Thanks for the comment, Mitch.  Thanks for persisting through the CAPTCHA and the moderation.

I don't see what you did as #7, pointing out the mistakes of others.  This post was written speaking to a supervisor relating to their team or direct reports.  (Besides, the CAPTCHA and moderation aren't a mistake; they're both on purpose, although I admit that I don't have the programming skills to use a friendlier CAPTCHA.  Once someone comments or registers the behavior changes.)

My point about #7 is that there are some bosses or stakeholders who choose to comment about what can be improved almost to the exclusion of what was done well.  The supervisors I've had that have done that have all done it claiming that it was a service to me almost as if they were serving me by being totally honest.  Honesty doesn't justify a critical spirit.  Over time, I'll share less with critical people and I trust them with less regardless of their reasoning.  If someone wants me to trust them, they will be honest in a way that makes me feel I've been helped.  I've never met anyone who didn't already have a pretty good idea what they could be doing better.  Most appreciate the opportunity to ask for the help rather than having it volunteered frequently.  I heard someone onetime say that all unsolicited advice is received as criticism.

Beyond that, we agree that disloyalty, dishonesty and untrustworthiness are trust killers.  Thanks again for the comment.  I'm glad that you read and commented.