Terrific post, John!

I'm with you in being "all in" when it's obvious the status quo would benefit from some disrupting. However, this need is neither an invitation nor an excuse for someone to be disagreeably obnoxious and unreasonable in doing or leading the changes. One can still be kind yet have a different, and valuable, viewpoint. From my perspective, that's where folks drop the ball in being "unreasonable" - seeing it as an opportunity to be ungracious.