Wow, Jane. I've been noodling about writing about these precise observations and experiences. You did a great job. I particularly love the quotation from Aristotle. It is spot on. Not an easy thing to get right, but at least it is a guide. "...channel our anger, annoyance, antagonism, etc. at “the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose and in the right way.”

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for writing this. I will share widely.