Hi, Will - interesting post:)

You have nicely described the delicate balancing act of leaders as they seek to be supportive and engaged, yet helping the person grow.   Much like very small children learning to walk.  If we continually hold them up, they do not learn to walk by themselves, but we worry about them injuring themselves as they learn.

I have faced this many times in my own career, but no particular instance stands out.  I believe that finding the "sweet spot" between coddling or controlling and nurturing for true growth is something that we just develop over time with practice and experience.

Of course, you have to be aware that you cannot simply control or cut loose ... that's why articles like this are valuable, especially for young leaders.

John