Thank you for your points. Very helpful and productive if used correctly .
As Counselor working with children and adolescents I had to listen with my mind and heart, and therefor I had a lot of that little voice in the head leading me to conclusions that might not be helpful for my client. I recently added a life coaching certification to my career. It taught  me how to take control of the little voices in my head and listen more.
What I am trying to say , it takes a lot of self control and discipline to achieve a great listener technique and become more successful in any relationship.