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(13789, 29047, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-26 13:41:27', '2016-01-26 18:41:27', 'OK, Mary ... I do have a few ideas about How Things Should Work:).    I just have trouble communicating my visions to those who have to actually do the heavy lifting ... especially when the \"heavy lifting\" is really to make a decision to engage and contribute resources.\n\nFeeling duly called out:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13790, 29047, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '72.78.142.118', '2016-01-26 19:54:09', '2016-01-27 00:54:09', 'Mary, Thanks for commenting and validating that I\'m not crazy (or perhaps I\'m crazy, but not alone). Yes, I really do feel like we need to listen to those little voices.  I\'m a fan of Godin and understand/believe what he says. For those of us who care about the future -- perhaps at some expense of our own -- I feel it\'s a driving force to BOTH convince the market and get there first.  I think that\'s what compels me. Would you agree?', 0, '1', '', '', 13786, 0),
(13791, 29047, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '72.78.142.118', '2016-01-26 20:00:49', '2016-01-27 01:00:49', '\"Change brings promises, but no guarantees, requiring a risky leap of faith.\"\n\nAh John, therein lies the rub. I have another colleague who\'s an acolyte of Clayton Christensen and his \"The Innovator\'s Dilemma.\" It was not Christensen at all I was thinking of when I wrote my piece, as he focuses on business and the problem from a different perspective, but I revisited the executive summary of The Innovator\'s Dilemma before I finalized my post. Change IS everything you describe it to be, and yet, companies and people resist it.  And yet change is more inevitable than ever, and happens at a pace that most of us -- even thought leaders -- aren\'t ready for.\n\nThis is why I\'m focusing on reinvention.  It\'s not just a process but a necessary SURVIVAL SKILL these days.  More on that concept to come...  ;-)\n\nHollis', 0, '1', '', '', 13787, 0),
(13792, 29047, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-01-27 10:37:24', '2016-01-27 15:37:24', 'Hollis, thanks for your response. Yes, it\'s good to know I am not alone no matter what the circumstances.\n\nIn response to your comment: \"I feel it’s a driving force to BOTH convince the market and get there first. I think that’s what compels me. Would you agree?\"\n\nHollis, I\'m just plain compelled. it can be difficult to relate to, but I get a particular feeling when I hear about people being treated carelessly at work. Something hits the pit of my stomach like nothing else. What compels me is to educate and influence in order to create a truly human workplace where people not only contribute in a way that is meaningful to them, but brings prosperity to everyone they touch, including the organization, customers and the world community. Lofty I know, but I\'m clear on it and not stopping soon.\n\nThank you again for a great post!', 0, '1', '', '', 13786, 252),
(13793, 29047, 'Tom Collins', 'tom@olddoglearning.com', 'http://lipstickingsociety.com/old-dog-learning/', '71.237.96.162', '2016-01-27 12:12:46', '2016-01-27 17:12:46', 'Hi Hollis,\n\nThanks for sharing such a deeply personal -- yet shared by so many of us -- challenge. I wonder if a different terminology might open new paths for you to think about these problems. I just finished reading Elizabeth Gilbert\'s new book, Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear, and I think the concepts of creativity and innovation are closely related, but may lead us toward different approaches to our work.\n\nI\'ve also been spending time with a lot of different sources (books, TED, blogs, webinars, conversations with friends) taking various angles at teamwork, collaboration, flat organizations, etc. I\'m growing ever more convinced that partners or teammates or some person or group of confidantes are a key to happy achievement, in work and in life.\n\nDoes any of that resonate?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13794, 29047, 'Mark Ferrero', 'mferrero@poplarsolutions.com', 'http://www.lab-core.com', '73.175.60.52', '2016-01-27 16:56:43', '2016-01-27 21:56:43', 'Hollis,\n\nYou and I are kindred spirits on this issue as you know. When I started my first company back in 1998 called P-Wave Inc. I had a grand vision that the Internet and Television would intersect and that this was the great \"new frontier\" that I would be helping to lead and introduce all the world to the potential for doing online events and training and sharing of information that would transform society.\n\nUnfortunately the codecs and bandwidth available on the Internet at the time (remember 56K modems?) only supported a postage stamp sized video with pixelated quality.  Most people could not envision this intersection of devises happening. As a result I had to scale back my vision or adapt to survive\n\nAs the years went by and my vision and business morphed to fit the environment and needs of customers, I was still always trying to introduce something innovative and new that had the potential to change the world for the better. Creating something that is innovative and seeing early adopters try it and experience positive results is very gratifying. But it is hard work and fraught with risk for all the reasons you state above and requires a combination of persistence, good timing and some luck.  Unfortunately I have yet to feel the satisfaction of \"Crossing the Chasm\" to that stage where the majority of people wanted the innovation. To me that feels kind of like the Holy Grail and is something I would like to experience in my lifetime. It may be a serial behavior as my history shows and the latest offering with the Labcore software shows. Must be in our blood as I know you have a similar history.\n\nI look at my own behaviors in terms of adopting change and innovation and I consider myself someone who is fairly quick to try something new but like you I do not have the time to fish around for the next big thing because I am just trying to swim and push my own thing forward. But it only take a recommendation from someone who has tried something and liked it that will get me to take the bait and try a new product.  It would be interesting to see a psychological profile of early adopters and innovators to see if they are the same or different in their makeup.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13795, 29047, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com/', '72.78.142.118', '2016-01-28 08:53:56', '2016-01-28 13:53:56', 'Mark, Thanks for candidly sharing your feelings and experiences as well. You raise an interesting question about psychological profiling we early innovators. I\'m curious now as well!', 0, '1', '', '', 13794, 408),
(13796, 29047, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com/', '72.78.142.118', '2016-01-28 09:06:36', '2016-01-28 14:06:36', 'Tom,\n\nI\'m an Elizabeth Gilbert fan, too, and though I haven\'t yet read her Big Magic book, it was she who inspired my LinkedIn post about \"Better done than good.\" (https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/startups-reinventionists-women-apply-better-done-than-hollis-thomases).\n\nThese days, I have far less time for the kind of information absorption you\'re doing, but it\'s one of my goals for February. February will be a month for me to step back, assess/re-assess, and revise strategies and plans.\n\nThe notion of achievement through partnering resonates deeply with me. I learned that lesson early when I founded my last business -- Mark Ferrero above was an early partner of mine, for instance, and I also have belonged to many peer-to-peer counseling groups. I find that no matter how much experience I may acquire over the years, it\'s so much easier and faster for me to figure out how to do something I\'m NOT experienced in (or good at) by finding the right kinds of partners.\n\nHere\'s a question to throw back to you:  How do you assess that someone/another entity is actually \"right\" when you don\'t know them very well?  What\'s the right \"partner dating process\"?', 0, '1', '', '', 13793, 408),
(13797, 29047, 'Tom Collins', 'tom@olddoglearning.com', 'http://lipstickingsociety.com/old-dog-learning/', '71.237.96.162', '2016-01-29 11:35:46', '2016-01-29 16:35:46', 'Wow, Hollis, that\'s a great question! But I think the scary truth is found in your insightful use of the term \"dating.\" I\'m not aware of any reliable system for picking or predicting successful outcomes in dating. ;-P\n\nLook at the generally dismal record of companies using interviewing and other methods for hiring employees.\n\nOn the other hand, one of the books I\'ve recently read is Collaborative Intelligence: Thinking with People Who Think Differently, and I think it provides a solid approach for working with the team you\'ve got. I also think some of the ideas Dr. Bridbord shared with you in her Mega Reinvention session for couples to build a supportive, trusting relationship can be applied by business partners, to improve their chances of long-term success.\n\nOf course, I come at the business partner thing from the luxury of working with Yvonne, starting and growing a series of businesses together, with and without additional partners. As you know, I like to call us PIATs, \"partners-is-all-things.\" I do think it\'s going to become our sub-specialty in the whole reinvention area: how spouses and life-partners can find, plan, launch, and grow their ideal life work together -- happily! ;-D\n\nSorry for not having a magic formula!', 0, '1', '', '', 13793, 0),
(13798, 29047, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.221.24', '2016-03-06 19:10:58', '2016-03-07 00:10:58', 'For those curious about Dr. Birdbord\'s work that Tom references below, here\'s a helpful link:  https://www.gottman.com/blog/introduction-sound-relationship-workplace.', 0, '1', '', '', 13793, 0),
(13799, 29047, 'Livia', '4zt7k02j@gmail.com', 'http://qtfobicsir.com', '188.143.234.155', '2016-04-16 08:53:18', '2016-04-16 12:53:18', 'That\'s an astute answer to a tricky quiteson', 0, '1', '', '', 13791, 0),
(13800, 29085, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '70.189.113.117', '2016-01-28 06:52:48', '2016-01-28 11:52:48', 'David, thanks for a great post. It\'s hard to over-emphasize the value of a clear, enticing vision shared among a group of people. Your post is a great reminder and challenge to crystallize the vision when commitment seems to be lacking. Thanks for the post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13801, 29085, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '154.20.159.120', '2016-01-28 18:45:20', '2016-01-28 23:45:20', 'Thanks Mike.\n\nI have learned that the more people can feel, see, taste, smell, and experience the vision you paint, the more they will be pulled towards it. My growth is in improving all my writing so that readers get a deeper personal feeling of what it is I am writing about, including anticipation.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13800, 386),
(13802, 29085, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-29 14:26:26', '2016-01-29 19:26:26', 'Hi, David - great and visually evocative post:)\n\nI agree completely that our ability to anticipate can be a source of great pleasure.\n\nOf course, it can also paralyze us with fear, becoming a force for negative outcomes.\n\nYou have provided a nice dissection of how a positive anticipation consists of multiple parts, building our forward momentum and good vibes as we go.\n\nMuch preferable to awaiting doom with a sense of gloom:) ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13803, 29085, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '154.20.159.120', '2016-01-31 22:21:38', '2016-02-01 03:21:38', 'Thanks John.\n\nI hadn\'t put much thought into the fear aspect. That\'s likely because as an individual and as a coach I typically use resonance to help people reach for their goals and thus overcome fear. Resonance comes from anticipation. If you look forward to something with enough longing, you can blast through amazing obstacles, fearful or otherwise.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13802, 386),
(13804, 28168, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-05 09:38:19', '2016-02-05 14:38:19', 'Hi, Bob - excellent post and a great review of this powerful model.\n\nEverytime I come in contact with your Universal Model of Leadership, I am reminded of the Tolkien saying:  \"One Ring To Rule Them All\" ... in a very positive frame.\n\nIf one takes the time to dive into your model and grasp the complexity and comprehensiveness that underlies your thinking, they have to be impressed.   The leadership development field has an over-abundance of models, many of which are valuable in their own right.\n\nThe value here is that you have tied together things like behavior and values to create a much more inclusive model than many others.\n\nOther folks have given their book grandiose titles, but \"Mastering Leadership\" (Robert J. Anderson and William A. Adams) is one of the few that is aptly named and deserving of the title.\n\nEnjoyed revisiting this model immensely ... thanks!\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13805, 28168, 'Bob Anderson', 'randerson@theleadershipcircle.com', 'http://www.theleadershipcircle.com', '174.96.128.47', '2016-02-05 10:08:45', '2016-02-05 15:08:45', 'John,\n\nThank you for your wonderful comments about the model.  Greatly appreciated.  This post describes one of many models and frameworks that are integrated into the Universal Model.  Your comments helps to point out that Universal Model is much more comprehensive that can be described in a short post.  Thank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 13804, 0),
(13806, 28524, 'Margy', 'margy@weavinginfluence.com', '', '185.120.125.56', '2016-02-02 06:51:58', '2016-02-02 11:51:58', 'Leigh- I love this post! I have done similar things in the past, especially when it came to work. I remember being 16 at one of my first jobs as a hostess at a Korean restaurant and being too timid to ask about eating on the job. I was so hungry all the time and only when I was about to move on realized that I was entitled to a free meal each shift! Whenever I feel nervous to ask about money/benefits, etc., I remember how silly it was of me not to speak up and all of the yummy Korean food I missed out on!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13807, 28524, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-05 08:54:39', '2016-02-05 13:54:39', 'Hi, Leigh  - great post!\n\nYou win the coveted \"Smith Group Award for Amusing Stories to Make a Point\".  Each of your examples was presented clearly, and with a nice twist of wry humor to nail the point.   I could easily \"hear\" you telling these stories during a speech ... and that is one of my measuring points for effective storytelling.\n\nThe section about how we influence our children struck home for me.  Being parents who wanted to develop critical thinking skills from an early age, we would spend time explaining things and discussing issues with our children starting at very early ages.\n\nThis did have the desired effect of producing young adults who are thoughtful, insightful, and understand how to support a position or belief.   Unfortunately, we also had to go four distinct periods (one per child) where they were questioning our parental authority, which they did to a much greater and more effective degree than other children.\n\nEver catch yourself saying \"Because I said so!\", and then sending a silent prayer of forgiveness to your own parents for not appreciating what they put up with:)?\n\nLoved this post, but then I expected nothing less:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13808, 28641, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '96.36.173.66', '2016-02-17 17:23:24', '2016-02-17 22:23:24', 'Hi, Chip - fun post, if you don\'t mind a slight play on words:)\n\nTwo quick comments:\n\n1)  Your comment via Hamel includes an interesting last line:  \"But pursuing incremental improvements while rivals reinvent the industry is like fiddling while Rome burns.”  I was listening to NPR earlier today and the commentator stated that Democratic voters could choose Clinton for incremental change or Sanders for revolution.  This is both a neat summary for what these two candidates represent and a reminder that change does not come in only one flavor.\n\nIn Hamel\'s case, incremental change was presented as less than attractive and I would agree with that assessment.   We can incrementally inch along until we die without getting very far down the road.  The revolutionist, of course, veers off the road into the uncharted wilds ... and probably invents a flying machine, so they can ditch the car:).\n\n2)  It strikes me that embedded within the aura around every \"fun\" leader is a strong sense of trust and respect.   Many people can be funny or fun to be with in certain situations, but in order to be \"fun\" the way you are describing it requires someone who knows how to develop, maintain, and nurture an atmosphere of mutual respect and trust.   Otherwise, you are just a wise-cracking guy in the room.\n\n3)  On a personal level, humor and relaxed atmospheres have always been part of my leadership style, whether military, volunteer, corporate, or campus.   I have found over the long haul that creating fun and a friendly environment are essential for effective leadership when things are not fun.  The relationships that come from bonding with others on a very human level are the foundation upon which we take those actions which are necessary, but uncomfortable and even dangerous.\n\nThanks for a great post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13809, 28641, 'Chip Bell', 'Chip@chipbell.com', 'http://Www.chipbell.com', '70.197.130.161', '2016-02-17 17:53:20', '2016-02-17 22:53:20', 'Thank you, John, for your thoughtful comment.  Your Clinton-Sanders perspective is an interesting one.  Thank goodness there are more rebellious paths for a thriving and successful democracy than \"from each according to his means; to each according to his need!\" One wonders how the founding fathers would view today\'s campaign rhetoric for both parties.', 0, '1', '', '', 13808, 0),
(13810, 28641, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '72.73.88.194', '2016-02-17 22:01:32', '2016-02-18 03:01:32', 'Chip,\n\nAlways love to read what you write! And thank you for bringing some life ... FUN! ... into our leadership \"frontal lobe\".\n\nI have always been intrigued by the person of Teddy Roosevelt - his was a \"strenuous life\" but marked with fin and adventure. Someone in history I would be honored to work with. And to tie him in with Herb Kelleher, also the modern benchmark of a fun leader, shows that their legacy was not merely a passing fad, but an enduring application of these principles played out in business and statemanship.\n\nThe best takeaway is simply your title Chip, \"Is It Fun Being Led By You?\". This question alone should be asked throughout each day to ensure we infuse the joy of work and play into what we do in our lives.\n\nHats off to you Chip - Thanks!!\'\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13811, 28641, 'Chip Bell', 'chip@chipbell.com', 'http://www.chipbell.com', '12.130.117.159', '2016-02-17 22:41:27', '2016-02-18 03:41:27', 'Thank you, Paul.  I am honored that you find my work beneficial.  Leadership is fundamental a spiritual act--the influence of spirit, the nurturing of spirit and the celebration of spirit.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13812, 28641, 'Michael Baker', 'michael.baker@illinois.gov', '', '163.191.87.192', '2016-02-18 12:40:43', '2016-02-18 17:40:43', 'While Michael Scott\'s approach is usually a lesson in what NOT to do, this article reminds me that even a stopped clock is right twice every day.\n\nThe great thing about this approach is it can be practiced by any leader at any level in the organization.  While it\'s much easier if the person at the top operates with a high fun factor, mid-level managers can still ramp up the fun - and reap the benefits of the approach - even if the C-Wing is packed with curmudgeons.\n\nMike', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13813, 28641, 'P. Jason King', 'info@pjasonkingassociates.com', 'http://www.pjasonkingassociates.com', '71.173.1.198', '2016-02-19 10:45:00', '2016-02-19 15:45:00', 'As a Global Executive Search CEO with an unusual unblemished track record spanning over 4 decades of always sourcing the \"Right\" Candidate for the Job Award presented to us...we keep the \"FUN\" in the recruitment process. Although no Company Client has ever requested the data we extract, we start when a candidate was born and move up to the Present, talking about the \"Turn-Ons\" and \"Turn-Offs\" along the route, always talking about the fun part of the job.  While all our recruitment must encompass Title, Function, Responsibilities, Compensation, Location, ... FUN places an intrinsic part of our process...especially in our industry the Travel &amp; Hospitality fields. Our employees and me especially have FUN every single day!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13814, 28641, 'Jodi', 'Ejodi68@optonline.net', '', '70.192.70.159', '2016-02-19 12:53:05', '2016-02-19 17:53:05', 'Thanks. This was so appreciated. Just came out of a position where leadership discouraged all these things, sadly....bonding, sense of fun, commraderie and caring for your coworkers were looked down upon and those who tried to foster this were admonished. Guess the king was afraid that the peasants would rise up. Preferred to keep them down, divided, in check and in fear within a competitive environment. Tried to change this culture but it was fleeting. Glad to know I am not crazy and that places that value and support what you describe do indeed exist. As I \"recover\" from my experience, which I recognize is a step in the journey, I will keep my light aglow and seek out the illumination on the horizon. Thanks for sharing✌️', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13815, 28641, 'Chip Bell', 'chip@chipbell.com', 'http://www.chipbell.com', '98.17.130.226', '2016-02-21 09:43:13', '2016-02-21 14:43:13', 'Thank you for your comment, Jodi.  Fearful leaders lead with fear.  And, their way of hiding their fear is often with anger and control.  Authority is the last resort of the frustrated and angry.  When leaders (or parents) resort to \"because I said so\" or \"my way or the highway\" it generally means they have long lost their ability to influence.  Unfortunately, they only get compliance, not commitment; movement, not motivation.  Keep the faith.  There are great leaders out there with the confidence and compassion to lead with heart!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13816, 28817, 'Dave Blum', 'drclue@drclue.com', 'http://www.drclue.com', '67.160.240.15', '2016-02-09 11:00:08', '2016-02-09 16:00:08', 'I really like this article and would share something I read the other day about \"purpose oriented\" people, namely that they 1) want to make an impact 2) want to be challenged by new things  3) want to connect with others and have real relationships.     If leaders can create that environment, their people will thrive.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13817, 28817, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', '', '65.185.19.119', '2016-02-09 20:56:28', '2016-02-10 01:56:28', 'Thx Dave, and you are 1000% correct.  Create the kind of environment you describe, and people will not only survive, they will thrive!\nThx for taking the time to comment - I appreciate it.\nScott Mautz', 0, '1', '', '', 13816, 389),
(13818, 28817, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-10 11:41:38', '2016-02-10 16:41:38', 'Hi, Scott - another excellent post:)\n\nI thought every point has clear and significant value, but the very first one really resonated with me.  I believe that your combination of \"compelling vision\" and \"people\'s identities\" reflects two essential components of effective vision.  Too often, I have experienced organizations where one or the other was present, but not both.\n\nI would also like to comment on something that is implied indirectly in your discussion of extrinsic and intrinsic motivations.   Throughout all leadership communication, being consistent and honest is also important.\n\nPeople are smart and will see a false message.   The leader who tries to \"trick\" followers into supporting some vision will not get the best sustained effort from them.  At worst, they will sabotage the efforts of the leader, because they do not trust  that person.\n\nI know this is probably understood throughout, but I like to keep the aspect of honesty and trust in the foreground, since I have experienced the lack of same several times in my work.\n\nEnjoy your posts tremendously:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13819, 28817, 'Dave Blum', 'drclue@drclue.com', 'http://www.drclue.com', '67.160.240.15', '2016-02-10 17:13:58', '2016-02-10 22:13:58', 'I really like this line:  \"Addressing these basic human needs is effectively helping to answer the deeply held questions: What’s the point? Where do I belong? How do I Fit in?\"\n\nIt seems like people just want to know their role, that there\'s a place for them in the scheme of things, and that they can make an impact.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13820, 28817, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2016-02-10 18:20:01', '2016-02-10 23:20:01', 'Thx John as always for your engagement.  I couldnt agree more with your assessment that consistency and honesty are also critical factors in effective messaging.  In fact, is there anything more transparent then when someone\'s not being transparent?\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 13818, 0),
(13821, 28817, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2016-02-10 18:20:52', '2016-02-10 23:20:52', 'Dave - you are right.  People just want to know that they matter in things that matter.\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13822, 28817, 'Paula McDermott', 'paula@kramerenterprises.net', '', '71.178.139.175', '2016-02-11 14:50:09', '2016-02-11 19:50:09', 'I have been listening to my 20-something daughter tell me about the changes that are occurring in her first career-related job with a fast growing company, so your message resonated with me.  Based on her experiences, another bullet point in #5 could be:  \"Assure the team that the support they need will be there and explain or demonstrate how.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13823, 28817, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2016-02-11 22:41:20', '2016-02-12 03:41:20', 'Paula - right on! Visible support is critical for us to draw maximum meaning from our work.  Thx for taking the time to not only read, but respond to my post!\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 13822, 0),
(13824, 28817, 'Randy Bradley', 'Randy.lgr@gmail.com', 'http://Lifesgoldenrule.com', '75.162.172.15', '2016-02-18 14:51:58', '2016-02-18 19:51:58', 'Your request was for which one of the five holds the most promise. You surely like to make it difficult. All are important, as well as some of the other comments.\nMy choice would be #2 Drive mission fit. People have the human need to feel needed and important. If you let them know what they do is important to the whole picture they will give you their best. But none of these stand alone. You can\'t communicate a mission without confident communications, without a great story, and it won\'t have any intrinsic value. Without all five of these it is just like a puzzle piece, colorful but with no meaning.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13825, 28817, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', '', '65.185.19.119', '2016-02-20 11:28:15', '2016-02-20 16:28:15', 'Randy - thx for taking the time to engage and comment.  I really like your thought that all 5 things in the post are required to make your messaging meaningful.  As you say, \"like a puzzle piece, colorful but with no meaning\" wihtout all five!\nThx again,\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 13824, 389),
(13826, 28857, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2016-02-01 08:50:41', '2016-02-01 13:50:41', 'John, when I read articles, I try to think of something to add just to show that I read and was paying attention. I can\'t think of anything else to add to your list. I have always been complimented on my listening skills. I\'m not taking credit for it though. I would rather listen than talk any time.  My favorite (because it\'s what I work on all the time) is the tip on distractions. It might be impossible to remove distractions physically but mentally and emotionally, the only way to really listen is to think of conversation as heart to heart. Make your conversation all about the person talking and practice heart level listening.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13827, 28857, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-01 11:50:49', '2016-02-01 16:50:49', 'Hi, John - great list and a solid post:)\n\nLike Jane, I have nothing to add to this already comprehensive set of observations about one of the common things we do rather poorly much of the time:).\n\nI would comment that the last bulletpoint about apologizing does not always show up in other treatments around listening, so I thank you for including it here.   I believe that when we consider apology, not as a sign of weakness, but of ability and a strength-based action, we are in better relationship with others.\n\nActually, apologizing seems essential to really use the point before it about asking for meaning.  There are at least two reasons why something in a conversation, discussion, or presentation is not clear:   1)  The person explaining was unclear, or 2) You were not paying close enough attention.   Regardless of which is true in a situation, when you apologize as you ask for clarification, I would imagine the discussion goes better than if you try to prove to the person that they were unclear:).\n\nThanks for a well-written and enjoyable post.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13828, 28857, 'John Stoker', 'jrsutah@comcast.net', 'http://www.DialogueWORKS.com', '76.27.61.222', '2016-02-01 12:51:33', '2016-02-01 17:51:33', 'Jane,\nYou make some wonderful points. I really like you comment on \"heart to heart\" listening. I have found to help me do that I will ask myself the question, \"What would they be thinking or feeling in order to say or do that?\" This helps me listen from their perspective. When I find that I don\'t understand, then I ask questions to clarify or gain more information. Thanks for your response. J', 0, '1', '', '', 13826, 0),
(13829, 28857, 'John Stoker', 'jrsutah@comcast.net', 'http://www.DialogueWORKS.com', '76.27.61.222', '2016-02-01 12:58:59', '2016-02-01 17:58:59', 'John,\nI appreciate your comments on the importance of apologizing. I have found that when I am wrong or if my comments or actions have offended someone, the easiest way to clear the air and to move forward is to apologize. Once a sincere apology has been given, it is much easier to move on.\n\nHowever, I have found from listening to the apologies that are frequently offered that they are often not apologies at all. For example, I recently heard someone say, \"I am sorry that you didn\'t understand me!\" When I heard this, I almost started to laugh because the person wasn\'t really apologizing. They were still blaming the person who didn\'t understand. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts. Great insights! J', 0, '1', '', '', 13827, 0),
(13830, 28857, 'Thomas Wharton', 'tom@lifocus.com', 'http://www.careerdoctor.com', '74.103.251.70', '2016-02-02 11:18:21', '2016-02-02 16:18:21', 'Well written and some great points John. As an executive coach, my need to really listen is heightened. I use a technique called \"active listening\" where I attempt to capture the feeling and content of discussions. I then very often, bounce it back to them for clarification. You reference this in point #8 \"ask for meaning\".\nThanks for a great article.\nTom', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13831, 28857, 'John Stoker', 'jrsutah@comcast.net', 'http://dialogueworks.com/', '76.27.61.222', '2016-02-02 11:36:52', '2016-02-02 16:36:52', 'Thanks Tom. Great idea about active listening. When people ask me what that means, I usually answer that means you have to do something, at least more than just hear the sound of their voice. I appreciate you sharing how you approach a coaching conversation from the attending perspective. Thanks for the comment. J', 0, '1', '', '', 13830, 385),
(13832, 28857, 'Tom Frame', 'twfandvr@comcast.net', '', '170.159.4.1', '2016-02-03 12:32:06', '2016-02-03 17:32:06', 'This may be labeled as being poor listener but bear with me. Being a good listener is important. To me, being an active listener is even more important. Listening is part of a two way street on the other side is the person doing the talking. There in lies the problem, sometimes that is what they are doing is talking. They don\'t want an active listener,  they just want to talk and be heard. Don\'t interrupt. Don\'t ask clarifying questions. Don\'t restate what you heard to make sure you heard and understood it correctly. Effective communication is a two-way street.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13833, 28857, 'John Stoker', 'jrsutah@comcast.net', 'http://dialogueworks.com/', '76.27.61.222', '2016-02-03 12:50:42', '2016-02-03 17:50:42', 'Totally agree. Sometimes when folks are just talking and talking and I don\'t know what they want I will ask them, \"Is there something that you want from me?\" Often they will stop and think and just say, \"No, I just want someone to listen.\" This is great to do because I can quiet my inner voice and just give them my full attention. Thanks for adding to the conversation! J', 0, '1', '', '', 13832, 385),
(13834, 28857, 'Donna Cunningham', 'dmcunningham@gus.pittstate.edu', 'http://Social%20Work%20Smart%20Brief', '68.103.165.1', '2016-02-03 17:27:33', '2016-02-03 22:27:33', 'Hello, I am a student at a college. I am going to be a social worker when I graduate. I have found that I need to work on my listening skills and will need these skills in social work. I thank you for sharing your ideas. I plan to use these ideas while learning in my classes, and to use them while practicing different areas I am learning. One of these is doing a biopsychosocial history on another student.\n\nThanks again,\n\nDonna Cunningham', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13835, 28857, 'Di Bennett', 'dianne.bennett@mbcint.com', '', '1.152.96.238', '2016-03-03 02:19:05', '2016-03-03 07:19:05', 'I really enjoyed your article John. As a professional mentor, I always employ the 80/20 rule. The mentee (or whoever I am listening to) speaks for 80% of the time, and I talk for only 20% of the time, so it\'s important to ask key, open ended questions during my 20%. My pet hate is to hear the one who is supposed to be the listener, \"stealing a turn\" as you point out in Point 6.  Grabbing the focus of the conversation away from the speaker and sharing your experiences or stories never complements the message of the speaker. It simply takes the focus off them and puts it squarely on you. We should never say, \"I know exactly how you are feeling because I......\" We are all unique beings and in my experience no one ever \"feels\" exactly the way you do. We need to always be aware of this and let them tell exactly how they are feeling. I\'ve read your blog for the first time, John, but it certainly won\'t be the last. What you are saying is really helpful - so thank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13836, 28857, 'John Stoker', 'jrsutah@comcast.net', 'http://dialogueworks.com/', '76.27.61.222', '2016-03-03 09:07:16', '2016-03-03 14:07:16', 'You are very welcome!! Let me know how it goes.', 0, '1', '', '', 13834, 385),
(13837, 28857, 'John Stoker', 'jrsutah@comcast.net', 'http://dialogueworks.com/', '76.27.61.222', '2016-03-03 09:08:38', '2016-03-03 14:08:38', 'I totally agree with your points. Hopefully I was able to add something to your quiver that will help you with mentoring practice. Thanks for commenting.', 0, '1', '', '', 13835, 385),
(13838, 28857, 'Rana Alsadi', 'wlcalsadi@gmail.com', '', '209.63.220.250', '2016-04-05 16:42:22', '2016-04-05 20:42:22', 'Thank you for your points. Very helpful and productive if used correctly .\nAs Counselor working with children and adolescents I had to listen with my mind and heart, and therefor I had a lot of that little voice in the head leading me to conclusions that might not be helpful for my client. I recently added a life coaching certification to my career. It taught  me how to take control of the little voices in my head and listen more.\nWhat I am trying to say , it takes a lot of self control and discipline to achieve a great listener technique and become more successful in any relationship.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13839, 28857, 'John Stoker', 'jrsutah@comcast.net', 'http://www.dialogueworks.com', '76.27.61.222', '2016-04-24 11:20:10', '2016-04-24 15:20:10', 'Thanks for your comments. Sorry it took me so long to respond. Awareness is the key to so much that we do in creating REAL Conversation. Awareness starts with ourselves. Being able to recognize that \"little\" voice in your head is one of the first steps to being able to silence it and make a different choice about how you will listen and respond in the conversation. Best wishes to you.', 0, '1', '', '', 13838, 0),
(13840, 28909, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-23 11:31:56', '2016-02-23 16:31:56', 'Hi, Alison - thanks for this thought-provoking and articulate post:)\n\nI agree with your comments about the digital competence of current leadership in many companies, but I would imagine that is at least somewhat generationally-connected.  I don\'t mean that older folks cannot be technologically and digitally saavy, since they certainly are.  I mean that top managers and leaders at larger organizations probably did not get to their current posts by honing those skills, but rather used other strengths.\n\nSince the world is changing at a faster pace now, newer and younger leaders will be forced to possess and demonstrate deeper understanding of the technological aspects of business and the digital world than their older \"brothers\".\n\nHaving grown up with technology, many need only to incorporate what they know about that technology with a strong business sense.    Just being able to use the \"toys\" is not enough for leadership.\n\nI also agree with your assessment about the changing nature of leadership, especially around that \"big data\" element.  This is not about being a Twitter rockstar or having a viral video of the annual state of the organization speech, but about being able to use the current and evolving technology to make better business decisions.\n\nI think agility figures in here somewhere, since technology now allows us to move at the speed of the Internet (not my home Internet, which can be quite slow, but at the pace of information flow, such as 24-hour news cycles and other output).   Business is a much faster game now.\n\nAppreciate this very interesting article:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13841, 28909, 'Konstantinos Zacharis', 'kzaharis@gmail.com', '', '194.63.239.231', '2016-03-09 06:23:59', '2016-03-09 11:23:59', 'Dear Alison,\nI read your comments and I think I must clarify a few things. The terms \"digital skills\" and \"digital or technology literacy\" are not quite the same, with the first being more specific  and specialized. Also the \"data-driven\" characteristic is rather vague. Perhaps you wanted to say \"information-retrieval skills from vast repositories\", which is something more tangible.\nAnyway, e-leadership is a rather new term which needs time to mature to a rigid description.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13842, 29008, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-23 11:13:24', '2016-02-23 16:13:24', 'Hi, Mark - excellent time management post with some fresh thinking around how to deal with what we incorrectly perceive as a \"lack of time\".  It\'s all about choices.\n\nI was particularly interested in your points around technology use.  In a recent Tweetchat with leadership folks, the issue arose of whether technology enhances or diminishes our interactions and activities.   The discussion was all over the place and the verdict somewhat mixed, but I did get a sense that technology USE is the issue, rather than the technology itself and that is also what I am getting from your points.\n\nBalance sounds interesting and I will check it out.   As for email, I have several accounts and, in order to maintain my sanity, am already striving to let them sit.  I experience much better ability to go through emails quickly, make immediate decisions regarding what to keep and what to delete, and generally save time and energy when I do many emails at one sitting several times a day, rather than the \"death by a thousand small cuts\" approach of trying to stay on top of the flow all the time all day long.\n\nAppreciate your useful comments:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13843, 29008, 'Mark Ellis', 'mark@businessfiction.co.uk', 'http://www.businessfiction.co.uk', '85.255.234.229', '2016-02-24 10:43:48', '2016-02-24 15:43:48', 'Thanks, John. You\'ve hit the nail on the head - it is indeed about tech use, as opposed to the apps and devices themselves. The key is finding a bunch of tools that work for you - figure out the best way to use them, and stick to that workflow.\n\nAnd, yes, there really is no such thing as \'a lack of time\'!\n\nThanks\n\nMark', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 409),
(13844, 29010, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-12 14:31:01', '2016-02-12 19:31:01', 'Hi, Paul - excellent post:)\n\nI do not remember ever seeing the word \"complimentary\" used in connection with team building or people fit for positions, but it makes perfect sense and is a good word to use.\n\nWhen we complement each other, we are using our strengths exactly as we should ... to fill in the performance gaps or needs of the larger organism.\n\nI would add that \"complimenary\" does not equate to \"thinks and acts just like me\", as some managers appear to believe is the ultimate fit.\n\nIn one workplace, one of the most common ways to describe the environment was to use the phrase \"We\'re just like a family\", which I am no fan of, since a work group or organization bears little actual resemblance to how a family operates.  Actually, families are more often examples of how workplaces should not be:)\n\nHowever, in this case, it worked.\n\nWhen they said \"family\", they were actually talking about something very similar to what you describe:  A group of folks focused on a common goal, who are working together with little conflict or competition.   Because of this, that workplace was like an idealized family, in that the best aspects of close connection to others in a distinct group existed.\n\nYou have nicely broken down the distinct elements which contribute to effective interaction among co-workers, and the last thing you mention is the most important:  common values.   When a group agrees on the values, much else becomes easier and more flowing.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13845, 29010, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-12 14:34:26', '2016-02-12 19:34:26', 'Paul:\n\nJust realized I used the term \"complimentary\" instead of the word I was thinking and which you used; \"complementary\".\n\nNot the same ... sorry, brain glitch at end of long and busy day.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13846, 29018, 'Amy Watson', 'Amy@CareerLeadershipAlignment.com', 'http://CareerLeadershipAlignment.com', '162.231.20.31', '2016-02-18 08:40:12', '2016-02-18 13:40:12', 'Oh goodness, it\'s worse than knowing a leader has said one to me. *I* have been guilty of saying a couple of them, and the memory of those errors makes me cringe. In both cases it was a mistake. I recovered okay from one, but the other actually destroyed my relationship with one of my direct reports and I\'ve regretted it ever since.\n\nBut I\'m practicing self-forgiveness.\n\nGood list! Welcome to the pack!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13847, 29018, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-18 09:18:58', '2016-02-18 14:18:58', 'Hi, Joseph - interesting post.\n\nI liked your list of things not to say as a leader.   At one time or another, I think I have heard all of these from someone else and even need to own up that I may have said something like some of them myself.\n\nThey are all good statements (and attitudes) to avoid, but the last one \"Failure is unacceptable\" is uniquely important.   We seem to have develped a cultural obsession around this idea that you cannot fail.  In the film \"Apollo 13\", among others, the line \"Failure is not an option.\" is prominent ... and totally untrue.\n\nFailure is not only an option, but a reality for most of us at least some of the time.   The idea that we can avoid life\'s realities by uttering this mantra religiously only creates both an illusion that we can avoid failure, but also sets us up to fall much harder than if we realistically plan, prepare, and execute.\n\nFailure has been much in my professional life and is the source of most of my learning and any wisdom I have gathered along the way.  Your comments about learning from our mistakes as we move forward is excellent.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13848, 29018, 'Jodi', 'Ejodi68@optonline.net', '', '70.192.70.159', '2016-02-19 13:03:46', '2016-02-19 18:03:46', 'Been told all by my former employer and conversely, I tried avoid these in my role as leader but the tone had been set already and so, my approach was met with some skepticism. Like a bunch of battered children. I got laid off....the last of the original group, and am still in \"recovery\" but feeling better each day. Always resilient and hopeful. Articles like your offer validation and renew my hope and spirit. Thank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13849, 29018, 'Joseph Sartori', 'joseph.sartori@mail.com', 'http://www.edubirdie.com', '45.74.46.40', '2016-02-22 05:02:35', '2016-02-22 10:02:35', 'Thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 13846, 413),
(13850, 29018, 'Joseph Sartori', 'joseph.sartori@mail.com', 'http://www.edubirdie.com', '45.74.46.40', '2016-02-22 05:28:34', '2016-02-22 10:28:34', 'Thank you for the comment. I like your example with \"Apollo 13\" and I think it would be interesting to hear from your experience too.', 0, '1', '', '', 13847, 413),
(13851, 29018, 'Joseph Sartori', 'joseph.sartori@mail.com', 'http://www.edubirdie.com', '45.74.46.40', '2016-02-22 05:29:10', '2016-02-22 10:29:10', 'Thanx! Glad the article inspired you and good luck!', 0, '1', '', '', 13848, 413),
(13852, 29018, 'Yvonne Rinaldi', 'principal@cms.qld.edu.au', 'http://www.cms.qld.edu.au', '139.130.206.117', '2016-02-25 21:22:11', '2016-02-26 02:22:11', 'Dear Joseph,\nHow true! Words can make or break people and your article has certainly delineated this. I would like to add that sometimes \'silence\' can have the same effect. Not providing someone with a constructive comment or even better asking a question, leaves one feeling unworthy.\n\nLeading must include developing and growing people. I like many have learned through mistakes and I am sure will continue to make mistakes; however I have made a conscious decision to lead by always sourcing the right question to ask.....\nWhat do you think?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13853, 29018, 'Joseph Sartori', 'joseph.sartori@mail.com', 'http://www.edubirdie.com', '91.206.30.12', '2016-02-26 03:56:18', '2016-02-26 08:56:18', 'Dear Yvonne,\ngood point. We have been taught many times that words are powerful and can be a real weapon. Yet, silence is no less dangerous in some situations. Actually, it could be another question to think upon - in which situations leader should not keep silent, and in which he must?', 0, '1', '', '', 13852, 413),
(13854, 29018, 'Essay writer', 'johnwailerkennedy@gmail.com', 'http://essaybaron.com/', '197.237.30.119', '2017-09-10 07:13:00', '2017-09-10 11:13:00', 'I have never reasoned in this perspective but I must say,this post is really intersting.I really love this post,very informative', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
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(13855, 29091, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-01-31 13:14:59', '2016-01-31 18:14:59', 'Hi John. What a great post prompting us to think about how we use questions!\n\nA good question change change a person\'s life, for the better.\n\nAlong the continuum toward the negative end is this experience. I was just telling someone yesterday about a type of question I call \"Brian-ing\" (I\'ve changed the name of the \"guilty\" party.)\n\nBrian-ing is when someone asks you a question and then answers it, or doesn\'t give you the chance to answer. I knew someone who did this so frequently to me that I coined the term, \"Brian-ing.\" It can really stall a conversation. In this context it told me he really didn\'t want my answer or to engage. Beware of \"Brian-ing!\"\n\nThanks again for the thought-provoking post, John!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13856, 29091, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2016-02-01 08:45:24', '2016-02-01 13:45:24', 'From someone who was born asking questions, I appreciate the framework you\'ve designed for asking questions. Learning, Leading, Structuring, and Setting the Tone are all important aspects of question asking. I hadn\'t thought about setting the tone but now that you mention it, we all do that in some way now, probably mindlessly. We should carefully consider tone. One of the greatest barriers to good questions is good listening. Listen first - and see the quality of your questions improve.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13857, 29091, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-01 09:18:58', '2016-02-01 14:18:58', 'Hi, Mary - thanks for your comments:)\n\nI have met \"Brian\" or whoever he/she really is.  I have actually worked with and for people like this and I agree it is one of those negative workplace behaviors that cause serious damage.\n\nIn my experience, Brianing often happens when someone thinks they are the smartest person in the room and sets out to prove it by setting up questions that they can then answer.\n\nThis is definitely not what I was talking about under Structuring, but might just be the evil twin of that idea.\n\nAs always, enjoy your thoughts and perceptions:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 13855, 376),
(13858, 29091, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-01 09:22:50', '2016-02-01 14:22:50', 'Hi, Jane - thanks for your comments:)\n\nYes, I would definitely agree that Setting The Tone is the most often missed aspect of communication.  Not sure why, since we all clearly sense when the tone is off, but being proactive, while more difficult, is definitely a positive thing, in my opinion.\n\nI had to smile at your very first sentence:).   I believe that almost all of us are born as inquisitive learning machines.  However, I also believe that our formal educational system and some of our societal expectations serve to stomp that curiosity right out of us.\n\nYour comment about the importance of listening in all this is key.   Absolutely essential.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 13856, 376),
(13859, 29091, 'Edie Patterson', 'edithpatterson1@mac.com', 'http://www.nonprofitdiagnostics.com', '108.4.15.166', '2016-02-05 12:00:17', '2016-02-05 17:00:17', 'Great post-and reminded me, again, of something I learned in one of my college jobs.\nI worked in the Government Depository section of the university library, which is where all the GPO (Gov\'t Printing Office) are sent for reference and filing. This included UN documents, military training manuals, etc. People used this section of the library for all kinds of research.\nWhat I learned is that if the researcher didn\'t know how to frame the questions they had, the librarians had a much harder time finding the relevant documents or sections of the library. A good librarian who could help the researcher frame the question, or define more clearly what their research purpose was, was absolutely key to successful research. Many researchers had to learn how to ask the right questions in order to get where they wanted to go-but sometimes they didn\'t know where that was! That learning has been a large part of my facilitation and nonprofit practice, and was a key part of my education at school.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13860, 29091, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-05 17:15:54', '2016-02-05 22:15:54', 'Hi, Edie - thanks for your comment and observations:)\n\nAs a former librarian (PT as a student) and life-long researcher and haunter of libraries, I could not agree more with your point about knowing what and how to ask for help or direction.   You have also clearly noted our responsibility as professional helpers to assist the person to form the question that will give them the information they seek.\n\nThis seems intuitive and simple, but in practice, it is often anything but clear on how to do this:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 13859, 376),
(13861, 29128, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-08 11:30:31', '2016-02-08 16:30:31', 'Hi, Mary  - another fascinating and useful post:)\n\nYour story about marrying at 21 so as to have a level of certainty in your life rang true with me, especially since I also married at 21 for much the same reasons.  I think you make a great point about how most of us tend to seach for and cling to what appears certain, while few of us dare to risk uncertainty.\n\nOf course, as you also note, navigating that uncertainty is also where the learning takes place and this is essential for a productive and happy life.\n\nAs my first marriage was crashing, mostly due to the fact that I craved the certainty, but did not have the maturity to live with the responsibility that entailed, I moved to the Big City.  My life up to that point was mostly small town, Middle American and MidWest, aside from a few relatively short forays into military life.\n\nAs I grappled with the complexity and pace of urban life, I once again clung to familiar and stable things, such as a few friends from \"the sticks\" who were traveling the same journey.  I found that when I dared to keep moving (like Dory:), I did better and the dependence on the familiar did not become toxic.\n\nI think we need the combination of certainty and uncertainty to really get the most out of life.\n\nThanks so much for another interesting and thought-provoking post.  I especially appreciate your willingness to share your own story with us.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13862, 29128, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '73.13.204.222', '2016-02-08 13:19:25', '2016-02-08 18:19:25', 'Thanks for your commentary, John. Our backgrounds sound similar. I too was reared in the Midwest, on a farm. Moving to the Big City was yet another lesson in managing uncertainty for me too.\n\nI like your insight: \"I think we need the combination of certainty and uncertainty to really get the most out of life.\" It reminds me of a quotation from Ray Croc, \"As long as you\'re green you\'re growing. As soon as you\'re ripe, you\'ll rot.\"\n\nHere\'s to remaining green and growing!', 0, '1', '', '', 13861, 252),
(13863, 29167, 'Jon Mertz', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://www.thindifference.com', '108.198.25.12', '2016-02-03 06:55:21', '2016-02-03 11:55:21', 'Margy,\n\nGreat points. We all have a responsibility, and we need to embrace it by engaging between generations and supporting the next. Purpose has a way of eliminating barriers and creating a better future. We need to focus here to support the next generation of leaders.\n\nThanks!\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13864, 29167, 'Susan Mazza', 'Susan@susanmazza.com', 'http://randomactsofleadership.com', '69.247.236.21', '2016-02-03 08:17:19', '2016-02-03 13:17:19', 'This is an incredibly helpful dose of perspective on millennialist.  Thank you Margy!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13865, 29167, 'Angie Merritt', 'amerritt@springfieldmo.gov', 'http://www.parkboard.org', '66.119.2.33', '2016-02-04 11:51:03', '2016-02-04 16:51:03', 'This articles has opened my eyes to how the millennia\'s think and engage with their co-workers.  All of my staff are in the generation and this gives me insight on the best ways to lead them and inspire them to become strong leaders for the future. Thanks', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13866, 29167, 'Chris', 'Chris@ChrisMakell.com', 'http://www.chrismakell.com', '70.113.57.27', '2016-02-04 12:06:24', '2016-02-04 17:06:24', 'Margy,\n\nThank you. This is the perspective I\'ve been advocating with leaders and it\'s refreshing to see it so brilliantly laid out in this post.\n\nI was compelled to share it on my blog with a link back because it is so good...;)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13867, 29167, 'Isabel Einxig-Wein', 'Isabel@uniquepathways.com', 'http://Www.uniquepathways.com', '69.250.44.6', '2016-02-04 13:31:19', '2016-02-04 18:31:19', 'As a leadership coach I see the importance of collaboration across the generations. We can learn from each other and should make that a major daily exercise. The older generation has the scars from trial and error . We can offer guidance, but the guidance can become the inspiration to help the millennialist try \"the road less traveled.\" Just spent 7 weeks in Jerusalem fulfilling my dream of studying at an Ulpan. We should all dream and then go after it!  Great info...thank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13868, 29167, 'Stephen G. Tom', 'stephen@teleportconsulting.com', 'http://linkedin.com/in/stephengtom', '190.106.209.74', '2016-02-04 14:54:37', '2016-02-04 19:54:37', 'Margy,\n\nYou\'ve expressed a point I have made with leaders. Millennials are here to stay and need to evolve into the next generation of leaders. You help other generations understand the mindset of Millennials.\n\nI recently read Rebecca Ryan\'s book, \"Live First, Work Second.\" She amplifies your thoughts and enlightens the rest of us on how we might relate to Millennials.\n\nBest,\nSteve', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13869, 29167, 'GJW', 'gjw1221@gmail.com', '', '74.200.118.5', '2016-02-04 15:27:17', '2016-02-04 20:27:17', 'While I am always enlightened by articles like this that explain what Millennials need from us, I anxiously await the day when someone explains to Millennials what the rest of us (Gen X\'ers like myself and those before us) need from them.  It should be a two-way street.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13870, 29167, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-05 09:05:10', '2016-02-05 14:05:10', 'Hi, Margy ... said the Leading Edge Boomer:)\n\nI was prepared to take strong issue with your post when I saw that it was about Millennials and generational differences.  I have long railed against the idea that each generation has some unique set of factors and traits that make them so different from other age groups.   The fact that quite a cottage industry exists around identifying and exploiting those \"differences\" does not help.\n\nI do believe that humans have common characteristics, experiences, and development that exist somewhat outside age and historical location.\n\nThat said, you have made a strong case with your insightful and balanced post.   This is not the stale list of generational characteristics that I regularly see, but a thoughtful analysis of your generation\'s experience.\n\nMost Favorite Line:  \"Young professionals such as myself need good leaders to look up to learn from, and our leaders need to be in tune with how our millennial minds work.\"\n\nThis I can happily and easily live with:)\n\nAppreciate your clear-eyed and engaging style.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13871, 29167, 'Nate', 'nate.teplow@continuum.net', '', '198.22.253.6', '2016-02-05 11:25:56', '2016-02-05 16:25:56', 'I agree with this (and I\'m a Millennial myself - born in 1990). I couldn\'t help but think when reading this article, \"how Millennial is it to tell other generations how to work with us?\" There is a lot we need to learn from other generations and I think it\'s more important for us to learn how to work with them, than for them to learn how to work with us.\n\nObviously, there\'s no stopping the Millennial wave and we\'re an important demographic to think about when recruiting and building and organization, but I think Millennials sometimes need to be pushed out of their comfort zone to learn and appreciate other ways of doing things.\n\nMargy - you do bring up some good points, those are all things Millennials want in a leader/organization. Something I\'ve always appreciated in the companies I\'ve worked for is the opportunity to take on responsibility and make an impact. I think that\'s one thing that drives Millennials, is the desire to make an impact. Make sure we have projects we can own and drive ourselves and be responsible for the success (or failure) of.\n\nGood things to think about in this article, but agree that it should be a two-way street.', 0, '1', '', '', 13869, 0),
(13872, 29167, 'JEM', 'jan2715@gmail.com', '', '148.167.2.30', '2016-02-05 11:36:44', '2016-02-05 16:36:44', 'Hi Margy, My only comment is that I get the impression that Millennials believe they are the very first generation to INVENT all those wonderful characteristics to bring to the workplace.  REALLY?!?  I know a lot of older women and men who tried \"going rogue\" over the course of our careers to get OUR leaders to understand and believe in the values you bring to the table.  Meaningful work embraces more than a set of competencies on a resume!\n       JEM', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13873, 29167, 'EAA', 'elizabethallbright@gmail.com', '', '199.103.32.29', '2016-02-05 12:09:27', '2016-02-05 17:09:27', 'As a member of the mid ground between Boomers and Gen X, I believe the two-way street is implied.  Management has gotten terribly lazy about touching base with their employees basing their excuse on being overworked.  That argument would stand if they were actually delegating and following up, but too many are control freaks.  They hold on to the work for fear someone else might do it better, they don\'t have time to actually MANAGE anyone and are overwhelmed and grumpy much of the time.  Management today, for the most part, has forgotten what it means to be a LEADER.  Millennials are demanding management step up and become leaders. That\'s your two-way street - GROW!', 0, '1', '', '', 13869, 0),
(13874, 29167, 'JR', 'juanita.romo@metrotech.edu', '', '164.58.25.238', '2016-02-05 16:50:44', '2016-02-05 21:50:44', 'Your article is a real inspiration - your points well made.\nAppreciate you for your sharing your insight.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13875, 29167, 'Margy Kerr-Jarrett (Admin)', 'margy@leadchangegroup.com', '', '185.120.126.82', '2016-02-07 09:02:58', '2016-02-07 14:02:58', 'Thanks Angie!', 0, '1', '', '', 13865, 0),
(13876, 29167, 'Margy Kerr-Jarrett (Admin)', 'margy@leadchangegroup.com', '', '185.120.126.82', '2016-02-07 09:03:34', '2016-02-07 14:03:34', 'Thank you Chris! I\'m curious- what do your advocating efforts look like? All the best!', 0, '1', '', '', 13866, 0),
(13877, 29167, 'Margy Kerr-Jarrett (Admin)', 'margy@leadchangegroup.com', '', '185.120.126.82', '2016-02-07 09:04:49', '2016-02-07 14:04:49', 'Hi Isabel! So cool that you were in Jerusalem--I live in Jerusalem! Which ulpan were you at? What level Hebrew did you complete? Last year (before I started my current job) I had a sales job here in Israel..all in Hebrew! It really helped me master my command of the language and was so much fun! Let me know if you are back in these parts again anytime soon :)', 0, '1', '', '', 13867, 0),
(13878, 29167, 'Margy Kerr-Jarrett (Admin)', 'margy@leadchangegroup.com', '', '185.120.126.82', '2016-02-07 09:05:21', '2016-02-07 14:05:21', 'Thanks Steve- I will check out that book!', 0, '1', '', '', 13868, 0),
(13879, 29167, 'Margy Kerr-Jarrett (Admin)', 'margy@leadchangegroup.com', '', '185.120.126.82', '2016-02-07 09:07:17', '2016-02-07 14:07:17', 'GJW and Nate-\n\nI would LOVE to hear about what other generations need from us! Of course, it is easy to get stuck in our own needs/desires. Considering the somewhat self-centeredness (excuse my harshness) of the millennial generation, I think 2-way communication is definitely needed.', 0, '1', '', '', 13869, 0),
(13880, 29167, 'Jesse Stoner', 'jstoner@seapointcenter.com', 'http://seapointcenter.com', '50.1.104.90', '2016-02-07 19:30:17', '2016-02-08 00:30:17', 'Lots of excellent points, Margy, and well-written. I especially appreciate your comment, \"we need you to relate to us as not only employees, but future leaders. \" I would add \"and recognize the leadership we Millennials are currently providing.\" You might want to check out the term \"the gray ceiling\" - the phenomenon where Boomers are not creating space for the next generation to move into leadership positions.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13881, 29167, 'Wayne Davis', 'wdavis@ci.montgomery.oh.us', '', '216.68.27.226', '2016-02-08 08:59:08', '2016-02-08 13:59:08', 'A well written article.\n\nLeadership should not only be defined or developed and applied to the Millenials.....it should be applied to all employees/co-workers.   If these other groups -- Gen X, Baby Boomers, and everything in between do not need \"careful and thoughtful\" leadership, then perhaps the millenials are unique.\n\n\"Give us that structure, that framework, but be flexible......\".   This is great to idealize, but as a future leader, who would like to be in a position to lead a work unit, department, organization or region --- how do you do this?   What are your suggestions for implementing this when law (Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA), collective bargaining unit contracts, tax reporting, Fair Labor Standards Act, Public Records,  for example) conflicts with the desire for flexibility.\n\nInstead of laying what you need as a group, perhaps you can lay out what the group brings to an organization in terms of value, and differentiate this from what other groups bring to the table.  This would help to begin the process of identifying where millenials are unique (if this is the case) and to assist with the \"on-boarding and mentoring\" that are crucial to the development of leaders and contributors to the success of any organization.\n\nAs a general rule, I avoid trying to define a group by their demographic traits when it comes to their potential, as I think the broad brush approach tends to put limits or constraints on a group.   I have very little time to assess a group that has been defined by someone else; instead I use leadership and human skills that I have developed over many years, personally and professionally, to interpret the \"tabula rosa\" of each individual I encounter and then assess their personal values through time working together because I believe that the manifestation of personal values via exhibited behaviors are more telling than the broad brush of a group that someone else has defined.\n\nI could write a thesis on this, but time does not permit.   Keep on pushing and define the value that you bring to the organization, and please do not use someone else\'s definition.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13882, 29167, 'Paul Tikalsky', 'paul.tikalsky@okstate.edu', 'http://WWW.CEAT.okstate.edu', '66.249.85.157', '2016-02-08 11:34:10', '2016-02-08 16:34:10', 'Excellent points and well communicated.  This helps my whole senior leadership team.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13883, 29167, 'Ed mcguire', 'Hendersoned@cox.net', '', '72.193.144.204', '2016-02-09 00:31:44', '2016-02-09 05:31:44', 'I believe this is sound advice for every generation, as a young baby boomer or old gen X (I identify with the boomers) I find treating all with respect and expressing your expectations clearly works with every age group.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13884, 29167, 'Dave Blum', 'drclue@drclue.com', 'http://www.drclue.com', '67.160.240.15', '2016-02-09 11:28:13', '2016-02-09 16:28:13', 'You might like to consult this article by Ron Edmondson:\n\nhttp://www.ronedmondson.com/2016/02/7-of-the-biggest-misunderstandings-millennials-have-about-my-baby-boomer-generation.html\n\nIt looks at things from the other end:  how Boomers are misunderstood by Millennials and what they should know about working with us. (I\'m a Boomer, kinda).', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13885, 29167, 'Margy KJ', 'Margy@weavinginfluence.com', '', '37.26.149.192', '2016-02-09 11:52:30', '2016-02-09 16:52:30', 'Thanks Aunt Lyn! The \"grey ceiling\" is an interesting point- I think better communication (hence, understanding) between the generations would really help combat that.', 0, '1', '', '', 13880, 0),
(13886, 29167, 'Rich', 'Crj1010@gmail.com', '', '172.56.19.43', '2016-02-09 13:10:07', '2016-02-09 18:10:07', 'Well written. A nice article for a parenting site.\nI believe this is a guideline to raising a naturally healthy narcissistic toddler or adolescent.maybe this generational classification is not to blame they were let down by a lack of parenting.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13887, 29167, 'Tom Buzbee', 'Glfbldr@gmail.com', '', '12.219.152.162', '2016-02-10 10:49:19', '2016-02-10 15:49:19', 'Thanks for the candid and frank first person viewpoint on this issue.   I agree with a few of the previous comments that the current generation (and those yet to come) should not exclusively expect their predecessors (Traditionalists, Boomers) to come to them and ask about their feelings.  All three generations have to merge.  If Millenials sit around waiting for the rest of us to tell them how wonderful they are we will continue to be stuck in the mud.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13888, 29167, 'Richard Lippert', 'dlippert@leathersmilligan.com', 'http://www.leathersmilligan.com', '98.172.82.62', '2016-02-10 12:26:35', '2016-02-10 17:26:35', 'What the article illustrates is how far our corporate \"leadership\" programs have strayed from real leadership principals.  Millennials are simply seeking real leaders, not the narcissists and hacks being stamped out of too many leadership development programs. It is time to change.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13889, 29167, 'Kathy Kelly', 'kathy@webworke.com', '', '73.2.121.133', '2016-03-05 18:45:45', '2016-03-05 23:45:45', 'Thank you Margy for your article!\nIt offers confirmation on issues we are already managing with some doubt and uncertainty. But it also provides some new perspective. You see there are a couple of components between millennials and Gen X\'rs that are polar opposites, like work ethics. Some Millennials are targeted as being lazy workers. However. when you take into consideration, the other points that you make about what Millennials need, I wonder if work performance improves?\nThis is something to consider for anyone leading this group of people and are having challenges.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13890, 29172, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-12 15:30:17', '2016-02-12 20:30:17', 'Hi, Eunice - good post:)\n\nI like your distinction between true collaboration and what I might call \"consensus-building\", or that all-out effort to get complete and consistent approval or agreement on every decision.\n\nIn my experience, regardless of the decision, some few will be solidly in favor of the action, a few might actively oppose it with a larger number passively resisting, and the majority will go with the flow, more or less.   While this does not place most workers in a very positive light, it does the reality that I have seen more often than not.\n\nWith collaboration as you describe it (and the example you give is a good one of how collaboration can work with a supportive structure present), more people are likely to wind up in the passively or actively supportive part of the equation.\n\nI guess I am saying that the goal in collaboration is to gain the momentum by minimizing the  number of resistant employees and maximizing the number of those who support the direction or action.\n\nAs to your question, I have always tried to adopt a collaborative approach, through my college and military leadership experiences, and in my working career in a variety of areas.   While some areas, such as non-profit environments, seem more open to collaborative leadership (or coaching leadership, as I think of it), I believe that good collaboration can happen everywhere.\n\nOne caveat:  Collaboration is sometimes claimed, but not actually used.  As an example, I worked for one CEO who regularly  brought groups together to consider various initiatives and possible directions for our organization.  The problem was that she walked into every meeting with her own ideas firmly established.  The result was that right after being asked to respond to a possibility, those present were subjected to a sales pitch, using the full authority of her position.\n\nThis made for some stimulating and animated hallway conversations, as you might imagine, but did absolutely nothing to serve the organization.  However, this CEO regularly claimed that organizational decisions were the result of collaboration, pointing to these gatherings as proof of our community.\n\nSigh ... I did not really enjoy that environment.\n\nThanks for a thoughtful and useful post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13891, 29205, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-05 10:16:22', '2016-02-05 15:16:22', 'Hi, Joshua - great post and some evocative imagery:)\n\nI enjoyed both the description of the Slinky analogy and the leadership phases.\n\nYou make a very interesting point, which I must remember, about how using toys, especially ones from a person\'s childhood, can increase engagement and enjoyment of learning experiences.   I have often used colored markers and poster paper for much the same reasons ... adults love to color:)\n\nWith regard to the leadership phases, I was struck by the juxtapositioning of numbers four and five.   Too often, folks plow ahead on their planned change \"with courage and tenacity\", but come up short on being able to \"adjust course ...\".\n\nFlexibility and the willingness to adjust one\'s plans or direction are essential, in my opinion.\n\nThanks for an interesting and useful post.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13892, 29205, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-05 10:19:59', '2016-02-05 15:19:59', 'PS: to your ending question about change and the Slinky ...\n\nIn the language of toy metaphors, I experience change as more like either Rock \'Em, Sock \'Em Robots or Operation:)\n\nRock \'Em ...  involves banging away at something until you overcome it.\n\nOperation involves the application of very precise movements to achieve the goal.\n\nOf course, while engaged in change, I usually feel most like either a Yo-Yo or Battleship:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13893, 29205, 'Joshua Lee Henry', 'joshualeehenry@gmail.com', 'http://joshualeehenry.com', '23.25.43.174', '2016-02-08 10:24:45', '2016-02-08 15:24:45', 'Thanks for the comments, John.\n\nYou\'re right, adults do love to color. Your observation about numbers 4 and 5, the ability to courageously advance while also being able to adjust course, reminds me of the proverb \"blessed are the flexible for they shall bend and not break\". Though not from Scripture, that adage is no less true.\n\nAnd I love your change analogies for Rock \'Em, Sock Em Robots and Operation. It seems that the metaphors for childhood games and leading change are endless. Just think of it, In addition to those I mentioned, and your comments about Yo-Yo and Battleship, you could also add to the mix parallels with \"Guess Who\", \"Connect the Dots\", and \"Clue\".\n\nI appreciate your engagement,\nJoshua', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13894, 29205, 'Dave Blum', 'drclue@drclue.com', 'http://www.drclue.com', '67.160.240.15', '2016-02-09 12:06:25', '2016-02-09 17:06:25', 'Very cool stuff.  I\'ve built a whole business around another childhood game model:  the treasure hunt.   Anything you can do to get people to leave their office hierarchies behind and let their hair down is bound to lead to greater engagement.\n\nRe. adjusting your course, I like the analogy of a missile...which is constantly veering off course but then \"course corrects\".  Our lives seem to be just like that!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13895, 29205, 'Hans Finzel', 'hans@hansfinzel.com', 'http://www.hansfinzel.com', '162.216.46.103', '2016-02-15 16:24:41', '2016-02-15 21:24:41', 'Hey Joshua, I just wanted to say good job on this review of my Slinky book.  It is a fun analogy and you have captured well what I was driving at.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13896, 29251, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-10 11:51:41', '2016-02-10 16:51:41', 'Hi, Jane - great post on one of my favorite topic.\n\nYou had me at \"Elder and Paul\":).  I have used their works (books and articles) for years teaching various critical and creative thinking courses and they are among the leading academic voices in this regard.\n\nLoved your description of the critical thinking process, as related to your original goal of writing the January Post To Rule Them All.   Critical thinking is key to helping us deconstruct our thinking, identify fallacies deeply held, and adjust our actions to a more realistic base.\n\nThe number of examples I could give regarding my lack of critical thinking could fill a book.\n\nI think we sometimes feel that critical thinking is just \"common sense on steroids\" and do not fully appreciate that it is a skill to be learned and refined, just like reading, writing, and artistry.   Critical thinking has to be practiced and our ability to think critically grows in layers, rather than being a finite point to be reached.\n\nWhen I teach critical thinking to college students, I am regularly amazed at how often I neglect to \"take my own advice\" and am subsequently delighted when someone calls me on my own lack of critical thinking.\n\nThanks for this post - as always, nicely composed and thought-provoking:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13897, 29251, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-06-08 15:31:34', '2016-06-08 19:31:34', 'John,\n\nMy apologies for the long, long, long delay in responding. Life has been a bit wonky lately.\n\nI hope your students know what a treasure you are...you are obviously exposing them to great minds and concepts that will contribute to their smart leadership.\n\nThank you, as always, for your comments and insights that help me continue expanding my boundaries as well.\n\nWarm regards,\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 13896, 251),
(13898, 29269, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '70.189.113.117', '2016-02-15 06:05:41', '2016-02-15 11:05:41', 'Will, thanks for a challenging post. I appreciate being reminded, especially on Monday morning, that the success of the team needs to dictate my success. I don\'t exercise enough patience, and I often do rush to judgment, and I always have to remember to work towards win-win. Thanks again!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13899, 29269, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-15 10:40:36', '2016-02-15 15:40:36', 'Hi, Will - as I always, expect, your post is thoughtful and clear.\n\nThe ability to work with others is an important aspect of leadership and you have nicely described some strategies and benefits to doing so.  My short response to your ending question is \"Of course, relationships matter  ... a lot!\".\n\nI would add that this is one of those places where differences in personality and \"style\" (for lack of beter term) come into play, at least in my experience.  I remember some learnings that first came to me many years ago, when I worked on several college campuses with residence hall staff and other student development workers.  During that time, I was quite into experiential learning, ROPES courses, and physical challenges to build teams.\n\nHere\'s what I learned, simply from a teambuilding POV:\n\nSome people fall easily into extroverted behavior and are naturally oriented toward relationships with other people.   These folks generate verbal and physical energy.  They enjoy group activities, are usually up for socializing with fellow workers, and generally fit the perception of being a \"People Person\", as it is commonly defined.\n\nOthers are more introverted and more naturally lean toward fewer and deeper relationships with others.  They are less likely to find value in group activities, although they will participate and even excel at some group exercises, especially those which require thoughtful reflection before action.\n\nAll of this, of course, moves from the outdoor adventure camp to the campus and to the office building.   Some folks find it easier to get behind group projects, while others are happier doing solo work.   This is simply a characteristic of people which exists for everyone along a constantly shifting continuum, with a definite preference for one end or the other of that continuum.\n\nCaveat:  Nothing I have noted in any way should be taken to mean that anyone is \"stuck\" in a particular behavior or thinking mode, or that they are incapable of shifting behavior as needed to meet a situation.  This is one of the best things about people:  They are quite capable and usually willing to move outside their comfort zone, when the leadership trust and support exists to help them do so.\n\nThanks again for a thought-provoking post which also allowed me a short trip down Memory Lane:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13900, 29269, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2016-02-15 11:44:28', '2016-02-15 16:44:28', 'Excellent, Will. I once had a manager who reminded us to \'preserve the relationship\'. Maybe not at all costs but there was never a time in my tenure at that organization when the battle was of such savage proportions that her advice didn\'t make sense.  Your six points are remarkably accurate for building relationships. You asked if I think relationships are important or not. I absolutely believe we humans were created for relationships and there is no skirting the fact that we need each other. So if were to add to your list, point 0 would be Decide that relationships are worth it and desire to preserve them.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13901, 29269, 'Leo Bottary', 'leo.bottary@gmail.com', 'http://thepowerofpeers.wordpress.com', '75.80.17.254', '2016-02-15 12:35:43', '2016-02-15 17:35:43', 'Will, thanks for sharing.  You touch on you what our new book The Power of Peers: How the Company You Keep Drives Leadership, Growth &amp; Success is all about.  Who you surround yourself with matters.  As we experienced as learning team colleagues at Seton Hall, when students collaborate effectively, they will learn far more from one another than they will from their professors or their course materials!  Same holds true in the workplace!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13902, 29269, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.com', '96.242.209.121', '2016-02-15 22:28:40', '2016-02-16 03:28:40', 'The demand for us to get things done often put us on a path that does not allow us to be patient.  But we know that patience is essential to our success.', 0, '1', '', '', 13898, 0),
(13903, 29269, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.com', '96.242.209.121', '2016-02-15 22:31:28', '2016-02-16 03:31:28', 'Hi John,\n\nExcellent point on the different personality types.    As the leader of the team, it is essential for us to take that into consideration.  This way we can cater to their ways of responding to team goals thereby improving our chance of succeeding as a team.\n\nRegards,\n\nWill Lukang', 0, '1', '', '', 13899, 0),
(13904, 29269, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.com', '96.242.209.121', '2016-02-15 22:33:34', '2016-02-16 03:33:34', 'Hi Jane,\n\nYour point zero of deciding that relationships are worth is very important.  I often see leader fails because they thing that everyone always buy in to their goal.   It is our job to decide that relationships is important before we move forward.\n\nRegards,\n\nWill Lukang', 0, '1', '', '', 13900, 0),
(13905, 29269, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.com', '96.242.209.121', '2016-02-15 22:35:33', '2016-02-16 03:35:33', 'Hi Leo,\n\nThe power of collective wisdom is so much more powerful than individual wisdom.  Sometimes when we seek everyone\'s opinion and contribution, you\'ll come out with a better solutions that will greatly affect the outcome, because people bought in to the goal and are more committed to get it done.\n\nRegards,\n\nWill Lukang', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13906, 29285, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2016-02-12 14:57:40', '2016-02-12 19:57:40', 'Chris, your book,  The Culture Engine descubes and instructs leaders in the discipline and practice of designing, implementing, and operating their organizations from the foundation of a constitution.  Knowing that you live and breathe it every day, how would you boil that down to personal responsibility and accountability. You travel, speak, consult, have a family and a dog. You\'re a musician at heart. In all this diversity how do you fit it in?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13907, 29285, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '97.122.178.149', '2016-02-12 15:58:34', '2016-02-12 20:58:34', 'Thanks for your kind words and amazing support, Jane! You boiled it down for me - \"personal responsibility and accountability.\" I\'d add \"in service to others.\" Life is too short to be in competition with everyone and everything around us. That approach is exhausting - and that race is never won. I had remarkable role models (good and bad) that helped me understand this was the best path for me - and I coach, counsel, and guide others to live the same way.\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 372),
(13908, 29299, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-16 11:06:17', '2016-02-16 16:06:17', 'Hi, Amy:)\n\nI love this post for a very specific reason ...\n\nWithout ever saying it directly, you have outlined a career change strategy that works for those entering the work force, those who are decades in,  and (most importantly to my point), those who used to be thought of as \"retired\" or \"close to leaving the workforce\".\n\nWith the increasing number of folks remaining employed to a full or partial degree at a point in their career when they hoped and expected to be not working, this is valuable guidance indeed.\n\nWhile the responses may differ for those of us at the later stages of work life, the questions remain pretty much the same.\n\nYou asked about a critical skill for all this.   With regard to my particular slant on career change at a later time in life, my choice would be \"Resilience\".\n\nImportant at any age, but particularly applicable to what may turn out to be far from a traditional transition to a new career.  As someone has said roughly \"Growing old ain\'t for sissies:)\" and this applies to work life as much as any other aspect of aging.\n\nThanks for a useful and well-phrased post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13909, 29299, 'Amy Watson', 'Amy@CareerLeadershipAlignment.com', 'http://CareerLeadershipAlignment.com', '162.231.20.31', '2016-03-29 13:25:43', '2016-03-29 17:25:43', 'Thank you, John! I read your comment at least a month ago and somehow neglected to reply to it. Your comments are much appreciated.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13910, 29342, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-23 11:04:22', '2016-02-23 16:04:22', 'Hi, David:)\n\nNice post and I am looking forward to reading your and Karen\'s book.\n\nI like the image of the tree, with those invisible, but very important and deep roots providing the energy and platform for our daily actions.\n\nA slight quibble about those first three \"P\"s.  I don\'t believe that Power, Prestige, and Purse are necessarily always negative motivators.  Like in other situations, it may depend on how a person uses those motivators.\n\nFor example, someone who believes strongly in their passion (and for argument\'s sake, let\'s say it is a positive passion - a people helping other people type of thing).   They may seek Power to change the way things are in a positive way, Prestige to lend needed credibility to what they seek to do, and Purse to finance their actions.\n\nI guess what I am saying is that I could see all five \"P\"s as useful.  What do you think?\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13911, 29342, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2016-02-23 12:22:02', '2016-02-23 17:22:02', 'John, what a great clarification - yes, absolutely: all of those motivations can be used positively and channeled toward good outcomes. The challenge I see leaders face is when they expect to motivate or engage their teams while working from internal motivations that have nothing to do with their people or the mission.\n\nThanks as always for a great contribution John!', 0, '1', '', '', 13910, 307),
(13912, 29342, 'Courtney Gifford', 'courtney.gifford@infomart-usa.com', 'http://www.infomart-usa.com', '209.156.1.222', '2016-02-24 09:58:36', '2016-02-24 14:58:36', 'Looking up to leaders, it seems to me that effective leaders start from the bottom of your 5 P list and work their way up. Once that final P, the Power, is reached, Purpose is the first thing to be set aside. The stronger the Purpose, the more difficult it is to forget. So, maybe we should teach our future leaders more about investing themselves in a strong purpose, and accept less apathy from our fellows.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13913, 29342, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '64.134.58.86', '2016-02-26 09:30:01', '2016-02-26 14:30:01', 'Courtney, what a great observation about the \"build\" in these motivators!', 0, '1', '', '', 13912, 307),
(13914, 28331, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-03-15 10:50:37', '2016-03-15 14:50:37', 'Hi Paul. What a powerful and important post. With so many employees whose boss is in a different location, it is such a challenge, as you described.\n\nTo answer your question, I\'ve had bosses who spoke with me after work hours on occasions when I really needed that. Another sat with me while I was crying and didn\'t try to \"fix\" it for me. He just listened intently. Reminds me of those Mastercard ads. His response was priceless to me.\n\nGreat post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13915, 28331, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.169.191.93', '2016-03-15 23:14:45', '2016-03-16 03:14:45', 'Thank you Mary! Those are great instances of showing genuine presence, and your story tells of the lasting impact it has. It has more impact now than ever before in our changing work environments and cultures.\n\nAnd, as you say, it\'s priceless. The value of presence can literally last a lifetime or beyond.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13916, 28754, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '158.85.159.176', '2016-02-26 08:20:43', '2016-02-26 13:20:43', 'Thanks Alan for a great post. Sometimes I even find I take the victim role on a situation-by-situation basis. I drop back to Leader-In-Waiting because I make the choice of whining about my situation or the circumstances I find myself in, rather than choosing to make a difference.  Your post is a great reminder to all of us, we\'re only one choice away. Thanks! Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13917, 28754, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-26 12:41:20', '2016-02-26 17:41:20', 'Hi, Alan - thanks for another very interesting and useful post:)\n\nI especially like your typology of leaders-in-waiting and the thoughtfulness it represents.\n\nThe most fascinating to me is the \"paused leader\".  This is a distinction that comes to mind less readily than the other two and may explain some phenomena that we are seeing in many organizations now, after a long period of uncertainty and abrupt change in the business landscape.\n\nOne thing I am picking up from your observations is a reminder of the real difference between knowing how to do something and actually doing it.  Very key:)\n\nThanks again for another neat post.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13918, 28754, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '167.124.124.21', '2016-02-26 14:46:49', '2016-02-26 19:46:49', 'Thanks, Mike. Yes, that happens to the best of us. And, sometimes our choices are UNconsciously made before we even know what\'s happened. I find making \"the right\" choices isn\'t always easy.\n\nI appreciate your comment!\nAlan', 0, '1', '', '', 13916, 323),
(13919, 28754, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '167.124.124.21', '2016-02-26 14:56:59', '2016-02-26 19:56:59', 'Hey, John.  Very insightful takeaways. Yes, I think we are seeing a lot of this today.  I am personally fascinated by the \"paused leader\", who - as you say - knows what to do, but chooses not to.  How to re-inspire that individual is an area of continued focus. Would love ideas.\n\nThanks,\nAlan', 0, '1', '', '', 13917, 323),
(13920, 28819, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-03-02 10:50:36', '2016-03-02 15:50:36', 'Hi, Scott - excellent post on a subject which does not get as much attention as it should.\n\nI think recognition and reward of employees is essential, and when we do this well, the benefits are almost unlimited in terms of increased job satisfaction, better productivity, less conflict, increased retention, and so on.\n\nThis is one of the most specific posts I have seen on this topic, going way beyond the idea that money is not the only or best motivator.   Let me comment on a couple of things from the many things that caught my attention:\n\n1)  \"What form do you like the reward to take?\"  You listed many possibilities here and one that stuck out for me personally was to be leveraged as an expert.  I don\'t particularly like the term \"leveraged\", but I know what you mean and this way of rewarding a person speaks directly to folks like me who seek validation for our skills and our abilities.\n\n2)  \"Get everyone in on the act\" is a great idea that  my experience tells me is much more difficult to implement and maintain that we might think.  In one large corporation, few folks beyond the supervisor/manager level utilized the peer-to-peer acknowledge tools which were richly produced and widely available.  The result was that management was seen as the font of the attention, which is not significantly different from the status quo.\n\nIn another, mostly professionals and mostly online corporation, the peer-to-peer acknowledgment program (also well-designed and distributed widely) has just been \"killed\", due to lack of use.  Not sure what the answer is, but it ain\'t easy:)\n\n3)  \"Celebrate First Downs and Touchdowns\" - again, many organizations are much better at celebrating when they score, but not so good at recognizing the movement down the field (to keep the football thing going:).  This hooks nicely with another section where you make good points about clarifying what is being measured, the milestones, and so on.  If people know that doing one step is a big deal, they will probably do it better and just might celebrate doing it themselves:)\n\nI guess that is what you are putting forth as an end goal - get the organization to the point where leaders are not the only or primary generators of recognition and rewards ... get everyone so engaged in the process that it becomes part of the culture.\n\nGreat stuff, as always:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13921, 28819, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', '', '65.185.19.119', '2016-03-02 19:38:38', '2016-03-03 00:38:38', 'John - duly noted on the word \"leveraged\".  And I really appreciate your reinforcement of the point that being tailored about what form the rewards &amp; recognition should take resonates particularly well with those who are seeking validation for their skills and abilities.  Makes me want to tailor my R&amp;R all the more!\nThx as always for your insightful responses.  I always learn something from you.\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 13920, 389),
(13922, 28819, 'Eileen McDargh', 'Eileen@eileenmcdargh.com', 'http://www.eileenmcdargh.com', '68.4.141.57', '2016-03-04 15:47:40', '2016-03-04 20:47:40', 'Excellent post. I have always felt that formalized employee recognition programs were regarded with cynicism. They are never specific and seem to be done behind closed doors. Frequent, personal, and to the point recognition makes great sense.  Thanks for writing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 418);
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(13923, 28819, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2016-03-06 14:12:33', '2016-03-06 19:12:33', 'Eileen - thx so much for taking the time to comment on this post.  I so believe that we can either stick the landing or crash the landing when it comes to rewards &amp; recognition.  It\'s so essential to get it right!\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 13922, 0),
(13924, 29077, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-26 12:34:05', '2016-02-26 17:34:05', 'Hi, Lewis ...  Great post on a subject near and dear to this introvert\'s heart:).\n\nQuick observation:  I am probably one of the most outgoing introverts many people run into ... my career has repeatedly thrust me into positions where speaking to, directing, and facilitating large groups is one of my 10,000 hours skills.  HOwever, in true introvert fashion, I disappear regularly to recharge and am extremely happy to spend entire days or longer periods amusing myself quite well:)\n\nI think introverts bring much to leadership roles, but here are my three nominations for the most important introvert skills:\n\n1)  Ability to have those quieter, one-on-one conversations that create and nurture relationships.\n\n2)  Ability to step out (or even avoid) the spotlight without feeling a sense of loss, while being comfortable with letting others enter that spotlight.  This speaks to your point about extroverts who might be threatened by this very thing.\n\n3)  Thoughtfulness and mindfulness of the world around them, noticing things and seeing connections that others might miss.  I guess this is the same as your first point about analytic ability and connecting the dots.\n\nAll in all, a very useful post - thanks!\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13925, 29334, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '24.240.184.10', '2016-03-04 11:55:07', '2016-03-04 16:55:07', 'Hi, Ian - thanks for this interesting and potentially VERY useful post:)\n\nI share your interest in photography, although I have not yet taken the plunge to the level you are at, so I\'m a bit jealous.\n\nI think creating an image using a camera is one of those powerful experiences where technology and creativity both play important roles.  As you pointed out, you have to learn how to use the instrument of creation and this learning process is an ongoing one.\n\nYour decision to forego the DSLR option was particularly interesting to me, since I recently bought a very entry level DSLR camera (which has been resting on my shelf ever since).   I have a fairly good regular camera, but I need to make the jump to the DSLR, partly to justify the cost and partly to learn more about the technological side of creating impacting photos.  Nice to know that some folks do just fine without the latest and greatest:) ...\n\nYour organization of your images into themes is another good idea.  I have done this, but to a very superficial level.  I create images for my own blog posts and for several FB pages which I administer, so I have folders for me, them, and the church, but that is as far as I have gone.  You move me to get much more organized in this respect ... I might be fascinated by the groupings that emerge from doing so.\n\nThanks for a very interesting post that is inspiring me to become more intentional about one of my activities:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13926, 29334, 'Ian Whitfield', 'Theianwhitfield@Gmail.com', '', '89.243.128.247', '2016-03-04 16:05:42', '2016-03-04 21:05:42', 'Thanks John for you kind words and glad that they are of some use - I guess the individual you are will lead to the photography that means something to you.\nMost importantly take your camera out and force yourself to take photos that are pleasing to you - I remember before having my Panasonic G6, using my phone for 100 consequent days - taking images in and around the garden, to help me notice life. Most helpful - even on the most dismal day, there\'s beauty in capturing rain drops falling from the leaves.\nOn organisation, it\'s abut workflow - do what is natural and works for you. And repeat it.\nThanks again - Ian', 0, '1', '', '', 13925, 0),
(13927, 29338, 'Will Lukang', 'Will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.com', '166.137.252.65', '2016-03-11 07:18:54', '2016-03-11 12:18:54', 'Excellent post in stretching!  When we stretch, we\'ll expand and grow.  As a result, we\'ll gain somewhere else and increase our overall capabilities.\nThank you for sharing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13928, 29338, 'Jane', 'Jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://InsiteSkill.com', '70.194.11.231', '2016-03-11 10:46:40', '2016-03-11 15:46:40', 'What an amazing story! My favorite hope is stretch 9 because I love the whole truth of one part of our life being a benefit to others.  However I love the whole idea of full circle giving. You learned, you taught,  and you were still learning during the event. Even with anxiety you persevered and it passed.  It goes without saying that your generous sharing of time and talents is impressive.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13929, 29338, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '207.230.251.154', '2016-03-11 11:05:21', '2016-03-11 16:05:21', 'Thanks Jane. I try and remember the lessons I\'ve learned volunteering with VASS every day.', 0, '1', '', '', 13928, 386),
(13930, 29338, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '207.230.251.154', '2016-03-11 11:06:25', '2016-03-11 16:06:25', 'Hi Will,\n\nThanks for your comment. You have captured the very important essence of my post. A theme of I have been writing and talking about for quite a while. And one that I think needs repeating as it is so easy to just coast along and never challenge ourselves in anything.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13927, 386),
(13931, 29338, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-03-11 11:29:11', '2016-03-11 16:29:11', 'Hi, David - fascinating post, both about the VASS program and about stretching ourselves as part of our continuous learning.\n\nFirst, I have to ask this personal question:  Does VASS include the category I belong to:  Spastic Inept?\n\nMore seriously, your point about engaging in new and different things to stretch ourselves is excellent.   Many of us (me particularly) desire the tried-and-true, the comfortable, the known ... we do not give ourselves enough credit for being able to learn new things and to connect the dots between distaff experiences.\n\nPossibly the most important specific point you make is exemplified in this sentence:  \"Imagine being completely blind, having to 100% rely on someone else for your safety, and then try and get on a 100-person ski gondola?\"   When we engage in \"imagine\" thinking, we are making that leap to looking at something from a different perspective ... and that is where the gold nuggets of learning lie.\n\nThanks for a very enjoyable and useful post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13932, 29338, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '207.230.251.154', '2016-03-11 11:52:02', '2016-03-11 16:52:02', 'Hi John,\n\nThank you for your amazing support of Lead Change Group by your continuous feedback to our posts.\n\nI\'m sure that if we got you on the slopes, we could teach you to make some ski turns!\n\nAs humans I think all of us naturally want to stay in our comfort zones. I believe that if we want to grow we need to put challenges in front of ourselves. Thankfully I love to learn new things and VASS is a very social--another aspect of why I wanted to get involved.\n\nAs a coach, offering new and fresh perspectives to my client\'s topics is one of the most powerful things that I can do. Thanks for pointing out that aspect of my post.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13931, 386),
(13933, 29338, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-03-11 13:25:17', '2016-03-11 18:25:17', 'David, thank you for delivering a message I needed to hear today - to stretch myself!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13934, 29338, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '154.20.159.120', '2016-03-11 13:34:26', '2016-03-11 18:34:26', 'Mary,\n\nYou are welcome :-).\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13933, 386),
(13935, 29375, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '158.85.159.176', '2016-02-26 08:29:36', '2016-02-26 13:29:36', 'Hollis, thank you for a wonderful post and challenge. There are some of us from the \"old school\" who don\'t recommend as necessity \"sticking to some long-held hierarchical path to achieve a pinnacle.\" Some pinnacles can\'t be achieved any other way. But I definitely agree with you that career satisfaction seldom comes with a gold watch any more. It comes more from pursuing your best and highest ideal with talent, either innate or learned. That\'s why I like to write about character-based leadership. Often the pinnacle you mention is a position and, at least to me, positional leadership drains. People want to join leaders who are moving and changing, rather than protecting a position, like you mention above.\n\nThanks again for a challenging post. You got me thinking, which is what I enjoy most about Lead Change! Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13936, 29375, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.221.24', '2016-02-26 09:32:16', '2016-02-26 14:32:16', 'Thanks so much for the feedback, Mike! I do agree with your remarks. What I\'d also like to get leaders (current and future) thinking about is that it\'s up to them to break the system. As you say, \"some pinnacles can\'t be achieved any other way,\" and that\'s because the system has instituted achievement as such. Systems are great -- don\'t get me wrong, I\'m a big systems person myself -- but staid and unchallenged systems are a danger to both progress and retaining a competitive edge. I\'d like to hear more about how leaders push their systems to change...which might even be to the detriment of their own power. Then, of course, the discussion becomes about is the pinnacle about true leadership or power. Oh boy, that\'s a hot potato!', 0, '1', '', '', 13935, 0),
(13937, 29375, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-02-26 10:19:42', '2016-02-26 15:19:42', 'Hi Hollis. We\'ve corresponded about each other\'s work, so you know I\'m all about capitalizing on the human element at work. As I have been thinking about it lately, not only are leaders not taught that, it is not modeled to them. And there is another element, you cannot give what you don\'t have yourself.\n\nSo, to your point, how can leaders adapt and lead through change if they haven\'t learned or practiced it. Thank you for bringing this up in this way. Compelling.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13938, 29375, 'Bud Brown', 'lebrown86305@gmail.com', 'http://www.turnaroundpastor.com', '72.208.238.180', '2016-02-26 10:32:09', '2016-02-26 15:32:09', 'The biggest single challenge today\'s leaders face is first of all personal: are they willing to endure the pain required to lead their various organizations through the change management initiatives that are required to insure survival?\n\nIn this rapidly changing society - and the pace of change is accelerating - leaders must be adept change agents. But leading change exacts a significant personal price; it is very painful because the system will push back and try to maintain equilibrium.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13939, 29375, 'Michael Miller', 'mmiller@mcquaig.com', 'http://www.mcquaig.com', '162.252.253.214', '2016-02-26 10:58:51', '2016-02-26 15:58:51', 'Really interesting points, Hollis. I recently read a great article in the New Yorker on leadership that made me rethink how we define leadership. It talked, in part, about leaders who came came up through the ranks and those who were brought in from outside. Worth a read. On the subject of change, we just completed a global research project with HR pros and \"embraces change\" was #4 on the list of traits they felt were most important for leader to possess. I don\'t have a final report at this point, but if you\'re interested, I\'d love to send you a copy when I do.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13940, 29375, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.169.190.28', '2016-02-26 12:23:33', '2016-02-26 17:23:33', 'Hello Hollis,\n\nAs Mike said, a very good post that challenges our thinking!\n\nI think that leaders are tethered to the previous generation of leaders, and while they innovate and change generation upon generation, there is that \"older school\" foundation that he incumbent wave of leaders starts from.\n\nWithout sacrificing principle and solid interpersonal truths, our leaders now may need to leapfrog a generation in their thinking and build their base from the next generation forward, instead of the prior one to today. We can learn from our past great examples, but times, application, and situations today\'s leader face are more intricate and far-reaching.\n\nAll that said, you\'re correct that leadership development must seek change and get ahead of the curve - even in developing leaders. Adaptability will rank even with credibility in the future wave of leaders.\n\nThanks for a great post Hollis!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13941, 29375, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.221.24', '2016-02-26 14:32:58', '2016-02-26 19:32:58', '\"...you cannot give what you don’t have yourself.\" Bingo, Mary. You said it!', 0, '1', '', '', 13937, 0),
(13942, 29375, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.221.24', '2016-02-26 14:37:39', '2016-02-26 19:37:39', 'Agreed, Bud. It\'s a systemic problem. In case you didn\'t catch my reply above to Mike Henry, Sr., you\'ll see my point about that, too. Apply this context not just to business but also to government, and no doubt you\'ll see why there are so many problems here in the U.S. (not to get political or anything; just pointing out the issue tends to exist wherever big systems do).', 0, '1', '', '', 13938, 0),
(13943, 29375, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.221.24', '2016-02-26 14:41:59', '2016-02-26 19:41:59', 'Fascinating finding, Michael. Yes, I would really appreciate a copy of the final report when it\'s done. You can email it to me:  hollis@reinventionworks.com. Please reach out to me regardless. I\'d love to chat about a few other things.', 0, '1', '', '', 13939, 0),
(13944, 29375, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.221.24', '2016-02-26 14:51:31', '2016-02-26 19:51:31', 'Thank you, Paul! I find your last statement thought-provoking:  \"Adaptability will rank even with credibility in the future wave of leaders.\" Pausing for a moment (with my cynic\'s hat on, mind you), I wonder if credibility will even rank as high as adaptability. I believe we\'ve all seen our share of leadership with not nearly as much credibility as they ought to have...and yet, if they\'re clever and *make claims* about being able to change an organization, they may yet get the job.\nChange for mere changing\'s sake is also not the solution, and change does not equal \"fix.\" (Department store chain JC Penney\'s last failed attempt comes to mind)\n\nSo I like to go back to your word, Adaptability. I suppose to me the word implies an accommodation rather than something radical, and being radical isn\'t always necessary to lead.', 0, '1', '', '', 13940, 0),
(13945, 29375, 'Joe Myers', 'jcmyers1942@gmail.com', '', '72.24.189.89', '2016-02-26 15:37:33', '2016-02-26 20:37:33', 'Hollis...You are spot on!  Having consulted to a number of organizations. I would offer that a challenge of paramount importance is what to do with ineffective \"old school\" leaders.  Many organizations ineffectively attempt to inject change into their organizations by convincing themselves that they can effect desired change thru ineffective, worn out, old school leaders.  Common result seems to be that the younger, hard charging employees leave for greener pastures.  That said, be sure to keep in mind that the leaders at the top continually extol the strength, knowledge, enthusiasm, that their younger employees display, and they are truly the future of the company.  Explain that disconnect?  Keep contributing your insightful commentary...Joe', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13946, 29375, 'Milton Ayala', 'miltonayala@rackupskills.com', 'http://rackupskills.com/', '71.235.103.79', '2016-02-27 09:05:33', '2016-02-27 14:05:33', 'Thanks Hollis,\n\nYou got me thinking this morning,\n\nIt reminds me of the old adage of some of these so called leaders , if is not broke - don\'t fix it. It is my opinion that their mind set is what actually fails to innovate. Which is really not a bad thing for us, in fact it makes us more viable. :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13947, 29375, 'Calvin K. Lee', 'hellocalvinlee@gmail.com', 'http://www.hellocalvinlee.com/', '24.85.168.41', '2016-02-28 01:32:22', '2016-02-28 06:32:22', 'I like your post. The world is changing so rapidly these days, and new leaders must adapt to change and their leadership style should reflect that and be flexible.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13948, 29375, 'Courtney Gifford', 'courtney.gifford@infomart-usa.com', 'http://www.infomart-usa.com', '209.156.1.222', '2016-02-29 10:27:38', '2016-02-29 15:27:38', 'Good post. I agree with Joe Myers above in that a big challenge to innovation is the, \"this is how it\'s always been done\" mentality. Leaders have power and expertise they achieved thanks to the status quo, and it makes sense that they would defend it against new ideas lacking the sure return of their tried-and-true methods. When you think about it that way, which many leaders do, you can see how younger, less experienced colleagues fail to implement any changes because they don\'t have the clout to influence those who would hold on to the \"standard process.\" So, how do we go about changing minds that see change as a risk to the comfortable status quo?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13949, 29375, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.221.24', '2016-02-29 21:23:26', '2016-03-01 02:23:26', 'Joe, a few follow-up thoughts:\n\n1) Your comment reminds me of something my Mega Reinvention 2016 Keynote speaker, Jim Lee, said in his presentation on The Future of Work. To paraphrase Jim, since Boomers -- the oldest generation in the workforce -- feel younger and are healthier than the generation preceding them, they feel they can work longer. Couple this with the fact that many of them don\'t think they have enough savings to actually support a longer retired life, they also feel they NEED to work longer. So they don\'t leave their long-standing positions at companies, which leaves very little opportunity for advancement among younger generations. As you noted, younger employees then leave for greener pastures.  In the case of Gen Xrs, Jim said, many of them are leaving corporate America for entrepreneurial endeavors, and this flight is going to leave companies with a big doughnut hole of a brain drain when Boomers finally do decide to leave.\n\n2) Take a look at this great infographic, The Generations in the Workplace:  https://pbs.twimg.com/media/CGZHzLpUcAEmHgQ.jpg.  It really does also support your remarks/what companies ought to be concerned about.', 0, '1', '', '', 13945, 0),
(13950, 29375, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.221.24', '2016-02-29 21:28:07', '2016-03-01 02:28:07', 'Thanks for weighing in, Milton. IMHO, failure to innovate is closely tied to fear of failure for which much of traditional business doesn\'t actually allow for.\n\nThere\'s a quote going around I\'ve seen a bit lately that\'s attributed to Michael Jordan, the basketball great:  \"I can accept failure...[sic], but I can\'t accept not trying.\"\n\nIf you ask me, THAT\'s the tone organizations (and leaders of organizations) need to put out there. Hey, I don\'t like to get it wrong myself either, but I\'d rather try, suffer the consequences, be corrected, and try again, then never try at all.', 0, '1', '', '', 13946, 0),
(13951, 29375, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.221.24', '2016-02-29 21:33:06', '2016-03-01 02:33:06', 'Thanks, Courtney.  I responded to Joe\'s comments, so try to read those, too.\n\nTo your remarks, I have an idea that I recently proposed to a university alumni organization I\'m working with:  I would love to see reverse mentoring (or perhaps call it mutual mentoring) programs put in place.  I think younger people -- \"digital natives\" -- in the workforce have a lot to offer in terms of tech savvy and their particular world view. They lack the work-world experience that a seasoned veteran has. Pair the two together on equal footing (teach me, and I\'ll teach you), and imagine what kinds of ideas these pairings could come up with!\n\nIf anyone out there reading this post is already doing this or knows of a company or organization that is, please contact me. I\'d love to discuss this further, thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 13948, 0),
(13952, 29375, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.221.24', '2016-02-29 21:33:52', '2016-03-01 02:33:52', 'And I appreciate you dropping me this note! :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 13947, 0),
(13953, 29375, 'Dennis Devaraj', 'dennis.devaraj@quest-global.com', 'http://www.engineering.quest-global.com', '103.254.230.4', '2016-03-01 08:00:13', '2016-03-01 13:00:13', 'Hollis,\nGreat article and great thoughtful responses. Lot to learn from each response and adapt them in our daily work place.\nI would go with a balanced approach, wherein you take the fundamentals from the older gen and take the innovations from the yournger gen, then mix it up to bring the balanced receipe. I have seen the older gen base their leadership on strong fundamentals like ethics, people, culture, experience, approach, etc, while the younger gen base their leadership on speed, creativty, out of box thoughts, technology, etc. When these are blended and implemented, it creates a strong leadership band. These are my few cents.\nWill continue to read the responses and enrich my knowledge and understanding.\n\nThanks once again\n\nRegards\nDennis', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13954, 29375, 'Emeline ALexis-Schulz, ABD', 'aemeline@hotmail.com', '', '66.165.177.5', '2016-03-01 17:25:20', '2016-03-01 22:25:20', 'Great post Hollis,\n I share your opinion  Mary regarding the importance of the human factor at work .  Emotional Intelligence (EI) can also considered by some as an important predictor for leadership success. Leaders with high level of EI will adapt more readily to leadership expectations. Many scholars believe, Emotional intelligence (EI) is connected to leadership effectiveness because of the leaders\' ability to monitor his or her own and others\' emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use the information to guide their thinking and actions” (Salovey &amp; Mayer, 1993, p. 443).   These skills enable individuals to gauge accurately the effective responses in others and to choose socially adaptive behaviors in response (Salovey &amp; Mayer, 1993). Hence, more organizations should hire  leaders who practice and sharpen their Emotional Intelligence skills\n\nYour thoughts!\n\nReference\nSalovey, P. &amp; Mayer, J. D. (1993). The intelligence of emotional intelligence. Intelligence, 17(4), 433-442.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13955, 29375, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.221.24', '2016-03-06 19:01:23', '2016-03-07 00:01:23', 'Intuitively, I agree, Emeline.  ;-)', 0, '1', '', '', 13954, 0),
(13956, 29375, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.221.24', '2016-03-06 19:06:10', '2016-03-07 00:06:10', 'Thank you for your contribution to the conversation, Dennis.  A balanced recipe would, of course, be ideal. That gets me thinking about ideals and what interferes with them in the workplace environment, and that then makes me think of SILOS. So many people complain about silos in their work environment hindering progress and success. In the context of your balance recipe idea, I wonder too if there are \"generational silos\" in work environments that would also have to be challenged and broken down in order for balance (and progress) to be achieved? Perhaps all the more reason why today\'s long-standing businesses, with their institutionalized processes and departments struggle the most to keep pace with change?', 0, '1', '', '', 13953, 0),
(13957, 29375, 'Dennis Devaraj', 'dennis.devaraj@quest-global.com', 'http://www.engineering.quest-global.com', '103.254.230.4', '2016-03-07 09:17:07', '2016-03-07 14:17:07', 'Hollis,\nI agree that there is a trap of people working in SILOS, and this is the biggest enemy of Participative Leadership. SILOS make leaders feel they are the greatest and also close themselves to receive from what other have to offer. They would like to get all the attention and recognition and will be more trying to close themselves from sharing their thoughts and ideas with others.  This is dangerous, even when they need HELP, they will tend to struggle within themselves, rather than ask for HELP. This way they place their aspirations more than the organizational aspirations, which in other ways is determintal to the success of an organization.\nBut what I meant when I meant blend of older and newer generations, is that they learn from each other, they adapt to each other, they accept each other, they move in perfect synergy rather than with divisive energy. Both the generations feel valued for their contributions, both the generations bask in their successes, both the generations create a legacy and both the generations create value to the community. This way, it is not only the organization but also the surrounding community which gets enriched.\nI would like to hear from you and others on what you feel about my thought process.\n\nThanks\nDennis', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13958, 29397, 'Kenneth Baucum', 'kg5cbm@gmail.com', 'http://www.kennethbaucum.com', '64.207.236.114', '2016-02-29 10:38:13', '2016-02-29 15:38:13', 'This is right in line with some thoughts I was reading yesterday in Ken Coleman\'s book \"One Question\" -- there was a chapter on risk, speaking to how folks usually say they don\'t like the \"risk\" of certain types of decisions, when what they really fear is the ambiguity of not knowing what lies ahead, or the uncertainty of what lies ahead.  They say that it\'s risk they don\'t like, but yet they\'re already in the highest risk situation, having put all their eggs in one basket by being employed by just one organization and trusting it for their income.  It\'s a great book, don\'t let me ruin it for you!\n\nThank you for sharing this, I enjoyed the morning read!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13959, 29397, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-29 11:01:06', '2016-02-29 16:01:06', 'Hi, Kenneth - thanks for the comment AND the book suggestion (as though I need another title to add to the list:).\n\nColeman\'s book sounds very interesting and I look forward to reading it.\n\nI really like your observation that those who work internally are taking a great risk - this is how we flip people\'s thinking to show them different ways of thinking.  I often engage with my friends who either still work internally or are frantically trying to \"get back in\" and you are right - they are eliminating a multitude of possibilities by focusing on a perceived security that frankly does not exist now, if it ever really did.\n\nAppreciate your comments:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 13958, 376),
(13960, 29397, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-02-29 12:34:54', '2016-02-29 17:34:54', 'John, thank you for introducing me to the term \"euphoric recall.\" Applies to many situations.\n\nLove this: \"Uncertainty just “is” - Reminds me of coach, Martha Beck, commenting on a topic like uncertainty. I\'m paraphrasing. She said something like, \"We long to get back to normal life. There is no \"normal\" life. There just life.\"\n\nThank you for reminding me of what our parents modeled for us. I didn\'t connect it until now. Growing up on a farm, the weather could impact my father\'s income on a daily basis. A blight, plant disease or pest infestation could happen any season. It didn\'t stop my father from being a farmer for 50 years. Maybe some of that rubbed off on me.\n\n\"Uncertainty is often mixed with a delicious sense of anticipation or excitement.\" Reminds me of our recent LCG blog theme of curiosity, John, and one of my favorite quotes from Rahm Emanuel. \"You never let a serious crisis go to waste. And what I mean by that it\'s an opportunity to do things you think you could not do before.\"\n\nThank you for summing up our monthly theme on uncertainty by covering many bases, John. Well done!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13961, 29397, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-29 12:59:07', '2016-02-29 17:59:07', 'Hi, Mary - thanks for your insightful and enjoyable comments:)\n\n\"Farm Strong\" as Cameron Tucker might say:)  See reference at Modern Family on IMDB:  http://www.imdb.com/title/tt3183992/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1.  Farmers are among the most risk-taking and realistic folks I know.   I especially miss how my current urban life gives me less time to simply and mindfully enjoy a day.  I remember long, lazy days, afternoons, and nights where we did literally nothing, but gaze at nature and observe the weather.  Makes me wish for a long, soaking rain right now:).\n\nLove the quotes you have shared, especially Rahm Emanuels\'s very positive approach to crisis.   He speaks to a reality that many of us do not push ourselves to and past our limits until we have to, due to some crisis.   Most of the time, the inertia of daily life gets in the way.\n\nWhen we do experience a crisis, the emphasis too often is on returning to stability or the status quo, althought that is never truly possible.  Every little ripple in the Force changes our universe, sometimes in ways we only later recognize or understand.\n\nAs always, appreciate your thoughtful and thought-provoking observations, Mary:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13962, 29397, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-02-29 15:24:38', '2016-02-29 20:24:38', 'John, when you wrote, \"When we do experience a crisis, the emphasis too often is on returning to stability or the status quo, although that is never truly possible,\" it prompted a thought and explained something for me.\n\nI\'m working with so many people who have been downsized recently. They did not anticipate it. They are not prepared. It breaks my heart for them. The signs were there. It is certainly not stupidity on their parts, but perhaps as you say, a strong desire to maintain \"the status quo, although that is never truly possible.\" We all have our own curriculum. We must be there for each other.\n\nP.S. The more of life I live, the more I appreciate my farm upbringing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13963, 29397, 'IRUSCC', 'upvc_behmark_co@yahoo.com', 'http://en.iruscc.com', '98.27.132.39', '2016-02-29 15:53:26', '2016-02-29 20:53:26', 'Thank you John!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13964, 29397, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-02-29 18:59:59', '2016-02-29 23:59:59', 'Mary:)\n\n\"Green Acres is the place to be, farm living is the life for me ...\" (more at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=umS3XM3xAPk)\n\nI think most people want things to go smoothly, predictably, and at a pace that they can handle easily.   Too bad life doesn\'t work that way:)\n\nGlad there are people like you to help people like me when things go off the tracks and into the swamps ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13965, 29425, 'Grenae Thompson', 'hpsys4@aol.com', 'http://www.hpsys.com', '97.81.91.166', '2016-03-04 09:30:54', '2016-03-04 14:30:54', 'Good article, Chris. I love the idea of leaders building community. As you said, most leaders think they must shy away from behaviors of the heart. You might find my LinkedIn article \"5 Ways to Improve Empathy at Work\" a good complement to your work. Thanks for shining a light on The Power of the Heart!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13966, 29425, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '64.134.60.137', '2016-03-04 10:46:46', '2016-03-04 15:46:46', 'Thanks so much for your comment and recommendation, Grenae - will check it out!\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13965, 372),
(13967, 29425, 'Jane', 'Jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://InsiteSkill.com', '70.194.27.218', '2016-03-04 12:12:01', '2016-03-04 17:12:01', 'There are so many ideas racing around in my head, but here are my top two ways to build community.\n1. Transparency. Assemble the team and layout the pattern of what the project looks like, the responsibilities, and the people who are assigned. Point out why assignments were made so discussion can take place and expectations stated.\n2. Feedback. There are corrections and there are compliments. Sounds true. But in fact, even a correction can be embedded in a compliment. It\'s not the natural response but it can be done.\n\nThanks for sharing your article and asking for new ideas. Chris.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13968, 29425, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '24.240.184.10', '2016-03-04 12:23:16', '2016-03-04 17:23:16', 'Hi, Chris - as usual, you have shared insight and wisdom around how we work with each other.\n\nI share your disappointment that we often seem no closer to resolving these workplace issues than we have been in the past.  As you point out wistfully, we know what works best and we have known this for a long time.\n\nGreat summary statement and I love the little tartness at the end:\n\n\"Engage team members’ hearts by valuing their contributions and ideas, thanking them for their efforts and accomplishments, trusting them to act in alignment, and celebrating traction and successes regularly. It can’t hurt – can it?\"\n\nAs to why we are not all living in the leadership promised land, I wonder that as well.  It seems that you allude to one important element when you said \"They aren’t asked to manage people’s hearts; leaders are incented to drive results.\"\n\nLeadership occurs at many levels, for better and for worse.   I have often noticed a significantly higher awareness of and desire to engage in positive and effective leadership practices (see your list above) among those in the lower to middle ranks of organizational leadership than in the top levels.\n\nJust like in our society, we have the 98% and the 1% (numbers not accurate, but that is not critical either).  The \"98%\" might be the majority of those in leadership positions, while the \"1%\" represent those at the very top, who have power and authority far beyond their numbers.   Sometimes it seems that the typical front-line leader and the typical CEO are not even inhabiting the same planet ... no wonder that their views on engagement and connection are significantly different.\n\nThanks for another thought-provoking post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13969, 29425, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '97.122.178.149', '2016-03-05 11:00:46', '2016-03-05 16:00:46', 'Thank you, Jane! I love your two additions - transparency and feedback are vital tools for building trust, respect, and dignity within a workplace community!\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13967, 372),
(13970, 29425, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '97.122.178.149', '2016-03-05 11:03:55', '2016-03-05 16:03:55', 'Love your insights, John! We\'re of one heart and mind on this - leaders are not asked to manage people effectively, yet it is by far the trait that we love from our best bosses!\n\nThe separation you describe between bosses and their team members (I was tempted to write \"minions\" because many bosses see their direct reports that way!) is a major detriment to employees feeling valued, respected, and trusted every day!\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13968, 372),
(13971, 29425, 'Kevin', 'kevin.veinot@avrsb.ca', '', '24.224.157.173', '2016-03-12 15:27:56', '2016-03-12 20:27:56', 'The quality that I use is relationship building.  Fostering strong relationships with your team of employees is paramount in building community within your team.  If your team respects you from what you have done to build strong relationships with them then they will go the extra distance to show their respect.  Of course what you do and say to build these relationships has to show strong integrity on your part.  Without that you will not build the community that you want to have engaged team mates.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13972, 29425, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '71.212.230.107', '2016-03-12 16:26:20', '2016-03-12 21:26:20', 'Thanks for your comments and experiences, Kevin. Much appreciated!\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13971, 372),
(13973, 29453, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-03-08 18:19:48', '2016-03-08 23:19:48', 'Hi, Mary - another interesting post about a very important issue for all of us.\n\nLet\'s blame it on our parents ... I know mine were always telling me not to act \"uppity\", which included any outward show of talent or ability.  While they were no doubt proud of me, they also came from environments (different countries, but similar backgrounds) where people were expected to fit in quietly and not make waves or draw attention to themselves.\n\nGenetics won in my case and I have spent much of my life craving the attention and reinforcement that they thought improper.\n\nLet\'s also blame the \"coaching mode\" of some where cheerleading and empty slogans are substituted for specific and clear feedback.  I believe that even when helping someone improve, you can be encouraging, when you choose your words to help them learn, rather than punish them for doing wrong.\n\nOf course, we ultimately cannot blame anyone or anything else, since we exercise complete control over what comes out of our mouths and how it comes out.   Your point about noticing something special about a person that they might take for granted is a great example of how we ought to interact with others, rather than the nitpicky and usually negative things some of us tend to notice.\n\nMy vote for most impacting statement:  \"It’s not about compliments. It’s about noticing what is important to another person and offering a boost in that area.\"\n\nReally liked this whole post, but that sentence above should be on posters in lunchrooms everywhere:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13974, 29453, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-03-08 19:28:12', '2016-03-09 00:28:12', 'Thanks so much for the commentary. You bring out some important points, Firstly, what was modeled and taught to us. It was actually a relative who told me that complimenting (for lack of a better word) was indulgent. I\'m pretty sure it was that way in the house she grew up in. I distinctly remember my dad calling an arrogant man a \"big-feelin\' guy.\" So, indeed, at least in my Midwestern background, we were taught to be quiet and humble about our strengths.\n\nAnd then the empty slogans. I meant to include a story about a boss who would stop by my office and sign off with \"Good job.\" One day I asked him if he could tell me specifically how I was doing a good. He was mute. I vowed that day that I would always do better than that.\n\n\"It’s not about compliments. It’s about noticing what is important to another person and offering a boost in that area.” Wow, John. Maybe I should sell that slogan to Successories. I know someone who knows the owner :)\n\nThanks again for your always thoughtful response.', 0, '1', '', '', 13973, 252),
(13975, 29453, 'Mary Brodie', 'mfbrodie@gearmark.com', '', '162.228.184.205', '2016-10-30 16:02:29', '2016-10-30 20:02:29', 'I love this! There definitely needs to be more encouragement in the world and spread the positivity around. I\'ve found that those few words can make a world of difference for someone to give a presentation or start a project he or she has been procrastinating on. I also love that you mention competition. I was so caught in that trap as well! And it didn\'t do me or anyone else any favors. When I learned that there is room for everyone to shine, and when you shine, your teammates shine, your team will shine and the company will shine - man, did that change everything for me. Now I give encouragement and complements all the time. Everyone should be boosted.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13976, 29453, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '73.13.204.222', '2016-10-31 15:44:28', '2016-10-31 19:44:28', 'You say it well, Mary Brodie. Thanks for commenting, and spreading the Chief Encouragement Officer vibe your own self :)', 0, '1', '', '', 13975, 252),
(13977, 29507, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-03-10 09:13:19', '2016-03-10 14:13:19', 'Hi, Melissa:)\n\nNice post ... you\'ve covered some important aspects of leadership and emotional intelligence clearly and concisely.   I cannot argue with any of the elements you cover and appreciate this overview.\n\nI think that of the five things you mention, the fifth one of \"Vulnerability\" is both the most important and the most difficult to practice.\n\nVulnerability involves two critical factors, both of which are hard for many people to do:\n\nRisk by being open to others and ...\n\nSharing of experiences and emotions with others ...\n\nWe often have to develop a strong sense of trust with another person in order to share at the level you suggest.  When we have the ability and the time to develop this trust within a relationship naturally, daring to risk and sharing ourselves is easier.\n\nUnfortunately, leaders do not always have the luxury of the time to do this naturally or in a one-on-one relationship.  A leader may be required to lead others abruptly and with little or no time to develop that trust in an unforced manner.  Military leaders in combat face this, as do corporate leaders caught in stressful events or transformative change.\n\nIn my experience, this is where the real test of leadership occurs:  when you have to build trust quickly in order to lead in a time of stress.\n\nNot sure this qualifies as a response to \"What\'s next?\", but this is where your comments led my thoughts this morning:)\n\nEnjoyed reading your contribution and look forward to doing so again in the future.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13978, 29516, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-03-10 09:45:46', '2016-03-10 14:45:46', 'Hi, Jane - another excellent post, full of interesting observations and a bit of challenge:)\n\nMy nomination for Best Understatement:  \"For most of us, being in situations where we are isolated, don’t fit in, or face reprisals isn’t much fun.\"\n\nI am familiar with Asch\'s experiment and have seen evidence to support this throughout my work life.  The \"Smoke-Filled Room\" study, in which a room slowly filled with smoke, produced similar results:  With some people planted in the room to ignore the slowly gathering smoke, those not in on the experiment were confused and hesitated, as that smoke continued to get thicker.  Here\'s a link to a YouTube video that shows how powerful the inaction of others can be on our own behavior and decisions:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KE5YwN4NW5o.\n\nInterestingly, as the number of people in the room grows, so does the effect of \"bystander apathy\".  This study also contributes to our understanding of why people often observe, but do not act to help others.  The bigger the crowd of witnesses, the less likely most are to act.   Not a great commentary on our shared humanity.\n\nI was not aware of the \"spiral of silence\" specifically, but I am now - thanks:)\n\nAbout your question, I once experienced this on a corporate scale, where leadership was poor and counterproductive, but senior management team folks (including me) remained silent for the most part.  Over a number of years, this contributed to several things:\n\n1)  The leader continued to feel empowered and supported by our silence.  As someone has probably said, \"Silence is Assent\".\n\n2)  The culture became one where the poor decisions and behaviors of the leader were accepted as either \"normal\" or \"personality quirks\" (ignoring the very real effects on our productivity and even viability.\n\n3)  When confrontation did occur, it was usually in emotional response to some specific event.  The emotion drove behavior, which did not result in effective communication or relation, while the resulting \"discussion\" would focus on nitpicking or rationalizing the specific event, while the overall direction remained unchanged.\n\nThe result:  A bankruptcy which changed our company from one with a proud 100-plus year history, over 100 facilities and programs nationwide, and over 3, 000 employees to one with 5 facilities and 300 employees in three states.\n\nNot particularly enjoying this trip down Memory Lane, but I take it as often as I need to remind myself that speaking out is better than keeping it in.\n\nI deeply appreciate your post reinforcing that leadership is about speaking the truth, even when risk accompanies that truth.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13979, 29516, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-03-10 09:49:57', '2016-03-10 14:49:57', 'Jane ...\n\nBTW, I \"bop\" in the car too and do not care what others think.  As a matter of fact, I have found that car-bopping to some catchy tune (especially Boomer Rock N\' Roll classics) is the perfect response to slow or non-moving traffic, bottlenecks, or just city driving in general:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13980, 29516, 'Duncan M.', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '95.76.171.184', '2016-03-10 13:04:34', '2016-03-10 18:04:34', 'Interesting article Jane. Unfortunately, our desire to be part of the group leads us to poor decisions. It is not a good idea to approve something that you do not agree just because your opinion may not be popular. This behaviour can lead to frustration, and in the long term to lack of motivation. As a leader, it is important not only to speak your mind but also to encourage others to do the same.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13981, 29516, 'Scott Mabry', 'scottmabry@mail.com', 'http://soul2work.com', '69.138.147.224', '2016-03-10 18:39:42', '2016-03-10 23:39:42', 'There is great pressure to conform to a \"standard of leadership\" depending on the context and often defined by the leader at the top. To stand apart and follow one\'s own heart and path is the road less travelled, but that can make all the difference. Thank you for the encouraging and inspiring message, Jane.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13982, 29516, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-06-08 15:38:01', '2016-06-08 19:38:01', 'Hi, John --\n\nLove that you took the uncomfortable walk down memory lane to share a very apt story. Great video...thanks for sharing the link!\n\nSpeaking truth to power* is so important yet so hard to do, Fear, apathy, peer pressure and so many other negatives come into play. Here\'s to having the moral courage to do the right thing!\n\nWith a smile,\n\nJane\n\n*only recently did I learn that it was the Quakers who originated that phrase, a factoid I find fascinating for some reason *smile*', 0, '1', '', '', 13978, 251),
(13983, 29516, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-06-08 15:38:30', '2016-06-08 19:38:30', 'Love that you are a fellow \"bopper!\"', 0, '1', '', '', 13979, 251),
(13984, 29516, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-06-08 15:40:13', '2016-06-08 19:40:13', 'You are sooooooooooo right, Duncan, about the importance of encouraging others, in addition to ourselves, to have the moral courage to speak up, even if it\'s unpopular to do so. Thanks for sharing and my apologies for the delay in responding.', 0, '1', '', '', 13980, 251);
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(13985, 29516, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-06-08 15:43:41', '2016-06-08 19:43:41', 'Good, no great, point, Scott, about the pressure of conformity and having the courage to travel the road less taken. Your comment prompted me to take a walk down memory lane, remembering sadly a company where I worked. There groupthink prevailed...to go against whatever the boss said was career suicide. Ugh, gotta shake off the bad memories! Appreciate your comments, Scott, and my apologies for the too long delay in responding.', 0, '1', '', '', 13981, 251),
(13986, 29545, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-03-14 09:58:53', '2016-03-14 13:58:53', 'Hi, Will - thanks for yet another interesting and useful post.\n\nTwo things stick out for me:\n\n1)  The essential question of how each person will respond to challenges.   I am reading World War Z right now, which is a fictional history of a world-changing virus outbreak told through interviews ten years after the initial events.  The book is much different from the film which shares its name.\n\nOn of the many vignettes is about how some people, months and years after surviving the initial chaos, died in their sleep, rather than continue to face a much different and more dangerous world than what they had known.   Interestingly enough, films about successful resistance to the viral outbreak were credited as stemming this tide of \"quiet suicide by surrender\".\n\nI think this is a graphic image of what you highlight as an important question for us all:  When faced with adversity, how will we react?  Popular culture tells us to \"tough it out\", \"blow through\", or \"survive and thrive\", but as usual, popular culture also oversimplifies the issues involved and the complexity of the problems.\n\n2)  Your description of your master\'s work reminds me of something missing in much of my own formal education at that level.  You appear to have been part of a cohort, so received the benefit of having a learning group of peers to accompany you on the journey.   While this was part of the two doctoral programs I participated in, it was not part of either of the two masters programs which I completed.\n\nLooking back, I wish I had made those journeys in the company of others, rather than as a lone students, sometimes intersecting with familiar faces and voices, but often all on my own.\n\nThanks for the thought-provoking start to my week:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13987, 29563, 'Mel', 'mel@publandlordadvisor.uk', 'http://publandlordadvisor.uk', '149.241.143.250', '2016-03-22 07:07:32', '2016-03-22 11:07:32', 'Hi Alan,  this is succinct and wise advice. As someone who\'s worked in the hospitality trade, one of the things I\'ve always done is allow the staff I supervise to go for breaks first. It\'s these little acts which get the respect of staff.\n\nYou\'re right, it\'s all about civility.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13988, 29563, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '167.124.124.21', '2016-03-22 10:39:22', '2016-03-22 14:39:22', 'Mel, that\'s perfect.  The littlest things can certainly make the biggest impacts.\n\nThank you for the tip!\n\nAlan', 0, '1', '', '', 13987, 323),
(13989, 29563, 'Jane', 'Jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://InsiteSkill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2016-03-22 16:16:09', '2016-03-22 20:16:09', 'My first thought is how is it that our politicians are called civil servants, but there is rarely an act of civility coming from them.\n\nWhat you\'ve identified here are important, not just in leadership, but in the whole of society. We have lost the nice factor in many segments of life in general.  Individually we choose our friends and will spend time with because they are nice.  The more I witness in organizations and associations the less I\'m willing to put myself out there for them, because I\'m still nice and I want to stay nice.\n\nI don\'t think it\'s good or best, but i think it\'s how we gradually create the wider and wider gaps.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13990, 29563, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-03-22 20:24:38', '2016-03-23 00:24:38', 'Alan, thank you SO much for writing this post. I think I am going to schedule sharing it about every 3 months on my social channels because of the need alone.\n\n\"Civility is the sum of all the sacrifices that we make for the sake of living together\" - how beautifully put from Stephen Carter.\n\nA few more incivilities I\'ve noticed:\n- at work, leaders assuming people know who they are, so they don\'t introduce themselves when they speak to groups\n- in life, other drivers not making a place for those merging or\n- people letting a door drop shut, not noticing or caring someone is behind them\n\nIn our house we call this \"entitlement\" and try our hardest to recognize and correct our own.\n\nThank you again Alan for calling attention to this.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13991, 29563, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '173.174.200.45', '2016-03-24 20:23:47', '2016-03-25 00:23:47', 'Jane, so true. I really prefer being around nice people, too, in all aspects of my life. They just make me feel better. And this is important for everyone.\n\nStay nice, Jane.\n\nAlan', 0, '1', '', '', 13989, 323),
(13992, 29563, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '173.174.200.45', '2016-03-24 20:27:18', '2016-03-25 00:27:18', 'Hey, there, Mary.\n\nI so agree with you about Mr Carter. Since I first read that quote many years ago I\'ve never forgotten it and I share it often.  It\'s one of those little nuggets that had a big impact on me and my approach to things.\n\nThis is simply an area that I have so much passion for. There is a price for nice, but I\'m more than willing to pay it. This nice guy won\'t finish last. :)\n\nAlan', 0, '1', '', '', 13990, 323),
(13993, 29601, 'Angela', 'tnpayne@live.com', 'http://SmartBrief%20on%20Leadership', '74.51.207.193', '2016-03-18 11:06:32', '2016-03-18 15:06:32', 'I work for someone who shares a couple of the above traits.  It is difficult to maintain a high level of energy when dealing with a leader that sees their way as the only way.  How can I make them realize the detriment they are doing to the people in the department and across departments?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13994, 29601, 'Melanie', 'melanotic@verizon.net', '', '209.2.32.129', '2016-03-18 11:33:28', '2016-03-18 15:33:28', 'Excellent article!  I would love to share this with my leadership but then, I guess I\'d be out of a job.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13995, 29601, 'Marcel', 'Info@coachmarcel.com', 'http://www.Leadershipfromthecore.com', '68.59.178.29', '2016-03-19 09:23:39', '2016-03-19 13:23:39', 'Angela, thanks for your comment. Do you have influence with this person? Is there trust in that relationship?  Are you a high performer for that individual?  If so, \"Leading up\"  is your best bet.  Pull the person aside, preferably off site over a casual lunch, and express your feelings without judgment. If you don\'t have that luxury, it may not be up to you to  initiate. HR  should have leadership assessments in place hopefully in low morale  environments  to begin some performance management.\n\n I would be curious what other leadership experts in this community would have to say.\n\nHang in there and please send me a personal message through my contact page if you want more options.  I\'d be glad to help.', 0, '1', '', '', 13993, 0),
(13996, 29601, 'Michelle', 'shell200k@aol.com', '', '66.87.81.19', '2016-03-19 16:38:19', '2016-03-19 20:38:19', 'Great article. As a school administrator, I tried to see myself through those eyes. You should also make a questionnaire or survey that someone could take to see where you fall. That would be an eye opener.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13997, 29601, 'Linden Anne Skjeie', 'skeejee@comcast.net', '', '98.248.77.236', '2016-03-21 11:49:37', '2016-03-21 15:49:37', 'There\'s not a lot of difference between this and being \'gaslighted.\'  Perhaps what you describe isn\'t always done in a malevolent way, but gaslighting certainly is.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13998, 29601, 'DJA', 'deannajameson69@aol.com', '', '75.138.77.113', '2016-03-21 15:25:54', '2016-03-21 19:25:54', '7 of the 10 are my boss. As irritating as he can be sometimes, I see through it for what it is--insecurity. At least that\'s what I tell myself in order to blow it off instead of blowing up.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13999, 29601, 'Joseph', 'jludford@comcast.net', '', '50.153.254.201', '2016-03-21 21:01:49', '2016-03-22 01:01:49', 'I\'m a retired defense engineer still active in my professional organization and learning as much as I can about personal development so I can pass it on to younger professionals. Your statement in the first paragraph that \"Our brain doesn\'t develop neuropathways at the flip of a switch.\" should be framed. I\'ve understood that for a long time, but this is the first time I\'ve seen someone say it. We are all displaying what\'s inside of us, good or bad, and its the internal wiring that we need to change if we want to be more effective. Understanding oneself, deciding what needs to be changed, and working at it until the changed thinking or behavior becomes habit is the process one has to go through. At least that\'s what I\'ve concluded.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14000, 29601, 'JB', 'briggsj2@wnmu.edu', '', '68.105.113.9', '2016-03-22 00:24:56', '2016-03-22 04:24:56', 'Great article, good for helping professions and a great guideline to being a decent human being as well.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14001, 29601, 'MJ', 'mhjones@usbr.gov', '', '140.215.152.18', '2016-03-22 11:25:46', '2016-03-22 15:25:46', 'The changes in some employees whose attitudes I became acquainted with before they became managers makes them nearly unrecognizable.  I\'m convinced that the stress of the position often (initially) brings out the worst.  Great article...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14002, 29601, 'Mike Davies', 'mike.davies@santander.co.uk', '', '195.43.48.140', '2016-03-23 02:03:18', '2016-03-23 06:03:18', 'I have worked for pretty much every one of these archetypes, loved some, loathed others. What makes this list really interesting for me is using it as a mirror to identify when my own behaviours maybe aren\'t up to scratch', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14003, 29601, 'Basil', 'bizdudes@gmail.com', 'http://www.itaskz.com', '208.54.90.218', '2016-03-25 11:09:52', '2016-03-25 15:09:52', 'Leadership is not a \"learned\" trait. It is a \"burned\" trait. If one does not risk the immersion of himself in the cauldron of the fire; no amount of advice or training from institutionalized \"consultants\" will help him. Those who can, Do!; those who can\'t, Pontificate and advise. Immersion is a powerful teacher. But don\'t just do it, think about it, procrastinate a little, ask a few others of significance and then take a flying leap off the cliff.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14004, 29312, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-06 15:44:13', '2016-04-06 19:44:13', 'Hi, Alison - fascinating post.\n\nI enjoy typologies, so this is right up my alley.\n\nThese types seem fairly accurate from an intuitive and experience base.  I am not sure where I would land, but see some familiar language around both the Highflier and the Tactician.\n\nCan you provide a link to the HBR articles from which this information is drawn?  I\'d like to know more about how these types were identified.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14005, 29357, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.com', '96.242.209.121', '2016-04-15 06:30:31', '2016-04-15 10:30:31', 'Selflessness is the hallmark of a leader.  Like you stated, it requires no title, educational background or social standing.  It is the keen awareness of wanting to serve and help other.\n\nThank you for an excellent post.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14006, 29357, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.114', '2016-04-15 17:24:47', '2016-04-15 21:24:47', 'Jonathan, I appreciate your perspective and the challenge. The world makes room for genuine, authentic service of another without expectations or cost. Thanks for the encouraging story and reminder. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14007, 29360, 'Sean Glaze', 'Sean@greatresultsteambuilding.com', 'http://www.GreatResultsTeambuilding.net', '107.77.94.59', '2016-03-29 08:26:36', '2016-03-29 12:26:36', 'Johnathan -\nTerrific article.  I definitely agree with the importance of 1:1 meetings, both to build relationships and to help build a plan...\nThanks for sharing!\n\nSean', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14008, 29360, 'Margy KJ', 'margy@weavinginfluence.com', '', '185.120.125.43', '2016-03-29 09:36:49', '2016-03-29 13:36:49', 'Great article! I love how you outline what the 1:1 should look like (and shouldn\'t).', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14009, 29360, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-03-29 10:39:13', '2016-03-29 14:39:13', 'Hi, Jonathan - fascinating article and I really enjoyed your three strong points.\n\nI have to comment that I am particularly glad you included a reminder to be human to start a one-one conversation.  Too many folks in leadership positions fail to do this, especially when they are new to the authority and not yet confident in the role.\n\nWhile a business-like tone is important, it doesn\'t mean we leave our personability at the door.\n\nI have been part of cultural change initiatives which have failed and which have succeeded.  I would observe that, in my experience, without relatively wide-spread support throughout layers of employment and management, culture change does not happen.   This goes both ways:  If formal leaders OR front-line workers do not engage in or believe in the change, it is not going to happen.  The culture might change, but not in the way desired.\n\nYour experiences which you shared were especially enjoyable and helpful.\n\nAppreciate this interesting article:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14010, 29360, 'Jonathan Moss', 'Jonathan.david.moss@gmail.com', 'http://goo.gl/aN3E8S', '70.209.24.56', '2016-03-30 10:15:32', '2016-03-30 14:15:32', 'Thanks Sean I couldn\'t agree more! Something so simple &amp; impactful yet missed so much in today\'s business by those who lead people!!', 0, '1', '', '', 14007, 322),
(14011, 29360, 'Jonathan Moss', 'Jonathan.david.moss@gmail.com', 'http://goo.gl/aN3E8S', '70.209.24.56', '2016-03-30 10:18:49', '2016-03-30 14:18:49', 'Thanks Margy! Writing the article on my first draft, I left it out. After speaking with different people leaders, I realized that it is needed as most don\'t understand how to have an impactful and effective 1:1! You wouldn\'t believe the successes and dialogue that comes from this conversation with that outline!', 0, '1', '', '', 14008, 322),
(14012, 29360, 'Jonathan Moss', 'Jonathan.david.moss@gmail.com', 'http://goo.gl/aN3E8S', '70.209.24.56', '2016-03-30 10:24:10', '2016-03-30 14:24:10', 'Thanks John!! I can relate to your comments about changing and culture and couldn\'t agree more. I have experienced the same exact successes and failures within the organizations I have worked and the organizations of the people that I mentor.\n\nThere has to be belief at all levels! One of the most important factors is that the top level managers live that culture everyday! Often, they start the culture shift with meetings, trainings, changes, etc. but then they don\'t become part of the culture. Referencing your point of only talking business and leaving their personability at the door. It causes confusion and the culture is worse off because those that believe are still trying to live it, while those who don\'t see their leaders living it revert right back to their old ways!\n\nThanks for the feedback and making some great points!', 0, '1', '', '', 14009, 322),
(14013, 29382, 'John E. Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-01 09:03:37', '2016-04-01 13:03:37', 'Hi, Larry - thanks for this interesting and valuable post about the need for systems.\n\nI have repeatedly experienced the impact of well-designed systems on work flow, collaboration, and business outcomes.\n\nOne particular experience always comes to mind for me when talking about systems.  An organization implemented a comprehensive work flow and data organization system which included what some called a \"micro-manager\" approach to how people structured their work days and how they retained or deleted/threw away information generated in the course of business.\n\nThe goal was to standardize our work, get on top of data curation, and to become a more agile and flexible organization.  After the intital design and training by a consultant, I and one other person were charged with actually implementing the system, first in our corporate office and with regional staff, then later in field units.\n\nThe resistance was fierce from some quarters and usually took one of two routes:  \"You are treating us like children by forcing us to file everything the same way\" and \"I already have a system that works for me, so why should I change?\"\n\nBoth paths reinforced something for me, as I painfully and slowly worked on this project for over four years:\n\n1)  Standardization is often seen as a threat or, at best, an inconvenience.\n\n2)  Individuals who already have their own solutions may not think much of your solution.\n\nThe response to both types of resistance, at least in my case, was to clarify and reinforce the reasons why we chose to move to this level of standardization (roughly paraphrased below):\n\n1)  Increased standardization helps everyone understand the individual, departmental, and organizational flow more easily and quickly.  When you understand the system well, you can use the system effectively.\n\n2)  Systems work best when everyone works the same system, which requires some sacrifice from some folks.  BTW, these are the people I recruited to serve as \"experts\" to help me implement the system.\n\n3)  When everyone across the organization clearly understands the rules and guidelines for what information to keep, what to get rid of, and where to store what you keep, things work better.\n\n4)  Change is hard and may feel uncomfortable.  This is natural and to be expected as we shift to a more clearly defined system.\n\nThis last point was interesting because the reality is that organizations do not either have or not have systems.   The worst company in the world has systems ... they just don\'t work very well:).\n\nAn additional point is that not all systems are formal.  Implementing an effective formal system requires us to root out all the informal or even secret systems which have develped over the years.\n\nEnjoyed your post - thanks again for sharing your knowledge with us:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(14014, 29427, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://consultgiana.com', '2.90.216.54', '2016-03-26 02:42:49', '2016-03-26 06:42:49', 'Leigh - What a powerful post!\n\nI\'m sharing and pondering.\n\nThank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14015, 29427, 'Dan Gabree', 'dgabree@gmail.com', '', '76.23.214.91', '2016-03-28 16:42:46', '2016-03-28 20:42:46', 'Good article.  So many factors to consider when trying to communicate.  It is not just saying what you want to say, it is saying it in a way that allows your listeners to hear what you are trying to say.\n\nThank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14016, 29427, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', '', '75.129.116.11', '2016-03-29 15:27:12', '2016-03-29 19:27:12', 'I absolutely devoured this article. I could identify with every single point - including the summary about the Holocaust. I heard people (under the age of 30) question its validity and it just baffles me that anyone can justify making that statement. What? I\'m not sure if you call is ignorance or arrogance but something has gotten in the path between knowledge and assumption.\n\nBut back to your list. This is sort of an enhancement to #7. I would love to add one more detriment to good communication. The \'need to know\' philosophy hurts more than helps. We have different learning styles and making assumptions about the level of detail I need to grasp the subject might be on a different plane than someone else.  If you\'re explaining something and getting blank stares in return, that\'s a pretty good indication that the level of information needed for complete understanding has not yet been reached.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 381),
(14017, 29427, 'Leigh Steere', 'lsynthesis@aol.com', '', '75.166.202.100', '2016-04-08 11:57:42', '2016-04-08 15:57:42', 'Chery, Dan and Jane, thanks for taking the time to stop by and comment.\n\nJane, I love your proposed addition. Imagine a jigsaw puzzle with missing pieces. You may have a basic understanding of what the puzzle is supposed to look like, but it\'s incomplete. That\'s both unsatisfying and a potential business liability. A missing detail may be exactly the information needed to spark a \"light bulb\" moment—a new, richer understanding about how to solve a business challenge, for example.\n\nSpeakers and writers must make tough decisions about what to include and not include for the sake of time and space. If a communicator can\'t incorporate all the available details, it\'s important to say so and provide listeners with an avenue for getting more information—instead of unilaterally deciding that they don\'t need more information.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 268),
(14018, 29513, 'Kenneth Baucum', 'kg5cbm@gmail.com', 'http://www.kennethbaucum.com', '64.207.236.114', '2016-04-13 10:50:24', '2016-04-13 14:50:24', 'Excellent article!  Thank you so much for sharing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14019, 29513, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-14 07:57:30', '2016-04-14 11:57:30', 'Hi, Ron - thanks for posting this interesting article.\n\nI thought all the points made were very valid, but I particularly appreciated the one about \"Restricting Freedom\".   In my experience, this is one of the most difficult things for most managers and leaders to do, for several reasons:\n\nIf you are a manager, you thrive best in situations where you are in control and can literally manage the people, resources, systems, processes, and all that jazz.  Anything which threatens your ability to control is seen as suspect.\n\nIf you are a leader, which comes with a hopefully healthy dose of controlled ego, you are used to establishing the direction and having others follow you.  When others are free to go their own ways, I think the word \"threatens\" is again appropriate.\n\nLetting go of control and allowing a hefty amount of freedom is commonplace in the creative and performing arts, but not so often experienced in the halls of commerce, public service, or the political arena.\n\nThanks for reinforcing this and the other important ingredients in establishing a creative environment in which people can flourish.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14020, 29513, 'Keith Emery', 'keith@aglettechnology.com', 'http://www.aglettechnology.com', '71.86.43.150', '2016-04-14 15:18:04', '2016-04-14 19:18:04', 'Creativity is essential for those times you have to say difficult things without crushing spirits. Creativity is how the most difficult problems are solved, especially those in which the solution lies between two opposing points of view. Being able to look at a situation from several points of view and strategically navigate toward a common goal is almost pure creativity.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14021, 29513, 'Manjeet Singh', 'manjeet.singh.guru@gmail.com', '', '116.203.74.10', '2016-04-15 07:59:17', '2016-04-15 11:59:17', 'Good article.\nYou are right John. Your experience and observation is right.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14022, 29627, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-04 13:13:18', '2016-04-04 17:13:18', 'Hi, Eileen:\n\nAppreciate the emphasis on growing things in this very seasonal post, as we all start to venture outdoors and enjoy the spring, with or without planting flowers.\n\nI really enjoyed this analogy ... connecting how we lead and manage to how we grow beautiful flowers (or in my case, try to to kill them too quickly) is both powerful imagery and very well stated.\n\nI could add that, in my experience, some folks seem to have a \"green thumb\" where knowing how and when to nurture and influence others comes more easily to them, at least on the surface.  I would guess it is like many other things in life ... when you pay close attention to what works, it gets easier.\n\nWhen I read your point about feeding different plants differently, I was reminded of my last venture into gardening ... growing wildflowers in a plot by our front door.  When you plant wildflowers, you get a dizzying array of colors, shapes, sizes, and needs.   While the variety can be breathtaking, keeping all the plants healthy can be a challenge ... until you remember that they thrive in a meadow without any human help whatsoever.\n\nI think some workplaces can be like the meadow, which means to me that the best leadership may be that done with a very light touch, just to help things along a little:).\n\nAnyway, you have me dreaming of warm summer breezes and colorful flowers lapping up the sunshine:) ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14023, 29627, 'Eileen McDargh', 'Eileen@eileenmcdargh.com', 'http://Www.theresiliencygroup.com', '166.170.15.57', '2016-04-04 13:28:40', '2016-04-04 17:28:40', 'Love your comments, John. And the analogy about wild flowers ! It\'s rather like the philosophy of Zappos and their hands -off, free form structure.  I do believe that if a picture is worth 1000 words, a metaphor is worth 1000 pictures. Much of my work with clients is to craft metaphors around issues.\n   Happy springtime!', 0, '1', '', '', 14022, 0),
(14024, 29654, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-03-24 10:21:15', '2016-03-24 14:21:15', 'Hi Hollis. I\'ve seen this also. I\'ve fallen for a few myself when it comes to those peddling their method to grow or market a business.\n\nMy idealistic self says this phase is temporary. Some will fall for those without substantial material or experience. I also believe the cream rises to the top.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14025, 29654, 'Amy Watson', 'Amy@CareerLeadershipAlignment.com', 'http://CareerLeadershipAlignment.com', '184.57.11.17', '2016-03-24 12:01:35', '2016-03-24 16:01:35', 'Thank you for this, Hollis. A word of warning that serves to remind us (especially those of us just getting started and trying to figure out how to make a living helping people) that integrity is even more important than polishing your packaging skills!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14026, 29654, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.221.24', '2016-03-28 22:42:38', '2016-03-29 02:42:38', 'Sigh, Mary. I vote for your idealistic self, myself. Glad to know we can still be idealists even after \"a certain age.\" ;-)', 0, '1', '', '', 14024, 0),
(14027, 29654, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.221.24', '2016-03-28 22:44:27', '2016-03-29 02:44:27', 'You\'re welcome, Amy. I would say this:  If integrity is what you value, you do remember to put that first. Packaging can always get a do-over; integrity will be much harder to recoup once lost or compromised.', 0, '1', '', '', 14025, 0),
(14028, 29654, 'Jayna', 't93g2elz@gmail.com', 'http://ivlseems.com', '188.143.232.27', '2016-04-16 02:01:42', '2016-04-16 06:01:42', 'A really good answer, full of ratotnaliiy!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14029, 29654, 'Lettie', '157gngyi@outlook.com', 'http://etfubrxgr.com', '188.143.232.32', '2016-04-16 02:12:56', '2016-04-16 06:12:56', 'I love these arsilcet. How many words can a wordsmith smith?', 0, '1', '', '', 14024, 0),
(14030, 29654, 'Elouise', 'ktiudjnx94@outlook.com', 'http://vstpmigloh.com', '188.143.234.155', '2016-04-16 02:40:14', '2016-04-16 06:40:14', 'You make thngis so clear. Thanks for taking the time!', 0, '1', '', '', 14025, 0),
(14031, 29660, 'Will Lukang', 'Will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.com', '96.242.209.121', '2016-04-18 07:04:33', '2016-04-18 11:04:33', 'Hi Chip,\n\nExcellent post on getting rid of stupid rules.  It is amazing how many times I\'ve asked why we are doing something a certain way and the answer is we\'ve been doing it that way for many years or it is a corporate policy.  When I challenge them to show the policy, they cannot provide the evidence.   In the end, we were able to remove it and make things better.  In fact, we have the no stupid rule policy in our management team to force ourselves to think through what is going on versus just following the status quo.\n\nRegards,\n\nWill Lukang', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14032, 29660, 'Susan Mazza', 'Susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://randomactsofleadership.com', '73.0.251.135', '2016-04-19 17:39:50', '2016-04-19 21:39:50', 'Outstanding Chip!  Customer anger is a great example of a symptom of stupid rules.  You have me pondering what other symptoms there could be that there are stupid rules in place.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14033, 29660, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-21 12:40:25', '2016-04-21 16:40:25', 'Hi, Chip - another excellent post with some fascinating stories.\n\nI once was responsible for helping employees install a standardized organizational system for both paper and electronic workflow in an organization.  As part of that, I would spend much time working with individual employees as they literally took their workspace apart, organized all items into standardized categories and reorganized how they stored data and materials.\n\nA big part of this was analyzing work processes.   One time, I had an employee who was struggling with what to call a work step in which she received forms from another employee and in turn, gave them to a third employee ... without doing anything to the forms, such as verifying or sorting.  After much discussion about this, we were unable to determine why she was held responsible for doing this, other than that familiar \"I\"ve always done it this way\" statement.\n\nSimilarly to your story about Alexander, I finally learned from a long-time employee that years earlier, two women who did not like each other each had responsibility for a step in a work process.  Since they could not get along, their manager chose the coward\'s way out by inserting a third employee (the \"ancestor\" of the women with whom I was working) to receive and pass on the documents.\n\nOver the years, just like the soldiers guarding the empty spot, generations of employees were taught to follow the \"system\" without awareness of why that step existed or why it was pointless.\n\nTwo lessons here for me:  1)  Managers sometimes create more problems when they are reluctant to face an issue honestly and directly; and 2) Employees are more prone to simply doing what they are told without much, if any, questioning of the reasons or rationale for doing something than we might like to think.\n\nThanks for both the trip down memory lane and the reminder of how we need to continually analyze what we are doing, why we are doing it, and whether we should stop or change doing it:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14034, 29660, 'Julia Gallelli', 'juliarosegallelli@yahoo.com', '', '199.20.71.41', '2016-06-06 13:34:58', '2016-06-06 17:34:58', 'Excellent post on the importance of performance and not just following the status quo', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14035, 29665, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', '', '75.129.116.11', '2016-03-28 08:04:32', '2016-03-28 12:04:32', 'So I was trying to figure out how to tell you I love this post without starting out in the \'same old way\' - you know, like: another great post or thought provoking or insightful or introspective or - see? Your post is all of those. An my comment leads right up to my answer to the question \"Which of the three changes David Burkus recommends has the most potential, in your opinion?\" Others might have a different answer but in my mind this is the hinge:   When we change our choices, we change the outcomes.\n\nLast time I checked, choices are at the beginning of all outcomes.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 381),
(14036, 29665, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '205.132.110.2', '2016-03-28 08:31:27', '2016-03-28 12:31:27', 'Good Morning John!\n\nYou have a great ability to see the overview big picture and weave the undercurrent of what needs to change within each of us.  David Burkus\' new book is already one of my must-reads for the year, and perhaps now on my top leadership books of all time.\n\nThis is a great challenge to us all in how to \"break the rules\" in our own roles to affect change. Your post today helps us really stop-and-think about where we\'re headed and if we\'re making those changes to either improve or maintain.\n\nWell done John, thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(14037, 29665, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-03-28 10:27:23', '2016-03-28 14:27:23', 'Hi, Jane - thanks for commenting:)\n\nYou have nailed it ... the choices we make determine who we are and what we do.  Amazingly simple, and yet many folks insist on finding some outside force to blame for their lot.\n\nI realize that world events, societal and economic conditions, and just plain happenstance often shape what we have to decide on, but the reality remains that how we react to things is always our choice.\n\nFor backup on this one, just read some of Viktor Frankel\'s work.\n\nAs always, your participation in our ongoing discussions is both welcome and valued:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 14035, 0),
(14038, 29665, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-03-28 10:32:00', '2016-03-28 14:32:00', 'Thanks, Paul - I am deeply appreciative of your kind words.\n\nYes, Burkus has worked his way into my inner circle of inspiration and wisdom as well.  He has a nice writing style and the ability to lay things out so clearly that I have a permanent forehead mark from saying \"Well, of course ...\" and slapping myself:).\n\nLike Jane Anderson says and you have amplified, it really is all about our choices.\n\nEasier to go with the flow or hoot derisively from the sidelines, at least from what I see happening too often in the workplace.   Intentional and effective choices are neither easy or safe, but that is one of the essential skills to be developed, both for leadership and for life.\n\nThanks - always enjoy your contributions through your posts and your thoughtful comments.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14039, 29665, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '73.13.204.222', '2016-03-28 14:16:25', '2016-03-28 18:16:25', 'John, you can do what I consider the un-doable -- inspire me to get YET ANOTHER book! I have so many, yet you make the case for me to add to my pile.\n\nAND... you posed some great questions. Thank you for giving us a taste of David\'s new book and challenging us to challenge ourselves around some old paradigms.\n\nMy Best,\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14040, 29665, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-03-28 21:40:50', '2016-03-29 01:40:50', 'Hi, Mary:)\n\nDang ... you guessed my secret mission ... surreptiously influence people to buy more books:)\n\nI don\'t really feel bad about influencing you around this book or the ideas in it, of course.   This is stuff I have advocated for a very long time and David\'s book is one of the most compelling arguments to actually move forward.\n\nActually, I would guess that you are right there with us on these change inititatives:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14041, 29670, 'John E. Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-01 08:34:44', '2016-04-01 12:34:44', 'Hi, Jane:)\n\nI cannot think of any missing ingredients in this comprehensive and delicious-sounding recipe for teams, but you definitely have made me very, very hungry:).\n\nI especially enjoyed the ingredient of \"Soda\" as the attitude of team members which provides the fizz.  I have worked on teams where the soda was left out of the receipe and the result is flat indeed.   Everyone had talents and skills, the vision was clear and compelling, but for whatever reason, the \"oomph\" was missing.\n\nBeing part of a flat team does not satisfy one\'s appetite:)\n\nThanks for both the analogy and the recipe, which I am passing on to one whose cooking skills far surpass my own:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(14042, 29670, 'Liz', 'liz.stincelli@gmail.com', '', '206.81.142.66', '2016-04-01 17:54:03', '2016-04-01 21:54:03', 'Jane,\n\nWhat a wonderfully creative and affective metaphor for team work. Your recipe is spot-on and I love it. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!\n\nLiz', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14043, 29670, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', '', '75.129.116.11', '2016-04-01 18:10:09', '2016-04-01 22:10:09', 'LOL John. Thank you for catching the hidden meaning. OMGoodness. I have been on teams with no fizz too. It\'s like having a pity party. Nobody wants to go.  I am thankful to the Lead Change Group for publishing an article that is nothing close to business formal. I\'m a business casual evangelist. I guess that\'s what I\'m comfortable wearing and even more comfortable writing. enJOY your weekend!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 381),
(14044, 29703, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', '', '75.129.116.11', '2016-04-05 09:20:37', '2016-04-05 13:20:37', 'I have watched, on multiple occasions a movie that is about a choir of homeless people and now I\'m wondering if the movie is loosely based on this real life choir you mention. I normally don\'t re-watch a movie but I have seen that one many times because it shows what reform is possible when people are convinced that they matter.  I especially like these two quotes from your article: \"What a powerful affirmation of identity and belonging\". and \"to get the very best from our people, we need to step away from the team and connect with them as individuals\". All the affirmations about someone mean nothing unless they internalize them and believe them. It takes the personal touch for that to happen.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 381),
(14045, 29703, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-05 11:39:28', '2016-04-05 15:39:28', 'Hi, Tony:\n\nGreat post about a fascinating and uplifting subject ...\n\nI second Jane\'s comments about the value of those quotations.  The one about connecting with others as individuals really resonates with me, because I see this as essential to breaking down all the social and cultural barriers that we often erect to separate and group people.\n\nYou did not use the word \"respect\" when providing us with that excellent list of points at the end, but I believe that is in the foundation of your message.  When we respect others, the things that divide and categorize us matter much less, and the person standing in front of us matters more.\n\nGreat post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14046, 29733, 'Susan Mazza', 'Susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://randomactsofleadership.com', '73.0.251.135', '2016-04-08 10:08:12', '2016-04-08 14:08:12', 'Great article Mary.  There are unfortunately far too many people in positions of leadership who don\'t actually want to lead. A promotion is often the only way to reward people who do great work but it does such a disservice to everyone.\n\nUltimately I think the way to avoid self deception as a leader is to recognize that your people - their attitude and performance - are a reflection of your leadership.  Then there is no where to hide!  But, of course, you have to want to actually be a leader vs operate purely from technical skill and positional authority!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14047, 29733, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-04-08 10:16:28', '2016-04-08 14:16:28', 'Hi Susan. I had omitted that aspect, \"far too many people in positions of leadership who don’t actually want to lead.\" That\'s a really good point.\n\nMost of the people I\'m describing are happy to be in leadership positions, with the authority that comes with the position, without having the skills. I think your point about people being in leadership without wanting to lead, in my experience, speaks to those who take the position because they don\'t want things to get worse. It takes real stamina to try to lead among peers who are not qualified, but willing.\n\nI also love your point about looking at those who look to you for leadership - their attitudes and performance. Indeed they are a reflection. You get what you give (or don\'t give...) Thanks for commenting!!', 0, '1', '', '', 14046, 252),
(14048, 29733, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-04-08 16:20:01', '2016-04-08 20:20:01', 'For those of you interested in going deeper into \"The Jersey Shore\" theory of management, see this post of mine from 2010. http://www.reimaginework.com/whats-the-situation/', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14049, 29733, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-08 22:26:01', '2016-04-09 02:26:01', 'Hi, Mary:\n\nFirst, I confess to the world that I have never STARTED to watch an episode of \"Jersey Shores\", let alone made it all the way through.  I am a popular culture deviant ....\n\nSecond, I really enjoyed your thinking around the issue of leaders who aren\'t ... people who have somehow moved into positions of authority and responsibility, but do not have the talents, skills, or resources to adequately fill their role.  Corporate America is chock full of examples of this phenomenon.\n\nIt reminds of the Peter Principle (Lawrence J. Peter) of many years ago, where a person who was competent at one level continued to be promoted until reaching a level where they were incompetent ... and then often left to fester and infect others.\n\nI once provided leadership development in a corporation where the exponential growth over a decade had resulted in hundreds of newly-created management positions from front-line supervisor up to the vice-presidential level.   Most of these positions had been filled by internal candidates who were experts at the technical processes and products of the organization ... and most of them had little or no background in managing and leading people.\n\nImagine your lady who thought because she was in a leadership role, that she knew how to do it.  Now multiple her by hundreds ... almost everyone in a management role at that organization could look around and see three things:\n\n1)  Everyone else in management came from the same background as me.\n\n2)  No examples of effectively leadership or even very good management are visible.\n\n3)  The corporate structure accepts this leadership environment as \"OK\".\n\nThat place held some frustrations for me:).\n\nThanks as always for a thoughtful and enjoyable glimpse of leadership wisdom:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14050, 29733, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-04-09 11:20:52', '2016-04-09 15:20:52', 'Love your response, John. Yes, I think the Peter Principle is sound. Your experience with the corporation you mention is both amazing and all too common. It\'s why Scott Adams hits home with his Dilbert cartoons. Your example also speaks to the \"contrived environment\" I mention, where the outcome you describe may not be questioned, except by someone like you, from the outside, and with the ability for critical thinking.\n\nI also think that we get the result you describe because really smart people who could lead limit their advancement, knowing what they would be getting into in their particular culture or environment, which is so unfortunate.\n\nHopefully, this makes those of us who do get it, and have a passion and commitment to great leadership to take yet another step to make things better.\n\nThanks for weighing, John. I always count on you. Mary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14051, 29733, 'M.Scott', 'Tthwebster@yahoo.com', '', '67.181.238.85', '2016-04-10 13:18:28', '2016-04-10 17:18:28', 'I agree with this \"Jersey Shorr\" theory for some who don\'t want to lead.\n\nHowever it is my belief that many who are resistent to lead still do so because they want to make a difference after years of witness to bad leaders. In these cases I believe that the \"resistent\" leader has the best possible motive for taking charge as an advocate for change.\n\nPerhaps they are less common than I care to know.', 0, '1', '', '', 14046, 0),
(14052, 29733, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-04-10 20:57:27', '2016-04-11 00:57:27', 'Hi M. Scott. I agree completely! M. Scott: \"However it is my belief that many who are resistant to lead still do so because they want to make a difference after years of witness to bad leaders. In these cases I believe that the “resistant” leader has the best possible motive for taking charge as an advocate for change.\" - So true. I\'ve seen it.\n\nMy only point with the Jersey Shore comparison is that it is one explanation as to why we have some leaders who are not qualified and think that they are. I think the propensity for this dynamic depends on the organization and the culture.\n\nThanks for commenting!', 0, '1', '', '', 14046, 252),
(14053, 29733, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-11 17:18:14', '2016-04-11 21:18:14', 'Hi, Mary - thanks for your kind comments.\n\nAnother thing that occurs to me about folks who believe their skills are better than they actually are.  I am seeing an increasing number of articles around this issue - mostly pointing out that people in general tend to view themselves as more (smarter, effective, better, and so on) than they actually are.  Makes sense that managers would also fall prey to this human condition.\n\nAfter all, there\'s some truth to the observation that \" ... all the children are above average\".\n\nThis probably connects to the Fundamental Attribution Error, where we attribute own our shortcomings to circumstances, other people\'s failures, or something else external to our own skills, while someone else is just \"stupid\" or \"inept\", indicating a basic failure of competency.  Source:   https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fundamental_attribution_error(https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fundamental_attribution_error\n\nHere\'s a few citations for the Manager superiority illusion thing:\n\nIllusory Superiority (Wikipedia):  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Illusory_superiority\n\nDavid Brent effect:  http://www.telegraph.co.uk/finance/jobs/9241721/The-David-Brent-effect-managers-think-they-are-better-than-they-are.html\n\nYour posts are always such fun to digest and kick around:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14054, 29733, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-04-11 21:30:42', '2016-04-12 01:30:42', 'Thanks John. I think you are onto something with the \"fundamental attribution error.\" I can\'t wait to dig in to the links you included.\n\nI immediately want to the link on the David Brent effect and saw the photo of Ricky Gervais from The Office. Do you know I could not watch The Office (only tried the U.S. version) because I found it too real and it made me very sad.\n\nHere\'s to real, character-based leaders! (Trying to end on a positive note :)', 0, '1', '', '', 14053, 252),
(14055, 29733, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://consultgiana.com', '173.195.8.67', '2016-04-13 06:53:29', '2016-04-13 10:53:29', 'Great post Mary!\n\nYour post caused my brain to flash pictures of people and situations like the leader you described.  There is a huge difference between being able to drive a result through fear and intimidation and being able to influence a result through great leadership.\n\nThe first destroys people, organizational health and eventually organizational growth.  The second builds all of those things.\n\nYou ended your post asking how we avoid leadership self-deception:\n1.  Having clear core values.\n2.  Taking time to reflect and own, and adjust behavior as needed.\n3.  Constantly investing in personal growth.\n4.  Inviting feedback from others.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
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(14056, 29733, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-04-13 12:18:26', '2016-04-13 16:18:26', 'Thanks Chery! Those are excellent tips for avoiding self-deception.\n\nBTW, I love your newest post at LinkedIn. Great stories. Very related.\nhttps://www.linkedin.com/pulse/leadership-does-begin-title-desk-chery-gegelman\n\nThanks for commenting! M', 0, '1', '', '', 14055, 252),
(14057, 29733, 'Kevin Yeates', 'kevin@creolejazzband.com', '', '50.92.18.61', '2016-04-27 17:25:31', '2016-04-27 21:25:31', 'Mary,\n\nExcellent article. I maybe foolishly presuming that your final question, \"What do you do to avoid leadership self-deception?\" was not rhetorical so I thought I would answer it.\n\nI insisted on a 360 degree assessment each year. Before receiving the results I had a \"chat\" with myself to reinforce that whatever the results may be, the results are accurate. I vowed to accept them as accurate and to put together a personal action plan to address my lowest scores.\n\nWhile I do believe self-assessment is important, my experience has been that it tends to be inaccurate. I was always able to fully explain to myself why I had taken the action I took and why it was the best action. Unfortunately the staff did not always agree. I learned to put more credence in their assessments than my own.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14058, 29733, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-05-02 20:52:23', '2016-05-03 00:52:23', 'Hi Kevin. I skimmed one of your last sentences and read it as, \"My experience has been that (360 degree) assessment tends to be inaccurate.\" I was completely ready to agree with you :) I say that because I have had to help unravel sometimes contradictory 360 feedback for others.\n\nI think self-assessment and assessment from others is both needed. I found 360 most useful for myself when a trusted colleague (who didn\'t always agree with me) helped me interpret it. I have received some priceless gems in that way.\n\nBottom line you make a VERY important point: Versus your own assessment, \"the staff did not always agree. I learned to put more credence in their assessments than my own.\" Granted there are some people that you are never going to please, but the point you remind me of is that we CAN be easier on ourselves sometimes because we know our intent. All that other people experience is the impact. They don\'t necessarily know our intent. We can\'t take that for granted.\n\nThank you for the thought-provoking remarks and taking this post even further.', 0, '1', '', '', 14057, 252),
(14059, 29798, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-12 11:37:32', '2016-04-12 15:37:32', 'Hi, Jane ... as I have come to expect, another thought-provoking and fascinating post.\n\nTwo terms kept occuring to me as I read your observations:  Social Intelligence (the ability to understand and engage with others as members of a group) and Emotional Intelligence (the ability to identify emotions and engage with others individually).\n\nIf your stories are as prevalent as I am afraid they are, we have a significant problem.\n\nI might be old-fashioned and I was raised in a rural environment where simple tacts of kindness and taking care of each other was nothing to remark on, but as natural as breathing.   When I moved to an urban environment, I did notice that people were less \"friendly\" and more self-concerned, but I also found that, with a little work, I could still make connections with others and enjoy the types of reciprocity of which you speak.\n\nI do agree that modern technology, while it increases the possibility that we can do good for others, has not seemed to create a groundswell of mutual giving.  I believe that this is ultimately a very persona decision on how to engage with others.\n\nThe difficult part for me is to give freely, without expecting or demanding reciprocity.  That is the purest form of generosity and those who can do this consistently are to be much admired.  I try, but it\'s hard:)\n\nI guess that I need to consider this further, but for now, I have one observation:\n\nNo matter what others may do, I will continue to give without worrying about what I receive or whether I receive anything in return.  I\'m no saint, but I sleep better at night when I live out my life this way.\n\nThanks for a post that will probably occupy some of my thinking time for quite a while.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14060, 29798, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-06-08 15:53:55', '2016-06-08 19:53:55', 'John,\n\nFirst, my apologies for the delay in responding. Today is my day to get back on track after having been out of the saddle for awhile.\n\nThank you for all your thoughtful commentary...now you\'ve given me additional food for thought!\n\nDuring my downtime, I listened to several webinars about marketing. While the majority of the material shared was informative, there was a theme in several of them that made me uncomfortable (perhaps as I grew up in a small town in the midwest where the value of giving was strong). The instructors were advising people to structure their lead \"magnets\" in such a way that people would feel obligated to respond. Their form of giving-to-get felt like a form of manipulation to me. That\'s another gremlin with which to wrestle!\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 14059, 251),
(14061, 29809, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-04-11 13:47:38', '2016-04-11 17:47:38', 'David, congratulations on your one-year anniversary!\n\nI don\'t know if you remember, but I had opportunity to be on the receiving end of your coaching sometime last year. You got to the heart of the matter in less that 15 minutes. My takeaway from that one session still influences me today. You are the real deal. But then you knew that :)\n\nMy Best,\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14062, 29809, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '207.230.251.154', '2016-04-11 13:51:21', '2016-04-11 17:51:21', 'Hi Mary,\n\nI very much remember our coaching session and am deeply grateful that it continues to have an impact for you today.\n\nWhile I may know I\'m the real deal it means a lot to me for you to say so. What matters to me is that I\'m real for you.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 14061, 386),
(14063, 29809, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-11 14:12:08', '2016-04-11 18:12:08', 'Hi, David:\n\nFirst, Congratulations on the one-year anniversary:)  Hard to believe it\'s been that long.\n\nSecond, Congratulations on a valuable post and a dandy little list of Vital Actions:)\n\nI have to admit that all of these can challenge me at times, but over the years, I would have to choose \"Plan\" as the one that is most problematic, especially when connected to getting that one important thing accomplished, as you have done above.\n\nMy problem is not that I do not plan, but that I overplan, by creating numerous lists with multiple entries.  I can happily lose an entire day, just planning on one front or another.\n\nShoot, maybe this is really about \"Focus\" or \"Prioritizing\" ... now you\'ve got me analyzing the real problem:)\n\nMore seriously, I can plan all I want, but until I choose to make one something The Thing to Get Done Today, I will constantly be distracted by all the glittery things.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14064, 29809, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '207.230.251.154', '2016-04-11 14:35:59', '2016-04-11 18:35:59', 'Hi John,\n\nCongratulations--you do better than most on planning.\n\nYes, we can all get paralyzed and stuck in doing the planning, rather than moving into the actual tasks.\n\nWhat is one thing you could do every day for the next 7 days to make sure that you DO one important task every day?\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 14063, 386),
(14065, 29809, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-11 17:35:43', '2016-04-11 21:35:43', 'I knew you were going to ask me that:) ...\n\nProbably concentrate on making use of the group coaching certification course I just started.  This would both help me focus my niche more precisely and give me a great start on some actual products (group-based signature programs).\n\nBiggest obstacle:  My own tendency to have several fires going at once.  Notice I did not say \"irons in the fire\" ... that would be too easy to manage.  I have to go for multiple fires and exponentially growing irons all over the place:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14066, 29809, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '154.20.159.120', '2016-04-12 21:01:59', '2016-04-13 01:01:59', 'Hi John,\n\nSounds like you need to pick your #1 fire.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 14065, 386),
(14067, 29832, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-14 10:25:34', '2016-04-14 14:25:34', 'Hi, Will - thanks for another timely and useful post on leadership.\n\nYour main point about the need for leaders to engage in effective change is well taken.\n\nI particularly like your statement about changing obsolete skills.   As you mention, the trick is to know which skills are obsolete and which are relevant, which is not always an easy task as our technology and business contexts continue to change so quickly,\n\nOne thing I use to know what to let go of is to ask myself these type of questions:\n\nIs what I am doing helping others?\n\nAm I continuing to do something because I like doing it or does value come from doing it?\n\nHow would my world change (better or worse) if I let go of this skill?\n\nHow would my world change if I implemented this new skill?\n\nYour thoughts and observations always spark thinking on my part - I deeply appreciate that:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14068, 28821, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-08 16:58:21', '2016-05-08 20:58:21', 'Hi, Scott - thanks for this thoughtful and useful post.\n\nEvery one of your points hits home clearly and closely.  I especially like the imagery around number 2, where you advise us to \"airlift ourselves out\".  This evokes images of a physical getting above and out of a pattern which does not work any longer, if it ever did.\n\nThe use of the term \"airlift\" reminds that to do this requires some effort and planning, but is necessary in order to get away from destructive environments.\n\nI also like your phrase \"higher-order lens\".  To me, this reinforces the idea that we are looking at multiple and complex layers and that becoming unstuck is much like peeling that proverbial onion, with its many overlapping layers.  It also seems to remind us that we have to look at our situation from a broader perspective, in order to clearly see what is happening.\n\nNice imagery and a great message overall:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14069, 28821, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2016-05-10 10:14:27', '2016-05-10 14:14:27', 'Meaningful article, Scott. It reminds me of several sidebar conversations I\'ve had with Carrie Koens about taking the next step. Seriously, we all fall into a rut at times and I like some of them so much I hate to leave. (Like ordering the same thing at a restaurant.) Then there are the familiar spaces that don\'t feel like a rut, they feel like comfort. It\'s good to be comfortable - satisfied - content.  But then there are the times you\'ve described when being in a rut is like wearing the same shoes so long your feet hurt and actually become deformed because of refusing to get new. When the fizz is gone, it\'s time to recharge the water. Right?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14070, 28821, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://www.scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2016-06-07 09:13:20', '2016-06-07 13:13:20', 'Thanks John, \"airlifting\" is a term I repeat to myself over and over!\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 14068, 0),
(14071, 28821, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://www.scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2016-06-07 09:15:36', '2016-06-07 13:15:36', 'Jane - I absolutely LOVE your term of \"when the fizz is gone it\'s time to recharge the water\".  And as you point out, we ALL can fall into a rut at times.  There is no shame in that.  Half the battle is realizing you are in one!\nThx for your engagement.\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 14069, 0),
(14072, 28988, 'Margy KJ', 'margy@weavinginfluence.com', '', '70.194.4.179', '2016-05-20 12:18:05', '2016-05-20 16:18:05', 'Thanks for a great article, Jonathan! I love the idea that \"Every day you have to push yourself to be uncomfortable.\" It almost seems counter intuitive since we are constantly striving to create comfortable lifestyles for ourselves, but so necessary for growth.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14073, 29386, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-30 09:45:17', '2016-04-30 13:45:17', 'Hi, John - as expected, another post packed with positive and useful advice.\n\nI was particularly struck by number 7 about \"Jump In and Help When Needed\" - this is a gem, but also a strategy that many do not execute well.\n\nYou mentioned avoiding micromanaging, and another way to fail this strategy is to do what I call \"Fake Help\", where the leader drops in for a photo op, does the minimal amount or simply poses like he/she is actually working, and then is off to other places.\n\nWhile giving the visual appearance of helping out, they aren\'t.\n\nA variation of this is when the leader jumps in, but instead of helping where needed as \"another set of hands\", he or she more or less subtlety takes over.  This can occur overtly when the \"boss\" just does what bosses tend to do, or more quietly, when eyes swivel to the leader whenever directions or orders are given, to check his or her reaction.\n\nThanks for this useful and thought-provoking post.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14074, 29386, 'John Stoker', 'jrsutah@comcast.net', 'http://www.dialogueworks.com', '76.27.61.222', '2016-05-01 22:44:12', '2016-05-02 02:44:12', 'John,\nThanks for your wonderful comments. I love it when people share their perspectives and experiences. I will have to add these to my list of things that leaders do that do more harm than good. Thanks so much for sharing. Have a great week!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14075, 29431, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-30 10:24:13', '2016-04-30 14:24:13', 'Hi, Glen - very interesting post about purpose.\n\nI work with others in mid-late life helping them determine their purpose (goals+passions+values) based primarily on the work of Richard Leider and a few others from the positive psychology area.\n\nYour thoughts are spot-on regarding the benefits and importance of this to each of us.  However, several things in our modern technological world combine to make this more difficult in some ways:\n\n1)  Too many choices - technology and digital connections abound, resulting in a much greater general awareness of all that the world holds than I had when making my original career choices.\n\n2)  Too much Flux - due to that same technology and the unsettled geopolitical and global economics situations, change on many fronts is happening at a much faster and more impacting rate than previously.\n\n3)  Change and Choices combine to make for a volatile environment in which to discern our true purpose, loosely defined as why we get up in the morning or what truly moves us.\n\nThis is both a challenging and an unsettled time for self-exploration and self-discovery.  Appreciate your work in this area:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14076, 29431, 'Gleb Tsipursky', 'gleb@intentionalinsights.org', 'http://www.intentionalinsights.org', '65.60.222.150', '2016-05-03 21:16:26', '2016-05-04 01:16:26', 'John, thanks for enriching the conversation with your comments, and appreciate the work you do helping people find their purpose!\n\nBest,\nGleb', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 406),
(14077, 29541, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-30 09:33:46', '2016-04-30 13:33:46', 'Hi, Lewis - thanks for an interesting and (for me) reinforcing post:)\n\n\"Hi, my name is John and I\'m a blogger\" ... I consider the time I spend creating and posting my thoughts on various aspects of leadership, human behavior, and learning to be golden.  You could probably diagnose me as addicted to blogging, in the same ways that others are addicted to various activities.\n\nWhile I was intuitvely aware of the three primary reasons to blog that you offer in your post, I was impressed with how you explained each one in more depth.  Because of this, I have focused my thinking, and hopefully my actions, more precisely to take advantage of something I already do, enjoy doing, and could make a more integral part of who I am.\n\nMuch appreciated post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14078, 29558, 'Will Lukang', 'Will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.com', '96.242.209.121', '2016-04-22 06:43:55', '2016-04-22 10:43:55', 'Hi Mark,\n\nIt is important that leaders be socially responsible and consider all means of helping their organization to be Eco friendly.    Apple is a good example of it.\n\nThanks for your post.\n\nRegards,\nWill', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14079, 29558, 'Mark Ellis', 'mark@businessfiction.co.uk', 'http://www.businessfiction.co.uk', '86.141.89.48', '2016-04-22 06:52:36', '2016-04-22 10:52:36', 'Thanks, Will. Apple have made great strides in this area and it\'s encouraging to see just how much of their marketing budget they appear willing to devote to it. Let\'s hope more do the same.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 409),
(14080, 29558, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-25 08:52:00', '2016-04-25 12:52:00', 'Hi, Mark - nicely-constructed and very timely post:)\n\nYou made me very uncomfortable with the first item on your list, since I have a very bad habit of printing things which I do not need to print.  I am just old enough to be a hard-copy native trying hard to assimiliate in a digital world.  I appreciate the reminder.\n\nInteresting comment on your suggestion to \"Recycle As You Would At Home\".  I work for myself, at home which I share with two other adults.   I have much more control over my work recycling efforts than I do my home efforts, since the two cave-dwellers with whom I share a residence are not particularly into recycle.      In my tax--deductible space, I am relatively green, aside from the above-referenced hard copy obsession.\n\nSomewhat more seriously, thanks for the useful tips and relatively gentle reminder to take care of the planet ... much appreciated:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14081, 29558, 'Mark Ellis', 'mark@businessfiction.co.uk', 'http://www.businessfiction.co.uk', '86.141.89.48', '2016-04-25 09:35:14', '2016-04-25 13:35:14', 'Hi John\n\nThanks for your kind comments - they\'re really appreciated. I glad you enjoyed the post.\n\nHey - we\'ve all been guilty of printing stuff we should perhaps leave in the digital realm, so don\'t worry about that. I\'ve now switched completely to my laptop and/or iPad at meetings rather than printed agendas and minutes, and I\'ve gradually noticed more people doing the same.\n\nWe\'ll get there :)\n\nThanks again\n\nMark', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 409),
(14082, 29558, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-30 09:47:58', '2016-04-30 13:47:58', 'Hi again, Mark - follow-up question.\n\nAre you aware of the research which indicates that writing notes on paper results in more retention of information than keyboarding on a laptop or tablet?   This has ecological implications for what we are talking about.\n\nAny thoughts?\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14083, 29558, 'Mark Ellis', 'mark@businessfiction.co.uk', 'http://www.businessfiction.co.uk', '86.141.89.48', '2016-05-02 15:17:40', '2016-05-02 19:17:40', 'Hi John\n\nI wasn\'t aware of that research. Do you have a link to the study in question?\n\nI\'d guess it depends on the individual and on the way in which those devices are used. If you\'re using a laptop or tablet in multitasking mode and have more than one thing on the screen while you\'re taking notes, you\'re far less likely to take things in than you may be with a piece of paper.\n\n\'Distraction-free\' writing software is becoming very popular (https://ia.net/writer/mac/) because it strips everything back to what is, essentially, a piece of digital paper, free from buttons, menus and pop-ups. I can\'t see how retention could be reduced if those kind of tools were being used...\n\nInteresting stuff, though.\n\nThanks\n\nMark', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 409),
(14084, 29648, 'Will Lukang', 'Will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.com', '96.242.209.121', '2016-04-26 06:47:02', '2016-04-26 10:47:02', 'Excellent point on just forgiving without going through the process.  Without dealing with the issue, people often missed the point that they crossed then line.  Accountability is really essential to create a healthy environment that support the group overall goals.\nThanks you for sharing The 5 Steps For True Forgiveness.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14085, 29648, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-30 09:28:36', '2016-04-30 13:28:36', 'Hi, Tabitha - excellent post on an important workplace issue.\n\nI thought your five-step process for dealing directly with this to be very valuable.  This will be a helpful tool to share with others, especially since so many avoid any type of confrontations at work and with those who are on a level or above the level at which one toils.   Your approach provides some needed support, first for the idea that one can and should not just \"let this pass\", and second, that a way to confront without conflict exists.\n\nI do wonder about people who do not have the option to look elsewhere for collaboration when this fails.   Whether we work at the lower levels of the organization or at the higher levels, we are often required by job constraints or design to work with another person, whether we would choose to do so or not.\n\nI think your process has much value in any situation, but do you have additional thoughts about what to do when you cannot realign your collaborations?\n\nAbout your ending question on accountability and forgiveness ... for me, this always depends significantly on how the person who needs to be forgiven responds to a mature and calm confrontation over their actions.\n\nIf the person responds positively, then accountability has been reinforced.  If they continue to avoid responsibility for their actions, then accountability is weakened or even non-existent.\n\nThen we are at that point you mentioned of deciding whether we can adjust our work situation and collaborations to avoid a repeat performance.\n\nThanks for a very well-written and useful post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14086, 29852, 'Will Lukang', 'Will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.com', '96.242.209.121', '2016-04-19 06:28:44', '2016-04-19 10:28:44', 'Excellent point David!  Affirmation of someone strength is the best gift.  It recognize someone\'s capability and let them know you care enough to highlight it.  What make people happy about their job is not always money.  Recognition, appreciation and affirmation are high up on the value chain.  I hope by your kindness Kathy find her way back to her journey.\n\nThank you for your good post this week.\n\nRegards,\n\nWill Lukang', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14087, 29852, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '100.15.161.64', '2016-04-19 07:51:34', '2016-04-19 11:51:34', 'Being seen is always a gift - and not hard to give!\n\nThanks Will!\n\n-David', 0, '1', '', '', 14086, 307),
(14088, 29852, 'Kenneth Baucum', 'kg5cbm@gmail.com', 'http://www.kennethbaucum.com', '64.207.236.114', '2016-04-20 11:20:37', '2016-04-20 15:20:37', 'Excellent thoughts!  I definitely agree that I get a direct and measurable energy boost when someone thoughtfully recognizes my efforts.  The same happens again when I recognize others for their efforts.  It\'s funny how it works on a two-way street.\n\nThanks for the reminder!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14089, 29852, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '74.219.14.98', '2016-04-20 11:43:33', '2016-04-20 15:43:33', 'Thanks Kenneth - I love your observation that its a two-way street. That was certainly the case in my experience with Kathy. We\'re all human and we all need encouragement!\n\n-David', 0, '1', '', '', 14088, 307),
(14090, 29852, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-24 18:41:25', '2016-04-24 22:41:25', 'Hi, David - another excellent post.\n\nI love the Kathy\'s Rainbow story ... sounds like something I would do:)\n\nTwo things I picked up from reading this post:\n\n1)  Books are meant to be used!  Personally I use highlighters, different colors of pens, and \"marginalia\" to help me digest and remember the content of a book in which I find value.  Actually, the amount of scribbling, doodling, and added color make for a handy and very visual rating scale.\n\n2)  As leaders and managers, we may need to get out of our own shells in order to see the strengths in another\'s behavior.  I know I am guilty sometimes of observing something I do not understand or agree with,  thus dismissing it out of turn.  Your post reminds me that the ability to see through another\'s eyes includes the ability to appreciate whey they do something, and not just that they do it.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14091, 29852, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2016-04-24 18:50:22', '2016-04-24 22:50:22', 'John,\n\nI would guess that we all identify with what you describe in your second point. It can take that moment to pause and reflect.\n\n(And I would love to see a John Smith Rainbowed version of Winning Well ;)\n\nTake care,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 14090, 307),
(14092, 29875, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-04-21 10:08:39', '2016-04-21 14:08:39', 'Love all of this post, Hollis.\n\n\"Never assume anything\" is such a good piece of advice in so many situations, and a key skill to being a good leader, particularly when it comes to communication..\n\nGreat job!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14093, 29875, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com/', '100.14.221.24', '2016-04-21 10:26:01', '2016-04-21 14:26:01', 'Thanks, Mary.\n\nI have to confess that lately, when I question an assumption, I sometimes find myself hesitating. So I started asking myself why. I realized that it seems less the norm now, so much so that sometimes I get an offended reaction, as if \"How could you NOT understand what I meant? Or are you that out-of-touch?\" I think perhaps too much electronic communications has done this to us. If we question something by email or in a way that doesn\'t also come with visual body language, we lose the context. And what might otherwise be conveyed as just genuine confusion or interest in ensuring we\'re all on the same page, instead becomes some sort of insult or derision. This is bad all the way around.\n\nAnd so, despite my own occasional hesitations or discomfort, I still feel it\'s important for me to ask these kinds of clarifying questions. Let someone think I\'m a dope -- at least I\'m a dope that cares.  ;-)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14094, 29875, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-25 08:42:21', '2016-04-25 12:42:21', 'Hi, Hollis - fascinating post:)\n\nI think you have clearly described the perfect trainwreck that occurs when expectations are artificially inflated combines with unrealistic confidence.   This is a life problem that has been with us for a long time.  I remember assuming that everyone else was earning more money and managing it much better than I during my first years in the work force.\n\nMy expectations were high, my confidence over-inflated, and when the bubble burst, my emotional reaction was to go to the opposite extreme:  I felt a complete failure and did not see how I could ever recover.\n\nEach one of the solutions you describe are right on and effective, if the leader applies them.  My personal favorite, because it is the hardest to do consistently, is number 3, where you evoke Jack Nicholson at his psychotic best.  Reality is usually less appealing than what we see on line and on the screen, but as you point out nicely, it\'s where we all live.\n\nEven Kim Kardashian has to face reality when the cameras are turned off ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14095, 29875, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com/', '100.14.221.24', '2016-04-25 11:49:12', '2016-04-25 15:49:12', 'Whew! Glad that what I see as a problem and was trying to convey in words did so, John!\n\nThis past week, for my webcast series, I interviewed someone who succinctly summarized another way to combat the expectation, level-setting problem:  Being mindful. I think that mindfulness is a great way to combat the overconfidence effect. Being mindful also means being grounded...in reality, one\'s own and the world around you.\n\nSo I\'m all for working on more mindfulness!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 408),
(14096, 29886, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2016-05-10 09:44:53', '2016-05-10 13:44:53', 'When I get discouraged, I remember that life is a contact sport and if I let it, it will beat me down, but I won\'t let it. I might have a moment of pity and give myself 30 seconds to feel grief, but then I get over myself and figure out what to do next. A few habits I\'ve done for so long now, I don\'t remember when I started, but they keep me steady when I get knocked off course. *Attitude of gratitude - always *Focus on what I have, not on what I\'ve lost. Capitalize on what I can do, not on what I cannot *A setback is not a stayback *Begin again - it\'s never too late to have a new beginning', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14097, 29886, 'Caitie', 'caitie@thelightningnotes.com', '', '104.162.88.232', '2016-05-10 10:14:35', '2016-05-10 14:14:35', 'Great stuff, Jane! Thanks for this. Especially love the focus on what we have, not what we\'ve lost.', 0, '1', '', '', 14096, 0),
(14098, 29886, 'Margy KJ', 'margy@weavinginfluence.com', '', '184.195.9.195', '2016-05-10 10:53:28', '2016-05-10 14:53:28', 'Caitie:\n\nIt is very (dare I say) encouraging to read about how useful failure and discouragement can be for our overall growth and influence in the world. I appreciate the notion that we need to toughen up a bit in order to create things in this world that will last.\n\nA few years ago when I was joining a new community, I was terrified to put myself out there. I felt so out of my element and just kept repeating to myself the saying \"growth begins at the edge of your comfort zone.\" Knowing that the pain and discomfort are part of the process of becoming a better me makes it easier to endure!\n\nI will also say pregnancy taught me a lot about that. Being violently ill for 9 months really teaches you about patience and sitting with the discomfort with the knowledge that the end result will be well worth it.\n\nI loved this post! Thanks for contributing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14099, 29886, 'Caitie', 'caitie@thelightningnotes.com', '', '104.162.88.232', '2016-05-10 11:47:07', '2016-05-10 15:47:07', 'Margy ~\n\nI think that idea of growth beginning at the edge of where we\'re comfortable is so true! Good on you for putting yourself out there. And what an amazing, amazing story on your pregnancy. Thank you for all this!', 0, '1', '', '', 14098, 0),
(14100, 29886, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-12 11:18:28', '2016-05-12 15:18:28', 'Hi, Caitie:)  - excellent post on an important part of being human.\n\nApparently your experience raising Italian pigs was quite thought-provoking:)\n\nMore seriously, your message that discouragement is part of the process, rather than an interruption of progress, is very important for us all to keep in mind.\n\nKaren Kimsey-House recently shared this recipe in an interview around personal practices to keep us going through the messy and hard stuff:\n\n1.  Do inspiring work\n2.  Hang around with inspiring people\n3.  Practice gratitude\n\nI was struck by the order of these elements.  Work came first, which at first seemed wrong.  However, as I reflected further, I realized that our work is what we do and it is usually the largest part of our life.  Engaging in inspirational work often results in a stronger sense of purpose and value, simply because we are living for something beyond ourselves.   Everything else can flow naturally from that.\n\nI enjoyed your post tremendously and am on my way over to visit The Lightning Notes:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14101, 29886, 'Caitie', 'caitie@thelightningnotes.com', '', '104.162.88.232', '2016-05-12 21:04:54', '2016-05-13 01:04:54', 'John,\n\nThanks for this! Karen Kimsey-House\'s recipe is beautiful - she hits so many of the big points! Very glad you shared it and your reflection on it.\n\n(And methinks she probably didn\'t even need to raise Italian pigs to come to it!)\n\nGratefully,\n\nCaitie', 0, '1', '', '', 14100, 0),
(14102, 29904, 'John E. Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-29 12:12:17', '2016-04-29 16:12:17', 'Hi, Amy - very interesting post:)\n\nI found my head nodding in agreement as I waded through your all-too-accurate description of the ways in which we sabotage ourselves through our reaction to feedback.   We reject it or take it too seriously, we agonize when what others think does not sync with our self-perceptions, and generally do not take full advantage of the learning that is there to be had.\n\nI think your summary message of \"having it all\" by opening up to feedback and being accepted for yourself is great, if hard to accomplish sometimes in real life.\n\nThe point about being curious about feedback is a very important element of all this, in my opinion.  I have been blogging more often about curiosity, because it keeps popping up as a key component of leadership, coaching, learning, and relationship-building.\n\nWhen next I receive feedback, I am going to consciously try to ask myself \"Hmm, wonder why they say this about me?\", instead of my more normal responses of \"How dare they say that about me!\" and \"They know my secret and I am destroyed\".\n\nWhat I have already done has to do with being a training manager and facilitator for much of my professional life.  We are more often talking, as you are doing quite nicely, about how we respond to feedback, but I think how we ask for that feedback is equally important.\n\nIt strikes me that feedback in an individual management or coaching context is a somewhat different animal than that for group meetings, training workshops, and the like.\n\nI have become more adept at designing and analyzing questions and questionnaires which remove the personal and focus on objective and balanced measurement of attitudes, reactions, and perceptions around learning events, along with the impact of the training.\n\nThis started in earnest after a particularly difficult meeting, where a president insisted that we had failed in our attempts to boost the skill level of a group based on one very negative, very long and somewhat rambling criticism.   In her mind, the words of the one outweighed shorter and calmer, but more positive statements by others, along with a hefty curve toward excellence on the quantitative side.\n\nWell, you certainly have my thinking going this morning ... thanks!\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(14103, 29904, 'Amy Kay Watson', 'Amy@CareerLeadershipAlignment.com', 'http://CareerLeadershipAlignment.com', '162.231.20.31', '2016-05-02 11:04:57', '2016-05-02 15:04:57', 'Ah, John! I relate to everything in your post. (And totally agree, feedback on training forms is different from the rest... and yet, the skill set for receiving feedback well is the same.)\n\nI love the story you share about the critical president. Do you believe his criticisms based on outcomes he\'d outlined ahead of time as necessary for the meeting, or do you think this was a case of \"Dear Abby\" syndrome? (This is my fun name for what I\'ve noticed to be an instinctive reaction to learning a better way to be -- deciding that somebody *else* needs to change.)', 0, '1', '', '', 14102, 415),
(14104, 29904, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-05-02 14:43:18', '2016-05-02 18:43:18', 'Hi, Amy - thanks for your response.\n\nInteresting question:  I think SHE was more in the Dear Abby camp, along with a strong does of egotism that went way beyond healthy self-confidence.\n\nFascinating way to describe our all-too-common tendency to see the blame/need to change elsewhere, instead of glancing in the mirror more often:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14105, 29913, 'Amy Kay Watson', 'Amy@CareerLeadershipAlignment.com', 'http://CareerLeadershipAlignment.com', '50.4.56.27', '2016-04-28 08:39:41', '2016-04-28 12:39:41', 'I so love the work Arbinger does and thank you for lifting it up! What has struck me most about self-deception and life \'in the box\' is that it\'s a personal recognition of how easy it is to view other human beings as objects or obstacles. Why is it so hard to recognize people as people whose values, needs, desires, and priorities are just as valid as my (our) own?\n\nAs easy as it might be to say this theoretically, in daily living practice it\'s hard!\n--That idiot on the road in front of me (not that human on the road);\n--that moron who\'s standing indecisively in front of the ONE PRODUCT I came into the grocery store to buy;\n--that child or that parent who *just doesn\'t get it*.\n\nAny time I am more aware of my own goals rather than someone else\'s needs I run the risk of treating others as objects.\n\nAnd that\'s the problem that I don\'t realize I don\'t have.\n\nSo every day becomes a practice of recognizing that I\'m in the box toward someone and asking myself \"What if their needs and desires are just as valid as my own? How would that change my approach--my way of being--here?\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 415),
(14106, 29913, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-04-28 09:34:18', '2016-04-28 13:34:18', 'What a great post, John, to begin to wrap up our month\'s theme of leadership and self-deception. Just because you hit on some common self-deceptions doesn\'t mean that we all don\'t need reminders and nudge to open our eyes and recommit to awareness and responsibility.\n\nI like this line the best: \"Being busy is usually being safe.\" That is so true. I\'m going to borrow shamelessly and share and share. Reminds me of \"Activity alone doesn\'t produce results.\"\n\nMy Best,\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14107, 29913, 'John E. Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-28 09:41:46', '2016-04-28 13:41:46', 'Hi, Amy - thanks for your thoughtful and enjoyable comments:)\n\nI loved your real-world examples of how we objectify others in our daily doings, even as I was wincing slightly because I recognized myself and could even visualize the grocery store aisle where it happened.\n\nThe word that popped into my mind as I continued to read your thoughts was \"empathy\".  It\'s much easier to feel sympathy for another, because you are keeping yourself at a distance.\n\nEmpathy requires that you really try to internalize how that other person experiences the world.   Recognizing that other people have goals, desires, and dreams too is a good first step.\n\nAppreciate your engaging contribution:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 14105, 376),
(14108, 29913, 'Kenneth Baucum', 'kg5cbm@gmail.com', 'http://www.kennethbaucum.com', '64.207.236.114', '2016-04-28 10:00:50', '2016-04-28 14:00:50', 'Fantastic article!  Thank you so much.  These are very important points to keep in mind.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14109, 29913, 'John E. Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-28 10:01:47', '2016-04-28 14:01:47', 'Hi, Mary - as always, I welcome your thoughts and reactions:)\n\nTwo excellent lines to remember and share ... upon reading your reply, I immediately thought of \"Better safe than sorry\" and was struck by how that follows logically from the first line \"Being busy is usually being safe\".\n\nSecurity is a basic human need, so it is logical that if an activity (appearing busy) results in feeling safe, we are going to do it.    The unspoken result of being safe is that we lose opportunities to be happy, to make connections with others, and to experience life more fully, which are also basic human needs.\n\nMaybe our approach to recognizing and reducing our self-deceptions has to include both building awareness of when our logic is not completely valid and becoming able to see not just what we are gaining, but what we are losing ... a broader picture.\n\nNow you have my intellectual motor going - thanks:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 14106, 376),
(14110, 29913, 'John E. Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-04-28 10:05:20', '2016-04-28 14:05:20', 'Hi, Kenneth:)\n\nThanks so much for your kind words.  I appreciate your response.\n\nYes, this is one of those bed-rock issues for leaders and people in general.  I am in awe of the Arbinger Institute\'s ability to provide us with much-needed clarity and help as we all struggle to get out of the boxes we throw ourselves into.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 14108, 376),
(14111, 29913, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '71.215.74.204', '2016-04-30 16:38:33', '2016-04-30 20:38:33', 'Great post, John! If we\'re not learning, we\'re not contributing. We humans delude ourselves about so much in this life - great job highlighting how we can evolve, grow, and serve!\n\nChris', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14112, 29913, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-05-01 19:10:05', '2016-05-01 23:10:05', 'Hi, Chris - thanks for your comments - much appreciated:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14113, 29949, 'Jane', 'Jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://InsiteSkill.com', '173.14.53.149', '2016-05-04 08:20:30', '2016-05-04 12:20:30', 'Every point TRUE. I love these points because they refute the idea that unless you can measure it, it can\'t be effective as a leadership strategy.  Of course financials matter but if things like engagement, commitment, trust, and empathy are present, the results will come.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14114, 29949, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '71.215.74.204', '2016-05-04 21:53:54', '2016-05-05 01:53:54', 'Thank you so much, Jane! You\'re right on it - results will come, and will sustain, when people feel valued for their skills, ideas, &amp; passion!\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 14113, 0),
(14115, 29949, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-05-06 13:48:33', '2016-05-06 17:48:33', 'Hi, Chris - another engaging and very well thought-out post:)\n\nFirst, thanks for pointing out that \"consequences\" are just a result and their negative or positive value is set by our expectations and goals.   People tend to shy away from anything entitled a consequence, and yet winning Powerball would have many consequences for me ... to which I say, bring \'em on:).\n\nI have no suggestions for additional core concepts, but I do appreciate the three you chose to focus on.   The progression from Context to Commitment to Consequences is strong, logical and important.   Nice job sequencing these 3 core concepts :)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14116, 29949, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '71.215.74.204', '2016-05-06 13:55:30', '2016-05-06 17:55:30', 'I wish you great positive consequences with Powerball, John! :)\n\nI\'m a big consequence guy. There are logical consequences of everything we do. Eating a fat-laden plate of fried foods would have logical consequences on my commitment to eating lean proteins and veggies!\n\nThanks for your comment &amp; validation that I\'m on the right track. I appreciate you, sir!\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 14115, 372),
(14117, 29949, 'Heidi Gordon', 'xfiletahoe@yahoo.com', '', '99.0.38.21', '2016-05-09 10:51:01', '2016-05-09 14:51:01', 'Thank you for pointing out that everyone\'s commitment must be secured!  I find it so interesting that top management and subordinates generally have opposing views of leadership.  Top management seems to be, as you say, more about numbers and budgets, but subordinates are more interested in the intrinsic qualities of what makes a great leader.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14118, 29949, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '69.88.157.54', '2016-05-09 12:19:38', '2016-05-09 16:19:38', 'Thanks so much, Heidi! Without securing commitment, there is no leadership. :)\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 14117, 372),
(14119, 29949, 'Heidi Gordon', 'xfiletahoe@yahoo.com', '', '99.0.38.21', '2016-05-09 14:27:09', '2016-05-09 18:27:09', 'When did you publish this information?', 0, '1', '', '', 14117, 0),
(14120, 29949, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '69.88.157.89', '2016-05-09 18:37:30', '2016-05-09 22:37:30', 'Not sure what you\'re asking. This post went live five days ago. The research post (http://drtc.me/proof) referred to in my article went live in October \'14.\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 14117, 372),
(14121, 30000, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-05-06 13:29:39', '2016-05-06 17:29:39', 'HI, Dan - nice to \"see\" you outside your usual haunts:)\n\nHowever, I resent you building your blogpost around how I spent the first half of my management career.  Hitting way too close to home ...\n\nI am familiar either directly or by experience with all five of these behaviors.   The fourth one about \"riding into town to save the day\" struck an especially loud chord with me.  I refer to this \"leadership\" behavior as being a \"Firefighter\".\n\nWithout a fire to fight, firefighters have little to do.  Sometimes firefighters are tempted to start fires in order to have fires to fight and consequently be hailed as heroes for putting out those fires they started.\n\nOne of my former presidents was very much in this mode.   Either by intention or by lack of attention, she would allow situations to develop to a boiling point, even when encouraged by those who reported to her to take a more proactive stance.\n\nThis CEO reveled in heroic efforts to tackle and subdue issues or problems, which did not need to exist in the first place.  It is not surprising to me that this person fits the textbook definition for narcissistic behavior.\n\nThanks for the fascinating post and trip down Memory Lane:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14122, 30000, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2016-05-10 10:17:49', '2016-05-10 14:17:49', 'Love his post, Dan. I\'m reading your post and thinking .... you know what? Inclusive leaders are hero leaders.  If you are a leader others want to follow, you are a hero.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
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(14123, 30021, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-09 11:30:57', '2016-05-09 15:30:57', 'Hi, Mary:)\n\nFirst, thank you for always posting something that challenges us to reflect, think, and do better as leaders and as employees.   I admire your willingness to wade into the messy stuff:)\n\nIt seems the CEO in your fascinating and all to familiar story suffers from the affliction of  assumption.  He assumes that what he values, everyone values.\n\nThis is not an isolated issue.  Our personal motivations are based on our unique blend of experiences, values, and perceptions.  We know these best because we are on the inside of the motivational machine.   When we move to trying to understand the motivations that influence others, we have entered a much tougher and indistinct environment.\n\nThe real problem may be that understanding what moves another requires several things:\n\n1)  We have to let go of the idea that what we know is all we need to know.\n2)  We have to become proficient at continually asking intelligent and open-ended questions to learn more about what moves others.\n3)  We have to be willing to act on our new information, rather than fall back on our \"gut\".  This seems counter to what neuroscience is saying about the value of our intuition, but it really is not.\n\nWhen you remove your old thinking and perceptions, make honest attempts to gather and absorb accurate information, and then decide, you are usually using an almost mystical blend of objectivity and subjectivity ... way better than JUST trusting your instincts:)\n\nThanks as always for stimulating my thinking.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14124, 30021, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '67.129.171.180', '2016-05-09 20:30:32', '2016-05-10 00:30:32', 'Thanks John for the always thoughtful response.\n\nThis one nailed it for me:\n\"We have to let go of the idea that what we know is all we need to know.\"\n\nI know the company I worked for was not unique, but I will speak from my experience. I would run into leaders and executives who wouldn\'t acknowledge my presence. If they were put in a position where it would have been more awkward to not speak, they didn\'t know what to say. COME ON. A leader who thinks they don\'t have anything to learn from her or his employees is courting trouble.\n\nI\'ll quote Ray Croc again, \"When you\'re green, you\'re growing. When you\'re ripe, you\'ll rot.\"\n\nIt\'s one of the reasons I won\'t let go of advocating for a pro-human workplace. It starts with the individual, including a leader. People take their cues from you. And you can\'t give what you don\'t have (humanity, respect, dignity, thoughtfulness, I could go on...). Being human at work doesn\'t mean a person has to overshare, but consider what it would mean to be more human at work. A good start is by reflecting on that list in your response. Sorry, tangent.\n\nThanks again, John.', 0, '1', '', '', 14123, 252),
(14125, 30021, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '67.129.171.180', '2016-05-09 20:59:56', '2016-05-10 00:59:56', 'Oh, and BTW John, I like \"messy.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 14123, 252),
(14126, 30021, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2016-05-10 10:03:50', '2016-05-10 14:03:50', 'Between your article, Mary and your response, John, I can\'t add anything more valuable that what has already been said. I will say this though. When I was a young stay at home mom, I was told the mom sets the tone for the home. When I went to work I realized that same precept applied to managers of people all the way up to the CEO. If they were not honorable, trusted, or thankful the trickle of those characteristics infected the whole team. There are no one size fits all reasons for why people stay in certain jobs or why some organizations flourish in spite of management - but I\'m sure it\'s because somewhere along the line a leader has stepped into their role and turned the tide for at least his or her area of influence.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14127, 30021, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '67.129.171.130', '2016-05-10 11:18:55', '2016-05-10 15:18:55', 'Great connection to leading a family, Jane. We set the tone on so many fronts.\n\nAnd yes, thank goodness for those leaders who have stepped in to influence her/his part of the organization positively, despite what is being modeled.\n\nThanks for commenting!', 0, '1', '', '', 14126, 252),
(14128, 30068, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2016-05-11 08:13:40', '2016-05-11 12:13:40', 'David, what a devastating event to go through. I can\'t think of anything worse than the vicious death of innocent victims. Thank you for sharing your insight on getting through tragedy and helping others get through theirs. If ever there is a time for compassion, this one is unparalleled.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14129, 30068, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '67.129.171.130', '2016-05-11 09:06:27', '2016-05-11 13:06:27', 'David, I\'m profoundly moved and barely have words. Thank you for sharing and guiding us in handling the unfathomable. Warmly, Mary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14130, 30068, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '208.181.106.50', '2016-05-11 10:51:34', '2016-05-11 14:51:34', 'Hi Jane,\n\nThank you for your kind words. Part of my process of dealing with the brutality of John\'s kidnapping and death is to write about it, finding the insights that let me move forward. I hope that those insights might indeed help others.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 14128, 386),
(14131, 30068, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '208.181.106.50', '2016-05-11 10:52:20', '2016-05-11 14:52:20', 'Hi Mary,\n\nI appreciate you sharing the impact my post had on you.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 14129, 386),
(14132, 30068, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '208.181.106.50', '2016-05-11 10:55:25', '2016-05-11 14:55:25', 'Dear Reader,\n\nMy friend John Ridsdel truly believed that woman were equal in our world. To honour John and that belief, his sister and two daughter\'s have started a memorial fund to support girl\'s education, protection and empowerment around the world. Should you wish to support this initiative, here is the link to the donation page:\n\n<a href=\"https://plancanada.ca/JohnRidsdelMemorial\" rel=\"nofollow\">https://plancanada.ca/JohnRidsdelMemorial</a>\n\nKind regards to all of you reading my post.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 386),
(14133, 30068, 'Carrie Koens', 'carrie@weavinginfluence.com', '', '24.159.63.37', '2016-05-11 11:22:00', '2016-05-11 15:22:00', 'David - wise words. In these kinds of situations, there often are no \"right\" words to say. It\'s shocking and sad, it\'s horrifying and stunning... but you have done a wonderful job honoring your friend.\n\nAs someone who has lost friends - tragically - in the aviation world, I know that feeling of sitting at a desk while my head and heart are elsewhere. May you find comfort in your grief through your writing and the encouragement and prayers of those around you.\n\nAll the best,\nCarrie', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14134, 30068, 'Margy KJ', 'margy@weavinginfluence.com', '', '70.194.2.37', '2016-05-11 11:50:59', '2016-05-11 15:50:59', 'David-\n\nWhat a horrible story and touching tribute to a good friend who was taken so brutally. Living in Jerusalem, I am all too aware of the shock and devastation such events bring. I really admire you for finding a way to write about this that is both sobering and uplifting. It takes a true leader to be able to extract meaning from so much pain and to use that meaning to inspire others. We are so grateful to have you as an integral part of the Lead Change community.\n\nMargy', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14135, 30068, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '71.203.97.10', '2016-05-11 12:29:07', '2016-05-11 16:29:07', 'Thank you for adding that, David.', 0, '1', '', '', 14132, 0),
(14136, 30068, 'Joseph Lalonde', 'slumbersix@gmail.com', 'http://jmlalonde.com', '134.215.206.178', '2016-05-11 12:34:24', '2016-05-11 16:34:24', 'David, my heart breaks hearing this news. For you, for his family, and for those that knew him.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14137, 30068, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '154.20.159.120', '2016-05-11 13:04:54', '2016-05-11 17:04:54', 'Hi Margy,\n\nYes, horrible. Much of the world sees this level of brutality every day. Especially in your part of the world. It reminds me both that our DNA is still hard-wired for violence and that I am thankful to live in Canada where our culture overcomes our DNA the vast majority of the time.\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 14134, 386),
(14138, 30068, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '154.20.159.120', '2016-05-11 13:05:29', '2016-05-11 17:05:29', 'Thank you Paula for the platform to raise awareness about John\'s memorial fund. David', 0, '1', '', '', 14135, 386),
(14139, 30068, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '154.20.159.120', '2016-05-11 13:07:06', '2016-05-11 17:07:06', 'Thank you for your kind words Joseph. John touched an enormous number of people--it is hard to grasp just how many, but his sister has been telling us just how many people have been reaching out to her in memory of John. We are all hanging together supporting each other in this time of grief. I appreciate you acknowledging that in your response. David', 0, '1', '', '', 14136, 386),
(14140, 30068, 'Karen @BakingInATornado', 'bakinginatornado@gmail.com', 'http://www.BakingInATornado.com', '68.13.143.180', '2016-05-11 13:15:33', '2016-05-11 17:15:33', 'Such a devastating loss. We all know we will lose people in our lives and, as hard as those losses are, they are inevitable. This kind of savage, heartless cruelty though, carries an added burden. We just cannot make sense of it in our rational minds.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14141, 30068, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '154.20.159.120', '2016-05-11 13:28:52', '2016-05-11 17:28:52', 'Hi Carrie,\n\nThank you for your open heart and sharing in our time of grief. I can understand how your connection with the aviation world, especially in far way places, gives you a unique perspective to understand this. All we can do is share and learn as we grow through each of these experiences.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 14133, 386),
(14142, 30068, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '154.20.159.120', '2016-05-11 13:31:23', '2016-05-11 17:31:23', 'Thank you Karen. A big challenge for me is in realizing that most of the word is not \"rational\" at least in comparison to how we live in Canada, the US, and much of the Western world. It doesn\'t make sense from that point of view, but from the terrorists point of view it must make sense, because they keep kidnapping and killing people. Which makes me very sad.\n\nRegards,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 14140, 386),
(14143, 30068, 'Eileen McDargh', 'eileen@eileenmcdargh.com', 'http://www.theresiliencygroup.com', '68.4.141.57', '2016-05-11 19:31:12', '2016-05-11 23:31:12', 'I cannot even begin to imagine the terror of hearing about the news last September, the vigil or hope all kept, the devastation of the news AND the courage to write this. What also struck me the amazing resilient nature of his sister and two daughters to find some ray of support by starting a fund in his name to educate and empower girls.\n\nhttps://plancanada.ca/JohnRidsdelMemorial\n\nWhen one could so easily sink down in hatred and weeping, they (and you) have risen above.  Blessings on all.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14144, 30068, '1010ParkPlace', 'bcoffee@1010parkplace.com', 'http://www.1010parkplace.com', '96.8.130.218', '2016-05-11 20:47:40', '2016-05-12 00:47:40', 'What an amazing tribute to your friends, and it speaks volumes about you. I hope the brutality of John and his family and friends\' ordeal brings someone else the strength to move forward with the unexpected horrors life puts in our laps.\nBlessings to all of you,\nBrenda Coffee', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14145, 30068, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '154.20.159.120', '2016-05-11 21:40:25', '2016-05-12 01:40:25', 'Hi Eileen,\n\nThere are days of more sinking than rising. What are you going to do? Pick yourself up and continue on is what we choose. I know that is what John would want us to do. I keep sharing about my experiences as both my way of dealing with my grief over the loss of John and as my way of shining a light on his extraordinary life.\n\nI still can\'t believe that I\'m never going to get to sail together with John again.\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 14143, 386),
(14146, 30068, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '154.20.159.120', '2016-05-11 21:41:38', '2016-05-12 01:41:38', 'Hi Brenda,\n\nThank you for your kind words. You are right that we never know when horror will strike in our world. We can only hope that we will have the resiliency and the support we need to get through it.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 14144, 386),
(14147, 30068, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-12 11:25:12', '2016-05-12 15:25:12', 'David:\n\nJust now seeing this news.  I cannot add to what others have already said.  I can only offer prayers for healing, wholeness, and strength.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14148, 30068, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '184.68.184.10', '2016-05-12 11:36:00', '2016-05-12 15:36:00', 'Thank you for sharing your strength John.', 0, '1', '', '', 14147, 386),
(14149, 30068, 'Wendy', 'wriches@outlook.com', '', '24.85.107.119', '2016-06-07 13:13:56', '2016-06-07 17:13:56', 'Thanks for this David, for all of us, and for you. Healing and inspiring words. xoxo', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14150, 30085, 'Michele Gooch', 'goochmichele@gmail.com', 'http://www.lifebydesign.guru', '107.216.7.89', '2016-05-12 13:45:57', '2016-05-12 17:45:57', '\"holding unconditional regard doesn’t require that they accept someone’s differing viewpoint, but simply that they acknowledge without judgment everyone’s right to believe and think differently.\"  Such a great statement!  Wish everyone could grasp that concept.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 422),
(14151, 30085, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-13 10:22:45', '2016-05-13 14:22:45', 'Hi, Jane - excellent post where you focus on what may be one of the most critical thinking skills of our times.\n\nYou have built a strong case for avoiding the tendency to move away from disagreement and even conflict by learning to live with and learn from those who believe differently.\n\nI immediately thought of the current partisan divisions that exist in our political, cultural, and social arenas.    We are growing apart, rather than coming together, and we are our own worst enemies in this regard.  We hunker down and only engage with those who believe as we do, who share our beliefs and assumptions about right and wrong, good and bad, and so forth.\n\nThis is one of the most powerful enemies of the ability to think critically.  We have to be able to consider different points of view and come to our own well-researched and thought-out position, rather than simply adopt a POV and isolate ourselves from further reflection.\n\nYour points, links, and quotes are all great and I am stealing them without a second thought.  In payment, I\'ll add this quotation to the discussion:\n\n\"The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.\" (F. Scott Fitzgeral).\n\nWhile we now have a different understanding of both intelligence and thinking, Fitzgerald correctly notes the importance of considering more than one point of view.\n\nOf course, to actively and objectively seek out and reflect on different ways to think about a thing is hard work and has been known to give some folks headaches.   This may be related to muscle pain when you start exercising again after a long layoff:)\n\nLoved this post - will share and may comment further on it:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14152, 30085, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-13 10:32:57', '2016-05-13 14:32:57', 'Second Thought:\n\nI also hear regularly that we should remove toxic people from our lives, which I completely agree with.\n\nI think an important distinction here is that the person in your story was saying to eliminate people who disagree with you, which can happen without ANY dysfunction or toxic behavior.\n\nWe can engage with others and disagree over values, beliefs, assumptions, and interpretations, while still maintaining open and cordial communications, mutual respect, and listening without necessarily agreeing with or supporting another\'s ideas.\n\nWe can live with each other without agreeing with each other, but when we go to our corners, our lives are diminished, except in the case mentioned above of toxic behavior.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14153, 30085, 'Kay', 'fitwithk@hotmail.com', '', '72.89.34.160', '2016-05-16 11:22:46', '2016-05-16 15:22:46', 'Wow, this is a great and truthful article. This is why many minorities have issues in Corporate America because the big Wigs who haven\'t a clue about our people but want to market to them refuse to have an open mind and see things differently. It is their way or the highway. So, so sad, yet I am so happy that you felt a need to address, but all too often nothing is ever done about it because their flock idolize them as if they are some type of God.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14154, 30085, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-06-08 16:06:40', '2016-06-08 20:06:40', 'Michele -- smiles and thanks for your kind words! You and I are on the same page in our hope for the world!', 0, '1', '', '', 14150, 251),
(14155, 30085, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-06-08 16:12:24', '2016-06-08 20:12:24', 'John,\n\nSteal away...am honored that you would do so!\n\nThis whole concept of acknowledging while rising above differences calls to me.  The schisms it\'s causing in our world cry out for solutions, but sometimes I wonder if anyone would be interested in those solutions or if the \"tribal\" mindset holds the top spot.  This year\'s presidential election is going to be a doozy in this regard, I believe.\n\nSmiles,\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 14151, 251),
(14156, 30085, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-06-08 16:15:30', '2016-06-08 20:15:30', 'Understand your point completely. However, here\'s the rub for me...shouldn\'t it be the toxic ones that we challenge the most??? Do they \"win\" if we don\'t???', 0, '1', '', '', 14152, 251),
(14157, 30085, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-06-08 16:19:06', '2016-06-08 20:19:06', 'Kay, I feel your pain and struggle as well with where to take this. The \"isms\" that divide us keep dividing us more and more. Thank you for sharing....much appreciated!', 0, '1', '', '', 14153, 251),
(14158, 30090, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-19 11:29:34', '2016-05-19 15:29:34', 'Hi, Will - interesting thoughts.\n\nI am right there with you regarding the value of paying intentional attention to our processes and work flow.   The Lean Six Sigma movement is full of handy tools to help us do this and the bottom line is clear:   Paying attention and then acting on what you observe or measure makes a strong difference.\n\nAbout your second point on noticing people\'s behavior, I have an addendum to offer.  Since you did not specifically indicate that the purpose of this is to identify coaching targets and specific behavioral issues.  I think that helping people understand the impact of their behavior is always preferable as a starting point in disciplinary counseling.  Using a coaching approach, you can help the person choose to change their behavior to make it more productive in the workplace.\n\nAs always, useful observations about how we work and how to do it better.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14159, 28823, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '24.249.156.71', '2016-06-02 12:57:28', '2016-06-02 16:57:28', 'Scott,\nI needed to hear what you had to say about multi-tasking.  I have prided myself on my ability to multitask, but beat myself up over the quality of the work I was doing!  Thanks for the push to step away from that behavior!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(14160, 28823, 'Amy Watson', 'Amy@CareerLeadershipAlignment.com', 'http://CareerLeadershipAlignment.com', '165.171.240.45', '2016-06-02 13:01:47', '2016-06-02 17:01:47', 'This is fantastic, Scott. Relevant and actionable. Thank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14161, 28823, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-06-07 08:36:52', '2016-06-07 12:36:52', 'Hi, Scott - as expected, you have shared another well-organized and useful post.\n\nI love this statement:  \" ... a wandering mind is not a happy mind.\":)  What a great way to reinforce the power and benefit of focus.\n\nYou really created a comprehensive essay on how our inability to focus can affect our work, our relationships, and our well-being.  I was particularly pleased when you mentioned multi-tasking ... we need to keep hammering away at the myth that doing more than one thing at a time is positive or productive behavior in the workplace.\n\nAll five of your points resonate with me, but number 4 especially so.  To me, this speaks to the essence of being fully present in the moment, of noticing and engaging, not just in an interactive way, but in a sense-driven way.   This is good stuff:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14162, 28823, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://www.scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2016-06-07 09:08:14', '2016-06-07 13:08:14', 'Page, thx for engaging.  I too have had a multi-tasking wakeup call.  I still struggle with the temptation but I let what the research clearly says bring me back to a more realistically productive, and present, state.', 0, '1', '', '', 14159, 0),
(14163, 28823, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://www.scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2016-06-07 09:08:46', '2016-06-07 13:08:46', 'Thank you Amy - I\'m glad it was of service to you!', 0, '1', '', '', 14160, 0),
(14164, 28823, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://www.scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2016-06-07 09:10:05', '2016-06-07 13:10:05', 'As always John, thx for your readership.  As you point out, number 4 (Feel the Meeting) is powerful.  It really changed the game for how I show up at meetings and the signals I was sending.', 0, '1', '', '', 14161, 0),
(14165, 29519, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-30 13:17:05', '2016-05-30 17:17:05', 'Hi, Mark - good article and I am in fairly complete sync with your directions.\n\nI do have one question around your last point about \"equal learning opportunities\".  I am generally in favor of providing learning opportunities to all, rather simply to the few or the elite, especially when the learning will lead to better work performance and professional growth for the employee.\n\nHowever, when we are talking about one or a few people having knowledge gaps, I am not sure I agree with the idea that everyone needs to learn.  Maybe I misunderstand your point, but it reminded me of the old and discredited approach where the manager fails to address an individual learning issue, and rather requires everyone to engage in learning, even those who have competency in that area.\n\nCould you expand some on that last point?\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14166, 29519, 'Mark Ellis', 'mark@businessfiction.co.uk', 'http://www.businessfiction.co.uk', '81.153.8.83', '2016-05-31 01:59:15', '2016-05-31 05:59:15', 'Hi John\n\nGlad you enjoyed the piece. That last point is simply suggesting that only those with knowledge gaps are given the opportunity to fill them and grow - not that everyone else should partake in the same learning. In doing so, the former will then no longer feel left out or in some way hampered, which can lead to problems within the team.\n\nI trust that makes sense.\n\nMark', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 409),
(14167, 29519, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-31 08:26:44', '2016-05-31 12:26:44', 'Absolutely ... and it is the response I expected.\n\nThanks, Mark:)', 0, '1', '', '', 14166, 0),
(14168, 29555, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-06-07 10:46:23', '2016-06-07 14:46:23', 'Hi, Jonathan:)\n\nI really enjoyed this post.\n\nYour observation about the difference between sacrifice in the military and in the regular work environment really caught my attention.   I have not seen the concept of servant leadership so clearly delineated until now.\n\nThe problem of moving from extrinsic to intrinsic motivation was clearly shown to me last evening as I participated in a learning event with over a hundred leadership and learning professionals.  These are people who are unusually engaged in professional development activities and are curious learners.\n\nAs we moved through a long discussion, the issue of intrinsic vs. extrinsic came up.  While many favored intrinsic motivations as I anticipated, I was struck by how many also made quite the case for extrinsic motivation.   I expect they might revise their perceptions if they read your comments around Deci and Cameron\'s research.\n\nA \"300% increase in engagement\" is hard to argue with ...\n\nThanks for a useful and well-written article.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14169, 29555, 'Jonathan Moss', 'Jonathan.david.moss@gmail.com', 'http://goo.gl/aN3E8S', '75.176.21.18', '2016-06-07 21:35:54', '2016-06-08 01:35:54', 'John,\n\nThanks for the comments and feedback on the article!!!! I couldn\'t agree more!\n\nIt is interesting that there are still people that believe extrinsic is the most effective type of motivation.\n\nPeople just have to ask themselves, would I sacrifice money for the betterment of my friends and family or sacrifice my friends and family to make more money?\n\nEmbedded in the questions lies the answer to intrinsic and extrinsic motivation. Everyone\'s situation is different but I guarantee the vast majority will answer that they would sacrifice money to see their friends and family prosper and be healthy.', 0, '1', '', '', 14168, 322),
(14170, 29829, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-05-24 10:21:56', '2016-05-24 14:21:56', 'What a great post, Chad. You have prompted me to think about the meaning of \"capacity\" in a whole new way. Thank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14171, 29829, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '24.249.156.71', '2016-05-24 11:38:18', '2016-05-24 15:38:18', 'Incredible post my friend.\n\n\"We stumble when we give primary effort to secondary concerns.\"  Guilty as charged!  I have to do a better job of giving the most effort to the most important concerns.\n\n\"If you can’t articulate your passion then what you have isn’t passion. It’s raw emotion. You know what you feel. Not what you think. To bring people with you, they have to feel your passion and know your thoughts.\"  Sometimes the most difficult thing in the world is translating what\'s burning in my gut and churning in my brain into something passionate and intelligent for others to grab on to!  Thanks for the reminder of how critical it is!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(14172, 29829, 'Katia Morgado', 'krmorgado@gmail.com', '', '200.211.190.129', '2016-05-24 15:47:27', '2016-05-24 19:47:27', 'Truly inspiring! Thank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14173, 29829, 'UJJWAL CHHIBBER', 'ujjwal.chhibber@gmail.com', '', '103.43.112.97', '2016-05-25 00:22:03', '2016-05-25 04:22:03', 'Brilliant post. Really articulate. Rejuvenated my thoughts completely.\nFeeling fresh and energized to be passionate,learn and grow.\n\nThank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14174, 29829, 'Brenda Thomas', 'breth@ovfarms.com', '', '71.92.133.34', '2016-05-25 15:32:01', '2016-05-25 19:32:01', 'Great reminder', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14175, 29829, 'MMGupta', 'mmgupta57@rediffmail.com', '', '173.34.186.124', '2016-05-26 19:34:26', '2016-05-26 23:34:26', 'Dear Sir,\nWhat a post,really a game changer, simple words with tons of meaning, so true for every stage of life-specially on retirement from the primary job.\nWith Warm Regards,\nMM', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14176, 29829, 'Cellene', 'Cellene@mac.com', '', '73.42.147.215', '2016-05-27 18:50:52', '2016-05-27 22:50:52', 'Thank you for this very thoughtful post!  To observe deeply, opens up a whole other inquiry!\nCH', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14177, 29829, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-30 12:35:55', '2016-05-30 16:35:55', 'Hi, Chad - excellent post:)\n\nThis little post is full of pithy quotes, as others have already noted.   The ability to capture sometimes complex ideas in simple and clear language is a gift.\n\nThanks for sharing your gift with us ....\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14178, 29889, 'Carrie Koens', 'carrie@weavinginfluence.com', '', '24.159.63.37', '2016-05-23 16:56:54', '2016-05-23 20:56:54', 'Great post! Change isn\'t easy for anyone, least of all a leader who has to look internally to see if he or she is what needs to change, but my personal experience has been that great leaders will make the tough choices and look to the future of what\'s best for the company or team.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14179, 29889, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '24.249.156.71', '2016-05-25 12:29:57', '2016-05-25 16:29:57', 'If you had the time to flesh out those three points, it would make a great business book for new or young business leaders!  Hope you will consider it!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(14180, 29889, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-30 12:26:19', '2016-05-30 16:26:19', 'Hi, Mark - interesting post:)\n\nI agree with your points about the difficulties many owner/leaders face when attempting to navigate change, especially from the personal perspective aspect.  Letting go of control, even if the thing you are letting go of is out of control, is not easy.\n\nWhen we consider the owner/leader self-assessing his ability and motivation to change, as you suggest, I think we are talking about a point when coaching is essential.  Whether the person enters into a formal coaching relationship or simply is willing to listen and consider the perceptions and reflections of a trusted other, the power of two is needed.\n\nOf course, now we are right back to letting go of control, aren\'t we?:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14181, 30016, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '73.13.204.222', '2016-05-27 11:27:52', '2016-05-27 15:27:52', 'Wow, Paul. Thank you for elevating this! Fun in the workplace is something people often think is lame (after that failed ropes activity...) or that fun and business are mutually exclusive.\n\nI\'m currently partnering with a Delaware-based company called The Fun Dept. They actually teach companies to create their own Fun Dept based on sound principles, like the ones you describe here.\n\nThanks again for bringing this topic to remind the masses who read our blog :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14182, 30016, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '205.132.110.2', '2016-05-27 14:26:26', '2016-05-27 18:26:26', 'Thanks Mary! We\'re all guilty of making work a drudgery from time to time. I love to joke around and the most productive teams I\'ve work with had a sense of fun infused into their work. One of these teams was when was the opening leadership team at LEGOLAND California Theme Park back in the 90\'s. Great company and fun people!!\n\nAfter all, why shouldn\'t we have fun at work? Life\'s too short!', 0, '1', '', '', 14181, 343),
(14183, 30016, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-30 13:36:25', '2016-05-30 17:36:25', 'Hi, Paul - good article, all though ...\n\n... You almost lost me when you mentioned \"fun\" the first time:)\n\nI have been in workplaces where \"fun\" translated to \"We can good off at work while getting paid\", losing sight of the overall organizational goals, and concentrating only on being entertained.  Sometimes an entitlement mentality appeared, where \"fun\" was the reason for being at work, rather than a healthy outcome of pursuing our passions.\n\nYou provide some solid thinking about how to meld \"fun\" with \"passion\" and \"achievement\", while still relying on competence.\n\nWhen I have gained competence in something, and am allowed to display that competence in pursuit of organizational goals, I consider this to be a real good example of \"fun\".\n\nWhen I am pushed to participate in something someone else has decided should be \"fun\" for me, I am not a happy worker.\n\nI would add that \"fun\" requires a consideration of context.  While the doctors, nurses, counselors, or teachers in their lounges or offices might enjoy some \"gallows\" humor to alleviate the all-too-real pressures of their work, that same \"fun\" would not be appropriate with clients, families, in the operating room or the classroom.\n\nThanks for a thoughtful article:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14184, 30064, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-06-07 08:11:43', '2016-06-07 12:11:43', 'Hi, Lewis - useful post.\n\nI have nothing particularly to add to your comprehensive discussion, but I did especially enjoy your reminder that all our glitzy productivity tools \"will only ever be as effective as the individuals that interact with them\".   We so often emphasize the technology over the users and you have rightly reminded us that the person\'s skills are key, not the capacity of the software, application, or gadget.\n\nI also think that your revisioning productive work as something to be valued and protected is a strong point.   The example of keeping folks out of meetings so they can concentrate on their important tasks is pure gold:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14185, 30064, 'Rhianno Shelley', 'jr_shelley@att.net', '', '104.183.29.18', '2016-07-01 18:10:33', '2016-07-01 22:10:33', 'Hello Lewis.  I enjoyed reading your post.  I believe that leading by example is another great motivating factor.  In times of high demand, the hours can be long and the tasks at hand might be grueling, but if you have a leader who is willing to roll up his/her sleeves and do whatever it takes to get the job done, it inspires me to push forward.  That old saying \"actions speak louder than words\" is true.  Often the greatest distance that leaders have to travel is the distance from their mouths to their feet.\n\nTo your point about working smarter not harder, I believe that good leaders make things happen.  A leader must be willing to take charge of change and move quickly to mobilize personal and group resources to deal with any problems.  Problems could be inefficient processes or unnecessary red tape hurdles.   Working with the team or employee to brainstorm on how to work smarter not harder will go a long way to improve productivity.\n\nMy final thought is this \"As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another\" (Proverbs 27:17 NIV).  This is true with a good leader.  The more the leader is willing to share with his/her employees the more he employees will learn and feel empowered all of which leads to increased motivation and productivity.\n\nRhiannon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14186, 30103, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-05-19 10:05:53', '2016-05-19 14:05:53', 'David, what a great post. And what a gift that workshop attendee gave her/herself and everyone in the room. Learning sticks with conversations like that.\n\nTechnically I don\'t work with Millennials, but observe them working in my local coffee shop and through my niece and nephew. One thing I\'m reminded of is that I\'m allowed to dream. To your point about an employee being eager for advancement. I can look at myself and ask if I\'m doing what is needed (but not over-doing) to achieve my goals.\n\nMy now 30 yo nephew asked to be part of a company-sponsored MBA program in his mid-twenties. Typically his employer only allowed those with certain number of years of service. They made an exception for him. He had earned it, and he and his fellow students learned so much from each other. He\'s a team leader now. Again, my lesson - don\'t be afraid to ask for what you want, and act on your dream.\n\nAs a side note, David, check out Brenda Pohlman\'s work on Generation Everyone. Fascinating.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14187, 30103, 'Lisa Lavergne', 'lisal@visiontrust.org', '', '50.201.79.196', '2016-05-19 12:03:51', '2016-05-19 16:03:51', 'Great thoughts and answers to those questions. I have seen this shift over the last 8 years in my organization and it is difficult to navigate in some ways, but refreshing in others. One question for you - do you have any direction or resources to point me to in regards to practical ways to make that transition from structured hours to a little less structured? Especially in light of new legislation that is coming down requiring anyone making less than $47000 to be paid overtime if they work over 40 hours. This one issue seems to be the one that causes the most conversations as the newer workers tend to want more flexibility than the longer term workers have experienced.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14188, 30103, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-19 12:07:51', '2016-05-19 16:07:51', 'Hi, David - interesting post:)\n\nMy initial reaction:  \"Oh great, another generational warfare story\".  I\'m not real sold on the value of defining people by generational cohorts.  While generalizations do exist, I find that people are better understood based on their correltation with one or another of the several human developmental theories, each person\'s individual behavioral preferences, and their unique values, skills, interests, and goals.\n\nI was pleasantly surprised when you quickly noted that your generation exhibited the same behavior that the person was criticizing in Millennials.\n\nSecond and to your questions:\n\n1.   Millennials remind me that the \"rules\" I learned as a Boomer no longer need apply.  They work for themselves, even when in an internal position, and are less likely to spend years \"paying their dues\"\n\n2.   My Boomer colleagues have shown me time and again the value of having a strong work ethic ... not because it\'s how you get ahead, but because at the end of the day, you feel better about yourself if you have worked strong all day.  (Notice I did not say you worked \"hard\").\n\n3. The Gen X folks are more difficult to relate to, in my experience.  Two of my four children are in this generational cohort and I admire both of them for exhibiting the courage to become entrepreneurs, even with kids at home and mortgages to meet.\n\nThanks for another thought-provoking question.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14189, 30103, 'Susan Mazza', 'Susan@susanmazza.com', 'http://randomactsofkeadershio.com', '73.0.251.135', '2016-05-20 11:08:06', '2016-05-20 15:08:06', 'Excellent article David.  Anytime we relate to people based on labels and categories we unwittingly color how we listen and react and perpetuate the generational divide. You offer some great perspective on how to bridge that divide.\n\nI think the key to making the shift from hours worked/staying late as an indication of commitment and productivity requires that we learn and implement practices for accountability - from negotiating clear and specific requests, to asking people to be accountable for results not tasks, and holding people accountable in a way that honors them and elevates the integrity of relationships.\n\nWhat have I learned from my millennial friends?  That it is ok to set boundaries and to know what you want and ask for it from those with whom and for whom you work. I think many of us boomers could benefit greatly from following their lead!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14190, 30103, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2016-05-20 11:12:28', '2016-05-20 15:12:28', 'Mary,\n\nThanks for the recommendation and for the learning - I too have learned that \'dream-audacity\' from millennials in my life :)', 0, '1', '', '', 14186, 307),
(14191, 30103, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2016-05-20 11:14:32', '2016-05-20 15:14:32', 'Hi Lisa,\n\nSo far, in my experience, there isn\'t an easy answer to that question because every workplace is different. There are positions where \'someone in the chair\' is vital and others where that\'s not the case at all. My first recommendation is start with the principles: What does success look like like? What behaviors produce that success? Then add in your compliance issues and start looking at solutions that will satisfy all those criteria. Perhaps other readers can help Lisa?', 0, '1', '', '', 14187, 307),
(14192, 30103, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2016-05-20 11:17:10', '2016-05-20 15:17:10', 'Hi John,\n\nI\'m glad I was able to \'disappoint\' you :)  I\'m not sold on that value either. Whenever I teach these concepts with audiences I share the example of me...teaching a millennial how to do something on their smart phone...that I learned from a 71 year old friend of mine.\n\nLeaders always learn the individual, not the label.\n\nLet\'s hear it for \'working strong\'! (by the way...another trait I have seen exhibited by many millennial folks)\n\nThanks as always for great contributions!', 0, '1', '', '', 14188, 307),
(14193, 30103, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2016-05-20 11:18:32', '2016-05-20 15:18:32', 'Susan - what great lessons learned from those friends! I know I\'ve benefitted in just the ways you describe.\n\nTotally agree with your suggestions re: shifting indications of productivity. I hope Lisa reads this comment too :)\n\nTake care,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 14189, 307),
(14194, 30103, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '24.249.156.71', '2016-05-25 12:34:56', '2016-05-25 16:34:56', 'Every now and then you read something that blows your mind... because it\'s so simple, you kick yourself for not knowing it earlier, so deep it almost seems like one of those \"Matrix Slo-Mo\" moments!... This quote did it for me...\n\n\"When you reward people for their ability to look like they’re working, you undermine your own credibility.\"\n\nThanks for the wake up call...  My millennial son is working with me running my home care agency... I needed this, not just to manage my employee, but to mentor my son.  Thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(14195, 30103, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.232.52.206', '2016-05-25 14:24:14', '2016-05-25 18:24:14', 'You\'re welcome - Glad it was helpful Page!', 0, '1', '', '', 14194, 307),
(14196, 30118, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '166.137.240.66', '2016-05-25 11:42:58', '2016-05-25 15:42:58', 'Sarah, what a great message. Thank you for pointing out this misconception. This is why I don\'t necessarily find \"best place to work\" lists credible. A culture that empowers, engages and inspires employees requires more than perks and programs (not that there\'s anything wrong with perks and programs :)\n\nI was with an organization that talked about, and patted itself on the back for, its superior culture, all the time. In this case, they focused more on values than perks. For me, whatever values or culture you espouse, the #1 key is walking the talk.\n\nIf we are not going to talk the talk, take that attribute or value off the list so no one expects to see it. Claiming a culture that does not exist does more damage than if we are clear and honest about the culture. The worst part was when leaders didn\'t follow the values, but would call employees out on them. Retention numbers told the story in this organization. When I left six others left within 4-5 months. Of course all exits were explained away.\n\nNo matter what - be vigilant and walk the talk. Culture is just as much about everyday interactions than anything. Thanks again Sarah for bringing this up.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14197, 30118, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '24.249.156.71', '2016-05-25 12:25:36', '2016-05-25 16:25:36', '\"What does it mean when someone says, “That company has great culture?” Culture is much more than a list of cool perks. \"...   \"Analogies aside, culture is habitual. This is what sets it apart. Culture is an ingrained philosophy that is emphasized and enforced in company policies and interactions with its staff members.\"\n\nWOW.  JUST WOW.  Great insight Sarah!  Perks are the table settings, the floral centerpiece... Culture is the wood grain in the hand carved oak table and chairs... built with purpose and care, and the thing the holds everything else up!\n\nThanks for sharing!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(14198, 30118, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-30 12:46:38', '2016-05-30 16:46:38', 'Hi, Sarah:)\n\nThis is an excellent post with some very useful points.\n\nI enjoyed your observations about the differences between \"perks\" and organizational culture.\n\nI remember one large organization I worked at for about seven years, collecting logo t-shirts every quarter and lining up an array of logo glassware and coffee mugs.   They were strong in terms of providing visual branding to make us all feel part of the team.\n\nWhere the ball was dropped was in the company policy manual, which revealed a culture of mistrust, over-control, and a deep paranoia about anything not created within the walls.\n\nInterestingly enough, as they piled more t-shirts and coffee mugs on us, they were very consistently reinforcing that negative and restrictive company culture at the same time.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14199, 30120, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-19 11:39:15', '2016-05-19 15:39:15', 'Hi, Margy - excellent post on humble servant leadership:)\n\nYou have shared three powerful eadership strategies here.\n\nI think humble leadership is essential for effective leadership.  If the leader is not humble (and we\'ll know because he or she will either use your strategies or not), they are leading from their ego, which will always eventually fail them as a True North.\n\nLeaders who do not practice humility are more likely to fall into logical fallacies and faulty reasoning, such as believing their survival is key, or that everything depends on what they do.  Neither of these are objectively true, but leaders who believe them will act differently that those who understand their work and calling at that deeper level, which both leads to and suppports authentic behavior.\n\nI absolutely respect humble leaders, because I have experienced personally the fall of a non-humble leader and it is a tragic and painful thing.  If you are truly humble, one of your many strengths is the willingness to ask for help from others and to see their contributions more clearly.   Can\'t imagine working any other way now.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14200, 30120, 'Margy KJ', 'margy@weavinginfluence.com', '', '70.194.19.227', '2016-05-19 12:19:17', '2016-05-19 16:19:17', 'Thank you for sharing your insight, John! That is an excellent point about leaders falling into logical fallacies.  I appreciate your insight into the \"downfall\" process of a leader without humility and am glad to hear that you have a great environment now!\n\nMargy', 0, '1', '', '', 14199, 0);
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(14201, 30130, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-19 11:53:26', '2016-05-19 15:53:26', 'Hi, Chip - excellent post.\n\nI cannot add anything to the points you have covered - very comprehensive:)\n\nI would offer that the message I am getting from this post is two-fold:\n\n1)  Leaders do not operate in some lonely and removed place \"at the top\", but in the middle of many others, most of whom depend on the leader for their livelihood, well-being, and maybe even their lives.\n\n2) The only way the leader can inspire those others to cluster around the flag in the face of turmoil, risk, and danger is to be authentic in their own actions and forge strong connections with those others.\n\nAs you have so nicely pointed out, this is not the \"Lonely Leader\" image sold to us by some.\n\nWhen you wrap this around the idea that everyone has some leadership capability to share, that almost anyone can lead in a certain set of circumstances, and in summation, we are all leaders in some ways ... your wisdom makes perfect sense.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14202, 30130, 'Vatsala Shukla', 'vatsala@karmicallycoaching.com', 'http://karmicallycoaching.com', '14.98.69.231', '2016-05-19 23:54:57', '2016-05-20 03:54:57', 'Enjoyed reading the post, Chip. Leaders who lead with passion and compassion know it is their integrity that creates and retains their followers. When they start thinking like lawyers and forget the human component of true leadership, their army of supporters withdraws.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14203, 30154, 'Jane', 'Jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://InsiteSkill.com', '70.194.1.128', '2016-05-30 07:03:53', '2016-05-30 11:03:53', 'Page,  I love this article. It\'s a sensible and purposeful mix of perspective and excellent advice. Thank you for taking time to write it.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14204, 30154, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-05-30 13:52:34', '2016-05-30 17:52:34', 'Hi, Page:)\n\nThanks for the even-handed and thoughtful observations ... accurate, applicable, and very much needed right now.\n\nHaving run smack dab into \"less than supportive\" workplace policies regarding veterans and military service some time ago, I am heartened by the current attention and hope that we continue to move past the parades and flag-waving, past the patriotic speeches, and strive for meaningful policies and actions toward our fellow citizens who have given so much to our nation.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14205, 30154, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '70.189.113.117', '2016-05-30 14:44:37', '2016-05-30 18:44:37', 'Great post Page. Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14206, 30154, 'N. Jeffrey Trost', 'Jeffreyt1013@yahoo.com', '', '166.182.3.158', '2016-05-30 20:00:54', '2016-05-31 00:00:54', 'Well stated my Friend! Much to consider. I pray that all that read this will consider option for their workplaces.\n\nThank you for your consistent Leadership!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14207, 30154, 'Gerald Wessels', 'Gerald.Wessels@gmail.com', 'http://www.wesselsrealty.com', '50.155.114.40', '2016-05-31 10:03:17', '2016-05-31 14:03:17', 'Well stated Page.  Thanks for \"leading\" in this area!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14208, 30154, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '24.249.156.71', '2016-05-31 13:12:58', '2016-05-31 17:12:58', 'Thank you Jane!  I hope it was encouraging!', 0, '1', '', '', 14203, 282),
(14209, 30154, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '24.249.156.71', '2016-05-31 13:14:42', '2016-05-31 17:14:42', 'It\'s only \"cotton candy patriotism\" if we only clap and wave.  These brave men and women deserve our encouragement, yes, but we need to understand it\'s an \"everyone wins\" scenario when we go the extra mile in hiring and in using their skills in our companies.', 0, '1', '', '', 14204, 282),
(14210, 30154, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '24.249.156.71', '2016-05-31 13:14:53', '2016-05-31 17:14:53', 'Thank you my friend!', 0, '1', '', '', 14205, 282),
(14211, 30154, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '24.249.156.71', '2016-05-31 13:15:38', '2016-05-31 17:15:38', 'Leaders in industry like you understand the benefits to your company when patriotism is woven into the fabric of your culture!  Thanks for being a quality leader!', 0, '1', '', '', 14206, 282),
(14212, 30158, 'Dave Olsen', 'daveo@northstarpayroll.com', 'http://northstarpayroll.com', '76.20.239.25', '2016-05-22 17:46:22', '2016-05-22 21:46:22', 'Shape positions to individuals and their skills.  While each role has certain things which \"have to get done\", most positions can be molded to fit the strengths of the person in it - and the individuals feel appreciated, are happier and perform better', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14213, 30158, 'Karen Alexander', 'Karen.alexander120@gmail.com', '', '70.196.219.75', '2016-06-15 17:31:35', '2016-06-15 21:31:35', 'What a well stated article. I\'m a HR Executive. I worked for the Dusney Company in a leadership rike for a number of years. This is absolutely core to their success. I\'ve found that many other companies struggle to embrace this philosophy.\nWhat a great group. I\'m looking forward to additional conversations!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14214, 30181, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '24.249.156.71', '2016-06-08 13:51:04', '2016-06-08 17:51:04', '\"A mature leader plans for and also knows when it is time to hand the reins over to someone else who has earned it. \"\n\nMic Drop...\n\nThanks for the challenge today!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(14215, 30181, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '166.137.244.46', '2016-06-08 13:55:11', '2016-06-08 17:55:11', 'Page Cole, love the \"mic drop.\" Thanks for commenting :)', 0, '1', '', '', 14214, 252),
(14216, 30181, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '96.93.20.6', '2016-06-08 17:37:13', '2016-06-08 21:37:13', 'Page, the other funny thing is that I considered leaving that sentence out. M', 0, '1', '', '', 14214, 252),
(14217, 30181, 'Vatsala Shukla', 'vatsala.shukla.delhi@gmail.com', 'http://karmicallycoaching.com', '14.98.140.59', '2016-06-09 22:52:06', '2016-06-10 02:52:06', 'I\'ve had the pleasure of having worked with some real leaders, the mature ones who took their teams to new heights while keeping an eye on the company bottom line, ROI and all the wonderful things that we had to report to shareholders. They were the true mature adult leaders, Mary.\n\nSadly nowadays I notice that the bosses aren\'t necessarily leaders with many of them stuck in  the stage where self-leadership learning stage. When organizations promote professionals  who are competent in their work but haven\'t received the right training as leaders, a lot starts to go wrong including the tendency of co-workers to start behaving like sheep looking to the sheep dog for directions while the sheep dog is figuring it out.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14218, 30181, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-06-10 09:14:30', '2016-06-10 13:14:30', 'Thank you for commenting, Vatsala. I\'m see the same things.\n\nWhen you were describing leaders stuck in the self-leadership stage, it reminded me of this post. Some haven\'t earned the \"title\" at all, let alone demonstrate character-based leadership. http://leadchangegroup.com/how-did-that-person-get-to-be-a-leader/\n\nThank you again, Mary', 0, '1', '', '', 14217, 252),
(14219, 30181, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-06-10 20:41:21', '2016-06-11 00:41:21', 'Hi, Mary:)\n\nInteresting New Word of the Week:  \"Adulting\"\n\nWhile I have a slight aversion to putting \"...ing\" on the end of perfectly good nouns, I could not agree more that our society needs much more mature leadership, as you describe it.\n\nWe tend to get what we reward, so maybe we need to look at what types of leadership behavior are reinforced, especially with extrinsic means.   Your section on \"What Mature Leaders Don\'t Do\" is a great start to this discussion.  As we consider your examples, we honestly have to admit (at least in my experience) that some organizations do not desire or encourage these types of behaviors in their leaders, assuming that it distracts from the real reason for business - to make those at the top richer.\n\nPardon the cynicism dripping slowly from the corner of my mouth.    I sincerely hope that your perception of what needs to happen in leadership falls upon fertile ground.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14220, 30181, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '73.13.204.222', '2016-06-11 12:23:10', '2016-06-11 16:23:10', 'Thanks for commenting, John. I get what you are saying. It is difficult to imagine truly mature leaders being part of the collective work culture, in the U.S.A. at least. As you well know, I\'m not going to stop banging the gong. My Best, Mary', 0, '1', '', '', 14219, 252),
(14221, 30181, 'Pete Brookshaw', 'peter.brookshaw@aus.salvationarmy.org', 'http://www.petebrookshaw.com', '101.181.167.43', '2016-07-06 23:58:10', '2016-07-07 03:58:10', 'Thanks Mary for this article. Making the transition from each of these parts of the process is difficult. One can learn to be comfortable in themselves as a leader, and then there is a need to make the transition to leading groups. I\'m currently in the process of learning to lead groups well and consequently leading in a larger organisational setting.\n\nGood times ahead!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14222, 30181, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-07-07 15:16:48', '2016-07-07 19:16:48', 'Thanks so much for your comments, Pete. Best of luck in your journey. Hope we keep hearing from you.', 0, '1', '', '', 14221, 252),
(14223, 30217, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2016-05-31 08:17:07', '2016-05-31 12:17:07', 'John, you\'re on to something here. I would like to answer your question: What are your honest reactions to these three elements about interacting with the whole person?\n\nThis statement is a good summary of when it\'s a sure bet that motivation fails.   \"where we are always concerned with what we receive for what we give\" I don\'t think there is anything more demotivating than \'selfishness\'. Self is stuck on one.\n\nIt\'s interesting that less than an hour ago I was reading the ultimate religious book, the Bible and read 1 John 4 about what is behind a person\'s behavior.  Religion aside though, no matter where someone stands in their beliefs, people are motivated when they recognize how their gifts and talents can make a difference.\n\nHere\'s where the whole person comes in.  I\'m neither psychology major, religious scholar, C-suite, or zero level manager. I just believe people are motivated in some way to do good, to do bad, to  do nothing. When they see more value in an act, desire different results, are weary of current circumstances, or don\'t like their consequences - they will be motivated.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14224, 30217, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '73.13.204.222', '2016-05-31 14:17:11', '2016-05-31 18:17:11', 'John, so glad you brought this up! I\'m an HR pro and I\'m not swooning.\n\nI don\'t necessarily know that we need to use the word \"spiritual\" in talking about the whole human at work, though I totally get what you are saying. And something that just occurred to me... we have no verification that human beings in the workforce consider their spirituality (or lack of) as something that has to be addressed or acknowledged.\n\nSeveral years ago when I was playing around with the thought of writing a book, I was using the words sacred and reverence a lot. My coach challenged, asking if my materials were only for people who were spiritual or religious. She broke open an assumption for me, thankfully. Given my own personal perspective (i.e. spiritual) she prompted some deep thinking. What I came to is that no matter what a person\'s beliefs: religious, spiritual, atheist, agnostic or any other interpretation - none of this gets in the way of morality and believing in the value of life and how it is expressed through another human being, through work for instance.\n\nThough my personal mission is bringing more humanity to the workplace, I can speak to my clients in their language. For some what speaks to them is that it is proven that treating people like human beings is good for business. Over time we can get to the reverence part.\n\nWow, what a thought-provoking post, John! Thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14225, 30217, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-06-01 10:09:23', '2016-06-01 14:09:23', 'Hi, Jane - thanks for responding.\n\nYes, the desire to give of oneself and help others is strong in most people - that yen to make a difference is definitely my primary motivation.\n\nI think your reasons why someone might be motivated to act are very comprehensive.  We used a version of this in my therapist days to get a deeper understanding of when that balance shifts to action ... what one person considers unacceptable consequences, another person might take without reaction.\n\nAlways appreciate your thoughtful contributions:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 14223, 0),
(14226, 30217, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-06-01 10:19:40', '2016-06-01 14:19:40', 'Hi, Mary - nice comments ... and I am personally happy that you are not swooning:)\n\nYes, morality is a universal facet of human behavior and we all live somewhere on the continuum of moral behavior every day.   While a few folks probably connect morality with religious beliefs or spirituality, it is neither.\n\nLet\'s set aside religion, especially organized religion, for a bit.\n\nSpirituality is an awareness of both self and of the larger universe in which one lives, at least to my thinking.   I do believe that everyone has some sense of spirituality, which may or may not be well developed depending on their unique experiences.\n\nI know people appreciate being recognized as individuals at work and everywhere else, for that matter.   I wonder if this is related to spirituality in a secular sense?\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14227, 30217, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-06-01 10:34:40', '2016-06-01 14:34:40', 'Hi John. I love our \"spirited\" exchanges :)\n\nI\'m going to take our discussion offline because I\'m wanting to stray from the topic and it doesn\'t necessarily belong here. I will private message you on LinkedIn.\n\nMy Best,\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 14226, 252),
(14228, 30217, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '24.249.156.71', '2016-06-01 11:51:20', '2016-06-01 15:51:20', '\"Then, seek to see employees in their wholeness\"...\n\nBEST ADVICE OF THE WEEK!  Understanding that our team members are complex human beings, with mental, emotional, spiritual and physical aspects that weave together to make this amazing and unique person... it\'s critical... it\'s right... it\'s the human thing for us to do as leaders!  Well done sir!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(14229, 30217, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-06-01 14:13:52', '2016-06-01 18:13:52', 'Thanks, Page - since I consider you one of the \"holistic\" folks here, this is welcome praise:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 14228, 0),
(14230, 30243, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '24.249.156.71', '2016-06-01 11:53:31', '2016-06-01 15:53:31', '\"Coaching people while maintaining their dignity gets you better results than telling or yelling. \"\n\nI\'ve always seen that when you back people into a corner, they only have one way out... and it\'s not pretty.  When we address issues or challenges honestly, fairly and with a gracious and productive way out, people tend to respond with gratefulness and better performance.\n\nThanks for the reminder, and it\'s great to get to know a little more about you!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(14231, 30243, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-06-01 14:19:59', '2016-06-01 18:19:59', 'Hi, Mary:)\n\nI suspect that if you spent your time doing the things you listed above (“write, speak, teach, coach, read and travel\" ), that money would indeed be no object, because my experience is that when you share, we all need to be paying rapt attention.\n\nLoved learning a bit more about you through this post.  I think one of the primary strengths of the Lead Change Group is our willingness to share not just knowledge, but ourselves.\n\nBy the way, you are an exemplary example of \"Farm Strong\" and a model for the rest of us sod-busters gone city:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14232, 30243, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '71.203.97.10', '2016-06-01 22:20:15', '2016-06-02 02:20:15', 'Thanks for sharing in this celebration of Mary!', 0, '1', '', '', 14230, 0),
(14233, 30243, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '71.203.97.10', '2016-06-01 22:20:53', '2016-06-02 02:20:53', 'Great comment, John! I think farms probably bring out some really fascinating aspects of everyone who has worked at them!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14234, 30261, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-06-07 08:26:44', '2016-06-07 12:26:44', 'Hi, Kimunya - excellent post with three strong points about leadership.\n\nYou are definitely onto something important with your emphasis on understanding the expectations inherent in work.\n\nI participated in a webinar earlier today where this was discussed from a team perspective.  The webinar leader noted the importance of understanding the expectations of the leader for the team, of the team for the leader, and of those outside the team for the team.\n\nThis multi-dimensional view of expectations was quite helpful and fits nicely with your post.\n\nI also enjoyed your opening story ... you put quite an image in my mind of both the interviewee and yourself in that situation:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14235, 30261, 'Kimunya Mugo', 'kimunya@gmail.com', 'http://www.leadbychoice.co', '197.232.15.89', '2016-06-08 04:13:49', '2016-06-08 08:13:49', 'Hi John! Great to hear from you, and thank you for your wonderful comment. This is a topic I want to dig deeper into. Your thoughts are giving wings to something I am toying with. It may end up as a longer piece, perhaps even a book :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14236, 30280, 'Karin Hurt', 'letsgrowleaders@gmail.com', 'http://winningwellbook.com', '100.15.161.64', '2016-06-09 07:55:00', '2016-06-09 11:55:00', 'Mike, Thanks so very much for your wonderful review! It means so much.\n\nWe know we are among kindred spirits here at Lead Change, and Mike are so grateful for you for starting this community.\n\nIf anyone is interested in downloading the first few chapters of the book for FREE or to take our FREE self-assessment they can do it at http://winningwellbook.com', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14237, 30280, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2016-06-09 10:21:38', '2016-06-09 14:21:38', 'Mike,\n\nWhat Karin said! Wow - what a fantastic review. Thank you.\n\nLet\'s keep that leadership revolution going!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 307),
(14238, 30280, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.114', '2016-06-10 08:46:38', '2016-06-10 12:46:38', 'Thanks to both of you for the book and for collaborating on it. I appreciate the story around the book too. It explains how standing for our beliefs, while being willing to collaborate to reach an objective, makes us stronger and advances the cause. I\'m grateful for how you use your influence to make the world better. Thanks.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(14239, 30280, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '24.249.156.71', '2016-06-10 12:22:05', '2016-06-10 16:22:05', 'Thanks for the great review!  Just purchased it for my Kindle, and have it on my short list of \"read this next!\"  Thanks for the great resource David and Karin!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(14240, 30280, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-06-10 20:48:55', '2016-06-11 00:48:55', 'Hi, Mike:)\n\nThanks for the clear review of what appears to be a great book - looking forward to reading it.\n\nI was happy to see your comment that \"Only win-win situations create energy for growth and success\".  With the emphasis on competition and winning at all costs that pervades at least part of our society, this powerful message cannot be over-emphasized.\n\nIt\'s not what most of us were raised to believe, but it is definitely what my experience tells me is true.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14241, 30280, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '70.189.113.117', '2016-06-12 15:28:38', '2016-06-12 19:28:38', 'John, thanks for the comment. My brain connected the book to the idea of win-win situations, and I believe the authors make that point as well. In a real \"win,\" everyone wins. Anything else isn\'t a \"win\" at all.\n\nThanks again for being part of the group and for offering the consistent comments. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 14240, 0),
(14242, 30294, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '73.13.204.222', '2016-06-10 13:21:56', '2016-06-10 17:21:56', 'Well done, Jane. My heart and tummy were warm the whole time. Favorite line: \"Our brains are powerful, and our hearts large.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14243, 30294, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-06-13 07:29:02', '2016-06-13 11:29:02', 'Big smiles and thanks, Mary -- so glad your head and tummy were both warm!', 0, '1', '', '', 14242, 251),
(14244, 29770, 'Sundeep Dhawan', 'sundeepdhawan1@gmail.com', 'http://www.sundeepdhawan.com.gh/', '27.106.8.86', '2016-08-09 06:33:14', '2016-08-09 10:33:14', 'Thanks for sharing this stuff with us!\nIt Helps me a lot!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14245, 30003, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '73.13.204.222', '2016-06-27 11:28:52', '2016-06-27 15:28:52', 'Great post today, Alan. I love your creativity and your message. Mary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14246, 30201, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-06-20 13:24:18', '2016-06-20 17:24:18', 'Hi Michele. I\'m a big fan of the advice, \"Take a PAUSE.\" It\'s an excellent idea in so many situations. Welcome to the Lead Change Group blog!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14247, 30201, 'Michele Gooch', 'michele@lifebydesign.guru', 'http://www.lifebydesign.guru', '107.216.7.89', '2016-06-23 11:36:46', '2016-06-23 15:36:46', 'So true Mary! Thanks for the Welcome.', 0, '1', '', '', 14246, 0),
(14248, 30211, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.114', '2016-06-30 09:59:02', '2016-06-30 13:59:02', 'Chris, thanks for a great post. Years ago, I heard another USAF instructor talk about the importance of a shared mental model and I\'ve never forgotten it. To me, a shared mental model is a key to team achievement. The degree to which each member understands their role and can perform it, the greater the chance of high achievement.\n\nI\'m challenged. This is a great start to my day! Thanks again.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14249, 30211, 'Chris R Stricklin', 'chris.stricklin@live.com', 'http://www.afterburner.com', '98.238.151.107', '2016-06-30 11:07:09', '2016-06-30 15:07:09', 'Mike,\n\nThanks for engaging. Military members have the ultimate shared mental model and the concept directly transfers to the business world.\n\nChris', 0, '1', '', '', 14248, 0),
(14250, 30215, 'JCM Coach', 'scott@jcmcoach.com', 'http://jcmcoach.com', '120.20.24.8', '2016-07-04 18:58:19', '2016-07-04 22:58:19', 'Great article. Exactly how we are approaching developing future leaders in universities and high schools here.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14251, 30351, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-06-17 11:37:49', '2016-06-17 15:37:49', 'What a great topic and great story Chip, to help us think about realness vs. roleness. It\'s so important to look at the potential downside of typically benign concepts. My pet peeve is thinking about work cultures as \"like family.\" Thanks for a great Friday post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14252, 30375, 'dipesh', 'dipesha007@gmail.com', '', '106.206.149.60', '2016-06-21 22:46:33', '2016-06-22 02:46:33', 'So true... Self isolation is most deadly and the squirrel behavior seems so right when u r in fear state...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14253, 30375, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.198.223.195', '2016-06-24 15:31:23', '2016-06-24 19:31:23', 'Dipesh, that\'s a great observation - retreat and reactivity DO make sense and seem right when we\'re scared. Regaining our perspective is leadership job #1.\n\nThanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 14252, 307),
(14254, 30393, 'Vatsala Shukla', 'vatsala.shukla.delhi@gmail.com', 'http://karmicallycoaching.com', '121.245.129.76', '2016-07-04 02:46:10', '2016-07-04 06:46:10', 'I read your post with interest,  Hollis, and it connected a dot for me. Whenever I\'ve felt I\'m losing my mojo, I have stepped away and spent time in contemplation, far from the Madding Crowd or done something non-work related. That does energize me. And yes, there has been an element of reinvention once the hermit time has passed - always for the better.\n\nThanks for an inspiring post.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14255, 30393, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.221.24', '2016-07-12 13:50:01', '2016-07-12 17:50:01', 'Thank you for this feedback, Vatsala. It\'s very validating to me. :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 14254, 0),
(14256, 30403, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-06-28 11:34:48', '2016-06-28 15:34:48', 'John, I love this story. I love that you shared this story. I think it is so important for people to see different ways of making decisions - and that they can exist in the same person!\n\nI like to think things through, do research, weigh options and prepare. I can also make what some would consider a heavy decision in a moment. It throws my friends a curve sometimes. What they don\'t realize it that the decision fits perfectly with something I have been thinking about for a long time (and may not have verbalized) OR IT JUST FEELS RIGHT. I count on my body a lot. It tells me whether I need to pause or act.\n\nJohn, this is such an excellent post, giving us so much to consider about the nature of managing change.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14257, 30403, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-06-28 22:11:06', '2016-06-29 02:11:06', 'Hi, Mary:)\n\nThanks, as always, for your thoughtful and considered words.\n\nI completely agree that our rational and spontaneous decisions are closer aligned than we sometimes think.   I have been thinking about selling as a human function for a long time and have evolved from the position of \"I would never sell things for a living\" to \"I might sell something, but only on my own terms\", through to \"We all sell and what we sell is ourselves.\"\n\nAre you familiar with Dan Pink book \"To Sell Is Human\"?   I\'m just now reading it and it makes very good sense, especially in light of my recent shift.\n\nOn another note, I have been buoyed by the reality that the realty group we have both joined aspires to be a center of excellence and their training includes references to folks like Stephen Covey and others who I did not expect to encounter here in a business where the goal is to help people spend money.\n\nMaybe this is not as big a jump as I thought it would be:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14258, 30403, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-06-30 17:11:56', '2016-06-30 21:11:56', 'Good luck on your new endeavor, John! I put myself through college selling real estate!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(14259, 30403, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-06-30 23:19:06', '2016-07-01 03:19:06', 'Thanks, Jane:)\n\nWow ... and I\'m just trying to pay the bills with it.   How did you move from real estate to where you are now?\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 14258, 0),
(14260, 30403, 'steve layman', 'slayman@andersonlayman.com', '', '151.213.75.214', '2016-07-01 10:47:10', '2016-07-01 14:47:10', 'John,\n     Welcome aboard!    Thanks to your decision, our industry just got stronger and better!\n     Steve', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14261, 30403, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-07-01 12:58:14', '2016-07-01 16:58:14', 'Yes, I actually saw Daniel Pink talk about \"To Sell is Human.\" I need to dig into that book again.\n\nI am so glad to hear about your evolution around selling, and that the realty organization you are with sounds like they have a great foundation.\n\nThank you for sharing your stories and growth with us.', 0, '1', '', '', 14257, 252),
(14262, 30403, 'John E. Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-07-02 08:56:00', '2016-07-02 12:56:00', 'Thanks, Steve:)\n\nGlad to have an additional point of common focus.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 14260, 376),
(14263, 30444, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-07-05 10:38:00', '2016-07-05 14:38:00', 'I love this post, Chris. No matter what the team is trying to accomplish, the success will be less likely (and/or less sweet) if this isn\'t in place: team values and behaviors.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14264, 30444, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '75.166.208.124', '2016-07-05 10:45:47', '2016-07-05 14:45:47', 'Thank you, Mary, for your kind comments! Values and behaviors define HOW team members should treat each other and customers. That indeed boosts sweet success. :)\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 14263, 372),
(14265, 30483, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '24.243.62.89', '2016-07-05 13:31:19', '2016-07-05 17:31:19', 'JoAnn,\n\nThank you for this great post. Your concept of results-based leadership certainly resonates with me. As I read, \"leaders exist to get desired, needed outcomes, not just to be present or busy\" images of leaders described by the latter danced in my head.\n\nMy definition of a leader involves inspiring people to get from here to there, where \"there\" is very different and much better than \"here.\"  I think this lines up well with the idea of getting results.\n\nYour 7 part framework for getting results packs a punch and is easy to understand. I look forward to sharing it with others.\n\nThank you for your contribution today.\nAlan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 323),
(14266, 30483, 'JoAnn Corley', 'joann@thehumansphere.com', 'http://www.thehumansphere.com', '45.23.164.186', '2016-07-06 08:11:13', '2016-07-06 12:11:13', 'Thanks Alan! The framework has been practically crafted over the past year via many leadership/peer coaching groups. Feel free to share your experience with the framework. My hope is many leaders will use it to reduce stress, while increasing competence, confidence, and satisfaction in the work they do!', 0, '1', '', '', 14265, 0),
(14267, 30483, 'Alan Allard', 'alan@alanallard.com', 'http://www.alanallard.com', '24.197.153.180', '2016-07-06 10:40:58', '2016-07-06 14:40:58', 'JoAnn,\n\nYour seven parts results-based leadership framework is fantastic--any leader could use it as a model and checklist to increase their effectiveness. Great post--so much said, so few words.\n\nYou are so right here: \"Now, the style in which these elements are executed matter...\" and I love your philosophy as stated here:\" She has the crazy belief that we can create our best leaders and businesses from the best of our human selves.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14268, 30483, 'JoAnn Corley', 'joann@thehumansphere.com', 'http://www.thehumansphere.com', '45.23.164.186', '2016-07-12 12:41:27', '2016-07-12 16:41:27', 'Thanks Alan!', 0, '1', '', '', 14267, 0),
(14269, 29951, 'Stephanie', 's.a.schoh@gmail.com', '', '207.138.208.130', '2016-07-14 10:00:48', '2016-07-14 14:00:48', 'Great article! Can\'t wait to share the information with my leadership team at this weeks training. It\'s always good to know that someone else is thinking with the same kind of big picture thoughts as I am.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14270, 29951, 'Robert Chew', 'yewhockchew@hotmail.com', '', '1.47.10.183', '2016-07-14 11:44:27', '2016-07-14 15:44:27', 'What a great letter! Thank you for composing and sharing it.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14271, 29951, 'Margy Kerr-Jarrett', 'margy@weavinginfluence.com', '', '185.120.126.18', '2016-07-15 00:21:28', '2016-07-15 04:21:28', 'I loved this letter, Alan! I  think sometimes its hard to express ourselves and our appreciation to our leaders --this really outlines the process by which a leader can help encourage someone to grow in a supportive and caring environment!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 378),
(14272, 29951, 'Cindy', 'jonesy2041@gmail.com', '', '216.21.167.118', '2016-07-15 11:49:10', '2016-07-15 15:49:10', 'To the best two managers I can recall, I would say to the first : Thanks for giving me perspective and encouragement. When I had been there a very short time and had found a mistake in a file (which I may have made or it may have been someone else\'s... I don\'t remember) she said, \"well, one thing you\'ll find out after being in this business a while is that nothing that is messed up can\'t be corrected, until a check is mailed. So, since you caught this one very early, it will just take a few minutes to figure out and fix. Don\'t worry about it.\"\n\nTo the other, I would say, \"thanks for \'having my back.\' You always stood up for the people who reported to you, even when there was a risk for you in doing it. I\'ll never forget that. \" When I started that job, a family member was critically ill and I had told the boss that I might need to take unpaid leave if/when she got worse. He remarked,  \"We\'ll cross that bridge later.\" When the time came, I had scraped together enough vacation time to take time off to care for her and requested the vacation time to do it. His response was \"No, I don\'t think so. That\'s not vacation time. That\'s family leave.\" I protested that I hadn\'t worked there long enough to accrue sufficient leave time, but he said, \"Let me work that out. I\'ll deal with HR and get it set up. Vacation is for R&amp;R, not something as stressful as this. You get out of here and take care of your family. This is just work... not nearly as important.\" From that day on, if anybody said anything negative about him in my presence, they heard from me!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14273, 29951, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '167.124.124.21', '2016-07-15 16:55:11', '2016-07-15 20:55:11', 'Thank you, Stephanie. I\'m so glad this connected with you and that our ideas are in sync!  Good luck with your training.\n\n- Alan', 0, '1', '', '', 14269, 323),
(14274, 29951, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '167.124.124.21', '2016-07-15 16:55:31', '2016-07-15 20:55:31', 'Robert, thank you for your kind words.\n\n- Alan', 0, '1', '', '', 14270, 323),
(14275, 29951, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '167.124.124.21', '2016-07-15 16:59:10', '2016-07-15 20:59:10', 'Margy, how nice to hear from you. I really enjoyed writing this letter. It was a nice way to give thanks and also vent a little about that little hallway experience that I never forgot.  It really left an impression, as you can see. :)', 0, '1', '', '', 14271, 323),
(14276, 29951, 'Kelly', 'Kelly.jensen@westcare.com', '', '202.47.159.6', '2016-07-15 20:08:36', '2016-07-16 00:08:36', 'What a beautiful letter. A reminder that the little things add up to make an exponential difference in the lives of employees overall job satisfaction- which filters into their personal lives as well.\n\nI wish I had a supervisor such as yours right now, however, I am reminded that there is always something to learn, even from what we might perceive, as the worst boss ever. In the mean time - I will continue to ensure my new staff all have the best stocked office space - with that brand new coffee mug and hydroflask!\n\nThanks again  for sharing such a beautiful letter. I would love to hear how your boss responded. I am inspired to write a letter to a former supervisor and thank them, even though it is after the fact!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14277, 29951, 'Patricia', 'faranot@dierbergs.com', '', '205.151.113.32', '2016-07-18 17:21:17', '2016-07-18 21:21:17', 'The best manager I ever worked with made it clear to me early on that we worked together, not that I worked FOR her, although she was my boss.  She didn\'t try to be my best friend, but she did make sure I knew we were a team.   She continued to shoulder large parts of my newly created position until I could get my feet wet and understand all the parts of my new role.  Over a period of time, she doled out my responsibilities so that I was doing all of my job and she was overseeing my work on an as needed basis.  No question I asked was ever considered stupid. All questions were assumed to be asked from 1) lack of experience in the task and 2) a desire to get it right.  When I moved into supervision, I hope I did the same for my new hires.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14278, 29951, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '167.124.124.21', '2016-07-20 12:21:28', '2016-07-20 16:21:28', 'Cindy, thank you for sharing.  What wonderful leaders you\'ve had! You can\'t buy that kind of loyalty.\n\n - Alan', 0, '1', '', '', 14272, 323),
(14279, 29951, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '167.124.124.21', '2016-07-20 12:24:58', '2016-07-20 16:24:58', 'Kelly,\n\nI hope you DO write that letter.  I can promise that\'ll make their day, maybe even their year.\n\nAs for your current struggles - been there.  Some of my best lessons were learned while under the leadership of a \"bad boss.\" And, it was always temporary.\n\n - Alan', 0, '1', '', '', 14276, 323),
(14280, 29951, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '167.124.124.21', '2016-07-20 12:29:10', '2016-07-20 16:29:10', 'Patricia,\n\nThat\'s certainly a servant leader, in my eyes. I love that notion - that we together, instead of FOR someone.\n\nI think it is important that we see questions as opportunities.  Too often, though, I see a question seen as an attack or as a weakness.  That doesn\'t have to be the case, and it seems your leader understood that.\n\nThank you for sharing!\nAlan', 0, '1', '', '', 14277, 323),
(14281, 29951, 'Peter Jeff', 'peterjeff@charter.net', 'http://leadershipmints.com', '24.247.110.158', '2016-08-01 13:24:37', '2016-08-01 17:24:37', 'Alan, your letter is so inspiring that I would like your permission to include it in a book I am publishing on Amazon.com  August 12 that celebrates servant leadership. The book is titled LOVING Like a Leader. If this is okay with you, please send me an e-mail and let me know how I should identify you. The headline on your two-page spread in the book will say simply: A Letter to a Loving Leader. And of course I will send you a copy of the 272-page book filled with 77 short stories on loving leaders that I call Leadership Mints (like the candy easily accessed and quickly refreshing). Send your e-mail to PeterJeff@charter.net.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14282, 29951, 'Girly', 'mcjohnnoblezada@yahoo.com', '', '122.53.112.234', '2016-10-13 17:14:08', '2016-10-13 21:14:08', 'Thank you for sharing your letter with us, Alan. I\'m now ready to make one for my supervisor.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14283, 30100, 'Gwen', 'Angeliknow@comcast.net', '', '73.53.228.23', '2016-08-09 21:36:45', '2016-08-10 01:36:45', 'Really needed this! Came back from vacation in June to learn that my job and entire department of 13 years was being dissolved.  Feeling motivated to improve me through the change!! Thanks Eileen!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14284, 30100, 'Eileen McDargh', 'Eileen@eileenmcdargh.com', 'http://www.eileenmcdargh.com', '68.4.141.57', '2016-08-10 16:09:45', '2016-08-10 20:09:45', 'Thanks, Gwen. Remember--when one door closes, another one opens. Keep your eyes wide!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 418),
(14285, 30138, 'Susan Mazza', 'Susan@susanmazza.com', 'http://randomactsofkeadershio.com', '73.0.251.135', '2016-07-26 09:14:23', '2016-07-26 13:14:23', 'Excellent advice Mark!  Admittedly struggling with the no email on the phone suggestion though.  That\'s where I handle most of my email because I can lay down and give my back a break while being productive (back injury requires frequent breaks and some days this is the only way I can keep up!). For me the key has been redirecting emails away from my inbox using filters.  That eliminates a ton of distractions!  the key for me is to set aside time for email rather than let persistent checking of email run my day.  Sometimes it is very hard to fight that urge to check far more than it is productive or necessary.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14286, 30138, 'Mark Ellis', 'mark@businessfiction.co.uk', 'http://www.businessfiction.co.uk', '86.149.1.139', '2016-07-27 01:38:54', '2016-07-27 05:38:54', 'Thanks, Susan. The key with email is to leave it on a device that you designate as your \'email machine\' and if that\'s your phone for the reasons you note above - perfect! Certainly, if you\'re employing filters to keep it tightly organised and unobtrusive, you\'re effectively removing it from view anyway :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 409),
(14287, 30231, 'Marcy Fox', 'msmarcyfox@gmail.com', 'http://www.marcyfox.com', '64.150.130.202', '2016-07-22 09:01:15', '2016-07-22 13:01:15', 'When I first became a leader 3 years ago (age 30 now) I probably went through many of these mistakes. My biggest challenge was trying to please all my employees only to realize that wasn\'t going to happen. Each of their personalities were so unique and there was no one size fits all in this union environment. But I also had to learn how to delegate because I always thought it was easier if I just did it myself, and by delegating I was able to get my team more involved in the business decisions and increase overall morale in our workgroup. Being a new leader can be tough, but it\'s through all these trials that we learn so much.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14288, 30231, 'Marcy Fox', 'marcy.foxx@gmail.com', 'http://www.marcyfox.com', '64.150.130.202', '2016-07-24 22:29:55', '2016-07-25 02:29:55', 'Setting clear expectations is such an important part of being a manager. If you don\'t set clear expectations with your employees, you cannot expect them to achieve your objectives. And to set clear expectations, you also must make sure your expectations are clear to yourself before communicating them to others. Great post, thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14289, 30328, 'Anthony DoMoe', 'anthony@anthonydomoe.com', 'http://www.anthonydomoe.com', '134.197.0.20', '2016-07-14 20:17:26', '2016-07-15 00:17:26', 'I appreciate the way you tied transparency to authenticity.  Some of the best trust-building experiences I\'ve experienced involved cases where either the other party or I didn\'t know the answer to a question or problem.  Rather than \"faking it\" or distracting the other person, I\'ve found that transparency in admitting you aren\'t \"all knowing\" tends to build trust in the relationship.  By presenting yourself authentically and allowing your weaknesses to show a better (and more productive) relationship can be built.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14290, 30328, 'Aad Boot', 'Aad.boot@gmail.com', 'http://Www.leadershipwatch-aadboot.com', '81.247.164.164', '2016-07-18 17:01:55', '2016-07-18 21:01:55', 'Thanks, Anthony. Glad you enjoyed it.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14291, 30472, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-07-10 07:46:08', '2016-07-10 11:46:08', 'Hi, Mary:)\n\nWhat a great essay on how messy this dealing with people stuff can be.   We read, we study, we plan, we do all the right things ... and things just don\'t work the way we think or hope they should.\n\nI admire your consistent willingness to look at your own behavior and analyze it, which benefits both you and all the rest of us.   That \"save the world\" idealism runs through most professionals I know, regardless of their field ... we all want to make the world run better for everyone.\n\nDon\'t give up your idealism.  When you help us look at ourselves honestly and consider our past actions in order to make our future actions more effective, you are indeed changing the world, one person at a time:)\n\nBy the way, crying is a sign that you need to step out for a while and regroup.  You did exactly what you needed to do in that situation - good on ya, as my cousins would say:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14292, 30472, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-07-10 15:36:03', '2016-07-10 19:36:03', 'Thank you, John. I always look forward to your comments.\n\nThis one was tough for me to share. Nearly as tough as the story of the time I made an employee cry sorta on purpose.\n\nI like what you say both about willingness to look at our own behavior AND idealism. I feel both have served me to be even more level-headed and effective in seemingly inconceivable situations. The  more we know about ourselves, the less our baggage and incredulity will get in the way.\n\nI\'m okay with the crying at work. In this case it was full of so many conflicting and embarrassing feelings in the moment, but in general I\'m okay with it. I would love to destigmatize crying at work. That\'s altogether another discussion :)\n\nThx again. Thank you for helping me feel okay, again, with being transparent about my missteps.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14293, 30730, 'Sean Glaze', 'Sean@greatresultsteambuilding.com', 'http://www.GreatResultsTeambuilding.net', '107.77.104.114', '2016-07-20 08:54:42', '2016-07-20 12:54:42', 'Terrific article, Chip! Made me think of my friend Dan Thurmon - a tremendous speaker who uses the metaphor of juggling to demonstrate some powerful content.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14294, 30730, 'Sophie Sanders', 'Sophie@executivespeakers.com', 'http://executivespeakersbureau.com/', '73.203.203.44', '2016-07-20 15:53:26', '2016-07-20 19:53:26', 'This is such a great article, Chip! The metaphors are so true and very relatable. It takes an entire team to create the dream outcome.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14295, 30730, 'Chip Bell', 'chip@chipbell.com', 'http://www.chipbell.com', '64.191.50.217', '2016-07-21 05:26:27', '2016-07-21 09:26:27', 'Thanks, Sean.  I am delighted you enjoyed it!  Hope you are doing well.  Chip', 0, '1', '', '', 14293, 0),
(14296, 30730, 'Chip Bell', 'chip@chipbell.com', 'http://www.chipbell.com', '64.191.50.217', '2016-07-21 05:27:45', '2016-07-21 09:27:45', 'Hi Sophie. Thanks for your note.  Glad you enjoyed the post.  You are so right--it does take a whole team.  Chip', 0, '1', '', '', 14294, 0),
(14297, 30737, 'Sean Glaze', 'sean@greatresultsteambuilding.com', 'http://www.greatresultsteambuilding.net', '168.9.35.22', '2016-07-22 11:01:11', '2016-07-22 15:01:11', 'Marcel -\nThanks so much for a terrific article - and powerful reminder that collaboration trumps command and control leadership.  Empowering people to become engaged \"owners\" is far more productive that encouraging them to be disengaged employees who are merely compliant!  And I think you are right that EGO is the main reason that leaders continue to operate in this way... but EGO Eliminates Growth Opportunities ; )', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
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(14298, 30737, 'Marcel Schwantes', 'mschwantes@yahoo.com', 'http://www.leadershipfromthecore.com', '99.127.158.96', '2016-07-22 17:56:20', '2016-07-22 21:56:20', 'Sean, thank for your comment. I think it\'s important to distinguish between a healthy, self-confident, ego that all leaders should have to keep pushing the mission forward, versus an unhealthy narcissistic, ego (hubristic pride, in the literature. See this post for reference: http://www.inc.com/marcel-schwantes/want-more-success-and-happiness-no-joke-science-says-avoid-pride.html), which limits a leader\'s capacity to relate and influence. Thanks again. :)', 0, '1', '', '', 14297, 412),
(14299, 30761, 'Ash Pal', 'Ash.Pal@BloodyIT.com', 'http://www.BloodyIT.com', '2.120.243.83', '2016-08-02 03:46:53', '2016-08-02 07:46:53', 'This is absolutely correct, and I\'d extend the advice to any leader. The leaders who feel comfortable probably should not be and need a strong poke in the eye. The leaders who feel uncomfortable will learn a lot (and perform better) by understanding their fears, their \"go to\" behaviours--good and bad, and how these affect their teams and performance. I benefited from this as a senior leader and I see leaders increasingly receptive to deep discussions on EI, resilience, communications, mindset and beliefs. Which is all nothing but positive.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14300, 30761, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.215.169', '2016-09-07 11:45:05', '2016-09-07 15:45:05', 'Well said, Ash! I think it would also help if society diminished stigmas around getting good counsel when it\'s for the mind (as opposed to for legal, which seems to be perfectly OK -- hmm, why is that? Isn\'t as much at stake when it comes to leading a large company?) and acknowledging that no single person has all the answers (again, it\'s perfectly OK to have advisory boards and corporate boards, but not aids for doubts or self-limiting beliefs). IMHO, it\'s a lot for any single person to bear. I believe that\'s why the  term \"executive coach\" has come into our lexicon now.  That just sounds so much better that \"therapist,\" even if they serve a dual purpose much of the time.', 0, '1', '', '', 14299, 0),
(14301, 29792, 'Mary G', 'marygeddesjones@gmail.com', '', '95.146.192.211', '2016-09-01 11:59:33', '2016-09-01 15:59:33', 'Don\'t make hasty decisions. Learn to say \"I\'ll have to think about that\" or \"Well, what  do YOU think?\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14302, 30357, 'Ken Mason', 'kenmason@outlook.com', '', '166.137.14.87', '2016-08-10 09:46:19', '2016-08-10 13:46:19', 'concise, practical and true - thanks !', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14303, 30450, 'Philip Rebowe', 'Prebowe@cricpa.com', '', '12.166.213.66', '2016-08-12 11:00:24', '2016-08-12 15:00:24', 'Sign me up', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14304, 30450, 'Mick Ukleja', 'mick@leadershiptraq.com', '', '100.9.226.46', '2016-08-12 12:07:36', '2016-08-12 16:07:36', 'Consider it done!', 0, '1', '', '', 14303, 427),
(14305, 30450, 'Steph', 'LtrFromSteph@cox.net', '', '68.100.241.253', '2016-08-15 12:34:47', '2016-08-15 16:34:47', 'Captain and Crew metaphors very useful and descriptive!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14306, 30450, 'Mick Ukleja', 'mick@leadershiptraq.com', '', '100.9.226.46', '2016-08-15 12:44:28', '2016-08-15 16:44:28', 'Thanks Steph.  Since our thinking creates our feelings, it\'s important to keep the \"captain\" metaphor readily available!  This helps keep our distorted thoughts (and we all have them), in check.', 0, '1', '', '', 14305, 427),
(14307, 30450, 'Emily Jacobs', 'emspeaks@gmail.com', 'http://emjwriter.com', '72.240.141.198', '2017-07-04 15:59:03', '2017-07-04 19:59:03', 'I love that Wayne Dyer quote, having recently experienced the truth of it firsthand. I found my circumstances improving when I started thinking, \"What can I learn from this? What can I share out of it?\"\n\nNow to make it a habit...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14308, 30450, 'Mick Ukleja', 'mick@leadershiptraq.com', 'http://www.leadershiptraq.com', '172.115.23.221', '2017-07-06 01:01:00', '2017-07-06 05:01:00', 'Emily, that is the key isn\'t it?  We follow our good intentions by making habits that help us live our values!!', 0, '1', '', '', 14307, 0),
(14309, 30544, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '73.13.204.222', '2016-08-22 17:57:09', '2016-08-22 21:57:09', 'Hi Paula. Given my area of interest you know I am going to focus on \"happiness at work.\"\n\nI\'m not surprised 92% of workers rate it as important. I see that only 4% say they are very unhappy, but we aren\'t shown how many are really happy -- just that it is important to a high percentage.\n\nReading, \"Salary is seen as the answer to the improved happiness,\" perplexes me. I\'m guessing that is based on survey results. At the same time, salary is often viewed as a hygiene factor. In my anecdotal experience, even if someone would tell me money would make them happy, when we dig into it, it isn\'t the top priority after all, of course unless they were vastly underpaid. See this link to dig deeper into hygiene factors. https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/herzberg-motivators-hygiene-factors.htm\n\nPerhaps I am out of touch. My experience is that many employees who say money would make them happy either don\'t trust management with their real answer or don\'t know how to articulate their real answer. Or maybe people are saying salary will make them happy because they have resigned themselves to this being the best they can hope for.\n\nVERY interesting. Thank you for sharing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14310, 30544, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '71.203.97.10', '2016-08-24 08:16:43', '2016-08-24 12:16:43', 'I, too, was surprised by the salary answer. It\'s not true for me personally and as you pointed out, when researchers dig deeper, it is often other \"compensations\" (time off, great corporate culture, education opportunities) that are more critical to people. Thx so much for taking time to comment.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14311, 30558, 'JoAnn Corley', 'joann@thehumansphere.com', 'http://www.thehumansphere.com', '45.23.164.186', '2016-08-10 11:36:34', '2016-08-10 15:36:34', 'Very good Paul --  many leaders take the first 30 day recommendation for granted, not seeing the valuable and substantial return on investment of time and energy. Trust, respect,  and rapport where one can influence is essential to achieving everything else.  The trust is crucial in that when there is new leadership, fear is a natural emotion that is present and which clouds activity/productivity. Mitigate fear with actively building a trusting rapport. Bottom line, each team member needs reassurance that they will be respected and appreciated.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14312, 30558, 'Karen', 'karen.grimley21@gmail.com', '', '149.142.243.174', '2016-08-10 13:48:40', '2016-08-10 17:48:40', 'Paul,\nI enjoyed your article and believe that you covered important points at a very high level.  Structuring meet and greets in the first 30 days with key stakeholders and leaders in an organization should be something that the new leader approaches as a structured interview style.  It has helped me in several situations especially in complex, highly matrixed organizations.  The other important thing that the new leader should remember is to trust their gut.  Trust but verify should be a 60 day assignment.\nThanks for taking the time to write down a template.\nKG', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14313, 30558, 'Gary Rzepecki', 'garyrzepecki@gmail.com', '', '128.177.40.53', '2016-08-11 10:04:25', '2016-08-11 14:04:25', 'I enjoyed your article a lot!  I have made the mistake in the past of not spending enough time learning about the people first before the processes. As I am a stickler for details when you are talking 30 days, are you referring to working days only?  When I hear someone talk about months we are talking about as few as 21 working days in February. I mention this because of the fast paced world we live in. Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14314, 30558, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '66.87.73.220', '2016-08-11 18:56:14', '2016-08-11 22:56:14', 'You\'re right, JoAnn, in your assessments. It always starts with people!! I\'ve seen many leaders lose trust in those first days and never recover.\n\nAppreciate it!\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 14311, 343),
(14315, 30558, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '66.87.73.220', '2016-08-11 18:56:49', '2016-08-11 22:56:49', 'You\'re welcome Karen. Thank you!\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 14312, 343),
(14316, 30558, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '66.87.73.220', '2016-08-11 19:01:45', '2016-08-11 23:01:45', 'Hi Gary,\n\nThe 30 day increments are month periods. I use that to help people see at least 2 months of performance. The 30 days in itself is not a hard and fast tiemframe, but due to measurable timeframes most people want ro see what the initla impact is.\n\nThe most important thing Gary, is to focus on the growing layers of foundation and not on the number of days. Be flexible but use the guideline to guide success.\n\nBest to you!\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 14313, 343),
(14317, 30558, 'Robert morgan', 'rmorgan@townofclaytonnc.org', '', '166.137.10.85', '2016-08-13 16:39:32', '2016-08-13 20:39:32', 'Good', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14318, 30558, 'Ray Wilson', 'wilsonra@aol.com', '', '75.115.66.99', '2016-08-14 09:56:22', '2016-08-14 13:56:22', 'Paul,\nGood article and thanks for sharing. I like the ideas of focusing on people and culture during the first period and building the brand during the second period. Knowing the people and understanding the culture of an organization are critical in my view to expanding on the brand (assuming one exists already). Leveraging off of the knowledge and experience of the people and the legacy of culture can be a powerful combination to gain trust and inspire others during change in my view. My thoughts on the third period is that this is the time to plan for profitability and sustainable growth by capitalizing on the work done thus far as you well put it. I agree that it is important to set a faster pace in today\'s business environment and most important that a leader has a plan of action that can communicate a vision and act as a reference during the process. A clear and concise vision and a plan to achieve helps to respect others, build confidence, and in many ways binds the organization together in terms of collaboration and innovation in my opinion.\nBest Regards,\nRay', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14319, 30558, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '209.42.146.231', '2016-08-15 12:39:28', '2016-08-15 16:39:28', 'Thank you so much, Ray! Yes we need a faster pace to get established by in today\'s environment. Glad you found the ideas relevant and best of success to you!', 0, '1', '', '', 14318, 343),
(14320, 30558, 'Cheryl Mazzarelli', 'cherylmazzarelli@gmail.com', '', '64.196.212.89', '2016-08-15 14:17:42', '2016-08-15 18:17:42', 'Good article,\nAs previously mentioned in a comment by Karen, meeting with key stakeholders is critical.  I also believe that meeting those on the \"front line\" is equally as important.  Understanding the vibe on the manufacturing floor or in the trenches of any department offers a fantastic opportunity to just understand the culture, but to build trust at that base level.  Nothing creates as positive a \"buzz\" as when employees feel truly listened to from the higher-ups.\n\nCheryl', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14321, 30558, 'Craig Park', 'craig.park@parkstrategy.com', 'http://www.parkstrategy.com', '76.176.113.253', '2016-08-15 22:48:48', '2016-08-16 02:48:48', 'Thanks Paul for this insights.\n\nOne additional element I have found to be crucial is to allow people to understand who I am and what my values and goals are for the organization. Early in my career I was installed to lead a struggling NJ-based organization that was reeling from 9/11 and the sudden removal of their patriarchal President. I had been brought in from Asia on an internal transfer but few people knew me. The very first thing I did was have a town hall meeting explaining who I was, what I believed in and what I knew we could accomplish. That set the tone and then I got to know everyone. They trusted me. It worked a treat and we became the most profitable region globally in 9 months.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14322, 30558, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '66.87.125.246', '2016-08-16 13:18:17', '2016-08-16 17:18:17', 'Craig, you truly exemplified the \"people and culture\" part of the first 30 days. Great job!\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 14321, 343),
(14323, 30558, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '209.42.146.231', '2016-08-20 06:40:52', '2016-08-20 10:40:52', 'Absolutely Cheryl! It is so essential to start the right culture from day one. Building your team by meeting your team is the key way to lay that foundation.', 0, '1', '', '', 14320, 343),
(14324, 30558, 'KS', 'kjack68@hotmail.com', '', '98.227.159.236', '2017-08-27 02:55:43', '2017-08-27 06:55:43', 'Paul,\nThis is an excellent article.\n\nI wish I had read your article prior to starting with the organization that I\'ve been working with for exactly one year.  I did my observations, etc., and after the one year, staff reverted back to old behaviors and I was asked to prepare a 90 day Leadership Plan.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14325, 30558, 'Rina Day', 'day_rina@yahoo.com.au', '', '1.144.96.180', '2017-09-07 07:16:19', '2017-09-07 11:16:19', 'Excellent article, especially a clear theme for each 30 day concept plan. I feel your defining theme relates quite well with the team development principles - form (people and culture), storm (building brand), perform and transform (sustainable growth). Thank you Paul for sharing your thoughts and ideas.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14326, 30751, 'donna onorato', 'donna_onorato@yahoo.com', '', '166.108.248.91', '2016-08-31 10:28:21', '2016-08-31 14:28:21', 'Great Info!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14327, 30751, 'Sarah Pringle', 'Sarah.pringle@veriscanada.com', 'http://Www.veriscanada.com', '108.173.20.20', '2016-09-08 11:14:36', '2016-09-08 15:14:36', 'Empathy.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14328, 30751, 'Jitender', 'jitendermop68@gmail.com', '', '169.149.235.242', '2017-04-20 02:57:33', '2017-04-20 06:57:33', 'Subject : Paid Content Contribution\n\n\nHello,\n\nAre you having a good time? I am blogger and I work for a my marketing agency.\n\nI came across your website and read some of your articles. They are so unique and informative.\n\nI would be happy to establish a cooperation with you. We would like to promote our client’s services on your website through an article with a dofollow link.\n\nPlease let me know whether you accept this kind of advertisement and what will be the best cost as i wont have only 1 order but bulk orders in future.\n\nI wish you a good day.\nRegard\nJitender', 0, '0', '', '', 0, 0),
(14329, 30880, 'Sean Glaze', 'sean@greatresultsteambuilding.com', 'http://www.greatresultsteambuilding.net', '168.9.35.22', '2016-08-08 08:51:20', '2016-08-08 12:51:20', 'Thanks for the article, Mary!\nAs a favor giver (and requester with my new book release), I can appreciate the importance of expressing gratitude for favors.\nI also agree with Lyn Boyer, who mentioned that favors can often strengthen a relationship.  The key is that all relationships are give-and-take.  Hopefully we all remember that GIVE comes first ; )', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14330, 30880, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-08-08 10:03:02', '2016-08-08 14:03:02', 'Thanks for the comment, Sean. Give-and-take. I have given and received some amazing things because of the fine art of asking. I also know when I\'ve stumbled.\n\nAs you stated, \"Hopefully we all remember that GIVE comes first.\" David Dye reminded us too. There is ALWAYS something to give whether it be appreciation, respect, an offer to reciprocate in some way.\n\nI think an important aspect is our self-awareness as you so clearly express in your comment. I often say, \"Desperation isn\'t pretty,\" and remind myself of the spirit from which I am asking.\n\nThank you again for the comment and your own sharing of how this is real for you right now.', 0, '1', '', '', 14329, 252),
(14331, 30964, 'Yamini Patel', 'patelyamini1991@gmail.com', 'http://www.indiabizclub.com', '123.252.186.157', '2017-01-30 07:58:24', '2017-01-30 12:58:24', 'WOw.. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom about new world order. I will make sure to share your page on business portals like IndiaBizClub', 0, '0', '', '', 0, 0),
(14332, 30964, 'Yamini Patel', 'patelyamini1991@gmail.com', 'http://www.indiabizclub.com', '123.252.186.157', '2017-01-30 08:22:10', '2017-01-30 13:22:10', 'Awesome. I will surely share your secret tips with my business friends on business portals like IndiaBizClub and also Facebook. Thanks', 0, '0', '', '', 0, 0),
(14333, 31029, 'nicholas atiogbe', 'atiogben@yahoo.com', '', '41.66.253.138', '2016-08-25 08:55:09', '2016-08-25 12:55:09', 'What a brilliant piece. That you for sharing your knowledge.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14334, 30901, 'Yolanda colon', 'ycolonprbahs23@prbahs.org', '', '66.87.140.94', '2016-09-19 15:51:21', '2016-09-19 19:51:21', 'Excellent information!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14335, 31199, 'Renel Ramos', 'rcramos6828@gmail.com', '', '112.198.79.149', '2016-09-06 22:00:36', '2016-09-07 02:00:36', 'You have done well in handling the situation. Let me share below preparation for a normal seafarer in the Philippines for the same situation;\n1. Learn and train in school\n2. After graduation in school, train and be certified in a training center\n3. Familiarization upon joining the company\n4. Familiarization upon joining the ship\n5. Hand-over from the seafarer to be relieved\n6. Monthly drills\n\nThe point is, with all the above listed preparation, we still have incidents onboard ships.\n\nWith my experience of zero accidents, type of leadership matters!\n\nWell done!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14336, 31199, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '74.87.135.45', '2016-09-08 02:02:54', '2016-09-08 06:02:54', 'Hi Renel,\n\nThank you for reading and commenting on my post. I appreciate the perspective of a professional.\n\nFor me the leadership question in what you wrote is what happens when incidents happen? Both the leadership while the incident is happening and the leadership afterwards to look at what was the root cause and how can it be made better next time?\n\nMy post tries to get at both these aspects of leadership by using my sailing example. There is how to lead out of crisis or danger in the moment. Then there is what to do afterwards to prevent the same thing happening again.\n\nCongratulations on zero accidents. That is an amazing record!\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 14335, 386),
(14337, 31205, 'shevem', 'shivamwrights@gmail.com', 'http://www.twitter.com/shevemkristy', '169.149.217.93', '2017-04-28 17:13:56', '2017-04-28 21:13:56', 'A very fair &amp; fine blog i get to read \'tis night. Too many proactive things i kinda resonating from around. It\'s always must to fill the promises we do... to people esp. to our customers...  cos, it\'s even promises that bring faith, &amp; faith carries strong relationships, however, we oft. negotiate, as Chris already mentioned above that what exactly we need, and what we merely want in life before living up to promised-expectations. It\'s seemed more like a purpose to work; towards life. And in\' twix what all does matter is, ABCD - Agreement, Basic-Communication &amp; Dicipline. Such a worth reading post it is. Completely time-consuming!\n\nI\'d be looking forward to reading your blogs, Chris.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14338, 31249, 'joseph', 'jcervpa@comcast.net', 'http://josephc@kemperjoseph.com', '73.130.169.56', '2016-09-26 20:08:24', '2016-09-27 00:08:24', 'Tidy explanation and graphic. Thank you.\nI\'ve used MM for a number of years. Started it with me at the center (hub) and branched (spoked) out into all phases of life, viz., real, planned and imagined.\nUsed different colors for each spoke.\nEnjoy a grand Fall-in-the-making.\nj', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14339, 31249, 'Yvonne Davey', 'yld@daveylaw.com.au', 'http://Davey%20Law%20Eatons%20Hill', '110.142.195.238', '2016-09-27 00:49:44', '2016-09-27 04:49:44', 'This looks very interesting. I would be pleased to participate from time to time.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14340, 31249, 'Robert Arthur', 'Roar@gmail.com', '', '170.51.72.172', '2016-09-27 10:52:20', '2016-09-27 14:52:20', 'Great article. Wondering what software/apps you use for mind mapping? Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14341, 31249, 'Kevin', 'morleycom@aol.com', '', '73.114.25.142', '2016-09-27 12:58:39', '2016-09-27 16:58:39', 'I am gratified to hear of the success Mark has had with mind mapping. I first learned the technique in 1983 and have been an avid mind mapper ever since. I have taught hundreds of people to mind map and continue to do so to this day.\n\nThe key concept of mind mapping is articulated by Edward Tufte in his seminal work about the visual display of information -- don\'t stack information in time -- display it adjacent in space. The mind map keeps everything in front of you rather than buried in stacks of notes or pages.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14342, 31249, 'Barry Hall', 'barry.hall2067@gmail.com', '', '79.74.60.196', '2016-09-27 14:53:05', '2016-09-27 18:53:05', 'Hi Mark,\nGreat post, I love Mind Mapping I use iMindMap6 although they have updated it, information at www.thinkbuzan.com\nYou can really get carried away, fascinating I hope this helps. - Barry.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14343, 31249, 'Mark Ellis', 'mark@businessfiction.co.uk', 'http://www.businessfiction.co.uk', '81.153.61.104', '2016-09-27 17:37:33', '2016-09-27 21:37:33', 'Thanks for all the comments and feedback - much appreciated. I personally use http://www.simpleapps.eu/simplemind/desktop, which can be found for free on the Mac App Store. It won\'t set the world alight, but it is fantastic for very quickly getting ideas down.\n\nGreat to hear that others are enjoying putting mind maps to use!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 409),
(14344, 31249, 'Victor D. Manriquez', 'vmanriquez62@yahoo.es', '', '190.216.117.146', '2016-09-28 11:52:20', '2016-09-28 15:52:20', 'Hi Mark,\n\nAround 12 years ago, I discovered Tony Buzan\'s book about Mind Maps and I found that this technique was useful for me, so I began to use it taking notes of classes and conferences using Mind Maps. I tried to share with other colleagues, but they could not (or didn\'t want) break their paradigm of linear process.\nThanks for the note and for remind us this useful technique.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14345, 31249, 'Paul K. Hiuhu', 'hiuhup@gmail.com', '', '190.219.145.184', '2016-10-02 17:57:24', '2016-10-02 21:57:24', 'I saw my colleague using mind maps on a project we were working on and I thought it is a good idea to organize ideas. I looked around and found MindMup 2.0 which is simple to use. No download is needed which is a plus compared to most mind maps.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14346, 31249, 'Stephanie', 'stephanie@100degreesconsulting.com', 'http://www.100degreesconsulting.com', '208.102.183.45', '2016-10-06 08:24:20', '2016-10-06 12:24:20', 'Thanks for the inspiration! I\'m a Type A, linear thinker but this inspired me to prepare for a workshop I\'m hosting in an entirely different way, and I came away with a much more robust plan than my usual bullet point list! I was so inspired I blogged about it here - http://www.100degreesconsulting.com/single-post/2016/10/06/Mind-Mapping-for-Type-As', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14347, 31249, 'Maneesh Dutt', 'maneesh.dutt@outlook.com', 'http://www.inlightenconsultancy.com', '182.77.118.147', '2016-10-07 00:45:08', '2016-10-07 04:45:08', 'Hi Mark,\n\nI am a Mind Map addict and in total agreement with you. I have used Mind Mapping in multiple scenarios ( many success stories available on my website). I have written two books on Mind Maps, one from a business application perspective (Mind Maps for Effective Project Management) http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&amp;field-keywords=maneesh+dutt\n\nand another from an personal self help kind of usage of Mind Maps (Live Life colorfully, http://www.amazon.in/dp/1946129186, will shortly be available on Amazon.com)\n\nFor self help kind of usage for Mind Maps I encourage people to make hand drawn Mind Maps using lots of colors whereas for business application , of course the Mind Mapping softwares are helpful.\n\nThanks for your article , is really an interesting read.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14348, 31270, 'Christopher', 'snyderchristopher@me.com', '', '67.49.42.80', '2016-09-22 08:21:27', '2016-09-22 12:21:27', 'Finally &lt; Thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14349, 31270, 'Juanita', 'jsifflet1@gmail.com', '', '47.19.186.187', '2016-09-22 11:44:10', '2016-09-22 15:44:10', 'What a great balcony view of those \"types\" that can put a wrinkle or a defined crease in our sensibilities because we do not know how to \"deal\" with them.  Thanks for your lens regarding  pointers about how to help support, nurture, and provide boundaries for people with those traits.   Proverbs 20:5 states it quite eloquently -The purposes of a persons heart are deep waters but one who has insight draws them out.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14350, 31305, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-09-15 09:03:10', '2016-09-15 13:03:10', 'What a great story and advice to share with us today, Jane. Just what I needed to start my day off enthusiastically and with some ease scheduled in to allow for serendipity.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14351, 31327, 'Cat', 'catmcd3@hotmail.com', 'http://www.rebloomroom.com', '108.45.126.135', '2016-09-21 17:59:49', '2016-09-21 21:59:49', 'I\'m going to do #1 (yoga). I\'ve been feeling kind of stiff when I wake up, so a good 5 to 10-minute routine will do me good.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14352, 31381, 'Rod Weiss', 'rweiss@coleman.edu', 'http://coleman.edu', '12.217.65.106', '2016-10-06 14:08:33', '2016-10-06 18:08:33', 'Dan, you\'ve hit it out of the park with this leadership development article.\nNice work.\n\nBTW, You were referred by Mike Trevino who I met recently who hired a few of our\nmillennial student graduates.\n\nIdea:  I may need a word of advice from you for our non-profit technology school related to how best integrate and motivate our most technical millennial \"technology students\" to tightly collaborate in teams with senior skilled professionals often a few decades older and wiser.   We have no shortage of ultra-experienced volunteer mentors (80+) toward building complex new electric vehicles, drones, submarines and robots.   But we are finding that we are having difficulty motivating our millennials to agree to be mentored or to work in teamwork with a multi-aged mentorship team seeking to pass down skills and business experience at the same time.\n\nThoughts?\n\nRod Weiss\nDir of Dev\nColeman University\n619-602-2031\nrweiss@coleman.edu', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14353, 31383, 'Anthony Williams', 'Tonymwilliams@yahoo.com', '', '70.196.25.180', '2016-09-26 11:10:32', '2016-09-26 15:10:32', 'Great article/perspective. As our so-called leaders apologize so to does everyone else. In fact, we all learn by example. Apologies at work are an everyday occurrence.  At one time in my life an apology went something. Today it is like a brief \"oh well\".', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14354, 31383, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.114', '2016-09-26 15:30:34', '2016-09-26 19:30:34', 'Hollis, thanks for the post. I, too, am challenged by our inconsistent methods and double standards. A quote comes to mind, that I also find is attributed to someone (or a number of people) who most likely never said it. Nevertheless, it is applicable to our time.\n\n\"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.\"\n\nWe must do something. Will we do enough? I hope we all do all we can. We must enforce consequences or we live in the world we tolerate. Thanks for a challenging post. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14355, 31383, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.215.169', '2016-09-26 15:57:30', '2016-09-26 19:57:30', 'When Anthony Williams reminds us, \"we all learn by example,\" I\'m sure he refers to people of all ages, not just young people.\n\nMike, you\'re very welcome, and I love the quote you reference because I often feel like my own small actions and unwillingness to tolerate this kind of behavior is for naught. And though sometimes it\'s not easy (or popular) to write pieces like this (yes, I have to confront my own fears in doing so), I feel it\'s my responsibility to put into words and publish that which I have the ability and voice to say. It\'s my way of trying to be a better citizen and to raise the bar.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14356, 30967, 'Bob Hays', 'purplehayz@earthlink.net', 'http://www.alephnaught.com/', '99.38.128.53', '2016-10-22 08:08:30', '2016-10-22 12:08:30', 'For a while now I\'ve been telling my teams to think about work-life integration, not balance. I\'m okay taking calls after normal working hours - maybe not so much at 2A, and if it\'s not an emergency I can ask for a call-back after dinner. I used to scan work emails on vacation while my spouse was in the shower - that way I wouldn\'t have a thousand to deal with on my return and it wasn\'t a burden on my spouse and I. It\'s all about setting up rules that work for you and your business so you can be comfortable.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14357, 31268, 'Terry Sorour', 'terry@leadercoaching.co.za', 'http://www.leadercoaching.co.za', '41.13.70.127', '2016-10-22 06:01:24', '2016-10-22 10:01:24', 'A really good summary of the key skills needed to be a successful and influential CEO', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14358, 31268, 'Michael Beck', 'mbeck@michaeljbeck.com', 'http://www.michaeljbeck.com/', '73.164.247.103', '2016-10-22 11:34:23', '2016-10-22 15:34:23', 'Thank you, Terry!', 0, '1', '', '', 14357, 428),
(14359, 31268, 'Richard', 'rchamberlain1142@outlook.com', '', '68.2.134.186', '2017-02-19 17:23:35', '2017-02-19 22:23:35', 'Thank for insight on a good candidate for CEO.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14360, 31364, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '67.132.4.54', '2016-09-30 10:47:36', '2016-09-30 14:47:36', 'John,\n\nI\'d enjoy any post that includes a good Heinlein reference, but on top of that you\'ve shared an important and vulnerable look at real life. We\'ll often find ourselves in transition and and our ability to transfer what really matters into a new context is vital - but not at all easy. Just look at all the superstar CEOs who move to a different context and do not succeed at the same level.\n\nThank you for the thoughtful and thought-provoking post!\n\n-David', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 307),
(14361, 31364, 'John E. Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.88.66', '2016-10-02 23:18:10', '2016-10-03 03:18:10', 'Hi, David:)\n\nI also like to remind myself of the Master from time to time as well.\n\nI appreciate your kind words, especially coming from such an accomplished and articulate person as yourself.  Thanks:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(14362, 31398, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.114', '2016-10-05 12:04:13', '2016-10-05 16:04:13', 'Great post. I appreciate Will and how he makes a difference. I\'ve always enjoyed his passion for making a positive difference and being the change. Thanks! Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14363, 31406, 'Thabo Fonya', 'Thabo.Fonya@gmail.com', '', '93.186.31.112', '2016-09-28 06:20:12', '2016-09-28 10:20:12', 'This is an excellent piece of work.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14364, 31406, 'Eileen McDargh', 'Eileen@eileenmcdargh.com', 'http://www.eileenmcdargh.com', '12.226.32.195', '2016-09-28 06:25:49', '2016-09-28 10:25:49', 'Thanks, Thabo. Feel free to share widely!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 418),
(14365, 31411, 'Chris Kenber', 'coaching@chriskenber.com', 'http://www.chriskenber.com/', '2.139.88.224', '2016-10-23 13:43:12', '2016-10-23 17:43:12', 'I truly believe in your words. That in everyone there is the potential to become an entrepreneur. No one was born with the skills already installed. But so many fall by the weigh side and admit defeat too soon. Everyone makes mistakes, most especially when setting out in business. And it is from those mistakes that we learn, grow, prosper, and become our own success.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14366, 31411, 'Johnston Horsbrugh', 'krazimojo@gmail.com', 'http://www.johnstonhorsburgh.co.uk/', '88.7.84.248', '2016-11-29 09:55:32', '2016-11-29 14:55:32', 'Couldn\'t have said it any better than Chris. Everyone has the ability to be an entrepreneur, but no one was born one.', 0, '1', '', '', 14365, 0),
(14367, 31530, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-10-11 14:22:54', '2016-10-11 18:22:54', 'UPDATE, Oct. 11, 2016: I reached out to my boss, the one who delivered that downsizing day message so well more than 20 years ago. He remembered the same day. He said he remembered telling me in particular because he was surprised to see I was concerned for my job. All the more reason to handle it as well as he did that day. Don\'t take for granted that employees you consider high performing will be as confident as you expect. After all, we\'re all human.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(14368, 31546, 'Ann', 'avaneron@Potentials.com', 'http://www.potentials.com', '98.223.169.51', '2016-10-17 20:12:49', '2016-10-18 00:12:49', 'Thanks for the reminder to focus on what is most important. The continual challenge for me and others I coach is to identify what is less important and what to say no to.  When we recall our values, as you have, we can also remember that we don\'t have to do everything. We can make a difference in small ways to make an impact.  Thank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14369, 31546, 'Ann', 'avaneron@Potentials.com', 'http://www.potentials.com', '98.223.169.51', '2016-10-17 20:19:21', '2016-10-18 00:19:21', 'Thank you for your authentic reminder to focus on what is most important. The challenge I,and others I coach, have is to focus on what is least important too and when to say \"no\".  We also need to be kind to ourselves, we can\'t do it all at once. With clarity about our values, as you beautifully demonstrate, we can trust that with small actions we can have a big impact.  Thanks for sharing your experience.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14370, 31546, 'Kimunya Mugo', 'kimunya@gmail.com', 'http://www.iweza.com', '196.207.182.24', '2016-12-11 08:49:32', '2016-12-11 13:49:32', 'You are right Ann, we need to remember to be kind to ourselves.', 0, '1', '', '', 14369, 0),
(14371, 31554, 'Leanne', 'leanne.lecras@gmail.com', 'http://www.crestingthehill.com.au', '58.84.159.77', '2016-10-14 09:54:56', '2016-10-14 13:54:56', 'I\'ve seen quite a bit of the \"You Matter\" info coming out in various blogs. It\'s nice to know that it\'s being heard and it will make a difference. It\'s so important to affirm people and let them know they are valued.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14372, 31554, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '71.203.97.10', '2016-10-14 10:08:26', '2016-10-14 14:08:26', 'I agree! So important to deliberately spread a good message! Thanks for your comment.', 0, '1', '', '', 14371, 0),
(14373, 31554, 'Ann Van Eron', 'annvaneron@gmail.com', 'http://potentials.com/', '98.223.169.51', '2016-10-14 12:06:36', '2016-10-14 16:06:36', 'What a great mission and goal. Both the person receiving the message and the one giving win.  Given that emotions are contagious, there is likely to be a ripple effect. Congratulations on the project!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 441),
(14374, 31554, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '71.203.97.10', '2016-10-14 12:16:37', '2016-10-14 16:16:37', 'I agree, Ann! Thanks for commenting. :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 14373, 0),
(14375, 31554, 'Jane', 'janeanderson2020@gmail.com', '', '75.129.12.187', '2016-10-14 21:06:28', '2016-10-15 01:06:28', 'This is one of the most meaningful, and easy ways to sincerely pour joy into others. It could take 5 seconds or 5 minutes, but the effects are lasting. In our town in Michigan last year someone started a You\'re Awesome campaign, but it only lasted one day. That\'s all it was supposed to last. It was fun to watch it on the news. This You Matter Marathon has potential to change lives. You never know what one spark of kindness will ignite.  btw - You mom was likely trying to minimize your hurt but as with how fear affects us, we all have our own reality of what matters.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14376, 31554, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '71.203.97.10', '2016-10-14 22:23:17', '2016-10-15 02:23:17', 'Thank you, Jane. And thank you for writing your own post about the You Matter Marathon. I appreciate your giving spirit!', 0, '1', '', '', 14375, 378),
(14377, 31554, 'Rebecca Keeler', 'rebeccakeeler3@yahoo.com', '', '174.255.199.237', '2017-08-13 07:27:07', '2017-08-13 11:27:07', 'What a great idea', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14378, 31554, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '73.118.86.141', '2017-08-13 07:44:08', '2017-08-13 11:44:08', 'Thanks! I am sure she wouldn\'t personally want me to go on and on about it, but the founder (Cheryl Rice) has been tenacious about pursuing her vision, and lots of kindness has transpired as a result!', 0, '1', '', '', 14377, 378),
(14379, 31613, 'Hari', 'Harihara.work@gmail.com', '', '71.187.63.130', '2016-10-15 04:42:03', '2016-10-15 08:42:03', 'Great Post, Will. True Leader shares knowledge and develop people. You lead by example of being one such Leader. Always interesting to know your insights', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14380, 31613, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', '', '96.242.38.106', '2016-10-17 21:59:49', '2016-10-18 01:59:49', 'Hari,\n\nShowing appreciate does not cost us anything.  However in the society that focus on \"ME\" our employees are suffering.   We need to give credit when credit is due.\nThanks,\n\nWill Lukang', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 276),
(14381, 31181, 'Lea', 'ajajonsson@gmail.com', 'http://example.com', '172.103.66.224', '2017-04-28 18:20:05', '2017-04-28 22:20:05', 'However, you could use GSA Internet search engine Ranker for Rate 1 if\nyou great checklists with great targets, to avoid Penguin charge.', 0, '0', '', '', 0, 0),
(14382, 31181, 'wealth management north carolina', 'denny.araujo@arcor.de', 'http://www.7dsdkssd.com', '192.227.153.14', '2017-05-06 04:18:54', '2017-05-06 08:18:54', 'It\'s actually a nice and useful piece of info.\nI\'m glad that you just shared this useful information with us.\nPlease stay us up to date like this. Thank you for sharing.', 0, '0', '', '', 0, 0),
(14383, 31518, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '70.189.113.117', '2016-11-18 17:30:34', '2016-11-18 22:30:34', 'Paul, I admit you got me with the title and the direction of the post. I hadn\'t thought of applying the Net Promoter Score to associates. And I agree wholeheartedly with your understated caveat at the end about caution using labels.\n\nI don\'t disagree with your principles, but with the labels themselves. Rather than using the label \"passive\" to describe those who are just trying to do their job, we might come up with a different term. I agree that simply investing time and attention in your people increases their engagement as long as it produces change. If you follow through and take action from your interactions with the folks in the center of the bell curve, everyone moves up. Well, everyone except those needing \"broomed.\" As things start to improve, those in the \"broomed\" line stand out much more easily.\n\nThanks for making me think. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14384, 31518, 'Amy Watson', 'amykaywat@gmail.com', 'http://CareerLeadershipAlignment.com', '162.231.20.31', '2016-11-19 18:22:32', '2016-11-19 23:22:32', 'Paul, you have reminded me of one of the principles of being a facilitator. The idea is that in every room, 10% of the people will go with the facilitator anywhere. 10% of the people will resist everything the facilitator is trying to get them to do, and the other 80% are waiting to be engaged. As a facilitator, it\'s my job to facilitate to the middle. To convince them that their time and energy is well invested in that room.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14385, 31518, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '205.132.110.2', '2016-11-21 15:56:38', '2016-11-21 20:56:38', 'Thanks so much Mike!\n\nI don\'t particularly like the labels either, but in overlaying the NPS model it seemed to work. That\'s also why I placed the disclaimer at the bottom of the post about labeling people.\n\nIt\'s very much the bell curve as you mentioned, just moving the curve UPward (so-to-speak) instead of accepting the curve.\n\nAppreciate you my friend!!\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 14383, 343),
(14386, 31518, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '205.132.110.2', '2016-11-21 15:57:57', '2016-11-21 20:57:57', 'That\'s precisely it Amy!\n\nIf we can move people from the middle towards a more positive end/outcome, we\'ve done them a great level of service in influencing their future for the better.\n\nThanks,\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 14384, 343),
(14387, 31550, 'Ross Swan', 'ross@orionhumancapital.com', '', '101.127.111.223', '2016-10-24 06:43:23', '2016-10-24 10:43:23', 'Conflict is quite often healthy and moves things forward. That is conflict for the right reasons is a positive.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14388, 31550, 'Nathan Regier', 'nate@next-element.com', 'http://next-element.com/', '68.103.193.134', '2016-10-24 07:22:09', '2016-10-24 11:22:09', 'Thanks, Ross.', 0, '1', '', '', 14387, 440),
(14389, 31550, 'Vatsala Shukla', 'vatsala@karmicallycoaching.com', 'http://karmicallycoaching.com', '14.98.50.23', '2016-10-28 01:46:15', '2016-10-28 05:46:15', 'I certainly agree that conflict doesn\'t have to be loud or noisy, Nathan. In fact, the majority of conflicts that I\'ve encountered and had to resolve were very quiet - the kind where both parties are waiting for the next one\'s move or calling bluffs.\n\nI prefer reframing the word conflict to \'difference of opinion/perspective\'. The use of a different set of words or phrases opens the door for possible resolution of the contentious issue.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14390, 31550, 'Nathan Regier', 'nate@next-element.com', 'http://next-element.com/', '68.103.193.134', '2016-10-28 08:28:19', '2016-10-28 12:28:19', 'Thank you Vatsala. I agree with you, I\'ve seen many conflicts happen and get worked through more quietly. Our definition of conflict, a gap between what I want to be happening and what is actually happening, is similar to your suggestion. In my opinion, conflict is the energy produced by that gap. We can use the energy destructively (Drama), or constructively (Compassion).', 0, '1', '', '', 14389, 440),
(14391, 31550, 'Michael', 'michael@msbmax.com', 'http://www.msbmax.com', '124.168.243.186', '2016-10-28 23:10:00', '2016-10-29 03:10:00', 'We address conflict as a specific teaching point in two of our training modules, we believe it is actually a positive - when approached the correct way and lives in the creative realm where good ideas come from. Thanks Nathan, very good article!.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14392, 31693, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '148.78.240.30', '2016-10-26 08:21:20', '2016-10-26 12:21:20', 'Hollis, thanks for another challenging post. Genuine respect seems to be in shorter and shorter supply these days as many of us seem to focus on whether or not we are receiving it when we might focus on how much we give. Respect could (and ideally would) be in great supply because only I can limit the amount of respect for others that I produce.\n\nThanks for a great reminder. I appreciate the post. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14393, 31693, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.215.169', '2016-10-26 10:14:26', '2016-10-26 14:14:26', 'And thank YOU, Mike, for weighing in and pushing me on. I like your last sentence:  \"...because only I can limit the amount of respect for others that I produce.\" This is so true and imagining a world of limitless respect really changes one\'s outlook, even if only for that moment of suspended reality. (I think I might have even heard a little John Lennon playing in the background for that moment)  ;-)', 0, '1', '', '', 14392, 0),
(14394, 31693, 'The Recruitment Network', 'haydn@innergy.co.uk', 'http://www.therecruitmentnetworkclub.com/', '94.101.147.218', '2016-10-27 04:45:41', '2016-10-27 08:45:41', 'Respect is a cornerstone of our Leadership training and something we can\'t stress enough to our future leaders, an excellent post Hollis, we\'ve shared this around our social channels because it deserves to be seen by many!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14395, 31693, 'David McCuistion', 'Davidmcc44@outlook.com', 'http://www.johncmaxwellgroup.com/davidmccuistion', '24.159.155.223', '2016-10-30 21:15:22', '2016-10-31 01:15:22', 'Hollis, great article on a much needed subject. To many people align respect with \"like\" as in, if I don\'t like you, I can\'t respect you.  Wrong in all respects.\n\nI\'m not sure about the most powerful, but I will say one of the most powerful is listening intently and respectfully, quieting that voice within that wants to give a supposed solution to a problem that may not exist.\n\nListening intently and responding with empathy and understanding builds trust and enhances respect with power, empowering others because of a leaders demonstrated respect by listening with empathy.\n\nKeep the Quest Alive! Respect builds trust, which builds respect.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14396, 31693, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.215.169', '2016-10-31 13:24:58', '2016-10-31 17:24:58', 'Thank you very much. As I write this thank you, I\'m actually realizing that I feel it\'s important to say thank you as much as it\'s important to be respectful. Both are part of the same standard, and perhaps we are also missing earnest \"thank yous\" in today\'s world -- especially among leaders -- too? Would you agree??', 0, '1', '', '', 14394, 0),
(14397, 31693, 'Hollis Thomases', 'hollis@reinventionworks.com', 'http://www.reinventionworks.com', '100.14.215.169', '2016-10-31 13:28:22', '2016-10-31 17:28:22', 'Thank you, David. I like all your points. Your first one reminded me of a personal post I wrote a few years back in honor of a dear friend I had just lost (it\'s been 3 years now -- I can\'t believe it). It\'s called \"The Difference About Differences,\" and if you care to read it, it\'s on Medium:  https://medium.com/this-happened-to-me/the-difference-about-differences-3a1c1665c9e6#.pto78dgm5.', 0, '1', '', '', 14395, 0),
(14398, 31723, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '38.121.57.2', '2016-10-27 17:33:36', '2016-10-27 21:33:36', 'Dan, thanks for a great post. I like all of the B.R.I.D.G.E. steps. Once we bust the myths and get a little uncomfortable, we can create authentic relationships.  And when we\'ve created authentic relationships, we can\'t help but take responsibility, bring value, and empower success.  These are all excellent reminders and challenges. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14399, 31861, 'Vatsala Shukla', 'vatsala@karmicallycoaching.com', 'http://karmicallycoaching.com', '59.161.79.109', '2016-11-17 23:34:09', '2016-11-18 04:34:09', 'What a lovely idea, Marcella,  to help co-workers feel that they are appreciated outside of the formal organizational structure. More often than not, people change jobs because they feel their work isn\'t appreciated.  Imagine the impact a simple acknowledgement would have on employee retention.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14400, 31861, 'Marcella Bremer', 'editor@leadershipandchangemagazine.com', 'http://www.leadershipandchangemagazine.com', '217.121.4.226', '2016-11-18 08:52:29', '2016-11-18 13:52:29', 'Thank you, Vatsala Shukla! I couldn\'t agree more ;-) When we\'re busy we tend to overlook the small simple things that can have big effects. This is a reminder to everyone, including myself.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 391),
(14401, 31521, 'Sam', 'eames.samuel@gmail.com', 'http://www.jobthenblog.com', '96.95.174.65', '2016-12-16 10:01:43', '2016-12-16 15:01:43', 'Great post Rick. Communication is a big one for me. I also think exceptional leaders have the ability to wear many hats as they adapt to different situations.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(14402, 31521, 'Jussi simolin', 'Jussi.simolin@innoduel.com', 'http://Www.innoduel.com/en', '188.238.226.169', '2016-12-16 13:34:38', '2016-12-16 18:34:38', 'Leadership should be scalable in such a way that others in the same organisation can learn to become better in their own leadership.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
