Jane, you know you've produced a good post when people keep thinking about it...

I later found myself reminded of the "Paradoxical Commandments" by Dr. Kent M. Keith.

The first one in particular is my lesson, "People are illogical, unreasonable and self-centered.  Love them anyway."  (Of course, this applies to me being illogical too, and forgiving myself...)

For reference you can find all of these "commandments" here: http://www.paradoxicalcommandments.com/

Again, great job.