Hi, All - very interesting comments.

As someone who has used various incarnations of the DiSC model over the years, the idea of collaborating with others who approach work and relationships differently is a familiar one to me.

I like the theme of flexing from your comfort zone or preferred style to more effectively work with someone who has a different style.  This seems to me to be the heart of truly making opposites a dynamite combination at work and everywhere else in life.

However, I think that being able to flex one's style effectively requires a strong dose of humility (which some styles might describe as "weak-kneedness:).  I remember one very useful experience where a certain VP refused to alter his preferred behaviors in any way ... not even a teeny bit ... to help his team work more effectively.  He even said "I'm just a D and they have to deal with that."

(DiSC Note:  "D"s prefer to be in charge and is focused on results - not concerned particularly with relationships, but very task-focused.  Also often not concerned with details, but real interested in people doing what he or she tells them to do.)

So to nurture the ability to flex toward other's preferred behaviors, one has to first develop both trust and mutual respect.  If these two complimentary dynamics are present, I think the whole idea of working effectively with those who are not just like you becomes easier to accomplish.

Side Note:  This contributes to a healthier and more diverse environment and culture within the organization as well.  Pretty much a "win-win", unless you are like my VP noted above:)

Great "Chip Shot" post:)

John