All very good questions, Julie.  And, I don't think this is an absolute, but something to consider.

My thoughts on your questions:

I think it is in how we talk to our children, and what we pronounce "judgment" on.  For example, I have a great-niece who showed promise as a wonderful artist at the age of 8, who has been judged on being a "dreamer, impractical, wasting time".  On the other hand, I have worked with a client who was encouraged to pursue her talents as a child - and she is pursuing the use of her talents in fine arts from both a practical and "impractical" side, and loving every minute of her life.  As far as teaching right from wrong - sitting down and having a conversation with our children about choices is very effective, especially when we do it at their level.  You can talk abut the options, and help them see the consequences, without pronouncing anything "right" or "wrong".

As adults, you use feedback to re-look at the choice that you made, discern the truth, and determine if what you did was harmful.  I can recall giving loving feedback and upsetting people.  Sometimes it is their issue, and you need to walk away.  If what you did was harmful, consider it a lesson learned, and make a decision as to whether you need to converse further with the person who is upset.

Love the conversation!

Georgia