011-08-07 17:37:01', 'Susan- this is a great article. It got me thinking about whether trust in personal relationships is different than trust in business relationships.\n\nIn both cases I think one must extend trust first. In personal relationships, the biggest \"trust buster\" for me is sharing information that should have been kept confidential. In business, the \"trust buster\" is lack of accountability- not doing what you say you will.\n\nI wonder if others make the same distinction.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2543, 5362, 'DragonLeaders', 'info@dragon-strategies.com', 'http://www.dragon-strategies.com/', '87.113.38.86', '2011-08-10 07:03:31', '2011-08-10 12:03:31', 'Yes, Susan. Trust is the cornerstone of relationships of all kinds. When a new boss is appointed, the first question staff ask is: \"what is he (she) like?\" Degrees and status are secondary to personality. The Chinese word for Trust is made up of: \"people\" and \"two\" referring it to a quality that binds people together! Thought I\'d share with you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2544, 5362, 'Randy Conley', 'randy.conley@kenblanchard.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/randyconley/', '68.8.218.245', '2011-08-20 19:21:25', '2011-08-21 00:21:25', 'Hi Susan. Thank you for this article. I think you make an insightful point about the value of setting clear expectations. I think there are times where we perceive someone as breaking our trust when in reality that person had a different expectation or understanding of the particular situation at hand.\n\nWhen it comes to building trust, I\'m a champion of the TrustWorks! ABCD model. It provides a common language and framework for understanding and building trust. A person builds trust by being:\n\nA - Able: Trust is built when we demonstrate competence by our expertise, establishing a track record of success, and knowing how to get work done in an organization.\n\nB - Believable: Acting with integrity builds trust. We\'re \"believable\" when we behave according to our values (walk the talk), are honest, and treat people fairly.\n\nC - Connected: Being connected is about showing care and concern for others which builds trust. Building rapport, appreciating differences, and recognizing &amp; rewarding individuals are trust-boosters.\n\nD - Dependable: Being dependable is about maintaining reliability. It\'s about being responsive to others, following through on commitments, and holding ourselves and others accountable.\n\nIf interested, you can learn more about TrustWorks! and the ABCD Model at http://leadingwithtrust.com.\n\nBest,\n\nRandy', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2545, 5371, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-05 15:26:51', '2011-08-05 20:26:51', 'For all of you that don\'t live in Tulsa...  We would love you to join in this conversation as we prepare for the event.\n\nWhat was your defining moment in leadership?  What did you learn and how has it changed you?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2546, 5371, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-05 15:35:24', '2011-08-05 20:35:24', 'I received this response from Tristan Bishop, through Facebook.\n\n\"My defining moment was last year, when I listened to encouragement from several mentors I\'d met on Twitter. I was scared to speak boldly within my company on the need for Social Media adoption, but knew it to be essential. Mike Henry told me to \"lead from WHO you are, not from where you sit.\" The choice to heed that advice has made all the difference.\"\n\nYou can follow Tristan on Twitter <a href=\"http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/\" rel=\"nofollow\">@KnowledgeBishop</a>', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2547, 5371, 'John Griffin', 'jgriffin@seniorsguide.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/johngriffintx/', '24.173.213.83', '2011-08-06 17:00:11', '2011-08-06 22:00:11', 'I just joined the site, so maybe I\'m reading this wrong.....but, when is this event?  Thanks so much! John', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2548, 5371, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-08-07 11:13:06', '2011-08-07 16:13:06', 'Sorry it\'s not clear.  The headline will take you through to the full post, but the event is planned for Thursday, August 25, 2011 from 7:30 - 9:00 AM at the TCC Center for Creativity, 910 S. Boston, Tulsa, OK.', 0, '1', '', '', 2547, 1),
(2549, 5371, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '64.134.234.1', '2011-08-09 11:51:55', '2011-08-09 16:51:55', 'My first defining leadership moment was in high school. I had decided to run for student body president. Though part of the reason was to be popular (I was 16), I had also grown frustrated by my not having coffee available to us. Serious stuff. This was before Starbucks was around. So, I ran on a platform of helping my classmates and coffee.  And I won.\n\nThe defining moment, however, wasn\'t winning. It was experiencing for the first time the power of being called forward to serve a group of people, and to develop a platform that meant something to those people. We did end up having coffee served. And I learned for the first time the magnitude of listening to people\'s needs and working to help them realize them.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2550, 5371, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '24.249.156.71', '2011-08-10 12:09:16', '2011-08-10 17:09:16', 'I remember my defining moment like it was yesterday!  I was a sophomore in high school, and we had a brand new head coach.  I was on the 2nd string offense, playing against the defensive starters, and the Coach Cobble was playing quarterback.  This was in the late 70\'s in Oklahoma, so of course we ran the Wishbone offense (only the guys will appreciate that!).\n\nAnyway, we were running the option to the right- Coach and runners would run to the right, and then he would either hand it off, keep it, pitch it to a running back or pass.  My job as a lineman was to run to the right and block the defensive end, so he wouldn\'t kill the coach.  Problem was, he was one of the best guys on the team!  First time we ran the play, when I tried to block him he hit me so hard it knocked me backwards, and he gently wrapped up the coach... Coach Cobble yelled, \"Run it again!\", so we did...  The 2nd play I was determined to get lower than my opponent so I could block him out of the way.  But no.  He knocked me on my butt again, and again he stopped the play by grabbing the coach... so Coach Cobble yelled, \"Run it again!\"... and we did.\n\nThis third time I psyched myself up... \"I\'m gonna beat this guy!\", I told myself.  But this time I never got there to make my block, because the lineman between me and my opponent was knocked back into my path...  and something else different happened.  When the guy I was supposed to block grabbed the coach that play, he accidentally scraped his cleats down Coach Cobbles exposed shins, leaving several bloody track marks.  As you might imagine, Coach Cobble was not happy with me.\n\nCoach Cobble yelled, \"Cole, get your block!\"  Now, the smart thing, the wise thing would have been to respond, \"yes sir!\".  But I wasn\'t smart.  Or wise.  Instead, I responded by saying, \"I couldn\'t get there, Coach!  Rick was knocked back in my way!\"  And then came my defining moment...\n\nCoach Cobble came at me, eyes glaring and as angry as I had seen him in the short time I had known him.  He grabbed my facemask in front of 65 of my friends and other coaches, and these were his words.  \"Cole, all you seem to be really good at is making excuses!  If you want to make excuses your entire life, that\'s your choice, but you\'ll never amount to anything!  You have a choice, step up, take responsibility and get the job done, or make excuses!  What\'s it gonna be?!?!\"\n\nWow... time stopped for me.  It\'s like the universe was watching for my answer.  I don\'t know if it was 5 seconds or 5 hours (it seemed like both), but I responded \"Step up, take responsibility and get the job done sir!\".. And so he said, \"Run it again!\".  And we did.\n\nI learned in that moment that whether it\'s my fault or someone elses fault, no one likes the guy who always makes excuses.  But EVERYONE respects that guy that will step, take responsibility and get the job done.  Especially the guy who is getting it done.  I learned a new perspective on life, and new level of respect for myself.  It\'s shaped how I work as a member of a team, as well as how I deal with leading a team and mentoring others.\n\nOh, and what happened when we ran the play the last time?  I tackled the guy I was supposed to block... Coach didn\'t get tackled... I got the job done...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2551, 5371, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-12 05:48:27', '2011-08-12 10:48:27', 'Shawn, Page and Tristan - Love your stories and the variety of lessons learned from business, school and football that have impacted your leadership:\n1.  Lead from who you are, not where you sit.\n2.  The power of being called to serve, and to develop a platform that means something to those you serve.\n3.  Step up, take responsibility and get the job done OR make excuses!  Page - The visual of your coach in your face was so strong that when I read it I was ready to block and tackle!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2552, 5371, 'Randy Conley', 'randy.conley@kenblanchard.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/randyconley/', '68.8.218.245', '2011-08-20 19:25:38', '2011-08-21 00:25:38', 'This is a great discussion! Thanks to all for sharing your experiences - I learned something from each of you. I\'m publishing a blog article tomorrow (Sunday, August 21) that talks about this very subject:\n\nDefining Moments of Leadership: Will you define the moment or will the moment define you?\nhttp://leadingwithtrust.com/2011/08/20/defining-moments/ ?\n\nI\'d be honored if you checked it out and shared more of your stories with me.\n\nBest regards,\n\nRandy', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1);
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(2553, 5371, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-22 17:07:35', '2011-08-22 22:07:35', 'Randy - Thank you for sharing!  http://leadingwithtrust.com/\n\nSince you posted your blog yesterday, what responses have resonated with you the most and why?', 0, '1', '', '', 2552, 1),
(2554, 5371, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-22 17:08:24', '2011-08-22 22:08:24', 'Randy - Thank you for sharing!\n\nSince you posted your blog yesterday, what responses have resonated with you the most and why?', 0, '1', '', '', 2552, 1),
(2555, 5371, 'Randy Conley', 'randy.conley@kenblanchard.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/randyconley/', '12.175.64.145', '2011-08-22 17:38:05', '2011-08-22 22:38:05', 'Hi Chery. Thanks for the reply. I haven\'t received any comments yet, although the article is receiving a lot of views and tweets.', 0, '1', '', '', 2554, 1),
(2556, 5375, 'Kurt Scholle', 'kurt@webasylum.com', 'http://www.website-roi-guy.com', '71.57.76.126', '2011-08-16 13:43:17', '2011-08-16 18:43:17', 'Hi Mike,\nThanks for the link.  I understand that LinkedIn has now changed their policy and do not use your information by default.  Still, I think it\'s good policy to review setting on all social media sites.\n-- Kurt', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2557, 5379, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '69.242.114.141', '2011-08-22 09:35:57', '2011-08-22 14:35:57', 'Page, I absolutely love making the connection to popular culture.  So many do\'s and dont\'s to glean.  Thank you for making these connections.\n\nI was about to make a remark about the Jersey Shore\'s 15-minutes of fame, when I realize how very important character-based leadership is - it stands the test of time.\n\nThanks again Page for sharing with us an entertaining and educational read.  Mary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2558, 5379, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '24.249.156.71', '2011-08-22 09:59:23', '2011-08-22 14:59:23', 'Thank you Mary... I\'m amazed daily by the things that we let influence and shape our culture.  It seems the more irresponsible or outlandish a person becomes, the more popular they are.  Lady Gaga wears an outfit made up of meat, and still someone asks her if she would want to be president??? ( http://bit.ly/nE7Zmp )  REALLY??? HAHAHAHAHA!!!  Anyway, I appreciate your comments!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2559, 5397, 'Dale Burket', 'daburket@gmail.com', 'http://www.commerciallygreenflorida.com', '66.240.125.194', '2011-08-30 08:07:52', '2011-08-30 13:07:52', 'Great post, Deborah!  I have found, sometimes through painful experience, that all of my best insights into the world and people around me have come only through listening, and pondering what I have heard.  It is as though I turn off my receptors when I am talking.  It\'s even worse in a tense situation, because I often find myself thinking of the next thing to say while someone else is talking (receptors also turned off!).  We all need to listen more and speak less, and when we listen, we should do so deeply, because often what others are saying may not be what they truly mean or feel.  It\'s simple and complicated at the same time!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2560, 5397, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '208.111.7.162', '2011-08-30 08:46:26', '2011-08-30 13:46:26', 'You are so right Dale.  I never thought about it in this way before, but often people do not say exactly what they mean or feel and so part of the process of listening is figuring this out.  There is a great psychological principle called \"Next in Line Effect.\" In a group in which people are expected to say something in sequence, we stop listening to the person directly preceeding us so that we can construct our thoughts.  In this case we lose only a little in the series, but in a conversation, there\'s only two people so if we are always constructing what we want to say next, we lose a lot.  The process of leading by listening, constructing our thoughts AFTER we actually hear what\'s being said and letting others lead in this sense intrigues me.  Thank you for your insightful comments!', 0, '1', '', '', 2559, 1),
(2561, 5397, 'Rick Schwartz', 'SalesAddiction@gmail.com', 'http://www.SalesAddiction.com', '99.8.196.48', '2011-08-30 10:07:49', '2011-08-30 15:07:49', 'Deborah,\n\nThis is something that I have been struggling with for as long as I\'ve been struggling with weight loss.  I see a lot of similarities.\n\n#1  I know what I should eat.  / I know that I should listen more\n\n#2.  I always start each day with a good solid plan of eating well  / I always enter a human interaction with the plan of using my two ears more than my one mouth\n\n#3   Sometimes I do eat well / Sometimes I do listen.\n\n#4   When I eat well - I feel like I\'ve done something positive / When I listen I ALWAYS learn something.\n\n#5.  When I eat poorly I am disappointed that I wasted a day / When I don\'t listen properly I am disappointed that I missed an opportunity to enhance my mind and prepare myself better to share what I\'ve learned with others.\n\nGreat thought - thanks for posting.  Today, at least, I am going to use your thoughts to listen more.  Tomorrow - we\'ll see.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2562, 5397, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-08-30 11:08:25', '2011-08-30 16:08:25', 'Rick,\n\nWow...  what an interesting parallel...  as a person that has worked on weight management and fitness for a long time myself, I probably should have put that all together...  It\'s interesting how the philosophies we create to deal with one part of our lives can so easily flow into other parts, if we just pay attention and think and act deliberately.  There is no escaping that we are best when act in all ways from our core values, a philosophy embraced by the LeadChange group in particular.  I appreciate you reminding me that my success as a leader and my success as a heathy person are related and can be measured in similar ways.\n\nDeb\n\nPS: It\'s been my experience that people fail at weightloss or fitness goals when they focus on the failure of a single day.  They fall off the wagon and simply never get back on.  I love that you have goals for each day.  The mistakes of the past are simply that, past.  We all make mistakes.  What we do next says everything about us.  Have a wonderful, healthy day.  I will do the same!  Thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 2561, 1),
(2563, 5397, 'Mark Oakes', 'moakes@concentricsecurity.com', '', '70.88.159.217', '2011-08-30 15:07:57', '2011-08-30 20:07:57', 'Great insights, Deb!\n\nOur ability to learn/grow hinges on the orientation of our Focus (Us vs. Others). When we focus soley on ourselves we stifle the growth process. As you astutely point out, listening is an excellent example. The minute we shut down our internal dialogue and focus intently on another, we\'ve opened a channel to learn.\n\nThanks for sharing!\n\nMark', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2564, 5397, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '208.111.7.162', '2011-08-30 15:26:51', '2011-08-30 20:26:51', 'Thank you for stopping by Mark.  Your insights last week provided me with plenty to consider in writing this post and in moving forward in all that I do.  The idea of focus is one you talk about often, specifically on avoiding multitasking and giving each task undivided attention.  The idea of listening is a great example of why this wisdom is so true.  I tell my students all the time that they must listen in order to learn.  Clearly I need to do the same.\n\nI appreciate your continued wisdom!\n\nP.S.  Great run today!  ;)', 0, '1', '', '', 2563, 1),
(2565, 5402, 'Pete Friedes', 'pfriedes@mac.com', 'http://www.managingpeoplebetter.com', '68.175.120.48', '2011-08-29 10:13:17', '2011-08-29 15:13:17', 'Very clever post, Leigh.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2566, 5402, 'Tricia bowler', 'Tricia.bowler@shaw.ca', '', '206.108.210.76', '2011-08-29 10:25:51', '2011-08-29 15:25:51', 'All great stories display evidence of archetypical leadership/hero attributes. Thanks for taking the time to sift thru this amazing series and capture the threads!  Delightful.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2567, 5402, 'Melissa Taylor', 'melissa@imaginationsoup.net', 'http://imaginationsoup.net', '67.166.49.138', '2011-08-29 21:53:30', '2011-08-30 02:53:30', 'What a delightful way of looking at management through a new lens. Love this!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2568, 5402, 'David M. Dye (@davidmdye)', 'david_dye@comcast.net', 'http://davidmdye.blogspot.com', '76.25.27.121', '2011-08-30 00:36:23', '2011-08-30 05:36:23', 'One quality I admire in Dumbledore is his belief in people and ability to build a team of folks who might not ever associate with each other if it weren\'t for their shared vision. Every single person fills a role they are suited to, even if not everyone understands. In volunteer and nonprofit environments, this can be an important reality. Thanks for this fun post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2569, 5402, 'Leigh Steere', 'Lsynthesis@aol.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/leighsteere/', '97.118.93.122', '2011-08-31 10:19:53', '2011-08-31 15:19:53', 'Thanks for your feedback, Pete, Tricia and Melissa. This post was really fun to write.', 0, '1', '', '', 2566, 1),
(2570, 5402, 'Leigh Steere', 'Lsynthesis@aol.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/leighsteere/', '97.118.93.122', '2011-08-31 10:48:41', '2011-08-31 15:48:41', 'I agree, David. Thanks for your comment. I particularly like how Dumbledore gives opportunities to people others have written off. Few executives today would risk hiring folks like Remus Lupin, Hagrid or Firenze. Dumbledore focuses on talent and character. He overlooks appearances, \"disabilities,\" and differences in choosing the best person for a role.', 0, '1', '', '', 2568, 1),
(2571, 5402, 'Katie Stroud', 'katie.stroud@live.com', 'http://katiestroud.com', '97.126.66.24', '2011-08-31 12:30:37', '2011-08-31 17:30:37', 'In line with David\'s comment, I like tip #8. We\'re greater together than apart, but encouraging collaboration is easier said than done. It takes all the rest of the skills you list here to make it happen. It\'s worth the effort, though, isn\'t it.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2572, 5402, 'MAPping Company Success', '', 'http://mappingcompanysuccess.com/2011/09/september-leadership-development-carnival-2/', '184.168.21.21', '2011-09-05 03:22:05', '2011-09-05 08:22:05', '[...] Henry Sr. presents 10 Management Lessons from Harry Potter posted at Lead Change Group Blog, saying, &#8220;Post by Leigh Steere of Managing People Better [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2573, 5407, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-08-31 07:20:17', '2011-08-31 12:20:17', 'Katie,\n\nI love this line from your piece:  \"Leaders, at any level, hold a piece of other peoples’ hopes and dreams. That responsibility should not be taken lightly.\"  It is an important reminder that leaders are not just responsible for goals being accomplished, but also responsible to the people on their team.  It is not a one way street, but a super highway of shared responsibilities, dreams, and accomplishments.  Clearly you are a well seasoned traveler here.\n\nThank you for sharing your story.\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2574, 5407, 'Katie Stroud', 'katie.stroud@live.com', 'http://katiestroud.com', '75.165.25.164', '2011-08-31 11:49:48', '2011-08-31 16:49:48', 'Thanks for the kind words, Deb. It\'s true that the responsibility of the leader is not just to the goals being accomplished, but to the people on their team. But beyond the team and a specific leadership role, our everyday accomplishments contribute to something bigger. Getting out of bed this morning is part of making something happen for someone in the world--it\'s part of making an impact. How we live today matters--not just to ourselves, but to people in our lives and to random people we may never meet. That impact we make could be a defining moment in someone else\'s life. And that should not be taken lightly.\n\nI like how you define leadership as a shared super highway of responsibilities, dreams and accomplishments. It is a highway I travel everyday…but there\'s a long road ahead and a lot of traffic to be mindful of.\n\nThanks for your comment, Deb.\n\nKatie', 0, '1', '', '', 2573, 1),
(2575, 5407, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-08-31 17:49:12', '2011-08-31 22:49:12', 'Katie, thanks again for the great story.  I also appreciate the comments, both yours and Deb\'s.  We are responsible for more than we think.  I appreciate your sharing and being a part of Lead Change.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2576, 5410, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-09-01 07:53:05', '2011-09-01 12:53:05', 'An excellent call to action Mike.  Short of being a hermiit, we are all interacting with each other daily, creating and influencing, whether we want to or not.  The inevitable result is output, but what is our output?  Your piece reminds me that mindful, conscious, ever evolving and improving output is the goal.  And the means to this goal is mindful, conscious, ever improving input.  The leadchange group is a big part of my input.\n\nThanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2577, 5410, 'Ken Garman', 'kgarman2000@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/leadpassion/', '63.233.93.66', '2011-09-01 15:54:03', '2011-09-01 20:54:03', 'Great article Mike.  If we\'re not careful our output can become stagnant in either of two ways.\n1. If we spend too much time learning and receiving input then our deliverable\'s go down.\n2. If we spend too much time giving and leading without enriching our knowledge base then our out put becomes stale and bad output is worse than no output.\nYour post was a reminder and a wake up call for me. Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2578, 5410, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-09-01 16:13:28', '2011-09-01 21:13:28', 'Deb, thanks for the comment and for being a part of Lead Change.  I\'ve been working on my core values and this is one; producing value in excess of what I consume.  I\'m glad to get to be associated with other great folks who feel the same way.  Thanks again, Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2576, 1),
(2579, 5410, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-09-01 16:22:50', '2011-09-01 21:22:50', 'Ken, thank you for the comment.  I appreciate how you took the time to comment and generally don\'t want to \"pick on\" a small phrase in your comment.  However, as someone with a bias for action, I\'m challenged by the idea that nothing is better than something done poorly.  Part of me wants to agree with you.  I\'m sure that there are times when doing nothing would cost less, or forced fewer people to have to waste time fixing whatever problem you created. I agree going through the motions is bad.  But trying and failing is good.  As someone who often fails, I hold on to that belief to keep going.\n\nThanks again, Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2577, 1),
(2580, 5410, 'Ken Garman', 'kgarman2000@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/leadpassion/', '63.233.93.66', '2011-09-01 16:44:35', '2011-09-01 21:44:35', 'Mike,\nI agree with you completely.  I was merely trying to point out that we as leaders have no business with all the information available to us, to have poor quality offerings to those we lead.\nThanks for responding,\nKen', 0, '1', '', '', 2579, 0),
(2581, 5410, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-09-01 18:16:59', '2011-09-01 23:16:59', 'Agreed.  Thanks for adding to the conversation.  I appreciate your interest and feedback.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2580, 1),
(2582, 5410, 'Noraini', 'asleealision@yahoo.com', '', '203.82.95.2', '2011-09-02 11:54:45', '2011-09-02 16:54:45', 'Hi Mike,\n\nCouldnt agree more when you said \"Leaders are measured by their output\". Am fully agree with you. A great leader is one who are able not only to lead, but to be able to produce ideas and turns it into reality, into a success story benefited to all, as much as to make good choices in deciding things!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2583, 5410, 'Stephan De Villiers', 'stephan@incrementalsuccess.org', 'http://www.leadershipconnexion.com', '196.210.167.120', '2011-10-28 05:57:20', '2011-10-28 10:57:20', 'I agree with you basic theme that Leaders need to produce. However I also believe that sustainable leadership is only possible when the Leader has the ability to tap into the collective genius of the people he/she leads and produce through the followers new ideas, solutions to problems etc.  Leaders are measured by their output, but they should also be measured by the output of the group or organization they lead.  If all the production comes only from the leader with the group acting just as the implementers, the leadership model is not sustainable.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2584, 5410, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-28 07:12:41', '2011-10-28 12:12:41', 'Thanks Stephan for the great feedback.  Your interpretation of the post is accurate, but a bit more literal than I originall intended.  The output of the team and the output of the organization are the higher priorities.  We all work to produce a team outcome.  The positional leader of that team needs to get their team to do the work necessary to produce the team\'s output.  I agree with that.\n\nHowever a character-based leader is someone who doesn\'t let obstacles keep them from making a contribution.  They don\'t have to be the positional leader and they also don\'t have to make the end contribution.  They simply produce value for the team rather than simply draining energy and output from that same team.  A leader who\'s not in charge, creates value.  Their contribution matters.  That was the scope of the post and the original thought.\n\nThanks for extending the conversation.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2583, 1),
(2585, 5413, 'Leading Your Below Average Team Members | Coaching Leaders', '', 'http://www.leadwithhonor.com/blog/2011/09/04/leading-your-below-average-team-members/', '64.151.83.168', '2011-09-04 12:21:33', '2011-09-04 17:21:33', '[...] Personal Humility and Professional Will (leadchangegroup.com) [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2586, 5413, 'Stephan De Villiers', 'stephan@incrementalsuccess.org', 'http://www.leadershipconnexion.com', '196.210.167.120', '2011-10-12 09:38:50', '2011-10-12 14:38:50', 'Hi There Mike,\nThank you very much for the recommendation!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2587, 5419, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '12.181.61.90', '2011-09-06 09:46:49', '2011-09-06 14:46:49', 'Angie\n\nThank you for sharing your honest and thoughtful experience as you continue your leadership journey.  Your experiences, especially the observations about that depression thingie, resonate with me and I would guess with many others.\n\nSo many thoughts come to mind as I reread your words that I will be considering this post and the lessons in it for a while.  \"Stay tuned\", as they say.\n\nYou have done those who are willing to engage in reflective practice and self-exploration a great service ~ thanks:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2588, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '97.127.180.251', '2011-09-06 10:50:30', '2011-09-06 15:50:30', 'Heartfelt thanks to you, John, for your comments. I am grateful that you found value in my post. It was one of the most heartfelt and authentic posts I\'ve ever written. Long overdue, but I found myself in a place when I felt comfortable and safe sharing it. Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts.\n\nLead on,\nangie', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2589, 5419, 'Zack Clinard', 'zack@americancriminal.net', 'http://AmericanCriminal.net', '76.27.205.104', '2011-09-06 12:56:24', '2011-09-06 17:56:24', 'Great post Angie.\nI have a challenging question to ask you,\nbecause it sounds like you struggled for a time\nand I am doing the same;\nhow does an unemployed leader\nremain an effective leader?\nLearning and personal development are wonderful,\nbut what practical steps do you take?\nKind regards,\nZack', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2590, 5419, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-09-06 13:52:04', '2011-09-06 18:52:04', 'Angie, thank you for this post.  You might talk more about the deck of values cards.  What is that?\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2591, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '97.127.180.251', '2011-09-06 15:49:31', '2011-09-06 20:49:31', 'Zack,\n\nAs I look back on that time in my life, I\'d recommend something different than what I did. I disengaged from Facebook, Twitter, etc. I shut out many people and I regret having done so, even though I was humiliated and embarrassed by what had taken place.\n\nOne of my baby steps toward the new normalcy was to force myself to get \"out there\" once again. When I did, the support was remarkable even among those who didn\'t really know why I\'d left in the first place.\n\nMy greatest advice is to STAY CONNECTED. A support system is extremely critical for you to move forward. Like me, I suspect you will be amazed at the outpouring of support that will come your way. I scheduled lunch dates, attended community events, and started sharing my story with the select few whom are my inner circle.\n\nTo lead effective, one first must lead him/herself. Once I realized I wasn\'t leading myself, it was a wake-up call.\n\nFeel free to contact me directly if you\'d like to talk through your situation more in-depth.\n\nLead on,\nangie', 0, '1', '', '', 2589, 1),
(2592, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '97.127.180.251', '2011-09-06 15:54:34', '2011-09-06 20:54:34', 'Thank you, Mike. The Values Cards, part of The Leadership Challenge collection of products, created the turning point for me. The link for the product is http://www.leadershipchallenge.com/WileyCDA/LCTitle/productCd-0470559705.html; however, I can offer a discount to anyone interested in purchasing the cards.\n\nEach card has a value work or phrase written on it, i.e. freedom, dependability, respect, quality, trust, etc. The activity itself is to put the cards into three piles: very important, somewhat important, and not important. Focusing on the very important cards, the others are put away. The very important are then further narrowed down to the Top Five. This insightful process not only clarified my personal values, but also prioritized my company values.\n\nAnyone interested in purchasing a set of Values Cards can reach me at angie@angiechaplin.com.', 0, '1', '', '', 2590, 1),
(2593, 5419, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-09-06 16:06:13', '2011-09-06 21:06:13', 'I\'d add one other thing too... sometimes leading oneself means making the most of a situation.  And sometimes leadership is a result of being first.  If you simply help the next person, you\'re being an effective leader.  Leadership is an others-focused activity.  Therefore, like Angie stated above, keep your focus on others and look for ways to help.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2589, 1),
(2594, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '97.127.180.251', '2011-09-06 16:18:49', '2011-09-06 21:18:49', 'Admittedly, it took me many months to finally get the words from my head into words onto paper. Much support from Mike &amp; others associated with the Lead Change Group contributed to my strength in getting it written. Once the words started flowing, I couldn\'t stop. My second read-through shortened the piece which (hopefully) didn\'t sacrifice any of the content).\n\nAs I mentioned to Mike, the process was therapeutic. Even though the stress of building my business is a \"good\" stress, it\'s different from anything I\'ve ever experienced. Each day is a new day. YOU choose what kind of day it\'s going to be, and you choose who are the key support system members you will reach out to.\n\nangie', 0, '1', '', '', 2593, 1),
(2595, 5419, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '69.254.17.65', '2011-09-06 17:31:32', '2011-09-06 22:31:32', 'Thank you for sharing your story Angie.  In the often intense activity of a job it is so easy to lose touch with who we are and what really matters.  Our values are our only true compass.  There is a big cost to letting our fear overrule our values, yet it is such an easy trap to fall into,  Happy to hear you have chosen a direction guided by your true north.  Your story is inspiring.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2596, 5419, 'Jennifer V. Miller', 'jmiller@people-equation.com', 'http://people-equation.com', '76.236.182.182', '2011-09-06 18:24:22', '2011-09-06 23:24:22', 'Angie,\n\nThanks for sharing your very personal story in such a public forum. It\'s encouraging to hear that you\'ve been able to read your \"compass\" again. It was always there, but for some reason, it got buried underneath some other \"gear\".\n\nBest to you and I look foward to reading more from you on Lead Change.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2597, 5419, 'Kate Williams', 'kate@katelwilliams.com', 'http://socialbizlocalbiz.com', '67.183.250.8', '2011-09-06 21:15:14', '2011-09-07 02:15:14', 'Hi, Angie. Thanks so much for your authentic, heart-centered post. I have taken that journey three times now: job to unemployment, finally another job...to \"time to go\" message and into my own business. Now, at a \"mature age\" and business dipping with every plunge of the economy, I\'ve put my feet on that path again. Your post was an enormous support for leadership from the inside out--and leading myself--stepping out onto the path of values.\nThank you,\nKate L Williams', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2598, 5419, 'Brian L', 'brian@loebigink.com', 'http://www.loebigink.com', '96.228.47.159', '2011-09-06 22:05:34', '2011-09-07 03:05:34', 'Hi Angie,\nWow, thanks for writing this unemployed leader blog. Your story and mine are remarkably similar esp. since we both have had a faith-based non-profit departure. I have been going my own way as an independent contractor/entrepreneur as well and God continues to bless and bring continuous opportunities and connections through so many of my friends and colleagues from around the country.  It\'s definitely a much more risky feeling venture, but also more freeing and exciting. I just completed a website for a new non-profit serving young adults on the autism spectrum (www.vergeofindependenceproject.com) and the connections that are being made through that project are continuing to grow. :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2599, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '173.23.60.141', '2011-09-07 07:22:53', '2011-09-07 12:22:53', 'Thank you, Susan. It was an eye-opening experience. I know many others who have or are going through the same thing, and there\'s no one \"right\" way to get though challenges other than to keep moving forward. Took me a while to get that figured out. =)\n\nThanks again,\nangie', 0, '1', '', '', 2595, 1),
(2600, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '173.23.60.141', '2011-09-07 07:24:35', '2011-09-07 12:24:35', 'Thanks for making a good point, Jennifer. You\'re right that our compass is always guiding us, but for someone reason we may not read it right, know what direction it\'s pointing, or \"see\" the signposts along the way. I appreciate your comments!\n\nTake care,\nangie', 0, '1', '', '', 2596, 1),
(2601, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '173.23.60.141', '2011-09-07 07:26:40', '2011-09-07 12:26:40', 'Wow, Kate, thank you for sharing your journey with me. I hope you have a strong support system walking beside you every step of the way. You\'re exactly right about leadership from the inside-out; we need to work on ourselves before we attempt to work with others. Thanks for taking the time to respond.\n\nLead on,\nangie', 0, '1', '', '', 2597, 1),
(2602, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '173.23.60.141', '2011-09-07 07:28:16', '2011-09-07 12:28:16', 'Hi, Brian,\n\nThanks for stopping by the blog. You &amp; I do share many similarities along our career pathways, and there\'s much I can learn from you and your experiences. I will check out your website, and look forward to the many differences I know you will make in the world.\n\nBlessings,\nangie', 0, '1', '', '', 2598, 1),
(2603, 5419, 'Sharon Reed', 'sharon_reed@live.com', 'http://www.heartpath.wordpress.com', '24.224.116.218', '2011-09-25 09:45:56', '2011-09-25 14:45:56', 'Angie, bravo to you for having the courage and heart to share your story with others. What struck me most was how you once defined yourself (and your role as a leader) by your former position.  My observation is that you are not a leader because of your past role, but because of how you are leading yourself (and others) by the act of sharing your story and stepping up and out to share your knowledge and experience with the world.  Keep up the wonderful work.  I wish you much success in your new endeavors! -Sharon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2604, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://www.facebook.com/LeadershipPartners', '208.102.20.116', '2011-09-26 08:42:01', '2011-09-26 13:42:01', 'Sharon,\n\nYou\'ve made my day with your comments, thank you for encouraging my heart. Like many leaders, I find myself referring to my values on a regular basis particularly when faced with difficult decisions or courses of action. The power of values-based leadership cannot be overstated -- from a personal and professional perspective. Many of us define ourselves through the outside-looking-in -- I\'m a ________. I work for _________. While that\'s not a bad thing, it\'s not the only thing. We need to define ourselves from the inside out. I am a mom. I am intuitive. I am expressive. I am loving.\n\nThanks again for your comments. Leadership blessings to you!', 0, '1', '', '', 2603, 0),
(2605, 5419, 'Sharon Reed', 'sharon_reed@live.com', 'http://www.heartpath.wordpress.com', '24.224.116.218', '2011-09-26 08:49:01', '2011-09-26 13:49:01', 'Angie, I would add one more comment to your reply:  It is precisely when we are able to finally shed those external definitions of ourselves, whether by choice or circumstance, that we are finally able to lead from a values and heart-aligned place.   Wonderful post! -Sharon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2606, 5419, 'Rishi Raj Gupta', 'rishiraj.gupta@yahoo.com', '', '182.64.137.220', '2011-10-15 07:01:57', '2011-10-15 12:01:57', 'Angie,\nThanks for posting this wonderful piece. You words, they really have deep insights, they do.\nRegards,\nRishi Raj\nrrgwrites.wordpress.com', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2607, 5442, 'Sonia Di Maulo', 'sonia@harvestperformance.ca', 'http://www.harvestperformance.ca', '96.23.197.125', '2011-09-13 15:08:42', '2011-09-13 20:08:42', 'Hi Monica!\n\nGreat exercise.  I will begin the 1 week challenge right now! Great to learn more about what activities energize me and I should keep doing. Thank you for sharing this with us.\n\nGetting a handle on our energy (physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally) will definately help us be on fire to inspire!  Since the crazy busy summer, I have been focusing on all these aspects as well... looking for more energy... more ways to be grounded and inspired, so that I can inspire those around me to greatness.\n\nSO great to stay connected here!\n\nSonia', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2608, 5442, 'Monica Diaz', 'monica@e-quidam.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/monedays/', '189.189.10.109', '2011-09-13 18:18:55', '2011-09-13 23:18:55', 'Hey, Sonia! Great to hear you will be taking on that challenge! You are such a dynamo...no doubt you will discover some great energy sources that you can tap into. Let me know how it goes!', 0, '1', '', '', 2607, 1),
(2609, 5442, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/willlukang/', '96.234.78.152', '2011-09-15 21:49:06', '2011-09-16 02:49:06', 'There is a saying if you do what you love, you\'ll never work another day in your life.  You brought up a good point about \"Their energy is replenished by their work.\".   If you doing something that you\'re passionate about, you can work for an extended period of time without feeling tired.  Your enthusiasm keeps you going.    Great post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2610, 5442, 'Monica Diaz', 'monica@e-quidam.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/monedays/', '189.143.117.163', '2011-09-16 07:54:58', '2011-09-16 12:54:58', 'Thanks, Will. You capture the point beautifully! Plus, you can do what you love, wherever you are now. No need to wait for the perfect job or timing. You can work towards having your dream project, while still doing things in ways that express what you love. Thanks for your comment!', 0, '1', '', '', 2609, 1),
(2611, 5442, 'Dr. Ben', 'drben@doctorbenlo.com', 'http://doctorbenlo.com/blog', '99.37.86.163', '2011-09-16 14:57:46', '2011-09-16 19:57:46', 'Excellent and very timely post, Monica!  This has been an area I\'ve been paying more attention to lately...and I\'m finding that taking a moment to \"step back\" and be intentional ...and appreciative...throughout my day keeps me \"on track\" and energized...as does connecting with my wife and kids and exchanging smiles and hugs - or squeals - when possible! :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2612, 5442, 'Monica Diaz', 'monica@e-quidam.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/monedays/', '189.143.117.163', '2011-09-16 16:47:52', '2011-09-16 21:47:52', 'Sounds like you\'ve GOT it! Balance is such a precious thing, we need to keep aware to feed it.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2613, 5452, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '69.254.17.65', '2011-09-21 08:47:13', '2011-09-21 13:47:13', 'This is brilliant Chad.  For me this is the essence:  \"It’s the ‘Go With’ Principle that gives character-based leadership it’s strength.\"  ti doesn\'t matter if people are following you either - what matters is that you have in some way breathed life into a stand others wish to invest themselves in as well.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2614, 5452, 'Chad Balthrop', 'cbalth28@hotmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/chadbalthrop/', '70.164.58.194', '2011-09-21 16:39:51', '2011-09-21 21:39:51', 'Hey Susan,\n\nThanks for the comment. Self leadership is the first principle of character-based leadership. Once someone begins to do that I believe they will find others excited to go with them!\n\nGod Bless,\nC', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2615, 5452, 'The Leadership Illusion | theFarpoint', '', 'http://thefarpoint.org/2011/09/the-leadership-illusion/', '207.45.187.74', '2011-09-22 12:07:01', '2011-09-22 17:07:01', '[...] You&#8217;ve seen the illusion, now read the original article @ LeadChangeGroup.com. [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2616, 5452, 'LeadChange | theFarpoint', '', 'http://thefarpoint.org/', '207.45.187.74', '2011-09-22 12:44:37', '2011-09-22 17:44:37', '[...] The Leadership Illusion [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2617, 5452, 'Ken Garman', 'kgarman2000@yahoo.com', 'http://www.leadpassion.com', '63.233.93.66', '2011-09-23 14:53:04', '2011-09-23 19:53:04', 'Hi Chad,\nGreat post. It definitely presents  a different view of leadership than I\'ve had before, but I believe you\'re right. I would submit one more reason people follow someone else.\n   \"I like how you make me feel\", or \"I\'m better because of our relationship\".\nMaybe this falls into one of the categories you mentioned, but I didn\'t come to that conclusion as I read back over it.\nAgain, I really liked the post. God Bless\nKen Garman', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2618, 5452, 'Chad Balthrop', 'cbalth28@hotmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/chadbalthrop/', '70.164.58.194', '2011-09-27 20:50:12', '2011-09-28 01:50:12', 'Hey Ken,\n\nThanks for the comment and the observation. I agree with both of your suggestions. The leadership challenge with, \"I like how you make me feel\", is that it has a limited shelf life. How I feel about you today will change tomorrow - and may have nothing to do with the vision you cast or the cause you champion. Politicians are the perfect example of this. Feelings may get them elected, but genuine leadership keeps them in office. For me, \"I\'m better because of our relationship\", slips well into 1, 2 or 4. Leadership relationships are like dating relationships - they mature over time. Some times our leadership requires immediate action from people who don\'t really know us that well. It\'s hard for them to buy into they idea that our relationship will make them better. However, in long-term leadership settings \"I\'m better because of our relationship\" is the natural outcome of what it means to be a true servant-leader.\n\nVery thoughtful, Ken - I appreciate it!\n\nGod Bless,\nChad', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2619, 5452, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '184.186.82.130', '2011-09-29 20:51:26', '2011-09-30 01:51:26', 'Absolutely amazing principles and insight.  It may very well revolutionize the way I look at leadership... Thank you. It\'s all I can say.  Thank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2620, 5454, 'Kate Nasser, The People-Skills Coach', 'info@katenasser.com', 'http://katenasser.com', '151.198.21.189', '2011-09-27 06:56:15', '2011-09-27 11:56:15', 'Christina,\nThe power of a shower is so common, that a company created \"Aqua Notes\" for people to capture their thoughts in the shower.  No joke.  I am a Shower Thinker and own the these little gems of shower productivity.  Http://twitter.com/showerthinker to find their powerful shower! :)\n\nYou ask, what type of mental shower can we create throughout the day?  For me, I can now get a mental shower anywhere by pausing -- just for a minute -- and asking focusing on one or two words.  I silently ask myself \"what goes with these words\" and the mental shower starts to flow.\n\nUnique post with great insight for all.\n\nMany thanks,\nKate', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2621, 5454, 'Kate Nasser, The People-Skills Coach', 'info@katenasser.com', 'http://katenasser.com', '151.198.21.189', '2011-09-27 06:56:56', '2011-09-27 11:56:56', 'Sorry for the typo in the previous comment.\nKate', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2622, 5454, 'Sonia Di Maulo', 'sonia@harvestperformance.ca', 'http://www.harvestperformance.ca', '96.23.197.125', '2011-09-27 09:00:03', '2011-09-27 14:00:03', 'Hello Christina!\n\nExcellent post. All my ideas or solutions come when my brain, mind and body are at rest - so I am always careful to have my smartphone on record-ready mode so I can capture it...!\n\nYours in growth,\nSonia', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2623, 5454, 'Tara Alemany', 'alewebsocial@gmail.com', 'http://alewebsocial.com', '68.191.62.10', '2011-09-27 11:34:43', '2011-09-27 16:34:43', 'Great post, Christina! I have always found the shower to be a very productive thought-place. I think there, pray there, and come up with some great insights there! Perhaps I shouldn\'t admit this, because you may think I\'m not paying attention then, but I find driving to have a similar effect for me. I learned long ago, when I was frequently writing poetry, to keep a recorder in the car, so that I could record my thoughts to save for a later time.\n\nHowever, neither of those solutions work very well for the company setting. But one place I worked was great! We had a Foosball table in the break room. It was common to find people there for 10 or 15 minutes at a time, playing the game, but working as well; brainstorming, sharing ideas, discussing things openly, and having fun. Somehow the competition of the game took away the competition of the conference room table. It didn\'t matter who had the best idea or the winning solution. The playing field was level, and anyone who wanted to join in (whether part of the team charged with finding the solution or not!) could contribute.\n\nThat was probably one of the most effective, corporate setting, productivity tools I\'ve ever experienced!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2624, 5454, 'Deb Costello', 'Costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '166.137.11.10', '2011-09-27 20:26:48', '2011-09-28 01:26:48', 'Love this post Christina! I have solved a lot of problems by getting up from the computer, paper, or book and going for a walk, taking a shower, or getting a snack. Did you know that movement spurs brain activity helping us to solve problems, process information, or make memories. This means the solitude of the shower plus the inherent movement makes it a great place for new ideas!\n\nThanks for an intriguing post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2625, 5454, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com', '68.13.251.23', '2011-09-28 11:31:38', '2011-09-28 16:31:38', 'Fun and thought creating post - Thanks Christina!\n\nKate - I love the aqua notes!', 0, '1', '', '', 2620, 0),
(2626, 5454, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '184.186.82.130', '2011-09-29 20:54:30', '2011-09-30 01:54:30', 'Mental showers... I think I get it!  I can encourage my team to do that!!!  That\'s awesome!  We get in a rut as leaders of companies to say \"produce, produce, produce\", that we forget to give our team members the flexibility to dream, get a vision, take that mental shower!  Thanks for the encouragement!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2627, 5458, 'T S SETHUPATHY', 'sethupathyts@gmail.com', '', '78.101.219.243', '2011-09-22 08:52:37', '2011-09-22 13:52:37', 'Good points about leadership.Worth reading', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2628, 5458, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-09-22 09:12:09', '2011-09-22 14:12:09', 'Thank you for reading and for the comment.\n\nThe little guy in the photo is my nephew.  As I wrote the 5 Reasons Curious Leadership Matters, I tried to imagine what he was thinking as he was looking under those rocks.\n\nWhile I am not sure I share his interest in worms and bugs, I completely identify with the discovery, the problem solving, and the joy that comes from turning organizational rocks over.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2629, 5458, 'Billy Kirsch', 'billy@kidbillymusic.com', 'http://kidbillymusic.com', '74.179.43.201', '2011-09-22 09:52:10', '2011-09-22 14:52:10', 'Chery - As a creative person so much of the work I do is based on maintaining a curious mind-set. Great leaders are curious and not afraid to be playful. Great metaphor here. I once came up with a song idea while playing in the garden with my son, the title was \'Cocoon\' and the song was recorded by Steve Wariner. An example of playfulness and curiosity leading to real results.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2630, 5458, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-09-22 10:17:39', '2011-09-22 15:17:39', 'Thanks for the comment Billy!  I can\'t wait to track down that song!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2631, 5458, 'LeadChange | theFarpoint', '', 'http://thefarpoint.org/', '207.45.187.74', '2011-09-22 12:44:20', '2011-09-22 17:44:20', '[...] 5 Reasons Curious Leadership Will Strengthen Your Organization [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2632, 5464, 'Digital Nino', 'cleosie@bluefountainmedia.com', 'http://www.exec-comm.com/blog', '65.112.118.122', '2011-09-19 10:49:22', '2011-09-19 15:49:22', '\"The Individual Age?\".  Very interesting concept.  Especially when you consider who technology has created informational and entertainment silos.  I can, for instance, access any piece of data, watch any show, and speak with anybody--all from the comfort of my bed.  Amazing how far we\'ve come from the Industrial days.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2633, 5464, 'Christina Haxton, MA', 'christina@sustainable-leaders.com', 'http://sustainable-leaders.com', '70.41.6.193', '2011-09-19 23:44:39', '2011-09-20 04:44:39', 'Your points are spot-on, Fred.  Small companies have an advantage, as I see it.  And the advantage is they are small and intimate enough to still be mindful of the value of the relationships built in the process of building the business.\n\nP.S. I won\'t be surprised when \"From Bud to Boss\" becomes an acclaimed resource for entrepreneurs comparable to Michael Gerber\'s \"The E-Myth Revisited.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2634, 5464, 'Fred Schnook', 'fschnook@workforcetulsa.com', 'http://www.workforcetulsa.com', '199.245.163.1', '2011-09-21 17:57:01', '2011-09-21 22:57:01', 'Christina:\n\nThanks for your kind words.  I sure do appreciate it!\n\nEntrepreneurs are the engine of economic &amp; job growth and human capital is the coin of the realm in the new Individual Age Economy.  The economy is not changing.  It has changed.  Therefore, events like Boss to Bud that assist small firms and entrepreneurs in understanding how to best utilize human capital is critical; not only to in individual businesses, but to communtiy and national economic development.  Thanks again!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2635, 5464, 'Fred Schnook', 'fschnook@workforcetulsa.com', 'http://www.workforcetulsa.com', '199.245.163.1', '2011-09-22 16:37:40', '2011-09-22 21:37:40', 'Digital Nino:\nThanks for commenting.\nI like the term Individual Age as it probably best describes what is happening with the workforce and the explosion of small firms and private consultants.  Another descriptive term could be the Free-Agent Age.  The end of the Industrial Age connotes much more than the shift to service sector work; there is also a fundamentally different structure in the employer-employee relationship.  Where many of us once worked for the same firm for 30 years, now we switch, not just jobs, but careers many times.  Furthermore, workers are now are much more likely to start their own business and/or consult.  Workers now move in and out of these two realms (working for themselves or working for someone else) frequently.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2636, 5464, 'Importance of Leadership, Customer Satisfaction and Benchmarking in Total Quality Management (TQM) | CallCenterBestPractices.com', '', 'http://www.callcenterbestpractices.com/importance-of-leadership-customer-satisfaction-and-benchmarking-in-total-quality-management-tqm/', '66.147.242.83', '2011-09-29 20:23:58', '2011-09-30 01:23:58', '[...] = &#039;&#039;;} } Enhancing Organizational Performance Through Total Quality Management (TQM)Importance of Leadership Development in &quot;The Individual Age&quot; - Lead Change Group  if (top!=self) { window.location = [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2637, 5466, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry', '24.249.156.71', '2011-09-28 09:33:54', '2011-09-28 14:33:54', 'I\'m so excited about this event!  Thanks for leading out in promoting it, and thanks for all you do for Lead Change Group, and for leadership development in the Tulsa metro area!  You\'re great at what you do, and I truly do value our friendship!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2638, 5474, 'Kate Nasser, The People-Skills Coach', 'info@katenasser.com', 'http://katenasser.com', '151.198.21.189', '2011-09-26 11:05:20', '2011-09-26 16:05:20', 'Dear Deborah,\nYou ask a *very deep question.  Does everything we do matter?  Yes.\n\nYour second question: What do you we do with the enormity of this responsibility?\n----\n#1 - Think of impact before taking action.\nA simple quick pause where you picture those in your work or life provides instant perspective.\n\n#2 - Own what you do.  None of us is perfect.  Being accountable for our actions can actually start the reversal of negative impact.\n\n#3 - Learn how to sincerely apologize.  Here\'s one of my posts that has helped many with this\nhttp://katenasser.com/the-perfect-apology-the-one-word-that-destroys-it/\n\n#4 - Get up in the morning and set an intention to have a positive impact on others not a negative one.  The mind is very powerful.  It can change what we say and do.\n\nI love your post and I think it would make a great #leadfromwithin chat topic on Twitter.  If you want to submit it there, get in touch with http://twitter.com/lollydaskal.\n\nMany thanks for this post.\nKate', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
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(2639, 5474, 'Deborah Costello', 'Costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '166.137.11.14', '2011-09-26 12:16:18', '2011-09-26 17:16:18', 'Thank you so much for your support Kate. I think it is so easy to be overwhelmed by the idea that every single thing we do has significance and importance. There is nothing I love more than an actionable list of intentional thoughts and behaviors that help us make better choices day to day. You mention an important part if this in your post,  what to do when you mess up. We all make mistakes, and it is easy to throw in the towel, but the idea of apologizing, owning our actions,  good and not, and finding ways to move forward and improve are definite keys!\n\nI so appreciate your comments and will think on the twitterchat as well. I attended one last month and it was an amazing experience.\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 2638, 0),
(2640, 5474, 'Sarah Secoy', 'secoy_sarah@columbusstate.edu', '', '174.254.130.172', '2011-09-26 19:44:42', '2011-09-27 00:44:42', 'Wow, I have thought about those very questions so often. As I work with the students in the college setting, and so often when the get to me, they are either student leaders or in trouble.  With the students in the judicial process I have to put myself in their shoes, is this because of peer pressure? Are you just not yet mature enough to make the right decisions? And what can I do in an educational approach to discipline to help you become the person in the crowd to speak up in that crowded football stand. And I am not sure if it is because I trust the educators of my children,  the age groups, or whatever it may be - but I feel more pressure to educate the students I work with than I do my kids (probobly because I expect more from college students ).  I would absolutely agree with Kate, those are some of the very principles I use everyday, both at work and in life, if only everyone could live by them, even sometimes.\n Great post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2641, 5474, 'Nickey', 'info@therightva.com', 'http://www.TheRightVA.com', '24.115.247.26', '2011-09-26 20:09:43', '2011-09-27 01:09:43', 'We all certainly hold a responsibility to be aware of what we say and do; the enormity of that is overwhelming at times when you stop to think how much something you say / do can shape the opinions - and maybe even actions - of someone.\n\nGreat food for thought, Deb', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2642, 5474, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '98.85.246.140', '2011-09-26 21:34:43', '2011-09-27 02:34:43', 'Thanks Sarah for stopping by.  Lots of research has shown that our youth lack the frontal lobe development required to make adult decisions all the time.  That being said, I think the more we expose them to good behavior, the more we will see it from them in the future.  I hope that I teach my students two important ideas.  First, act intentionally, as Kate mentioned above.  Sometimes bad decisions come because youth are impulsive. With intentionality comes better decision making.  Second, know that for every word and action there are consequences.  Some are anticipated, some unexpected, but all belong to you based on your own words and deeds.  As teachers and parents, we do not serve our youth well when we allow them to avoid the consequences of their actions.\n\nI too would like to see more people live by the principles Kate outlines.  I love the leadchange group because we agree that there can be a character-based model for leadership and members work hard to model these tenets and instigate this revolution in thinking.  I sometimes feel like a lone educator here.  Thank you for joining the discussion!', 0, '1', '', '', 2640, 0),
(2643, 5474, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '98.85.246.140', '2011-09-26 21:42:41', '2011-09-27 02:42:41', 'It is an enormous responsibility, but it is also an amazing opportunity.  Not only can our words and deeds have significant negative consequences, but they can also be life changing in a positive way.  And wouldn\'t you work pretty hard to do good if you knew that somehow, something you said or did was going to change someone\'s life for the better?\n\nWe humans are remarkably resilient and adaptable.  i see good happening underfoot in the smallest of deeds, the simplest of gestures.  Every single person has yet another chance every day.  Today your kind words made me smile, and I will sleep well knowing that our conversation furthered the discussion of how we might make our communities stronger and our lives better.  I appreciate the kind words of a stranger and wish you well.  Thanks, Nickey, for keeping on the journey to make a difference.\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 2641, 0),
(2644, 5474, 'Erin Schreyer', 'eschreyer@sagestone-partners.com', 'http://www.sagestone-partners.com', '99.47.230.228', '2011-09-27 08:25:45', '2011-09-27 13:25:45', 'Deb, I love the notion that \"you matter\"...simply because we all do.\n\nHave you heard of the \"Butterfly Effect?\"  Andy Andrews recently wrote a book on the scientific phenomenon.  Basically, researchers found that even the simple flapping of a butterfly\'s wings sends a ripple out that ultimately affects other things.  The point is that everything we do matters, whether we can directly see the difference or not.\n\nNow, if only we could all take responsibility for that effect we have on others.  Then, we\'d see some radical change in our world, don\'t you think?!?!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2645, 5474, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '138.210.92.134', '2011-09-27 08:39:37', '2011-09-27 13:39:37', 'Oh my, Erin!  I am grinning ear to ear!  As a math teacher you have stumbled into a long held love.  Chaos Theory and the Butterfly Effect are wonderful examples of how mathemtics and life intersect in compelling and amazing ways.\n\nI know you didn\'t come here to talk about math and fractals, but I so love that you see this connection.  Maybe I should write a little something about that some day!  Hmmm...  you so have my neurons all firing!  :)\n\nYou are so right about the responsibility aspect.  Knowledge that we matter is the first step.  Then owning what we do is the second.  Maybe then as a third step we move toward making better and better choices.  Continual improvement!\n\nThank you Erin for stopping in and talking.  I am always so inspired by the leaders around me.\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 2644, 0),
(2646, 5483, 'Jennifer V. Miller', 'jmiller@people-equation.com', 'http://people-equation.com', '76.236.182.182', '2011-09-20 12:31:22', '2011-09-20 17:31:22', 'Mike,\n\nIt took Experience a long time to teach me about #3-- I was kind of a slow learner on that one :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2647, 5483, 'LeadChange | theFarpoint', '', 'http://thefarpoint.org/', '207.45.187.74', '2011-09-22 12:44:59', '2011-09-22 17:44:59', '[...] Old Men and Kick Scooters [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2648, 5486, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '69.242.114.141', '2011-09-19 11:18:27', '2011-09-19 16:18:27', 'Thanks so much for the mention, Mike.  I am overcome with how all of that came together with my coffee shop barista, Mollie, and with Don Shapiro, and his mention of my post on his FB page.  Serendipity + Grace = Gratitude.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2649, 5496, 'WEadership: Workforce Leaders Remaking Policy and Redefining What it Means to Lead | Business Coaching | Scoop.it', '', 'http://www.scoop.it/t/business-coaching/p/486824660/weadership-workforce-leaders-remaking-policy-and-redefining-what-it-means-to-lead', '89.30.105.121', '2011-09-26 09:52:23', '2011-09-26 14:52:23', '[...]  WEadership: Workforce Leaders Remaking Policy and Redefining What it Means to Lead           The lone-hero leader joins the crowd. Findings from a one-year study of leadership in the public policy area concerned with work and learning (called workforce).     Source: leadchangegroup.com [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2650, 5496, 'Marcia Peterson', 'marcia.peterson@ge.com', '', '198.169.188.227', '2011-10-13 15:45:40', '2011-10-13 20:45:40', 'great work...more!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2651, 5496, 'Kristin Wolff', 'kwolff@thinkers-and-doers.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/kristinwolff/', '166.137.142.115', '2011-10-13 19:31:25', '2011-10-14 00:31:25', 'Thank you! We are working on it. This is the first of a seven-part series. Stay tuned!', 0, '1', '', '', 2650, 1),
(2652, 5557, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '64.134.222.174', '2011-09-28 13:42:38', '2011-09-28 18:42:38', 'Hi Page,\nThese are good points and useful professionally or personally. What I like about your message is that relationships and introspection must be treated with great respect. Otherwise \"you\'re vulnerable\" as you point out.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2653, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry', '24.249.156.71', '2011-09-28 15:52:24', '2011-09-28 20:52:24', 'Thanks for the feedback Shawn!  I have not only personally experienced these challenges, but over the years I\'ve worked with lots and lots of people who are struggling through the process of working past a significant failure or shortcoming in their life.  Sometimes all it takes to push on through to wholeness and health is the encouragement of a good friend and a fresh perspective that they can bring.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2654, 5557, 'Anita Pickett', 'apickett@bristow.k12.ok.us', '', '67.142.163.31', '2011-09-28 19:52:14', '2011-09-29 00:52:14', 'Page,\nNice job. Along with making a plan not to repeat the mistake again, it might help to remember not to place yourself in a position that would allow for venerability. Great points.\nAnita', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2655, 5557, 'Tim', 'layinglow99@sbcglobal.net', '', '70.234.165.87', '2011-09-28 22:23:59', '2011-09-29 03:23:59', 'I can relate to people can\'t move forward till\nThey except I am doing this now for 2 yrs now\nIn depression cause I haven\'t admitted and accepted responsibity\nGood article', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2656, 5557, 'Todd', 'Bugman67@hotmail.com', '', '68.12.165.142', '2011-09-28 23:26:38', '2011-09-29 04:26:38', 'That is all good advice, people need to realize we are Human and we make mistakes. If you have never screwed up it is probably because you aren\'t doing much!\n\nOnly out of change comes growth, so when we make a Big Blunder, it isn\'t the end of the world but rather an opportunity to start over with a new prospective.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2657, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '184.186.82.130', '2011-09-29 20:35:03', '2011-09-30 01:35:03', 'Anita, what a great point... it\'s one that leaders tend to forget.  They sometimes begin to feel invulnerable, but we know they aren\'t...  The advice of \"an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure\" comes to mind!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2658, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '184.186.82.130', '2011-09-29 20:37:20', '2011-09-30 01:37:20', 'Tim, glad the article was helpful for you!  I want to encourage you to find someone you trust, and ask them to talk through your situation with them.  Sometimes that \"admission and accepting responsibility\" can be easier with a nudge from someone you believe in, and that believes in you!  I\'ll be praying for you!', 0, '1', '', '', 2655, 1),
(2659, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '184.186.82.130', '2011-09-29 20:39:30', '2011-09-30 01:39:30', 'Todd,\nWith that kind of positive attitude, you\'re the perfect guy to find someone in your sphere of influence that is struggling, and encourage them, help them push on through to the other side.  That kind of energy, empathy and hope can be a life changer for someone who is struggling... Will you go be life changer?  Seriously?  I want to know!', 0, '1', '', '', 2656, 1),
(2660, 5557, '5 Actions To Take After a Huge Failure &#8211; Lead Change Group &laquo; Tech4buziness', '', 'http://tech4buziness.com/2011/09/5-actions-to-take-after-a-huge-failure-lead-change-group/', '213.251.189.204', '2011-09-29 23:15:13', '2011-09-30 04:15:13', '[...] Lead Change Group        Cliquez ici pour annuler la [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2661, 5557, 'Todd', 'Bugman67@hotmail.com', '', '68.12.165.142', '2011-09-29 23:46:08', '2011-09-30 04:46:08', 'Hi Page,\nI am active In my sphere of influence :)\n\nAsside from my Real Job, I am in a Dance Studio seven nights a week working with people from all walks of life, helping change their life through Dance by developing confidence and personal growth while learning a new skill set.\n\nLearning to dance is a lot like life, you seldom get it right the first time, so learn to laugh at your mistakes and keep trying!', 0, '1', '', '', 2659, 0),
(2662, 5557, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '69.254.17.65', '2011-10-01 09:12:38', '2011-10-01 14:12:38', 'Really loved this post Page.  Sometimes it takes a \"huge failure\" - one we can\'t hide from or rationalize away in our own mind - to learn the lesson(s) we most need to learn.  That we were willing to risk big enough to fail big is an indication we are ready to grow - it is a sign of strength and courage.  That same strength and courage is what we can depend on to get us to the other side.\n\nIn terms of advice to add for someone going down this road now, I\'d add do what ever it takes to move past feeling ashamed.  This falls under the \"know you are human\" category.  Some people take themselves away with anger or bravado, but many slink into the background unable to fully recover themselves from the shame and embarrassment.  Holding onto shame not only robs us. but also robs those around us from the best of what we have to offer.  If you are a leader that people look up to it can rob others of hope.  The first step is forgiveness.  Forgiveness begins with you forgiving yourself - if you can\'t authentically get there, get help.  it may be the most important lesson you ever learn.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2663, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '24.249.156.71', '2011-10-01 12:47:06', '2011-10-01 17:47:06', 'Anita, what a great point… it’s one that leaders tend to forget. They sometimes begin to feel invulnerable, but we know they aren’t… The advice of “an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure” comes to mind!', 0, '1', '', '', 2654, 1),
(2664, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '24.249.156.71', '2011-10-01 12:50:29', '2011-10-01 17:50:29', 'I\'m not sure, but you may have hit on the THE NUMBER ONE PROBLEM people face in trying to move on.  It seems that no matter how upset others might be about a failure, there is typically no greater critic for any of us than we are of our self.  We can find an escape from the criticisms and slams of other people, but it\'s difficult to shut off the condemnations you and I may self-inflict in those moments of solitude.\n\nThanks Susan, not only for the encouragement you offered to others with your comments, but to me too!', 0, '1', '', '', 2662, 1),
(2665, 5557, 'Elephants at Work', '', 'http://www.elephantsatwork.com/leadership-development-carnival-october-2011-edition/', '74.220.219.145', '2011-10-02 10:55:12', '2011-10-02 15:55:12', '<strong>Leadership Development Carnival: October 2011 Edition...</strong>\n\nReading time: &lt; 1 minute It is with great pleasure that I am able to host the Leadership Development Carnival (October 2011). Dan McCarthy at Great Leadership is the master host of the Leadership Development Carnival. He&#8217;s taken the month off ......', 0, '1', '', 'trackback', 0, 0),
(2666, 5557, 'Chad Balthrop', 'cbalth28@hotmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/chadbalthrop/', '72.192.80.181', '2011-10-04 01:22:30', '2011-10-04 06:22:30', 'Hey Page,\n\nGreat post. I especially like \'Know It\'. For each of us it\'s not a matter of \'if\' we\'ll make a mistake, but \'when\' and \'how big will it be?\'! What I like about your post is it gives everyone a step by step plan for dealing with the inevitable. Thanks!\n\nGod Bless,\nChad', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2667, 5557, 'Christian Paulsen', 'paulsen-christian@att.net', 'http://christianpaulsen62.wordpress.com/', '69.210.248.95', '2011-10-04 08:22:20', '2011-10-04 13:22:20', 'We\'ve all been there at one time or another.  This is a good formula to get pack on the right path.  Thanks for sharing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2668, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '24.249.156.71', '2011-10-07 12:36:58', '2011-10-07 17:36:58', 'Thanks for the honest feedback my friend!  I hate to sound like a pessimist, but you\'re right in saying that it\'s inevitable... everyone has a hard time sometimes!!!', 0, '1', '', '', 2666, 1),
(2669, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '24.249.156.71', '2011-10-07 12:37:48', '2011-10-07 17:37:48', 'Thanks for the encouragement Paula!  I hope it can help someone sometime!', 0, '1', '', '', 2667, 1),
(2670, 5557, 'Stephan De Villiers', 'stephan@incrementalsuccess.org', 'http://www.leadershipconnexion.com', '41.177.12.159', '2011-10-15 13:34:22', '2011-10-15 18:34:22', 'The most important and I believe the most difficult of these five actions is to take responsibility for the failure.  The hardest part is not coming up with reasons to justify the fact that it is not so bad to have failed.  This is a natural human reaction, but one that negates your attempts to accept responsibility.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2671, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '24.249.156.71', '2011-10-15 14:57:30', '2011-10-15 19:57:30', 'Stephan,\nYou\'re right, self defense and justification seem to be two of the greatest hindrances to actually taking responsibility.  I think they are difficult to fight against because usually there is some merit to their arguments.  There WERE other causes, there WERE other factors that played a part, and may have influenced us.  But the key for us to remember is that we still had a choice... we still either made a bad decision, chose selfishly, acted poorly somehow to cause the failure.  Only when you and I are able to truly say to OURSELVES, \"I did it... it was my failure, regardless of anyone else or anything else... I was wrong, and I have to take responsibility.\", only then are we able to move past the failure in our life to find healing, a new start and joy.', 0, '1', '', '', 2670, 1),
(2672, 5560, 'Geetha', 'geetha@aeme.in', 'http://aeme.in/', '122.167.75.208', '2011-10-03 06:10:19', '2011-10-03 11:10:19', 'Leadership in Changing Landscape\nChanges during the past decade has been at much faster speed than ever before in all the aspects of life and business. Invention of mobile phones and internet has changed the communication and speed of information exchange. Technology has given more and more start ups with the ability to compete head on with larger organisations by disrupting the status quo. The need today is to provide better leadership for people, for organizations and most recently partnerships and communities. This makes difference to performance.\nThis write up seeks to explain readers about how leadership differs from management. The managerial roles are based on knowledge, techniques, skills and emphasis on results within the parameters of organisation’s principles and policies where as leadership roles focuses on imagination, passion, commitment and fulfillment of dreams. Traditional management approaches based on scientific analysis do not contribute much towards understanding leadership. Understanding leadership is really about understanding life and this starts with gaining and understanding of self and people.\nLeadership is to view a bigger picture where new creative ideas can invent new and dynamic organizations. A new perspective on leadership concept emerges from IMAGE Model which is highlighted below:\nI: Innovative imagine and  inspiring\nM: Making Vow\nA: Authentic\nG: Guts\nE: Ethics and Excellence.\nPractices of exemplary leadership, which need to be displayed everywhere, be it at home or work place, are as follows:\na.	Modeling the way: Setting the example, leaving out one’s professed values and creating win-win situation.\nb.	Challenging the process: Searching for and accepting challenging opportunities and taking risks.\nc.	Inspiring a shared vision: Holding and communicating a vision of what is possible, and getting everyone aligned to a common purpose.\nd.	Enabling others to act: Fostering collaboration and building energetic, winning teams based mutual trust understanding and shared goals.\ne.	Encouraging the heart: Recognising contributions and celebrating accomplishment.\nAEME Leadership Center (ALC) is the only institute which provides education and training for holistic development for youth so that they are found to be very effective and have competitive edge on entering corporate world. ALC provides maximum values to the life with minimum cost.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2673, 5564, 'Rob Wright', 'reawright@aol.com', '', '188.220.116.109', '2011-09-29 08:13:40', '2011-09-29 13:13:40', 'If the biggest clues are in the story (things appear worse since the lay-offs) then it\'s useless trying to deal with the symptoms without dealing with the cause. When initiative &amp; the passion for the cause wanes, it\'s only retrievable when the passion violation has been dealt with.\nSo, first things first:\n• Engage. Let messy be messy. Give staff permission to discuss their feelings. Anger, shock, disappointment, grief; any -ve emotion needs space to be articulated &amp; acknowledged appropriately\n• Next, Listen. Actively. The silence is often the killer; where people have to carry on working as if nothing happened because they feel they can\'t talk about it. Listening means people are free to express their unease without feeling like a turncoat, insubordinate or cannon fodder\n• Recommit. Whether we like it or not, redundancies violate The Contract; ie, \"I work for you &amp; you give me ££.\" Affirmation &amp; recommissioning can help heal the bruise of \"If we keep our side of the bargain &amp; you get rid of us, what does that say about you &amp; me…??\"\nWith all that in place, then you can start to think about re-envisioning &amp; strategising about who best to take the lead with behaviours that inspire culture change, or launch motivations that encourage leadership AND followership.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2674, 5564, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-09-29 10:08:53', '2011-09-29 15:08:53', 'Rob, thanks for the great suggestions.  Engage, Listen and Recommit is a great three-step process to begin turning things around.  Great advice.  Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 2673, 1),
(2675, 5564, 'Rob Wright', 'reawright@aol.com', 'https://twitter.com/#!/Copywrighting', '188.220.116.109', '2011-09-29 10:36:00', '2011-09-29 15:36:00', 'You\'re very welcome, Mike! Thanks for the well-framed question!', 0, '1', '', '', 2674, 0),
(2676, 5564, 'Jon M', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jhmertz/', '72.48.93.4', '2011-09-29 16:49:31', '2011-09-29 21:49:31', 'Engage, Listen and Recommit - great approach. One thing I would add is to ensure that you are exemplifing the actions you want taken. So, part of the 45 minutes would be to sketch out what you activities, attitudes, and actions you want the team to take, and then identify how you can demonstrate these in your own work (starting the next day). It is not about being obvious about them, just doing them...\n\nGreat questions! Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2677, 5564, 'Dana Theus', 'dtheus@magusconsulting.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/dtheus/', '108.28.244.155', '2011-09-30 06:56:20', '2011-09-30 11:56:20', '1. Take out a blank sheet of paper and draw a line about 1/4 down the page horizontally.\n\n2. Above the line write a short list of the fewest things that will move the ball forward for your business.\n\n3. Below the line write everything else that \"has to get done\"\n\n4. Leave it on your desk and the next morning call the team meeting and share the list with them. Let them know that you expect 100% effort on the top items, and their best effort on the rest. Let them know you expect each one of them to have a 25%/75% list on their desk at all times too.\n\nThis is what I call an \"ugly but useful\" technique. Leadership isn\'t always about thinking like a leader - it\'s more about doing like a leader. Focus on doing what matters in integrity and most of the other stuff will come along.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2678, 5564, 'David', 'david_dye@comcast.net', 'http://davidmdye.blogspot.com', '76.25.27.121', '2011-10-01 16:05:30', '2011-10-01 21:05:30', 'With 45 minutes available, my advice to this leader would be:\n\n1) Look in the mirror (3-5 minutes) The symptoms described did not happen in a vacuum. The team\'s culture exists because the leader has allowed it (or even contributed to it). The good news, and reason for the long stare in the mirror, is that this leader can also take responsibility for, and influence, the change he/she wants to see.\n\n2) Articulate dreaming. (15-20 minutes) Close your eyes and envision what the team would look like when it\'s working well. Dream in specific. Avoid critical or sarcastic descriptions. Force yourself to articulate two or three main ideas and really see them in your mind. Next, write down the behaviors that you \"see\".\n\n3) Gap analysis. (10 minutes) What do team members need in the way of skill or motivation to begin implementing those behaviors. Write down this list.\n\n4) Personal responsibility. (10 minutes) What specific actions can the leader take tomorrow to begin contributing to the outcome they hope to see? If the outcome is clear, but the leader does not know what they can do to positively influence it, then the personal responsibility action step is to learn how - use the web, a coach, a mentor, a colleague...someone who has demonstrated the ability you are looking for. Write a big note and tape it to your desk with one and only one specific behavior to undertake tomorrow.\n\n5) Go home and rest, knowing that tomorrow will bring a permanent change.\n\nIn the situation described, the leader could choose from one of these two action step:\n\n1) in the morning, speak with the team, assume responsibility for allowing things to be where they are and make a public commitment to work on changing. You expect progress (not perfection) from yourself and the team. Ask for their support and to identify when you act inconsistently with the values you espouse.\n\n2) Encourage and affirm people\'s ability to problem solve. When problems are brought to you, validate their ability to take care of it and ask them to do so and report the results to you (so that you can celebrate with them later).\n\n3) Work with project leaders to ensure that project success criteria are clear. If projects where you are not consulted are failing, it is likely because the teams either are not aware of what constitutes a successful solution or lack motivation to ensure the solution is successful. Start with clarity. Then assess for motivation.\n\n4) Find five specific things to encourage and appreciate in your team either individually or corporately, every day.\n\nThat\'s a start. My final suggestion would be patience. Changing culture doesn\'t happen overnight. But one behavior repeated daily can make an amazing difference!\n\nTake care,\n\nDavid M. Dye', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2679, 5564, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-03 18:36:50', '2011-10-03 23:36:50', 'Jon, great response too!  Writing out what actions you\'d want them to take and then making sure that you demonstrate those behaviors is an excellent first step.  We must be the change we want to see.  In fact, I\'d also examine how my actions have contributed to the drama I am experiencing.  Great suggestion!  Thanks.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2676, 1),
(2680, 5564, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-03 18:38:39', '2011-10-03 23:38:39', 'Dana, great comment about \"doing like a leader.\"  Helping each member remember to keep the main thing the main thing.  That\'s a great suggestion for helping everyone focus.  Thanks. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2677, 1),
(2681, 5564, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-03 18:43:33', '2011-10-03 23:43:33', 'David, very comprehensive list.  I got one idea when reading it too.  It happens to also line up with some other books I\'ve read.  And that would be to ask your people to dream a bit about what they\'d like their future to look like.  I\'ve found that when a leader can honestly connect present performance to the strategic dreams and visions of indivudal members of the team, each member becomes more engaged, energized and creative.  But the key is honesty.  If the leader tries to make themselves or others believe the job will get them where they want to go, eventually they\'ll figure that out and feel betrayed.\n\nYour list and tactics are a great start.  I also agree that patience is key.  Thanks for the great comment!', 0, '1', '', '', 2678, 1),
(2682, 5564, 'David', 'david_dye@comcast.net', 'http://davidmdye.blogspot.com', '64.140.73.195', '2011-10-04 09:21:13', '2011-10-04 14:21:13', 'Mike,\n\nI agree with regard to asking people to dream with you - it\'s got to be authentic and sincere or it\'s better not to do it. Thanks for the thought-provoking post!\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 2681, 0),
(2683, 5572, 'DragonLeaders', 'info@dragon-strategies.com', 'http://www.dragon-strategies.com/', '87.112.10.158', '2011-10-05 05:46:05', '2011-10-05 10:46:05', 'Great insights Dana, when more and more people speak about what they really stand for and stand up for it, there is hope for our economy; and there will be more leaders than bosses.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2684, 5572, 'Dana Theus', 'dtheus@magusconsulting.com', 'http://www.reclaimingleadership.com', '108.28.244.155', '2011-10-05 06:59:03', '2011-10-05 11:59:03', 'Well, said. \"More leaders than bosses.\" The key, I\'ve found, is learning to stand for something and do it well - without pissing off your audience unnecessarily or unintiontionally. If you just piss them off and poke them in the ego, they can\'t really hear what you\'re standing for very clearly. And it\'s not all that hard once you understand the dynamics of truthtelling, but it takes a little work!', 0, '1', '', '', 2683, 0),
(2685, 5581, 'Mike Myatt', 'm.myatt@n2growth.com', 'http://www.n2growth.com/blog', '76.115.133.249', '2011-10-06 09:39:41', '2011-10-06 14:39:41', 'Hi Chad:\n\nThis is one of the best posts I\'ve read in recent times. You address a key point that simply eludes many leaders - how to put their arms around the expectation gap. However I think it\'s also important to understand that patience is only a virtue when not confused with complacency or apathy. Not all problems, issues, or circumstances can or should be \"corrected\" and sometimes it takes a lack of patience to blow through to a better place. Tolerance can be both a productive and unproductive thing and smart leaders are capable of discerning between these two divergent positions. Great post Chad...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2686, 5581, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-06 19:18:51', '2011-10-07 00:18:51', 'Chad, great post.  Very well thought out.  We were joking the other day about patience.  Almost nothing fixes itself.  However the first mistake should be understandable and subsequent mistakes of the same type must cause a leader to examine whether or not the correction is effective.   Eventually, if the same mistakes continue, correction must escalate.  Patience creates an escalation.  Stewardship and responsibility force a leader to create boundaries and eventually take more direct action to eliminate repeat mistakes.  If we let people adjust expectations by poor performance, eventually poor performance become acceptable.\n\nThanks for the great post.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2687, 5581, 'Chad Balthrop', 'cbalth28@hotmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/chadbalthrop/', '72.192.80.181', '2011-10-06 22:54:13', '2011-10-07 03:54:13', 'Hey Mike,\n\nThanks for the kind words. I agree that patience shouldn\'t be confused with complacency or apathy. In Koine Greek the word is \'hupomeno\' - it literally means \'to remain under\'. You might think of the phrase, \'under these circumstances\'. A leader has to ask the question, \"How long am I willing to let my vision or organization \'remain under\' these circumstances. Once that\'s decided the rest is about execution. Complacency never identifies the problem. Apathy never drives toward a solution. Real patience identifies the problem and drives toward the solution either through correction or development. Thanks again for the comments...', 0, '1', '', '', 2685, 1),
(2688, 5581, 'Chad Balthrop', 'cbalth28@hotmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/chadbalthrop/', '72.192.80.181', '2011-10-06 22:59:08', '2011-10-07 03:59:08', 'Hey Mike,\n\nGreat comments. Too often we use the word patience to mean something else. We take a noble word and use it to mask an ignoble action. I agree - we should foster a culture where mistakes are acceptable - once. But don\'t waste anybody\'s time making the same mistake over and over again and expect people to be patient with you or use patience as an excuse for poor performance - that\'s just foolishness.\n\nMy biggest challenge with patience in leadership is that I want what I want when I want it and I want what I want right now! Thanks Mike!', 0, '1', '', '', 2686, 1),
(2689, 5591, 'Frank Sonnenberg', 'Frank@franksonnenbergonline.com', 'http://www.franksonnenbergonline.com', '67.86.177.248', '2011-10-11 13:04:03', '2011-10-11 18:04:03', 'Great post Shawn. If we want to see whether it\'s possible to be people-centric AND goal oriented, all we have to do is look at our non-profit organizations. People come to work everyday excited about what they do and motivated to make a difference. As George Bush (41) once, said, \"It\'s the vision thing\"\n\nHave a great day!\n\nFrank', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2690, 5591, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.224.4.26', '2011-10-11 13:26:39', '2011-10-11 18:26:39', 'Shawn, you know that this is close to my heart.  I love this: \"We’re hard-wired for community. When people collide overlooking this simple truth there is conflict.\"\n\nStated so simply and beautifully.\n\nWe may have to collaborate on this topic some day.\n\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2691, 5591, 'Susan Mazza', 'Susan@randomactsofleaderrship.com', '', '198.228.199.189', '2011-10-11 13:40:26', '2011-10-11 18:40:26', 'Very compelling Shawn.  So many believe that wall is protecting them from the collisions happening to begin with, when the truth is we can\'t prevent \"collisions\", especially if we want to be an instigator of progress.  You have me thinking that it is perhaps the glaas and metal walls we construct and maintain that makes\"colliding\" a damaging exeperinece rather than simply an opportunity to learn and grow both individuqlly and together.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2692, 5591, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/janeperdue/', '76.23.122.124', '2011-10-11 16:45:02', '2011-10-11 21:45:02', 'Shawn - super post! Far too many workplaces focus on just logic - numbers, the bottom line, return to shareholders, etc., etc. The paradox/polarity counter-balance to logic is emotion...and workplaces need a major dose of it. There\'s plenty of room for accountability and compassion...we just have to want it more and reward it more than we currently do.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2693, 5591, 'Peggy Fitzpatrick', 'peggylynf@gmail.com', 'http://www.pegfitzpatrick.com', '74.75.127.83', '2011-10-11 18:54:57', '2011-10-11 23:54:57', 'Wow - thought provoking piece. This especially strikes me: \"Take one side-step away from the distraction. Look.\"\n\nWe are so distracted by everything that we aren\'t noticing anything. I see people talking on their cell phones at all hours of the day and night. We are a society of over-connected, non-communicators. The basic messages of being human: make eye contact, be polite etc are going by the wayside.\n\nLet\'s become less distracted and focus on the present.My very best ideas and inspiration come from conversations with my friends and family.\nThanks for making me think!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2694, 5591, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '184.186.82.130', '2011-10-11 21:27:24', '2011-10-12 02:27:24', 'Thanks for the reminder that business can be, and should be win/win... That truth can get lost in the busyness of business, when it should be the central truth!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2695, 5591, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-11 21:57:12', '2011-10-12 02:57:12', 'Indeed. That \"vision thing\" is key. Reinforcing it even better. I appreciate your support, Frank.', 0, '1', '', '', 2689, 1),
(2696, 5591, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-11 22:07:23', '2011-10-12 03:07:23', 'Mary,\nI welcome a collaboration. =)', 0, '1', '', '', 2690, 1),
(2697, 5591, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-11 22:19:02', '2011-10-12 03:19:02', 'Excellent, Susan. Going with your thought about the glass and metal causing the damage, their genesis come from the choices we make that put them there in the first place. There\'s pain, fear, anger. Left unresolved, colliding makes for fireworks.', 0, '1', '', '', 2691, 1),
(2698, 5591, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-11 23:18:09', '2011-10-12 04:18:09', 'Jane,\nThe tension between profit and people is indeed one that managers in the 21st century must learn to \"balance\" better.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 2692, 1),
(2699, 5591, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-11 23:35:29', '2011-10-12 04:35:29', 'Peggy,\nWhat a great line: \"We are a society of over-connected, non-communicators.\" Thanks for checking out this post, Peg.\n\nDance on my friend,\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 2693, 1),
(2700, 5591, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-11 23:44:00', '2011-10-12 04:44:00', 'Page,\nAn image comes to mind with the \"busyness of business.\" It\'s an image of a hamster wheel. Running faster and faster and going nowhere. So much we miss running in the busyness.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 2694, 1),
(2701, 5591, 'Bruce Sallan (@BruceSallan)', 'bruce@brucesallan.com', 'http://www.brucesallan.com', '76.89.140.16', '2011-10-12 10:47:41', '2011-10-12 15:47:41', 'Wisdom in your words, pure and simple! I\'ll \"collide\" with you, any day Shawn!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2702, 5591, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '64.134.235.134', '2011-10-12 11:59:02', '2011-10-12 16:59:02', 'Bruce,\nI think you made a new phrase. I like it. Here\'s to colliding!\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 2701, 1),
(2703, 5591, 'Tony Crabbe', 'mail@tonycrabbe.com', 'http://tonycrabbe.wordpress.com', '85.189.249.151', '2011-10-13 12:58:24', '2011-10-13 17:58:24', 'Shawn\n\nLovely blog.  Insightful and beautiful.  Wonderful to read a business blog that reads like poetry.\n\nA real pleasure to read\n\nTony', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2704, 5595, 'Becky', 'becky@kevineikenberry.com', 'http://www.weavinginfluence.com', '72.241.131.58', '2011-10-10 06:48:15', '2011-10-10 11:48:15', 'Jane,\n\nThank you for this thoughtful and thought-provoking post. I appreciate your vulnerability and openness here. All of the recommendations you make (and the steps that you took) require great courage. I would love to read a follow-up on this related to what happens next.\n\nWhat happens when we take steps to repair a relationship? What do we need to take care about to avoid future misunderstandings?\n\nThanks\nBecky', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2705, 5595, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-10 07:14:56', '2011-10-10 12:14:56', 'Jane, I\'m grateful for your post.  This is a great reminder that there is always another point of view or perspective in any conflict or disconnect.  Thanks also for the courage to share about how often it takes another person that we trust to help us see the first person\'s perspective.  Sometimes I think it takes problems to remind us we\'re not all-powerful.\n\nMike..', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2706, 5595, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/janeperdue/', '76.23.122.124', '2011-10-10 07:40:41', '2011-10-10 12:40:41', 'Becky --\n\nI\'m touched by your comments and observations...and intrigued with your suggestion of a follow-up post(s).- something to consider, for sure! Those long nights of introspection do bring growth and do require courage. We\'re a disposable society and sometimes it\'s altogether too easy to dismiss what people have to say and remove them from our lives. Character-based leaders, however, don\'t do that...and I\'m trying hard to walk the walk in my second act!\n\nWith a smile,\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 2704, 1),
(2707, 5595, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/janeperdue/', '76.23.122.124', '2011-10-10 07:50:02', '2011-10-10 12:50:02', 'Mike - thanks much for your kind words. With today\'s technology, \"connecting\" with someone is quite easy and can set us up for some false expectations. As you so rightfully point out, we sometimes need what I call the \"cosmic two-by-four\" to deliver the whack across the head and get us thinking straight again. Sending smiles and thanks your way.', 0, '1', '', '', 2705, 1),
(2708, 5595, 'Shawn', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-10 22:00:27', '2011-10-11 03:00:27', 'Jane,\nThank you for sharing such a personal story. Indeed those situations are rough. What I admire in your retelling the story is how you owned your part in the breakdown. Somebody must be the first person to do so. What it tells me is that you care deeply enough about the partnership that you are willing to openly admit to your contribution. Heck, you even wrote a blog post about it, offering it up as a lesson for us all. That\'s noble.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2709, 5595, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/janeperdue/', '76.23.122.124', '2011-10-11 05:29:17', '2011-10-11 10:29:17', 'Shawn - so appreciate your thoughtful words! Hey, what kind of coach would I be if I didn\'t follow my own advice?! With a smile -- Jane', 0, '1', '', '', 2708, 1),
(2710, 5595, 'Susan Mazza', 'Susan@randomactsofleaderrship.com', '', '198.228.199.52', '2011-10-11 16:18:52', '2011-10-11 21:18:52', 'Thanks for sharing your story with us Jane.  A great demonstration of character based leadership in practice. Sometimes we have to keep listening until we can hear.  Only then can we truly take responsibility for the relationship.  Great advice as always.\n\nOn the flip side, just because someone interpreted you as being self serving, doesn\'t mean you have to take it on as the truth about you.  You demonstrate how to walk that delicate line here.  When faced with an assessment that doesnt fit our self perception it is important to both be open to the possibility that we could be deflecting what we dont want to face about ourselves, and make sure we are not owning an assessment that may not be a truth about who we are.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2711, 5595, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/janeperdue/', '76.23.122.124', '2011-10-11 16:40:44', '2011-10-11 21:40:44', 'Susan - just love your pragmatism! Just because someone say it\'s so doesn\'t necessarily make it so. Yet, it\'s obvious we both agree that character-based leaders must willingly take on the long dark nights and explore the validity of the issue from all angles. Thanks for adding to the richness of the discussion.', 0, '1', '', '', 2710, 1),
(2712, 5595, 'Gwyn Teatro', 'gteatro@telus.net', 'http://www.gwynteatro.wordpress.com', '75.155.251.38', '2011-10-11 17:30:07', '2011-10-11 22:30:07', 'Jane, what I take away from your story is the knowledge that regardless of the cause of the distress you are in, you have courage and integrity enough to look in the mirror first, really listen to what is being said to you and search for meaning even when it is painful for you. That makes you a leader to be admired no matter what your transgressions.\nAnd, no matter your findings and what you choose to do about them, while you no doubt have a share in the responsibility for how you got there, you didn’t take that journey all by yourself.  So remember to be kind to yourself.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2713, 5595, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/janeperdue/', '76.23.122.124', '2011-10-12 06:47:06', '2011-10-12 11:47:06', 'Gwyn - Being kind to yourself is a great add to the action list, and thank you for your kind words. The busy pace of life sometimes leaves little time for introspection, yet one\'s emotional intelligence can\'t grow without it. I shared the story hoping leaders would be inspired to look within, find the answers, learn and grow - as I have!', 0, '1', '', '', 2712, 1),
(2714, 5626, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-12 11:39:28', '2011-10-12 16:39:28', 'Sonia, thanks for the great post and openly sharing about what you learned.  I agree with you, but want to emphasize the need to set expectations collaboratively.  Shared expectations are key to successful teams.  When everyone understands the goal, and each individual\'s expected contribution, teamwork becomes much less complex and much more enjoyable.  Thanks for a great post.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2715, 5626, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '64.134.235.134', '2011-10-12 12:06:00', '2011-10-12 17:06:00', 'Sonia,\nGood observation. In our efforts to complete a project on time, in scope, and within budget we flex the schedule and process muscle too often. Building into the DNA of a project are supporting processes to ensure people are heard and supported when breakdowns occur.\n\nI would add-on to your first item this: revisit the principles with pulse checks throughout the project. Have a conversation, albeit brief, on how we doing upholding the principals. Where area we falling down? And what do we need to do about it?\n\nI also think the project manager needs to keep a keen eye on personality or approach conflicts and establish an expectation that they need to be addressed. A conversation as to how that should happen is good to have upfront.\n\nGood topic.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2716, 5626, 'Patricia Lotich', 'patricia@thrivingsmallbusiness.com', 'http://thethrivingsmallbusiness.com/articles/', '108.70.66.178', '2011-10-13 12:00:59', '2011-10-13 17:00:59', 'Great revelation about the difference between process and people.  Steps in a process are only as efficient as those people responsible for making those steps happen.  When those people are not comfortable speaking up when they encounter barriers it can slow or even stall the process to complete a project.  Consistent, open and honest conversations are the best way to deal with this.  I like the 3+1 feedback strategy! Great article!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2717, 5626, 'Empowerment Leads to Efficiency &laquo; Zachary Fretz', '', 'http://zacharyfretz.wordpress.com/2011/10/13/empowerment-leads-to-efficiency/', '69.170.134.60', '2011-10-13 14:16:40', '2011-10-13 19:16:40', '[...] It is important to check your team. Are you as a leader focusing on your people? [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0);
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(2718, 5626, 'Sonia Di Maulo', 'sonia@harvestperformance.ca', 'http://www.harvestperformance.ca', '96.23.197.125', '2011-10-16 07:06:00', '2011-10-16 12:06:00', 'Thanks for your comment, Mike!\n\nI agree about the importance of setting expectations collaboratively.  I believe it allows everyone a chance to speak up and have impact on the next steps, process, and final results. It builds responsibility in a unique way and allows the leader to build rapport immediately. And, yes, gets everyone to relax and enjoy the rest of the process.\n\nI appreciate the opportunity to collaborate and share with the Lead Change Group.', 0, '1', '', '', 2714, 0),
(2719, 5626, 'Sonia Di Maulo', 'sonia@harvestperformance.ca', 'http://www.harvestperformance.ca', '96.23.197.125', '2011-10-16 07:10:39', '2011-10-16 12:10:39', 'Hi Shawn,\n\nI love your add-on!  100% agree. I also appreciate the suggestion for discussing how to have difficult conversations should they arise.\n\nThanks for dropping by and sharing your insight.  I appreciate it!\n\nSonia', 0, '1', '', '', 2715, 0),
(2720, 5626, 'Sonia Di Maulo', 'sonia@harvestperformance.ca', 'http://www.harvestperformance.ca', '96.23.197.125', '2011-10-16 07:13:20', '2011-10-16 12:13:20', 'Hi Patricia!\n\nThank you for your comment and positive feedback. I am glad we are aligned... you have now joined the Feedback Enthusiast club!  Welcome.\n\nHoping to stay in touch.\nSonia', 0, '1', '', '', 2716, 0),
(2721, 5626, 'Fanny Korman', 'fanzak@gmail.com', '', '72.28.136.240', '2011-10-18 13:06:43', '2011-10-18 18:06:43', 'Sonia,\nThank you yet again for your insights and for sharing so openly.  You lead by example!  Being self-aware is such an important quality of a great leader and being able to openly share what we learn about ourselves creates trust and respect so critical to a team\'s success.  I like your suggestion of collaboratively creating guiding principles that can serve to stay on track as the team moves forward on any given project.  I fully agree that once you have a clear idea of the process, the true measure of success is how well we integrate our understanding of the people involved.  The process is only as good as the people who implement the process and keeping each team member fully engaged is the key to success.\nGreat discussion!\nFanny', 0, '1', '', '', 2714, 0),
(2722, 5635, 'The Perils of Leadership &#8211; When Leaders Collide | Coaching Leaders', '', 'http://www.leadwithhonor.com/blog/2011/10/13/the-perils-of-leadership-when-leaders-collide/', '64.151.83.168', '2011-10-13 13:27:01', '2011-10-13 18:27:01', '[...] Bud to Boss Workshop Tulsa (leadchangegroup.com) [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2723, 5639, 'steve Werner', 'steve@livetowincoaching.com', 'http://www.livetowincoaching.com/', '24.12.194.90', '2011-10-13 10:02:41', '2011-10-13 15:02:41', 'Excellent article.\n\nI\'m actually happy when people just \"want to get by\" for two reasons\n1) I creates less competition for people like myself who want to excel\n2) Like you mentioned it is an eye opener for those who want to push to the limit. They are often convert able.\n\nThe best way to help people identify their areas of strength is to ask them what they are good at. Most people know deep inside but until they are put to the question often keep  their feelings buried.\n\nSW', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2724, 5639, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-13 18:16:28', '2011-10-13 23:16:28', 'Steve, thanks for the great observations.  Your reasons for being happy about people who just want to get by are great ones.\n\nBut I\'ve taken several different assessments and learned about myself from most of them in some degree.  Some of us aren\'t as clear on our strengths.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2723, 1),
(2725, 5639, 'Mark McGuire', 'mark.mcguire@otago.ac.nz', 'http://markmcguire.net/', '203.109.208.28', '2011-10-13 23:08:07', '2011-10-14 04:08:07', 'Greetings, Mike\n\nI agree that many people are not aware that they have significant strengths. This is especially the case for those who, due to their position in the hierarchy or constraining job description, have never been given the opportunity to find out what they can really do. Leaders cultivate followers; rulers surround themselves with subjects; catalysts initiate change. The world needs more catalysts.\n\nCheers.\n\nMark McGuire\nhttp://markmcguire.net/', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2726, 5639, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-14 08:12:45', '2011-10-14 13:12:45', 'I agree Mark that we need more catalysts.  For me, due to a number of factors including the way I\'m made and my experiences growing up, I under-appreciate the things I\'m good at.  Also, people who are reasonably good at a number of things find themselves focusing on what they\'re good at in a particular context rather than pushing through to their core strengths.  At least that\'s been my experience.\n\nCatalysts enable us to join causes and change contexts.  Both activities are key to discovering strengths and actually \"doing\" the thing will always trump simply taking some test.  The confidence that we did something and created a result cements our understanding of our strengths.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2725, 1),
(2727, 5639, 'Justin', 'jtlawhed@memphis.edu', '', '70.145.141.234', '2011-10-15 09:10:29', '2011-10-15 14:10:29', 'I\'m in an environment where that is the norm. I agree with Steve in that you can move forward because your pace is greater than theirs, but in many ways it is like being on a team that is okay with having a .500 record all the time. You can superstar on a mediocre team, but that has diminishing worth after a while. At some you have to decide whether that is an environment is suitable for your personal development because self-motivation can only take you so far and believe you have to be connected to a community for a greater good. At least, that is why I need and currently searching for that.', 0, '1', '', '', 2723, 0),
(2728, 5639, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-15 11:01:17', '2011-10-15 16:01:17', 'Thanks for the great addition Justin.  It is difficult to be the star performer on a \"just getting by\" team and I think your observation that \"has a diminishing worth after a while\" is very astute.  Thanks for reminding us about the importance of community and the culture therein.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2727, 1),
(2729, 5645, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '66.193.171.129', '2011-10-13 13:22:17', '2011-10-13 18:22:17', 'Great post, Mike. Thank you for sharing.\n\nOne trend I see taking shape is that the selection of mentors (and those mentored) will become more organic, and less prescriptive.  Because it is increasingly easier for people to find and engage leaders they admire, mentoring relationships are forming outside of conventional boundaries.\n\nWhile large organizations will always have formal mentoring and training processes, many people will be seeking out guidance from those who specifically inspire them.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2730, 5645, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-13 13:58:01', '2011-10-13 18:58:01', 'Mike,\nA fave topic of mine. Your first observation under \"Three Changing Trends\" is intriguing. I can see it to be possible with budgets shrinking - public and private industries - and more carefully selected learning &amp; development solutions are sought. It certainly changes how vendors make available their offering. It\'s compelling.\n\nFor this to be successful, managers must alter how they support the learning and development of staff. A greater emphasis must be placed on development post-learning or development - period. Managers who can provide development assignments or opportunities to their leaders after a learning solution will increase the return on time. Patience, however, must also be learned. As you point out, leadership is learned from the successes and failures. I\'d add that principals, approaches, and such can be taught to aid the on-the-job development associated with successes and failures.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2731, 5645, 'Jim Kouzes', 'jim@kouzes.com', 'http://www.leadershipchallenge.com', '76.126.21.113', '2011-10-13 14:02:38', '2011-10-13 19:02:38', 'Mike, Thanks for sharing the lessons you\'ve learned about leadership development. One of the consistent findings in my and Barry Posner\'s research on leadership over the last 30 years is that \"the best leaders are the best learners.\" The more leaders engage in learning, the more effective they are at leading. Learning is the master skill. And, leadership development has always been self-development. Meaning, it begins with a inner journey to discover who you are. Love \'em and lead \'em, Jim', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2732, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-13 14:58:07', '2011-10-13 19:58:07', 'I agree Tristan.  We can connect with more people more quickly.  Mentoring is the best form of the dialogue I mention above because the mentor takes some responsibility for the accuracy of the coaching and advice they propose.  In a dialogue, both parties can be wrong and encourage other to continue the error.\n\nThanks for being part of my leadership development.  I appreciate it.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2729, 1),
(2733, 5645, 'Maranda Gibson', 'maranda@all.pro', 'http://all.pro', '208.49.241.197', '2011-10-13 15:15:51', '2011-10-13 20:15:51', 'Mike, thanks for these thoughts. I would add that leadership will be more personal as well as being more of a school of shared thought. Yes companies will stop spending as much on leadership development, so it will continue to be important that we share our leadership thoughts and ideas with each other.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2734, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-13 15:16:38', '2011-10-13 20:16:38', 'Jim,\n\nThank you for the feedback.  A big part of my leadership development over the past 3 years came from both studying and teaching from Leadership Challenge.  I agree wholeheartedly with your comment that all leadership development is self-development.  It\'s a favorite quote of yours that I share.\n\nDo you see the market for organization-sponsored leadership development shrinking too?  Coming from the position of an individual, I just see corporate training decreasing due to lack of effectiveness.  And I see growth in the individual and academic pursuits around leadership, both as a result of the organizational cuts and as a cause for the organizational cuts.\n\nThanks again.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2731, 1),
(2735, 5645, 'Terry Sexton', 'terry@creative-edge-consulting.com', 'http://www.creative-edge-consulting.com', '94.3.135.211', '2011-10-13 15:34:45', '2011-10-13 20:34:45', 'Mike,\n\nThanks for sharing your insights from your experience.  On reflection I think I\'ve seen the same trends, just used different language to describe them.  I think there has been a trend towards more \'Leader\' development than \'Leadership\' development.  This appears similar to your \'Leadership is becoming more internal trend\'.  With change being quicker and more complex the research is pointing towards leaders needing to develop greater cognitive agility, emotional intelligence, and moral judgement.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2736, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-13 17:16:39', '2011-10-13 22:16:39', 'Shawn, I agree.  I think the most appreciated managers will continue to be those who help people iterate through the trial-and-error loop quickly.  Thanks for adding to the discussion.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2730, 1),
(2737, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-13 18:06:10', '2011-10-13 23:06:10', 'I agree.  Thanks for the feedback.  I appreciate it.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2733, 1),
(2738, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-13 18:10:51', '2011-10-13 23:10:51', 'That\'s another great way of saying it.  Leader development is a great way to describe the individualization going on.  It\'s the way our world will create more leaders than we have \"positions\" for them to fill.  Thanks for the comment!  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2735, 1),
(2739, 5645, 'Mike Myatt', 'm.myatt@n2growth.com', 'http://www.n2growth.com/blog', '76.115.133.249', '2011-10-14 10:25:10', '2011-10-14 15:25:10', 'Hi Mike:\n\nBoth the post and the comment stream provided some interesting food for thought. Here are a few contributions to throw into the mix:\n\n1. Experiential learning has and always will exist, but only to those who seek it out. Learning only takes place where willingness and awareness are present.\n\n2. I disagree with those who believe leadership development budgets are shrinking. My experience is just the opposite. Our leadership development practice has been growing at more than 30% per annum over the last three years, during a tough economic climate where companies have supposedly not been spending. The world has experienced a leadership vacuum in recent history, which has served to awaken many to the value of reestablishing leadership as a competency. As the market becomes more complex and dynamic, smart companies are spending more on leaders not less - they regain an understanding that leadership is more than a title.\n\n3. As for new trends, I could list many, but here are a few to ponder:\n    a. Leaders will do more than talk about social capital, but they\'ll actually begin to understand it and embrace it by doing more than just having a social presence. Integrating social media into business process and leadership models will become the rule rather than the exception.\n    b. Leadership moves from a proprietary model to an open source model where principles of scarcity give way to sharing. This will happen in a way that takes the concept of distributive leadership to levels not previously experienced.\n    c. Leaders will realize the need to shift from the goal business to the discovery business. They will finally recognize everyone is now in the design business.\n    d. Companies will awaken the the fact that diversity has been misunderstood, if not abused. Rather than dealing with diversity as a compliance mandate to deal with protected classes, it will be embraced as a necessity for challenging paradigms and bending norms to more efficiently drive innovation.\n\nThanks Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2740, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-14 14:13:10', '2011-10-14 19:13:10', 'Thanks for the great addition Mike.  I appreciate the thought and the ideas you offer.  I\'m not sure I understand what you mean by 3c.  Could you provide a bit more info?\n\nI agree with your thoughts on diversity (3d).  I was fortunate enough to work at an organization that understood diversity so I look forward to more people and organizations understanding the need for a variety of inputs and the equality of different perspectives.  And I\'m also in agreement with the open-source movement in leadership (3b), but in my experience few people in leadership positions understand the need to open things up.  I see them trying incremental approaches to address a revolution-sized problem.\n\nIn fact, that\'s where I see training and development budgets increasing too, to refer to your thoughts on #2.  The investment is in equipping and developing existing leadership, not in createing a new culture of open leadership.\n\nBut my vision is limited, so I hope you\'re right and the combination of increased spending, the abundance mentality and embracing diversity all advance.  It will take a combination like that to make a dent in the world\'s leadership deficiency.\n\nThanks again for joining in.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2739, 1),
(2741, 5645, 'Santu Mahapatra', 'santumahapatra@gmail.com', 'http://khojy.com', '59.177.230.35', '2011-10-14 14:42:55', '2011-10-14 19:42:55', 'The post is great and the comments are awesome.\n\nThe growing social media will have a great impact on Leadership. Tomorrows leaders will be more transparent and authentic. Walking the talk will become more and more crucial in the interconnected world.\n\nAs you rightly said, the feedback loop is getting faster. The results will be quite fast.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2742, 5645, '6 Future Trends of Leadership Development - Lead Change Group | Leading Schools | Scoop.it', '', 'http://www.scoop.it/t/leading-schools/p/546895952/6-future-trends-of-leadership-development-lead-change-group', '89.30.105.121', '2011-10-14 15:00:15', '2011-10-14 20:00:15', '[...]  6 Future Trends of Leadership Development - Lead Change Group           Whether you&#039;re developing yourself or others, three new trends and three not-so-new trends dominate the future of leadership development. [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2743, 5645, '6 Future Trends of Leadership Development | Accounting and Small Business /Beverly Shares', '', 'http://bjconquest.com/2011/10/14/6-future-trends-of-leadership-development/', '74.200.247.196', '2011-10-14 19:13:11', '2011-10-15 00:13:11', '[...] full article&#8230;&#8230;via 6 Future Trends of Leadership Development &#8211; Lead Change Group. Share OptionsPrintTwitterEmailMoreFacebookLinkedInStumbleUponRedditDiggLike this:LikeBe the first [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2744, 5645, 'Liane Davey', 'Ldavey@knightsbridge.ca', '', '174.113.251.107', '2011-10-15 11:08:38', '2011-10-15 16:08:38', 'I think another trend is less \"in vitro\" and more \"in vivo\" leadership development. Our practice is growing quickly I believe because we\'re developing leaders \"in the business\" not only in formal learning sessions but in large scale leader forums and in teams. I think businesses will spend less on big academic programs that take leaders out of the business and out of context The real issues that emerge are more engaging than case studies.  And instead of leadersip development being seen as time away it can be seen as dedicated time on the problems at hand.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2745, 5645, 'Jim Kouzes', 'jim@kouzes.com', 'http://www.leadershipchallenge.com', '76.126.21.113', '2011-10-15 11:16:59', '2011-10-15 16:16:59', 'Mike,\n\nYou had asked me if I saw the market shrinking for organization-sponsored leadership development shrinking. My answer is \"Yes,\" the survey data show that compared to 2009 there has been a decrease in participation in leadership and executive development programs at all levels. Most attribute the decline to the economy, and there\'s an expectation that it will increase as the economy improves, not only because of available resources but also because there\'s a new generation of leaders who are in need of development. And given the fact that they haven\'t been getting as much opportunity over the past couple years, we may see a significant increase in participation as we look ahead 3 to 5 years. At the same time, there will be increased demand to demonstrate that leadership development efforts bring improved results. Participation won\'t be the measure; results will.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2746, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-15 11:25:36', '2011-10-15 16:25:36', 'Santu, thanks for the comment.  I agree that social media, combined with our growing distrust of leaders will cause a rise in authenticity and transparency, but it will also cause a corresponding rise in counterfeit authenticity and transparency.  Everything has a price.\n\nThanks again.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2741, 1),
(2747, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-15 11:29:37', '2011-10-15 16:29:37', 'Liane, I agree wholeheartedly.  In fact, I think communities like Lead Change are on the rise because medium sized organizations have drastically curtailed the in vivo leadership development.  There are fewer mentors and fewer opportunities for that rapid trial-and-error I mentioned above.  And I think in the long run, some traditional training dollars will be replaced with more cross-functional leadership development.  I\'m working on a post that will kick around ideas for embracing the future and your thoughts about \"in vivo\" leadership development got my mind spinning.  Please plan to chip in on that post in a few days too.\n\nThanks again.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2744, 1),
(2748, 5645, 'Seth Millican', 'Smillican@brockclay.com', 'http://Www.emergentguys.com', '71.23.63.114', '2011-10-15 12:13:35', '2011-10-15 17:13:35', 'Mike, Thanks for sharing these concepts. I\'ve been studying leadership concepts for a couple of years. I just recently felt the calling to begin sharing them specifically as they relate to leadership development for younger guys. To that end, I\'ve launched a blog. The past few months have been a blur of trying to learn and digest information relative to online learning, and so the continuing trends you mentioned are pretty familiar for me.  However, the emerging trends you outlined are fascinating to me.\n\nI think those emerging trends are also encouraging, though, because they all point to an increase in personal drive and responsibility relative to leadership. A leadership development becomes more relational (the guy mentioned earlier the importance of mentoring) and individually driven, it will naturally become more solid and sustainable. Someone mentioned the organic nature of this emerging trend, and I believe that is what will make leadership development in the future healthier and more infectious.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2749, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-15 20:30:44', '2011-10-16 01:30:44', 'Seth, thanks for the great comment.  One of the great things about these discussions is how each person adds to the overall result.  Thanks for taking part. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2748, 1),
(2750, 5645, 'Tom Strawn', 'tomms@comcast.net', '', '98.216.216.202', '2011-10-16 18:55:27', '2011-10-16 23:55:27', 'Excellent article. And very much on target. I found your reference to \"leadership development becoming more internal and becoming more about who you are\" as a Changing Trend very interesting.\n\nInteresting in that CCL has always maintained as one of its core principles - \"You cannot effectively lead others until you first know who you are\". As an alumnus of its Executive Leadership program where finding out who you are is one of the program\'s primary goals - I can attest to the validity of this principle.\n\nPerhaps it is a changing trend in that there is a greater embrace of the value of \"knowing who you are\" in leading others based on experience and evidence of its validity.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2751, 5645, 'Jon M', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jhmertz/', '99.182.201.76', '2011-10-17 06:44:29', '2011-10-17 11:44:29', 'I am encouraged by the future of leadership, because I believe it is becoming more personal. People are taking more responsibility in their skills and how they are being applied in the workplace. People are mixing their social and business leadership abilities and creating organizations like TOMS and others. People are trying to enhance their workplaces and the good their organizations do.\n\nWe get stuck in the economic mess all around us, yet their are several encouraging trends for the next generation of leaders.\n\nGreat post! Enjoyed it!\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2752, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-17 08:49:54', '2011-10-17 13:49:54', 'Jim, thanks for following up.  I\'m most challenged by what you state at the end.  We will experience increased demand to demonstrate that leadership development efforts bring improved results.  Results will be the measure of success.  Thanks for joining the conversation.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2745, 1),
(2753, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-17 08:57:06', '2011-10-17 13:57:06', 'Tom, thanks for the comment.  I think a number of leadership development professionals and schools of thought have asserted that leadership is about character (who you are) rather than behavior (how you act).  However much of the training I received over the years was packaged (or received by me) as how to behave.  At the same time, leaders in both political and business realms are respected less and less.  We continue to hear about the bad ones and little about the good ones.  Part of what I attribute to the Internet is opening up media so that character-based leaders can have greater exposure to the rest of the world.  We subconscously get the idea that leaders can be good people, and that we can, in fact, lead.  I hope growth in those two ideas continues.\n\nThanks again for the great comment.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2750, 1),
(2754, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-17 09:01:21', '2011-10-17 14:01:21', 'Thanks for the great comment Jon.  People are bringing their best energy to make a positive difference and companies like TOMS (if you\'re talking about the shoe company that donates a pair of shoes for every one purchased) are springing up because someone took the initiative. Rather than looking at the mess around us and letting it cause us to withdraw, it should insprire us to act. Thanks for sharing the comment.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2751, 1),
(2755, 5645, '6 Future Trends of Leadership Development - Lead Change Group | new organisations | Scoop.it', '', 'http://www.scoop.it/t/new-organisations/p/558393567/6-future-trends-of-leadership-development-lead-change-group', '89.30.105.121', '2011-10-17 21:35:20', '2011-10-18 02:35:20', '[...]  6 Future Trends of Leadership Development - Lead Change Group           Whether you&#039;re developing yourself or others, three new trends and three not-so-new trends dominate the future of leadership development.     Source: leadchangegroup.com [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2756, 5645, 'Martine Potvin', 'mpotvin-conseil@sympatico.ca', '', '67.68.65.77', '2011-10-31 15:59:33', '2011-10-31 20:59:33', 'Dear Mike,\nRegarding to changing trends:\n\nI would find it very sad to leave programs on leadership grow randomly according to individual needs without long-term perspective for the company, without assessment of their impacts and their results on the overall performance of the organization.\n\nI remain convinced that as consultants and coaches, it is to our advantage to embrace our practice of leadership development in a comprehensive and integrated approach to business.\n\na) It is essential to link our actions to the strategic objectives the company and tailor our content and our methods for this purpose. The environments are changing so fast that it is wrong to believe that \"one fit for all\" and \"all fit for one\" will continue to give the desired results. However, it is clear that to succeed, we must be able to access the CEO level in order to tailor our interventions to the real business needs. For example, strategic objectives focus on developing the sales force does not require the same leadership development strategies than those focusing on reducing costs and improving process efficiency.\n\nb) Despite the many retirements, very few companies still put forward a structured succession planning approach linked to organizational strategy to prepare the arrival of new leaders. And even fewer companies identify in advance the skills required in each management position based on challenges and outcomes. We have here a unique opportunity to be helpful by helping to identify the set of skills required in each managing position and further coaching managers to develop themselves by and individual plan of leadership development.\n\nc) It is true that managers have much less time to spend long hours in workshops. The Leadership development programs must be tailored in such a way that the learning can be done in the action immediately after knowledge is acquired. We also have here opportunities to coach on an individual basis by a schedule of sharings online or face to face.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2757, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '12.172.12.3', '2011-10-31 16:22:01', '2011-10-31 21:22:01', 'Martine, thank you for the detailed reply.  I don\'t disagree with you and I\'m not suggesting a disjointed or un-integrated approach to leadership development.  In fact, I put up a post yesterday that began the discussion of how to respond to these changing trends.  I don\'t think for a minute that we should abandon our beliefs, but I do think there are some things we can do to make it easier for organizations impacted by these trends.\n\nThanks again for the comprehensive response.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2756, 1),
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(2760, 5655, 'Meghan M. Biro', 'mbiro@talentculture.com', 'http://www.talentculture.com/', '71.232.17.117', '2011-10-13 15:02:36', '2011-10-13 20:02:36', 'Thank you Mike! Thank you LC Community Friends/Colleagues.\n\nI appreciate your continued feedback and this wonderful community of people.\n\nMy Best,\n\nMeghan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2761, 5638, 'Erin Schreyer', 'eschreyer@sagestone-partners.com', 'http://www.sagestone-partners.com', '99.47.230.228', '2011-10-17 08:25:28', '2011-10-17 13:25:28', 'Chery,\n\nYou\'re so sweet and thoughtful to even mention me! I, too, was inspired by that post - and thank goodness for Facebook for proliferating that message (who says social media doesn\'t have benefits?!?!)\n\nYour message is such an important one, because leadership must start with us.  We each are needed, and we each matter in order to make the difference we were created to make.\n\nThank you for the encouragement to start the week off truly leading.  Let\'s not let the week take us; instead, let\'s lead through it!!\n\nHugs,\nErin', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2762, 5638, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '66.193.171.129', '2011-10-17 10:44:46', '2011-10-17 15:44:46', 'I love this, Chery!\n\nThanks for painting a beautiful portrait of Madeline\'s life, as an example for us all. It\'s very inspiring to know that, no matter how much has gone on or gone wrong, there is always more we can do and become.\n\nTristan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2763, 5638, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-10-17 11:18:31', '2011-10-17 16:18:31', 'Erin, Thank you for your leadership and your comments!\n\nThe visual of the chest being opened and the treasure radiating from inside makes me think of all the people that have strengths that are locked within.  And of those that share their gifts, but don\'t realize the difference they make in the lives of those they touch.\n\nLeaders...  What are you doing to discover, unlock, release and celebrate the gifts inside of those you meet?', 0, '1', '', '', 2761, 1),
(2764, 5638, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-10-17 11:23:40', '2011-10-17 16:23:40', 'Tristan thank you for leading from who YOU are.  You have a gift for encouragement that resonates with so many!\n\nI agree that the beautiful thing about Madeline\'s example is that life circumstances and age don\'t matter, we ALL have something of great value to share with others...', 0, '1', '', '', 2762, 1),
(2765, 5638, 'Denise Barreto', 'mdwilmer@att.net', 'http://www.relationshipsmatternow.com', '198.203.224.222', '2011-10-17 13:00:45', '2011-10-17 18:00:45', 'Love this and will be spreading it with my tribe.\n\nFurther, I\'ll add that you lead BECAUSE of who you are. All that happens to us build us to do one of two things - push on or give up. Every day that you don\'t give up  - you are doing it. And then there are some of us who push to extraordinary feats because of the pain of our journey! Pain has never been wasted on me. I am thisclose to doing my life\'s work because of a painful year in 2008 and I wouldn\'t change it. Anyone that I can help but sharing my experiences remind me of a saying I read during my rough time - the tears you cry are watering seeds of the plant that will give hope to someone else in the future.\n\nThanks again!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2766, 5638, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '69.254.17.65', '2011-10-17 13:15:56', '2011-10-17 18:15:56', 'Thanks for sharing such a  beautiful and inspiring story Chery..', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2767, 5638, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-10-18 08:15:15', '2011-10-18 13:15:15', 'Denise, Thank you for your comments.\n\nI love that you referenced a difficult time in your life and how the lessons you learned are moving you closer to your dream.\n\nA WWII Prison Camp Survivor shared this wisdom with my Grandfather, \"You can\'t have an omelet without first breaking the eggs.\"  ...The lesson for me is that brokenness is always a catalyst for something new and something whole.\n\nHave a wonderful day!\n\nChery', 0, '1', '', '', 2765, 1),
(2768, 5638, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-10-18 08:18:32', '2011-10-18 13:18:32', 'Susan - Thank you for your comments!  Madeline is an AMAZING woman!', 0, '1', '', '', 2766, 1),
(2769, 5638, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '208.111.7.162', '2011-10-18 11:58:58', '2011-10-18 16:58:58', 'I love this message and want it trumpeted from every hilltop.  What we do matters.  We each can make a difference in someone\'s life, today, tomorrow, and every day.  Nothing matters but your own will.  Thank you for sharing this!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2770, 5638, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-10-18 12:19:55', '2011-10-18 17:19:55', 'Thank you Deborah!\n\nI was just thinking that the way this resonated with you, speaks loudly of your passion and commitment to discover and unleash the strengths of your students.  They are very blessed to have you!', 0, '1', '', '', 2769, 1),
(2771, 5638, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '184.186.82.130', '2011-10-18 22:27:58', '2011-10-19 03:27:58', 'Wow... Blew me away... Thanks Chery, I\'ve never been slapped up beside my head so sweetly in my entire life!  You &amp; Madeline have reminded the rest of us what true servant leadership is.  More than that, you\'ve inspired us, &amp; I believe the fruit of Thayer inspiration will be spectacular!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2772, 5638, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '184.186.82.130', '2011-10-18 22:29:44', '2011-10-19 03:29:44', 'That,not Thayer... ;-)', 0, '1', '', '', 2771, 1),
(2773, 5638, 'Chad Balthrop', 'cbalth28@hotmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/chadbalthrop/', '72.192.80.181', '2011-10-19 07:31:23', '2011-10-19 12:31:23', 'Hey Chery,\n\nGreat post! I turn 40 this year...it\'s nice to be reminded that just because I\'ll never be a 21 year old $40 billion Silicon Valley Wonder that my my opportunities for effective leadership haven\'t passed me by! Great reminder and great post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2774, 5638, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-10-19 08:06:21', '2011-10-19 13:06:21', 'Page - Thank you for your comments.  \"Slapped sweetly\" made me laugh, then smile - as thought of Madeline and tried to imagine that action!\n\nI looked up the meaning of her name this morning and found \"strong tower\" - In spite of her small stature, it fits.  ...She continues to offer strength and vision to every life she touches.', 0, '1', '', '', 2772, 1),
(2775, 5638, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-10-19 08:20:20', '2011-10-19 13:20:20', 'Chad - Thank you for your comments.  I relate!  The older I get the more I appreciate examples of people that are retiring and living lives of purpose.\n\nYesterday I visited with a man that just retired as a Dean from a Community College, a position that he loved.  Almost immediately he went on an overseas mission trip.  His heart was over-flowing with thankfulness and joy as he stories and lessons from that trip.  Sensing that this transition time for him is bitter-sweet, it was inspiring to see him find another way to share his gifts with others.', 0, '1', '', '', 2773, 1),
(2776, 5638, 'Sonja Harrington', 'sawn@rangeweb.net', '', '72.36.57.209', '2011-10-19 11:35:56', '2011-10-19 16:35:56', 'That was a beautiful description of Madelyn, Chery!  What a great example of her wisdom and contentment and mission within her circumstances!  Love it!  Thankyou for sharing your observations of her wonderful lead role!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2777, 5663, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-18 09:24:04', '2011-10-18 14:24:04', 'I commented about this over on Facebook too.  The phrase is only a method of denying responsibility if I walk away.  If someone, even my boss, says that phrase to me, it\'s like the first half of the sentence.  I\'m not moving until they say \"but...\" and finish the sentence.  If the comment is fully stated, \"I\'m sorry you feel that way, but that\'s your problem, I\'m not going to do anything about it\"; then it becomes my responsibility to do the very same thing.  \"OK, I\'m sorry you feel that way but I\'m not going to let this end right here.  If you\'re not going to do anything about it, I certainly will.\"\n\nThere are less disrespectful ways to say this but I\'m making a point.  It\'s a statement of fact.  You may leave the company, or simply wallow in misery until you screw up the guts to get another job.  The single best thing you can do for the relationship is to let it be known that without better explanation, you have no choice but to keep pursuing the issue.  In the interest of a great working relationship, if you\'re willing to be open and work to a resolution, then you should continue to push until you understand how either you\'re wrong, or it\'s unreasonable to expect resolution at this time.  If the other person is unwilling to help resolve the issue, then you must do it on your own.  You\'ll either leave or die a little every time the issue comes up again.\n\nAll of that is to say, don\'t let someone in a position of responsibility deny that very responsibility using this phrase.  Problems don\'t require denial, they require solutions.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2778, 5663, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '66.193.171.129', '2011-10-18 09:33:21', '2011-10-18 14:33:21', 'Awesome. Absolutely awesome.\n\nThis applies in all areas, just as you\'ve shown. For brands to show genuine empathy, they must empower leaders who possess it and proclaim it.  Then, sincere interest in customers will naturally flow from the employees.\n\nTerrific post.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2779, 5663, 'Pamela Bellaver', 'pjbellaver@gmail.com', '', '216.11.69.5', '2011-10-18 13:35:06', '2011-10-18 18:35:06', 'I\'m so glad you wrote about this topic, it hits a nerve with a lot of people and although often \"meant\" as an uncomfortable apology, this statement says \"I\'m not changing and have no part in this disagreement or discussion\".  It can be very invalidating.  As difficult as it can be, and we\'ve all been there, it is important to truly listen to what others are saying and validate their feelings, especially when we know we bear some responsibility for the current strain in the relationship.  Most of the time, we know if we\'ve done something that can be hurtful, that\'s why it\'s so hard to hear how someone else is feeling.  The value in taking responsibility and showing care and concern for the other person can truly change relationships and lives.  It ultimately pays itself forward and others take the lead in doing the same if you take the time to do this with them.\n\nAnother excellent post...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2780, 5663, 'Heather Coleman-Voss', 'heathercolemanvoss@gmail.com', '', '216.11.69.5', '2011-10-19 12:48:42', '2011-10-19 17:48:42', 'Mike,\nI like the proactive stance that you are taking here - it\'s an interesting angle that I hadn\'t thought of while writing this article. I\'d love to hear more about this \"pursue the issue or move on\" idea - I think it would be a very insightful blog post!\n\nThank you, you\'ve given me more to think about!\n\nHeather', 0, '1', '', '', 2777, 1),
(2781, 5663, 'Heather Coleman-Voss', 'heathercolemanvoss@gmail.com', '', '216.11.69.5', '2011-10-19 12:52:10', '2011-10-19 17:52:10', 'Tristan,\nThe empowerment is so incredibly important and directly impacts the genuine interest of the employees. I think that\'s key - interest in people must be genuine in order for customer service to be excellent. It starts at the top.\n\nHeather :)', 0, '1', '', '', 2778, 1),
(2782, 5663, 'Heather Coleman-Voss', 'heathercolemanvoss@gmail.com', '', '216.11.69.5', '2011-10-19 13:02:16', '2011-10-19 18:02:16', 'Pam,\nThank you for taking the time to write this post! You are correct, truly listening to others *particularly* if we may bear some of the responsibility is so important for successful relationships. I like what you wrote here:\n\n\"The value in taking responsibility and showing care and concern for the other person can truly change relationships and lives. It ultimately pays itself forward and others take the lead in doing the same if you take the time to do this with them.\"\n\nThanks for your insights!\nHeather', 0, '1', '', '', 2779, 1),
(2783, 5663, 'Glenn Twiddle', 'glenn@glenntwiddle.com.au', 'http://www.glenntwiddle.com.au/blog', '58.169.189.131', '2011-10-20 17:38:22', '2011-10-20 22:38:22', 'Awesome. HEard Robbins talking about something like this once, and yeah, choosing our words carefully is definitely worth the little bit of time it takes to avoid the \'autopilot\' things we just come up with.\n\nEven asking, \'how are you\' when really we don\'t mean that at all, we mean \'hi\'\n\nGreat article.\n\nGlenn Twiddle\n', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2784, 5665, 'Nel', 'nel.rivero@skyladdercoaching.com', 'http://www.skyladdercoaching.com', '188.223.85.204', '2011-10-20 07:14:07', '2011-10-20 12:14:07', 'It is so true! I suppose the bottom line is: listen, take your time to learn who is who and turn the to influencers into your supporters and have empathy.\nYou will only get the right number if people trust you, will only get support if they trust you and will only get the ugly truth if they trust you.\n\nHave a great day!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2785, 5665, 'Stephan De Villiers', 'stephan@incrementalsuccess.org', 'http://www.leadershipconnexion.com', '196.210.167.120', '2011-10-28 05:24:39', '2011-10-28 10:24:39', 'What really stood out to in your post was the \"Bull in the China Shop\" action. This is closely related to Leadership Based on Assumption (http://www.leadershipconnexion.com/how-to-avoid-leading-by-assumption/) where the leader make certain assumptions based on his/her one sided perception and on previous experience, without taking new information into account.  This is a very dangerous way of leading, because it impacts your decision making ability negatively.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2786, 5682, 'Duncan - Vetter', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '61.62.148.149', '2011-10-20 22:38:27', '2011-10-21 03:38:27', 'Visibility is something I\'ve overlooked in my career. If you perform excellently on a project that nobody really knows about its a lot less valuable than performing well on a high visibility project. It took me 10 years of working to realize this. I wish I had known earlier.\n\nD.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2787, 5682, 'joel garfinkle', 'joel@garfinkleexecutivecoaching.com', '', '174.67.197.142', '2011-10-21 18:27:59', '2011-10-21 23:27:59', 'People who have influence in your company need to know the value of your work. If you don\'t let anyone know what you do and how much it benefits your company, you will undermine how people perceive you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2788, 5682, 'Duncan - Vetter', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '61.62.204.5', '2011-10-28 00:01:08', '2011-10-28 05:01:08', 'Thanks Joel.\n\nQ. Do you think buying one of those \'Genius at work\' mugs would help me get noticed ?!\n\n\nhttp://www.cafepress.com/+genius_at_work_mug,340062521', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2789, 5714, 'Patricia.riesenkampff@gmx.net', 'patricia.riesenkampff@gmx.net', '', '84.177.69.118', '2011-10-27 05:46:23', '2011-10-27 10:46:23', 'Bravo Christina,\nWhat a simple yet excellent coaching lesson of self assessment in just a few paragraphs!\nAt present, I am without the parameters of a company and therefore the systematically working structure thereof. Still I believe that this ACE approach is so concise, pertinent to team effectiveness and simple to implement that I would suggest its use also on the personal side of life within our family and partnership relationships.\nA mother knows that her mood will have a direct impact upon the teachings and promptings she utters to her children. As a partner, a woman can be thankful to be able to have such a clear approach toward positive behavioral change which once implemented and upheld will have its successful\" mirroring\" effects upon her partner.\nThis was an enjoyable read and I don\'t need to be brave to post my personal commitment to be personally responsible and open toward change and self betterment and to await, with hopeful expectation and curiosity, the positive results of using your ACE approach.\nThanks for sharing.\nSincerely, your American in Germany LinkedIn fan,\nPatricia Riesenkampff', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2790, 5714, 'Patricia Lee Riesenkampff', 'patricia.riesenkampff@gmx.net', '', '84.177.69.118', '2011-10-27 06:04:17', '2011-10-27 11:04:17', 'Bravo Christina,\nthis was a simple yet excellent lesson in self assessment in just a few paragraphs!\nAt present, I am without the structural and systematic parameters of a company but find your ACE approach so concise, simple and easy to implement that I think it could also be used successfully within the private sector of life toward the betterment of our family and partnership relationships.\nA mother knows that her mood will have a direct result upon her teachings and promptings which she utters to her children. As a partner, a woman can be appreciative to have such an uncomplicated , simple approach toward personal behavioral change which when implemented and upheld, will have its encouraging \"mirroring\" effects upon her partner.\nBravery is not needed for me to make a public commitment here to be open and personally responsible for my moods and actions and to take the simple steps of this ACE approach toward effective self development and personal harmony.\nThanks for sharing.\nSincerely,\nPatricia Lee Riesenkampff', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
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(2791, 5714, 'Leaders: Your emotions are contagious - Lead Change Group | digitalNow | Scoop.it', '', 'http://www.scoop.it/t/digitalnow/p/633871961/leaders-your-emotions-are-contagious-lead-change-group', '89.30.105.121', '2011-11-06 23:39:45', '2011-11-07 05:39:45', '[...]  Leaders: Your emotions are contagious - Lead Change Group          Feel free to consider using the ACE approach to change:1. Awareness: Notice your mood. Notice the mood of others. Label the feeling (without judgement is the key).2. Choice: How do you like what you see in the mirror? If it&rsquo;s what you want, keep going. If it&rsquo;s not what you want, what choices do you have in the moment?3. Execution: What is one small action you are willing to take in that moment? You don&rsquo;t have to effect change on anything, just take action to make it different.4. Repeat #1 What information did you gather? What choice do you want to make now? What action will you take next? Just like directions on shampoo, rinse, lather and repeat.Accountability: What are you willing to do in the next 24 hours to recognize and change the effect you have on the people in your company? If you have the courage, feel free to post your commitment in the Comment box below. (If you are not quite that brave, feel free to email me directly. All responses are strictly confidential!).     Source: leadchangegroup.com [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2792, 5714, 'Top Leadership Blog Posts - Michael Lee Stallard', '', 'http://www.michaelleestallard.com/top-leadership-blog-posts', '72.249.167.69', '2014-11-30 15:43:25', '2014-11-30 20:43:25', '[&#8230;] Henry Sr. submitted Leaders: Your emotions are contagious &#8211; Lead Change Group posted at Lead Change Group Blog, saying, &#8220;AuthorChristina Haxton makes a great case for how [&#8230;]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2793, 5718, 'Christina Haxton, MA', 'christina@sustainable-leaders.com', 'http://sustainable-leaders.com', '75.104.36.16', '2011-10-27 21:26:25', '2011-10-28 02:26:25', 'Kristin,\n\nAs a Board Member of our Chamber\'s Economic Development Council, I was involved in our annual strategic planning session.  Yesterday, we were discussing the timing and theme of our Economic Summit, an educational conference held for the past 20 years for our local business owners.  It was all too familiar ... \"Hurry up and get the planning committee going, figure out what workshops and keynote speakers we need to get on board because we only have a few months and we have get this done ASAP as we put it on in May.\"  HURRY!!!!  The theme is the unknown, planning without knowing, driving full steam ahead, but not staring in the rear view mirror as we are going forward.  Why are we having this conference in May?  (Yes, you guessed the response ... Because that\'s the way we\'ve done it last year, the year before, the year before that ...\"  Well, how about WE WALK OUR TALK??  Let\'s give ourselves a break and have it in October?  Let\'s not GUESS what we THINK the local business owners want, LETS ASK THEM.\n\nTo quote my reining horse trainer and very wise coach, Lance Shockley, \"Sometimes you just gotta get in there and change things ... mix things up.  Not because changing something will fix it.  Sometimes, changing things just makes it different.  At least it\'s not the same mistake over and over again\".\n\n#5.  For Sure.  I\'m going to share your WEdership Lessons with my fellow Board Members.  What a terrific resource!  Thank you for posting.\nChristina', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2794, 5718, 'Kristin Wolff', 'kwolff@thinkers-and-doers.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/kristinwolff/', '24.21.169.149', '2011-10-27 23:25:09', '2011-10-28 04:25:09', 'Christina:\nThanks so much for your feedback! Really appreciate it. We benefited hugely from the generosity of the 519 people who gave us their time and insight and are pleased that you find it useful too. We penned a Blurb book comprising chapters on all six practices and a couple of inserts -  innovation and social media. If you are interested, it\'s here: http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/2427820. We also working on a lab concept. I\'d be glad to have your feedback on that when it\'s ready. I\'m kwolff@thinkers-and-doers.com. Good luck with the newly rescheduled fall event ;-).\nCheers,\nKristin', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2795, 5728, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '208.111.7.162', '2011-10-26 06:37:07', '2011-10-26 11:37:07', 'I know that engaging people in things that are particularly repetitive or not that interesting remains my and many others\' challenge.  It\'s been my experience that there is no point in beginning until you actually have everyone\'s attention.  Having them join midstream is not particularly helpful.  Taking that extra 15 seconds to wait until everyone is ready to begin is the first step toward reengagement.  After that you are so right.  Passion, respect, and eenergy are so necessary.\n\nThere\'s a lot to be said for working toward maintaining civility and respect in  our daily interactions.  Sometimes we get so rushed that we forget that this is both necessary and vital in human interactions.\n\nThanks for the reminder!  hope you are well Sonia!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2796, 5728, 'Sonia Di Maulo', 'sonia@harvestperformance.ca', 'http://www.harvestperformance.ca', '96.23.197.125', '2011-10-26 09:12:06', '2011-10-26 14:12:06', 'Hi Deb!\n\nRushed... yes it seems that we are almost always in a rush... often times forgetting about the people that get in our way.  The event I witnessed was in part caused by the airline culture whose  assumption is that \"passengers are self-centered and rude\".  While some may be, it\'s important to remember that most are not.  The same can be said of the people we lead, work with, and meet on a daily basis.\n\nI practice assuming the best of others until proven otherwise.  I have been greatly rewarded with great interactions (with both strangers and friends).\n\nThanks for commenting!\n\nSonia', 0, '1', '', '', 2795, 1),
(2797, 5728, 'Christina Haxton, MA', 'christina@sustainable-leaders.com', 'http://sustainable-leaders.com', '75.104.36.16', '2011-10-27 06:58:54', '2011-10-27 11:58:54', 'Hi Sonia,\n\nThank you for posting the re-do.  Step #1 ...Take responsibility.  You can judge the quality of your communication by the response you get ...\n\nI really enjoy your posts!\nChristina', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2798, 5728, 'Sonia Di Maulo', 'sonia@harvestperformance.ca', 'http://www.harvestperformance.ca', '24.202.120.84', '2011-11-01 09:21:34', '2011-11-01 14:21:34', 'Hi Christina!\n\nThrilled that you liked the post and found it helpful.  Paying particular attention to non-verbals can help you assess the quality of your communication... we often do not pay enough attention to non-verbals. They can help you truly understand was is happening and give you an opportunity to clarify (in case of misinterpretation).\n\nSonia', 0, '1', '', '', 2797, 1),
(2799, 5728, 'Harvest Performance &raquo; How to Reengage the Disengaged', '', 'http://www.harvestperformance.ca/?p=5482', '212.227.127.174', '2011-11-17 16:56:20', '2011-11-17 22:56:20', '[...] Originally posted on Lead Change Group. [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2800, 5732, 'Christina Haxton, MA', 'christina@sustainable-leaders.com', 'http://sustainable-leaders.com', '75.104.36.16', '2011-10-27 06:53:52', '2011-10-27 11:53:52', 'Deborah,\n\nExcellent reminder about how one decision made by a person of influence (and aren\'t we all that person?) can change multiple lives. It takes 4 positive statements or actions to neutralize a negative or critical one in our brain (so go for 5:1), what if people took action based on character instead of mindlessness (as in, \"Yeah, I didn\'t mean to make you feel bad, I was just having a bad day ...\")?\n\nWow.  Simple, yet mind-blowing.\n\nThank you for posting!\nChristina', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2801, 5732, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '208.111.7.162', '2011-10-27 07:30:02', '2011-10-27 12:30:02', 'Thanks Christina for stopping by.  I forget about that 5 to 1 ratio, but it makes sense.  I spend a lot of time mulling over things that go wrong, taking the negativity to heart, but it takes more to overcome that negativity.\n\nI loved your aside...  aren\'t we all a person of influence?  So true, so important, so often overlooked.  I appreciate these good reminders as well!\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 2800, 1),
(2802, 5732, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-27 09:54:50', '2011-10-27 14:54:50', 'Deb, thanks for the great post and question.  This ties back to some teaching I associate most closely with Steve Keating (@LeadToday).  In the end, our actions demonstrate our true core values.  We do override those core values from time to time in the name of expediency or comfort or other things.  However if we consistently choose comfort or exxpediency, maybe those are truly our core values.\n\nTo me, that\'s the central reason why we need to act from the best of who we are.  When we apply our best to the highest good, we make a significant impact.  Thanks for adding your great content to the blog!\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2803, 5732, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-10-27 10:37:15', '2011-10-27 15:37:15', 'Thanks for your insights, Mike.  I take away two important ideas from you comments.  First, our actions are a better indicator of our core vlaues than our words.  In fact, our actions can belie our words and we might understand each other better if we watched at least as much as we listened.  An interesting idea.  The second idea you explain is this phrase, \"leading from the best of who we are.\"  How is it that in a world where everybody knows intuitively what you mean here, we so rarely see this behavior in action.  We know what is morally sound, we know what core values are present in society.  Why don\'t those societal values actually translate into individual values more often?  If our actions reveal our core, then it is clear that even though our leaders have a best self, they do not always use that self as a guide for decisions.\n\nA disheartening idea.  We know what\'s right and choose something else anyway.  Hmm...  I think I need some encouragement here.\n\nThoughts?\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 2802, 1),
(2804, 5741, 'Simon Cooper', 'share.knowledge@hemscott.net', 'http://brilliant-leader.org', '86.153.245.159', '2011-10-30 11:04:45', '2011-10-30 16:04:45', 'Quite, how do you know?\n\nI found myself agreeing with your article right up until that final question. That is something I will now go away and think about more  deeply. Thank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2805, 5741, 'Kristin Wolff', 'kwolff@thinkers-and-doers.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/kristinwolff/', '75.93.46.117', '2011-10-30 15:53:23', '2011-10-30 20:53:23', 'Simon:\nYou made my day, thank you back. I\'m firmly convinced more people asking such questions will lead to many more solutions to our current economic crisis than we can even imagine.\nWarmly,\nKristin', 0, '1', '', '', 2804, 1),
(2806, 5745, 'Wayne McEvilly', 'mcevillymozart@gmail.com', 'http://waynemcevilly.blogspot.com', '76.242.186.141', '2011-11-01 06:17:15', '2011-11-01 11:17:15', 'Individuals within an organization driven by fear and misplaced ambition (need to hold onto job comes first above all else) will neither communicate the truth nor recognize it when it appears, and if it should, they will actively resist its presence. I deal with such disfunctional organizations on an almost daily basis in my attempt to do a seemingly simple thing: bring great music to a wide spectrum of the public, from little children to senior citizens and all in between. Libraries, universities, public school systems, all are corporations not excempt from the laws stated in this post. The assumption that they are otherwise could be costly to anyone who deals with them. Once in a while you come upon the rare exception -\nThe leader always sets the tone - Always - in a school, it is the principal. I am blessed this month with playing in one school where the tone is set in the key of impeccable leadership. Many others are ln the midst of such chaos as this post explores -\n\"Ah life! It exceeded imagination!\" Marguerite Young\nThanks\nWayne', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2807, 5745, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-11-01 07:38:32', '2011-11-01 12:38:32', 'Wayne - Thank you for your comments!  I am glad that you have found a rare exception!\n\nCharacter-Based Leadership is so logical, so powerful, and so vital for success today and for growth tomorrow - In organizations.  In communities.  In our world.  What if...?\n\nIt\'s a vision worth living and sharing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2808, 5745, 'Lyn Boyer', 'boyerlyn@gmail.com', 'http://www.lynboyer.net', '108.9.62.162', '2011-11-01 07:56:25', '2011-11-01 12:56:25', 'Chery,\nThank you for a very interesting and important perspective. In the course of getting things done, truth is too often forgotten. It is not always in attempts to deceive. Sometimes, it is in an attempt to get things done. Those who trifle with the truth may even believe they are doing the \"right\" thing. When it affects an individual\'s willingness to speak up or to share different perspectives, it is definitely not the right thing to do. I enjoyed reading your article.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2809, 5745, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-11-01 14:03:31', '2011-11-01 19:03:31', 'Lyn, Thank you for the comment.\n\nI agree that often there is no intent to deceive.  Sometimes it may start with poor communication or an omission of a detail or even with a belief that to preserve morale that the truth should not be shared.\n\nThe reality is that words and actions of titled leaders are constantly observed, and quickly define expected and acceptable business practices. Our choices - positive or negative, impact our organizations and the lives of those we touch constantly.\n\nThis weekend Michael Hyatt posted an article in his newsletter by Lisa Whittle titled 5 Truths To Remember When Your Leader Falls.  It is a beautiful article that emphasizes our humanness and our need for compassionate accountability.  http://michaelhyatt.com/5-truths-to-remember-when-your-leader-falls.html', 0, '1', '', '', 2808, 1),
(2810, 5745, 'Let&#039;s Grow Leaders | Real Leaders, Better Business | Leaders Weigh in on Achieving Breakthrough Results &#8211; A Frontline Festival', '', 'http://letsgrowleaders.com/frontline-festival/leaders-weigh-in-on-achieving-breakthrough-results-a-frontline-festival/', '50.87.144.69', '2014-10-17 06:02:08', '2014-10-17 10:02:08', '[&#8230;] Gegleman  of  Simply Understanding asks, &#8220;Are you as a leader stumbling over truths that are limiting your results?&#8221;  Follow [&#8230;]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2811, 5757, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-11-02 12:24:00', '2011-11-02 17:24:00', 'This is a wonderful example of the power of words.  Not only do we undervalue others with the word JUST, we undervalue ourselves.  Sometimes we truly believe we have no power or influence, sometimes it is misguided humility.  But this is a powerful lesson.  I am not JUST anything.  I am who and what I am and will act in all ways possible to improve myself and the world around me.  That\'s the plan...  no JUST needed.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2812, 5757, 'Stephan De Villiers', 'stephan@incrementalsuccess.org', 'http://www.leadershipconnexion.com', '196.210.167.120', '2011-11-03 07:46:01', '2011-11-03 12:46:01', 'Very insightful post.  It reminds one of how careful you should be about how you talk to and about people. It is amazing that by eliminating one little word in the way you refer to people can have such a far reaching effect in the way you interact with people, but also in the way people perceive your interactions.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2813, 5757, 'Eliminate The Word &#8216;Just&#8217; &raquo; client k', '', 'http://clientk.com/2011/11/13/eliminate-the-word-just/', '184.173.197.26', '2011-11-13 04:05:02', '2011-11-13 10:05:02', '[...] Mike Figliuolo&#8217;s view on the word &#8216;just&#8217; is quite a bit stronger. [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2814, 5757, 'Friday Leadership Favs | LeadBIG', '', 'http://getyourbigon.com/leadbigblog/leadership-friday-favs-11-4-11/', '184.168.193.20', '2011-11-25 08:06:29', '2011-11-25 14:06:29', '[...] One Word Leaders Should Never Use (Mike Figliuolo, Lead Change Group Guest Post) [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2815, 5757, 'Martin Haworth', 'martin@coachtrainlearn.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mphcoach/', '82.33.26.23', '2011-12-06 10:18:54', '2011-12-06 16:18:54', 'That\'s a good one - thanks for the enlightenment!\n\nMay I add a few more? \'But\', \'However\', \'Always\', \'Never\', \'Should\' (&amp; \'Shouldn\'t), \'Can\'t\', \'Then again\' etc. I once came up with 10 - and now I seem to have mislaid the article!\n\nLanguage eh!\n\nMartin', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2816, 5776, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-30 17:51:06', '2011-10-30 22:51:06', 'Mike,\nI like the flow of these posts on this topic. I\'d add one more as a twist on #1. We can build or strengthen our credibility by repairing trust when broken. It won\'t do any good for anyone involved or remotely impacted if broken trust is left alone. Rebuilding trust can be as valuable, if not more, in developing leaders. It teaches how to navigate complicated, confrontational interactions. It teaches humility. It teaches the importance of rising above destructive or dysfunctional behavior in ways that support the business\'s success and people\'s too.\n\nNice list.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2817, 5776, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-31 05:14:34', '2011-10-31 10:14:34', 'Thanks Shawn.\nI agree there is probably a post series on restoring credibility too.  Nothing beats being believable and trustworthy over time.  We\'ve got to be actively trustworthy even when misunderstood.  We can\'t let people begin to doubt us and fail to work to restore that trust.\n\nThanks for the great addition.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2818, 5776, '7 Responses to the Future of Leadership Development - Lead Change Group | Leadership Building | Scoop.it', '', 'http://www.scoop.it/t/leadership-building/p/605862163/7-responses-to-the-future-of-leadership-development-lead-change-group', '89.30.105.121', '2011-10-31 07:17:39', '2011-10-31 12:17:39', '[...]  7 Responses to the Future of Leadership Development - Lead Change Group           Future trends in leadership development include a move to more personal and individual methods. How should leaders respond to these trends?     Source: leadchangegroup.com [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2819, 5776, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '69.254.17.65', '2011-10-31 07:55:41', '2011-10-31 12:55:41', 'Along the lines of being oractical - be pragmatic rather than theoretical.  I love theory and abstraction, but it is those of us who can help people to quickly translate the theory and context of leadership into action that is successful and satisfying that will be in demand.\n\nI\'ll add that I see technology, specifically tablet technology, as a real game changer in how we deliver great content that connects people to us and facilitates their engagement with what we share and teach.  It goes beyond social to a connection far more personal.  The iPad was a game changer and I think we have only just scratched the surface on just how much of a game changer it will be for those in our profession.  That\'s why I am now part of Polymash - this is exactly the kind of thing we are now doing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 1),
(2820, 5776, 'Marianela Michelena', 'mlmc058@yahoo.com', '', '201.208.230.167', '2011-10-31 12:43:55', '2011-10-31 17:43:55', '\"The article is great!  I thank Shawn Murphy for his comment. Being humble is a key attitude in a leader, especially because it shows that one can make a mistake and it does not diminish its leadership.\n I would like to emphasize the need to build credibility in every environment we are involved; that leaders must try to be coherent in what they feel, think and do, everywhere they are: family, communities, organizations... In this interconnected world leaders are visible and their actions are observed by many; when one is a leader, the responsability to model behavior is very important in every environment and to many people.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2821, 5776, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '12.172.12.3', '2011-10-31 16:05:55', '2011-10-31 21:05:55', 'Thanks for the great addition.  I too, think the tablet technologies are going to be big enablers in making content individual and personal and in shortening the DEAR loop.  Thanks.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2819, 1),
(2822, 5776, 'Martine Potvin', 'mpotvin-conseil@sympatico.ca', '', '67.68.65.77', '2011-10-31 18:06:02', '2011-10-31 23:06:02', 'Internet already offers a lot of content. As a professional, It is appropriate for us to bring  concise summary of contents and opinions on certain issues. I may be old school, but I remain confident that the contacts face to face with the people we support can not really be replaced by online exchanges on blogs, twitter, or groups on linkedin in terms of impact and effectiveness. In this line of thought, targeting an audience from our respective local communities is an excellent strategy.\n\nTo establish our credibility online, I sincerely believe that \"quality\" rather than \"quantity\" is a guarantee of success. However, the content must be sufficiently concrete and address specific problems to receive a proper level of audience.\n\nOne way I am thinking in the creation of my own blog is the following. What would you think about the idea to write case studies on real problem situations faced by our customers. These would be short, describing the problems faced by a manager-type and would include some background of the environment and would be grouped by theme. They would have the advantage of being very concrete.\n\nFrom these, we would first share together on our common understanding of problems and proposed solutions.Subsequently, we could transfer our learning and our sharings within each of our virtual communities.\n\nThis obviously requires time and engagement from us.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2823, 5750, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.wordpress.com/', '108.35.168.142', '2011-11-10 22:32:55', '2011-11-11 04:32:55', 'Hi Angie,\n\nCongratulations!!!!  I think we grow best when we operate outside of our comfort zone.  The tough part is pushing ourselves to constantly challenging ourselves.  You\'ve been a role model to a lot of us.  What you\'ve done as a leader, instructor and consultant, inspire others to push themselves to be a better person and a leader.\n\nRegards,\n\nWill Lukang', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2824, 5750, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '173.23.60.141', '2011-11-11 06:58:54', '2011-11-11 12:58:54', 'Thank you, Will! It\'s a pleasure to know you as a leaderfriend. I appreciate your kind words, and I know you impact many lives through the ways you live, love, learn and lead. Thanks again!', 0, '1', '', '', 2823, 1),
(2825, 5753, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '99.17.7.206', '2011-11-03 13:01:19', '2011-11-03 18:01:19', 'Sonia,\nThis is a great example defining authenticity. Words fall short of explaining what it is. It\'s truly the actions that illustrate it best. I want to see more companies like Porter. It\'s they who can make a difference in helping employees make meaning from the work they do.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2826, 5753, 'Sonia Di Maulo', 'sonia@harvestperformance.ca', 'http://www.harvestperformance.ca', '24.202.120.84', '2011-11-03 19:05:21', '2011-11-04 00:05:21', 'Shawn,\n\nI agree.  There is a great opportunity for companies to stand apart and create work environments that allow employees to thrive, which in turn creates loyal customers.  Organizations win, employees win, customers win. Simple, yet effective.\n\nSonia', 0, '1', '', '', 2825, 1),
(2827, 5753, 'Cindy', 'cmount433@hotmail.com', '', '76.75.118.104', '2011-11-04 09:08:50', '2011-11-04 14:08:50', 'I agree 100% with your comments about Porter airlines.  If your destination is on their flightpath - take Porter.  They have a strong resemblance to the old \"Ward Air\" days, when customers were people first not $$$.  Love the way they treat you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2828, 5753, 'Sonia Di Maulo', 'sonia@harvestperformance.ca', 'http://www.harvestperformance.ca', '24.202.120.84', '2011-11-04 18:06:56', '2011-11-04 23:06:56', 'Hi Cindy,\n\nThanks for sharing!  My first choice is usually Porter... :) they treat me right and the service is always consistent.  Their service has strategy.\n\nSonia', 0, '1', '', '', 2827, 1),
(2829, 34506, 'Royce Dugan', '', '', '', '2009-02-16 17:36:00', '2009-02-17 00:36:00', 'This article points out the fact that \"The Lesson of Greatness comes from Challenge\". My father had a sign that hung in his office that said \"Tough times never last, Tough people DO!\". It is always when we are challenged that we look again for and find the greatness that God empowers through us to do above what we ever thought we could. The greatness in us is allowed to sleep when life allows us to become complacent. It seems to have always taken events like Pearl Harbor, The Great Depression, many Recessions, as well as weather disasters to keep reminding us, our one job is to really help each other.  We are multiplied when we help each other.  Simply put Love and Compassion for each other allows the greatness of God to work through us to deliver his blessings. The principals in this article are from these idea\'s.  Thank you for reminding me of them!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2830, 34506, 'VMH Corporation | &raquo; Make A Partner', '', 'http://vmhcorp.com/make-a-partner/', '72.167.232.201', '2009-03-16 08:47:04', '2009-03-16 13:47:04', '[...] most like to have as a fan or a referral?  Many vendors will freak out if you approach them.  See this post for more [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2831, 34506, 'Elcoj', 'ddllinker220volts@mail.health-ua.com', 'http://www.elcoes.com/', '61.178.185.101', '2009-03-20 04:28:54', '2009-03-20 09:28:54', 'Hello,\nThank you! I would now go on this blog every day!\n\nThank you\nElcoj', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2832, 34507, 'asatterla', '', '', '', '2009-02-20 08:13:00', '2009-02-20 15:13:00', 'Hay if you would you could refer ppl to my insurance co-op.  It is called The CO-OP.  I started this company to help ppl earn insurance that cant normally afford it.  We set it up as an mlm (which I get a lot of slack for).  But, it is set up to be cheap enough so anyone can get into it.  I could use the the referral.  We are insurance and network marketing so ppl are really skeptical.  All we want to do is help ppl.  This I promise.  We did not create The CO-OP to get rich or make tons of money.  Although what benefits not used are payed out in cash.  Well if you would check out the site http://www.theco-op.info you can contact me on skype @ asatterla or by email asatterla@theco-op.info<br/><br/>thx<br/>Arnett Satterla', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2833, 34507, 'Mike Henry Sr.', '', '', '', '2009-02-20 09:50:00', '2009-02-20 16:50:00', 'Arnett, Thanks for your comment.  I\'m only going to refer people I\'m familiar with, but beyond that, I wish you good luck with your new endeavor.  Please go over to the Make A Referral link and sign up.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2834, 34508, 'Susan Kishner', 'susankishner@apersonalfinanceguide.com', 'http://www.apersonalfinanceguide.com', '209.62.13.210', '2009-03-14 21:19:17', '2009-03-15 02:19:17', 'Just wanted to say HI.  I found your blog a few days ago on Technorati and have been reading it over the past few days.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2835, 235, 'Leadership Practice &laquo; VMH Corporation', '', 'http://vmhcorp.com/leadership-practice/', '72.167.232.201', '2009-03-30 08:30:19', '2009-03-30 13:30:19', '[...] asserted before that anyone can lead.  In fact, everyone does lead.  You lead.  (Really!)  You influence some [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2836, 235, 'Leadership Practice &laquo; Lead Change Group', '', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/leadership-practice/', '72.167.232.201', '2009-04-04 15:39:59', '2009-04-04 20:39:59', '[...] asserted before that anyone can lead.  In fact, everyone does lead.  You lead.  (Really!)  You influence some [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2837, 347, 'Patti', 'patti.dragland@strategicsenseinc.com', 'http://www.strategicsenseinc.wordpress.com', '96.51.196.127', '2009-04-15 09:30:23', '2009-04-15 14:30:23', 'Excellent post, I love how the video highlights innovative ways to use Web2.0 to be inclusionary and involve employees!  True leadership is about how we develop and support the people we are leading, your post definitely shows examples of that!\n\nWhat a great gift when an employee feels they add value to the company and they believe their contribution is both respected and valued enough to find budget for it!\n\nThanks for sharing,\nPatti\n@strategicsense', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2838, 347, 'steve', 'steve11@gmail.com', '', '75.9.168.139', '2011-01-21 23:25:19', '2011-01-22 05:25:19', 'SE WI Best Buy senior leadership couldn\'t manage their way out of a wet paper bag.  Best Buy has outsourced their HR to the point where you can\'t talk to anyone who speaks English or who knows what is going on.  When you do get a call from a case worker while you are breast feeding, they tell you to call the 800 number to tell you when you are available.  They are too incompetent to leave you a direct number or their extension.  Best Buy is a joke to work for unless you are at the corporate headquarters.  I am guessing half of them don\'t have a clue what the real world of retail is like.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2839, 321, 'Lead like Christ', 'alex@leadercast.com', 'http://leadercast.com', '61.87.32.95', '2009-07-12 20:37:29', '2009-07-13 01:37:29', 'Anyone, as you said, can be a leader. Even if someone is not in a \"leadership position,\" there are always chances to lead in life. I feel that by being intentional with relationships and by aspiring to better others through relationships, we can lead people from day to day. Thanks for the article!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2840, 396, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://randomactsofleadership.wordpress.com', '69.254.18.143', '2009-05-05 21:27:44', '2009-05-06 02:27:44', 'I like your \"definition\" of output  - essentially I think you are saying that your output is equal to the impact you have on those you influence.  Your product then is reflected in the \"eyes of the beholder\" so to speak.\n\nHas me thinking... Many people in organizations have learned to \"play politics\" to portray an image to those above them that will bring favorable consequences.  Personal branding or relating to yourself as a product seems to require a more encompassing view of who you are than the traditional top down approach of performance assessment acknowledges.  Will that strategy work in the future or will personal branding trump political saavy as the essential skills to being successful in the organizations of the future?  How might the way we are evaluated change?  Thanks for giving me some food for thought Mike!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2841, 396, 'Mike Henry', 'mhenry@vmhcorp.com', 'http://www.vmhcorp.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-05-06 10:34:24', '2009-05-06 15:34:24', 'Thanks for your comment.  You\'re perceptive to consider the practice of \"playing politics\" and the current idea of personal branding.  I think people will always be able to be swayed by what they see.  Therefore there can always be an element of image management involved in the way people evaluate us.  Thanks for the added dimension.  We\'ll both have to think on this some more.', 0, '1', '', '', 2840, 0),
(2842, 396, 'Rebekah Simon-Peter', 'rspeter1@msn.com', 'http://www.bridgeworkspresents.net', '12.190.135.182', '2009-05-08 23:47:53', '2009-05-09 04:47:53', 'We used to be considered citizens, not consumers.  Or even producers.  But equal participants in a democratic society.  Now we have to choose between consumers and producers for our identity?  Perhaps we are being used by the very technology we thought we could shape?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2843, 396, 'Mike Henry', 'mhenry@vmhcorp.com', 'http://www.vmhcorp.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-05-09 05:39:31', '2009-05-09 10:39:31', 'Rebekah, that\'s a very thought-provoking comment.  I do believe we\'re being used by the very economy and materialistic society we created.  Great comment.  Thanks.', 0, '1', '', '', 2842, 0),
(2844, 432, 'Patte Michel', 'pattemichel@comcast.net', '', '173.49.246.68', '2009-05-23 05:31:12', '2009-05-23 10:31:12', 'This is so true - \"connect the dots!\"  We have just gone live with our SAP implementation and although we have on a regular basis communicated the benefits, people still question why so many resources (people and $$) were on the team and why they have to do all this extra work,  Relevance is key - and I need to  make sure my next communication to the business associates better connects them to that point.  Still thinking how...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2845, 432, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-05-23 05:52:12', '2009-05-23 10:52:12', 'Patte,\n\nThanks for the comment.  One idea for your present situation is to remind the business people that the argument about resource allocation would be considerably different if you failed.  You might even add a sidebar showing the cost over time or the cost of success versus the cost of failure over time. After-the-fact criticism is considerably different when you achieve your goals because many people just HAVE to criticize something.  If you fail, the criticism would be VERY different.  On one project I did, the system has persisted through two asset sales so 3 companies have used the same system that the first company paid for.  When you do something right, it lasts.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2846, 441, 'Kelly Ketelboeter', 'kketelboeter@gmail.com', '', '67.173.83.179', '2009-06-09 13:30:53', '2009-06-09 18:30:53', 'Great information and reminders for managers.  It doesn\'t take much to make a difference.  It\'s important for managers to realize they are in fact leaders of people not just managers of tasks.\n\nThanks for the great post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2847, 472, 'Erin Schreyer', 'eschreyer@sagestone-partners.com', 'http://www.sagestone-partners.com', '24.209.194.248', '2009-06-10 15:11:24', '2009-06-10 20:11:24', 'Great post, Mike!  I agree that while it might seem \"scary\" to some to invest in their people right now...that\'s exactly what companies should be doing!!!  This market will be coming back around over the course of the next year - and the battle for the best people will ensue.  Employees will remain both motivated and loyal to their companies who have taken a genuine interest in them.  All others could possibly be a flight risk...especially when salaries begin to increase again.  Regardless of market conditions, though, companies will always benefit the most when they take time to recognize and invest in the value of their people.  I\'m SO with you, Mike!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2848, 472, 'Jay Steinfeld', 'jay@Blinds.com', 'http://www.Blinds.com', '98.200.164.53', '2009-06-12 06:45:32', '2009-06-12 11:45:32', 'Focusing on your employees is of paramount importance. If they don\'t trust you as a leader, it is near impossible to get anything done over a sustained period.\n\nHowever, isn\'t it the focus first on the customer that drives real success? As an example, what If you\'re CEO and you find that a whole product line is no longer desired by your customers. Would you keep producing those products and keep all the people doing do, assuming there were no reassignments possible?\n\nThe companies that we hear about that are successful because of in part \"awesome people cultures\" (e.g. Zappos), focus on what is in the best interest of the customer.\n\nOf course, the values that enable you to do that include respect, caring, fun, etc and if you\'re not also providing those same things to your own employees, then asking them to do that for customers will be disingenuous and inauthentic. And they won\'t do it.\n\nI guess what I\'m saying is the customer still comes first, but just barely.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2849, 472, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-06-12 14:03:08', '2009-06-12 19:03:08', 'In an employee-first company, as you listen to your employees (or associates) they will listen to customers.  They should notice that something wasn\'t selling first and begin taking action to address the problem.  If you truly look out for your people, they begin to be freed up to look out for customers.  Employees will grasp pretty quickly that \"good\" customers are the key to their own self-interest.  They will be working to help you understand what the customers want.  They\'ll invent ways to provide quality service for \"good\" customers.\n\nIt\'s a bit less clear in retail, but as you know, \"bad\" customers can be pretty unrealistic.  Unrealistic or obnoxious customers cause the majority of the problems.  If your company produces quality products and provides quality service, those customers stick out like a sore thumb.  Then, it\'s up to the leadership to keep those problem customers from killing employees.  Employee-first simply means having the intestinal fortitude to make sure that profit never trumps people.  The highest, best purpose of a company is the lives it funds.\n\nThanks for the great comments!', 0, '1', '', '', 2848, 0),
(2850, 472, 'Jim Seybert', 'jim@jimseybert.com', 'http://jimseybert.com', '66.169.239.39', '2009-06-13 14:31:34', '2009-06-13 19:31:34', 'Good stuff Mike !!  Scott McKain had a link to this post on a Tweet and I\'m glad he did. This is the kind of revised perspective we are so hungry for. Somewhere along the line we got off track to the point where workers are seen as a necessary but unfortunate expense.\n\nYour suggestion goes against current conventional wisdom and that\'s exactly why it makes good sense. I\'m going to add your blog to my RSS feed and look forward to more.\n\nJim Seybert - author of Leadership Re:Vision (Tyndale - 2009)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2851, 499, 'Joan Koerber-Walker', 'jkw@corepurpose.net', 'http://www.corepurpose.com', '72.201.145.84', '2009-06-15 11:27:59', '2009-06-15 16:27:59', 'Mike -  what a great way to use a quote!  And it is so true.  In order to lead others to their greatest potential - either as part of a  team within organizations or personally, we need to continuously work on ourselves.  The more we learn, the more we can teach.  The more we explore, the more we find.  And, the more we practice, the better we get.\n\nAnd the best advice of all, since it IS up to us.  Make it a Great Day.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2852, 499, 'Frode H', 'frode.heimen@gmail.com', 'http://www.nevermindthemanager.com/', '62.101.255.249', '2009-06-25 07:06:55', '2009-06-25 12:06:55', 'Hi Mike.\n”Team members that would rather be somewhere else should get somewhere else” – Firing unmotivated employees might actually be to the benefit of the employee, if you do not work with passion, you are most likely working at the wrong place. I am still wondering why so many leaders don’t practice leadership skills, it is refreshing to read a blog post called leadership workout.\nI just found your blog at http://employeeengagement.ning.com/, and I like it so far. I am definitely going to read more of it.\nKeep writing!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2853, 499, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-06-25 07:12:35', '2009-06-25 12:12:35', '@Frode - Thanks for the comment.  I am trying to get where I spend more time with the Employee Engagement Group.  It seems like a great group.  I was glad to find people with so much in common regarding engagement and sustainability.', 0, '1', '', '', 2852, 0),
(2854, 580, 'Erin Schreyer', 'eschreyer@sagestone-partners.com', 'http://www.sagestone-partners.com', '24.209.194.248', '2009-06-22 19:39:34', '2009-06-23 00:39:34', 'Beautifully written post, Mike!!!  You are a rare breed, and I am happy to call you \"friend.\"  I value the life and the gifts I\'ve been given, and I feel a responsibility - like you - to give back.  I believe in leading with values and strengths (which tend to be your gifts as well.)  Again, similar to you, I value Leadership that is rooted in these principles.  I think it has the ability to make great chnage occur....', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2855, 580, 'Rebel Brown', 'rebel@peoplewhoknow.biz', 'http://www.peoplewhoknow.biz', '75.41.59.160', '2009-06-22 20:05:23', '2009-06-23 01:05:23', 'You are a blessing to all who read and share your words Mike! So many things grab me - opportunities to help others see past their limitations, to believe in themselves and their dreams and to create the life they deserve.  The drive for integrity in all things, honor and dignity for all we touch, openness and candor in every interaction. Focusing on a solution vs how we got here.  Simply smiling my way through life and knowing all is well - and all is within my power.  Knowing that I alone decide, in this moment, whether I\'m focused on the uplift or the downdraft...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2856, 580, 'Walt Hansmann', 'walt.hansmann@gmail.com', 'http://www.infinitepossibilitiesgroup.com', '70.143.36.168', '2009-06-24 18:57:47', '2009-06-24 23:57:47', 'Mike\n\nThank you for your words.\n\nI believe in many things, first and foremost being treat others as you would wish to be treated ... aka The Golden Rule.\n\nI also spent many years in the Jaycees ... 20, including 10 years on the USJCC National Headquarters staff.\n\nThe 35 words of the Jaycee Creed have guided my life since I was 19:\n\nWe Believe:\n\nThat faith in God gives meaning and purpose to human life;\n\nThat the brotherhood of man transcends the sovereignty of nations;\n\nThat economic justice can best be won by free men through free enterprise;\n\nThat government should be of laws rather than of men;\n\nThat earth\'s great treasure lies in human personality;\n\nAnd that service to humanity IS the best work of life.\n\n\nThrough these beliefs, my purpose found me ... to be the best I can be, and to help others become better people.  Simply put ... to help others.\n\nAlong the way, I found that honesty, integrity, ethics, morals, and positive values are critical to my having a happy life.\n\nI always expect the best from people, and am honestly disappointed when they show a side other than their best.\n\nAs a Boy Scout Leader, I have been able to meld the Scout Oath and Scout Law into my life:\n\nScout Oath (or Promise)\n\nOn my honor I will do my best\nTo do my duty to God and my country\nand to obey the Scout Law;\nTo help other people at all times;\nTo keep myself physically strong,\nmentally awake, and morally straight.\n\n\nScout Law\n\nA Scout is trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean, and reverent.\n\n\nLike you, I have discovered other guiding principles, but these seem to say it as well as anything I have encountered.\n\nIn friendship,\nWalt', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2857, 580, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-06-24 19:33:16', '2009-06-25 00:33:16', '@Erin - It is great to truly use our lives and the gifts we\'ve been given to make a difference.  We do have a lot in common regarding our passion for leadership.  Thanks for the kind words and your friendship.\n\n@Rebel - You\'ve become a great friend very quickly.  I appreciate you too and how you encourage me.  It\'s fun to know people who truly make a difference.  We understand and resist the temptation to judge ourselves by our intentions, but only our actions count.  Thanks.\n\n@Walt - We do have a lot in common, except I can\'t remain in any authority structure for as long as you.  But I know good values when I see them.  Let\'s keep applying those principles and changing our world.  Thanks for your friendship.\n\nThanks to each of y\'all for the great comments.  I appreciate you.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2858, 580, 'Terrence Seamon', 'thseamon@yahoo.com', 'http://learningvoyager.blogspot.com', '67.85.16.87', '2009-06-28 10:14:41', '2009-06-28 15:14:41', 'Mike,\nI\'m glad I found you and your blog. As I mentioned in my email, I followed the breadcrumbs from the Employee Engagement network, to your blog, to LinkedIn.\n\nLike you, I am striving to make a positive difference in the world through what I do, whether at work (as a Learning &amp; OD Guy), at home (husband and father of two young men), or at my faith community (St. Matthias in Somerset NJ).\n\nRecently, I have learned about the work of John Scherer, organizational consultant and Lutheran minister, whose latest book is called Five Questions That Change Everything. (Here\'s a link to more info: http://www.the5questions.com/the-book/)\n\nWhen you wrote, \"I don’t have to fix everyone, just me,\" I immediately thought of Scherer. His five questions are all about becoming who you are.\n\nBeing a question-oriented person, I find myself gravitating toward his five. One of which is:  What calls you?  He defines it with a further question:\n\n~ What kind of difference would I like to think my life could make in the world?\n\nKeep up asking the great questions, Mike.\n\nTerry', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2859, 580, 'Leadership Focus and Values Appreciation', '', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/leadership-focus-values-appreciation/', '72.167.232.201', '2009-07-22 12:59:43', '2009-07-22 17:59:43', '[...] Leadership Development   A month or so ago, I posted an article called &#8220;What Grabs You?&#8221; I talked about leading from what&#8217;s most important to you.  Your values determine the [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2860, 652, 'Jim Holland', 'jbhprivate@gmail.com', '', '96.18.149.43', '2009-06-27 10:56:56', '2009-06-27 15:56:56', 'Mike - thanks for the post. \"The courage to choose\" is a hard one. Recently, I made that decision. As a senior member of an executive team, I had to reduce the size of my team in late 2008. This year, I decided to \"RIF myself\" to keep a revenue generating team intact. If you practice servant leadership, it makes it easier to understand what decisions need to be done and when.  I could have easily reduced my team further to save my own postion, but realized I could get a portion of the revenue flowing, reduce costs and assign activities to a capable team. If you are a \"connected\" leader, who knows the personalities, capabilities, skills, heart and drive of a team, you will have better insight into any type of changes that may arise.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2861, 652, 'Mandy Vavrinak', 'mvavrinak@mac.com', 'http://www.twitter.com/mandy_vavrinak', '70.177.89.193', '2009-06-28 22:09:45', '2009-06-29 03:09:45', 'Mike,\n\nEnjoyed the brief discussion we had on this topic in person and enjoyed your post, too. I think it\'s absolutely critical that people begin to really look at where real value comes from in the employee equation. You are right... if the job can be sliced and diced, it will be... and then shipped out. This is also related to the \"crowdsourcing\" push, which is depressing the value of right-brained work, too. Economic pressures being what they are, people are content to make a quick few bucks today rather than take time to build relationships and make more money later through a trusted client/vendor/partner situation. What they don\'t realize is that when the economy rebounds, no one who has been paying them $300 for a logo will now be willing to pay $600. No one will ever value your work at a higher price point than you set for yourself. Have you ever had a client get a bill and say, \"Really, it was such an outstanding job... I\'m going to send you an extra $500?\" :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
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(2862, 652, 'Steve', 'steve@jeantetfamily.com', 'http://stevejeantet.wordpress.com', '98.173.236.20', '2009-06-30 12:22:22', '2009-06-30 17:22:22', '\"Can a business actually have the guts to put its people before one quarter’s numbers?\"\n\nThis quote raises a much deeper issue - one that plagues our economy on several levels. The over-emphasis on one quarter\'s numbers, especially stock price, is huge. It\'s easy to see what leads to much of the corruption at the helm of major corporations when the top leadership is rewarded based on short-term stock price. What incentive is there to keep the long-term in view?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2863, 652, 'Patricia Shafer', 'pshafer@compelconsulting.com', '', '66.169.45.140', '2009-07-03 02:48:12', '2009-07-03 07:48:12', 'Re: the conversation about \"the courage to choose\", whether companies \"must\" pursue layoffs, and whether forced part-time arrangements lead to disengagement, I seem to recall a recent FORTUNE article profiling 9 or so companies that as of mid-January, despite recession, had never had a layoff.  Question: does that mean they operate from a different philosophy of profits vs. people, or they\'re simply being run in a more sustainable way? I recall that the list included, for example, Aflac, Devon Energy . . . Re: Steve\'s comment on business being plagued by a focus on quarterly numbers,  I led a piece of global research a couple of years ago in which we interviewed managers in 40 countries and 3 industries. One finding was how much managers in other countries think that \"being Wall Street-driven\" and \"focusing on quarterly profits vs. people\" is a US phenomenon that has been exported (because much of the world\'s recognized frameworks for and research on management are generated in North America), leaving managers around the global feeling pressured to focus on the bottom line first and foremost. They didn\'t use the word \"plague\" or \"epidemic\" per se, but they definitely indicated they thought there had a been a spread of an \"all that matters is the quarterly bottom line\" and they felt somewhat powerless to fight the phenomenon.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2864, 717, 'Wally Bock', 'wally@threestarleadership.com', 'http://blog.threestarleadership.com', '69.132.189.215', '2009-07-15 07:44:09', '2009-07-15 12:44:09', 'Nice post, Mike. I agree that the Gallup materials are good and reasonably priced, but I\'m not sure even they are necessary. I\'ve found that most good supervisors, the ones that have regular conversations with their team members, have a good idea about team strengths. What an instrument like this can do in that case is give people a common language and understanding to discuss strengths.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2865, 717, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '12.171.60.10', '2009-07-15 11:07:26', '2009-07-15 16:07:26', 'Wally,  Thanks for the comments.  You\'re right on.  Most good supervisors don\'t need this tool or any tool.  Until I had seen one used, I didn\'t appreciate the benefit provided by having a common understanding and language.  That is very helpful.  Some other benefits also include how they might confirm the supervisor\'s direction and confidence, and maybe even give them some insight they didn\'t have before.', 0, '1', '', '', 2864, 0),
(2866, 717, 'Christian Leadership', 'alex@leadercast.com', 'http://leadercast.com', '61.87.32.95', '2009-07-15 20:16:42', '2009-07-16 01:16:42', 'I just recently took the strengths finder test for my boss. He is very engaged in the strengths of his employees, and invests a lot of thought to it. Because of this, I feel that we are more efficient at what we do because we understand where our strengths lie. We all had a general idea of what we enjoyed doing, but by putting a name to these \"strengths,\" we were able to pinpoint where we could most succeed.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2867, 717, 'Joe Williams', 'joseph.l.williams@sbcglobal.net', '', '67.65.162.92', '2009-07-16 21:31:16', '2009-07-17 02:31:16', 'I recall taking the Strengths Finder 1.0 version test while I was in NASA\'s leadership development program.  I did find that it provided a common language around which to share and have conversations of individual strengths.  For me, the Strengths Finder was a paradigm shift - utilizing and further improving one\'s strengths provides a greater return on investment than working on one\'s weaknesses!  This is a fascinating perspective I\'m still exploring. I welcome your comments and reactions to that.  Cheers!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2868, 717, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '63.147.104.70', '2009-07-16 21:43:25', '2009-07-17 02:43:25', '@Christian Leadership - Thanks for the comment.  It is helpful to label the strengths.  This was the first tool I ever used that labeled Individualization as a strength.  It pegged me pretty well, but I had never seen that listed as a strength in any other study.  It was an eye opener for me.\n\n@Joe - Thanks for commenting Joe.  I was also blown away by the idea that we should focus on our strengths.  I love the idea and have been working to morph my energy and development efforts toward my strengths rather than focusing on my weaknesses.  It\'s fun to concentrate on the things I\'m most energized by rather than forcing myself to try to bring up the bottom of the spectrum.', 0, '1', '', '', 2867, 0),
(2869, 717, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com', '68.13.251.23', '2011-12-06 20:30:29', '2011-12-07 02:30:29', 'Mike,\n\nI was introduced to the books First Break All The Rules and Now Discover Your Strengths as a very young manager.  That test and the concepts in those books became some of the most powerful tools in my toolbox.\n\nTo this day I continue to use them and highly recommend them to anyone wanting to experience more joy and unleash greater results with their teams.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2870, 17792, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '68.63.228.95', '2009-06-29 15:25:31', '2009-06-29 20:25:31', 'Great questions throughout Mike.  For me the best posts are often those that leave me with more important questions to consider than answers provided.  This one hits that mark for me!\n\nDo you think the  current economic situation has made the tendency to make it even less likely for leaders to consider the question \"what do we make our employees give?\"  Are employees more likely to compromise how they want to be treated because they are in fear of losing their jobs?\n\nI think companies can get away with a lot in the short term because of the pervasive fear.  Although I believe the ones that will thrive as things turn, and perhaps even the ones who will take the lead in turning things around will be the ones that consider the needs and dreams of their people.\n\nThanks for a though provoking post.  Love your taste in movies!  And the book looks worthwhile, too.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2871, 17792, 'Ron Hurst', 'ronn.hurst@gmail.com', 'http://www.developaleader.com', '66.181.153.157', '2009-06-29 17:03:33', '2009-06-29 22:03:33', 'Mike\n\nReading between the lines, I think we share a trait of watching movies and finding key truths of leadership embedded within them. In this case the question you reference, a very good one. I must admit I missed it in watching the Bourne series and reading the Ludlum books years back. Great job identifying this excellent thoughtful question.\n\nThere is no doubt that businesses have lost their sense of what they ask their employees to give. Hidden within the utilitarian ethical stance of taking care of the business and the majority of employees at the expense of the few who are let go, I believe we have not asked this question enough.\n\nHave we really done everything necessary to help organizations survive hard times. Have we truly led organizations and stewarded them well so that when the economy turns we are not forced to ask employees to give that much more.\n\nFor me this is what leadership is about. Leading for the future even when it is easy to simply enjoy the present.  Leaders have a responsibility to those who grant them their leadership to do so with excellence and never take it for granted, never abuse the trust, never coast, never hide behind excuses when the economy turns...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2872, 17792, 'Jim Holland', 'jbhprivate@gmail.com', '', '96.18.149.43', '2009-06-29 17:07:49', '2009-06-29 22:07:49', 'Mike - great post and loved the \"Bourne\" movie analogy. Some years ago, I asked an executive; \"What\'s the greatest asset in your company?\" He replied; \"Easy, people.\" I said; \"Really? Do you really value the employees you have above all else?\" His response was; \"No. I revenue and my share price, but I\'d tell the board, analysts and our employees that its my team and employees.\"\n\nI could have been shocked, but at least he was telling the truth. A sad truth, but the truth still. As leaders, if we aren\'t focused in expanding the capabilities of our team and growing them, then what\'s the use?\n\nNot only do leaders have to \"dream of helping others,\" they have to place those dreams into action and begin mentoring those they manage, support those in their community and most importantly, within the walls of their own homes.\n\nIf those you lead see you engaging and putting forth your best effort on their behalf, you\'ll answer many of the questions in your post by providing a path that\'s in their best interest.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2873, 17792, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '12.168.167.98', '2009-06-29 17:24:23', '2009-06-29 22:24:23', 'Thanks for the wonderful comments.  I appreciate you taking the time to read the article and to comment.\n\nSusan - I do think business people automatically flow with the times and currently expect employees to automatically give more. I had a conversation yesterday related to this idea that will become another post soon.  I\'m afraid it\'s too easy to join in the tug-of-war rather than choose not to.\n\nRon - Thanks for the kind words.  The post was my wife\'s idea.  I was too busy watching the movies to make the connection. However, it does always seem to take a leader to act in the organization\'s best interests rather than just doing what\'s easy.\n\nJim - I remain amazed at the number of supposedly intelligent people that fail to understand that the best thing they can do for their revenue and share price is invest in their people.  Thanks for your insight.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2874, 17792, 'Zhana', 'zhana47@hotmail.com', 'http://www.blacksuccess1.com/', '92.40.87.42', '2009-07-01 04:10:22', '2009-07-01 09:10:22', 'Excelent piece.  Surely it\'s better to include everyone\'s needs.  this is the best way to motivate team members and the whole organisation benefits as a result.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2875, 17792, 'Sandee Wagner', 'spwagner@cox.net', '', '98.178.170.29', '2009-07-01 09:01:23', '2009-07-01 14:01:23', 'Mike,\n\nThis article really hits home with me.  We\'ve been talking to our niece about employee loyalty and what company\'s expect and what they get from the younger generation.\n\nMy father\'s generation expected to work for the same company for their whole careers.  My niece\'s generation will bail out for any reason and go to the next company.  They have no loyalty at all.  Somewhere in between is my generation, still struggling with what we owe an employer and what they owe us.  \"Look what they make us give\" is really instructive.  I need to find this book and look at the other message too.   spw', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2876, 17792, 'Mike Myatt', 'm.myatt@n2growth.com', 'http://www.n2growth.com/blog', '65.46.14.94', '2009-07-01 16:41:50', '2009-07-01 21:41:50', 'Thanks for the great post and book recommendation.   I\'ll definitely look into it.\n\n@mikemyatt', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2877, 17792, 'Mark Brewer', 'mark.brewer@yahoo.com', 'http://mabplace.blogspot.com/', '192.55.20.36', '2009-07-08 15:11:20', '2009-07-08 20:11:20', 'Thanks for these thoughts and the book recommendation.  I\'ve ordered it and will read it.\n\nThis reminds me of a lot of the collaboration thoughts where we are trying to work \'together\' to get things done.  In this case, the leaders of a team and the team members working together, helping each other, to get great things done.\n\nThanks.\nMark', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2878, 17792, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-07-08 15:23:20', '2009-07-08 20:23:20', 'My apologies for the delay in responding.  We\'ve been going through some transition here, but thankfully we\'re about done.\n\n@Zhana and <a href=\"http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/\" rel=\"nofollow\">@Mike</a>, thanks for the comments.  It\'s nice to meet you.\n\n@Sandy, It\'s good to hear from you.  One of my passions is creating a workplace that people don\'t want to leave.  I think that\'s the only answer to some of the generational challenges.  It can be very difficult to properly reward someone for giving their best hours of their best days to a company.  I think you\'re niece\'s (and my children\'s) generation is simply reacting to the truth of what has happened to our generation with our valueless 401k\'s and the frequency of layoffs.  Good points.\n\n@Mark, It\'s nice to meet you. I agree; if we work together, we create synergy and find opportunities to help each other out.  Working apart creates opportunities only for failure.', 0, '1', '', '', 2877, 0),
(2879, 17792, 'Look What They Make You Give', '', 'http://imageidentity.com/archives/577', '72.167.232.144', '2009-07-10 07:22:39', '2009-07-10 12:22:39', '[...] Read this post at: http://leadchangegroup.com/look-what-they-make-you-give/ [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2880, 17793, 'Erin Schreyer', 'eschreyer@sagestone-partners.com', 'http://www.sagestone-partners.com', '24.209.194.248', '2009-07-16 18:05:09', '2009-07-16 23:05:09', 'You are a man of integrity, Mike.  That\'s what makes you an exceptional leader!!  Very nice post!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2881, 17793, 'ellen brandt, phd', 'lifestories@optonline.net', 'http://angriestgeneration.wordpress.com/2009/07/13/were-here-were-angry-and-its-about-time-someone-listened-to-us/', '24.45.140.67', '2009-07-16 18:14:51', '2009-07-16 23:14:51', 'Mike,\n\nI think it\'s hysterically funny - sad, but funny - that some obvious Script Kiddies got into your original address for this post and diverted clickers to an advertisement for a jacket!\n\nThe whole business about faux identities, faux bios, and faux everything on the Internet - which seems to be escalating badly since the advent of \"SEO optimization\" - is based on lies and deceit, which is why the Script Kiddies did not like your post.\n\nFor a \"serious humor\" twist on the nasty and nastier Fun and Games which now go on all over the Internet, your readers might enjoy my Stilettos-Vulture piece:\n\nhttp://elleninteractive.wordpress.com/2009/06/12/i-dont-like-what-you-wrote-you-should-be-poisoned-garrotted-stabbed-with-stiletto-heels-thrown-off-a-tall-building-and-have-vultures-eat-your-liver/\n\nSome of us still believe that cordiality and civility are important virtues, even on the Web.\n\nEllen', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2882, 17793, 'Joan Koerber-Walker', 'jkw@corepurpose.net', 'http://www.CorePurpose.com', '72.201.145.84', '2009-07-16 18:32:14', '2009-07-16 23:32:14', 'Mike - I like how you turned the tables on this.  Pretty eye opening to look at it from the other person\'s perspective.  My grandmother used to love to point out that a little white lie is still a lie and that  when you stretch the truth, it isn\'t the truth anymore..', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2883, 17793, 'Valerie Plis', 'valeriePlis@ExceedWithPurposeCoaching.com', 'http://www.ExceedWithPurposeCoaching.com', '71.55.57.242', '2009-07-16 18:38:35', '2009-07-16 23:38:35', 'Great post, Mike!  This was very thought provoking and will probably hit home for a lot of people. As for me, I\'d rather be known as someone who was capable of communicating a hard truth with tact, diplomacy, and honesty.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2884, 17793, 'Jennifer Miller', 'jmiller@people-equation.com', 'http://www.jennifervmiller.com', '69.221.235.229', '2009-07-16 18:51:28', '2009-07-16 23:51:28', 'Mike,\n\nYou are NOT a lunatic.  I believe that it takes years to build one\'s credibility and only seconds to lose it.\n\nIt\'s always puzzled me why someone would present information that\'s false in the interview process.  Aside from the obvious ethical reasons for telling the truth...there\'s also the pragmatic reason.  If you land the job and have \"oversold\" yourself, it will become clear in short order that you aren\'t who you said you are.  So everyone loses-- your employer doesn\'t get what they expected and most importantly, you\'ve lost your credibility.\n\nSeems like a bad deal all the way around.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2885, 17793, 'Cindy Kraft', 'cindy@cfo-coach.com', 'http://www.cfo-coach.com', '97.96.31.91', '2009-07-17 08:46:49', '2009-07-17 13:46:49', 'I thought your post was excellent, Mike. It does take great courage to speak the truth, and requires having a value of integrity and a selfless mentality.\n\nWhat I find is that when a candidate is trying to be what a company wants, rather than remain true to who he truly is, it is always a recipe for dissatisfaction and unhappiness.\n\nIt\'s sad that they days of a hand-shake deal are long gone, that company loyalty is almost non-existent, that many promises are merely empty words delivered with no intention to follow through, that our society has turned so litigious, and that the question \"is it ok to lie in a job interview\" (even tongue-in-cheek) would even have to be asked.\n\nThanks for your great insights. It\'s always great to ponder both sides of the statement.\n\nCindy Kraft,\nthe CFO-Coach', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2886, 17793, 'Murray Williams', 'murdog@gmail.com', 'http://www.orgchamps.com', '70.233.54.70', '2009-07-17 10:32:09', '2009-07-17 15:32:09', 'Great Post!  More and more companies and their constituents will have to come to grips that we are in an information society.  Stakeholders are clamoring for more and more transparency.  This climate demands that we all come to grips that we must tell the truth, because it will come out anyway.  It is better to tell the truth now rather than try and pick up the pieces later when it blows up in your face later.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2887, 17793, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-07-17 10:40:26', '2009-07-17 15:40:26', 'Erin, thanks for the comment and the encouragement.\n\nEllen, Thanks for the comment.  I did figure out what the problem was, the link was supposed to end in a capital \"i\" rather than a small \"L\".  Bit.ly uses case sensitivity in their links.\n\nJoan, that\'s a great picture, the truth stretched isn\'t the truth any more.  I\'ve got to remember that one.  Thanks for the comment.\n\nValerie, That\'s another great reason to not lie.  Wouldn\'t it be great if more people appreciated the strength of communicating hard truths?  Thanks for the idea.\n\nJennifer, thanks for the reassurance.  :-)  We should value our true credibility rather than our \"perceived\" credibility.  That gives me a subject for another post.  If no one knows you lied, are you a truthful person?\n\nCindy, it is sad that the hand-shake deal is dead.  Thanks for your comment.', 0, '1', '', '', 2885, 0),
(2888, 17793, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-07-17 10:45:27', '2009-07-17 15:45:27', 'Murray, that\'s very true.  She even mentioned in the article that you needed to be careful to keep your story straight.  Why waste the energy juggling your past lies when you could just tell the truth?  Thanks for the comment.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2886, 0),
(2889, 17793, 'Ralph Miller', 'ralphm@verticalmeasures.com', 'http://www.verticalmeasures.com', '70.164.250.216', '2009-07-17 13:42:53', '2009-07-17 18:42:53', 'You asked: Would you feel alright if your employer lied to you if they felt like it was in their best interest?\n\nOf course not. But I can also tell you that 9 times out of 10, they absolutely do.  I was hired by a company that knew they were going out of business and I didn\'t find out until a week before it happened. \"Oh yeah...btw, you won\'t have a job next week because we\'re shutting things down. We knew when we hired you, but figured you wouldn\'t take the job if you knew...\"  Really...? Thanks...\n\nWell, I could be idealistic and say they shouldn\'t have lied. Or I could be realistic and realize that if they needed someone to get the job done, they absolutely had to lie, otherwise, no one would have accepted the job.\n\nThe other case in which I would absolutely lie is when the Nazi is knocking on my door asking if I\'m hiding a Jew in my house.  Or any similar situation...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2890, 17793, 'The Unlikely Leader | Jennifer V. Miller', '', 'http://jennifervmiller.com/the-unlikely-leader/', '97.74.24.10', '2009-07-18 13:45:08', '2009-07-18 18:45:08', '[...] his Lead Change Group blog, Mike Henry Sr. ruminated on the circumstances under which it would be OK to tell a “white lie” [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2891, 17793, 'Sally Reed', 'sallyreed11@gmail.com', '', '64.126.34.175', '2009-07-19 00:11:32', '2009-07-19 05:11:32', 'Ironically, researchers who ask employees what they want most out their employers consistently respond with \"honesty\".\n\nI don\'t know how anyone could expect it if they can\'t provide it, too.\n\nObviously, there are degrees.  And there are severe circumstances (the above commenter\'s hypothetical stormtrooper, for example) that justify lying.\n\nI\'m not so sure that starting out on the dishonest foot is really the way to go, though.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2892, 17793, 'Don Patrick', 'drpatrick@sanfordrose.com', 'http://www.sanfordrose.com/norcross', '64.207.8.119', '2009-07-20 14:36:39', '2009-07-20 19:36:39', 'Mike - I was dismayed to read the original posting. It was just another signpost on this society\'s road to ruin. Had I been bolder and more aggressive, I would have written a scathing rebuttal. But you did a great job coming up with a measured, logical, and quite convincing argument for the right path. Thanks so much....', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2893, 17793, 'Rita O', 'rita@rita-ogbeama.com', '', '64.210.19.234', '2009-07-20 18:19:17', '2009-07-20 23:19:17', 'Get post! Nice turn around as well.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2894, 17793, 'Krista Francis', 'kfrancisphr@gmail.com', '', '96.241.216.185', '2009-07-20 19:08:16', '2009-07-21 00:08:16', 'Good post.  It\'s always good to consider the other party and how you would like it if they acted like you do!   And it extends beyond \'lying.\'   Recently I read someone\'s twitter post:  \"Accepted one position.  Waiting to see if a better one comes through [so I can dump the first co].\"   I had to wonder how job applicants would like it if I wrote:   \"Hired good candidate.  Waiting to see if someone better comes along.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2895, 17793, 'Greg Porto', 'gjporto@gmail.com', 'http://www.linkedin.com/in/gregporto', '99.28.90.41', '2009-07-20 19:21:32', '2009-07-21 00:21:32', 'Every dysfunctional or destructive behavior starts out small, as does courageous or constructive behavior. Our culture and society is being destroyed by a relativism that justifies any type of behavior - instead, we need to hold each other accountable, be leadership role models, encourage each other to have the guts to take a stand. Mike, you are spot on!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2896, 17793, 'Roberta Hill', 'roberta@wghill.com', '', '188.155.227.225', '2009-07-21 04:08:35', '2009-07-21 09:08:35', 'When I read the original post I tweeted: \"What happened to truth and transparency? \"  Many of my tweeter colleagues agreed how depressing this advice was.  Thanks for your rebuttal.\n\nThis is not about a continuum of what is OK or even \"right\". We often forget there is a distinction between truth and honesty.  It is not really about lying.    It is about integrity and character. It is about honour. It is about being the change we want to see in the world.\n\nAnd as you point out, we do make mistakes but we at least know when we do.  \"This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.\"\n\nSome wonderful comments from your readers.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2897, 17793, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-07-21 04:48:55', '2009-07-21 09:48:55', 'All - Thanks for your comments.  I appreciate the lively discussion and your input.  I\'m glad to know integrity isn\'t dead, yet.\n\nRalph - Thanks for the reminder that some lies are worth telling.\n\nSally - I agree, you can\'t expect honesty any more than you provide it.\n\nDon and Rita - Thanks for the encouragement.\n\nKrista - One problem with failing to be truthful is the energy spent managing all the stories.  If you\'re not a person of integrity, it tends to be discovered at unpleasant times.\n\nGreg - Thanks for the encouragement.\n\nRoberta - Thanks for your wonderful comment too.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2898, 17793, 'Mary Katherine', 'mkquasarano@gmail.com', '', '76.247.158.126', '2009-07-21 12:06:07', '2009-07-21 17:06:07', 'What a refreshing perspective. Thank you so very much. I am reminded of a scene from \'A Man For All Season\' where Thomas More is being asked to lie about his belief on the King\'s divorce and marriage in order to save his title - and his head from the chopping block. The following is an exchange between More and Henry VIII:\nSir Thomas More: Then why does your Grace need my poor support?\nKing Henry VIII: Because you\'re honest... and what is more to the purpose, you\'re KNOWN to be honest. There are those like Norfolk who follow me because I wear the crown; and those like Master Cromwell who follow me because they are jackals with sharp teeth and I\'m their tiger; there\'s a mass that follows me because it follows anything that moves. And then there\'s you...\nSir Thomas More: I am sick to think how much I must displease your Grace.\nKing Henry VIII: No, Thomas, I respect your sincerity. But respect... man, that\'s water in the desert.\nBeing known to be honest...truly as refreshing as water in the desert these days - and always.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2899, 17793, 'Bill', 'billpescod@gmail.com', '', '69.249.204.108', '2009-07-21 15:54:50', '2009-07-21 20:54:50', 'At The Fortune 20 company I work for upper management is quite adept at \"half-truths\".  Maybe these aren\'t outright lies but I think that executives delude themselves into thinking that they are acceptable.  This is probably why so many of my colleagues and workers in general are very jaded and justify white lies when it is in their interest.  After all it\'s like the old commercial when the parents ask their kids why he smokes.  The answer - \"I learned it from you!\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2900, 17793, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-07-21 16:13:42', '2009-07-21 21:13:42', 'Mary Katherine - Thanks for the comment.  Wouldn\'t it be nice if we had more water in the desert?\n\nBill - Thanks for the honest comment.  It\'s no doubt that your reasoning is common among our friends and coworkers.  I just wish we could all remember that even if, like the kid in the commercial, we can blame our parents, we\'re can\'t skip out on the consequences of our own actions.', 0, '1', '', '', 2899, 0),
(2901, 17793, 'Doug Edgar', 'doug@compass-strategies.ca', '', '207.216.31.215', '2009-07-21 22:40:53', '2009-07-22 03:40:53', 'Mike, you make me think (not always a good thing according to my girlfriend).  I saw the title to this post in your index and immediately needed to check it out.\n\nDeceit is human. Who hasn\'t lied? Integrity is also human. Who hasn\'t bucked up and confessed the truth from time to time? In some cultures, deceit is expected and praised (in one ethnic group of which I have considerable experience, sharing how one got away with something is among the grandest of stories).\n\nSeems like in our culture, we honor integrity with our words but practice and accept deceit with our actions.  We re-elect dishonest politicians and wish the courts would be more liberal in how they enforce the rights of criminals (until we are directly affected).  We too often look the other way on what we know is wrong. We still love Bill Clinton after he looked right at us and lied about his affair with Monika Lewinsky. The President of the United States looked us in the eyes and lied to protect himself.  Nixon got run out of office and lived in virtual exile for the remaining years of his life. Clinton makes $200,000 per speaking engagement because so many people revere him.\n\nI think one\'s level of emotional maturity is the difference between choosing deceit and choosing the truth. Truth is tough.  We can know right from wrong but I think we need a healthy level of emotional maturity to practice it.\n\nMaybe we need to be more focused on helping future generations develop healthy levels of maturity that allow them to live right than to talk right.\n\nWhat a big topic.  It could take a book to cover everything.\n\nRegards,\nDoug', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2902, 17793, 'Zhana', 'zhana47@hotmail.com', 'http://www.blacksuccess1.com', '92.40.167.98', '2009-07-23 05:52:17', '2009-07-23 10:52:17', 'It is natural to tell the occasional lie (I know I have) and it is also natural to tell the truth.  We have a choice:  can go with our baser instincts, or with our higher ideals.\n\nIf we want honesty and integrity from our employers, colleagues and clients, we must demonstrate these qualities.\n\nI recently listened to a teleseminar by Christine Kloser on how to double your business this year.  She talked about three conscious business strategies, one of which was to be real, to be authentic.  If you are not being authentic in your business, people will pick up on it.  You will not perform at your highest possible level.\n\nBut most importantly, you will know.  You are not being true to yourself.  Somewhere, you are letting yourself down.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2903, 17793, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-07-26 18:19:29', '2009-07-26 23:19:29', '@Zhana - Thanks for the comment.  We do all \"let ourselves down\" when we try to take shortcuts, or try to misrepresent rather than being authentic.  Let\'s stay with our higher ideals.', 0, '1', '', '', 2902, 0),
(2904, 17793, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-07-26 18:23:09', '2009-07-26 23:23:09', '@Doug - My apologies for the delay responding.  It would take a book.  I hope you\'re working on one.  We all know what \"right\" is, yet many times we choose expedient or what appears to be expedient over what\'s \"right.\"  I agree too that we need to live right, which is better than just talking right.  Thanks for commenting and joining the group.  I appreciate it.', 0, '1', '', '', 2901, 0),
(2905, 705, 'Mike Van Hoozer', 'mvanhoozer@hotmail.com', 'http://www.mikevanhoozer.com', '216.215.118.105', '2009-08-04 10:10:53', '2009-08-04 15:10:53', 'Great post!  Reflection is a key component of learning and leadership!  I really appreciated your perspective on this.  This quote in my book \"Moments: Making Your Life Count For What Matters Most\" complements your point: \"Learn from the past, prepare for the future, perform in the moment!\"\n\nMike', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2906, 705, 'Wally Bock', 'wally@threestarleadership.com', 'http://blog.threestarleadership.com', '69.132.189.215', '2009-08-05 07:35:26', '2009-08-05 12:35:26', 'Great post. Feedback is the breakfast of champions, but we need to provide some if it for ourselves. Over the years, I\'ve found that clients and class participants seem to do best if they develop a habit of reflection and critique. That usually involves a notebook or other way to record thoughts and a specific time to reflect. For some people it\'s part of the activity. Finish the meeting, jot down some notes. For others it\'s a daily or weekly time set aside to reflect.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2907, 705, 'Wally Bock', 'wally@threestarleadership.com', 'http://blog.threestarleadership.com', '69.132.189.215', '2009-08-05 14:23:34', '2009-08-05 19:23:34', 'Congratulations! This post was selected as one of the five best independent business blog posts of the week in my Three Star Leadership Midweek Review of the Business Blogs.\n\nhttp://blog.threestarleadership.com/2009/08/05/8509-midweek-look-at-the-independent-business-blogs.aspx\n\nWally Bock\n.-= Wally Bock´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://blog.threestarleadership.com/2009/08/05/8509-midweek-look-at-the-independent-business-blogs.aspx?ref=rss\" rel=\"nofollow\">8/5/09: Midweek Look at the Independent Business Blogs</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2908, 705, 'Mark Allen Roberts', 'mark@outbsolutions.com', 'http://www.nosmokeandmirrors.com', '75.210.79.251', '2009-08-05 15:33:16', '2009-08-05 20:33:16', 'I enjoyed your post,\nSelf reflection is key to growth as a leader.\nFor me it’s a time to confirm I know what I know, as well as know what I don’t know and create an action plan to fill in the gaps.\nI share more about this in my blog post: Your “gut” and “intuition” are not enough…today http://nosmokeandmirrors.wordpress.com/2009/02/13/youre-gut-and-intuition-are-not-enoughtoday/\nMarket leaders understand the need to have refection time to remain humble.\nMarket losers continue to shoot from the hip as they do not know what they don’t know.\nMark Allen Roberts', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2909, 705, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-08-05 17:55:09', '2009-08-05 22:55:09', 'Mike, Thanks for the comment and the quote. Reflection is only beneficial if it helps you to prepare for the future and perform.', 0, '1', '', '', 2905, 0),
(2910, 705, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-08-05 17:57:26', '2009-08-05 22:57:26', 'Wally, Thank you for the comment and the plug on the Midweek Look for your Three Star Leadership Blog.  You always have great insights and practical advice about leadership.', 0, '1', '', '', 2907, 0),
(2911, 705, 'Naomi Caietti, PMP', 'ncaietti3@gmail.com', 'http://www.linkedin.com/in/naomicaietti', '99.185.1.77', '2009-08-05 17:57:56', '2009-08-05 22:57:56', 'Great post.  Let me share some other thoughts.  Failure to reflect can also come from not recognizing that a leader must learn to use other approaches that they can integrate into their daily life.  Reflection is really all about emotional intelligence.  The more seasoned leader you become the more powerful emotional intelligence will be to you; so it\'s important to take time to reflect daily.\n\nNaomi Caietti, PMP', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2912, 705, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-08-05 18:01:14', '2009-08-05 23:01:14', 'Mark, that\'s a great reminder that we need to identify what we don\'t know or didn\'t do right and create an action plan to fill in the gaps.  You\'re post was a great look into the hows and why\'s of doing that.  Thanks.', 0, '1', '', '', 2908, 0),
(2913, 705, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-08-05 18:05:13', '2009-08-05 23:05:13', 'Naomi, you\'re right on.  Many times we fail to reflect out of a lack of empathy for the other person\'s point of view.  We can\'t even consider the possibility that there were different perspectives on decisions we made or actions we took.  I lumped this in with fear of being wrong, but it also comes from a lack of emotional intelligence.  Thanks for the insight.', 0, '1', '', '', 2911, 0),
(2914, 705, 'Andy Parkinson&#8217;s World &raquo; Blog Archive &raquo; Time for Rest and Reflection', '', '', '67.205.39.168', '2009-08-11 17:37:28', '2009-08-11 22:37:28', '[...] is in the air. Last week, Mike Henry posted a fine piece titled: &#8220;Three Reasons Why Leaders Fail to Reflect.&#8221; This week, I saw two more posts on related [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2915, 746, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '68.63.228.95', '2009-07-22 17:43:29', '2009-07-22 22:43:29', 'Thank you for the great summary of your experience with the NetTPS Values process.  It is one of the most effective tools I have found for working with individuals and organizations on discerning their values and unlocking potential.\n\nIt always helps when you are working with someone committed to their own growth and development.  You made the process a pleasure!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2916, 746, 'Martine Berreitter', 'martine@nettps.com', 'http://www.nettps.com', '71.165.193.98', '2009-07-23 13:24:01', '2009-07-23 18:24:01', 'Thank you Susan and Mike for giving a shout out for the NetTPS values approach.  It really is all about identifing what is important to you, not what you think should be important.\n\nI like to define \"Values\" as the filters both incoming and outgoing of what is important to you, the core of communication and ultimately finding those drivers that are exciting, motivating and enjoyable for you.\n\nSusan Mazza is a shining star when it comes to providing the NetTPS experience!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2917, 746, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-07-26 18:17:41', '2009-07-26 23:17:41', '@Martine - Thanks for your comment.  I appreciate your definition.  The NetTPS tool was very helpful and took so little time to complete.  I was surprised.  Thanks.', 0, '1', '', '', 2916, 0),
(2918, 746, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-07-26 18:20:23', '2009-07-26 23:20:23', '@Susan - You\'ve been a great help to me in just a short time.  I appreciate the opportunity to work with you and get to know you.  Thanks.', 0, '1', '', '', 2915, 0),
(2919, 771, 'Erin Schreyer', 'eschreyer@sagestone-partners.com', 'http://www.sagestone-partners.com', '24.209.194.162', '2009-08-19 22:46:41', '2009-08-20 03:46:41', 'Always inspirational, Mike!!  Another great post!  I agree that the win-win can be achieved, if only the desire is there and some time is taken to go after it!  There doesn\'t have to be a loser, if things are managed well!!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2920, 771, 'Wally Bock', 'wally@threestarleadership.com', 'http://blog.threestarleadership.com', '69.132.189.215', '2009-08-20 15:27:33', '2009-08-20 20:27:33', 'It\'s not a matter of balance at all. If you\'re a boss you\'re supposed to accomplish the mission and you\'re supposed to care for the people. True, sometimes those goals will be in tension, but that\'s life. It isn\'t one or the other. It\'s both.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2921, 771, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-08-20 16:31:58', '2009-08-20 21:31:58', 'Thanks for the comment Wally.  Where I intended to go was to make the point that it\'s not a balancing act. The most successful are win-win relationships where the mission IS what\'s best for the people and vice versa.', 0, '1', '', '', 2920, 0),
(2922, 771, 'Bud', 'bud.coburn@gmail.com', '', '75.117.168.28', '2009-08-21 11:41:16', '2009-08-21 16:41:16', 'Great article!\n\nThe win-win is the ideal situation for a manager to achieve between the needs of the company and employees.  The more successful managers have support from executive management at all levels.  It is also based on the culture of the company and employees.  Typically a non bargained group allows more flexibility than a bargained.\n\nThe key for the manager in achieving the win-win, is doing the right thing for the right reasons while looking at the end game of providing great service or products.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2923, 771, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-08-21 11:43:51', '2009-08-21 16:43:51', 'Bud, Thanks for the comment.  You are always one of the managers I think of when writing these types of posts.  \"The right thing for the right reasons\" is a good way to put it.', 0, '1', '', '', 2922, 0),
(2924, 774, 'Wally Bock', 'wally@threestarleadership.com', 'http://blog.threestarleadership.com', '69.132.189.215', '2009-07-28 16:54:25', '2009-07-28 21:54:25', 'Wonderful post, Mike. You say that \"Valuable leaders with complex relationships are multi-colored, talented individuals.\" I would add that the people on those teams are multi-colored, talented individuals as well.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2925, 774, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/about/', '63.147.104.70', '2009-07-28 21:18:34', '2009-07-29 02:18:34', 'Wally, I agree.  I was a little \"locked-in\" on the leadership aspect.  Many times multiple people on the team actually lead in different  situations and environments.  All of that complexity is difficult for control-based substitutes for leadership.  Thanks for the comment!\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2924, 0),
(2926, 774, 'Chris Plamann', 'chris@cplamann.com', 'http://www.cplamann.com/wordpress', '72.211.221.174', '2009-07-30 10:50:36', '2009-07-30 15:50:36', 'Mike, interesting post.  Really like the idea of owning your own situation and creating your masterpiece.  I find that we often feel like victims of what we believe to be imposed circumstances.  Yet I think it is much more often true that we tend to impose those circumstances on ourselves by affirming the situation and constraints others have placed upon us.  Or in your words, \"labels.\"\n\nFound your post ties in nicely with a Chris Brogan post of a few days ago, \"You are the Captain.\"  His point parallels yours in that we have to take control of our situation and create the outcome we want.  Not allow others to pigeonhole us into roles we can or can\'t play (according to them). Growing into better managers or leaders, or more aptly, some combination of the two, is a process each individual must own for themselves.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2927, 774, 'Jennifer V. Miller', 'jmiller@people-equation.com', 'http://jennifervmiller.com/', '69.221.235.229', '2009-08-05 07:38:58', '2009-08-05 12:38:58', 'Mike,\n\nI really appreciate writers who avoid an either/or approach.  This is a very nuanced discussion about leadership AND management.\n\nLove the color analogy!\n.-= Jennifer V. Miller´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://jennifervmiller.com/the-3-ps-of-trying-new-things/\" rel=\"nofollow\">The 3 P’s of Trying New Things</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2928, 802, 'Ron Hudson', 'ron@immediateinfluenceblog.com', 'http://immediateinfluenceblog.com', '70.142.47.185', '2009-07-31 18:09:57', '2009-07-31 23:09:57', 'Mike, this is an insightful post because it reveals how one can often look back at the \"toughest times\" in his life and realize that, if it were not for those times, he would not love as deeply, forgive as quickly, or lead as effectively.\n\nThanks for writing this post!\n\nWarmly,\nRon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2929, 802, 'tim', 'timageis@gmail.com', 'http://www.studentlinc.net', '71.37.168.78', '2009-07-31 18:24:50', '2009-07-31 23:24:50', 'Hi Mike:\nI\'ve been following your tweets on Twitter for awhile now and this article caught my attention. Probably because I\'ve been thinking about my work with student leaders. What I\'ve discovered is that a student doesn\'t become a student leader simply because of one\'s election or selection. Rather, a student who invests in the right kind of reflection is the one who starts to do the things that student leader\'s do. That\'s because they took the time to think the way leaders think. The central part of that thinking is the necessary step of reflection.\n\nThanks for providing a great article here and I look forward to continuing to learn from you in the days ahead.\n\nBlessings,\ntim milburn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2930, 802, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '63.147.104.70', '2009-07-31 18:31:44', '2009-07-31 23:31:44', 'Ron, thanks for commenting. Forgiving quickly is a key as well.  Thanks for the reminder.  Follow up posts will be coming and one is about how we can err in how we process our experiences.   Forgiveness is the key to objective reflection.', 0, '1', '', '', 2928, 0),
(2931, 802, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '63.147.104.70', '2009-07-31 18:35:46', '2009-07-31 23:35:46', 'Tim,\nThanks so much for taking the time to respond.  You\'re right that thinking is the key.  Thomas J. Watson Sr., long time head of IBM, was famous for his one-word IBM philosophy: THINK.  Students (or anyone) willing to do that has the first key to leadership.', 0, '1', '', '', 2929, 0),
(2932, 802, 'Jessica Bates', 'jeslbates@gmail.com', '', '69.88.250.20', '2009-07-31 18:49:11', '2009-07-31 23:49:11', 'Exactly how I felt, Ron. Rather than compete with your eloquent response, I will simply agree with it. Well said!\n\nThank you for this reminder, Mike. Though sometimes painful, reflection is a necessary part of growth!\n\nBest,\nJessica', 0, '1', '', '', 2928, 0),
(2933, 802, 'Nicole De Falco', 'nicole@writeinfluence.com', '', '64.53.228.254', '2009-07-31 21:36:26', '2009-08-01 02:36:26', 'Too often, we avoid looking back because we dread that aweful internal cringe when remembering mistakes. That guilt and/or shame is self-induced. Taking the perspective of this post, we should look back objectively to ensure we\'ve learned something from the experience. If we\'ve gained insight from our mistakes, then there is no need for guilt, shame, or regret.\n\n--Nicole', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2934, 802, 'Naomi Caietti, PMP', 'ncaietti3@gmail.com', 'http://bit.ly/RpRsj', '99.185.1.77', '2009-08-01 01:14:09', '2009-08-01 06:14:09', 'Hi Mike:\nNice website; this is a leadership tool I  often use.  Leadership is built one day at a time so I recognize that reflection is key to honing my authentic leadership style.\nReflection is an important part of your regime  ~ your personal continous growth and development plan.  Reflection can also take many forms so consider reflecting by going to a retreat and spend time thinking, finding a nice quiet spot on a couch with a book, writing down your reflections of past experiences both positive and negative, listen to leadership books on tape and reflecting with  a mentor ~ as you have suggested.\nThank you for your \"reflections\" of leadership ; it is a journey worth taking to become a better leader.\n\nAll the best,\n\n~Naomi', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2935, 802, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-08-02 21:29:19', '2009-08-03 02:29:19', 'Thanks Nicole.  \"No need for guilt, shame, or regret\" is a good thing.  I appreciate your comments.\n.-= Mike Henry´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/LeadChangeGroupRSS/~3/9gqmVLWHk5I/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Reflect Back To Lead Forward</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 2933, 0),
(2936, 802, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-08-02 21:32:02', '2009-08-03 02:32:02', 'Naomi,  Thanks for the comment.  You\'re correct that reflection is a self-development effort.  Most of \"leadership development\" is self development.  Sometimes the best we can do to help someone else is to offer to be a mentor.\n.-= Mike Henry´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/LeadChangeGroupRSS/~3/9gqmVLWHk5I/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Reflect Back To Lead Forward</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 2934, 0),
(2937, 802, 'Mark', 'askthecoach@pdncoach.com', 'http://www.purposeandnow.com/', '98.214.219.167', '2009-08-03 19:08:27', '2009-08-04 00:08:27', 'Mike, great post on the value of reflections and reflective thinking. Another nuance on using the \"Past Success/Future Success\" activity is to ask people to consider the Past list as a self-assessment, a measure of who they are now, and the Future list as a measure of their Potential. Which was longer?\n\nBy the way, I love \"The Noticer\". Beautiful, rich parable that I will read again.\n.-= Mark´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/blogspot/purposeandnow/~3/Sj72Q4whxEI/lessons-from-aunt-beck-lesson-2-keeping.html\" rel=\"nofollow\">Lessons from Aunt Beck - Lesson #2: Keeping Score</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2938, 802, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-08-03 20:03:57', '2009-08-04 01:03:57', 'Mark, thanks for the comment.  The self-assessment vs. potential evaluation is a good one.  Thanks for the tip.', 0, '1', '', '', 2937, 0);
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(2939, 802, 'how tall is leonardo dicaprio', 'jaimierupp@gmail.com', 'http://www.heightcelebs.com/', '123.20.142.75', '2016-11-14 14:45:53', '2016-11-14 19:45:53', 'Ⲩou really make іt seem so easy with your prеsentation but I find this matter to be actually something which I think I would never understand.\n\nIt seems too complicated and extremely broad for me.\nI\'m ⅼooking forwarԁ for your next post, I will try to get the hang of it!', 0, '0', '', '', 0, 0),
(2940, 957, 'Steve', 'budgetcuts@gmail.com', '', '204.85.24.5', '2009-11-09 18:11:23', '2009-11-09 23:11:23', 'I believe that you missed the point. If you face your fears, you are able to have courage to write a poem or symphony.  God has given Max the talent to write what God has put into his heart. Fearless shows Christians that it is normal  to be afraid,how to face our fears and to put everything in Christ\'s loving hands.  This book is a must read for Christians and even better book when you take your Bible and follow the scripture that Max references. Thank you Steve', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2941, 957, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-11-09 23:36:14', '2009-11-10 04:36:14', 'Thanks for the feedback.  I thought I agreed with you, but maybe not.  Courage is acting in spite of your fear.  It is a great book and I highly recommend it.', 0, '1', '', '', 2940, 0),
(2942, 982, 'Tweets that mention Unique Difference -- Topsy.com', '', 'http://topsy.com/tb/bit.ly/tEBtF', '208.74.66.43', '2009-10-02 08:23:01', '2009-10-02 13:23:01', '[...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by steveroesler. steveroesler said: Reading @mikehenrysr &quot;Unique Difference&quot; http://bit.ly/tEBtF [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2943, 982, 'Jennifer Miller', 'jmiller@people-equation.com', 'http://www.jennifervmiller.com', '69.221.245.232', '2009-10-02 08:26:08', '2009-10-02 13:26:08', 'Mike,\n\nHappily, one of my \"things\" is commenting on blogs :-)\n\nIt\'s never a bad strategy to \"be yourself\".  It\'s just that sometimes we can\'t figure out how to be ourselves and still do the mundane things in life like pay the bills.  It seems to me the key is to find a way to \"feed\" our uniqueness each day, even if it isn\'t immediately moving us toward the big picture.  That way, it doesn\'t feel so defeating if we feel we\'ve temporarily moved away from our chosen path in order to put food on the table or clothes on the kids\' back.\n\nDoes that make sense?\n.-= Jennifer Miller´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://jennifervmiller.com/the-anatomy-of-a-comment/\" rel=\"nofollow\">The Anatomy of a Comment</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2944, 982, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-02 08:30:41', '2009-10-02 13:30:41', 'Thanks Jennifer. That is a wonderful suggestion for daily remembering and \"feeding\" our uniqueness rather than letting our everyday lives drive us to the edge.  That\'s a great idea.  Sounds like another post...\n.-= Mike Henry´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/LeadChangeGroupRSS/~3/SV0KakGrXZk/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Unique Difference</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 2943, 0),
(2945, 982, 'Joanne Maly', 'joanne@lincolnmaly.com', 'http://www.lincolnmalymarketing.com/blog/simply-said', '74.215.64.229', '2009-10-02 15:06:42', '2009-10-02 20:06:42', 'Mike, I love this post. It reaches right to the core of what motivates me and inspires me at this point in my own life.\n\nParticularly, these words ring loudly.\n\"Companies can choose to be distinct or they can choose to copy someone else ....  Success often went to those who chose to pursue their own path with clarity, creativity, communcation, ultimate customer focus.  It seems easier to do what others are doing.  ... \"\n\nThank you for speaking such wise words on a Friday afternoon -- and at the beginning of yet another month.\n\nMy best to you,\nJoanne', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2946, 982, 'John Barcanic', 'john@barcanic.com', '', '208.107.124.142', '2009-10-02 15:11:43', '2009-10-02 20:11:43', 'Being my unique self means embracing the complexity of interests, passions, strengths, skills, etc. that make me who I am. It\'s so easy to focus on one small part of \"multi-dimensional me\" (usually the part that\'s most rewarded by the marketplace) to the exclusion of the rest of what makes me unique. This flattens my life and keeps me from being as creative and effective as I could be if I would bring all the facets of my being to the table.\n.-= John Barcanic´s last blog ..A New Tool for Managing Too Much Information =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2947, 982, 'Nicole De Falco', 'nicole@writeinfluence.com', 'http://www.writeinfluence.com', '64.53.228.254', '2009-10-02 21:18:47', '2009-10-03 02:18:47', 'Hi Mike, there were so many points in this post that really struck a chord for me. The \"People Pleasing\" section is especially poignant. I often find myself saying \"yes\" to commitments because the person I think I\'m supposed to be would say \"yes.\" Sometimes saying \"yes\" is because it is difficult to say \"no.\" Although, when I think about these situations , there\'s another dynamic at work. At times, saying \"yes\" is not so much denying my uniqueness in an effort to be like everyone else. It\'s more about not giving in to the part of me that hates doing/trying things outside of my comfort zone. I know if I give into that fear, it will keep me from succeeding or contributing.\n\nI love your posts! They getting people thinking and discussing!\n--Nicole', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2948, 982, 'Amy Bryant', 'amy@iplaybig.com', '', '66.41.71.182', '2009-10-03 07:52:30', '2009-10-03 12:52:30', 'Mike, I can relate to your words about the temptation of adopting others\' strategy when we see it working. Sometimes that\'s ok - why reinvent the wheel? I think it\'s when we know in our heart of hearts that the strategy goes against the very grain of who we are or what we value that\'s when we need to draw a line in The sand. \"Common practice\" doesn\'t necessarily mean common good. These words by Gandhi encourage me:\n\nFirst they ignore you. And then they ridicule you.  And\n then they attack you.  And then they build monuments to\n you.\n\nWe may not want monuments built in our name, but wouldn\'t you love to see a couple for the cause? ;)\n\nKeep Playing BIG,\nAmy', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2949, 982, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-03 15:50:27', '2009-10-03 20:50:27', 'Thanks for the comment Joanne.  I\'d love to take more credit but some of what you appreciated came from a recap of Collapse of Distinction by Scott McKain.  I have been challenged and encouraged by that book.  Check it out.\n.-= Mike Henry´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/LeadChangeGroupRSS/~3/SV0KakGrXZk/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Unique Difference</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 2945, 0),
(2950, 982, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-03 15:52:53', '2009-10-03 20:52:53', 'Great point Nicole. Many times we avoid going where all the way to our true calling as a way of playing it safe for comfort, rather than fear reasons.  We do expend great resources in the pursuit of comfort.  Thanks for the comment.\n.-= Mike Henry´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/LeadChangeGroupRSS/~3/SV0KakGrXZk/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Unique Difference</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 2947, 0),
(2951, 982, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-03 15:56:30', '2009-10-03 20:56:30', 'I appreciate your comment Amy. Many times something is being done just about as well as it can be and we\'d be stupid not to copy that and remain patient to wait until some other event (technological, economic, etc.) comes along to create a new opportunity.  Like you said, the real test is where we draw the line in relation to ourselves.  Thanks.\n.-= Mike Henry´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/LeadChangeGroupRSS/~3/SV0KakGrXZk/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Unique Difference</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 2948, 0),
(2952, 982, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-03 16:02:01', '2009-10-03 21:02:01', 'John, thanks for the comment. I like the term \"flattens my life\" because of the picture it presents of a one-dimensional life, but also one that is not inflated, energized, mobilize, or inspired.  Great thought!', 0, '1', '', '', 2946, 0),
(2953, 982, 'Jim Seybert', 'jim@jimseybert.com', 'http://jimseybert.com', '66.215.60.63', '2009-10-03 19:05:19', '2009-10-04 00:05:19', 'It is certainly risky to step out and go where no one else has been. Some folks are just not wired for that - they\'re more comfortable in the status quo even though they know deep down that change is imperative. For those would want to risk change but are smart enough to know they shouldn\'t attempt it alone, my advice is to find someone you trust who IS wired to change and risk taking. Explain to them where you are, where you\'ve been and what elements of your status quo you think might need to change. Let them ask you LOTS of questions and make suggestions. The final decision and action will be yours - it has to be - and the input you gather from your more futuristic friends will be invaluable.\n\nThe greatest risk you can take is not taking a risk.\n.-= Jim Seybert´s last blog ..Rufus Hussey and his strengths =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2954, 982, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-04 08:41:23', '2009-10-04 13:41:23', 'Jim, thanks. Your comment about finding someone who IS wired to change and risk taking is very wise.  I think for all of us, a key to developing in any area is to find help from a key friend with that strength who will help you. Thanks for the reminder.', 0, '1', '', '', 2953, 0),
(2955, 982, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '67.172.69.119', '2009-10-06 08:20:19', '2009-10-06 13:20:19', 'Really well done Mike.  You have some very memorable and quotable statements here.  My favorite:  \"It takes courage to be true to yourself, but regret is a heavy consequence.\"\n\nI would add the need to belong or to fit in as something that keep sus from doing out thing.  As much as we may want to express our uniqueness we also have a need to belong and sometimes the two feel can like they are at odds.\n\nThat is one reason why I so respect the incredible Linked In community Lead Change that you have created.  You created a way for those of us who are forging our own path to belong to a community of like minded people.  This is one of many ways you demonstrate in action the authentic and talented leader you are.\n.-= Susan Mazza´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://randomactsofleadership.com/2009/10/05/we-are-not-poor/\" rel=\"nofollow\">We Are Not Poor</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2956, 982, 'Erin Schreyer', 'eschreyer@sagestone-partners.com', 'http://www.sagestone-partners.com', '24.209.196.38', '2009-10-06 08:35:27', '2009-10-06 13:35:27', 'Fabulous post, Mike! I love it!!\n\nI, too, am a firm believer that we are each uniquely created (coincidentally, I just tweeted about that this morning!)  That means that our path should not look exactly like anyone else\'s, because we all have unique gifts and talents that should be leveraged throughout the course of our lives and careers.\n\nIt seems so many people get caught in the \"comparison trap\" in very unhealthy ways.  If we are to compare, choose a person that inspires you to be better and make changes accordingly and in-tune with your own gifting.  Don\'t, however, choose to compare just to bring yourself down.  There\'s not any benefit!\n\nThe key, which is hard for so many, is trying to determine what your unique path is.  It takes lots of introspection, talking with people close to you and determining what makes you \'tick.\'  It\'s a process, for sure...but well worth the findings at the end!!!\n\nWay to motivate everyone, Mike!!  Nicely done!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2957, 982, 'Marion Chapsal', 'marion.chapsal@wanadoo.fr', 'http://www.geronimocoaching.com/', '83.205.184.245', '2009-10-06 10:29:31', '2009-10-06 15:29:31', 'Amazing how your post resonated with me, Mike.\nI had just received from Susan Mazza, on Twitter the following message, after she retweeted a quote I liked \"always seems I see the perfect quotes at the perfect time in my twitter stream...\nI then read Suzan\'s stream and found a link to your blog...Just like following a magical thread.\nWhy did it resonate with me?\nLast week, I had to to a tender for a very big European Bank. Part of the tender was to provide a 3 minute video presentation of ourselves.\nI was very honored to have been picked and wanted to show me at \"my best\".\nIt resulted into me dressing up very formaly, hair attached in a strict old fashion, glasses on and very serious business like looking.\nI was doing exactly what you described in your last section \"Do you do things people appreciate without considering what your own strengths, desires or what energizes you? \".\nWell, I don\'t have the response yet, but I showed this video clip of me to my eldest daughter.\nShe said \"But I don\'t recognize, you, Maman! Who\'s this serious person? You seem tensed behind your fake smile.\" (She can be quite tough, this girl! But what she said was true.)\nI had forced myself into what I pictured would be the model executive woman they were expecting.\nI had tried very hard to conceal the joyfulness, mischievous, playful side of me, afraid they would not like it...\nThat was a good lesson. Now I know about the video technique, I will \"loosen up\" and show more of my true self. Very ironic when you think that my job is to reveal that in others!\nThank you for this gentle reminder, Mike!\n.-= Marion Chapsal´s last blog ..Welcome =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2958, 982, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-06 12:16:48', '2009-10-06 17:16:48', 'Thanks Susan. I\'m energized that the Internet has made it easier to find our community rather than having to try to fit into one that isn\'t really \"ours.\" The key seems to be in not giving up. I won\'t if you won\'t... :-)\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 2955, 0),
(2959, 982, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-06 12:22:46', '2009-10-06 17:22:46', 'Erin, thanks for the comment. I confess I often am tempted to compare.  And many times, I would say almost every time, the comparisons are not good.  I compare myself with someone much better at something (their something) and get discouraged.  Or, I compare myself with someone much worse at something (my something) and be wrongly inflated.  I just try to remember I\'m not racing against anyone, but I\'m trying to make sure I don\'t have room to second-guess my own effort.  I may do the wrong thing, but I want to do it to the best of my ability without regard for anyone else.', 0, '1', '', '', 2956, 0),
(2960, 982, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-06 12:28:31', '2009-10-06 17:28:31', 'Marion, thanks for the story and your transparency in sharing.  Thanks too for following your promptings to arrive here.  I appreciate the story.  Sometimes I think I\'ve spent most of my life trying to fit into someone else\'s box.  Little real good ever comes from it.  The people around me deserve my best which usually only comes when I\'m energized and operating from who I am rather than who I am not.\n\nLet\'s not be who we\'re not anymore.  OK?', 0, '1', '', '', 2957, 0),
(2961, 982, 'L Smith', 'lar_smith@hotmail.com', '', '69.222.50.38', '2009-10-07 08:35:47', '2009-10-07 13:35:47', 'Being unique as an individual helps bring uniqueness to a business and it\'s the people that are the core of what differentiates a business.  If one works with people that think similarly, the overall capacity for creative ideas is limited.  Business creativity is more easily born out of unique ideas and unique ideas come from unique people.  This is why I believe that the most diverse businesses are the most successful.\n\nRemember, American was born out of rugged individualism, not weak conformity.\n\nOne more thought.  Let\'s not fall into the trap of too much inward thinking; don\'t think I how can be more unique, but think how my uniqueness can benefit others.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2962, 982, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-08 19:52:29', '2009-10-09 00:52:29', 'Thanks very much for your comment and the cautionary reminder.  People are the core of the business and the best businesses seem to understand and appreciate that.\n\nAnd we do need to avoid the trap of too much inward thinking.  Inward thinking causes us to slow down.  Any thoughts that hinder action eventually paralyzes us and perpetuates the problem.  A big part of working through the problem is to to keep moving and correcting as we go.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2963, 982, 'Tweets that mention Unique Difference -- Topsy.com', '', 'http://topsy.com/tb/bit.ly/91IzG6', '208.74.66.43', '2009-12-30 09:59:45', '2009-12-30 14:59:45', '[...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Dale Lawrence, Mike Henry Sr.. Mike Henry Sr. said: An oldie: &quot;Few rewarding things are easy, Uniqueness requires courage.&quot; Unique Difference http://bit.ly/91IzG6 [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
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(2965, 982, 'uberVU - social comments', '', '', '67.202.32.232', '2010-01-18 19:33:58', '2010-01-19 01:33:58', '<strong>Social comments and analytics for this post...</strong>\n\nThis post was mentioned on Twitter by mikehenrysr: An oldie: \"Few rewarding things are easy, Uniqueness requires courage.\" Unique Difference http://bit.ly/91IzG6...', 0, '1', '', 'trackback', 0, 0),
(2966, 1000, 'perry maughmer', 'maughmer@gmail.com', 'http://perrymaughmer.wordpress.com/', '69.133.77.113', '2009-10-08 08:51:01', '2009-10-08 13:51:01', 'Mike,\nI think what you may be talking about is actually a \"community of practice\"?  The concept developed by Etienne Wegner (http://www.ewenger.com/) that he defines as \"Communities of practice are groups of people who share a concern or a passion for something they do and learn how to do it better as they interact regularly.\"\nThis would be engaging for the linkedin group and can take different \"shapes\" depending on the needs of those in the community.\nGreat thought provoking post!\n.-= perry maughmer´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://perrymaughmer.wordpress.com/2009/10/07/connecting-the-dots/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Connecting the dots</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2967, 1000, 'Erin Schreyer', 'eschreyer@sagestone-partners.com', 'http://www.sagestone-partners.com', '24.209.196.38', '2009-10-08 11:51:18', '2009-10-08 16:51:18', 'AWESOME, AWESOME, AWESOME, Mike!!  Way to start a flame...and then put the onus on the larger group to turn it into a fire!!  This is a CALL, and leaders who hear the calling should engage!  We CAN make a difference, but only if we want to adn only if we put a real effort toward making it happen.  What a great start you\'ve given us, Mike.  Can\'t wait for LEADERPALOOZA...and so, the revolution begins...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2968, 1000, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-08 19:46:44', '2009-10-09 00:46:44', 'Perry,\nThanks for the link and the reference to the \"communities of practice.\"  Hopefully there will be more and more of them.\n\nThanks too for joining the LinkedIn group.', 0, '1', '', '', 2966, 0),
(2969, 1000, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-08 19:47:30', '2009-10-09 00:47:30', 'Thanks Erin for the great comment. I appreciate the energy you bring to the effort.  Isn\'t this fun?', 0, '1', '', '', 2967, 0),
(2970, 1000, 'Roy Atkinson', 'roy.atkinson@me.com', 'http://royatkinson.blogspot.com', '72.65.101.3', '2009-10-08 20:07:29', '2009-10-09 01:07:29', 'Mike,\nThere is definitely something brewing. There are parallel discussions going on in other venues as well—conversations that revolve around community effort to shape something new in the way business (in both the narrow and broad senses) is done.\n\nIt will be terrific to see how this develops. Thanks for stimulating it and expressing it so well.\n.-= Roy Atkinson´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://royatkinson.blogspot.com/2009/10/customer-service-week-celebrating-your.html\" rel=\"nofollow\">Customer Service Week: Celebrating Your Best</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2971, 1000, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-08 20:47:56', '2009-10-09 01:47:56', 'Roy, thanks for the comment.  As you and I have experienced, there is  a lot of interest in meaningful relationships and community these days.  It will be terrific to see how this develops.', 0, '1', '', '', 2970, 0),
(2972, 1000, 'Francisco Sáez', 'francisco.saez@datawebsolutions.com', '', '88.128.90.9', '2009-10-09 06:33:22', '2009-10-09 11:33:22', 'I think there is an obviuos parallelism in the Open Source Development structure and this Lead Change Group (and other community-based groups), where everyone can contribute with her/his experience to develop a new model of business leadership application. I agree with you current models are a little obsolete in most cases. We can change it with ideas, work and results.\n\nThis is a very interesting point, Mike. Thanks for this post.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2973, 1000, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-10 20:32:42', '2009-10-11 01:32:42', 'Thanks for the comment Francisco. I appreciate connecting on Twitter and LinkedIn.  As long as we all keep sharing and cooperating with one another we\'ll make a difference.', 0, '1', '', '', 2972, 0),
(2974, 1000, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://stratlearning.blogspot.com', '64.241.37.140', '2009-10-13 09:14:45', '2009-10-13 14:14:45', 'Hi, Mike\n\nI like the direction you are heading with this concept of a more \"user-friendly\" leadership model.\n\nAs I scanned the various comments on this, I was impressed by two things:\n\n1)  The caliber of the folks responding-you are attracting some very high-energy and thoughtful folks to this issue.  I firmly believe that the value of something can be determined generally by looking at who is connected to it.\n\n2)  Your responding to each and every person.  This personal touch style of leadership is underrated, not often practiced especially in the larger corporations, but costs nothing more than a few minutes of our time.\n\nAs for the larger issue of open-source leadership, I say \"why not?\"  We have been talking for some years about moving away from the model of leadership as connected to a specific role or title and have increasingly focused on leadership as something that can and should be practiced at all levels by anyone who takes the iniative to do so.\n\nI look forward to the next steps in this venture.\n\nJohn\n.-= John E. Smith´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://stratlearning.blogspot.com/2009/09/stepping-out-into-nothing.html\" rel=\"nofollow\">Stepping Out Into Nothing . . .</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2975, 1000, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '68.99.73.121', '2009-10-13 10:08:55', '2009-10-13 15:08:55', 'John, thanks for the comment.  We are finding a large community of people who long for character-driven ethical, principled leadership.  As you noted, they are passionate, high-caliber folks and I\'m honored to get to hang with them.  I\'m glad you\'re a part.\n\nIt\'s fun and energizing to be a part of a community where people are contributing to the welfare of the whole on a particular subject, such as quality leadership.  I think we\'ll be seeing more and more of these as the hierarchical leadership model looses its luster.', 0, '1', '', '', 2974, 0),
(2976, 1024, 'Tweets that mention Can You Act Contrary to Your Values? -- Topsy.com', '', 'http://topsy.com/tb/bit.ly/1d6M0r', '208.74.66.43', '2009-10-21 14:58:37', '2009-10-21 19:58:37', '[...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Mike Henry Sr., Mike Henry Sr., Mike Henry Sr., Mike Myatt, Claudine Motto and others. Claudine Motto said: Actions speak louder than words RT @mikemyatt: What values do your actions testify to? http://bit.ly/1d6M0r via @mikehenrysr #leadership [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2977, 1024, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '67.172.69.119', '2009-10-21 19:19:45', '2009-10-22 00:19:45', 'Once again you make so many great point and say them so well!  \"Your actions expose your true values.\"  That holds true for both individuals and organizations.\n\nIn answer to your question \"Are we overemphasizing our intentions and under-emphasizing our results?\", I think the answer is an obvious yes if the two don\'t align!\n.-= Susan Mazza´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://randomactsofleadership.com/2009/10/21/what-stands-are-you-taking/\" rel=\"nofollow\">What Stands are You Taking?</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2978, 1024, 'uberVU - social comments', '', '', '174.129.104.191', '2009-10-21 20:13:00', '2009-10-22 01:13:00', '<strong>Social comments and analytics for this post...</strong>\n\nThis post was mentioned on Twitter by mikehenrysr: Can You Act Contrary to Your Values? New post on the Lead Change Blog: http://bit.ly/1d6M0r #leadership...', 0, '1', '', 'trackback', 0, 0),
(2979, 1024, 'Doug Edgar', 'doug@compass-strategies.ca', 'http://compasscoaching.ca', '207.216.26.250', '2009-10-21 23:22:36', '2009-10-22 04:22:36', 'Hi Mike,\n\nI\'ve been taught that core values don\'t change unless something really big (usually traumatic) forces us to re-examine our beliefs. We modify our behavior as needed to disguise values that get in the way of accomplishing our goals but our values remain unchanged.\n\nYou point out that we can change our values if something becomes important enough that we are willing to overcome our natural resistance to change.\n\nI\'m wondering, using your example, does a people-pleaser ever stop being a pleaser at heart after the behavior has been modified or is it something we\'re stuck with, the thorn in our side?\n\nDoug\n\nPS: Coincidentally, I\'m working on a new blog post about core values in the context of strategic planning.  You\'ve added another dimension to my thinking and much food for thought.\n.-= Doug Edgar´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://compasscoaching.ca/2009/10/17/how-big-the-big-picture/\" rel=\"nofollow\">How Big the Big Picture?</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2980, 1024, 'Gwyn Teatro', 'gwynteatro@gmail.com', 'http://www.gwynteatro.wordpress.com', '75.157.170.56', '2009-10-22 16:35:33', '2009-10-22 21:35:33', 'Wow, some thought provocation going on here!\nI go back to the title of your post, \"Can You act contrary to your values?\" I\'m thinking that we absolutely can, and do.  And often, it is to serve a purpose that doesn\'t necessarily serve us.  For instance I can think of many times when I have agreed to do something or be part of something because it was easier to go along with the crowd.  But, in my \"advancing\" years I have come to know that the more often we do things like that, the further we get away from ourselves, running the risk of getting lost in that crowd. Then it becomes harder, not easier.\nAs for intentions It is also easier to over-emphasize them because they always sound good. And talking about them feels good too.  Getting results though, takes discipline and focus. That\'s harder. What makes it easier, I think, is that if our intentions and the ensuing results are well aligned with our core values, then our reward is a great sense of satisfaction.  If not, then well, not so much.\n\nGreat topic, Mike.  Thanks!\n\nGwyn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2981, 1024, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-22 17:48:48', '2009-10-22 22:48:48', 'Susan, thanks for your comments. I think we always credit ourselves for our intentions and credit others for their results.  I think it\'s more noticeable when the two don\'t align.', 0, '1', '', '', 2977, 0),
(2982, 1024, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-22 17:52:06', '2009-10-22 22:52:06', 'Doug, thanks for your comments and I\'m glad to have provided another perspective. I do think there are tendencies we all must deal with and, like the John Nash character portrayed by Russell Crowe in A Beautiful Mind, we must have a \"diet of the mind\" in respect to some of those tendencies.  When we can focus on our most important values or objectives, we put ourselves on a diet of the things that matter less.', 0, '1', '', '', 2979, 0),
(2983, 1024, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-22 17:54:05', '2009-10-22 22:54:05', 'Thanks Gwyn for your comments. You boiled it off to a great goal, aligning our intentions and our results with our core values.  Our focus gives us much more impact and satisfaction results.  Thanks for chipping in.', 0, '1', '', '', 2980, 0),
(2984, 1024, 'Leslie Knight', 'leslie.knight@knightpm.com', 'http://www.itminefield.com', '68.13.241.220', '2009-10-23 11:01:58', '2009-10-23 16:01:58', 'If one can consistently act contrary to their values, can that person honestly say that something is truly one of their core values? Can we act against deeply held, clearly defined values? I\'m not sure that we can...it would be out of character.\n\nOur values are the \"why\" behind what we do. They define what we stand for and the principles by which we operate.\nWhen our values are not clearly defined, the conscience cannot perceive a violation and bring about a change in behavior. When they are not clearly defined, they are easily subordinated to urgent and/or unimportant matters.\n\nClearly defined values keep us on course. They are the GPS of the soul of an individual or an organization.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2985, 1024, 'Michael Leiter', 'leiter.cord@gmail.com', 'http://www.workengagement.com', '24.215.83.71', '2009-10-23 17:49:11', '2009-10-23 22:49:11', 'Mike\nThanks for a fine post.\nMy response to your lead question is, yes, people act contrary to their values frequently. Acting in line with your values can be tough. To be respective, responsive, and civil to others doesn\'t require sophisticated expertise, but does require a capacity to remain sensitive to others despite distractions, fatigue, or even overt provocation.\n\nAnother point: Core values can be in conflict with one another: providing attentive patient care may require a serious time commitment to a particular patient while assuring the safety of all patients on her shift requires limiting her time with any specific patient, esp when staffing is slim. Fulfilling both values can be impossible. Choosing one value over the other is not always feasible; often one compromises a bit on both, feeling the disappointment profoundly.\n\nLiving one\'s values is an ongoing life challenge requiring creative problem solving, self discipline, and focus every day. Esp if you\'re aspiring for something truly great.\nMichael\nwww.workengagement.com', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2986, 1044, 'Tweets that mention War With Apathy -- Topsy.com', '', 'http://topsy.com/tb/bit.ly/4UfVZ', '208.74.66.43', '2009-10-27 08:41:27', '2009-10-27 13:41:27', '[...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Mike Henry Sr. and Rebel Brown, charleshb. charleshb said: RT @rebelbrown: RT @mikehenrysr: Posted on Lead Change Blog: War W/ Apathy http://bit.ly/4UfVZ {GR8 #leadership &amp; #life #advice!} [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2987, 1044, 'Mandy Vavrinak', 'mvavrinak@mac.com', '', '166.205.4.51', '2009-10-27 13:47:31', '2009-10-27 18:47:31', 'Mike,\nThank you for the shout out... I love the post that resulted from our conversation! You captured the concept succinctly... Bring your \"A\" game. Appreciate the reminder to stay on guard against apathy, and \"it\'s good enough\" attitudes. I\'m so glad to know you :)\n.-= Mandy Vavrinak´s last blog ..ODOT Learns Twitter The Hard Way =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2988, 1044, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '67.172.69.119', '2009-10-27 21:27:12', '2009-10-28 02:27:12', 'War with apathy.  Excellent - where do I enlist?!?  Great post Mike.  Perhaps the hopelessly apathetic won\'t hear your message, but I suspect there are a whole lot of people  who are looking to be shoved out of their apathy and reading this would do a whole lot of good!\n.-= Susan Mazza´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://randomactsofleadership.com/2009/10/25/every-child-is-our-child/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Every Child is Our Child</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2989, 1044, 'Dallas Bragg', 'dallas.bragg@gmail.com', '', '173.80.58.116', '2009-10-27 21:28:58', '2009-10-28 02:28:58', 'Thank you for this post!  Very inspiring.  I was in a war with apathy today.  I was feeling defeated by my lack of productivity.  Your thoughts defintely help inspire me to stand aginst slothfulness!\n.-= Dallas Bragg´s last blog ..Watch that Workplace Jargon! =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2990, 1044, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-27 21:31:10', '2009-10-28 02:31:10', 'The shout and passing along the credit is the least I can do. I appreciate how you helped un-stick me on this subject.  Glad to be making a difference with you.', 0, '1', '', '', 2987, 0),
(2991, 1044, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-27 21:34:53', '2009-10-28 02:34:53', 'Thanks Susan for the comments. It does seem that our economy and other forces are helping to mobilize people who are tired of the status quo.  I\'m honored to be in the battle with you.', 0, '1', '', '', 2988, 0),
(2992, 1044, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-27 21:37:58', '2009-10-28 02:37:58', 'Hey, there\'s another title, Stand Against Slothfulness.  Thanks for the comment.  Glad you got past the feelings of defeat.', 0, '1', '', '', 2989, 0),
(2993, 1044, 'Michael Leiter', 'michael.leiter@acadiau.ca', 'http://www.workengagement.com', '207.236.147.203', '2009-10-28 05:34:52', '2009-10-28 10:34:52', 'Apathy is ever so dull.\nYour point on choosing is cogent, as enthusiasm needs a focus to turn into anything. A lot of leadership is articulating values and helping a group focus energy on shared values. It\'s a place where leaders earn their keep.\n\nAll the best,\nMichael\nwww.workengagement.com', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2994, 1044, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-29 08:27:11', '2009-10-29 13:27:11', 'I like the quote: \"Enthusiasm needs a focus to turn into anything.\" Well said. Thanks for the comment.', 0, '1', '', '', 2993, 0),
(2995, 1051, 'Tweets that mention The War on Apathy Continues … -- Topsy.com', '', 'http://topsy.com/tb/bit.ly/2HehE7', '208.74.66.43', '2009-10-29 09:31:07', '2009-10-29 14:31:07', '[...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Ron Hudson , Mike Henry Sr. and Mark Oakes, artpetty. artpetty said: RT @mikehenrysr: New post: The War on Apathy Continues … http://bit.ly/snFBQ #leadership (inspirational!) [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(2996, 1051, 'Michael Leiter', 'leiter.cord@gmail.com', 'http://www.workengagement.com', '24.215.83.71', '2009-10-30 11:59:52', '2009-10-30 16:59:52', 'Mike,\nI like the commitment after careful consideration, esp when it includes consulting with other people in the mix and reflecting on core values.\nI\'m not sure about downgrading Plan B.\n\nFirst, when working with others and providing care for others (I work primarily with health care providers) definitive action holds risk for their wellbeing. There is something to lose and it goes beyond whatever you have personally on the line.\n\nSecond, you can\'t fully anticipate everything. Real leadership requires monitoring for the unexpected, listening to others\' points of view, accommodating culture perspectives that differ from whatever you brought along.\n\nSo, I prefer a full, enthusiastic commitment that is open to experience and mindful of whatever might happen and ready to adapt in the face of the evidence.\n\nJust a thought\nMichael\n.-= Michael Leiter´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://www.workengagement.com/component/content/article/14-main-text/38-twitter\" rel=\"nofollow\">twitter</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2997, 1051, 'Thomas Waterhouse', 'twclients@mac.com', 'http://www.SimpleEncouragement.com', '70.126.197.57', '2009-10-30 17:25:35', '2009-10-30 22:25:35', 'I like that... \"Forget plan B\". My advice to \"me\" is \"count the cost\" and then \"excellence\" until the end. There really is only \"Plan A\" and I like Michael\'s thoughts on \"openness to experience\" and being \"ready to adapt in the face of the evidence\". Thanks!\n.-= Thomas Waterhouse´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://simpleencouragement.com/RSSRetrieve.aspx?ID=5452&amp;A=Link&amp;ObjectID=96238&amp;ObjectType=56&amp;O=http%253a%252f%252fsimpleencouragement.com%252fBlogRetrieve.aspx%253fBlogID%253d4436%2526PostID%253d96238\" rel=\"nofollow\">And Now?</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2998, 1051, 'Dallas Bragg', 'dallas.bragg@gmail.com', '', '173.80.58.116', '2009-10-30 17:28:11', '2009-10-30 22:28:11', 'Mike,\n\nThank you for this post because it is confirmation for me on a thought process I had today at work.   I have spent years looking for the \"right\" job.  I have wanted to do something with all of my heart once I foun my \"niche\".  Back in the Spring I found the job of my dreams.  After a few months I started feeling unsettled again and could sense that I was not giving my \"all\".  Today a thought occured to me: Give your all no matter where you are or what you are doing and you\'ll feel satisfied and gratified.  Your blog has reinforced that in me.\n\nDallas\n.-= Dallas Bragg´s last blog ..The Dysfunction of Assumptions =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(2999, 1051, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-30 17:51:40', '2009-10-30 22:51:40', 'Thanks Michael for a great perspective. There are always cases where the consequences of failure are too high to be negligent about a plan B. We all should be careful (as you seem to be) to make sure we don\'t over-emphasize the consequences of a Plan-A failure.\nThanks again.', 0, '1', '', '', 2996, 0),
(3000, 1051, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-30 17:52:47', '2009-10-30 22:52:47', 'Great point Thomas: Count the cost and then excellence to the end.  Let me know where I can order the t-shirt! Thanks.', 0, '1', '', '', 2997, 0),
(3001, 1051, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-10-30 17:54:07', '2009-10-30 22:54:07', 'Thanks for the comment Dallas.  Isn\'t it neat how some of these \"coincidences\" seem to be so timely.  I\'m glad this helped you reinforce your commitment.', 0, '1', '', '', 2998, 0),
(3002, 1051, 'Lea', 'ylb437@gmail.com', 'http://envala.com/', '122.144.117.107', '2009-10-30 19:00:22', '2009-10-31 00:00:22', 'We should always go with what we like and not force our self  to do what we don\'t like because of certain conditions if you really want to succeed in what your going to do. This can be compared to getting a job, like you will choose a job even though you don\'t like it because of salary. What\'s the big salary if you\'re not having fun with your work. Maybe it depends to the person as well.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(3003, 1051, 'Ronald Lancaster', 'ronl@midsouthtransport.com', 'http://www.midsouthtransport.com', '71.16.59.204', '2009-11-02 10:33:20', '2009-11-02 15:33:20', 'Hey Mike.\n\nI\'m in!  Never say die.  Always get up.  One more round.  Nothing but 100%-all the time.  I have lived with these for the last forty years.  Good to hear your re-enforcements...\n\nRonnie', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(3004, 1051, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-11-03 09:19:09', '2009-11-03 14:19:09', 'Lea, thanks for your great comment. Typically it\'s fear that keeps us from going after what we really want. We settle because of it.  You\'re correct, the big trade off isn\'t worth it.', 0, '1', '', '', 3002, 0),
(3005, 1051, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-11-03 09:24:34', '2009-11-03 14:24:34', 'Hey! Great to hear from you. It\'s been a while.  I thought about you when I wrote this. Thanks for your comment.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 3003, 0),
(3006, 1051, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '67.172.69.119', '2009-11-05 08:24:27', '2009-11-05 13:24:27', 'Love that scene from that movie (we seem to have the same taste in movies).  What I take away is that it not so much about not having a plan B, but rather about our relationship with plan B.  Plan B is not an escape hatch!  Plan A stands the best chance of working if we give it 110% of our energy, focus and intention.\n\nFoghorn Leghorn (yes the cartoon and I am dating myself!) used to draw himself in the beginning of the cartoon.  He also had a giant eraser.  I like to tell people that while it may be prudent to have a plan B, if they construct it in their mind like it\'s a back door it will weaken their stand for and focus on Plan A.  So when you notice you have constructed a back door get out that big eraser.\n\nReally great post Mike.  I am getting a lot of great food for thought out of your posts on this theme of the war on apathy.\n.-= Susan Mazza´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://randomactsofleadership.com/2009/11/04/do-you-set-people-up-to-win/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Do You Set People Up to Win?</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(3007, 1051, 'Marge MacKinnon', 'makmack@gmail.com', '', '65.204.229.11', '2009-11-09 13:55:35', '2009-11-09 18:55:35', 'I agree that Plan A deserves exceptional commitment. However, as Michael Leiter pointed out so well, that should not eliminate the necessity of having a Plan B outline up one\'s sleeve. Despite commitment, the best plans don\'t always succeed. That doesn\'t mean the goal isn\'t worth achieving or that one should accept failure. It means one should evaluate what went wrong with Plan A, and then pull out, polish, and implement Plan B.\n\nI\'m interviewing for a new job (outstanding content professional here). I\'ll research and prepare for an interview with the \"perfect\" company for the perfect job, but that doesn\'t mean I\'m not still filling out other applications, or lining up freelance opportunities.\n\nMarge', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(3008, 17794, 'Erin Schreyer', 'eschreyer@sagestone-partners.com', 'http://www.sagestone-partners.com', '24.209.194.164', '2009-08-06 21:04:11', '2009-08-07 02:04:11', 'Great post, as always, Mike!!!  I, too, thought the Summit was great today.  Carey is exceptional, and I too am so determined to take his advice and get \"out of the huddle and play the game!!\"  Way to help motivate the movement!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(3009, 17794, 'Wally Bock', 'wally@threestarleadership.com', 'http://blog.threestarleadership.com', '69.132.189.215', '2009-08-07 06:27:27', '2009-08-07 11:27:27', 'One of the truly great feelings is to come away from an event inspired. I love your statement tht you don\'t want to come away without changing. You want to keep the enthusiasm (literally \"God in me\").\n\nI think you\'ve taken the first step with this post. But the big question, always, is what will I do differently from now on and how can I structure things to make that happen? Good luck in your quest.\n.-= Wally Bock´s last blog ..<a href=\"http://blog.threestarleadership.com/2009/08/06/twitter-down-productivity-soars.aspx?ref=rss\" rel=\"nofollow\">Twitter down. Productivity soars?</a> =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(3010, 17794, 'Doug Crandall', 'dougbcrandall@hotmail.com', 'http://www.bluerudder.net', '71.92.120.68', '2009-08-07 21:42:06', '2009-08-08 02:42:06', 'Good stuff Mike. Thanks.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(3011, 17794, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '98.178.138.219', '2009-08-08 16:46:29', '2009-08-08 21:46:29', 'Thanks for the comment Wally.  I\'m working on the \"what will I do differently\" part.  Stay tuned.', 0, '1', '', '', 3009, 0),
(3012, 17794, 'Zhana', 'zhana47@hotmail.com', 'http://www.blacksuccess1.com', '92.40.132.123', '2009-08-10 10:32:25', '2009-08-10 15:32:25', 'Thanks so much for this post.  Although I am not a Christian, I strongly identify with the desire to make a difference in the world without necessarily knowing how to go about it.  Thank you for taking a step.  Sometimes any action is better than no action.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(3013, 17794, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '63.147.104.70', '2009-08-10 12:24:36', '2009-08-10 17:24:36', 'Zhana, thanks for the comment.  I think the desire to make a difference in the world is growing and it also seems to be the one thing my friends have in common.  And I agree that we all must do what we hope will make things better, unless we think they\'re as good as they\'ll get.', 0, '1', '', '', 3012, 0),
(3014, 17795, 'Nicole De Falco', 'nicole@writeinfluence.com', '', '64.53.228.254', '2009-08-12 10:54:17', '2009-08-12 15:54:17', 'This article places the accountability for processing past experiences on the individual. I like that. A good leader should take the time to consider how events  impact their current thoughts and actions. It\'s a discipline really. If we don\'t apply this discipline, we are lay ourselves open to \"knee jerk\" reactions based on unresolved feelings about past experiences. Thanks Mike! This is valuable.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(3015, 17795, 'Doug Crandall', 'dougbcrandall@hotmail.com', 'http://www.bluerudder.net', '71.92.120.68', '2009-08-13 00:17:11', '2009-08-13 05:17:11', 'Mike,\nI wrote a book chapter on \"Learning from Failure,\" that is really (in retrospect) a construct for getting the most out of reflection. It echoes much of your wisdom here -- especially some of the thoughts on guilt (although I like your take on the potentially paralyzing impact of the emotion -- something I did not address). The chapter breaks \"failures\"  into three types:\n\n1. Failures in what we do\n2. Failures of who we are\n3. Failures of who we want to be\n\nAnd then urges people to push to the deepest level to reflect and learn. For instance, a coach might run on third down rather than pass, fail to get the first down, and then reflect that next time he needs to pass (level one). But the real lesson may be that he is risk averse (level two).\n\nIt\'s nothing novel. Kind of a single loop vs. double loop learning construct -- but with numerous stories and examples.\n\nIt\'s in the book Leadership Lessons from West Point -- or I\'d be happy to shoot you (or anyone else) my original document if you send me an e-mail (doug@bluerudder.net).\n\nGood stuff. Thanks!\n.-= Doug Crandall´s last blog ..What it means to lead… =-.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(3016, 17796, 'Erin Schreyer', 'eschreyer@sagestone-partners.com', 'http://www.sagestone-partners.com', '24.209.197.72', '2009-08-24 22:23:12', '2009-08-25 03:23:12', 'Nicely said, Mike!  I would also add \"values\" to the list of things needed to support your stengths.  If you can leverage your strengths to fulfill your priorities/value system, that seems to make your energy-level and passion even greater!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(3017, 17796, 'Monica Diaz', 'monica@e-quidam.com', 'http://www.otheresteem.org', '189.141.199.2', '2009-08-25 09:03:15', '2009-08-25 14:03:15', 'Great post, Mike, and so true!  I also believe it is largely about being in the moment.  Time becomes elastic when you are enjoying every minute of it, using it to express your passion, develop your talent, harness your energy!  True focus is not about sticking to one thing, it is about being fully present in each thing you do! ;)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
