Hi, Will - this post is Gold:)

I believe you have just described the essence of servant leadership:  an attitude toward helping others, combined with acquiring the skills and tools to help you do so effectively.

I especially like and will remember your terming of attitude as a "key differentiator".  A person can be equipped to serve, but if they do not also possess the will to serve, they will not use the tools.   Sort of like having that exercise bike in your basement ... if you do not have the will or motivation to actually use it, you just have a very expensive rack to hang things on:).

You mentioned continuous learning at the end, almost in passing, so I would add that I see this as essential for true servant leadership.  If we approach life as one continuous learning curb and use both formal and informal means to continuously learn, we are far better equipped to help others than if we just want to help.  Our lives are in continuous flux and if we do not embrace this reality, we will be emotionally stuck in the past and no good to anyone.

Enjoyed your post quite a lot - thanks again for sharing your and your dad's wisdom:)

John