I think asking the question is not nearly as important as the intent for asking the question. Maybe, I'm asking a question not because I don't know the answer. Maybe I'm asking it so you will know the answer.

The fastest way to change someone's mood or way of thinking is by asking a question. For instance, I want to go out with my wife to dinner tonight. I can ask her -

"Where do you want to go that is romantic?"

Or I can ask -

"Where do you want to go that won't suck?"

Though the same question, the answer and it's thought process behind it is different.