Thank you Chery for your clear-eyed view of families with special needs.  I have been blessed to work with children with disabilities and their care givers for the past 26 years.  The friends I have made in this community are ordinary people taking on extraordinary challenges.  They can be as happy or sad, or as snarky or polite as the rest of us.  I find they give me as much support as I can ever give them.

It took me a long time to realize I could ask questions without offending them. I also learned I can and should ask about their own adult dreams, goals and ambitions.

Thanks again for your  post.  I'm sharing with my friends.