Mary,
I can totally see your point!  In the hurry of life, there's is plenty we don't see.  I think this astonishment you mention is so real.  I know I am stunned when people do kind things for me out of seeming nowhere.  I often wonder, what did I do to deserve that?  (We think that when life deals us an unexpected blow as well I think. What did I do to deserve THAT?)  Our world is so often cause and effect.  We believe we get what we deserve.  But is its also wonderful to get a good surprise, and I think even better if we can give one!
Thanks so much for pointing out our need to see each other, to take note.  It comes back to an earlier discussion of being counscious and deliberate.  You hit this nail on the head!
Deb