Hi, Mary

Apologies for the late comment ... blame Santa Claus:)

I was struck by the simple, but essential message that underlies this engaging post.  Maybe this just applies to me, but I take on the burden of the world in my interactions with others.

Much of the time, when certain behaviors occur or words are spoken in a particular way, I assume that those actions and words are directed at me, because of me.  I tend to always start from the position that I have offended, irritated, or confused the other.

Your simple reflection reminds me of something we can all remember when dealing with others:   It's not always about me:)

Once we get past thinking we are the center and cause of all things, we are freed to look at people and events differently ... and in my experience, this usually results in ascribing more kindly and gently.

John