Thank you Jane for your contribution and yes, it's all about perception too. Halvorson (2015) says that we should actively provide information about ourselves. Not irrelevant information, but specifically about the way we see ourselves, or about the person we are. We should do this or the team member will otherwise ‘fill in the gaps’, by making assumptions about who we are based on their (first) impressions, and on the narrative of themselves and the world they live in. In other words, when a team member 'knows where we're coming from', the likelihood the compliment lands as intended is increased.