Jane, thank you so much for sharing those stories, and your concern about tip-toeing toward curmudgeon territory.

I have had a series or equivalent experiences over the past few years that have left me anywhere from hurt to befuddled.  I was going to speculate about what could be going on, but your post and my reflection make me realize I need to get a handle on myself, and like you, encourage my faith that those holding candles of compassion and character are on their way.  (What great phrasing, Jane!)

Mary