John,
You never fail to encourage me my friend!  I love that you pointed out the "God doesn't give us anything we can't handle." phrase... I totally agree!  That's a loose translation of this Bible passage, I Corinthians 10:13:

"No test or temptation that comes your way is beyond the course of what others have had to face. All you need to remember is that God will never let you down; he’ll never let you be pushed past your limit"...

BUT THAT'S ONLY PART OF THE VERSE!  It goes on to say -

"He’ll always be there to help you come through it."

A literal translation of the text from the Greek as shared in the Amplified Version of the Bible says this...

"No temptation [regardless of its source] has overtaken or enticed you that is not common to human experience [nor is any temptation unusual or beyond human resistance];

but God is faithful [to His word—He is compassionate and trustworthy], and He will not let you be tempted beyond your ability [to resist],

but along with the temptation He [has in the past and is now and] will [always] provide the way out as well, so that you will be able to endure it [without yielding, and will overcome temptation with joy]"

THAT, my friend is focusing on helping people do exactly what you pointed out, and that's to move through it!  Once again, you've taken the topic and mined out the deeper truths!  Thank you!