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(13228, 26767, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2015-08-13 11:06:19', '2015-08-13 15:06:19', 'Hi John. I like this particularly: \"Your people know what is not working and it frustrates them. Learn to recognize their frustrations, talk to them about why they are upset, and work together to resolve their concerns.\"\n\nAs a former HR manager I found that many people do not know how to communicate well when they are frustrated (who me? :) In any case, I would try to get past the emotion of it to the nugget of the important thing they were trying to tell me.\n\nYou are spot-on in suggesting a willingness to recognize the frustration and listen. They know exactly what is not working.\n\nGood job!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13229, 26767, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-13 12:24:09', '2015-08-13 16:24:09', 'Hi, John - another useful post:)\n\nOf all the important things you identified, one stood out for me.  \"Identify the Needs of the Individual\" contained two very useful thoughts:\n\n1)  People want to succeed, not fail.  Too often, managers approach situations and relationships as though those whom they serve are professional malingerers, just waiting for an opportunity to screw things up, and against whom eternal vigilance and firm control is the only defense.\n\n2)  People will respond positively when motivated with attention to their needs, rather than just on what the orgnaization needs.  Both types of motivation are important, but again, we sometimes focus exclusively or singularly on what the organization is trying to accomplish and why it matters from an organization\'s viewpoint only.\n\nEnjoyed this post - thanks:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13230, 26998, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-06 13:33:08', '2015-08-06 17:33:08', 'Hi, Mary - fascinating post.\n\nIf I had read your post before responding to Scott\'s post from yesterday, my words might well have been very different.\n\nYour guidance on how to create a more human workplace is solid, from my experience and I wish I had done more of this, both as an employee and as a leader, when I was still internal.  I think we too often assume that we cannot be fully human at work, because we assume that would be counter to our purpose at work, which is to produce something of value.\n\nTruly valuing our differences and being honestly compassionate toward our co-workers seem like a very strong combination of skills for our modern workplace:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13231, 26998, 'Paula Kiger', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.131.210', '2015-08-06 14:54:40', '2015-08-06 18:54:40', 'I feel similar to John - that in retrospect I could have handled this differently as an employee AND as a leader. I appreciate your perspective on this, Mary!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13232, 26998, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-08-06 18:22:23', '2015-08-06 22:22:23', 'Thank you, John. Your comments mean so much to me.\n\nThis post felt somewhat like a risk for me as I have been misunderstood so many times. It is an extension of what I wanted to get across with my TEDx talk. I guess this will have to be part 2.\n\nThank you, again.', 0, '1', '', '', 13230, 252),
(13233, 26998, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-08-06 18:26:16', '2015-08-06 22:26:16', 'Thanks for your comment too, Paula. You knew how I felt about this post, but I was called to say it.\n\nI observed it day after day when I was a corporate employee. It seemed like every time I raised the issue it was very polarizing, as if I was suggesting we share \"too much information\" and have group camping trips. If I am to simplify it I think I am looking for more compassion in the workplace, while at the same time, not sacrificing accountability for results. I know it can be done.\n\nThank you again.', 0, '1', '', '', 13231, 252),
(13234, 26998, 'Marvin Magusara', 'hello@graftene.co.uk', 'https://graftene.co.uk', '82.3.132.193', '2015-08-30 00:52:35', '2015-08-30 04:52:35', 'I can understand and deal with others humanity, but often times I prefer to be blunt over diplomatic. If what I have to say seems logical and truthful to me, I don\'t find the need to sugarcoat but rather just outright say it. Even though I could probably send the message across in a much more diplomatic way, I think everyone should be able to \"toughen-up\" and just handle the truth, if the comment is meant to be constructive and not out of spite or pettiness.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 402),
(13235, 26998, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-08-31 09:28:02', '2015-08-31 13:28:02', 'Hi Marvin. I can relate. It is tempting to want others to toughen up and adjust to my preference. One time I expressed this to a mentor who countered by asking me how often that was effective.\n\nI don\'t agree that being diplomatic is necessarily sugarcoating. My mentor\'s words compelled me into a new level of reflection and development. I had to ask myself what I was willing to adjust in order to be effective and authentic at the same time.\n\nCoincidentally, the Lead Change Group\'s founder, Mike Henry, writes on exactly this today. You can find that post here: http://leadchangegroup.com/leading-change-requires-attitude-adjustments/\n\nMarvin, thank you for sharing your comments.', 0, '1', '', '', 13234, 252),
(13236, 26998, 'Jane Anderson', 'janeanderson2020@gmail.com', '', '70.194.15.214', '2017-07-06 11:43:54', '2017-07-06 15:43:54', 'Mary, I admit I had not thought of this aspect of relationship building before.  I believe that\'s what would come of learning how to use truth of circumstances to give us both insight and understanding of how we are influenced uniquely.\n\nI have never heard your TedX talks. How can I find them?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13237, 26998, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '166.137.12.84', '2017-07-06 12:06:26', '2017-07-06 16:06:26', 'Hi Jane. Thanks for resurrecting this old post. Coincidentally, the post I\'m writing for next week is an extension of this one!\n\nOnly one TEDx talk so far ;) You can find it by going to YouTube and searching Mary Schaefer TEDx. The title of the talk is \"Putting the Human Back Into Human Resources.\"\n\nThanks for commenting!', 0, '1', '', '', 13236, 252),
(13238, 26998, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', '', '75.134.127.153', '2017-07-06 20:56:24', '2017-07-07 00:56:24', 'Mary, I think it\'s sad that there are so many good articles that hit the sweet spot and they get a few weeks old and then a year old and they stay out there forever, but are forgotten - and new articles are written on the same topic, subject to the same cycle.  I will look you up on YouTube.', 0, '1', '', '', 13236, 0),
(13239, 26998, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimaginework.com/LCG', '71.225.206.170', '2017-07-06 21:41:12', '2017-07-07 01:41:12', 'Thanks again, Jane.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13240, 27035, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-10 13:46:07', '2015-08-10 17:46:07', 'Hi, Jane - thanks for a very insightful post on a subject near and dear to me.\n\nI enjoyed and found value in everything you shared, but I particularly liked the second paradox about inclusion and exclusion.   I have been part of any organization that approached diversity as a checklist:  every project had to have a certain mix of people based on their diversity, rather than on any special skill set or talent that person might offer.\n\nI once watched painfully as a promising young black employee was given responsibility and authority far beyond his current level of expertise, because our leadership team wanted to visibly support diversity in our management ranks.   This is a good goal and a proactive company wants to do exactly this ... but you have to support the person as they grow into the role, which would apply to anyone being developed as a leader.\n\nIn this situation, a vocal few were waiting for visible signs of uncertainty or lack of knowledge around the project which this person was given.  Unsurprisingly, with a lack of support, this \"evidence\" came fairly quickly.  The result:  One potentially gifted leader receives a shellacking, one organization loses a potentially powerful leader, and the worst cut of all was the resulting and lingering attitude that \"those people can\'t cut it\" ... sadly, to my knowledge, this organization still operates under this assumption, referring to this one incident as support for their reluctance to allow anyone non-male, non-white, and non-old into leadership.\n\nTo me, this is in the same ballpark as another complaint I have heard from those who are members of a group identified as a diversity goal.\n\nWhile leaders are sometimes more benign, we still generalize:  The first black management employee is asked to represent an entire group of diverse people, who happen to all be black.  The \"token\" woman on the leadership team is assumed to have certain feminine traits, perceptions, and inclinations, simply because of her sex.  I could go on, but the issue seems clear.  One is asked to speak for all.\n\nAs we try to create more diverse teams and workplaces, we sometimes lose track of the unique value of each individual.\n\nHowever, your contributions through this post and your continued championing of strong and diverse work teams may just change this:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13241, 27035, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-08-12 09:31:12', '2015-08-12 13:31:12', 'John,\n\nStories like yours just break my heart. They happen too often. They\'re unfair. They confirm bias. They\'re self-confirming and self-congratulatory, e.g. \"we tried it [interpretation:  good for us] and it didn\'t work [interpretation:  you folks are wrong].\" Ugh.\n\nAs I\'m a big fan of the meaning in Samuel Beckett\'s quote, \"Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better,\" I\'ll keep trying to make a dent in furthering diversity and inclusion!\n\nSo appreciate your support and kind words!\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 13240, 251),
(13242, 27038, 'Bonnie', 'bonmann@iquest.net', '', '99.242.171.85', '2015-08-07 20:07:36', '2015-08-08 00:07:36', 'I found your discussion of generational events interesting. I have always broken down the current workplace generations as: those who remember Pearl Harbor, those who remember the assassination of Pres. Kennedy, those who remember the Challenger Explosion and those who remember 9/11. I think the where were you when question that defines a generation also can be what shapes us as a group.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13243, 27038, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-07 22:24:41', '2015-08-08 02:24:41', 'Hi, Bonnie - thanks for commenting.\n\nThat was one of my points in a way.   While everyone who is alive and at least a certain age remembers these critical events, they don\'t all remember them in the same way.    For example, when 9/11 occurred, I was a middle-aged middle manager at a social services agency, while my two sons were both in their young adulthood (military age).  I did not experience personal fear duirng those first few days, but I was very scared for both of them, especially since I was afraid that they might do something premature in the excitement of the moment.\n\nIt\'s also interesting to revisit our earlier memories and concdeptions of a historical event and see how age changes our emotions and perception of what has happened.\n\nYou are absolutely right that these generational events shape us as a group, if you are talking about the generation to which you belong.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13244, 27038, 'Jon Mertz', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://www.thindifference.com', '108.198.25.12', '2015-08-09 12:46:42', '2015-08-09 16:46:42', 'John,\n\nIt is too easy to get caught up in generalizations. Agree with you completely! We need to understand context and, most importantly, we need to share experiences. No matter our age, we have something another person can learn from and become a stronger leader. By doing this, we will create a stronger future, no matter our generation.\n\nThanks for sparking a good conversation!\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 290),
(13245, 27038, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-10 12:11:55', '2015-08-10 16:11:55', 'Hi, Jon - thanks for commenting:)\n\nYou are right on regarding the value of sharing experiences.  Some of my most insightful moments have come while sharing and listening to others.  I find value both in the views of someone from a different generalizational grouping and from someone of my age (more or less) who has experienced life differently.\n\nA sidebar:  In other job, I spent a lot of time in and around residential facilities for older adults.  Being youngish and relatively active, I tended to disregard those older residents as caricatures.  At some point, our facilities started creating \"memory boards\" by the entrance to each person\'s apartment, which were filled with photographs and other memorabilia.\n\nThis served a dual purpose:  the immediate need was to help those whose mental capacities were diminishing to remember where they live, by putting familiar and important images by the entrance.  The \"uber\" result was that anyone passing by gained a much fuller and richer perception of those who dwelt within.\n\nWe were all reminded that we were looking at a life, full of events, meaning, and love ... not just a person who is at the end of the trail.  We were encouraged to ask and listen to stories that sometimes took my breath away.\n\nYou are right ... we all need to share and listen more often:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13246, 27038, 'Jon Mertz', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://www.thindifference.com', '72.48.93.4', '2015-08-11 18:21:19', '2015-08-11 22:21:19', 'John,\n\nI love what you did with the memory boards. What a great way to create a visual story of all the good work done. We should do this more in our workplaces, too.\n\nThanks!\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 13245, 0),
(13247, 27055, 'Mick Ukleja', 'mick@leadershiptraq.com', 'http://www.leadershiptraq.com', '100.9.226.46', '2015-08-12 02:42:33', '2015-08-12 06:42:33', 'Jon.  I like your approach.  Finding your purpose starts by living a life of purpose.  As we serve our families, networks, and communities, our purpose will begin to surface.  It\'s like passion.  Some people look for their passion as though it\'s a gold nugget buried in some river bank.  The better idea?  Get passionate!  Whatever is in front of you this day, please be passionate about your involvement with it.  The result?  Your passion becomes more clear.  And so does your purpose.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13248, 27055, 'Jon Mertz', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://www.thindifference.com', '108.198.25.12', '2015-08-13 07:32:07', '2015-08-13 11:32:07', 'Mick,\n\nAgree! Living and leading with clarity of purpose can make all the difference. Although challenging when clutter arrives, we need to remember to do the work, remove the clutter, and keep moving forward.\n\nThanks!\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 13247, 0),
(13249, 27055, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-13 12:16:40', '2015-08-13 16:16:40', 'Hi, Jon - excellent post on a very important topic.\n\nI liked everything you had to say, but the thing that really struck me as key was your first point:  \"Do the work\", because you slip that thing in about finding your purpose.\n\nToo often, we seem to be heavily engaged in doing the work without pondering why we are doing it or if the work we are so wrapped up in is what we ought to be placing our energy toward.  I remember early in my career trying hard to be a \"good trooper\", so I would accept all assignments without much in the way of questions, put my head down, and charge forward.\n\nGood reminder that it\'s not just about doing, but about being, dare I say, mindful about what we are doing:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13250, 27055, 'Jon Mertz', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://www.thindifference.com', '108.198.25.12', '2015-08-13 22:26:36', '2015-08-14 02:26:36', 'Such a key point, John. We cannot afford to do the work mindlessly. However, at times, we may dread doing something that is coming up. When we start doing the work, we realize something we enjoy. Mindfulness and self-awareness play a big role in tapping into where we find joy and purpose. We need to position ourselves to experience these new opportunities and possibly catch a soul spark.\n\nThanks for jumping into the conversation. Your perspective is key! Jon', 0, '1', '', '', 13249, 0),
(13251, 27064, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-13 12:33:45', '2015-08-13 16:33:45', 'Hi, Karin  - great post:)\n\nAs soon as I started reading, I immediately thought of my most impacting early experience presenting to senior folks:  As a shiny new company-grade US Army officer briefing field-grade (higher rank) and even general officers (higher still).\n\nAlmost everything on your list applies seamlessly to my experience - you have really created a solid and comprehensive listing of what someone needs to consider and learn if they expect to be taken seriously when talking to senior staff, whether in or out of uniform.\n\nI did have to smile at the one point about keeping your slides clean.  I am personally a big fan of the one-word or short phrase with an engaging visual on each screen approach and cringe noticeably when I see a slide full of data or, worst-case scenario, a spread sheet.\n\nHowever, I have found that those among us who value data (in DISC language, High C\'s) find letting go of the need to share it all difficult.  I wonder if they are just unable to convieve that someone else might not want or need access to all the facts, figures, and data that they consider essential for decision-making or whether they are used reluctant to change their traditional approach to sharing.\n\nWhat experiences have you had with this?\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13252, 27108, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-08-14 09:02:44', '2015-08-14 13:02:44', 'Happy birthday, John! And, great post today.\n\nI can relate to much of what you describe. I typically score as an introvert on MBTI, but recently crossed the line by 5 points to the E side of the continuum for the first time in my life. I remember long ago an MBTI expert telling me that no matter how your scores shift, look for the description of the \"type\" you relate to the most. So I claim INFP no matter what.\n\nBack when I related more to introversion (apparently), people were shocked to find that I was a comfortable public speaker and not \"shy,\" like you described. Once while conducting a training class and going through everyone\'s results, I finally revealed my own type and one of my participants said, \"I didn\'t know introverts could lead (a class in this case).\"\n\nYipes. I clearly understood how careful we have to be in making false assumptions about our \"opposites.\" You said it well here:\n\n\"As leaders, we need to consider this aspect of workplace collaboration intentionally and with a view to making sure that everyone on our teams has knowledge of their own preferences, others’ perceptions, and how to make all this work for us, rather than against us.\"\n\nThanks John for such a great birthday post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13253, 27108, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-08-14 09:18:15', '2015-08-14 13:18:15', 'Oh, and one more thing... I\'m reminded of the study Adam Grant of the Wharton School has done in this area. See this link on his use of the term, \"ambivert\": http://www.forbes.com/sites/daviddisalvo/2013/04/10/move-over-extroverts-here-come-the-ambiverts/\n\nAdam also wrote \"GIve and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13254, 27108, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-14 15:48:48', '2015-08-14 19:48:48', 'Hi, Mary\n\nThanks for the encouragement and sharing ... we are sitting \"in the same pew\", as some say.\n\nThe misconceptions do abound.  My information tells me that the ratio of extroverts to introverts is around 3 to 1 in the general population.  If so, that makes us a misunderstood minority.\n\nThanks also for reminding me of the interesting work of Grant and others around the idea of \"Ambiverts\" ... I sort of like this concept:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13255, 27108, 'Jennifer Kahnweiler', 'jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com', 'http://www.jenniferkahnweiler.com', '71.59.7.156', '2015-08-16 12:54:42', '2015-08-16 16:54:42', 'Thanks for the great post John and your comments Mary! So many great quotes here:\"As leaders, we need to consider this aspect of workplace collaboration intentionally and with a view to making sure that everyone on our teams has knowledge of their own preferences, others’ perceptions, and how to make all this work for us, rather than against us.\" Mary - I love that you still identify as an introvert because if you think you are, you are, right? I think that it is about what behaviors work for us and what don\'t as leaders. Most people are not extremely introverted or extroverted but show a slight preference one way or the other. It seems to be more about needing your quiet time and recharging space. Wonder if that is true for you - that it is a \"must have.\"Thanks for weighing in - Book launch is tomorrow so we are looking forward to even more dialogue here and around the web! Thanks for starting it off so provocatively and Happy Birthday!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13256, 27108, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-17 13:18:59', '2015-08-17 17:18:59', 'Thanks, Jennifer - appreciate your comments and expansion of our thoughts.\n\nBest wishes for a most successful book launch:)!\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13257, 27130, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-17 13:26:50', '2015-08-17 17:26:50', 'Hi, Scott\n\nGreat post and I have shared it with my larger audience, because the quest to become and stay authentic is worthin sharing over and over.  As you wisely note, \"one slip\" can overcome years of hard work being authentic.\n\nI don\'t know of anything to add to your comprehensive code, but I will observe that this is not rocket science, but common-sense wisdom about how to treat others in the workplace and everywhere else, for that matter.\n\nI wonder sometimes why this topic needs to be revisited so often.  Most of the folks I know in leadership development talk regularly about some aspect or another of this, indicating general agreement that authenticity is both important and in need of continuing focus.\n\nAt any rate, you have done a bang-up job of keeping us focused on the really important stuff and I thank you kindly for doing so in such a clear and uniequivocal way.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13258, 27148, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-19 12:32:09', '2015-08-19 16:32:09', 'Hi, Kelli - great post:)\n\nYou have nicely summarized three very important and realistic aspects of successful alignment and I appreciate the clear way in which you outline each.\n\nI love your phrase \" patiently persistent\" because it creates a very positive but focused image of someone politely but tirelessly working to create something of value:).\n\nI don\'t have anything to add, but I am really looking forward to part II:) ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13259, 27148, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-08-21 08:30:48', '2015-08-21 12:30:48', 'Nice job, Kelli! I like the way you introduce your article by throwing the onus on ourselves to assure our project is aligned with corporate vision and that we are taking ownership of communicating, assessing, and promoting while considering, not our own agenda, but in alignment with the organizational goals.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13260, 27150, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2015-08-18 10:27:14', '2015-08-18 14:27:14', 'Watership Down - what a great backdrop for a leadership lesson, Chip!\n\nTo answer your question: What lessons would you say a manager could learn from leading in the wild? I would say, \"Pay attention.\" Pay attention to the direction of the wind. Should you adjust your plan because of shifting winds? What do you see on the horizon? What potential pitfalls do you need to avoid?\n\nIn the context of Watership Down, the rabbits remained vigilant (paid attention) throughout their journey to reach their eventual goal. Again, great job, Chip.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13261, 27150, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-18 11:30:19', '2015-08-18 15:30:19', 'Hi, Chip - great post\n\nI enjoyed your \"Watership Down\" framework for understanding the change in our workplace and leadership orientation.  This is a clear way to convey the challenges which exist for leaders as we continue to move from a \"cage\" orientation to a \"wild\" orientation.\n\nThe only thing I can offer is the observation that, for many of us, moving from the cage to the wild is more difficult than we thought.   I have been exposed to the evolving idea of moving from the mechanistic theory-ruled world of work to this fresher and more exciting environment for decades and on an intellectual level, wholeheartedly embrace what I see as not just \"new\", but also \"better\".\n\nHowever, I find myself slipping into the old thought patterns from time to time, worrying about taking risks, and sometimes just wishing everything would stop changing so rapidly.\n\n... and if I am doing this, how must other leaders and managers who have not  been as exposed to how things are changing be handling this?   I think those of us who are engaged and spending energy on understanding and living into the brave new management world sometimes forget that many of our colleagues have worked and continue to work in environments still ruled by \"cage\" mentality.  Everyone is not at the same point.\n\nI believe this is a challenge  with which those of us interested in leadership change should grapple.  Your post today and your writing in general helps keep us on track and focused - thanks:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13262, 27150, 'Elton J Colbert', 'eltonjcolbert@gmail.com', 'https://eltonjcolbert.wordpress.com/', '99.148.190.81', '2015-08-19 01:11:44', '2015-08-19 05:11:44', 'Chip, the closing comment \"Leadership today is about achieving an honorable collective purpose while building a better society.\" wraps it up very succinctly. What becomes of that is equally important. That we are, in our leadership, creating leaders. The more of those \"rabbits\" we can send out to achieve the above the better. We can measure success not just by how many grasped what we\'re trying to do, what we\'re talking about, but also by those who rabbits who go out and tell stories of their own. Great read, thanks Chip!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13263, 27178, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-21 08:11:45', '2015-08-21 12:11:45', 'Hi, Sharon:)\n\nFirst, let me say I am very impressed with both you and your daughter.\n\nSecond, this is a well-written and valuable post on an important aspect of leadership.\n\nYour story about the artist who invites criticism (in the useful sense) of his work really struck a chord with me.   I think that a person\'s perspective on criticism is very critical to understanding how confidence comes to one.\n\nI know from teaching critical thinking that many folks seem to have a certain perception of criticism - one linked closely to negative fault-finding and confrontational conversations.\n\nGood teachers, coaches, trainers, and managers who seek to help others have probably developed a view of criticism as fact-based, objective, and comprehensive - in other words, focused on helping a person understand wholly without invoking the negative emotions that we generically associate with criticism.\n\nArticulate voices like yours help us move toward the more positive and inclusive understanding of what is a very important part of anyone\'s leadership development journey.\n\nAbout \"fear of failure\", I think our society overemphasizes \"winning\" as the goal and only acceptable outcome.   We praise that single-minded focus on \"being the best by beating the rest\", which leaves no room for collaboration and sharing.  Everyone is everyone else\'s enemy and to be viewed with distrust.  This is an environment in which it is harder to fail, because society does not reward failure.\n\nI have worked in organizations where the CEO says \"We learn from our failures\", but then continues to manage people based on rewards for victories and punishment for failures.  I question what is being learned in such environments.\n\nThanks for sparking my thinking (and a quick trip down memory lane) this morning:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13264, 27178, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-08-21 08:12:31', '2015-08-21 12:12:31', 'This post resonated with me, Sharon. I could relate to Shaun right away. When I started doing some writing at work, the first thing I had to overcome was the fear of failure which was an enhanced version of constant criticism. When writing technical documentation what seems precise to one person reads more like charades to someone else.  I had to change my mindset to expect change, expect critique, and to expect to rewrite even text that seemed very succinct to me.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13265, 27178, 'Sharon Reed', 'sharon@sharonereed.com', 'http://www.sharonereed.me', '99.2.180.180', '2015-08-21 09:26:07', '2015-08-21 13:26:07', 'John, thank you so much for your thoughtful and thought-filled reply!\n\nI agree whole-heartedly that we live in a society where \'success\' is measured by external achievement, often defined as winning at all costs, with no margin for error or failure along the way. Yet paradoxically, from both an individual and organizational point of view, we are at a time in our economy when innovation is essential to remaining competitive -- and innovation not only requires a willingness to take risks and collaborate with others, but is often the result of constraint, failure and disruption along the way.\n\nTherein lies the paradox and challenge for all of us as leaders.\n\nThanks for elevating and expanding the dialogue, John. Much appreciated!', 0, '1', '', '', 13263, 0),
(13266, 27178, 'Sharon Reed', 'sharon@sharonereed.com', 'http://www.sharonereed.me', '99.2.180.180', '2015-08-21 09:34:16', '2015-08-21 13:34:16', 'Thanks for sharing your own experience, Jane. I agree that mindset can make a huge difference when it comes to accepting critique from others. Intentionality is key, and when we can shift from being reactive to reflective, we are already ten steps ahead (though it is often easier said than done)!\n\nAs I reflect reflect back, I shudder when I think about all of the times in the past I internalized another’s critique instead of seeing it for what it was — both an invitation to learn and a reflection of someone else’s value system, perspective and/or experience, not necessarily my own. Learning to trust myself instead of leaning into others’ approval has been an important element of my own leadership journey.', 0, '1', '', '', 13264, 0),
(13267, 27178, 'Julian', 'oliver.dodd83@googlemail.com', 'http:///www.huge-relief-fast.com', '91.84.95.126', '2015-08-22 05:31:14', '2015-08-22 09:31:14', 'Great post. Fear of failure often stops us in our tracks, and I like the sculptors response.\nWe should all take the attitude of open curiousity and a chance to know about ourselves more by welcoming critique rather than fearing it.\n\nThanks for posting', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13268, 27178, 'Sharon', 'sharon@sharonereed.com', 'http://www.sharonereed.me', '99.2.180.180', '2015-08-22 08:49:32', '2015-08-22 12:49:32', 'Thanks so much, Julian. I, too, love Shaun Cassidy\'s approach! By adopting a mindset of open curiosity, it takes us our of our ego and into a place of true learning.', 0, '1', '', '', 13267, 0),
(13269, 27178, 'nji philemon', 'philemonnji2000@gmail.com', 'http://coolestandnewgadgets.blogspot.com/', '41.205.6.241', '2015-08-22 10:38:12', '2015-08-22 14:38:12', 'Thank you for this post. I am encouraged. Being a young blooger I was afraid to fail. After reading this I am sure that my baby site, http://coolestandnewgadgets.blogspot.com/, will explode. I am soo so happy.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13270, 27178, 'Sharon Reed', 'sharon@sharonereed.com', '', '99.2.180.180', '2015-08-22 11:19:33', '2015-08-22 15:19:33', 'You\'re welcome. I am glad the post gave you encouragement and wish you all the best with your hope-filled blog site!', 0, '1', '', '', 13269, 377),
(13271, 27178, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '98.178.142.102', '2015-08-22 12:36:22', '2015-08-22 16:36:22', 'Sharon, thanks for the great post. I\'m most intrigued by the idea of embracing disruption. I don\'t often embrace disruption. If\' I\'m faced with criticism or critique or failure, I can choose to embrace the input. But I hadn\'t thought about embracing disruption. Challenging idea. Thanks! Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13272, 27178, 'Sharon Reed', 'sharon@sharonereed.com', '', '99.2.180.180', '2015-08-22 13:49:18', '2015-08-22 17:49:18', 'Thanks, Mike! Whether we invite disruption or not, we can alway choose how to respond to it, and in fact, some of the most innovative ideas often evolve in its wake. That said, embracing disruption and opening ourselves to a different outcome requires we first let go of attachment to what\'s known and familiar, and that part can admittedly be scary and difficult for all of us.\n\nAdopting a mindset of curiosity and learning to trust the process of life itself may not be a cure-all, but I\'ve definitely found they can help!', 0, '1', '', '', 13271, 377),
(13273, 27190, 'Allison A.', 'allison.adams@kimley-horn.com', '', '64.251.230.39', '2015-08-24 10:40:22', '2015-08-24 14:40:22', 'This is a great article!\nOutside of connecting some of our interns with each other or interns with upper level, mentor-like employees, I have not been as involved in connecting others yet. I have, however, been the recipient of this kind of management/networking structure, and it has been rewarding.\n\nMy company hosts trainings for large groups of employees, firm wide, and across various disciplines, who are at the same stage of their career. Together we experience training on how the company is run, the goals and vision of the company\'s future, and how to prepare for our own individual paths. The best part about these connections is knowing that we will all \"grow up\" in the firm together. It is so much easier and more motivating to solve problems on my own when I have personal connections to other departments. Even if my connection cannot help me, they will know better who to ask. I look forward to promoting and facilitating these types of connections in the future.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13274, 27190, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-24 13:46:12', '2015-08-24 17:46:12', 'Hi, Paul\n\nWhat a great little post to start our week off:)\n\nI have never read this idea of leader as host anywhere else.  Of course, this makes great sense, Paul.   If I were hosting a get-together at my house, I would do these thing naturally, considering them just what a good host does.\n\nYour points about cross-functional learning and \"exposing\" the hidden team members in our organizations are also gold.  Too often, we become so focused on our specific role, function, and group, we forget all the other folks who contribute and support.\n\nThe potential here by using your framework and excellent strategies for positive leadership interaction and true influence through building socially-based connections is significant.\n\nThanks for a useful start to our weekly leadership thinking fest.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13275, 27190, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.131.210', '2015-08-24 13:59:57', '2015-08-24 17:59:57', 'Really enjoyed this post, Paul!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13276, 27190, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '66.87.125.182', '2015-08-24 14:10:58', '2015-08-24 18:10:58', 'John, thanks you so much! I\'m glad the host analogy struck a chord, it just seems like a natural way to conduct connectedness, as you mentioned.\n\nAppreciate your enthusiasm and support as always!', 0, '1', '', '', 13274, 343),
(13277, 27190, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '66.87.125.182', '2015-08-24 14:11:47', '2015-08-24 18:11:47', 'Thank you Paula! Let\'s start Monday off with some energy and enthusiasm!', 0, '1', '', '', 13275, 343),
(13278, 27190, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.181.29.32', '2015-08-25 05:53:18', '2015-08-25 09:53:18', 'So glad this inspired you Alison! Keep promoting others and thread those connections through each day. Your organization will be stronger because of it.\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 13273, 343),
(13279, 27190, 'Jay Taber', 'jafafaa@aol.com', '', '107.77.90.117', '2015-08-27 10:03:33', '2015-08-27 14:03:33', 'Mr La Rue:\n\nIf there were more management personnel in every company like you, there would be higher moral and production, and managers would have nothing to do.  What a concept.  Unfortunately, most managers feel the need to micromanage there workforce reducing both production and moral\n\nHave you written a book about this management style???  If so, I\'d like to purchase it, I\'m sure it\'s a great read!  The I would make it mandatory reading for all employees.   If you haven\'t written a book on this, you should consider it.\n\nJay Taber', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13280, 27190, 'Lynn Hinderaker', 'lynn@lynnhinderaker.com', 'http://www.wowbiztv.com', '174.77.79.18', '2015-09-25 19:44:40', '2015-09-25 23:44:40', 'Paul is right...but he hasn\'t gone far enough with points 1 and 2....\n\nBusiness is a talk show! All talk shows have a host.\n\nThis is a usable metaphor. In fact, Fast Company magazine used this very idea as a cover story in 1999...placing David Letterman and Oprah Winfrey on the cover....discussing how informal conversations create vectors of influence...and that leaders understand that and encourage it.\n\nLeadership-as-host is good. \"Boundaryless\" connections are good. \"Business-as-talk show\" is great because it\'s so true.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13281, 27193, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-20 10:31:53', '2015-08-20 14:31:53', 'Hi, Sean - interesting post.\n\nNow I want to read your book to get the whole story (not that you were angling for that:).\n\nThe metaphor of engaging in an intense outdoor experience as a lens to view our business relationships is a good strategy and based on your post, you use it well.  I was particularly intrigued by two points you made:\n\n1)  Rapport and Relationships:   You mention that this is an area of struggle for many leaders and I agree.  I wonder whether we have done enough work in support of the model of servant leadership, which seems to nicely coincide with the idea of knowing your colleagues on a more personal level, rather than just at the business level.\n\nWhile some may see getting to know each other at work as a personal and optional activity, my experiences support your point:  Knowing people as individuals pays benefits.\n\n2)  Expectations and Encouragement:  Your comment about organizations using personality assessment caught my attention quickly ... a subject near and dear to me.  I believe strongly in the use of assessments, but not as much just to identify an individual\'s strengths and fit, but also to help everyone first understand each other\'s preferences (using DiSC language here) within their work group and organization, but also to create a culture where flexing in response to other\'s needs is valued.\n\nFor example, it is good to know that a particular person has strengths in providing clarity and organization (a high C in DiSC world) when their organizational role calls for those attributes, but it is also important to help that person flex and become more action-oriented and able to concisely report, rather than report in detail, when the situation or co-workers or the boss expects those qualities.\n\nJust thinking out loud ... enjoyed your post and I am looking forward to reading the book, even though I am NO shooter of rapids:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13282, 27193, 'Sean Glaze', 'sean@greatresultsteambuilding.com', 'http://www.greatresultsteambuilding.net', '98.219.51.148', '2015-08-20 20:58:30', '2015-08-21 00:58:30', 'John -\n\nThanks for your comments!\nThe servant leadership model is powerful - and I believe more connected organizations are more effective ones.\nPersonality types are helpful as well, as they provide an awareness so we can put our messages in the \"right envelope\" based on our teammate tendencies...\nLooking forward to your review of the book!\n\nSean', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13283, 27193, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-08-21 08:22:36', '2015-08-21 12:22:36', 'My interest was immediately piqued, Sean, first by the photo of white water rafting and next by your expertly grafting the traits of leadership into the responsibilities of rafters. When joining a rafting team for a day venture, you are thrown into the event with individuals you\'ve never seen before - and you will probably never see again. The key to getting safely down the river and having a fun excursion depends on all those things you pointed out. I think above all, having a why and having a relationship, regardless of the length of it, are two of the most important. For the next 4 hours or the next 40 years the end result depends on how well you work together.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13284, 27193, 'Sean Glaze', 'sean@greatresultsteambuilding.com', 'http://greatresultsteambuilding.net/', '168.9.35.22', '2015-08-21 08:47:44', '2015-08-21 12:47:44', 'Jane - grateful for your thoughts.\nYES! - connecting to a compelling common goal, and then connecting to each other, are the two vital parts of creating a cohesive team.  The last three \"ingredients\" all depend upon those first two, I think...', 0, '1', '', '', 13283, 380),
(13285, 27245, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-25 11:32:23', '2015-08-25 15:32:23', 'Hi, All - very interesting comments.\n\nAs someone who has used various incarnations of the DiSC model over the years, the idea of collaborating with others who approach work and relationships differently is a familiar one to me.\n\nI like the theme of flexing from your comfort zone or preferred style to more effectively work with someone who has a different style.  This seems to me to be the heart of truly making opposites a dynamite combination at work and everywhere else in life.\n\nHowever, I think that being able to flex one\'s style effectively requires a strong dose of humility (which some styles might describe as \"weak-kneedness:).  I remember one very useful experience where a certain VP refused to alter his preferred behaviors in any way ... not even a teeny bit ... to help his team work more effectively.  He even said \"I\'m just a D and they have to deal with that.\"\n\n(DiSC Note:  \"D\"s prefer to be in charge and is focused on results - not concerned particularly with relationships, but very task-focused.  Also often not concerned with details, but real interested in people doing what he or she tells them to do.)\n\nSo to nurture the ability to flex toward other\'s preferred behaviors, one has to first develop both trust and mutual respect.  If these two complimentary dynamics are present, I think the whole idea of working effectively with those who are not just like you becomes easier to accomplish.\n\nSide Note:  This contributes to a healthier and more diverse environment and culture within the organization as well.  Pretty much a \"win-win\", unless you are like my VP noted above:)\n\nGreat \"Chip Shot\" post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13286, 27245, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.131.210', '2015-08-25 12:22:19', '2015-08-25 16:22:19', 'Thanks for your keen observations, John!', 0, '1', '', '', 13285, 378),
(13287, 27254, 'Jane', 'Jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-08-26 10:17:59', '2015-08-26 14:17:59', 'This is a very relevant topic on many levels.  It touches on the personal and public, physical and emotional aspects of vulnerability and trust. There are so many variations of transparency at play in as many settings. I like the games idea. Your ideas are unique.  I think I could do the Paper Bag but it would take a lot of introspection to complete the life line. Great post, David Greer! And on the spur of the moment too. :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13288, 27254, 'Debra Jason', 'debra@writedirection.com', 'http://writedirection.com', '97.118.21.247', '2015-08-26 11:18:42', '2015-08-26 15:18:42', 'Thanks for sharing your vulnerability David. It\'s not easy to let our guard down, probably a bit more challenging in the workplace as one might fear what others think of them. Building trust is so important.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13289, 27254, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '71.19.182.34', '2015-08-26 12:33:35', '2015-08-26 16:33:35', 'I am glad that this post struck a chord for you Jane. The key to doing the life line exercise is to not do introspection. Instead, complete it in 5 minutes with those first things that come to your mind.', 0, '1', '', '', 13287, 386),
(13290, 27254, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '71.19.182.34', '2015-08-26 12:37:34', '2015-08-26 16:37:34', 'Hi Debra,\n\nGetting past our fear, especially in the workplace, is exactly what is needed to build the trust that will really let us pull together. Without trust the biggest issue is often left unsaid. We can\'t work on a problem we don\'t know about.\n\nIt is hard to be vulnerable. And worth it, both in our personal and business lives.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13288, 386),
(13291, 27254, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-26 13:21:20', '2015-08-26 17:21:20', 'Hi, David - appreciate the personal and open tone of this post.\n\nFirst, I hope your eyesight continues to improve and that you continue to display this remarkable attitude toward something that would be driving me crazy.\n\nSecond, what an impacting way to frame the message that we cannot truly know a person simply by looking at them.  Most of the really interesting things that make each of us a unique person is not visible, except by inference through our actions.  For example, those who have learned and practice humility do tend to behave differently than those who have not.\n\nI guess my group therapy facilitation experiences pay off here.  I have had more than my fair share of exercises, such as the great examples you share here, to help me become more open and motivated to dig beyond the obvious to learn about a person.  Your story reinforces that this is essential for building strong relationships and exhibiting true and authentic leadership.\n\nWhen words like \"trust\" and \"transparency\" come up in the comments, as they have here, you are reaching us on a very deep and essential level.\n\nThanks for a powerful midweek post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
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(13292, 27254, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '71.19.182.34', '2015-08-26 13:41:41', '2015-08-26 17:41:41', 'Hi John,\n\nThank you for your thoughtful response. Like you, I have some group therapy experience which has forced me to learn to share what is going on in my insides. The challenge is to bring that to the work environment in a way that people find approachable. My hope is that the two exercises I suggested is a way to do that.\n\nFor me, I need constant reminders to not judge people by just their actions or appearance. I need to be open to asking and listening to what is really going on for them. At least to the extent they are ready to share with me.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13291, 386),
(13293, 27263, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-08-27 10:11:04', '2015-08-27 14:11:04', 'Hi Leigh. Thank you so much for sharing the Dilts model, and crafting a story around it to help us understand. Very useful. I will be checking into it. Well done.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13294, 27263, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-27 13:39:25', '2015-08-27 17:39:25', 'Hi, Leigh:)\n\nYou are creating high expectations for quality blog posts here on Lead Change Group.\n\nI agree with your observation that organizations are often too slow to react to problematic performance.   I would guess we all have \"horror stories\" about working with someone who just needed to be somewhere, anywhere else, but those with the power to act, do not ... or if they do, act inappropriately, which does not resolve the issue.\n\nThe Logical Levels model is one I am somewhat familiar with from my coaching.  My training is the use of this model was more focused on helping an individual think through their issues, planning, and goal-setting in a more comprehensive way.  For example, as you pointed out, environmental changes do not address all the intangible issues which affect behavior.  Sometimes a person just thinks they need to change jobs and all will be well.\n\nOne of my favorite sayings applies here, I think:  \"No matter where you go, there you are.\" (attributed to Confucious, made popular by Buckaroo Banzai, also the basis of an entire book \"Wherever You Go, There You Are\" by Jon Kabat-Zinn).  Using logical levels is a useful tool to help the person focus and become mindful, identify what they are not thinking of, and a real help in comprehensive planning for success.\n\nYour application to managing people demonstrates the usefulness of this tool.\n\nYou also mentioned two other things I want to comment on:\n\n1) \"Who\'s responsibility is it to seek outside help?\"\n\nI think the employee should always take the primary role in seeking to improve their performance.  You can make a strong case that an employee who is not motivated to continually improve is a less valuable employee, regardless of their technical skills.  Of course, I would hope that any organization that is serious about supporting employee change will include coaches as both internal and external resources for all levels of employees, not just executives.\n\nYour comment about not investing months or years also caught my attention.  I think what too often happens is that clear and specific milestones for improvement are not incorporated into the employee\'s plan for improvement.  Organizations where people prefer to avoid confrontation and firm management may be reluctant to put a meter on an individuals performance, especially if that employee represents a significant investment for them.\n\nA clear time table with clear markers to be met does wonders here:)\n\nThanks for a very meaty post - like I said earlier, you are gaining a reputation here:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13295, 27263, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-08-28 09:12:17', '2015-08-28 13:12:17', 'This was a red light to me: \"So, you bring her in, share the feedback you’ve received, and ask if she is aware of the tension. She seems genuinely surprised, because in her view, things have been going smoothly.\"  Since transparency and honesty are the best ways to get to the root of a problem, Sally first has to acknowledge that she has been abrasive, arrogant, and impatient. If she doesn\'t see it she will have to have it pointed out to her at the time it\'s happening. What if the team members, who have been a team and comfortable with their style and habits, feel a little intimidated by a new person who brings new skills and insights to the table?\n\nOne option you mentioned is, \" If Sally stays and does not adjust her communication style, there’s an easy-to-anticipate set of consequences.\"  I think if Sally stays she will need to be agreeable to immediate feedback so she can evaluate whether she sees the need to modify her style or not. If not, then HR should provide resources to help in her job search because for whatever reason, her style is not going to blend well and it would be advantageous to the team and to her if Sally found happiness somewhere else.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13296, 27263, 'Leigh Steere', 'lsynthesis@aol.com', '', '63.227.125.9', '2015-08-28 10:10:19', '2015-08-28 14:10:19', 'Thanks, Mary!', 0, '1', '', '', 13293, 268),
(13297, 27263, 'Leigh Steere', 'lsynthesis@aol.com', '', '63.227.125.9', '2015-08-28 10:27:18', '2015-08-28 14:27:18', 'John, I really appreciate your comments. Having a clear time table with clear markers is crucial, and I\'m glad you pointed this out. Many employers struggle with how to set a clear improvement goal for a behavior, since behavior is hard to quantify. What are some examples you\'ve seen of effective ways to measure or observe behavioral improvement?', 0, '1', '', '', 13294, 268),
(13298, 27263, 'Leigh Steere', 'lsynthesis@aol.com', '', '63.227.125.9', '2015-08-28 10:40:49', '2015-08-28 14:40:49', 'Jane, you\'ve made several important points here:\n\n* Does Sally recognize the problem?\n* If not, is she able to \"see\" it with help?\n* If she\'s able to see it and \"own\" it, is she able to correct it quickly enough for the organization\'s needs?\n\nIf the answer is no to the second or third bullet, then it\'s time to discontinue the employment relationship.\n\nThanks for stopping by and adding your thoughts.', 0, '1', '', '', 13295, 268),
(13299, 27283, 'Duncan M.', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '95.76.171.184', '2015-08-28 06:14:36', '2015-08-28 10:14:36', 'Interacting with people who have different beliefs can be at least tricky, if not uncomfortable. However, in order to become smarter and wiser people it is a good idea to stop emphasizing \"I\" from time to time and to focus on \"You.\" There are some valuable lessons that wait to be revealed and the only way to achieve it is to be open minded.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13300, 27283, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-08-28 08:46:23', '2015-08-28 12:46:23', 'Can I just say that this is an awesome topic? I have been thinking a lot about this for several weeks. A certain event started the wheels in my mind, but there\'s one word we all need to learn from the inside out. Acceptance! I agree with all your points and I think my word is incorporated into what you\'ve said, but you asked what would we add.  I would add - Accept the differences. Hopefully as I accept differences in others, they will accept the differences in me. It\'s not a balanced world. As any scientist, even the Earth is tipped on it\'s axis. If you want one more word - tolerate while growing in acceptance.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13301, 27283, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-28 09:11:10', '2015-08-28 13:11:10', 'Hi, Duncan - thanks for responding:)\n\nYes ... focus on others rather than self.  This is a key element and not as easy to do as we might think.  I have actually completed several trainings in my life that involved focusing on others, but still struggle with doing so.  Somewhere in my brain is a little balding guy running around yelling \"Me ... Me ...Me\" loudly and repeatedly.\n\nThose with wisdom note that the best conversationalists are those who ask and listen, not those who talk.  In the same fashion, I think the best leaders, coaches, and educators are those who focus on the needs of others, and let their own egos fade into the background.\n\nAppreciate your comments:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 13299, 0),
(13302, 27283, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-28 09:15:44', '2015-08-28 13:15:44', 'Hi, Jane:)\n\nYou have blanket permission to say anything you want ... of course, that \"awesome\" comment is most welcome.\n\nNow you are really challenging us.  It\'s easy to be tolerant of others ... you simply only need to not outwardly respond negatively to whatever they are doing.  I practiced being tolerant with my adolescent children many times ... not saying anything and allowing them to be who they were at the moment, but not all that happy about it inside.\n\nTrue acceptance is hard, because you have to do this both outwardly and inwardly.    The word \"Namaste\" is useful here, because I believe it means something like \"The God in me recognizes the God in you\", or as the Na\'vi might say \"I see you\".\n\nSuperlative addition to the list:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 13300, 0),
(13303, 27283, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '166.137.244.122', '2015-08-28 09:43:50', '2015-08-28 13:43:50', 'John, I love this suggestion in particular: \"Create A Personal Growth Goal To Notice &amp; Change Your Behavior Toward Other.\" I think that I do that, but I\'m wondering how I can take it to yet another level.  Hmmmmm. You\'ve got me thinking. Which is the whole point. Thank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13304, 27283, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-28 10:05:12', '2015-08-28 14:05:12', 'Hi, Mary - thanks for commenting.\n\nYeah, you\'ll notice I did not get into details about that suggestion:)  Partly because I\'m not sure what I am doing is effective and partly because this is real \"personal\".  Each of us is coming from a unique perspective, and while many others may share parts of our perspective, we are ultimately all \"one of a kind\".\n\nBTW, I don\'t believe I got you thinking ... you strike me as a thinking machine that is always switched on:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 13303, 0),
(13305, 27283, 'Leigh Steere', 'lsynthesis@aol.com', '', '63.227.125.9', '2015-08-28 10:08:46', '2015-08-28 14:08:46', 'Such an important topic. Employers inadvertently get themselves into trouble with \"like me\" hiring. We tend to feel affinity toward people who are similar to us--and select those candidates over people who make us a feel a little uncomfortable. Instead of automatically moving away from the discomfort, we need to examine where it\'s coming from. Often, it\'s a signal that we have an internal bias. Thanks for this post.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 268),
(13306, 27283, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-28 11:17:40', '2015-08-28 15:17:40', 'Hi, Leigh:)\n\nExcellent observation about an ongoing issue for managers and organizations.  We do indeed gravitate to those who are like us, due to both comfort-seeking and a very basic human desire to connect, which is easiest when the person resembles me:)\n\nThis is so subtle sometimes that we are not even aware of it.  Your advice to examine the discomfort over those who are not like us is essential to understanding this and changing that internal bias.\n\nAs we continue to explore the relationship between intuition (gut instinct) and formal learning, the idea of internal bias is central.  A person may say of a hiring decision \"I can\'t put my finger on it, but I just like candidate A better\", which can be indicative of an positive bias of some kind or just a prejudice in favor of certain types of folks.\n\nIntuition can be powerful, but not without the kind of introspection beforehand that you advise, so we are sure that our intuition is taking all into account, and not just our personal preferences.\n\nThanks so much for responding:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13307, 27283, 'Julian', 'oliver.dodd83@googlemail.com', 'http://www.huge-relief-fast.com', '109.176.209.69', '2015-08-29 07:58:35', '2015-08-29 11:58:35', 'Good article, but you have to be careful who you hang out with.\n\nIf you hang out with people who are too negative, whilst you may grow spiritually (i.e. learning how to practice midfulness near them so they don\'t infulence you too much), you won\'t be growing too much as a person, as some of your energy is being sucked away (in my experience).\nBut I do agree that some contrast in personalities is useful for general growth and learning to appreciate differences.\n\nThanks for posting', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13308, 27283, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-29 09:43:02', '2015-08-29 13:43:02', 'Hi, Julian - thanks for commenting.\n\nCould not agree more that we all need to choose carefully who we associate with.\n\nOf course, some folks that appear to be much like me would fall into that negative category, while others who appear to have little in common may be very optimistic and have much to offer.\n\nIf one needs to practice mindfulness just to cope with being around a certain person, that is definitely a strong sign that a change is needed.\n\nMy point is that when we look for others with whom to associate, we should not automatically restrict ourselves or eliminate someone from consideration simply because they appear different.\n\nIn my line of work, being around someone who is negative might be considered a challenge for me to model positive behavior and influence that other toward more positive behavior through carefully-chosen questions and listening.\n\nAppreciate your contribution:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 13307, 0),
(13309, 27307, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-31 09:51:17', '2015-08-31 13:51:17', 'Hi, Mike:)\n\nExcellent list with some very pithy, thought-provoking, and quotable statements, such as \"We don’t have to be taught, but we do have to learn.\"  In one short sentence, you have given us clarity about where the responsibility for growth lies and reinforced an essential skill for everyone.\n\nI honestly cannot think of anything to add, even though each of your points is worth a chapter in a leadership text all to itself.  I\'m just going to share these pearls as much as I can, so others benefit from your insight.\n\nThanks for a rousing start to our leadership journey this week:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13310, 27307, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.118', '2015-08-31 11:56:22', '2015-08-31 15:56:22', 'Thanks for the encouragement John. I appreciate your comments. We are actually running these 6 points as a post series on http://mikehenrysr.com.  Thanks for sharing too!', 0, '1', '', '', 13309, 243),
(13311, 27307, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://randomactsofleadership.com', '69.247.236.21', '2015-09-02 08:18:07', '2015-09-02 12:18:07', 'Very insightful Mike as well as powerful in its simplicity as John pointed out.\n\nOne I can think to add is Let Go.  I could often anticipate what was going to break down and spent far too much energy \"putting my finger in the dyke\".  It was exhausting!  The real problem was nothing got learned and nothing really changed for the better.  I had to learn to let things get messy sometimes and instead of trying to prevent the mess or the breakdown I had to let go enough to empower others to step up and lead.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13312, 27307, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.118', '2015-09-02 16:07:54', '2015-09-02 20:07:54', 'Thanks very much Susan. I appreciate the addition.  Sounds like a song I heard somewhere... :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 13311, 243),
(13313, 27307, 'Dave Land', 'daveland2510@gmail.com', '', '73.153.88.42', '2015-11-17 19:41:55', '2015-11-18 00:41:55', 'Hi Mike,\n\nI enjoyed reading your thoughts in regards to successfully leading change through the adjustment of attitudes. This reminds me of the story of the Pike Place Fish Market and how it has become a wonderful tourist attraction. When John Yokohama purchased the market, employee morale was low and the production matched. The previous owner used a fear-based management style which led to negative attitudes from employees and a high turnover rate. Yokohama got together with the remaining employees and they worked together to come up with a plan to improve the work conditions and ultimately save the business. His idea was to encourage his employees to have fun with their jobs, and wanted them to be themselves while at work. His changes quickly took hold and morale boosted. As they say the rest was history.\n\nBy listening, and actively engaging with his employees, he was able to influence the attitudes and become the best leader he could be.\n\nIn 1955 clinical psychologist George Kelly released his findings on the personal constructs of people. He found that each individual looks at the world through his or her own unique set of perceived notions. These constructs change and adapt as the individual is exposed to new and different situations. By changing your attitude as a leader and adjusting based on the workforce, you are setting yourself up for success in the future.\n\nThanks again, I enjoyed your post.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13314, 27326, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-01 11:23:29', '2015-09-01 15:23:29', 'Hi, Margy:)\n\nThanks for the enthusiastic and informative post about Cheryl\'s website and resources.\n\nLike you, I was blown away by Cheryl\'s story and after reading her book \"Dare to Lead\", was even more impressed with her leadership style and vision.    Her book is now one of my  \"handbooks\", which means I keep it, along with a small number of other titles, literally within hand\'s reach of me as I work.\n\nI will be checking out her site for more information, but you have already whetted my appetite for the valuable resources I will find.  I have already participated in the 40-week Leadership Challenge and it is, as you stated, bite-sized, but nutritious learning:).\n\nIn reading Cheryl\'s book and her weekly emails, I detected a strong sense of servant leadership in Cheryl\'s thinking, along with a healthy dose of humility.  I think that her service to us in generously providing such resources just reinforces that perception.\n\nThanks for sharing:)\n\nJohn\ns', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13315, 27326, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-01 11:25:38', '2015-09-01 15:25:38', 'BTW:  Love Popeye\'s chicken too:)   It\'s a toss-up between Cheryl\'s chicken and Mark MIller\'s Chick-Fil-A yummies, both served wtih distinction.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13316, 27326, 'Margy Kerr-Jarrett', 'margy@weavinginfluence.com', '', '82.166.22.109', '2015-09-01 11:45:57', '2015-09-01 15:45:57', 'Hi John! Thanks for your comment. I am so glad you found the post helpful. I really like how you point out the \"healthy\" balance between servant leadership and humility--I think those two (should) definitely go together like chicken and BBQ sauce ;)', 0, '1', '', '', 13315, 399),
(13317, 27369, 'Margy Kerr-Jarrett', 'margy@weavinginfluence.com', '', '82.166.22.109', '2015-09-02 09:35:47', '2015-09-02 13:35:47', 'I loved this post, Leo! I did once have an employer who would always grunt and groan when doing payroll, as if I should feel guilty about getting paid! This made the entire work environment sour, as I always felt like I \"owed\" something to my employer (besides a 40-hour workweek!).\n\nI really like how you focus here on how an employee is an investment, not just part of a money exchange. Thank Gd I don\'t have that problem anymore, now that I work for Weaving Influence :)\n\nWelcome to our group!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 399),
(13318, 27369, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.131.210', '2015-09-02 11:13:21', '2015-09-02 15:13:21', 'Hi Leo, welcome to the Lead Change Community. I loved the visual of the farmer \"yelling at the corn.\" I\'ve definitely been in environments like that!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13319, 27369, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2015-09-02 11:44:12', '2015-09-02 15:44:12', 'You are speaking my language, Leo!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13320, 27369, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-02 19:38:57', '2015-09-02 23:38:57', 'Hi, Leo - interesting post.\n\nLike others commenting. I can easily endorse your main point that money spent on employees should be considered an investment ... and money spent wisely on those employees makes a very good investment:)\n\nLooking forward to reading your book, based on this little taste of your style.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13321, 27369, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.181.29.32', '2015-09-03 06:11:08', '2015-09-03 10:11:08', 'Leo, I appreciate your post and how you\'ve cut to the quick here. Many organizations don\'t think of, as Mary Schaefer puts it, their resources as being \"human\", but more of a commodity to be leveraged. When an attitude like that persists, deterioration and disengagement ensue.\n\nI agree, payroll is an investment, and so is training and developing your people. Shortchange this and you\'ll shortchange the water and food that the corn in the field need to grow. It\'s amazing to see leadership blame staff for issues that the leadership caused by restricting the very resources the staff needs.\n\nGreat post Leo, and welcome to Lead Change!\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13322, 27369, 'Leo Hamblin', 'leohamblin@gmail.com', 'http://leohamblin.com/', '172.56.30.132', '2015-09-04 11:22:30', '2015-09-04 15:22:30', 'Great point! I\'ve found it common for bosses to make you feel they are doing you a favor by paying you money for the work you\'ve done, when that was the deal when they hired you. It should be a mutually beneficial exchange, both happy.\n\nThe reason they hired you was to get work done, and the reason you produced results was to receive money. It\'s so blatantly obvious, it\'s shocking that it must be pointed out.\n\nThank you for your comment Margy. I\'m excited about being a part of this group!', 0, '1', '', '', 13317, 400),
(13323, 27369, 'Leo Hamblin', 'leohamblin@gmail.com', 'http://leohamblin.com/', '172.56.30.132', '2015-09-04 11:30:59', '2015-09-04 15:30:59', 'I\'m glad you enjoyed the farmer analogy, I try to keep these leadership perspectives simple for everyone to understand. I explain in a little more detail in my book about the farmer and his corn. Thinking about the contrast between the calm farmer and the yelling boss makes me laugh. I believe the farmer would be amused if someone suggested he would produce more corn per stock,  by neglecting and yelling at his corn. :)\n\nThank you Paula!', 0, '1', '', '', 13318, 400),
(13324, 27369, 'Leo Hamblin', 'leohamblin@gmail.com', 'http://leohamblin.com/', '172.56.30.132', '2015-09-04 11:31:21', '2015-09-04 15:31:21', 'Thank  you Mary!', 0, '1', '', '', 13319, 400),
(13325, 27369, 'Leo Hamblin', 'leohamblin@gmail.com', 'http://leohamblin.com/', '172.56.30.132', '2015-09-04 11:39:13', '2015-09-04 15:39:13', 'I agree, \"money spent wisely\" on employees. Once the leader changes their perspective that an employee is an asset, an investment their actions should change. One of the first, as a manager, should be to begin measuring the input and output of the employee. Investing time, money, training, tools and assessing their skill-set in order to place them in the right spot to get the most out of them.\n\nI\'ve found people are happiest when they are part of a great team, have the best tools, are doing something they enjoy and being highly productive.\n\nThank you John!', 0, '1', '', '', 13320, 400),
(13326, 27369, 'Leo Hamblin', 'leohamblin@gmail.com', 'http://leohamblin.com/', '172.56.30.132', '2015-09-04 11:44:49', '2015-09-04 15:44:49', 'It always amuses me to hear management complain about problems they created by their attitudes and policies. Yet they rarely come to the conclusion that the solution would be to change their perspectives that drive their actions.\n\nThank you Paul, this is going to be fun to be a part of Lead Change!', 0, '1', '', '', 13321, 400),
(13327, 27369, 'jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-09-08 11:11:58', '2015-09-08 15:11:58', 'I really liked this Leo. I have to admit that even though I have worked in about 30 places in my lifetime, I never thought about payroll and burden in the same sentence. You make some good points about the impact leadership has on the organization. I like the term investment that you mentioned. When we spend, it\'s gone. When we invest, it grows.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13328, 27132, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-04 09:03:21', '2015-09-04 13:03:21', 'Hi, Scott - another interesting and useful post:)\n\nI have had my self-confidence dented, smashed, and ground into little bitty bits on various occasions in my working and personal life.  If I am completely honest, I have also done more than my fair share of denting, smashing, and grinding in this respect.  You are correct that this is unfortunately a common experience for all of us.\n\nI think your list of leader behaviors and attitudes is comprehensive and valuable - one of those things we print out and tape to our bathroom mirror to remind us how to relate to each other every day.\n\nI would comment that this self-confidence thing has another component:  Ourselves.\n\nSince self-confidence has to do with self-concept, it is ultimately an internal phenomena that exists in our brain.  As Eleanor Roosevelt apparently said \"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent\".   Given this, we have to factor in our own responsibilities in this regard.\n\nEgo plays a role from the manager\'s or leader\'s behavior here, but it can also set us up for being \"dented\".  I think your point 5 addresses this very directly.\n\nEnjoyed this post, which made me think this morning, which is what we are all after:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13329, 27132, 'Reginald Chan', 'reginald@editorialsumo.com', 'http://EditorialSumo.com', '103.1.71.170', '2015-09-04 10:05:08', '2015-09-04 14:05:08', 'Hi Scott,\n\nI totally agree with \"Plant Seeds Of Growth\". For me (as a manager), it is always important to guide your team and make them feel confidence with themselves.\n\nOf course, you need to be there, stand by their side and encourage them to go for it!\n\nGood job and well written by the way!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13330, 27132, 'Cassandra Ferguson', 'admin@cassandraferguson.com', 'http://www.cassandraferguson.com', '162.129.251.29', '2015-09-04 10:52:09', '2015-09-04 14:52:09', 'Wow! This post is confirmation on a  conversation I was having this morning with my husband.\n\nI to have been in a place where I was walking along enjoying what I was doing and here comes that insecure person crushing my confidence. This was a great lesson and my life that caused me to see the importance of encouragement.\n  Thank you so much for this amazing post that I will share with my family and friends.\n\nCassandra Ferguson', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13331, 27132, 'Cassandra Ferguson', 'admin@cassandraferguson.com', 'http://www.cassandraferguson.com', '162.129.251.29', '2015-09-04 10:53:31', '2015-09-04 14:53:31', 'Love you it John,so true!!\n\nCassandra Ferguson', 0, '1', '', '', 13328, 0),
(13332, 27132, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2015-09-04 19:33:38', '2015-09-04 23:33:38', 'Thx so much for your comment Cassandra.  Indeed, we cannot let the insecurities of someone else breed new ones in ourselves.  I\'m glad my post may have been of some small use to you.\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 13330, 0),
(13333, 27132, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2015-09-04 19:37:04', '2015-09-04 23:37:04', 'Simply outstanding point John.  We also must hold ourselves accountable for the self-perceptions we allow.  Thanks so much for taking the time to craft such a thoughtful, and thought provoking, response.', 0, '1', '', '', 13328, 0),
(13334, 27132, 'Julian', 'oliver.dodd83@googlemail.com', 'http://www.huge-relief-fast.com', '87.114.39.176', '2015-09-06 10:50:52', '2015-09-06 14:50:52', 'This is a good article, and I do agree with most of the points, but in my experience the job is too busy, there is simply not enough time for praise or positive feedback.\nOnly recently am I changing my beliefs (after having them for many years) so that my self-value and confidence isn\'t eroded when someone criticizes me or gives me negative feedback.\n\nThanks for posting', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13335, 27132, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2015-09-06 11:53:49', '2015-09-06 15:53:49', 'Thx Julian for your response.  Time is quite often the mortal enemy of the efforts it takes to praise and build up others.  It is magnified when we don\'t receive enough praise ourselves; we wonder \"I\'m not getting praised, it\'s apparent I don\'t need to take the time to do this for others - it\'s obviously not valued.\"\nThx for your willingness to begin the journey of shifting your point of view on this, as it is fundamental to sustaining motiavtion over the long haul.', 0, '1', '', '', 13334, 0),
(13336, 27132, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2015-09-11 21:05:30', '2015-09-12 01:05:30', 'Thx so much for the support Reginald, I couldn\'t agree with you more - you have to be right there with them and \"give them permission\" to go for it!\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 13329, 0),
(13337, 27134, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-02 10:21:21', '2015-10-02 14:21:21', 'Hi, Scott:\n\nI have no fourth question to add, but I really enjoyed reading this post.\n\nI was particularly struck (and a little embarrassed) to read this observation:  \"A desire to exhaustively cover every angle leads to work that ultimately is done without a useful purpose.\"  As a recovering \"perfectionist\", I have been guily of driving myself and others to the level of absurdity at times over covering every little point.\n\nI put \"perfectionist\" in quotes because, although many use this as a seemingly positive way to describe themselves, this type of behavior is just obsessive and not usually about perfection, but rather comes from a deeper place of insecurity within us ... or at least, that how it worked for me.\n\nAll three of your questions are valid and powerful, but number 2 really hit the mark for me:).   I wish I had back all the time I have spent over my personal and professional life exerting massive effort for something that, in the end, was not worth anywhere near that level of exertion.\n\nThanks for the very useful post, whichI am sharing with my world, because we all need to consider this aspect of our lives.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13338, 27134, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2015-10-02 19:59:14', '2015-10-02 23:59:14', 'John - thx for the thoughtful response.  And no worries, we all have a little perfectionist in us.  Key is to have the net impact be more productive than wasteful when all is said and done!\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13339, 27331, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-03 06:26:33', '2015-09-03 10:26:33', 'Hi, Paula:)\n\nGreat theme this month and I am really looking forward to reading the new book by Karen and Henry Kimsey-House.  They have been on my radar for years due to an earlier title \"Co-Active Coaching\" which is a well-regarded book in the coaching field.\n\nI think most of us with LCG will find much of value in \"Co-Active Leadership\" - in a very real sense, this is preaching to the choir.  Their view of leadership includes the idea that everyone is a leader and that certainly is one of the underlying themes of LCG - leadership is not dependent on a title or position, but comes through what an individual chooses to do in a context or situation.\n\nI had to smile at the \"Blurry Life Boundaries\" phrase, since much of my early work life included more than my fair share of blurring those boundaries.   I could give you contact information for my first few bosses and they would have stories about how they managed ME through some very blurry situations:)\n\nHopefully I will have some experiences to share on this theme which others might find valuable.\n\nLooking forward to this month\'s theme and responses:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13340, 27331, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.131.210', '2015-09-03 09:39:31', '2015-09-03 13:39:31', 'Thank you, John! I agree this is (in a way) preaching to the choir. Hopefully it will make us all double check to make sure we haven\'t gotten \"out of tune\"! :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13341, 27331, 'jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-09-08 10:53:04', '2015-09-08 14:53:04', 'I\'m looking forward to reading what Leading Voices, Instigators, and Members have to say on this topic. My life is blurrier now than it has ever been - well since crossing the threshold into adulthood anyway.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13342, 27331, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.131.210', '2015-09-08 10:55:46', '2015-09-08 14:55:46', 'I definitely don\'t think you are alone in that feeling! Should be a great prompt for the month!', 0, '1', '', '', 13341, 0),
(13343, 27345, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-11 08:48:35', '2015-09-11 12:48:35', 'HI, Mary - great post and way too close to home:)\n\nThe big take-away for me in your thoughts was that when we promise something to someone else, we always have a choice about how we handle not filling that promise:\n\n1)  We can frame our actions in relation to the other person - such as saying \"They don\'t really care if I do this now or later.\"  As you wisely point out, our credibility in their eyes is diminished when we do not do what we said we would do when we said we would do it.\n\n2) We can consider ourselves as the barometers for the results from not keeping our promises - thinking in terms of our own self-credibility (If that is actually a word) and making our case based on our own sense of integrity.\n\nOld and very useful saying:  \"The true test of a man\'s (or woman\'s) character is what he does when no one is watching.\" (John Wooden)   I think this applies here, because ultimately our sense of integrity comes from within.  It is not something granted by others, although they will judge the quality of our integrity.\n\nA thought about observable behavior:  Everyone else can see what you do, but only you can see what is in your heart.\n\nI am a big fan of doing the right thing at the right time ... for the right reason.\n\nLoved this post - thanks for starting my day off with some solid leadership thinking!\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13344, 27345, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-11 08:50:54', '2015-09-11 12:50:54', 'BTW:  Looking forward to the launch of the new book \"Little Promises I Make to Myself” by Mary C. Schaefer.  Keep us informed of the publication dates:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13345, 27345, 'Susan Mazza', 'Susan@susanmazza.com', 'http://randomactsofleadership.com', '69.247.236.21', '2015-09-11 09:08:42', '2015-09-11 13:08:42', 'Very honest and insightful Mary.  I wrote about integrity in our book The a Character Based Leader.  Your post reminded of one of the key points - Integrity is an aspiration!  We will never be perfect.  And as you point out the works can be a great mirror for just how well we are living into that aspiration.\n\nYou have me thinking about what promises I a am truly making to myself.  It\'s clear some things will remain daydreams, at least for now.  The litmus test between the two is whether or not I am honoring the promise in my actions vs wishful thinking about it.\n\nBy far the best way to keep me true however to to make a promise in the world that will pull for me to honor that promise to myself no matter what.  I could do a better job of keeping promises to myself but I\'ve discovered the reality for me is I will always do whatever it takes to keep a promise to someone else.  When I connect the two everyone wins!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13346, 27345, 'Lisa Lavergne', 'lisal@visiontrust.org', '', '50.201.79.196', '2015-09-11 09:58:08', '2015-09-11 13:58:08', 'Thanks Mary, a good Aha moment for me. Great reminder of how much our own actions can affect others. One area that I really seem to struggle with in seeing promises kept is the area of technology. I have dealt with countless of unmet deadlines, incomplete processes, and just general lack of concern that a deadline has come and gone, typically getting passed off to \"this is just the way it is\". Now I understand why this strikes such a nerve for me. It goes back to the integrity of doing what you say you are going to do. A good time to reflect on what promises I have made to myself, or others,  that I have not kept. Checking the integrity of my heart, that internal voice that keeps me moving.\n\nThis integrity concept was brought to light for me early in my parenting years. The sometimes silly things parents say out of frustration such as; \"you will be grounded for life!\" When we lead our children, teaching them that we do what we say, we are teaching the future generations integrity in the spoken word. We actually made my 5 year old get out of the car once, because my husband had given him the \"I will stop this car and let you out\" speech. Well, lets just say we no longer had car issues. (and yes he did make it to adulthood, and has become a very fine young man with high integrity)\n\nIn leadership roles, we do have to remember the power of promise kept. Not only to others, but as you reminded,  to ourselves as well. Very thought provoking the idea of not trusting ourselves when we don\'t keep those promises. Now is a good time to review my to do list. Thanks for sharing!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13347, 27345, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-09-11 10:23:16', '2015-09-11 14:23:16', 'Okay, John. You are calling me out on this, aren\'t you? I have a draft manuscript. Just don\'t know if I\'m ready to be so \"transparent\" to the public yet. Thank you for the encouragement and the nudge.', 0, '1', '', '', 13344, 252),
(13348, 27345, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-09-11 10:27:27', '2015-09-11 14:27:27', '\"I could do a better job of keeping promises to myself but I’ve discovered the reality for me is I will always do whatever it takes to keep a promise to someone else. When I connect the two everyone wins!\" - Susan Mazza\n\n- I will always do whatever it takes to keep a promise to someone else -\n\nIsn\'t this so true? Some of my clients worry that they aren\'t being charitable enough or forgiving enough, which I encourage, but I also encourage good boundaries, and not being a doormat, which CAN be a difficult promise to keep to yourself. Many of us tend to put others first. You are making me think, Susan. If I keep my promises to myself, am I in turn doing right by others automatically? Something to ponder. Thanks for that today, Susan!', 0, '1', '', '', 13345, 252),
(13349, 27345, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-09-11 10:31:21', '2015-09-11 14:31:21', 'Thank you for weighing in, John, because I always find your thoughts of \"weight\" and substance.\n\nIt\'s coincidental that you bring up the Wooden quote: \"The true test of a man’s (or woman’s) character is what he does when no one is watching.\" I run across people for whom this is a foreign concept. This makes me feel lucky I have been blessed to have been taught well, had good role models, and get to hang around people like you.\n\nAnd then: \"Everyone else can see what you do, but only you can see what is in your heart.\" I\'ve heard this put as, \"We judge others on their actions, and judge ourselves on our intentions.\" We never really know what others intended, which helps me be more compassionate and forgiving (when I remember...).\n\nHave a great Friday, John.', 0, '1', '', '', 13343, 252),
(13350, 27345, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-09-11 22:26:31', '2015-09-12 02:26:31', 'Lisa, I am glad you found the post thought-provoking. I had no idea it would have such an effect. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and your story. Love the one about the car. Such moments from my childhood are etched in my memory. I\'m not surprised your son grew to be a fine young man. Good job.\n\nThanks again for commenting,\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13351, 27345, 'Lombiso Ergeno', 'lombiso@gmail.com', '', '24.9.143.65', '2015-09-12 22:05:52', '2015-09-13 02:05:52', 'It is great point Mary,\nKeeping promises is one of good qualities of leaders. It is very important to look at ourselves before anyone else. When we think of leadership the first thing comes to our mind is people management but we should start doing that by self-leadership and keeping our own promises that no one knows except ourselves. I believe it is leadership ethics to be honest to ourselves as well as others. The holy Bible says “But whoever keeps his word, in him truly the love of God is perfected. By this we may know that we are in him.” (1 John 2:5) I don’t know how we often break our own words and expect others to keep theirs. For good leaders who lead by example keeping their promises to themselves is one way of being model to their followers.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13352, 27345, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '205.132.110.2', '2015-09-13 07:15:13', '2015-09-13 11:15:13', 'A terrific post Mary! You have challenged us all by challenging yourself to follow through on our internal commitments as well. Like John says, it cuts close to home, but you have provided good counsel and encouragement to us. Well done!\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13353, 27345, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-09-13 18:16:09', '2015-09-13 22:16:09', 'Thanks Paul. That means a lot coming from you.', 0, '1', '', '', 13352, 252),
(13354, 27345, 'Jesse Silva', 'lvprotector@gmail.com', '', '108.52.8.229', '2015-09-15 15:04:56', '2015-09-15 19:04:56', 'Mary,\n\nI know its been stated above in the comments before, but you have truly struck a common nail right on the head. I fail to follow through with promises to myself and may have even projected them from time to time. Thank you for a very touched article that I will share and return to periodically for its great value.\n\nJesse', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 384),
(13355, 27345, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '166.137.240.91', '2015-09-15 15:13:15', '2015-09-15 19:13:15', 'Thank you so much for telling me that, Jesse. I feel better when we can all share in our common humanity :)', 0, '1', '', '', 13354, 252),
(13356, 27345, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '166.137.240.94', '2015-09-16 17:02:52', '2015-09-16 21:02:52', '\"For good leaders who lead by example keeping their promises to themselves is one way of being model to their followers.\"\n\nThank you for adding that, Lombiso.', 0, '1', '', '', 13351, 252),
(13357, 27417, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '50.243.40.195', '2015-09-09 08:55:47', '2015-09-09 12:55:47', 'Chris, you offer powerful advice. It is one of the best ways to \"survive the job.\" (I don\'t even like to phrase it that way, but to be accurate...) Knowing you are maintaining your personal constitution, i.e. integrity to me, creates an excellent foundation, and models strength to your constituents.\n\nMy additional advice to middle managers and other employees who are in challenging, often thankless positions is to make sure your life is balanced. Shore up your relationships, hobbies, recreation, and/or a spiritual practice so that work doesn\'t completely deplete you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13358, 27417, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', '', '71.215.94.50', '2015-09-09 10:54:13', '2015-09-09 14:54:13', 'Thanks so much for your insights, Mary!\n\nYou bring up a hugely important element: life balance. That balance is our responsibility - if we give others control over our health, well-being, and relationships, we\'ll not be fully able to serve ourselves or others effectively.\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13357, 372),
(13359, 27417, 'Hope Scott', 'hope.scott@capitalone.com', '', '199.244.214.104', '2015-09-09 15:16:26', '2015-09-09 19:16:26', 'Chris, this is a great article. We are working on a similar activity stemming out of \"Leadership Challenge,\" where our coaches will define their own values, compare them to our organization\'s epic values, share them with their teams, and discuss potential conflicts that can come from value differences. I like where you are going with this! It would be great to have an example of what this conversation would actually sound like.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13360, 27417, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', '', '71.215.94.50', '2015-09-09 17:50:11', '2015-09-09 21:50:11', 'Thanks so much, Hope! The path you\'re taking with your coaches is a great one. Values conflicts occur when expectations are either 1) not clarified or 2) widely differing!\n\nI go into some detail on how leaders can have these conversations (on both their personal constitution and their organizational constitution) in my book, The Culture Engine - http://drtc.me/tcea. That might be helpful -\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13359, 372),
(13361, 27417, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2015-09-09 21:24:34', '2015-09-10 01:24:34', 'Great post Chris.  Couldnt agree with you more on the power of keeping our purpose in front of us.  It\'s the Profound Why - why are we working so hard, spending so many hours away from loved ones - for what higher order reason?  When we know our purpose and keep it front and cetner in our lives it gives our work greater significance, thus greater meaning, and so sustained motivation.  And we have a choice to live everyday in support of, or in spite of our values.  We all inherently know what to do here, but it is all too easy to lose the plot on this - the for the reminder!\nWell done!\nScott Mautz', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
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(13362, 27417, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '70.195.64.46', '2015-09-10 09:18:07', '2015-09-10 13:18:07', 'Hi, Chris - another interesting and thought-provoking post:)\n\nThe first thought that popped into my mind was that the middle manager situations you describe are very similar to what we have talked about for years in terms of generations:  the Sandwich Generation issue.\n\nOriginally identified by Baby Boomers, but now recognized as an issue for all, the Sandwich Generation concept reinforces the reality that we have responsibilities, connections, and dynamics both up and down in the organizational hierarchy.\n\nAs conscientious leaders and followers, we are trying to meet expectations and needs at both ends ... somewhat akin to burning a candle at both ends, at its worst.\n\nI have nothing original enough to share regarding what middle managers ought to be aware of or do, but I will add my hearty endorsement to the essential idea that we have to be true to ourselves, living up to our personal philosophies, beliefs, and values.\n\nOf course, that means we have to define those things which shape our behavior.  I am sometimes surprised that others are not as into self-analysis as I am.   This does lead to one issue:\n\n\"I\'m too busy doing to think\" and similar statements are often heard and, when it comes to knowing ourselves, as often wrong.  In the same way that we need to move back from the process in order to identify the flaws, and consider not just what we are doing, but WHY we are doing it in terms of organizational goals and objectives, we also need to make time for thinking about ourselves.\n\nThis is not selfish, but ultimately might allow us to better serve others.\n\nI would add that this is not a solitary activity.  While we live our lives individually, we do so within the context of connection to others.   I firmly believe that our best self-thinking occurs when we share it with non-judgmental others and invite feedback.   Whether you use a coach or just a trusted confidant, I think we need to remember this:  Life is a team sport.\n\nThanks for jogging the brain cells this morning:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13363, 27417, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', '', '71.215.94.50', '2015-09-10 11:02:31', '2015-09-10 15:02:31', 'Thanks for your comments and insights, Scott! You\'re absolutely right - we do have it in us to not only clarify our purpose and values, but to live them daily.\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13361, 372),
(13364, 27417, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', '', '71.215.94.50', '2015-09-10 11:07:13', '2015-09-10 15:07:13', 'Great insights, John - I\'m happy to jog brain cells!\n\nLove the \"doing\" versus \"being\" clarity you bring. Us Westerners are much more likely to invest in doing without understanding who we are - how we\'re treating others - while we\'re doing things, and why - to what end - we\'re \"doing.\"\n\nI\'m reminded of Stephen Covey\'s lumberjack metaphor from 7 Habits - gotta periodically climb a tree to ensure we\'re logging right forest!\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13362, 372),
(13365, 27417, 'Mark Balaam', 'markjbalaam@btinternet.com', '', '81.156.141.83', '2015-09-12 16:24:33', '2015-09-12 20:24:33', 'Hi Chris,\nVery interesting - I was thinking how this would play out over here in the U.K.  Sharing personal thoughts on anything deeper than your views on the football (soccer) or Strictly Come Dancing results is treated with suspicion!\nThe main points that strike me is that you need be clear on your values and try and apply them consistently.   As long as you are open to feedback and are seen to reflect and respond to it positively to increase your consistency will at least start the ball rolling.   Although I am open to how it would be possible to get my group of up-tight Brits (me included) to see beyond the to do list.\nThanks,\nMark', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13366, 27417, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', '', '71.215.94.50', '2015-09-12 17:12:59', '2015-09-12 21:12:59', 'Thank you for your comment, Mark! What you describe is what I hear about work teams around the globe - it\'s normal.\n\nWhat is also normal is an exclusive focus on results - which can open the door to people behaving badly to get those results. That\'s a problem.\n\nMy experience is that being intentional about purpose and values - personally and for one\'s team - evolves relationships beyond \"cogs in a wheel\"! Work can be a place of significance AND performance.\n\nThanks for letting my thoughts stir yours a bit!\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13365, 372),
(13367, 27425, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '70.195.64.46', '2015-09-10 09:33:37', '2015-09-10 13:33:37', 'Hi, Jane - fascinating post about a subject I dearly love:)\n\nInitial response:  Only THREE?\n\nThinking response:\n\nBias is a human condition and identifying our biases is essential to reducing or eliminating their negative impacts.  This is a timely issue whenever it comes up, but especially so during the political season and during times of social upheaval and change.  For individuals, becoming aware of and countering our personal biases is a life-long journey, methinks.\n\nSimply knowing about biases and how they work is not enough.  We all probably know quite a bit about the dangers of smoking tobacco or texting while driving, but knowing in and of itself is not enough to create behavior change.\n\nOver the years, I have taught, trained, facilitated, and coached ... and I can say with certainty that the three points you raise here are real and important.\n\nI make a distinction between biases, prejudices, stereotypes, and discrimination which might be useful here:\n\nBias:   What you said above.  How we think about something which results in a preference.\n\nPrejudice: The attachment of positive or negative quality to that bias, usually based on a very small example or portion of a group\n\nStereotype:  When you apply that positive or negative quality to an entire group without exception.\n\nDiscrimination:  When you act negatively or positively toward that group based on the above.\n\nI use these distinctions to help people dig deeper around their own biases and where those biases may lead.   Including the idea that both positive and negative results can occur, all based on generalizations which may or may not be true, is often a real eye-opener:)\n\nBTW, ending with a Viktor Frankl quote always results in a gold star bonus:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13368, 27425, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-09-10 15:09:27', '2015-09-10 19:09:27', 'John,\n\nYour comment \"only 3?\" made me smile! Thank you for that and for all your apt observations!\n\nThe list of hundreds and hundreds of biases is almost overwhelming...hence the smaller chunk! Those in my workshops don\'t get off quite so easily **smile**\n\nI\'m guessing that we teach similar content...woohoo! I use the same approach, from bias to discrimination, noting it as a slippery slope.\n\nWith a smile,\n\nJane\n\nI\'m a fan of Kahneman\'s book Thinking, Fast and Slow. How about you?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(13369, 27425, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-11 08:37:21', '2015-09-11 12:37:21', 'Hi, Jane:)\n\nI actually have not yet read Kahneman\'s book all the way through in depth, althought I have dipped into it during some very rare \"down time\".  I also seem to run into the ideas in the book through citations and mentions by people I trust (see above message for example).  What I know of the book is all good and he seems to have nicely gathered and summarized much of what we have learned over the past decades about our cognitive processes around bias.\n\nMy kind of book ... guess it needs to bump up the reading list and become a priority:)\n\nThanks for reminding me about this great resource.\n\nJohn\n\nGuess I need to bump', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13370, 27430, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.181.27.72', '2015-09-15 09:15:32', '2015-09-15 13:15:32', 'A terrific post, Peter!\n\nI\'ve always been curious how many times people were passed over because they weren\'t \"cookie cutter\" enough based on the criteria you mentioned. You are absolutely correct in your assessment that leaders need to overcome ourselves and our \"like-me\" tendencies. Breaking out of ourselves is the way to make that change.\n\nThank you for your wisdom today !\n\nBest,\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13371, 27430, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-15 10:58:51', '2015-09-15 14:58:51', 'Hi, Peter - excellent observations about an important and somewhat less discussed aspect of effective leadership.\n\nI admit freely to being guilty as charged as I review my own biases toward skills I believe I possess and am effective in, rather than considering those other skills (ones I do not possess at a competent level).\n\nThis is one of those human nature things, where we appreciate something which we amply possess, maybe because we understand the effort required to become proficient in a thing.  Maybe we just resonate with those who are more like us, as you indicated.   Whatever the reason, a bias can emerge, which lessens our effectiveness.\n\nI am very impressed that your senior leadership team was able to recognize and overcome this by looking for the rising star who could resist this bias.   My experience with management teams has been much different ... too often, I have seen silos abound and be strongly defended, while attempts to bridge gaps die for lack of support.   Not in all cases, but too often.\n\nI honestly cannot point to a specific tool or strategy that has helped me understand all this and change my behavior.  Upon reflection, it seems to have been a long process of experience, education, reflection, and motivation to work more effectively.   I have seen the results of biased hiring and promotion, engaged in formal and informal learning about leadership and management, and thought deeply with trusted others (like here on Lead Change Group) about this and other issues.\n\nMany in management and leadership positions do none of these things,  but continue to manage and lead as they have learned from those who came before them, without questioning whether the way they do so is effective.\n\nThanks for keeping this particular discussion going:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13372, 27442, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '166.137.244.19', '2015-09-25 07:23:40', '2015-09-25 11:23:40', 'Wow. Aren\'t we all remarkably on the same page? But I shouldn\'t be surprised. Learned something from all my team members\' answers. Maybe we should write a book together ;)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13373, 27442, 'Paula Kiger', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '199.19.186.8', '2015-09-25 18:55:19', '2015-09-25 22:55:19', 'Ha, Mary! Now there\'s an idea!! :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 13372, 0),
(13374, 27444, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-22 09:47:43', '2015-09-22 13:47:43', 'Sean:\n\nWow, just wow ... this is a seriously impactful post that packs a wealth of personal and professional development into a gripping story and some thoughtful observations.\n\nSeveral points really grabbed me:\n\n1)  \"I had assumed he was irresponsible. I assumed he was oversleeping. I had assumed the negative in absence of information.\"\n\nWe are always hearing about the negative power of assumptions and I am one of many who preach about not assuming things.  You have instead provided a powerful story about what happens when you assume.   I appreciate you sharing it.\n\n2)  \"We moved every piece of furniture and we carried boxes and we spent time together eating and laughing like we never would have on the court. They became a closer team off the court by investing in each other.\"\n\nA great testimonial to the power of working together, not just on the group goals and activities, but working as a group on things outside the business end of our lives.   I know this type of sharing works to create more cohesive and powerful teams because I have experienced it time and again.  I wish more people were willing to experience the value of doing things together.\n\n3)  \"Winning teammates don’t give or accept speeding fines.\"\n\nI love this phrase.  It goes to the heart of connecting with others beyond the superficial or mundane and being aware of others in ways that are not always part of our daily routines.\n\nYou just sold at least one book ... and maybe more.   I cannot wait to read more of your thoughts.\n\nThanks for enhancing my weekday routine with some engaging and useful leadership thinking:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13375, 27444, 'Sean Glaze', 'sean@greatresultsteambuilding.com', 'http://greatresultsteambuilding.net/motivational-keynotes/', '70.61.215.36', '2015-09-22 10:36:00', '2015-09-22 14:36:00', 'Thanks so much for your comments, John -\n\nMy experiences as a coach are very much like many managers and leaders in any other organization, and I enjoy sharing my A-Ha moments to help keep others from having to learn the same lessons the hard way!\n\nHoping the book finds an audience that appreciates and can apply it\'s insights!', 0, '1', '', '', 13374, 0),
(13376, 27444, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.com', '166.137.252.52', '2015-09-22 21:03:32', '2015-09-23 01:03:32', 'Assuming things is life greats challenges.  It is easy to fall in that trap and the outcome is often damaging.  As a leader, it is important for us to take the interest in knowing what is important to our people.  We need to touch their heart people was ask them to do something for us.  Thanks you for sharing a touching story about Jason.\n\nThanks', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13377, 27444, 'Sean Glaze', 'sean@greatresultsteambuilding.com', 'http://www.greatresultsteambuilding.net', '107.77.94.53', '2015-09-23 18:32:23', '2015-09-23 22:32:23', 'Will -\nI believe there are \"Jasons\" all around us, and we only discover the hidden personal stories they have by asking questions and sincerely caring about our coworkers as people...\nThanks for your comment!', 0, '1', '', '', 13376, 0),
(13378, 27447, 'Duncan M.', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '95.76.171.184', '2015-09-18 03:19:10', '2015-09-18 07:19:10', 'This is a very interesting approach. There is, indeed, a huge difference between partnership and team. Once you fully understand their meanings, you are ready to make the best decisions for the company.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13379, 27447, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-09-18 10:18:38', '2015-09-18 14:18:38', 'I admire the way you have delineated the power of partnerships and explained the nuances that make them unique from teams. \"A team is focused on accomplishing a mutual purpose and uses an effective relationship as a tool for achieving it. A partnership is focused on creating a relationship ...\" and \"In a partnership, excellence cannot be sustained without a superior relationship of diverse strengths ...\"\n\nI have always loved teamwork. I still do, but if I were to seek a collaborative project today, I would rather go for the partnership than the team.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13380, 27447, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-18 11:20:35', '2015-09-18 15:20:35', 'Hi, Chip - fascinating post.\n\nI really appreciate the difference you draw between teamwork and partnership, especially as it relates to expressions of culture and collaboration.\n\nInteresting how a simple change in perception can be so impacting:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13381, 27461, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-09-16 07:33:37', '2015-09-16 11:33:37', 'Great metaphor use, Page, in sharing some thoughtful and useful insights! Love your observation:  \"To say it another way, just talking about what we say is important to us isn’t nearly as valuable as the lives we lead and the things we do in showing others what we are really about. \"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(13382, 27461, 'michelle', 'mrpcombs@gmail.com', 'http://www.rubbershoesinhell.com', '216.68.27.219', '2015-09-16 08:17:58', '2015-09-16 12:17:58', 'I needed to read this today. I have been through some pretty bleak times in my life and I am grateful for the strength I gained from surviving those times.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13383, 27461, 'Carol Cassara', 'ccassara@aol.com', 'http://carolcassara.com/purgatory/', '73.222.236.115', '2015-09-16 08:29:37', '2015-09-16 12:29:37', 'Yep. That\'s a useful way to approach life and those hard times. And remember, everyone goes through them. You never know what is really going on under the surface.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13384, 27461, 'Theresa Wiza', 'writingcreatively@cheerful.com', 'http://writingcreatively.org', '50.103.116.116', '2015-09-16 08:58:31', '2015-09-16 12:58:31', 'Great points and what an inspiring young man! To already be so philanthropic at his age – his parents must be so proud.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13385, 27461, 'Kay Lynn', 'admin@weightchronicles.com', 'http://weightchronicles.com', '76.167.169.251', '2015-09-16 09:01:46', '2015-09-16 13:01:46', 'This brings to mind the quote \"when times are tough the tough get going\".  This article has great ideas for how to do that.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13386, 27461, 'Susan Williams', 'susan.in.the.boonies@gmail.com', 'http://www.thatsusanwilliams.com/', '76.22.202.166', '2015-09-16 09:18:58', '2015-09-16 13:18:58', 'I have no other advice.\nGratitude can be the hardest thing of all to muster, when life hands you lemons.\nNevertheless, it is, for me, transformational.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13387, 27461, 'Doreen McGettigan', 'doreenb8@verizon.net', 'http://www.doreenmcgettigan.com', '71.162.219.167', '2015-09-16 09:20:07', '2015-09-16 13:20:07', 'I  have daily reminders (special needs grandson, son with cancer) to find the good in everything  and if I can\'t find it I make it happen.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13388, 27461, 'Michele', 'Michelereamey@yahoo.com', '', '24.113.92.48', '2015-09-16 10:10:21', '2015-09-16 14:10:21', 'It is a great habit to get into! Thanks for the reminder.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13389, 27461, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-16 10:32:30', '2015-09-16 14:32:30', 'Hi, Page - nice and much needed post:)\n\nYour comments generally mirror what I learned to reinforce as a therapist:  Challenge creates pain, which can result in learning, which promotes growth, but the choices on whether this happens or not are always up to the individual.\n\nSome folks say that change which does not include some pain, or at minimum, discomfort, will not result in lasting transformation ... and I tend to agree with this.   Our society tends to sell a version of reality where we need not ever feel bad or be in pain, and this is reflected in the market for things which ease the challenges, make us feel good, and eliminate discomfort.   Not so good, in my opinion.\n\nI know of people and organizations which chose to avoid pain and difficulty and, as a result, remain stuck where they are or sliding downward into further pain ... the exact thing they seek to avoid.\n\nYour post also reminded me of a whole slew of things people should stop saying to those experiencing pain and difficulty.  Often superficially therapeutic or religious in nature, these statements try to soften the pain, rather than encouraging moving through it.   One quick example:  \"God doesn\'t give us anything we can\'t handle\" and similar.   The underlying message here is that anyone who cannot deal with whatever traumatic situation they face must not be a faithful enough person.   I personally think this phrase needs to go away.\n\nThanks for stimulating my somewhat lethargic mid-week brain:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13390, 27461, 'Kim Tackett', 'kim@tbdesign.com', 'http://kimtackett.com', '99.20.65.215', '2015-09-16 10:51:25', '2015-09-16 14:51:25', 'It looks like you\'ve covered all of them. Maybe \"squeeze harder\" because there is always someone who could use some love, even if it\'s yourself.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13391, 27461, 'Julie Jo Severson', 'jjo.severson@gmail.com', 'http://carvingsonadesk.com/', '24.118.210.6', '2015-09-16 11:24:46', '2015-09-16 15:24:46', 'I love how you start out this piece, and the way you combine journalism and inspiration. Great, authentic stories and writing. Glad I stopped by! I\'m going to take a look around your site now, because it\'s very intriguing to me. Have a good day.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13392, 27461, 'Lisha Fink', 'lishawrites@yahoo.com', 'http://lishawrites.com', '72.200.51.6', '2015-09-16 11:44:59', '2015-09-16 15:44:59', 'Keith is a lucky boy to have you cheering him on. As for the advice, spot on. Now excuse me. I have a sudden craving for lemonade.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13393, 27461, 'Corinne Rodrigues', 'corinne@everydaygyaan.com', 'http://everydaygyaan.com', '117.195.182.67', '2015-09-16 11:45:02', '2015-09-16 15:45:02', 'Thank you for sharing Keith\'s story. It\'s so inspiring.\nWhen life hands me lemons, I have truly learned to say \'Thank you\' - gratitude has helped me see those lemons in a whole new way.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13394, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.184.252.138', '2015-09-16 11:51:29', '2015-09-16 15:51:29', 'Thank you Jane!  We hear a LOT of talk about Core Values, as if putting them on parchment in a frame on the office wall is what matters most.  Our lives and our actions are the truly markers of what matters to our organizations.', 0, '1', '', '', 13381, 282),
(13395, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.184.252.138', '2015-09-16 11:52:24', '2015-09-16 15:52:24', 'Michelle,\nDon\'t feel alone.  ALL of us have days where we need this.  It\'s not a false hope to believe your best days are ahead... it\'s a fact, and you are the one that can make that happen!', 0, '1', '', '', 13382, 282),
(13396, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.184.252.138', '2015-09-16 11:53:43', '2015-09-16 15:53:43', 'Carol,\nI\'ve found that a \"private counseling session\" with myself, to remind me that others are struggling too not only helps me through the hard times, but reminds me to show grace to those I come into conflict with.  Thanks for your comments!', 0, '1', '', '', 13383, 282),
(13397, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.184.252.138', '2015-09-16 11:54:49', '2015-09-16 15:54:49', 'Theresa,\nYou are way too kind, and I\'m not really that young.  Both of my parents have gone on to Heaven, but it made me smile to think that maybe they get to see things like this from time to time!  Thanks for brightening my day!', 0, '1', '', '', 13384, 282),
(13398, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.184.252.138', '2015-09-16 11:55:51', '2015-09-16 15:55:51', 'Kay Lynn,\nYou\'re RIGHT!  And the weak, and the afraid and the lonely and the fierce and the confused and the able!  Let\'s all get going!', 0, '1', '', '', 13385, 282),
(13399, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.184.252.138', '2015-09-16 12:05:56', '2015-09-16 16:05:56', 'Susan,\nTransformational Lemonade!  I like it!', 0, '1', '', '', 13386, 282),
(13400, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.184.252.138', '2015-09-16 12:07:39', '2015-09-16 16:07:39', 'Doreen,\nI love your attitude!  I MAKE IT HAPPEN!  That\'s an encouragement for all of us!  We have the ability to affect our world and our lives better!  God bless you and your care for your grandson!', 0, '1', '', '', 13387, 282),
(13401, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.184.252.138', '2015-09-16 12:08:53', '2015-09-16 16:08:53', 'Michele,\nThanks for your encouragement!  What do you say we both go out today and share that habit with someone else today!?  Lemonade always tastes best when shared with a good friend!', 0, '1', '', '', 13388, 282),
(13402, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.184.252.138', '2015-09-16 12:16:18', '2015-09-16 16:16:18', 'John,\nYou never fail to encourage me my friend!  I love that you pointed out the \"God doesn\'t give us anything we can\'t handle.\" phrase... I totally agree!  That\'s a loose translation of this Bible passage, I Corinthians 10:13:\n\n\"No test or temptation that comes your way is beyond the course of what others have had to face. All you need to remember is that God will never let you down; he’ll never let you be pushed past your limit\"...\n\nBUT THAT\'S ONLY PART OF THE VERSE!  It goes on to say -\n\n\"He’ll always be there to help you come through it.\"\n\nA literal translation of the text from the Greek as shared in the Amplified Version of the Bible says this...\n\n\"No temptation [regardless of its source] has overtaken or enticed you that is not common to human experience [nor is any temptation unusual or beyond human resistance];\n\nbut God is faithful [to His word—He is compassionate and trustworthy], and He will not let you be tempted beyond your ability [to resist],\n\nbut along with the temptation He [has in the past and is now and] will [always] provide the way out as well, so that you will be able to endure it [without yielding, and will overcome temptation with joy]\"\n\nTHAT, my friend is focusing on helping people do exactly what you pointed out, and that\'s to move through it!  Once again, you\'ve taken the topic and mined out the deeper truths!  Thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 13389, 282),
(13403, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.184.252.138', '2015-09-16 12:17:21', '2015-09-16 16:17:21', 'Kim,\nSqueeze harder is what I tell my wife when she\'s giving me a hug!  It\'s always great advice to show some love to people who are hurting!  Thanks for joining the conversation!', 0, '1', '', '', 13390, 282),
(13404, 27461, 'Shelley Zurek', 'stillblondeafteralltheseyears@gmail.com', 'http://stillblondeafteralltheseyears.com', '68.34.59.185', '2015-09-16 12:41:53', '2015-09-16 16:41:53', 'This was a stunning list. I only wish you had created a pinnable image such that I could pin it to my Pinterest inspiration board.  Maybe consider that?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13405, 27461, 'Elaine Ambrose', 'elaine@elaineambrose.com', 'http://www.elaineambrose.com', '64.134.132.17', '2015-09-16 14:12:41', '2015-09-16 18:12:41', 'Wonderful message. Sometimes I slump on the lump of lemons and forget that I can change my attitude and make something good instead of focusing on bitterness. Thanks for posting this.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13406, 27461, 'Mona (aka Moxie-Dude)', 'Moxie@Moxie-Dude.com', 'http://Moxie-Dude.com', '204.237.28.110', '2015-09-16 14:52:04', '2015-09-16 18:52:04', 'Awesome post! I LOVE pieces that demonstrate the \"where there\'s a will, there\'s a way\" concept. Also, really enjoyed your metaphoric use of lemons. Thanks for writing and sharing :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13407, 27461, 'Paula Kiger', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.131.210', '2015-09-16 15:49:03', '2015-09-16 19:49:03', 'Shelley, Paula here. I worked with Page and made a pinnable image for you and sent it to you via Facebook! Page and I hope you like it! :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 13404, 0),
(13408, 27461, '1010ParkPlace', 'bcoffee@1010parkplace.com', 'http://www.1010parkplace.com', '173.174.101.75', '2015-09-16 19:34:16', '2015-09-16 23:34:16', 'By the time we\'ve reached a certain age, most of us have several ways of making lemonade. Just today, I had to pull out a recipe to help a friend. I\'m grateful I knew how. Brenda', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13409, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '72.192.87.160', '2015-09-16 22:24:23', '2015-09-17 02:24:23', 'Julie Jo,\nI\'m convinced that the mind is more willing to follow when the heart leads the way!   The world is full of amazing people and incredible stories!  I love to hear them and tell them, and I\'m glad you enjoyed it!', 0, '1', '', '', 13391, 282),
(13410, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '72.192.87.160', '2015-09-16 22:25:30', '2015-09-17 02:25:30', 'He is an amazing kid, Lisha, and an entire city was rooting for him too!  Profiles in courage really do come in all sizes!', 0, '1', '', '', 13392, 282),
(13411, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '72.192.87.160', '2015-09-16 22:27:28', '2015-09-17 02:27:28', 'It\'s the only way to face those \"sour\" moments and overcome them Corinne!  Thanks for joining the conversation!', 0, '1', '', '', 13393, 282),
(13412, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '72.192.87.160', '2015-09-16 22:28:40', '2015-09-17 02:28:40', 'Elaine... you used an incredibly important word.  FOCUS!  We lose sight of what\'s most important during those tough times, and forget to keep our focus on what really matters!  Thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 13405, 282),
(13413, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '72.192.87.160', '2015-09-16 22:30:27', '2015-09-17 02:30:27', 'Shelley, what a great idea! And thank you to Paula Kiger for jumping right on it and creating one!  She asked if it was OK with me and of course I said yes!  Thanks to both of you!', 0, '1', '', '', 13404, 282),
(13414, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '72.192.87.160', '2015-09-16 22:31:49', '2015-09-17 02:31:49', 'Moxie Dude! Love it!\n\nand in case you haven\'t heard the converse to the axiom \"where there\'s a will, there\'s a way\", it\'s this...\n\n\"where there\'s a will, I want to be in it!\"  Have a blessed week!', 0, '1', '', '', 13406, 282),
(13415, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '72.192.87.160', '2015-09-16 22:33:01', '2015-09-17 02:33:01', 'Brenda,\n\nWhatever your recipe is, don\'t forget the most important ingredient... Gratefulness!\n\nEnjoy your lemonade!', 0, '1', '', '', 13408, 282),
(13416, 27461, 'Carolann', 'carolann@sassytownhouseliving.com', 'http://sassytownhouseliving.com', '50.29.161.72', '2015-09-17 09:44:01', '2015-09-17 13:44:01', 'What an inspiring and wonderful story. I love the use of your metaphor. I\'ll have to check his progress out. He\'s got the recipe for sucess that\'s for sure!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13417, 27461, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://talkkindnesstome.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-09-18 10:25:21', '2015-09-18 14:25:21', 'Excellent handling of a familiar topic, Page! Seriously ... I love this post. It adds volumes to \"When life gives you lemons ...\". And add new meanings to our choice to allow our circumstances to make us bitter or better.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13418, 27461, 'Brad Johnson', 'Brad@Lawnamerica.com', 'http://www.Lawnamerica.com', '98.16.214.43', '2015-09-18 18:09:33', '2015-09-18 22:09:33', 'Page, Keith is a stud for sure.  You know that\'s LawnAmerica\'s Lemonade stand there in the pic.  Our guys did great last summer in with that in taking donations.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13419, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.184.252.138', '2015-09-18 19:22:50', '2015-09-18 23:22:50', 'Thank you Jane!  Why didn\'t I think of using that \"bitter or better\" phrase?!  I appreciate your encouragement!  For that, you get a fresh glass of lemonade!', 0, '1', '', '', 13417, 282),
(13420, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2015-09-19 15:23:23', '2015-09-19 19:23:23', 'Brad,\nI didn\'t realize that was your group!  What a great event and a super cause to be a part of!  For those of you who don\'t know my friend Brad Johnson, he walked the 2175 miles of the Appalachian Trail and raised over $100K for five charities, including the Little Lighthouse!\n\nHe also has farm where kids involved with DHS can come and enjoy the healing effects of the animals and the laid back country atmosphere!  You can check it out here:\n\nhttp://www.lawnamerica.com/Who-We-Are/In-The-Community.aspx\n\nThanks again Brad!', 0, '1', '', '', 13418, 282),
(13421, 27461, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2015-09-19 15:24:24', '2015-09-19 19:24:24', 'CarolAnn,\nKeith has been an inspiration to all of us!  This kid\'s best and brightest days are still in the future... and maybe that\'s the best lesson he could teach us all! Thank you for your kind words!', 0, '1', '', '', 13416, 282),
(13422, 27461, 'Lissa', 's590m2nu@mail.com', 'http://xkeunnz.com', '188.143.232.32', '2016-04-16 07:27:15', '2016-04-16 11:27:15', 'It\'s a pleasure to find such railanoitty in an answer. Welcome to the debate.', 0, '1', '', '', 13409, 0),
(13423, 27486, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-14 20:45:27', '2015-09-15 00:45:27', 'Hi, Marvin - nice post on an important subject:)\n\nI like your summary of EQ - one of the best and most useful I have seen.  Very clear and to the point.  The chart is very helpful.\n\nTo your question, my response is an unqualified \"Yep\".\n\nEffective leadership and management is about influencing people to accomplish tasks at a consistently high level, even when the environment works against them.  We tried a more autocratic leadership style, which has its advantages, but does not translate well for our current corporate and organizational cultures.\n\nAwareness of the emotional aspects of employees, customers, and society seems to be a truly effective way for a leader to accomplish their goals.   We can do things without concern for the internal dynamics of our employees, but I believe we can do much more when we recognize that other person is a complete human being.\n\nEmotional intelligence is accepting that reality and becoming skilled at working with the complete person.\n\nThanks for a good starting post for our week:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13424, 27486, 'Marvin Magusara', 'hello@graftene.co.uk', 'https://graftene.co.uk', '82.3.132.193', '2015-09-14 21:43:45', '2015-09-15 01:43:45', 'Thank you John!\n\nI completely agree with you, however like with all things, knowing is not enough, we must apply. I know that from personal experience I could have handled employees or situations better, more tactfully - however at the time had complete disregard for their feelings or perspective, only focused on mine and what I believe to be logically correct. Sometimes that is effective, most of the time, not so much.\n\nAnd I think that would be the most qualified \"Yep\" we\'ll get here :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 402),
(13425, 27486, 'Jesse Silva', 'lvprotector@gmail.com', '', '108.52.8.229', '2015-09-15 14:45:38', '2015-09-15 18:45:38', 'Marvin,\n\nI join the applause and answer your question with, \"When you\'ve hit a Leadership plateau E.I. is exactly what you need to continue your ascent\". A little wordy, I know.\n\nI strongly agree with John - your summary pulls the pieces together nicely. I too am a long time re-reader of Goleman\'s work and truly appreciate E.I. 2.0\'s adds.\n\nI further agree with you, learning the concept should only be the beginning. Employing emotional understanding of our own actions, words, and feelings moves us towards understanding other\'s. Thank you for the great article!\n\nJesse Silva', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 384),
(13426, 27516, 'Paula Kiger', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.131.210', '2015-09-21 07:22:18', '2015-09-21 11:22:18', 'I enjoyed this post, Will! Procrastination is a very tough nut to crack, for sure!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13427, 27516, 'Will Lukang', 'Will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://www.willlukang.com', '173.54.34.122', '2015-09-21 10:31:44', '2015-09-21 14:31:44', 'Procrastination is the hardest one to work on. But when you\'re persistent and focus on incremental progress you can conquer it.\nThe genesis of the post was to highlight a few things that can help folks achieve progress.', 0, '1', '', '', 13426, 0),
(13428, 27516, 'Raymond Huan', 'media@excelbizsolutions.com.au', 'http://excelbizsolutions.com.au', '105.210.176.242', '2015-09-21 12:28:24', '2015-09-21 16:28:24', 'Thanks I enjoyed this, that is a great little list too!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13429, 27516, 'Will Lukang', 'Will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://www.willlukang.com', '166.137.252.52', '2015-09-21 12:43:25', '2015-09-21 16:43:25', 'Raymond,\n\nI\'m glad your enjoy the post.  Feel free to share the post to your friends.', 0, '1', '', '', 13428, 0),
(13430, 27516, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-21 13:47:24', '2015-09-21 17:47:24', 'Hi, Will - excellent post.\n\nThe idea of identifying what we should stop doing resonates strongly with me and you have done a nice job of creating an action plan to help us accomplish this important developmental task.\n\nI especially like the inclusion of the relative impact exercise, where we have to consider the weight of the thing we should not do and its impact.  Too often we are just told to stop doing a certain list of things, without considering that all non-productive tasks are equal.\n\nThe power that comes to us from figuring out which things to stop first, based on the weight of their impact on us, is gold, in my opinion.   This both gives us a better way forward by identifying what will produce the most positive momentum as we change, but it also helps us avoid (or at least openly acknowledge) wasting time on things which are more easily given up or stopped, but which have lesser impact on us.\n\nChange requires motivation, which can come from feeling the immediate and substantial impact of letting go of something.  You are helping us make this a reality as we move forward:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13431, 27516, 'Will Lukang', 'Will.lukang@gmail.con', 'http://Www.willlukang.com', '173.54.34.122', '2015-09-21 14:32:04', '2015-09-21 18:32:04', 'A list in itself is meaningless if we don\'t understand the negative impact of each of the item on the list and how it is holding you back.  By understanding the impact, we can better assess with one to work on.  Otherwise we would bite more than we can chew and fail at it.  The temporary setback can cause us to give up.\nIn closing, I agree that change require motivation and encourage.  Presence of both can you conquer the challenges.  Have a great day!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13432, 27516, 'Jon Stallings', 'jon@jonstallings.com', 'http://www.jonstallings.com', '66.147.172.7', '2015-09-21 16:26:32', '2015-09-21 20:26:32', 'Great topic Will - it is amazing how it is so easy to overlook our bad habits - I like the idea of not to do list.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13433, 27516, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://www.willlukang.com', '173.54.34.122', '2015-09-21 17:37:24', '2015-09-21 21:37:24', 'Bad habit is indeed easy to overlook, because it is part of us that we think it is a normal behavior.   By being conscious and aware of our challenges, we can slow improve to achieve our goal.', 0, '1', '', '', 13432, 0),
(13434, 27516, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.com', '173.54.34.122', '2015-09-21 17:37:56', '2015-09-21 21:37:56', 'A list in itself is meaningless if we don’t understand the negative impact of each of the item on the list and how it is holding you back. By understanding the impact, we can better assess with one to work on. Otherwise we would bite more than we can chew and fail at it. The temporary setback can cause us to give up.\n In closing, I agree that change require motivation and encourage. Presence of both can you conquer the challenges. Have a great day!', 0, '1', '', '', 13430, 0),
(13435, 27516, 'Stephen McClymont', 's.mcclymont@yahoo.com', 'http://stephen-mcclymont.com', '82.123.93.211', '2015-09-22 11:54:05', '2015-09-22 15:54:05', 'I would say that my biggest bad habit is surfing the Internet, stumbling on a post and wasting even more time bothering to ‘add my opinion’ in reply. Having said that, your post brought this very bad habit to my attention with added clarity and a renewed sense of urgency to get rid if it.\n\n\'Things not to do list\' is a great idea.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13436, 27516, 'Will Lukang', 'Will.Lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.com', '166.137.252.52', '2015-09-22 12:14:02', '2015-09-22 16:14:02', 'Hi Stephen,\n\nGlad you like the do not do list.  Sometimes surfing the web gives you the opportunity to find new nugget of information.\n\nHave a great day!', 0, '1', '', '', 13435, 0),
(13437, 27531, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-24 08:56:29', '2015-09-24 12:56:29', 'Hi, Alan:)\n\nGreat story and a very interesting post about the value of stories ...\n\nSomething you said struck me:  \"This is a true story ... \".\n\nI remember telling a story about my values were shaped by a youthful shop-lifting event.  In the story, I owned up to my misdeed and was rewarded for doing so.  I told that story in from of my mother once ... and was disturbed to hear her dispute my version of my own memory.\n\nWe know that people do not remember facts, but rather recall impressions, leaving out or changing some details, emphasizing others.  As someone has probably said, \"There\'s no such thing as a completely true memory.\"  This makes me wonder about the relative value of \"true\" stories versus fictional stories.\n\nThe Internet abounds with motivating and inspiring stories ... which upon inspection, are found to be apochryphal.   I once spent a good amount of money for a motivational video built around a truly wonderful story about the serendipity of life, which turned out to be untrue, after some research.\n\nSome folks undoubtedly use stories they know not to be true to inspire and motivate, while others may think their memory of the story is more accurate than it actually is.\n\nMy question here is:  Does it matter?\n\nWhat are your thoughts around using stories that may or may not be true to motivate and influence others.   The emotions that an inspiring story creates are as real as any other emotions, but I wonder about the underlying integrity if the story which produces the emotions is not true.\n\nEagerly awaiting your observations about this.   Thanks for sparking my thinking this morning.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13438, 27531, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2015-09-24 10:44:31', '2015-09-24 14:44:31', 'Alan! Good to see you back! What a great post and story!\n\nFunny that you mention stories.  A close friend and I were both going through our own separate fairly serious issues yesterday. We took turns coaching each other.\n\nI was dealing with someone who was kept trying to tempt me into a situation I did not want to be a part of. My friend told me a story about the 2-year-old she used to babysit, who would ask her question after question to keep her from leaving. We started calling it the \"What is\" story because he would ask \"Manisha, what is this?\" A flower. \"What is that?\" And on and on.\n\nIn relation to her issue, I told her a story that happened to me this week about a woman who would not let go when I told her my final number for an item I was selling on ebay. After telling the potential buyer twice she asked me if that was my final number. Yes. Then she went on to counteroffer 2 more times and told me I was hostile after I held to my number for the fourth time. What the...?\n\nYou know, I think we use stories all the time and are not always aware of it. Whether it is to coach a friend or teach a lesson, or or appeal to people to influence and motivate them, we have it in us.\n\nThank you for the excellent post and the reminder! Woo hoo! Alan is back!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13439, 27531, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '198.134.93.254', '2015-09-24 17:10:54', '2015-09-24 21:10:54', 'Hi John,\n\nWhat an interesting question. I\'ve been thinking about it all day. I think all \"true stories\" are rooted in some form of truth but the details have a way of evolving with each telling, depending on the audience and the main idea one is trying to get across. Indeed, if you checked the facts of my story about Charles and Emma you\'d quickly discover that these are not their real names and that the real \"Charles\" and \"Emma\" have a different quantity of children. I changed these particular details, and a few others, for their privacy. Does that make the heart of my story any less true or authentic?\n\nWith that said, a story that comes from a purely fictional place should be labeled as just that - fiction. If we present a made-up story as true it becomes inauthentic and puts the storyteller (aka leader) at risk of losing credibility and trust.  But even fictional stories - Aesop\'s fables, for example - can be powerful leadership tools when used in the right way.\n\nThese are my thoughts and I\'m curious and hopeful to hear those of others on this very interesting question.\n\nThank you,\nAlan', 0, '1', '', '', 13437, 323),
(13440, 27531, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '198.134.93.254', '2015-09-24 17:18:08', '2015-09-24 21:18:08', 'Hi Mary!\n\nGlad to be back. :)  I just needed to go away for a little while to collect some new stories that I now look forward to sharing with others.\n\nYou are so right. We\'re always telling stories. It is so natural and normal and part of being human. I just love it when I see leaders purposefully harness this power in an effort to influence others toward a good cause.\n\nStories are the best.\n\nThank you for sharing your thoughts!\nAlan', 0, '1', '', '', 13438, 323),
(13441, 27531, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-09-24 20:39:02', '2015-09-25 00:39:02', 'John, it IS an interesting question, about using a story, whether the story is true or not. My gut reaction to \"Does it matter?\" is that it\'s okay if the story means something to the teller. AND if they acknowledge it may be apocryphal, and don\'t claim it as their own, if it isn\'t.\n\nI remember distinctly seeing through two \"stories\" I was told that were intended to make an impact o nme. I felt the teller was \"using\" the story to manipulate me. It might have had a different impact if it actually impacted the teller. Weird dynamic.\n\nThanks for raising it up.\n\nSee Alan, we need you to provoke our thinking!', 0, '1', '', '', 13437, 252),
(13442, 27531, 'Mark Smith', 'MAS@MIDASOFCENTRALVA.COM', '', '50.77.73.181', '2015-09-25 12:40:02', '2015-09-25 16:40:02', 'Absolutely agree w the story telling idea\n\nI work w FeedMore, Central VA\'s Primary Hunger Relief Agency.  During the school year we deliver back packs full of food to about 2,100 kids all over the greater Richmond area.  Each back pack contains 16 single-serve, self-serve meals and snacks to feed the kids from Friday PM to Monday AM.  I drove to one of the community centers we deliver to w 150/160 back packs in my Tundra.  A little guy jumped up on the bumper of my truck and swept his arms across the pile, touching as many back packs as he could, while saying one long WWWOOOWWW.  This was a 3 second wow about feeding chronically hungry kids.\n\nI drove away thinking, when was the last time I had a 3 second wow?\n\nWhen was the last time you had a three second wow?\n\nI\'ve shared this story many time since, and I smile every time', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
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(13443, 27531, 'Lori Silverman', 'pfprogress@aol.com', 'http://www.business-storytelling.com', '68.2.213.206', '2015-09-27 15:19:29', '2015-09-27 19:19:29', 'Hi Alan,\n\nAs the author of three books on business storytelling (Business Storytelling for Dummies, Wake Me Up When the Data Is Over, and Stories Trainers Tell), I wanted to thank you for reinforcing the power of story for leaders. We cannot talk about this subject enough!\n\nI wanted to add a couple items to the conversation. First, the story\'s key point, not the topic of the story, is what a leader needs to consider when selecting a story to tell, whether it be personal or from another source (and used with permission). Example: I tell a funny personal story in a keynote talk on personal resilience about what happened to me with a hair dresser to communicate why we need to say \"I\'m done!\" to certain people and activities in our lives.\n\nSecond, in order to move people to action (which is the main goal of storytelling in a work environment, aside from deepening relationships), leaders need to learn how to storify data. We now know through research that\'s been conducted, that when data is added to a story, it negates the power of the story. We include a full chapter on this in the Dummies book.\n\nThird, there are many forms of narrative. It\'s important to know that anecdotes, examples, descriptions, case studies, testimonials, and the like, are not stories. Yet many people lump them all under the category of story. Why is this important? Only story has the ability to impact people physically, mentally, emotionally, and at the level of spirit (where true change takes place). I wrote a piece with a colleague that demonstrates the distinctions so we can all learn the difference. I got this idea while speaking to corporate communicators, who admitted they don\'t know the distinction.\n\nThanks again for bringing forward an important leadership skill!\nLori', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13444, 27567, 'Colin Gautrey', 'colin@gautreygroup.com', 'http://www.learntoinfluence.com', '5.64.213.153', '2015-09-23 07:25:54', '2015-09-23 11:25:54', 'I\'d add the inability of the team, or the leader, to manage down internal political rivalry to a level at which they can begin to perform. Everyone has an agenda, and some place that above their team\'s agenda. At which point, rivalry begins to fester and team morale (and performance) stumbles.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13445, 27567, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-23 08:37:21', '2015-09-23 12:37:21', 'Hi, Eunice:)\n\nI love your starting point, that we abuse the term \"Team\".   We can now add \"Team\" . to a short list of other abused and misused terms, such as \"Leader\", \"Coach\", \"Engagement\",and so on.\n\nWhen people use a term such as \"team\" imprecisely or without really having a distinct idea of what they mean, it should not be surprising that employees sometimes stop taking the use of the term seriously.   Piles upon piles of unused and unloved, but expensively printed T-shirts which heralded one or another corporate initiative bear silent witness to this:).\n\nI have nothing to offer as additional markers for teams.  Your list is thoughtful, comprehensive, and clear.  Each of these could easily be a blog post (or even a series) in itself.\n\nThanks for a strong addition to the move toward intentional and effective leadership:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13446, 27567, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-09-23 09:46:27', '2015-09-23 13:46:27', 'Hi Eunice. Welcome! Great post!\n\nTo answer your question: What would you add to the reasons teams fail?\n\nLike John, I\'m not sure I have anything substantive to add, except maybe this: Teams fail because the assumption is made that people will know how to work together as a team by throwing them together.\n\nI think it overlaps and perhaps is most relevant with your point about whether or not a team is really needed - this is when I see people not really trying to be a team. Nevertheless, when a team IS needed, should we assume people KNOW how to work together collaboratively, hold each other accountable, understand others depend on them? I think we all know the answer to that one.\n\nGood start, Eunice!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13447, 27567, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.181.112.246', '2015-09-24 06:13:33', '2015-09-24 10:13:33', 'Welcome to Lead Change Group Eunice!\n\nI like this post, simple and to the point.\n\nI think a couple of other sons teams fail are 1) unrealistic expectations and 2) a lack of adding value to the individuals and the team as a whole.\n\nI\'ve seen many times where what is expectations cannot be reasonably attained, but the \"just do it\" charge sets them up for failure. Teams then get fragmented as the members start to look to survival tactics just to get through, then eventually disengage.\n\nIf the team is not valued for their talent or contributions, it takes away from the vision of the mission, no matter how big or noble the cause. By valuing the members of the team, they feel a deeper appreciation for what they\'re setting out to accomplish.\n\nJohn is right, each topic could be its own post. A great way to start conversation, and look forward to more from you!\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13448, 27567, 'Eunice Parisi-Carew', 'eunice.parisi-carew@kenblanchard.com', 'http://euniceparisi-carew.com', '70.211.32.172', '2015-09-24 19:07:04', '2015-09-24 23:07:04', 'i agree with your comments Paul.  teams need to be recognized for their contribution if they are to continue performing', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13449, 27586, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-09-18 08:55:44', '2015-09-18 12:55:44', 'Chery -- in a world that\'s becoming more and more polarized, your voice promoting peace is most welcome...and most needed!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(13450, 27586, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://talkkindnesstome.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-09-18 10:10:22', '2015-09-18 14:10:22', 'I have nothing to add but am complimenting you on all the resources you\'ve provided to, as you said, reveal truth that is vital to igniting peace. Some say that knowledge is power. Beyond the power though, knowledge, when used for the good and benefit of people, can start a revolution of peace. Thank you for making us aware and hopeful that peace is possible but it starts within each person. Back in 1955 Jill Jackson Miller wrote a song Let There be Peace on Earth that  started the mantra, \"Let peace begin with me.\" and it continues to be true today.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13451, 27586, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://consultgiana.com/', '173.195.8.67', '2015-09-18 10:44:08', '2015-09-18 14:44:08', 'Thank you Jane!  I can\'t wait to share your story on Monday!', 0, '1', '', '', 13449, 270),
(13452, 27586, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://consultgiana.com/', '173.195.8.67', '2015-09-18 10:45:08', '2015-09-18 14:45:08', 'And let it begin with me!\nAnd let it begin with you!\n\n:)\n\nThank you Jane!', 0, '1', '', '', 13450, 270),
(13453, 27586, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-18 11:29:11', '2015-09-18 15:29:11', 'Hi, Cheryl;)\n\nAs I have commented elsewhere, this is a powerful series on an important topic.\n\nI am overwhelmed by the richness of this post and plan to study it further as I have time.  From the historical perspective to the corporate experience to the very personal and individual, you have really \"done your homework\" on this one.\n\nWhat we should take away is that conflict exists on many levels, and the ability to resolve conflict and create peace resides within us ... but must be applied in those different levels.\n\nOne additional resource I might mention is \"Just Peacemaking:  Ten Practices for Abolishing War\" edited by Glen Stassen.  I was introduced to this small but powerful collection through an adult Christian Formation class years ago.  It provides an in-depth look at the global incidence of war and identifies some of the drivers which must be addressed.  I have a feeling that some of the content could apply to corporate environments as well.\n\nThanks for a solid contribution to making our planet a little more pleasant.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13454, 27586, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://talkkindnesstome.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-09-19 07:59:00', '2015-09-19 11:59:00', 'Thank you, John, for recommending a book for further study on peace. If you haven\'t already read it, another super book on the same topic and recently promoted by Weaving Influence is The Anatomy of Peace by The Arbinger Institute.  I hear you. There is a time constraint for reading and a precarious imbalance between books and hours. So many books, so few hours.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13455, 27586, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://consultgiana.com', '173.195.8.67', '2015-09-19 08:18:39', '2015-09-19 12:18:39', 'Thank you for all of the encouragement John!  And I love that you recommended an additional resource!', 0, '1', '', '', 13453, 0),
(13456, 27586, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://consultgiana.com', '173.195.8.67', '2015-09-19 08:20:24', '2015-09-19 12:20:24', 'Jane - Thank you for recommending that book.  It is on my must read list!  (The video that is linked in this post about the police is a result of the thoughts in that book.)', 0, '1', '', '', 13454, 0),
(13457, 27586, 'Jesse Silva', 'lvprotector@gmail.com', '', '108.52.8.229', '2015-09-20 19:33:42', '2015-09-20 23:33:42', 'Jane,\n\nI was completely drawn to the many resources and thoughts that you offer in this article. You have done such a tremendous job of creating a written path through the idea of peace towards the destination of \"what can I do...\" to change our world. Thank you and know that you have inspired us to forge through the fear that usually prevents peace.\n\nJesse Silva', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 384),
(13458, 27629, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-10-01 08:53:15', '2015-10-01 12:53:15', 'You\'ve covered so much and so well, I can\'t really think of anything to add. Your instructions apply to everyone, leader or not.\n\nThe thing that makes my life a mess (thinking in terms of this article here) is not starting. Either I don\'t know what my next step should be or there are so many options I don\'t know which one to pursue first. I guess \"What other inaction ...?\" is not acting, not moving off square one, not stepping into the unknown.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13459, 27629, 'Jon Mertz', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://www.thindifference.com', '12.45.146.4', '2015-10-01 12:25:16', '2015-10-01 16:25:16', 'Jane,\n\nThank you for your comment and, I agree, not taking a step forward will make things messier. If we need to move from Point A to Point B, we must take the first step to make any progress. Getting unfrozen will help unfreeze other amazing steps forward.\n\nGreat add! Thank you.\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 13458, 0),
(13460, 27629, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-02 10:29:19', '2015-10-02 14:29:19', 'Hi, Jon:)\n,\nFirst ... what Jane said.  This is a very comprehensive and thoughtful collection of wisdom and your sharing of it is much appreciated.\n\nI have to admit that as I read your points, I remembered a old saying from my military days, which goes \"When in trouble, when in doubt, run and holler, scream and shout\".  Pretty much describes how many who attempt to work without following your excellent set of guidelines will end up.\n\nPossibly the most valuable point you make is in the introduction, where you say \" ... life is messy\":).\n\nIf we are honest, much of our activity and energy goes toward fighting this concept.  We want things to be orderly, neat, predictable, and manageable.  However, when we take your advice to set our foundations clearly, the messiness is less of a threat and our days become easier to move through.\n\nShoot, I suspect we may even enjoy life and work a bit more, when we approach it using your guidelines.\n\nAppreciate this well-stated and comprehensive post, which could easily become a book:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13461, 27629, 'Jon Mertz', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://www.thindifference.com', '72.48.93.4', '2015-10-02 16:51:58', '2015-10-02 20:51:58', 'John, I appreciate your feedback and insights as well! I agree that we seem to either spend too much time \"hollering\" about the mess or thinking life is \"neat\" all the time. Taking a real view and acting upon real plans can make a big difference. Appreciate all you do, John, and for your comments! Jon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13462, 27629, 'Jon Mertz', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://www.thindifference.com', '72.48.93.4', '2015-10-02 16:52:37', '2015-10-02 20:52:37', 'John, I appreciate your feedback and insights as well! I agree that we seem to either spend too much time “hollering” about the mess or thinking life is “neat” all the time. Taking a real view and acting upon real plans can make a big difference. Appreciate all you do, John, and for your comments! Jon', 0, '1', '', '', 13460, 0),
(13463, 27706, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '64.134.161.127', '2015-09-29 09:57:31', '2015-09-29 13:57:31', 'Hi, Page:)\n\nThanks for a post that is informative, enjoyable, and insightful about a person often mischaracterized as uneducated.\n\nAs you deftly point out and support with multiple examples, what Yogi said that made us smile or even laugh, also ought to make us think.\n\nSomeone once said \"Brevity is the soul of wit\", and that\'s true.  However, I think Yogi and his pronouncements also reflect another truism about wit - it is often very simply stated.\n\nThis one made me pause for a while and smile - in the 24/7 online world, that\'s about as good as it gets:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13464, 27706, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2015-09-29 11:50:20', '2015-09-29 15:50:20', 'Thank you John!  I love \"Yogi-isms\"!  There\'s a LOT of wisdom, packaged in hilarity!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(13465, 27706, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.118', '2015-09-29 12:53:32', '2015-09-29 16:53:32', 'They\'re all my faves, but I must agree, the future ain\'t what it used to be.  Neither is the present. Thanks for the great post. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13466, 27706, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2015-09-29 12:59:35', '2015-09-29 16:59:35', 'Thanks Mike!  I appreciate your encouragement!', 0, '1', '', '', 13465, 282),
(13467, 27730, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '71.19.182.34', '2015-09-29 17:20:13', '2015-09-29 21:20:13', 'Hi John,\n\nPowerful listening indeed.\n\nI recently graduated from the CTI coach training program. That program consists of five 3-day sessions, each one with its own theme and focus. I can tell you from personal experience that each and every day we were pushed into listening at level three, by CTI coaches who each had at least a decade of experience at level three listening. What an experience.\n\nWe were also pushed to listen with all of our body. If I am in the middle of coaching someone and suddenly my knee hurts, test it out with the client. \"My knee hurts right now--does that mean anything to you?\" When we did this in training I was astonished at how often the \"client\" across from me related to what it was that I asked them when some feeling showed up in my body.\n\nAt the same time, if it didn\'t resonate for the client, it was time for me to let go. This is true of everything you try in CTI coaching. Try, check for response, if you get none, try something else. Letting go of our preconceived notion of how a coaching session should go was a lot of the experiential training I got from the CTI program. But now we\'re beyond just listening skills and into more of what Co-Active Coaching is about.\n\nThanks for sharing your insights on the book. It was a great reminder to me of ways that I need to show up every day to be a better coach, husband, father, and friend.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 386),
(13468, 27730, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-09-29 17:28:48', '2015-09-29 21:28:48', 'Hi, David - thanks for commenting.\n\nI am now officially jealous that you are experiencing this model up close and personal.  I consider this one of, if not the best coaching model out there and I have researched many of them.\n\nI am not surprised at the focus and rigor you mention.  The best programs take their work very seriously - this just reinforces the value of CTI training, as far as I\'m concerned.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13469, 27730, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '71.19.182.34', '2015-09-29 17:39:53', '2015-09-29 21:39:53', 'Hi John,\n\nAfter 15 days of CTI training I had one conclusion--you can only become a better coach by having the experience of being a coach. You can\'t just read about it--you need to be doing coaching.\n\nOver the years, I\'ve coached in many ways, many times, with many different people. In CTI, I got to experience coaching at an entirely new level. While also experiencing myself from new perspectives. This is powerful stuff.\n\nI highly recommend CTI for anyone that wants to consider coaching as part of their work. Or their life.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 386),
(13470, 27043, 'Margy KJ', 'margy@weavinginfluence.com', '', '185.120.126.1', '2015-10-21 09:05:46', '2015-10-21 13:05:46', 'I really enjoyed this, Ahmed! As someone who has relocated to another country in the past few years, I definitely relate to many of your questions. I especially found the question \"Why am I not satisfied with myself?\" very pertinent--it seems like sometimes, we think \"if only I could do {fill in the blank], then I would feel fulfilled,\" but that feeling lingers no matter where we go. Maybe we need to look internally to really find the root of that question--and perhaps the answer to it, too.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13471, 27043, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-21 09:32:50', '2015-10-21 13:32:50', 'Hi, Ahmed\n\nFascinating post ... and I like that it is not a generic leadership post:)\n\nI was confused at first about your use of the term \"prisoner\", but you cleared that up nicely at the end.  With that understanding, your thoughts resonate with me.\n\nI have never had to move from one country to another, but I know something of moving from one culture to another.   Even with common language, dress, and some customs, the move from living on a farm in rural Missouri to living in a mid-sized urban community includes many of the same questions that you pose.\n\nI tend to summarize by asking myself \"Why am I here, instead of there?\".\n\nAs to your question about being a prisoner of my own thoughts, I would answer \"Yes, many times over\".  I think this is a human condition, where we construct limits, guidelines, rules, barriers, and so on, all based on assumptions or perceptions ... none of which are the reality in which we actually live.\n\nI get the impression that your move to Thailand was involuntary.  Is this correct?   How might your perceptions change, based on whether it was your decision or someone else\'s?\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13472, 27043, 'Ahmed Mujtaba', 'amkyz2014@gmail.com', 'http://www.amkyzonlineblog.com', '39.48.238.228', '2015-10-23 06:29:18', '2015-10-23 10:29:18', 'Thanks Margy for your comment and understanding.  we all have questions inside us. Questions which are specially related to us or to our self judgment. I think thats a way of pushing yourself forward to find the answers of those questions. Its a force who drive us to move in a direction on which we mostly take times to walk or run.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 398),
(13473, 27043, 'Ahmed Mujtaba', 'amkyz2014@gmail.com', 'http://www.amkyzonlineblog.com', '39.48.238.228', '2015-10-23 06:38:59', '2015-10-23 10:38:59', 'Dear john thanks for such a detail comment.\nI was in Thailand on a company project. Well moving to Thailand was kinda my choice because i wanted to find an answer of some of those questions which were irritating me for many years in my job in Pakistan.\nIn Thailand i really found many expected answers which have change me a lot. A biggest change is that now i m on a bigger understanding level which these days surprising me as well.\nOne thing is for sure now that what ever i always thought about corporate culture is true...may be not in pakistan but on the other side.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 398),
(13474, 27136, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-21 10:04:13', '2015-10-21 14:04:13', 'HI, Scott - fascinating post:)\n\nI believe this statement captures the issue quite well:  \"Communication all too often breaks down not only because the sender isn’t really sending, but because the receiver isn’t really receiving.\"\n\nAs they say, it takes two to Tango and it also takes two to communicate effectively.  Otherwise someone is just preaching and someone else is just ignoring.\n\nI have often felt that my words were not being heard, but when you throw in the element of considering the hearer\'s position, I am not able to recall as many instances.   This is probably NOT because they are fewer, but rather that I am just not attuned to think about the \"receiver\" end of things.\n\nI remember once at a call center in the Southwest, I was doing a corporate \"canned\" training session and realized after the first hour that the group of front line supervisors were not engaged ... at all.\n\nAfter a brief struggle with my sense of duty to the organization to continue the session, I broke training and started asking questions, which resulted eventually in a very productive discussion about the realities of their work environment.  What I was selling would not work for them, at least in the way I was selling it.  The participants were remarkably candid, once they understood I really wanted to hear from them.\n\nThe bottom line was a much revised workshop for the rest of that day, engaged and happier participants, with just a slight ruffling of feathers back at headquarters over my mid-workshop course correction.\n\nThe difference was in the ongoing application and willingness to continue to try to implement the techniques from the workshop in their work environment, and a much improved ability to trouble-shoot their own supervisory behaviors.\n\nBy the way, the topic of the workshop was \"Coaching in the Workplace\":)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13475, 27539, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-27 19:19:37', '2015-10-27 23:19:37', 'Hi, Jesse - fascinating post:)\n\nThe situation you described of a professional acting in an unprofessional manner and others seeming to ignore or miss it is very familiar to me.\n\nSeveral quick thoughts:\n\n1)  You described yourself vividly as an avid observer of people, so you know the value of the information you receive simply from being aware and paying attention to those around you.\n\nEveryone does not have this ability and many seem disinclined to gain it.\n\n2)  Politics comes into what we react to and what we ignore at work.  Some of the most obvious and worst behavior in organizations comes from those with the most power at the top of the hierarchy.   When a power differential exists between one person and another, normal rules of behavior are sometimes suspended.   Depending on the culture, they may be slightly \"bent\" or completely thrown out.\n\n3)  You are absolutely right when you state that professionalism should be about open and honest communication.  Not everyone will have the ability or inclination to act professionally as you have defined it.\n\nBTW, loved your example of the Dalai Lama and Donald Trump as the two extremes ... Nailed it:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13476, 27562, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2015-10-02 09:59:47', '2015-10-02 13:59:47', 'First David, thank you so much for writing this. I will be sharing it widely.\n\n\"Leave us a comment and share how you make sure to give people the encouragement they need.\"\n\nThe word \"encouragement\" has been front and center for me lately. It is SO EASY to give encouragement. It doesn\'t cost a thing, and is so easy, with some practice.\n\nI would say for some people it might be a decision they have to make, to see what is going right, and express appreciation or encouragement -- to the barista who just made  you a great latte or the grocery clerk who double-bagged your groceries without you having to ask.\n\nI believe the more we practice it is EVERY aspect of our lives, the easier it will be at work, and as a leader.\n\nThank you again, David, for bringing this to the forefront.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13477, 27562, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-02 11:07:06', '2015-10-02 15:07:06', 'Hi, David:)\n\nYou have done a masterful job of including a great deal of leadership wisdom within a short post.  I have heard all three of your points before, but I seldom see them linked together, which makes for a powerful combination.\n\nI think the only thing I can add is to reinforce the importance of being mindful as we interact with others.   Mary mentions several examples of these with people who provide something to us, and whom we sometimes pay little attention to while they are providing that something.   As you point out, we assume others will do something for us, rather than actually pay attention and not just know they do it, but develop an understanding of how they do it.\n\nWhen we are more mindful of others as we go about our daily tasks, we usually can find many specific things upon which to remark as we encourage and thank them.\n\nExcellent post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13478, 27562, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2015-10-03 20:37:28', '2015-10-04 00:37:28', 'Mary,\n\nThanks for the call to intentionality - you\'ve got a great point about making the choice to see!\n\nTake care,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13476, 307),
(13479, 27562, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2015-10-03 20:38:50', '2015-10-04 00:38:50', 'Hi John,\n\nThanks for those encouraging words. Your emphasis on mindfulness is so valuable and we certainly (myself included) need more of it. Must be present to win, as they say :)\n\nTake care,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13477, 307),
(13480, 27562, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-10-05 09:50:10', '2015-10-05 13:50:10', 'John, I enjoy reading your comments as much as posts :) Hope you have a great week planned.', 0, '1', '', '', 13477, 252),
(13481, 27689, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.181.92.195', '2015-10-09 06:51:40', '2015-10-09 10:51:40', 'Great post, Mary!\n\n I could add one more thing from my experience - be a support to your boss. By being a sounding board and a person who can be of counsel to them - yes even as a subordinate - you can gain a lot of ground in common understanding which can help you know the challenges of their role as well as establish yourself as a solid leader in the organization.\n\nIt\'s all about taking over the reigns, but working hard to establish solid relationships in the process.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13482, 27689, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2015-10-09 13:57:21', '2015-10-09 17:57:21', 'Paul, that is a great addition, and so true. Some will invite this, and some will use you as a sounding board without even realizing it. It certainly can serve you both, AND solidify your relationship.\n\nThanks again!', 0, '1', '', '', 13481, 252),
(13483, 27765, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-10-23 07:20:22', '2015-10-23 11:20:22', 'Leigh, I could not imagine how you were going to convince me to look at cutbacks differently, but indeed you did!\n\nWhat a GREAT use of a personal story to make a point. You made me think about how I can choose to think about just-about-any challenge differently.\n\nThank you for sharing your story. Great job and great read.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13484, 27765, 'Christophe Grouard', 'christophe@grouard.fr', 'http://blog.grouard.fr/blog', '160.92.7.69', '2015-10-23 09:49:12', '2015-10-23 13:49:12', 'Dear Leigh,\nGrumbling as a first response appears to me quite normal as it is an emotional response. The issue would be when one sticks on that first response without engaging the intellectual one. I like a lot your personal story to illustrate your point. Allow me to use your own story to illustrate my point and let\'s imagine that, in addition to your fridge problem, you had to deal with two, three or four change situations on a short period of time, in a personal or in a professional context. The emotional burden will be much more significant and it will be much more difficult to stop grumbling and in the end to engage the intellectual response with, preferably, a positive attitude. Thank you for sharing. Best regards.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13485, 27765, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '70.253.81.249', '2015-10-23 10:35:32', '2015-10-23 14:35:32', 'Hi, Leigh:)\n\nWell, I got past your extremely graphic description of rotting food and am darned glad I did:)   The message in this entertaining post is pure gold.\n\nI was reminded of a time when an organization experienced significant financial issues, eventually going into bankruptcy.  I was responsible at that time for the management development, organization development, and training functions, so I had a healthy budget.\n\nThis was a few years ago, so the major components almost always involved large amounts of money for hotel ballroom meeting space, food services, hotel rooms, and other costs related to bringing folks together for periods of time from one day to one week or more, from different parts of the country.   Depending on the division of the organization, transportation costs were either a facility or my responsibility.\n\nWhen things deteriorated, we were \"encouraged\" and then directed to cut costs.  Two things stand out for me in this:\n\n1)  I was and continue to be very oriented toward supporting the larger picture, so I followed directions and even occasionally exceeded the request to reduce costs and eliminate items from the budget which I controlled.\n\nThis made me feel very affiliated with the organization, since I was sacrificing some things I felt strongly about and enjoyed doing for the greater good.\n\nThis also aggravated the snot out of me, as I observed others who made different choices and insisted on protecting their slices of the pie.\n\nThe psychological dynamics and resulting emotions are important as we consider how we respond to a crisis.\n\n2)  The cost-cutting, while painful and only partially effective at reducing our overall problems, did result in my focusing on alternative ways to provide development and training to the groups with which I worked.   This resulted in our organization becoming much more oriented toward online training and meeting before these became ubiquitous in the workplace.\n\nThe silver lining in facing this situation had several threads:\n\n1)  Money saved for the organization through reduction of expensive employee development strategies.\n\n2)  More effective and less disruptive, but newer ways of developing employees employed.\n\n3)  My personal skill set exploded past stand-up facilitation of training and meetings to include becoming comfortable navigating the online environment, in advance of many others in my profession.\n\nThanks for a very interesting and thought-provoking post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13486, 27765, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-10-26 08:19:38', '2015-10-26 12:19:38', 'Great example of how changing your attitude transforms perspective and while the circumstances don\'t change, the potential to make things better instead of bitter is there. What if you treated cutbacks as a sense of adventure, not dread? Sounds like an opportunity to me.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13487, 27765, 'Vatsala Shukla', 'vatsala.shukla.delhi@gmail.com', 'http://karmicallycoaching.com', '14.98.15.211', '2015-10-30 06:06:15', '2015-10-30 10:06:15', 'First things first, sorry about your fridge, Leigh. I had something similar happen in my apartment when a bunch of nasty termites got in through the apartment below mine and ruined my kitchen cupboards that housed my bone china set!\n\nI think panic and shock was my first reaction after which I got into action and with the help of my parents to boost my morale, took active steps to refurbish and mercifully, the downstairs neighbor included my apartment in his bill for removing termites. Those awful termites have not dared to revisit since 2001.\n\nI remember that Census, Leigh, and I also remember growling at the poor Census taker about questions related to caste because I felt that it was not relevant. In any case, the census did show that more development was required for rural areas and the anomalies were consistent between the richer and poorer states of India.  The picture painted for rural India which is a major vote bank was grim although for the first time paperless census conducted on hand-held electronic devices by the then government.\n\nComing back to grumbling, I remember during my Article days in London coming into the office one morning to discover that the floor\'s open spaces had been covered with cubicles allocated to specific employees while the rest of us had to sit in a small area. There was a lot of grumbling and insecurity but this was the first sign that the employer was planning cutbacks due to economic conditions. Not a savvy way to get the message across, I may add.\n\nThose of us who were quick to pick up the message moved on to other jobs and got on with our careers and I guess the silver lining was that those who stayed got a chance to retain their jobs until they could make the move and the employer was saved making redundancy checks in thousands.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13488, 27774, 'Anne Louise Bannon', 'anne@annelouisebannon.com', 'http://annelouisebannon.com/blogs', '97.93.106.84', '2015-10-15 16:23:51', '2015-10-15 20:23:51', 'This is an interesting post. However, when I think of the sort of gatherings I\'ve been involved in, it has always seemed like politics and group think ruled the day. If you were in, your suggestions were hear. If you weren\'t, forget it. And don\'t even think about suggesting anything even near the edge of the box. Needless to say, I\'m no longer with those groups, but it does make it hard to be seen and evaluated fairly.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13489, 27774, 'Will Lukang', 'Will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.com', '107.77.70.92', '2015-10-15 21:27:47', '2015-10-16 01:27:47', 'Hi Anne,\n\nI understand what you mean.  However it is better to speak your mind, because sometimes you can start a conversation that otherwise would not happen. Often people are waiting to ask the question and they would lament that someone beat them to asking the same question.  If you don\'t ask or suggest, you\'ll never know the opportunity it will create.  Thank you for your comment.  Feel free to share my post.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13490, 27774, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-17 11:29:34', '2015-10-17 15:29:34', 'Hi, Will - very interesting post.\n\nI have two thoughts:\n\n1)  I enjoyed and agree with your points, but believe that \" Encourage Others To Participate\" is especially important, particularly if you find yourself in a competitive and guarded environment, as so often seems to happen.\n\nWhen you actively seek to engage and include others, as a trained facilitator or group counselor will do, you are breaking down the silos and encouraging folks to see you and others as collaborators, rather than competition.\n\nThis becomes a real strength when carried back to the workplace and shared with others.\n\n2)  You asked about experiences with offsite management events.  I used to regularly take my staff off either into the woods or, at least, to a ROPES course environment for a day, several times a year.  These experiential-based and outdoor activities were always beneficial in breaking down barriers, increasing team connectiveness, and helping me understand those who I worked with at a deeper level.  You find out quickly who are the risk-takers, the cheerleaders, the thoughtful problem-solvers, and the isolators.\n\nWe usually were dealing with \"made-up\" scenarios, so the debriefing after each exercise was very important, especially when we had to grapple with the question \"How does what we are learning here relate to what we do back at work?\".\n\nThanks for a thoughtful and useful post.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13491, 27774, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', '', '173.54.34.122', '2015-10-25 22:51:16', '2015-10-26 02:51:16', 'Hi John,\n\nThank you for commenting on my post.  I appreciate you sharing the ROPES course environment.  It is important to break down barriers and increase connectiveness especially when we are task to do more with less.\n\nRegards,\n\nWill Lukang', 0, '1', '', '', 13490, 276),
(13492, 27787, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-21 10:15:58', '2015-10-21 14:15:58', 'HI, John - very interesting and useful post.\n\nI love your use of the term \"adore\" here, but I would probably say \"respect\" or even \"engage with\", because that is the point of all your excellent observations about communications.\n\nEach one of your four points is right on in terms of its importance to us as leaders.  If we are not asking these questions and considering these dynamics, we are operating in a vacuum ... and our organizations probably show it.\n\nI especially enjoyed your comment about others reflecting what you project to you.  This is key to understanding yourself, but I see many folks who will look everywhere but toward themselves as the possible reason why employees are working as needed.\n\nAs goes the boss, so goes everyone else, to a large degree.  An important point here might be that, at least in my experience, this is not about everyone acting the same, but rather that our modeling of effective behavior moves the center mass of our workforce more toward the effective side of the spectrum.\n\nI believe that when I am positive and even chipper in my daily work, those who work with me will tend to be more chipper than their \"normal\".   For example, the person who already lives in \"Chipper\" land will just blossom, while those who are naturally more reserved or even morose will become more friendly and relaxed.  They will NOT become clones of me or of the naturally chirpy folks in the group.  Just more than they would be otherwise ....\n\nThanks for a nice post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13493, 27790, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.181.92.195', '2015-10-05 08:39:56', '2015-10-05 12:39:56', 'Thank you, Chris, for sharing this terrific insight into the root of true culture. These points make sense, and I wonder how many leaders and organizations have a surface culture that doesn\'t drive down into real behaviors from the leadership team.\n\nThe best culture I ever saw was when we opened LEGOLAND theme park in California. The nature of the LEGO company - fun and learning - was personified in our leadership. Even when the company overextended its reach and had to restructure, their care for the staff went far beyond what any normal company would have done. I know many people who went back to them because of how the leadership valued their employees. These folks loved the culture, and it became a part of them.\n\nGreat job, Chris! Have a terrific week!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13494, 27790, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-10-05 09:21:15', '2015-10-05 13:21:15', 'Chris, thank you for sharing your learnings from this conference, and translating them for all of us to learn from. Love these points especially:\n\n- Culture is more involved than employee engagement or high performance or customer service.\n-The quality of your organization’s culture...resides entirely in the quality of relationships between people.\n\nAs I consider answering your final question, \"What has been the best example of corporate values you have ever seen lived out?\" I regret to say I have not had a strong positive experience with this.\n\nWhen I look to the reason for that I find it in your point here: \"Leaders frame and mold their organization’s culture with their behavior, messaging, and decisions, every day.\"\n\nI think many leaders take this for granted. Creating a great culture doesn\'t necessarily require a program. It \"merely\" requires being clear on your values and demonstrating them with your own behavior, every day. That is a start.\n\nThank you for sharing your insights and this VERY valuable information!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13495, 27790, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '166.137.136.60', '2015-10-05 15:07:35', '2015-10-05 19:07:35', 'Thanks for your kind words and great culture story, Paul! When companies demonstrate genuine care for their people and create a workplace of dignity and respect, amazing things happen.\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13493, 372),
(13496, 27790, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '166.137.136.60', '2015-10-05 15:09:38', '2015-10-05 19:09:38', 'Thanks so much, Mary for your kind words and reflection.\n\nToo many of us have never experienced a safe, inspiring, productive work environment that treats everyone with trust, dignity, &amp; respect.\n\nEverything leaders do either helps, hurts, or hinders the creation and maintenance of that delightful work culture. I\'m bound and determined to help leaders do the right thing, every day.\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13494, 372),
(13497, 27790, 'Nick', 'nickhughes2014@gmail.com', 'https://executivecv.net', '86.128.241.59', '2015-10-06 10:57:54', '2015-10-06 14:57:54', 'Thanks for the article. Managing organisational culture is massively important. It is simply more than employee engagement. I worked for a major corporation that had quite a \'toxic\' culture and coercive leadership style (worst form). Yet, they treated it like an employee engagement / PR exercise to say how brilliant they were rather than identify / resolve the root cause of many issues (I.e. ineffective leadership).\n\nThis did not solve the issue as every year they tried to \'re-invent\' themselves as a caring, employee-centric, brilliant and forward-thinking corporation. They started believing it too much themselves! In the end, people got fed up, killed-off team morale and talented employees left. Many employees went to work for a competitor. I walked out because I had enough!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13498, 27790, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '166.137.240.65', '2015-10-06 14:33:59', '2015-10-06 18:33:59', 'That was a no-win scenario for employees and YOU, Nick. Good for you to find a different organization to work for!\n\nLeaders at your old organization were doing exactly what THEIR leaders were asking of them. Until leaders ASK employees what it\'s like to work in their culture, the degree of respectful interactions, etc., leaders can assume things are fine - when they\'re not.\n\nThanks for sharing your difficult experience - and I wish you the best.\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13497, 372),
(13499, 27799, 'Julian', 'oliver.dodd83@googlemail.com', 'http://www.huge-relief-fast.com', '146.90.186.140', '2015-10-28 09:10:51', '2015-10-28 13:10:51', 'Good post on motivation. I think a lot of it has also to do with your subconscious world view, and your core beliefs. In fact, I strongly suspect that if you struggle with motivation, it\'s becuased you have some core beliefs working against you somehow. EFT and visualization will help, as well as being mindful and increasing your positive self-talk.\nThanks for posting', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13500, 27799, 'Noah Megregian', 'nmegregian16@gmail.com', '', '140.103.59.153', '2015-11-13 00:10:49', '2015-11-13 05:10:49', 'I agree that worldview, mindsets, and the subconscious have an impressive influence over motivation. James Clear wrote a blog post about another perspective on the matter here: http://jamesclear.com/stay-focused\nIn this post, he suggests that whoever can handle reputation and  boredom will stay on path, while others will not. The introduction of boredom ties in a new element that many people don\'t touch on.\nThank you for your kind reply, Julian', 0, '1', '', '', 13499, 405),
(13501, 27806, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-17 11:36:17', '2015-10-17 15:36:17', 'Hi, Cassandra:)\n\nThanks for this very interesting and thought-provoking post.\n\nYou described beautifully how to build trust within a group and create strong relationships based on asking questions, focusing on the needs of others, and sharing experiences, both personal and professional.\n\nI noticed that you did not mention anything about your \"official\" capacity, so I do not know whether you were a colleague, supervisor, or what.    I get the general impression that you were simply one of the gang, and as you noted, you had decisions to make about how you engaged with those other people that had nothing to do with titles or authority.\n\nHowever, what you did has everything to do with influencing others and being a servant leader, regardless of status or title.\n\nThis was a great post and I am looking forward to your continued contributions:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13502, 27814, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-10-07 07:48:39', '2015-10-07 11:48:39', 'My greatest fears stem from things outside my control and affect people I care about. I\'ve realized them more recently when 4 of my friends lost their husbands to unexpected death. My fear is for them now that their companion is gone and the only thing I can do for them is be a friend and pray for them. It\'s probably a manifestation and extension of fear of the unknown, but it seems to be my fear for someone else that causes me the deepest emotional turmoil.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13503, 27814, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '24.114.40.136', '2015-10-07 10:10:11', '2015-10-07 14:10:11', 'So sorry Jane to hear of your friend\'s unexpected losses. The same day we experienced the events in this post a very close sailing friend was kidnapped off the dock in the South Philippines. There is still no word of his whereabouts or the other three people kidnapped at the same time. There is so much we do not control. All we have is our responses to the events we experience. I know that you are there for your friends.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 386),
(13504, 27814, 'Jack Durish', 'jack.durish@yahoo.com', 'http://www.jackdurish.com', '68.5.51.163', '2015-10-07 10:33:05', '2015-10-07 14:33:05', 'I gave up one sleepless night to confront this issue and posted the result on my blog just yesterday. Fear, it seems, is on our minds these days. I have experienced both fear and anger and realized that both are born of the same thing: Helplessness. Think about it. I did. I grew up with an abusive father. I was helpless to avoid his abuse. Often I reacted with fear. Sometimes I reacted with anger. Both grew out of the same helplessness. I\'ve been to war and experienced the same dichotomy of emotions for the same reasons. Interestingly, both emotions may engender the same response: Irrational thoughts and behavior which do nothing to mitigate the helplessness. Fear and anger dissipate with time, but helplessness is simply there unless you do something constructive. Something that makes you better prepared. Something that makes you less helpless when you find yourself in similar circumstances in the future. Maybe, just maybe, that will mitigate the fear and anger...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
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(13505, 27814, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2015-10-07 10:46:35', '2015-10-07 14:46:35', 'David, thank you so much for sharing your story, and for being so transparent. Writing that would have required me to overcome fear of being judged.\n\nThere are so many ways fear can show up in our lives. Your story reminds me of how it can come out of nowhere.\n\nWhen I was in my 20\'s I recall seeing a TV new segment about a woman being kidnapped. I remember telling my dad that I would bite, scratch and fight. I suspected I could kill my attacker with my bare hands.\n\nThen a few years later my brother was mugged. He told me that he sort of shut down. He said that despite how you think you\'ll react, you never know until you are there. Two things: 1) Even if you have presence of mind, it may not be in your best interest to fight and 2) you just don\'t know how fear is going to impact you, potentially to the point where you can\'t move.\n\nThat primal part of our brains runs the show. It\'s all about what we define as something to be feared. I learn more every day about what I fear, and consider how I can dissolve the irrational.\n\nThank you David for reminding me to be compassionate with myself, because that is what I felt for you as you recounted your story.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13506, 27814, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '216.13.187.250', '2015-10-07 11:48:08', '2015-10-07 15:48:08', 'Thanks Jack. I read your post \"Do fear and anger share a common root?\" which others can find at this link:\n\nhttp://www.jackdurish.com/4/post/2015/10/helplessness.html\n\nMy belief is that our limbic brain responds to what it perceives the situation to be. That part of our brain has protected us and our ancestors for millions of years. Classically, we say that our responses are fight or flight--I think there is a third one--hide.\n\nWhen we experience helplessness I think we are trying to hide. That was certainly what I was doing when I lay there in bed in that hotel room in Santa Cruz.\n\nWhen we get angry, I think we are getting into fight mode.\n\nThankfully, we can sooth our limbic brain and use our cerebral cortex to override our fear response, whatever they may be. Anger, helplessness, or any other of a range of reactions are all normal. Our choice is whether we recognize the fear when it is there and then decide what our response should be. Your example points out that some people\'s response to the same event can be at polar opposites.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 386),
(13507, 27814, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '216.13.187.250', '2015-10-07 11:51:09', '2015-10-07 15:51:09', 'Thanks Mary. As un my response to Jack above, the very primitive part of our brain responds to dangerous events in its own way. Whether we will fight or hide is something we cannot know until we are in the situation.\n\nBeing compassionate with ourselves is hard to do and ultimately the most beneficial path to pursue. By recognizing our fears in less dangerous situations and building up our ways of responding to the fear when it is there, builds those compassionate muscles for ourselves and how we can and will choose to respond.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 386),
(13508, 27814, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-07 15:13:18', '2015-10-07 19:13:18', 'Hi, David and Troupe:)\n\nFascinating discussion.  Thanks, David, for disclosing so personally to start it off.\n\nAs has been mentioned, we react to what we perceive, rather than simply to what is, and that lies at the base of the immobilizing fear so many of us have experienced.\n\nThe comment about not really knowing how you will react until you experience something is also worth emphasizing.    The younger we are, the more likely we are to paint a braver and more ethical picture of our hypothetical behavior.  As we age, we gain experience and tend to modify our internal image.   Our brain gets smarter, at least to some degree.\n\nHowever, another angle on this is that we sometimes become overcautious as we gain experience.  When one knows that drinking and driving can be dangerous, we might become fearful of any instance of drinking and driving.  Parents experience this when they allow their adolescents to venture forth without them.  The parent knows just how easily things can go wrong, while the adolescent is still protected by their youthful veneer.\n\nI have experienced fear often enough in different situations to know that I am probably on the over-cautious side of the spectrum and no hero.   However, there is another way to consider fear than just in the physical sense.\n\nI also know that I easily venture into areas where others fear to go because of emotional or psychological factors.  At various points in my life,  I have dealt head-on with people in trauma, grief, crisis, depression, and other situations which had most people literally running to get away.  On one campus, I was known as \"Mr. Death\" (to my staff only) because I was the usual point person for handling students, teachers, and staff members who had to be informed of the death of a loved one.\n\nNot a place I wanted to be or enjoyed particularly, but I could deal with the raw emotion better than most.  I still remember vividly on several occasions lingering outside a door, wishing desperately for some valid reason to not knock on that door and do what I was there to do.\n\nThat said, losing someone I love is one of my greatest fears ...\n\nThanks for stirring the thinking AND feeling muscles up today.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13509, 27814, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '154.20.159.120', '2015-10-07 17:56:52', '2015-10-07 21:56:52', 'Hi John,\n\nI\'m glad that my post got you feeling. I know that Karalee and I were very much \"felling it\" when we got woken up at 4:00 am that morning in Santa Cruz.\n\nMy guess is that you are someone who is capable of putting your feelings \"on the shelf\" when needed, such as when telling someone about the death of a loved one. While you never liked that responsibility, you were likely better able than all those around you to deal with what came up for you emotionally in those situations. Like I say--that\'s my guess.\n\nI too have got more cautious as I have aged. I\'m a little less aggressive charging down the steepest hill on the mountain when skiing with my children. Falls do hurt more and take longer to recover from than when I was 18, so there is some good reason for my hesitation. On the other hand, there is nothing like blasting down a steep run with my three children as the four of us leave smoke trails of snow behind us. A case of resonance of the experience triumphing over the fear of the falling.\n\nMay we all recognize and build on our capabilities to deal with our fears.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 386),
(13510, 27817, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-10-06 08:47:16', '2015-10-06 12:47:16', 'What I miss most about working for a single organization is the team work. I recognize  many of your key points from your new book, Collaboration Begins With You. Teams would function well if they understood and put them into practice. Congratulations on your upcoming book launch.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13511, 27817, 'Nick', 'nickhughes2014@gmail.com', 'https://executivecv.net', '86.128.241.59', '2015-10-06 11:08:48', '2015-10-06 15:08:48', 'Understanding team dynamics, building high performance teams and developing talent are all important disciplines. It is also the ability for teams to collaborate, work cross-functionally, share knowledge / expertise and achieve common objectives that will often make the difference.\n\nHowever, this is often undermined if teams work in \'silos\' placing barriers to collaborative working, so teams must be structured appropriately to foster innovation, new ideas and motivation. This is especially true of highly scientific / technical teams - the conundrum is how best to keep \'scientists\', \'thought leaders\' and \'experts\' motivated.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13512, 27852, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-10-12 19:26:57', '2015-10-12 23:26:57', 'Jane, this is full of so many wonderful nuggets I hardly know where to begin!\n\n\"Silence in pursuit of maintaining the peace or avoiding conflict only perpetuates the status quo.\" I\'ll use this as my foundation to answer your concluding question: \"What defining leadership moments have you experienced?\"\n\nI was really young in my career, but I knew my supervisor was not treating everyone fairly. He was particularly suspicious and condescending to those in non-exempt positions vs. exempt positions. Now I know it was classism. One day in a staff meeting I asked him a very pointed question that made it obvious he was not telling the whole story to everyone about an issue. In my opinion he did not respect the opinions of those in non-exempt positions (and the issue was going to affect their jobs) so he didn\'t share it with them. I spoke up.\n\nLater he came to my office and screamed at me, \"Whose side are you on?\" I answered that I didn\'t know there were sides. (I know he screamed because later people told me that they heard him down the hall.) He told me I would never be management material. I thought to myself that if treating people like they are beneath me is what it takes to be a manager, I would take my chances with treating them well.\n\nTo address your other concluding question: \"What advice do you offer to others to be ready for theirs?\" Be willing to be messy, to not be perfect. I might have made a rookie mistake by raising up this issue the way I did in a staff meeting, but at the same time I do not regret it. The fact that I raised it up ended up serving me very well over the following years with all involved. Not that that is a reason to do it, but in a way, you might as well be courageous. It might not turn out at badly as you think.\n\nAnother one of your points: \"We’re hard-wired to want connection, and we aren’t normally inclined to accept the discomfort we feel so acutely when people don’t like us, especially when they’re not shy about letting that be known.\" I even write about this myself, a lot -- getting comfortable with your own discomfort and getting comfortable with making others uncomfortable. But wow. What you say is so true. We are hard-wired for connection. I still catch myself avoiding discomfort sometimes, and must examine my own discomfort and come to terms with my imperfection, and try to make it right when I\'ve let myself down in this area.\n\nThank you Jane for another thought-provoking post. You said a lot about this complex topic in a succinct and useful way.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13513, 27852, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-13 11:03:02', '2015-10-13 15:03:02', 'Jane ... I knew I liked you and now I know why.\n\nWhat Mary said about there being so many excelent points here, it\'s hard to know where to start.\n\nYou have clearly articulated both why it is important to display the courage to speak up and speak out AND the reality that consequences may follow.  I have come to the realization that speaking up is what has to happen, even when one knows that the outcomes may not be what you want.\n\nI would add that this willingness to risk is easier when you win:).   I have experienced the frustration of \"fighting the good fight\" on behalf of positive and progressive management, and having my efforts be for naught ... at least, where I was at the time.\n\nTwo thoughts here:\n1)  Where I was is not where I am and maybe was not where I should have been.  Sometimes as we fight the fights, we need to step back and consider whether we are in the best place.  I am not one of those who believe in security over self-respect, so leaving a bad situation does not rattle me as much as it used to.\n\n2)  Sometimes fighting the fight that needs to be fought is the point in and of itself, letting the outcome happen as they will.  Others have shared with me how my doing and saying the right thing influences them to be more courageous ... that\'s a result that is apart from whether the issue of the moment is resolved successfully or not.\n\nYou have graced us once again with thoughtful and heroic leadership wisdom ... for that, I am personally grateful:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13514, 27852, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-13 11:04:39', '2015-10-13 15:04:39', 'Side Note:  What I hate is when I press \"Send\" and then see the misspelled word (in this case, \"excellent\" ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13515, 27852, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-10-13 11:08:41', '2015-10-13 15:08:41', 'Mary -- big thanks for sharing a compelling leadership moment story! That incident speaks volumes about your boss and you.  To me, he failed his moment and you aced yours.\n\nFrom my perspective, making ourselves uncomfortable by making our voices heard is an unassailable component of leadership. Sometimes doing what\'s right sadly doesn\'t make us popular with the powers-that-be.\n\nYour line, \"be willing to be messy, to not be perfect, \" is another one of those lines, as Paula describes them, that should be tattooed everywhere!\n\nSmiles and thanks for sharing!\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(13516, 27852, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-10-13 14:14:21', '2015-10-13 18:14:21', 'John,\n\nThanks for opening and closing lines that made me smile!\n\nThanks as well as adding the willingness to take a risk to the mix. It\'s spot on. I just spent a few minutes staring out the window, remembering my \"fight the good fight\" failure moments. And maybe \"failure\" isn\'t the right word to describe them! While the physical/tangible outcomes weren\'t what I\'d lobbied for, the intangible elements lived on -- so like what Mary described in her boss and the taking sides story and in your experiences. Mine, too.\n\nWith thanks, grace and a smile,\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 13513, 251),
(13517, 27852, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-10-13 14:14:52', '2015-10-13 18:14:52', 'Too funny...and been there, done that -- multiple times!', 0, '1', '', '', 13514, 251),
(13518, 27868, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-10-13 09:17:52', '2015-10-13 13:17:52', 'Hi Karin. What a great post and timely for me. Thank you for both encouraging us to promote the value we have to offer and do it in a character-based way.\n\nThis is my favorite tip: \"Help them clarify their vision based on their scene, not what you’ve got to give.\" Strong professionals do not force their pet model or program to fit the client\'s situation.\n\n\"Don’t sell past the close.\" - I had the experience of someone doing this while selling to me recently. He talked me out of several hundred dollars of service/product. I found it perplexing. AND, thank you for the reminder for myself.\n\nGreat post today, Karin. Thanks again. And BTW, you have a snazzy website!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13519, 27868, 'Karin Hurt', 'letsgrowleaders@gmail.com', 'http://letsgrowleaders.com', '100.36.64.206', '2015-10-13 09:26:25', '2015-10-13 13:26:25', 'Mary,\nThanks so much!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13520, 27868, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-13 11:12:02', '2015-10-13 15:12:02', 'Hi, Karen - excellent post:)\n\nI like everything you highlight as strategies to confidently and assuredly promote yourself.  Your starting list of self-sabotaging thinking and acting is right on.\n\nI do have a question about one thing:  This \"Unique Value Proposition\".  Maybe I am just being too literal here, but I have always found this difficult to do.  When I see the word \"unique\" or the phase \"sets you apart from everyone else\", I freeze up, because I cannot imagine any value, attribute, behavior, or trait that is truly \"unique\".\n\nI do believe that my blend of experience, education, and attitude makes me very competitive and a stronger candidate than many others, but \"unique\" is a word I just cannot use in reference to myself.\n\nYou mentioned asking trusted advisors for their input and I will do that ... but I cannot imagine them identifying something completely unique to me.\n\nAm I being too literal?  Have I had too much coffee (if there is such a thing) this morning?   Any thoughts?\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13521, 27868, 'Karin Hurt', 'karin.hurt@letsgrowleaders.com', 'http://letsgrowleaders.com', '100.36.64.206', '2015-10-13 11:22:08', '2015-10-13 15:22:08', 'John,\nI think if you really consider this carefully, you will realize that there is something about the cocktail of John that is truly unique.\n\nFor example, when I am positioning myself for change management work in the call center space, I do believe I have a cocktail that is unique. There\'s a blend of a significant academic background in leadership, a decade in HR strategy and field work, coupled with having led several internal large call centers at Verizon, and then completely transformed the entire customer service outsourcing function at Verizon to parity with internal centers by building strategic partnerships and great cultures....and I\'m about to publish a book for AMACOM based on that experience.\n\nI don\'t have to say all that outloud, but it pops on LinkedIn.\n\nI\'m uniquely positioned to help a call center turn their results around.\n\nFind me a guy that looks like that, and I\'ll buy you lunch... she said with #confidenthumility.\n\nNamaste,\nKarin', 0, '1', '', '', 13520, 0),
(13522, 27868, 'Marvin Magusara', 'hello@graftene.co.uk', 'https://graftene.co.uk', '81.171.159.172', '2015-10-13 11:46:39', '2015-10-13 15:46:39', 'Hi Karin,\n\nNice article. I always liked the term \"drag them into your own reality\", I think it applies in so many things including and perhaps specially self-promotion. When you talk with such conviction and confidence about a product, service or yourself, you truly believe and show no hesitation in your voice or body language, people are much more inclined to believe what you believe.\n\nMarvin', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 402),
(13523, 27868, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-13 18:37:25', '2015-10-13 22:37:25', 'Karin:)\n\nThanks for the quietly confident and strong example of how to think in terms of your unique \"cocktail\" (love this imagery).\n\nYour blending of education, experience, and skillset reminds me that we all have a unique blend of these things:  the differentiators move around our level of self-confidence and the target we choose.  Your self-example clearly shows the power of both having a strong sense of self-worth around your differentiators and choosing a focus that makes your differentiators incredibly applicable.\n\nThanks for the clarity.  You have given me much to think about and that is a very good thing:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13524, 27868, 'Nina Steiner', 'nsteiner75@gmail.com', 'http://www.bettercallnina.com', '23.240.187.189', '2015-10-15 00:25:20', '2015-10-15 04:25:20', 'Dear Karin,\n\nThanks for this great article - especially like thinking of each of us as a \"unique cocktail\"...I believe in creating a value proposition to stand out from the crowd.  I recently read Ken Blanchard\'s \"Raving Fans\" which had a huge impact on me.  Wonder what you think about it?\n\nThanks, Nina', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13525, 27868, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-10-15 09:24:39', '2015-10-15 13:24:39', 'Unique cocktails all around! :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13526, 27868, 'Karin Hurt', 'letsgrowleaders@gmail.com', 'http://letsgrowleaders.com', '100.36.64.206', '2015-10-15 16:16:31', '2015-10-15 20:16:31', 'Marvin, I love that and so agree!', 0, '1', '', '', 13522, 0),
(13527, 27868, 'Karin Hurt', 'letsgrowleaders@gmail.com', 'http://letsgrowleaders.com', '100.36.64.206', '2015-10-15 16:17:27', '2015-10-15 20:17:27', 'John, I appreciated the challenge ;-)  I\'d love to hear what you come up with.', 0, '1', '', '', 13523, 0),
(13528, 27868, 'Karin Hurt', 'letsgrowleaders@gmail.com', 'http://letsgrowleaders.com', '100.36.64.206', '2015-10-15 16:18:28', '2015-10-15 20:18:28', 'Nina,\nI\'m a big believer in the concept of building a loyal following of raving fans... when you\'ve got a tribe like that, it doesn\'t feel like selling.', 0, '1', '', '', 13524, 0),
(13529, 27868, 'Karin Hurt', 'letsgrowleaders@gmail.com', 'http://letsgrowleaders.com', '100.36.64.206', '2015-10-15 16:19:13', '2015-10-15 20:19:13', 'Mary, sounds good to me ;-)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13530, 27886, 'John Christianson', 'John@highlandprivate.com', 'http://highlandprivate.com', '71.193.132.30', '2015-10-09 13:26:02', '2015-10-09 17:26:02', 'Hi Paula, I enjoyed reading your piece and I\'m finding the S Curve model for personal disruption to be a useful way to think about how we can dial in to our distinctive strengths. I also liked what you shared from the webinar about looking at your top LinkedIn skills as another way to determine distinctive strengths. I just discovered Weaving Infuence and it looks like a terrific organization with a meaningful mission. I thought I\'d share my take aways from Disrupt Yourself with you coming from my perspective as a wealth manager to add to the conversation! https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/go-ahead-jump-conversation-author-whitney-johnson-john-christianson?trk=prof-post', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13531, 27886, 'Paula Kiger', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.131.210', '2015-10-09 13:55:37', '2015-10-09 17:55:37', 'John, thanks so much for your comment (and for the link to your piece, which I visited!). The world is definitely full of \"authorities\" who purport to tell us how to succeed, what to do to maximize our earning potential, etc. It\'s easy to drown out our intuitive sense of where we are strongest and how to make that work to our benefit (and the benefit of those around us). This webinar and book have motivated me too dig a little deeper.', 0, '1', '', '', 13530, 0),
(13532, 27922, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-27 14:28:40', '2015-10-27 18:28:40', 'Hi, Marcella - thanks for this comprehensive and well-written analysis of this idea from Disrupt Yourself.\n\nYou have done such a good job I have little to add of value.\n\nI really liked one of your statements toward the end, where you say \"If you create a workplace culture where everything is open to discussion, authority and ideas may be challenged, and mistakes are almost bravery, then you may be on your way to innovation. \"    You have perfectly captured the workplace many of us desperately wish were commonplace, but unfortunately this is the exception rather than the rule.\n\nDiscussion, challenge, and mistakes are all words that scare the socks off many folks, especially those who focus on either their own career or work to maintain the status quo in systems, processes, and culture.\n\nFor some reason, I have this image of a small red-haired girl singing loudly \"I wanna see you be brave\":) ...\n\nThanks for a right-on push in the right direction.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13533, 27922, 'Marcella Bremer', 'editor@leadershipandchangemagazine.com', 'http://www.leadershipandchangemagazine.com/', '217.121.4.226', '2015-10-27 14:42:43', '2015-10-27 18:42:43', 'Hi John,\n\nI know how it scares people.... Me too, sometimes ;-) The point is we have to aim for this nevertheless to develop ourselves and our organizations.\n\nThank you for your kind words. I love the image that emerged :) Wish I had red hair. Let\'s be brave!\nMarcella', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13534, 27941, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-17 11:45:51', '2015-10-17 15:45:51', 'Hi, Chip:)\n\nFirst, I really enjoyed your \"John Henry\" story, because my father had the same attitude and I had pretty much the same response as you did:).   Oh, we rebellious and questioning youth ...\n\nSecond, you have made some strong and very valid points about how some systems designed to improve efficiency have the effect of squeezing out and eliminating any flexibility and subsequent ability of an employee to handle an issue.\n\nI am not surprised that, as you pointed out, the same system that blocked you from simply paying for a small item also allowed the resupply process for that same item to fail.\n\nWhen the ability to engage and use the system is lost, the employee loses interest in serving, and simply concentrates on getting through their shift.   Things which an engaged employee would notice and deal with get lost in the shuffle.\n\nBTW, I had lots of fun guessing the name of the big box store, since my wife used to work at one and we have some stories:)\n\nExcellent reminder that some workplaces are toxic when it comes to effective customer service focus, regardless of what their marketing campaigns claim.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13535, 27955, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-10-23 14:22:28', '2015-10-23 18:22:28', 'Hi, Paul - what a colorful analogy:)\n\nI like the visual image of the colored flags flapping in the breexe.  Makes me wish we had something as visible to use in our workplaces to communicate what appears to be happening.\n\nYour examples are part memory jogger and diagnostic tool.  We are reminded or made aware of the importance of workplace dynamics by imagining a flag of a particular color flapping madly in the wind.\n\nWonder what would happen if we actually did this:)?\n\nThe diagnostic part comes in with those questions you attach and the comments you include.  My personal favorite is this double-whammy set of sentences in the Black Flag discussion:\n\n\"Do you hesitate to address issues out of fear, indifference, or a willingness to just get rid of the individual? Think of how the impact slows down the other people (drivers) and gets in the way or them doing their work and succeeding.\"\n\nThe first sentence asks ancomfortable, but necessary question, while the second encourages us to shift our perspective and consider outcomes other than the ones we are after.\n\nExcellent stuff and very thought-provoking:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13536, 27138, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-03 11:29:10', '2015-12-03 16:29:10', 'Hi, Scott:)\n\nNice article and you have given us five solid suggestions.\n\nI particularly like the comment in your third point about how \"Cynics get their power when no one challenges them\".   I am currently reading a fascinating book titled \"Intelligent Disobediance\" by Ira Chaleff which touches on this repeatedly.\n\nMany of the reasons that cynics are not challenged are the same as those for people not resisting illegal or bad decisions in organizations, and the ways to change people\'s behavior would apply here as well.\n\nI enjoyed this post a lot.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13537, 27451, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-11-12 14:48:14', '2015-11-12 19:48:14', 'Hi, MIchelle:)\n\nFascinating article and I can tell you I have experienced all five types (more or less) over my work career.\n\nWhile all are somewhat stressful (since they are job interviews, after all), I found the panel interviews (me with several internal folks) to be the most difficult to experience.    In one memorable experience, I had a group interview with the president, vice president to whom I would report, and several other key staff with whom I would interact.\n\nOf the six people, I had only met the person to whom I would be directly reporting in an earlier interview, which had gone well.   I was challenged to create a presentation that aligned with the organization\'s activities, which is usually challenging for an outsider.  While I am quite comfortable presenting, I am most comfortable when either I have complete control of the content or am following very clear directions with  interaction through the development and design phase.  That was not part of this deal.\n\nI did my presentation and got no response from anyone in the room.  During the presentation and relatively short discussion which followed, I noticed that the president was definitely not engaged with the process, as were two others on this panel.\n\nThey did not appear to have prepared for the interview - the questions felt very spur-of-the-moment and in some cases, were repetitive.   Energy in the interactions with me and with each other was definitely less than I expected for a social services agency.  They did not seem interested in being there.\n\nBottom Line:  By the end of this experience, I was not very sure that I wanted to work for the organization or with these folks, so the phone call ending that possibility later in the week was received pleasantly, professionally, and with an inner sense of relief by me:).\n\nFor me, this was a good reminder that interviews should always be two-way activities.   You learn valuable infromation about the organization and leadership, while they learn about you and what you offer.\n\nThanks for a useful post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13538, 27569, 'Duncan M.', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '95.76.171.184', '2015-10-30 13:45:38', '2015-10-30 17:45:38', 'The PERFORM model manages to define very well a high-performing  team. I was lucky enough to be part of such a team where all the members fought for the same purpose. It\'s quite interesting to see how people who, in everyday life, share a different view, work together hand in hand. All leaders should consider PERFORM as their guide to build the next successful team.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13539, 27569, 'Rodrigo', 'rodrigo.lobos@engineer.com', 'http://cl.linkedin.com/in/rodrigolobos', '15.203.233.76', '2015-11-03 15:54:09', '2015-11-03 20:54:09', 'Great article. Clearly sumarizes the core atributes that can be found on a HPT', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13540, 27569, 'Eunice Parisi-Carew', 'eunice.parisi-carew@kenblanchard.com', 'http://EuniceParisi-Carew.com', '70.209.209.231', '2015-11-04 14:36:06', '2015-11-04 19:36:06', 'thank you for your comment Rodrigo.  Too bad there are not more HPTs', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 403),
(13541, 27946, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-11-17 13:05:11', '2015-11-17 18:05:11', 'Hi, Chip ... as usual, a fascinating and provocative post to set our brains working.\n\nI enjoyed your review of how different leadership approaches work in diverse contexts and really resonated with the principle you included in the second example:  \"There is unity in strength; strength in unity\".   Nicely stated and takes what we often hear (\"Strength in unity\" alone) to a whole new level.\n\nWhile I did not see combat, my military background also includes those leadership situations and that dreaded question \"What do you do now, Lieutenant?\"   Unfortunately but predictably, my response were usually weak and sometimes just did not fit at all .. but they made me think about what I could do  in a real situation.\n\nI think you make an excellent point about moving past reliance on models to identify and live with principles.  The models tend to come and go, at least in my experience, and may only reflect the popularity of a particular book or person at a given time.\n\nPrinciples tend to be longer-lasting and more useful.\n\nI have no particular example to offer, but you are making me think much deeper about my own leadership this morning and that is a very good thing.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13542, 27946, 'Keith Arendall', 'larendall@cap-az.com', '', '174.47.22.93', '2015-11-23 18:30:17', '2015-11-23 23:30:17', 'I enjoyed reading your post. I am familiar with all of the Leadership theories that you mentioned and I try to work with them.\n\nMy question is this:\nWhat is the difference between a theory and a principle? Are principles how you carry out the theories?\n\nThank you', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13543, 27946, 'Chip Bell', 'chip@chipbell.com', 'http://www.chipbell.com', '12.130.116.121', '2015-11-24 19:41:09', '2015-11-25 00:41:09', 'This is my take.  A theory is a generally accepted explanation of facts…like gravity…that provides understanding;  A principle is a statement of truth…like win-win wins…that provides guidance.  What are your thoughts.', 0, '1', '', '', 13542, 0),
(13544, 27946, 'Kelly', 'kelly.craft4@gmail.com', '', '216.69.100.88', '2015-12-17 10:12:12', '2015-12-17 15:12:12', 'Very good read, Chip.  I\'ve had the opportunity, and blessing, to serve in leadership roles in civilian and military appointments, and I\'ve found it very interesting how, to your point, leadership boils down to simple truths.  Knowledge gain, or leadership training, that help with \'what to do when\' can be helpful.  For me, as a leader, it boils down to, can I meet my people where they are, and can I get them to see and realize their potential.\n\nThanks for the post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13545, 27973, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-11-12 11:35:01', '2015-11-12 16:35:01', 'Hi, Gleb - excellent post.\n\nI have often used the term \"intentional\" as an essential element of clear thinking and action, but I have never analyzed what that term means to the granular level.  Your post was both enjoyable to read and thought-provoking.\n\nIt seems to me that one of the messages here has to to do with being more mindful of yourself and what you are aspiring to do and be.   I think that being intentional means being mindful, and your approach is a very specific and reality-based way to do that.\n\nSorry it has taken me this long to read this post, but awfully glad I made the time.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13546, 27973, 'Gleb Tsipursky', 'gleb@intentionalinsights.org', '', '69.47.97.12', '2015-11-19 23:32:04', '2015-11-20 04:32:04', 'John, thank you for reading and responding! Really glad that the post was helpful for you. I hope it helps you be more mindful and strategic in your use of the term and concept of \"intentional.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 406),
(13547, 28077, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-10-30 08:23:56', '2015-10-30 12:23:56', 'What does this prompt evoke from you? I volunteer one morning a week as a childcare provider at my church. I\'ve learned that baby steps have nothing to do with the age or size of the child.  Like  the 1 year old who prefers to crawl, despite the fact that the 10 month old is already running, I\'m still discovering what I was meant to do. Living my purpose and following my calling  means \'just showing up\' and \'taking the right steps\'. I used to think my calling was something I do, the career I create from doing what I love, but that isn\'t it at all. My calling is who I am at heart level. If I\'m doing what I know is right, I will be following my calling. \"Do more of what you love\" means doing more of what you were called to do. It isn\'t a paid position.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13548, 28077, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.131.210', '2015-10-30 08:34:49', '2015-10-30 12:34:49', 'Great perspective Jane, especially \"who I am at heart level.\" Lots of truth to that!', 0, '1', '', '', 13547, 0),
(13549, 28077, 'Wendy Stackhouse', 'Wendylstackhouse@gmail.com', 'http://www.servantleadershipinstitute.com/', '76.195.60.138', '2015-10-30 12:01:15', '2015-10-30 16:01:15', 'It reminds me of something else I read this week: \"Serve one person at a time by one action at a time.\" Baby steps are still steps forward!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13550, 28077, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.131.210', '2015-11-01 11:48:29', '2015-11-01 16:48:29', 'I like that, Wendy - thx for sharing!', 0, '1', '', '', 13549, 0),
(13551, 28101, 'Gary Gruber', 'grg@garygruber.com', 'http://www.garygruber.com', '71.210.250.241', '2015-11-04 11:23:56', '2015-11-04 16:23:56', 'It\'s a family thing.  Parents have been skipping much of the domestic ritual that used to include sit down dinners where one learned manners, some etiquette and how to say please and thank you and mean it.  When you grow up with that, and more of what used to be called polite behavior, it becomes part of your DNA.  What might be called social grace or even social intelligence has, I fear for the most part, gone down the drain.  There are still some hopeful signs but they are too few and far away.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13552, 28101, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '70.59.44.8', '2015-11-04 11:36:59', '2015-11-04 16:36:59', 'Thanks for your comments, Gary. I think it\'s a family thing and a community thing. I remember getting coached - rather assertively, at times - by teachers, coaches, and even friends\' parents about polite, civil interactions.\n\nThe good news is we can create proactive politeness. We don\'t need a formal initiative - we just need to behave better. That\'s well within our control. :)\n\nRegards,\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13551, 372),
(13553, 28133, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.114', '2015-11-10 16:35:41', '2015-11-10 21:35:41', 'Mary, wonderful post. You can tell that you truly learned much from these experiences. We can always do something, affect something, adapt something. We always have a choice. Thanks for the encouraging reminders.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13554, 28133, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2015-11-10 16:48:08', '2015-11-10 21:48:08', 'Thanks Mike. Those experiences shaped me significantly. I\'m glad my learnings can benefit others.', 0, '1', '', '', 13553, 252),
(13555, 28133, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-11-12 12:09:04', '2015-11-12 17:09:04', 'Hi, Mary:)\n\nSeveral comments:\n\n1)  Better late than never ... just now getting to this.\n\n2)  I remain consistently impressed with your willingness to go where most people try to avoid.\n\nExcellent list of things a professional should do for their own sake, regardless of what \"the company\" is doing.\n\nIt struck me as I read through this that a great part of the ambivalence and fear experienced by those trying to avoid the landmines of the modern workplace comes from a sense of mistrust.\n\nIf you trust the management structure within which you work, these questions become a joint project.  As you were describing your experience (which is also my experience), those in charge had no active role in helping those they should be serving to demonstrate their competence and worth.\n\nEveryone for themselves ... never a strong stance.\n\nYou are absolutely right that we need to turn our \"If Management Would Only ...\" statements into \"Here\'s What I Will Do ...\".   If everyone works together with the same goals in mind, this is easier to do.  The weakest or least motivated performers will separate themselves, one way or another.\n\nQuirky thought:  Is surviving layoffs with adversary or absent management in place a victory ... or a defeat:)?\n\nLoved this contribution to our ongoing professional development.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13556, 28133, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2015-11-12 13:25:41', '2015-11-12 18:25:41', 'John, thank you SO much for your response.\n\nRegarding your quirky thought:  \"Is surviving layoffs with adversary or absent management in place a victory … or a defeat?\" I want to say \"it depends.\" It depends on the meaning we assign to the situation.\n\nFor me, being in the position you describe, blossomed into an empowering attitude and determination to try to make things different. For others it creates an overwhelming bitterness, and the opportunity to learn how to work through that, resulting in the ability to be more compassionate.\n\nYour question also reminds me of the good thing/bad thing story of the farmer and his son. http://www.yogalifestylecoach.com/presentmoment.html\n\nOr the Rahm Emanuel quotation: \"You never let a serious crisis go to waste. And what I mean by that it\'s an opportunity to do things you think you could not do before.\"\n\nNow, to your point about, \"... those in charge had no active role in helping those they should be serving to demonstrate their competence and worth.\" Survivor syndrome material suggests to organizations to shift from providing job security (if that is no longer realistic) to supporting \"employability\" for their employees.\n\nWhen my employee assistance counselor friend and I tried to get this going with management, it was not well accepted. They thought they would develop and train people, and then they would leave. Well, that does not come from a stance of confidence and abundance, does it? It made me feel really bad that their scarcity mentality was affecting so many people so significantly.\n\nBut apparently this is what we are having to go through now, as the world of work shifts to a new paradigm. I am heartened by the Conscious Capitalism concept, and companies who DO want to do right by people.\n\nThanks for commenting, John, and making me think this through further.', 0, '1', '', '', 13555, 252),
(13557, 28133, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-11-13 09:33:07', '2015-11-13 14:33:07', 'Hi, Mary - thanks for your kind words and thoughtful response.\n\nI guess we never really escape life being what we make it to be, do we:)?\n\nI really like the concept of \"employability\".  I remember fighting this battle for the first time a long time ago on a campus far, far away.  I introduced the idea of actually training residence hall staff to do more than guard the furniture in the student lounges, and was met with much the same attitude of \"What if we train them and they leave?\"   Fortunately, I had the concept of \"transitional job\" to help others understand that young professionals earning advanced degrees may not aspire to be a residence hall director all their lives, but that this is a stepping-stone position and a valuable learning experience for other others.  This helped some folks.\n\nI am reminded, of course, of the old and well-know statement:   \"What if we train them and they leave?\" followed by \"What if we don\'t and they stay?\".   Still one of my favorite sayings, even though I wish we did not have to say it these days.\n\nBTW, in researching to find out who said the above (Anonymous, as far as I can tell), I found this excellent quotation from Richard Branson:  \"Train people well enough so they can leave, treat them well enough so they don\'t want to.\"\n\nHappy note to end on ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13558, 28133, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-11-13 09:59:00', '2015-11-13 14:59:00', '\"What if we train them and they leave?” followed by “What if we don’t and they stay?”. - Thank you for reminding me of this one, John. Invaluable.\n\nAnd I love the Branson quotation too. That brings it all together.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13559, 28155, 'Joel Maart', 'joel.maart@yahoo.com', '', '173.165.233.1', '2015-11-04 11:49:48', '2015-11-04 16:49:48', 'Excellent article and I completely agree.\n\nHowever I\'ve worked at an organization that performed promises 1 &amp; 3 reasonably well, but where the leader also habitually broke promises 2 &amp; 4.  Yet the organization didn\'t die, indeed, in some ways it thrived despite its toxic leadership and horrible top-down culture.\n\nI think in the ways it thrived was because of the employees who were committed to the mission of the organization and not because of any inspiration from or loyalty to the leadership.\n\nRegarding your points about your future self keeping promises with your present self, good thoughts.  Leading yourself is one of the hardest things to do.  I\'ve often thought of this has having \"Internal Integrity.\"  It is important for our future self to have internal integrity with our present self.  Easier said than done, yet vital as a leader.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13560, 28164, 'Mark Mercer', '1markmercer@gmail.com', '', '95.147.170.220', '2015-11-20 07:15:45', '2015-11-20 12:15:45', 'Looking forward to the whole book. In my experience leadership effectiveness is rarely measured and if it is, it is often denied, defended against or questioned.\n\nWhen leaders grasp the impact of measuring effectiveness and learn from the data, the leadership story and impact changes.\n\nI have relationships where my collective effectiveness propels  me and us  - we both can feel the impact. Thanks Bob', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13561, 28164, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-11-20 12:48:44', '2015-11-20 17:48:44', 'Hi, Bob:\n\nGood post highlighting a key point in your book, which I am enjoying as I take a deep dive into it.\n\nI especially noted one phrase you used:  \" ... collective intelligence and performance of most leadership teams is well below the average intelligence and performance of the members.\"   Too often, I think we miss this point that just having a leadership team does not mean either  superior or even standard performance.\n\nAs you indicated, the tendency is to \"dumb down\" and the result is poor leadership, even if the individual leaders are adequate or even strong leaders individually.\n\nJust reinforces the need to intentionally develop leadership teams, as well as individual leaders.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13562, 28182, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-11-05 08:27:22', '2015-11-05 13:27:22', 'I enjoyed getting to know you a little bit through this article, Sean. Margy - nice job!!  I have often thought this of leaders I\'ve admired, but I don\'t think I\'ve heard it actually stated. Sean has a Masters degree yet \"my greatest education was experiential – from leading teams and developing people as a basketball coach.\" I gravitate toward books written by people who have been or are sports related coaches.  i look forward to reading more from Sean.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13563, 28182, 'Sean Glaze', 'sean@greatresultsteambuilding.com', 'http://www.greatresultsteambuilding.net', '168.9.35.22', '2015-11-05 09:23:53', '2015-11-05 14:23:53', 'Thanks for the note, Jane!\nI am honored to be a contributing member of the #LeadChange family, and appreciate Paula and Margy helping to put this post together.\nHoping that my articles and website are useful resources for people in every industry to become better leaders and teammates...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13564, 28182, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-11-12 11:29:46', '2015-11-12 16:29:46', 'Hi, Sean - chiming in a little late in the week, but that is things go sometimes.\n\nEnjoyed learning more about you and your background.  I was particularly taken with your rewrite of the \"Three R\'s\" with three essential skills for the current workplace:  \"Rigor, Relationships, and Revelance\".\n\nEach of these is easily worth a series of blog posts, and together you may have the start of another book:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13565, 28198, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-11-12 12:18:37', '2015-11-12 17:18:37', 'Hi, Jane:)\n\nI always enjoy your thoughtful and comprehensive posts here and elsewhere.\n\nI was vaguely aware of David Whyte, but he is much brighter on my radar screen, due to your sharing.  I appreciate you highlighting his work and concepts.\n\nThe term \"Purposeful Discomfort\" caught my attention, as an example of a short phrase that conveys a real wallop, if we take the time to consider what is being described.  Most people would either avoid discomfort as much as possible or minimize it, because most are not comfortable when they are uncomfortable ... get it:)?\n\nThose five entities and the resultant strategic questions associated with each are a great road map to reaching a clear understanding of what is and what is not.   This alone makes me want to learn more about Whyte\'s work.\n\nAs always, your post is useful, makes me think and plan, and is enjoyable to read:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376);
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(13566, 28198, 'Rosa Adames', 'rosamariaa77@gmail.com', '', '172.56.20.25', '2015-11-12 20:14:11', '2015-11-13 01:14:11', 'Wow this technique is not only mind blowing, it\'s genius! In order to build an empire we must build a team. The team should consist of natural born leaders with open minds, future visualization, team player, positive mindset &amp; willingness to change our world &amp; help make it a better place..... Making a difference for a better future is legendary! ?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13567, 28198, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2015-11-13 09:37:12', '2015-11-13 14:37:12', 'Good morning, John!\n\nAs always, your comments are thoughtful, kind and engaging...smiles and thank you for that!\n\nMy introduction to David Whyte was through his book \"The Heart Aroused:  Poetry and the Preservation of the Soul in Corporate America.\" I\'m thinking you might enjoy it!\n\nYour observations about the phrase \"purposeful discomfort\" are spot on. I started using that phrase as I began thinking about leaving corporate America and continue using it to describe the unfurling of my second act of life. As you note, the phrase covers a lot of territory!\n\nWith a smile,\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 13565, 251),
(13568, 28198, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2015-11-13 09:42:29', '2015-11-13 14:42:29', 'Great observations, Rosa! It takes interacting with others to make us a real leader, and David Whyte\'s courageous conversations concept sure helps us be more effective at it. Thanks for sharing!', 0, '1', '', '', 13566, 251),
(13569, 28295, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-11-16 12:40:47', '2015-11-16 17:40:47', 'Hi, Paula and Linda:\n\nFirst, sincere congratulations to Linda on this well-deserved award which reflects the immense energy she channels into positive action to improve our world.\n\nSecond, I believe this demonstrates the sheer power of leading a spirit-driven life.  Linda appears to be living out the call to engage in social justice with the \"Least of These\" (Matthew 25: verse 31-45).\n\nWhile secular leadership is important and valuable, I personally feel our organizations, our society, and our world are starving for leadership such as Linda and those like her are providing.\n\nShe is truly a \"Lamp unto our feet\", lighting the way to a better tomorrow for all.\n\nPaula, thanks for posting this so we can know of the award today and send up little \"Huzzahs\" toward Miami:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13570, 28295, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.148.167', '2015-11-16 13:27:20', '2015-11-16 18:27:20', 'Thanks, John! The meeting is at 4 p.m., if you have a desire to fine tune the timing of your Huzzahs!! And I concur with everything else you said in your comment!', 0, '1', '', '', 13569, 0),
(13571, 28306, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-11-20 11:19:20', '2015-11-20 16:19:20', 'Hi, Will - thanks for an interesting post and a fascinating story.\n\nYour point is well taken:  Be prepared:)\n\nI have experienced two extremes regarding this in my life.   In some things, I have prepared to the point of over-preparation, sometimes with little real possibility that I will have the opportunity to shine, as they say.  My professional focus includes much preparation around leadership - both theory and application.  I absorb books and articles relating to how leaders, followers, and situations combine and have tried to keep up with the sometimes dizzying pace.\n\nBecause of this, I feel pretty comfortable when leadership is the topic or the issue.  I know enough to identify the background dynamics of a particular leadership situation and have developed several principles that overlay all the theoretical and academic information.\n\nI feel well-equipped ...\n\nI have found that this broad\n\nIn other situations, I have felt like I was completely unready for the things which came my way and actually have wanted to hide from what was before me on more than one occasion.\n\nOne particular circumstance is around dealing with extreme emotion, especially in connection with loss.   I am fine reading a book about grief, loss, and mourning, and have even received specialized training in helping others cope, but I still feel like the poster child for the \"Deer In Headlights\" look when I have to face this situation.\n\nIn both cases, the preparation is essential, but in one situation, I can easily feel comfortable, but in the other, I doubt I ever really \"get used to it\" ... and probably should not.\n\nThanks for a very personal and helpful post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13572, 28306, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-11-20 12:42:05', '2015-11-20 17:42:05', 'Hi, Will - thanks for an interesting post and a fascinating story.\n\nYour point is well taken:  Be prepared:)\n\nI have experienced two extremes regarding this in my life.   In some things, I have prepared to the point of over-preparation, sometimes with little real possibility that I will have the opportunity to shine, as they say.  My professional focus includes much preparation around leadership - both theory and application.  I absorb books and articles relating to how leaders, followers, and situations combine and have tried to keep up with the sometimes dizzying pace.\n\nBecause of this, I feel pretty comfortable when leadership is the topic or the issue.  I know enough to identify the background dynamics of a particular leadership situation and have developed several principles that overlay all the theoretical and academic information.\n\nI feel well-equipped ...\n\nIn other situations, I have felt like I was completely unready for the things which came my way and actually have wanted to hide from what was before me on more than one occasion.\n\nOne particular circumstance is around dealing with extreme emotion, especially in connection with loss.   I am fine reading a book about grief, loss, and mourning, and have even received specialized training in helping others cope, but I still feel like the poster child for the \"Deer In Headlights\" look when I have to face this situation.\n\nIn both cases, the preparation is essential, but in one situation, I can easily feel comfortable, but in the other, I doubt I ever really \"get used to it\" ... and probably should not.\n\nThanks for a very personal and helpful post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13573, 28309, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-11-19 12:56:36', '2015-11-19 17:56:36', 'Hi, Page:)\n\nTimely and useful post about something that is becoming rather commonplace.\n\nWe are called upon to react and you have given us a good list of elements to move us from stunned inaction to thoughtful and intentional action ... always a good direction.\n\nWhile everything on the list is essential, I particularly like your third one:  \"Listen Wisely\".  My experience is that we do not always do this, especially when the cause of the trauma is politically or religiously based, rather than a random act of nature or a crime.\n\nEspecially now, with multiple tragedies having occurred over the past few weeks around the world, some as recently as yesterday, we might be forgiven for feeling a little \"shell-shocked\".\n\nTo \"Listen Wisely\", as you tern it, seems awfully important now, since decisions have been and will be made that have long-term and serious consequences for many people ... we owe it to ourselves, our loved ones, those others, their loved ones, and to the planet to not react from fear, mistrust, or misinformation.\n\nI keep putting myself in the place of a father trying desperately to keep his family safe and together in some parts of the world.  While parenting is a challenge in all times and places, it is much on my mind and in my prayers of late.\n\nThanks for adding a voice of reason to the discussion ... I hope that others listen and share this, because we need compassionate and thoughtful discernment now.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13574, 28309, 'Duncan M.', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '95.76.171.184', '2015-11-19 13:54:39', '2015-11-19 18:54:39', 'Page, I bet that it was tough for you to write this article considering that you have close friends in the heart of the chaos. But you are so right when you say that we must not just react, we must also take a break. We need to approach the crisis in an organised manner otherwise we either overreact, or we do nothing and feel bad about it. Calmness and a helping hand can make a difference.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13575, 28309, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2015-11-20 13:26:18', '2015-11-20 18:26:18', 'John,\nThank you for your words of encouragement!  I believe our efforts and our stress levels are best served when we do learn to listen wisely!  I\'ve been guilty of reacting to quickly to information that may not have been accurate or objective!  I appreciate your thoughtful perspective every time I hear it!', 0, '1', '', '', 13573, 282),
(13576, 28309, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2015-11-20 13:27:29', '2015-11-20 18:27:29', 'Duncan,\nIt was emotional for me, and thank you for being sensitive to that.  I\'m thankful that they are well and safe, but I worry the world we\'re leaving our kids!  Let\'s continue to work together to make it a great world!', 0, '1', '', '', 13574, 282),
(13577, 28322, 'Al Watts', 'awatts@integro-inc.com', 'http://integro-inc.com/', '75.73.65.122', '2015-11-25 10:50:14', '2015-11-25 15:50:14', '\'Excellent points, and as a sailor I love the analogy! As we embark on any venture, we need to ensure that we have both a seaworthy vessel (organization) and competent captain (leader.) Regularly checking for those boards that need replacing or upgrading is essential. You might enjoy my book with more nautical analogies: http://integro-inc.com/resources/books_and_store/', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13578, 28322, 'Joseph Hamlett', 'joehamlett@yaoo.com', 'http://www.leading2changeconsulting.com/', '132.3.57.82', '2015-11-25 10:53:53', '2015-11-25 15:53:53', 'Sean,\nIn a previous job I worked for a manager that understood the importance of strengthening employee relationships. He did many of the things that you spoke of in your article; he had monthly luncheons with his leadership team, he held one on ones with each team member and he asked each member what their short and long term goals were. The results of these relationship building activities were evident throughout the department not only in his leadership team, but in their direct reports as well. He created an environment that promoted growth and development for all employees, which in-turn led to increased performance by the entire department.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13579, 28322, 'Sean Glaze', 'sean@greatresultsteambuilding.com', 'http://greatresultsteambuilding.net/', '98.219.51.148', '2015-11-25 11:14:41', '2015-11-25 16:14:41', 'Joe -\n\nReally appreciate the comment and examples from your previous manager.\nAs you said, it is often difficult to quantify the impact of these activities, but the feeling and positive impact of one-on-one meetings to encourage growth and other relationship building efforts truly does have a significant impact on organizational culture.', 0, '1', '', '', 13578, 380),
(13580, 28322, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-11-25 13:07:45', '2015-11-25 18:07:45', 'Hi, Sean - great post and I love the metaphor of the wooden ship:)\n\nI have not yet read Dweck\'s book.  It WAS number 2 in my reading pile, but just edged past Peter Block into the pole position, based on your reminder that she has a very useful model to share with us.\n\nYou masterfully applied the philosophical question to teams and organizations.  For that, we should thank you because the points about developing ourselves and others, along with the need to understand that change is not an event, but a continual dynamic, are important and need to be continually reinforced.\n\nI did go off on a rabbit trail about whether something remains what it is, when the component parts change.   In the case of the boat, the function and form appears to remain the same, while the parts change.   I was reminded of how we regularly update, repair, and replace the parts of our houses, while maintaining the basic function and form of that house.\n\nWe would probably not even stop to consider whether a house with new siding was still \"Our House\".  Nothing much to do with leadership, but I found it interesting to ponder:).\n\nAs always, appreciate your thoughtful and useful contributions.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13581, 28322, 'Sean Glaze', 'sean@greatresultsteambuilding.com', 'http://greatresultsteambuilding.net/', '98.219.51.148', '2015-11-25 16:39:20', '2015-11-25 21:39:20', 'Thanks, John -\n\nAlways enjoy your comments...\nWhether it is your house or your employee, change is constant and ongoing - so the person you work with is (hopefully) not the same person you might have hired years before... if their boards have been upgraded over that time...', 0, '1', '', '', 13580, 380),
(13582, 28322, 'karamo sillah', 'gakara.mosill@yahoo.com', 'http://kara.com', '66.249.81.205', '2015-11-28 12:55:42', '2015-11-28 17:55:42', 'Welcome to my world', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13583, 28335, 'Lisa Lavergne', 'Lisal@visiontrust.org', '', '50.201.79.196', '2015-11-23 10:05:37', '2015-11-23 15:05:37', 'Thanks Paul. Thank you\'s are huge! I work for a non-profit and we have many volunteers. I make it a point to always say thank you- every time they come in, especially for the ones that have been faithful volunteers for years. The one point I would add is to make sure the thanks is sincere, and does not come across as the \'token\' thank you. Stop and look them in the eye if possible and then give them the thanks. Or sometimes a short note.\nThanks for the reminders today.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13584, 28335, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.169.174.223', '2015-11-23 10:22:53', '2015-11-23 15:22:53', 'Thank you Lisa! It can\'t be said enough that all thanks must be sincere, otherwise people see through it and it accomplishes nothing at all. \"Simple and genuine acknowledgement\" should rule over our hearts in serving others.\n\nHave a tremendous week!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13585, 28335, 'Nikki Sells', 'nsells@sellsdevelopment.com', 'http://www.sellsdevelopment.com', '68.52.204.24', '2015-11-23 11:33:21', '2015-11-23 16:33:21', 'Such a needed blog, Paul. I truly believe that saying \"thank you\" and showing gratitude starts early on in a person\'s life. Thanks for sharing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13586, 28335, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.169.174.223', '2015-11-23 11:44:51', '2015-11-23 16:44:51', 'Most welcome Nikki! It\'s a cultivated spirit, that\'s for sure. Glad you enjoyed it, thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 13585, 343),
(13587, 28335, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2015-11-23 15:28:00', '2015-11-23 20:28:00', 'Great post, Paul. I love this: \"Make every connection a reason to find and give thanks to your people.\"\n\nAnd this is another great new photo also.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13588, 28335, 'Rey Carr', 'rcarr@mentors.ca', 'http://www.peer.ca/PeerBulletin', '96.54.210.136', '2015-11-23 16:46:57', '2015-11-23 21:46:57', 'Indeed, \"thank you\" is a powerful yet simple way to make a lasting impression. But you know what\'s as interesting? Is what does the receiver of the \"thank you\" say after you say thank you. Often you hear a response of \"no problem,\" or if you\'re in Australia, \"no worries.\" But a better response might be for the receiver of the thank you to say, \"I know you\'d do the same for me.\" This is a way of reinforcing or cementing the collaborative relationship at work.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13589, 28335, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '66.87.125.130', '2015-11-23 16:50:24', '2015-11-23 21:50:24', 'Thanks Mary, you always make my day!', 0, '1', '', '', 13587, 343),
(13590, 28335, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '66.87.125.130', '2015-11-23 16:54:18', '2015-11-23 21:54:18', 'Rey, love the thought! I think that concept is a separate post in itself. You bring up a smart point in fostering a collaborative spirit. A poor attitude in reviewing can undermine an earnest acknowledgement of praise - quite true.\n\nGreat contribution Rey, thank you so much!', 0, '1', '', '', 13588, 343),
(13591, 28335, 'P G SUBRAMANIAN', 'pallavoorsubramanian@gmail.com', 'http://www.catalystprofin.com', '122.172.246.152', '2015-11-25 05:22:21', '2015-11-25 10:22:21', 'Great post! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. The power of \"Thank you \' needs to be experienced to feel it. Still many a times we do not deem it necessary to extend this small courtesy. The most powerful recognition I received was recently when my efforts at stabilizing the organisation was recognized at the top Management Committee  level. One of the members questioned the need to pay fee to me which he felt was on the higher side. To my surprise others sprang to me defense acknowledging the role I played saving in the bargain additional money that would have been paid if a regular CFO was employed.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13592, 28335, 'Robert McNeil', 'robertmcneil@mac.com', 'http://robertmcneil.com', '69.249.246.102', '2015-11-26 06:29:33', '2015-11-26 11:29:33', 'Thank you / gratitude is often the most intimate feeling to express. Your article would resonate better with me if you dropped the reference to \"your people.\" To me, \"your people\" It sets up a power dynamic that works against reciprocation. And it\'s unnecessary.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13593, 28371, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-11-25 12:55:20', '2015-11-25 17:55:20', 'Hi, Hollis - excellent post and a most interesting model:)\n\nI think you have captured the essential elements of lasting and true change in your four phasess.  Certainly agrees with my own perceptions and experiences both personally and in working with others.\n\nI do use one of your terms a bit differently.  When I talk about adaptive change, I am referring to the type of change exemplified by your example of the two laid-off real estate agents.  One just shifts to another specific setting while attempting to rebuild what he already knows, while the other one dares to move far beyond and far away.\n\nI take my usage from the literature around adaptive and technical change (which would be the term for the reactive change you describe).\n\nAll in all, I thoroughly enjoyed this post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13594, 27140, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-15 20:07:54', '2015-12-16 01:07:54', 'HI, Scott:)\n\nExcellent post about \"sinning by omission\":).   As I have often heard in my career, doing nothing is just as much a decision as doing something, and leaders at all points in their leadership journey can be affected by the paralysis of non-action.\n\nI really enjoyed how you clearly showed the \"ripple effect\" that comes from inaction.  This seems obvious when pointed out, as you have done so nicely, but is often lost in the shuffle as a leader grapples with not knowing what to do or being unwilling to do what they know they should.\n\nYour points about resolving conflict are especially well taken.  As a younger leader, I too often adopted the stance that \"maybe this problem will fix itself\" and did nothing, which worked JUST often enough to reinforce my adversion to action.\n\nAs a more seasoned leader, I now feel as I have a much better grasp of that delicate balance between technical and intuitive knowledge to judge when a situation might benefit from a little more time and when I am just stalling:).\n\nEnjoyed this informative and well-constructed post!\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13595, 27943, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-18 12:56:29', '2015-12-18 17:56:29', 'Hi, Chip\n\nThanks for this interesting and entertaining post:)\n\nYour description of these three key elements (Inclusion, Generosity, and Honesy) was music to my ears.   All three have in common a worldview that is benevolent and assumes people are basically trying to do the right thing.   This is much needed and too often ignored in today\'s marketplace.\n\nYour examples were all of large organizations, but I would imagine these three are essential for small companies, mom-and-pop organizations, and the solopreneurs, freelancers, and lone wolfs as well.  These are timeless values.\n\nAppreciate your sharing this, especially as we crash our way through the holiday season.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13596, 27943, 'Larry L. Boyles', 'larry.boyles1@cox.net', '', '98.166.88.4', '2015-12-22 18:33:58', '2015-12-22 23:33:58', 'Chip Bell lives and breathes customer service and brand building. You always feel enlightened when you read his work and think about the nuances that contribute to a brand and its customer base. Connecting these points is the role of an engaged workforce that is inspired by leadership to maintain and grow the brand.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13597, 27943, 'Chip Bell', 'chip@chipbell.com', 'http://www.chipbell.com', '12.130.116.129', '2015-12-23 09:42:56', '2015-12-23 14:42:56', 'Thank you, John, for your comment!  Have a wonderful holidays!  Chip', 0, '1', '', '', 13595, 0),
(13598, 27943, 'Chip Bell', 'chip@chipbell.com', 'http://www.chipbell.com', '12.130.116.129', '2015-12-23 09:48:44', '2015-12-23 14:48:44', 'Thanks for the comment, Larry!  Great memories of our work together at Riverside.  Regards to our many mutual friends.  Hope you have a fantastic holiday!  Chip', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13599, 28369, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-16 12:08:59', '2015-12-16 17:08:59', 'Hi, Noah - thanks for an interesting post:)\n\nThe words that caught my attention as I read your fascinating description of growing into responsibility were these:\n\n\"My boundaries were pushed way beyond their previous limits and I grew into a more actively involved individual who is determined to show others that they can do great things as well.\"\n\nYou are doing well to understand the value of pushing your own boundaries at this early stage of your career.  Too many folks continue to opt for the easy and comfortable route, then start to realize far later in their careers that they have not grown in the right directions.  They were comfortable, but ...\n\nEnjoyed reading about your \"volunteer\" position and look forward to hearing more insights as you continue your academic work.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13600, 28369, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.241.218.72', '2015-12-17 05:58:18', '2015-12-17 10:58:18', 'Noah, Welcome and great post!\n\nA great takeaway from your experience was your eagerness to charge forward being greater than your fear. While those fears were realized as your event unfolded, it was the initial vision you had that spurred you and the event on.\n\nIf we could all overcome our fears with enthusiasm, we could accomplish so many more great things.\n\nThanks so much Noah!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13601, 28383, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-15 13:01:38', '2015-12-15 18:01:38', 'Hi, Will:)\n\nAs always, your contribution is thoughtful and useful.\n\nI was struck by your reminder that leadership is action, rather than title.\n\nAnother aspect of shifting our perception of leadership toward what we do, rather what what we are called, involves the democratization of leadership.\n\nIf only those with titles can exhibit leadership, you have a very small and possibly low quality pool from which the organization can draw leadership.\n\nIf you think in terms of leadership as a function which anyone can and does exhibit as appropriate, you have greatly multiplied the leadership power of your group.\n\nTo use your buying a house analogy, if only the designated leader buys the house, that\'s who has to worry about all those things you mentioned in the upkeep and maintenance  of the house.\n\nIf everyone shares in the ownership of the house, everyone is engaged with upkeep, maintenance, and improvements:).\n\nThanks for another good leadership post.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13602, 28385, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-03 11:35:41', '2015-12-03 16:35:41', 'Hi, Paul - excellent and creative post:)\n\nI love the concept of the servant as partner with the master, as opposed to being the subservient slave.\n\nUpon reflection, this makes a great deal of sense and extends to other relationships in our lives, both personal and professional.\n\nThanks for an enjoyable and thought-provoking piece.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13603, 28404, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2015-12-02 10:36:40', '2015-12-02 15:36:40', 'Excellent post, Alan. \"Therefore, follow-worthy leaders have earned the right to lead others by first showing strength in the daily leadership of themselves.\" Well said.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13604, 28404, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '167.124.124.21', '2015-12-02 15:19:04', '2015-12-02 20:19:04', 'Thanks Mary. I think my personal favorite from this list is #3. The 212 degrees idea  from Parker and Anderson is just brilliant and it reminds me of the value of making that extra effort every day...especially when I don\'t feel like it.\n\n-Alan', 0, '1', '', '', 13603, 323),
(13605, 28404, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-03 11:43:46', '2015-12-03 16:43:46', 'Hi, Alan - very interesting post:)\n\nAll four of your points are well-taken, solidly reinforced by some of the best leadership development thinkers I know of, and clearly stated.\n\nIt is the mark of good ideas that, while they may be challenging to do consistently, they are easy to describe and illustrate.  Your thoughts show this perfectly by helping us understand these important leadership concepts easily.\n\nThanks for contributing:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13606, 28404, 'Linda Torunski', 'ltoruns@entergy.com', 'http://NEISmartBrief', '198.8.5.43', '2015-12-04 04:30:23', '2015-12-04 09:30:23', 'Alan ~ Great article.  You certainly bring home a lot of points that are overlooked in our day to day routines.  It\'s a great reminder to just pause and re-group can really make a difference.\nThanks Linda', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13607, 28404, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '173.174.200.45', '2015-12-04 09:22:38', '2015-12-04 14:22:38', 'John,\n\nThanks for the nice note. The great influencers I reference here have certainly made it easy for us to grab onto these ideas. But, you\'re right - daily execution is certainly a challenge! Everyday I\'m a work in progress.\n\nHave an amazing day,\nAlan', 0, '1', '', '', 13605, 323),
(13608, 28404, 'Josh Gernatt', 'josh.gernatt@mightyautoparts.com', '', '216.77.96.29', '2015-12-04 14:38:36', '2015-12-04 19:38:36', 'This article reminded me of our conversation at the gym today.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13609, 28404, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '107.77.64.107', '2015-12-07 15:31:35', '2015-12-07 20:31:35', 'Josh, that\'s great. Believe it or not, these ideas first started taking shape in my head while at the gym. And in reality these ideas have application anywhere, most certainly at the gym.\n\nThank you for your comment!\nAlan', 0, '1', '', '', 13608, 323),
(13610, 28404, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '107.77.64.107', '2015-12-07 15:33:25', '2015-12-07 20:33:25', 'Linda,\n\nThanks for your comment. So true. Remembering to do these things everyday is a challenge. It takes commitment and creating new habits &lt;-- also not easy. That&#039;s for sure.\n\nBest,\nAlan', 0, '1', '', '', 13606, 323),
(13611, 28429, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-03 13:19:11', '2015-12-03 18:19:11', 'Hi, Bill - nice article:\n\nI think your idea of the inner and outer game of leadership is a great way to understand the complex dynamics that combine to create each person\'s unique leadership style and persona.\n\nAs you point out here, and expand in your book, we need to shift our attention from the current focus on the outer game (which is rather easy to focus on) to that inner game, much more challenging, but almost potentially much more rewarding.\n\nThis just might be the ultimate advertisement for what we call self-leadership.\n\nEnjoying your book immensely:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13612, 28429, 'Bob Anderson', 'randerson@theleadershipcircle.com', 'http://www.theleadershipcircle.com', '174.96.128.47', '2015-12-05 13:08:56', '2015-12-05 18:08:56', 'John,\n\nThank you for your comment.  We believe that both games are important.  Both have steep learning curves and both must develop at the pace of change.  Our primary emphasis on the inner game in the book is because it is so ignored in our efforts to develop leaders.  The inner game runs the outer game.  When we ignore it, we put our change efforts in serious jeopardy.\n\nI am glad you are enjoying the book.  Let us know more as you complete it.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 407),
(13613, 28451, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://talkkindnesstome.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-12-09 06:53:49', '2015-12-09 11:53:49', 'It occurred to me as I read this article by Chris Edmonds that culture begins at home. Chris can speak with deep wisdom on culture because, if you connect with him across social media platforms you will see evidence that he values family which is one place where culture starts.  In the article Chris say, \"Google is the top rated employer on this list. Google invests heavily in the maintenance of a great culture. They regularly measure dozens of factors to understand what makes team members happy and productive.\" I wonder. How would our homes change and how would that lead into workplace changes if we invested in factors that make us happy and productive at home.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13614, 28451, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '107.161.178.244', '2015-12-09 07:31:14', '2015-12-09 12:31:14', 'Thanks for your comments and insights, Jane! I so appreciate your support -\n\nI think you\'re right on it - happiness and productivity do begin at home. School can help (or hinder) those, as well. Since people spend so much time at work today, our workplaces can \"recover\" some of that lost time to create a safe, inspiring environment at work - to everyone\'s benefit!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13613, 372),
(13615, 28451, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-15 13:28:06', '2015-12-15 18:28:06', 'Hi, Chris - very timely and valuable reminder:)\n\nI would second Jane\'s observation that culture begins at home.  If we practice paying attention to what engages folks at home, we could probably transfer some of that experience to the workplace.  When you are engaging in the same types of behaviors no matter where we are, things often work more smoothly.\n\nI have always liked your concept of an organizational constitution and this is an ideal time for groups to consider establishing one or reviewing one that already exists.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13616, 28451, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '71.215.81.57', '2015-12-15 13:38:45', '2015-12-15 18:38:45', 'Thanks for your kind words and insights, John! I\'m totally with you on Jane\'s foundational recommendation that culture begins at home. The research is quite clear that those formative years - home, school, friends, etc. - are, well, formative. There are logical consequences to behaviors like keeping your promises, being kind, supporting your peers, and more, at home and at work.\n\nWe do indeed need more of these behaviors!\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13615, 372),
(13617, 28452, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://consultgiana.com', '173.195.8.67', '2015-12-08 07:32:52', '2015-12-08 12:32:52', 'Mary - Thank you for sharing your humanness.  Your mistake.  Your heartache.  Your learning.  We are all human.  We will all make mistakes.  It\'s our ability to own them, learn from them, and use them to help others that shows what our hearts are really made of.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13618, 28452, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2015-12-08 09:35:39', '2015-12-08 14:35:39', 'Thanks Chery. That means a lot coming from you.', 0, '1', '', '', 13617, 252),
(13619, 28452, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2015-12-08 09:51:58', '2015-12-08 14:51:58', 'Mary -- terrific contribution on many fronts:  being strong enough to be vulnerable and share, telling an impactful story that eloquently drives home an important leadership lesson, and reinforcing the message that doing-wrong-because-I\'ve-been-wronged isn\'t what character-based leaders do. Well done!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(13620, 28452, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2015-12-08 09:54:23', '2015-12-08 14:54:23', 'Thank you, Jane. I so appreciate your comments.', 0, '1', '', '', 13619, 252),
(13621, 28452, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '66.87.124.197', '2015-12-08 12:33:18', '2015-12-08 17:33:18', 'Mary, love this post for 2 reasons:\n\n1) You\'re transparency and willingness to expose a failure yet teach us from it. So real, and powerful, and mostly, relatable.\n\n2) Relating to the title of my wife\'s favorite children\'s book \"Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day\".\n\nThanks for leading us today!\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13622, 28452, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '73.13.204.222', '2015-12-08 12:39:47', '2015-12-08 17:39:47', 'Thank you, Paul, for commenting. I\'m feeling a little raw today after telling that story so publicly and you and the LCG group coming through with support is powerfully helpful.', 0, '1', '', '', 13621, 252),
(13623, 28452, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://talkkindnesstome.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-12-09 07:02:13', '2015-12-09 12:02:13', 'Mary, you\'re a rare breed. We need more leaders like you. What I love most about your post is that you looked at yourself and a) admitted your actions weren\'t just poor leadership, they were unacceptable on a personal level. b) you used the experience to know you didn\'t want to become that kind of person or leader. No blaming. Admitting error is the first step to correction. You can\'t repair something if you don\'t recognize it as broken.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13624, 28452, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2015-12-09 09:59:17', '2015-12-09 14:59:17', 'Jane Anderson, thank you so much for your comments.', 0, '1', '', '', 13623, 252),
(13625, 28452, 'Jon Stallings', 'jon@jonstallings.com', 'http://www.jonstallings.com', '66.147.172.7', '2015-12-09 10:59:52', '2015-12-09 15:59:52', 'Great post Mary, So many bloggers give us so called easy steps to success but we live in a real world. A real world where things often go wrong. A real world in which we often get it wrong.  Thanks for sharing your story.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13626, 28452, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '73.13.204.222', '2015-12-09 11:04:08', '2015-12-09 16:04:08', 'Thanks for your comments, Jon. It was time for me to share this.', 0, '1', '', '', 13625, 252),
(13627, 28452, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-15 13:20:30', '2015-12-15 18:20:30', 'Hi, Mary ... sorry I am late responding to this and sharing it, but the message will be valid a thousand years from now, so ...\n\nYour honesty and candor about this episode in your leadership journey is both touching and very inspiring.  We have probably all did and said things we later regretted in our dealings with others, but you have beautifully illustrated how learning from our mistakes can benefit us, and others.\n\nI am reminded here of something that was pounded into me as a young Army officer \"a few years back\":   You are a leader, clearly identified and looked to by all.  You don\'t get the luxury of being self-indulgent or putting yourself first.  Lead from the front, eat last, and never forget why you are here.\"\n\nYour story well illustrates what can happen when we indulge ourselves, as I have done more times than I should have.\n\nAs always, your thoughts are enjoyable to read, clear in the message, and just shout to be shared with a broader audience:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13628, 28452, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2015-12-15 15:11:38', '2015-12-15 20:11:38', 'John, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. I was looking forward to them.', 0, '1', '', '', 13627, 252),
(13629, 28509, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.114', '2015-12-10 07:48:33', '2015-12-10 12:48:33', 'Jane, thanks again for an excellent and challenging post. I appreciate the way you insert an elevating perspective into everything you write and do. You have been a key member of this group since the beginning and you are a very influential blogger and writer. Thanks and keep going strong! Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13630, 28509, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2015-12-10 09:04:11', '2015-12-10 14:04:11', 'Jane, what a powerful post and a great idea! I\'ve already setup a reminder to review this list every day for the next 12 days and act upon your suggestions. Here is my first sincere \"thank you\" today :)\n\nMy Best,\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13631, 28509, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.235.239.94', '2015-12-10 10:14:04', '2015-12-10 15:14:04', 'I am in also! I appreciate having a list that has twelve items which all make me say \"I can do this\"! Some lists are a bit unwieldy or difficult to implement. This is just right!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13632, 28509, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2015-12-10 15:18:31', '2015-12-10 20:18:31', 'Hi Jane. I had to add this. My favorite barista at my favorite coffee shop asked me how I was today. When I said, \"Good,\" she said, \"Can you be more descriptive?\"\n\n\"Whaaaaat?\" She said she had been experimenting with her friends. Whenever they would respond \"good\" or \"fine\" she would ask them to be more descriptive. Like, \"How are you REALLY?\"\n\nWhen she really made me think about it, it took me a minute. I was a little embarrassed (to myself) it took me a minute. I was so NOT present I guess. I came up with \"excitedly anticipatory\" because I am giving a mini-teleseminar tomorrow and am excited about it. I felt good when I thought of that.\n\nI think this barista has her own 12 days thing going on :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13633, 28509, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2015-12-10 16:23:07', '2015-12-10 21:23:07', 'Mary -- great story and big thanks for sharing it. I love how that barista is busting the paradigm on the standard \"I\'m fine\" response to the \"How are you doing?\" inquiry! What a great way to model new behaviors.', 0, '1', '', '', 13632, 251),
(13634, 28509, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2015-12-10 16:25:25', '2015-12-10 21:25:25', 'Smiles and thanks, Mary, for your kind words -- and for letting me be the first recipient of your \"thank you\'s\" for today. Here\'s wishing that you\'ll make the day for those two other recipients as you (and Mike) did for me.', 0, '1', '', '', 13630, 251),
(13635, 28509, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2015-12-10 16:27:08', '2015-12-10 21:27:08', 'Hip, hip, hooray, Paula for how you\'ve spearheaded getting the #Tilt2Good movement started! Between us, we\'ve dropped the first two pebbles into the pond...now to see where the ripples will take us! Smiles and big thanks for partnering and sharing.', 0, '1', '', '', 13631, 251),
(13636, 28509, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2015-12-10 16:28:47', '2015-12-10 21:28:47', 'Mike -- am touched by your kind words! Thank you for having the foresight to follow your dream of making Lead Change Group a reality. I have lots of fond memories of LeaderPalooza in sunny Florida. Onward and upward!', 0, '1', '', '', 13629, 251),
(13637, 28509, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://talkkindnesstome.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-12-11 17:07:52', '2015-12-11 22:07:52', 'This is the coolest challenge - but secretly I think the reason I think it\'s so cool is because I already do many of these things already.  To keep me committed though I\'m going to write my \'actions\' and add them to my joy jar where I write a thanks every day and add to the jar all year.\n\nI absolutely said more than 3 very sincere thank yous to people yesterday.  And that molehill? Today I let a mountain go.\n\nI\'m doing this - it will be fun.\n\nWhat a clever and rewarding assignment for us, Jane!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13638, 28509, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-15 13:41:58', '2015-12-15 18:41:58', 'Hi, Jane:\n\nWhat Mike, Mary, Paula, and Jane said ... :)\n\nYou have stirred my interest in this research and I thank you for that (one down, two to go:).  Appreciate the links to the articles.\n\nI find our apparent focus on the negative fascinating, but have to admit I probably already knew this.  My personal research consists of being scathingly honest about my own behaviors, so I will admit I find proofreading a document very easy ... the errors just leap in front of me.   When I try to evaluate the value of the article, I find that I need to exert much more effort.\n\nI guess we really are geared to focus on the negative, the wrong, the poorly done.\n\nYour list is daunting to me, because of my short attention span, but I will give it a whirl, partially because you have done such a nice job of creating a series of actions which involve some stretching, but appear doable, even at this busy time of year.\n\nThanks again for another solid contribution to our self-leadership wisdom - truly appreciated:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13639, 28509, 'Anita', 'akm1@comcast.net', '', '162.119.128.141', '2015-12-16 10:48:37', '2015-12-16 15:48:37', 'Thank you for a well timed article it is one I will share with others.  If we all followed this advice daily  think of the major stress relief.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13640, 28520, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-16 12:23:00', '2015-12-16 17:23:00', 'Hi, David - great story and great message:)\n\nYour experience was valuable, the more so because it was and still is rather unusual.  Most people of ANY age do not have these opportunities, unless they intentionally seek them out and remain open to possibilities.\n\nI smiled when I saw that familiar Tell Em Times Three mantra, since I was also taught this at any early age and continue to use it.   Your comment \" ... being as creative as I can be so that people are not obviously aware that this is the pattern of my presentations\" caught my attention because this is something that folks do not always do well.\n\nMany times, I have seen both verbal and written examples of a mechanical application of this principle, often accompanied by the annoying (to me) phrases \"I am going to ...\"  or  \"I have ...\", just to make absolutely sure that their intent is obvious.  The more this structure can be cleverly disguised, the more engaging the message will be.\n\nA little creativity goes a long way toward making a speech, presentation, or lesson less plodding or tedious and more energetic.  You have given us a great reminder of this simple, but challenging truth.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13641, 28520, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '206.87.101.209', '2015-12-16 14:11:01', '2015-12-16 19:11:01', 'Hi John,\n\nI first want to acknowledge and thank you for your thoughtful comments. I so appreciate that you take the time to comment on my Lead Change Group blog posts.\n\nI have been incredibly fortunate to have amazing opportunities put in front of me throughout my life. I was sharing with friends this morning how in the early 70\'s I was lucky enough to go to a high school with a data processing teacher and class. It was there where I got to write my first computer program at a time when kids in Grade 11 never had that opportunity.\n\nThen at both the University of Alberta and the University of British Columbia, I was exposed to the Michigan Terminal System (MTS). This operating system was at least a decade ahead of its time, although there was no way at the time that I could know that. My \"norm\" was so far in front of what was happening that being in front was and still is my normal.\n\nI have also been blessed with an adventurous spirit, which has taken the initiative to step into these experiences. While few 22-year olds get the opportunity to speak at an International User Group meeting, even fewer would take up the challenge and actually do it. I\'m not certain what the larger life lesson for others is. I just know that I continue to explore and challenge myself to both find and step into big new opportunities.\n\nMay you have both the chance and spirit to do the same.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13640, 386),
(13642, 28520, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://talkkindnesstome.com', '70.210.77.221', '2015-12-16 14:17:18', '2015-12-16 19:17:18', 'I can certainly appreciate this, David! Super story! What an awesome leader you had to give you the opportunity - take a risk - because they believed in you.  Not even close to the degree that you experienced but something similar happened to me. I had only been working for a few months when my boss told me he was sick and I would have to do his presentation to a group of Executive VPs. When I told him I was scared to death he said as long as I was prepared why should I be scared. I got through it -only to see him at the back of the room when it was over, not sick at all. I guess he knew I needed to gain some confidence. Or maybe it was throwing me to the sharks and see if I could swim.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13643, 28520, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '206.87.101.209', '2015-12-16 14:26:44', '2015-12-16 19:26:44', 'Hi Jane,\n\nNice story.\n\nTo me, your boss did exactly what Bob and Annabelle did for me. Your boss challenged you to step way outside your comfort zone. He did it with deception, but when the time came he was there in the audience for you. I can only guess, but believe that he was there so that if you needed some rescuing, he would be there do it. And you didn\'t, because you knew your boss believed that you could do the presentation.\n\nAnd you did.\n\nWe can create incredible growth for someone else when we believe in them and we let them know it.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13642, 386),
(13644, 28520, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.241.218.72', '2015-12-17 06:04:12', '2015-12-17 11:04:12', 'David, I see some similarities between your post and Noah Megregian\'s post from yesterday.\n\nNo matter how young (or \"older\") you are, break out of yourself and just charge forward. Learning is only by doing and experiencing. We grow when we stretch and push the limits of what we have previously done.\n\nA great inspiration and lesson for us all. Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343);
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(13645, 28520, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '154.20.159.120', '2015-12-17 19:10:25', '2015-12-18 00:10:25', 'Thanks Paul.\n\nFor those of you who missed it, here is the link to the post \"Opportunity Knocks – It’s Up To You To Open The Door\" by Noah Megregian:\n\nhttp://leadchangegroup.com/opportunity-knocks-its-up-to-you-to-open-the-door/\n\nIt was, of course, complete coincidence that our two posts came back-to-back. Noah sounds about the same age now as I was then and our feels make me feel that we were both equally fearful of going on stage.\n\nStretching is how we grow. I am thankful to those who have pushed me so that I have stretched over the years.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13644, 386),
(13646, 28545, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2015-12-18 08:54:17', '2015-12-18 13:54:17', 'John, what a great set of questions. There\'s a book in that post.\n\nAlso, what a wonderful time to reflect on the quality of our relationships, whether we are celebrating a holiday this month, or reflecting on the past year and what we want for the new year. AND, these questions can be adapted to just about any relationship. Definitely worth thinking about.\n\nThank you for this gift.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13647, 28545, 'John Stoker', 'jrsutah@comcast.net', 'http://www.dialogueworks.com', '76.27.61.222', '2015-12-18 11:33:43', '2015-12-18 16:33:43', 'Thanks for your kind words! I believe that we all could do a better job at slowing down and asking ourselves some difficult questions. Questions make us think more deeply and the answers can be really quite self-revelatory! Have a great holiday!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13648, 28545, 'Duncan M.', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '95.76.171.184', '2015-12-18 12:58:13', '2015-12-18 17:58:13', 'Joh, this article talks about so many serious issues that most of us tend to avoid simply because we are afraid of the answers. This is how frustrations are born, communication almost ceases to exist, and a whole relationship turns into ashes. I find these two question \"How supportive are you of one another’s activities, goals, and aspirations?\" and \"How clear are you about your needs and desires?\" the most intriguing because they refer to personal desires that need to be met in order to be able to understand one another and provide the needed support.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13649, 28545, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-18 13:15:41', '2015-12-18 18:15:41', 'Hi, John:\n\nWell, you certainly got my attention with that opening story ...\n\nEvery single item on your list resonates with me, especially with my past work in therapy.  These are classic points for people in relationships to consider, together and separately, as they live, love, work, and go through life together, regardless of specific relationships.\n\nI have to fix two, because they seem to fit together closely:\n\n\"How open are you with each other?\" is vital, because the quality of your openness with another speaks directly to the quality of the trust in the relationship.   Without a strong and healthy mutual trust between two people, openness will simply not occur to the level needed for progress and happiness.\n\n\"How unified are you in the way you make decisions?\" might actually be considered a corollary or a symptom of my first choice, depending on the health of the relationship:)\n\nYou used the pronoun \"you\" twice in that sentence.  The first use might be the personal \"You\", where you are reflecting on your contribution to the relationship in terms of making decisions.  The second use is clearly collective, where the results of both people affect the decision-making process.\n\nIf openness is not present, you will not have unified decision-making.  Without openness, decision-making becomes either a psychological game tournament or a power struggle based on personality traits.\n\nReally enjoyed reading and reflecting on this post, John:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13650, 28545, 'John Stoker', 'jrsutah@comcast.net', 'http://www.dialogueworks.com', '76.27.61.222', '2015-12-18 13:23:31', '2015-12-18 18:23:31', 'Duncan,\nGreat points! I hope this will help you and others really reflect upon the depth and quality of their relationships. Best wishes this holiday!', 0, '1', '', '', 13648, 0),
(13651, 28545, 'John Stoker', 'jrsutah@comcast.net', 'http://www.dialogueworks.com', '76.27.61.222', '2015-12-18 13:26:13', '2015-12-18 18:26:13', 'John,\nThanks for your analysis. I appreciate your insights. I think many times we are not candid with ourselves when we stop to consider the quality of our relationships. If we would take time to reflect on how we are feeling and what we are thinking, we put ourselves in a position to improve upon what matters most. Thanks again for sharing.', 0, '1', '', '', 13649, 0),
(13652, 28606, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-22 10:34:51', '2015-12-22 15:34:51', 'Hi, Paul - good post:)\n\nI agree with almost everything you have said about the development nature of mastering a skill.   Your observations of how learning comes together over a period of time are spot on.\n\nThe three elements you list are indeed essential and I particularly appreciate your drawing a clear distinction between values and character.   While the two are closely related, they are not the same thing.\n\nI might hold a particular value, but how I respond when that value comes into question reveals my character.   Some values we hold are never truly challenged, so that question of how we will actually behave with regard to that value may never be posed.\n\nThis also provides a point for reflection:  If our values are not challenged, how do we know we value what we say we value?\n\nMaybe holding a particular value compells us to seek out situations in which we will take a stand.\n\nWhat do you think?\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13653, 28606, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '66.87.124.50', '2015-12-22 10:56:37', '2015-12-22 15:56:37', 'I agree, John. It\'s like the analogy of the tea bag - you never know what\'s truly in it until it\'s in hot water...\n\nIf our values are never challenged, we may not know what we stand for and then become something we \"can\'t identify down the road.\"\n\nI think our values can compel us to seek to challenge them but can also make us complacent to live lives that insulate them and squelch growth. If my kids don\'t step out of themselves and challenge the application of their training and values in their karate lessons, they will never grow and progress and their participation will not be relevant any more. This serves as a leadership application as well.\n\nLove the input John, thank you!\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 13652, 343),
(13654, 28606, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-22 12:14:11', '2015-12-22 17:14:11', 'Yup:)\n\nIt\'s why we cannot afford to only read and listen to those who say what we already agree with.   Our values are confirmed through a process of tempering through conflict, not by being comfortably and consistently reinforced by those with whom we feel affinity.\n\nGood stuff in this post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13655, 28619, 'Jane', 'Jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://InsiteSkill.com', '70.194.2.72', '2015-12-30 07:26:15', '2015-12-30 12:26:15', 'I\'m an information junkie and enthusiastic about new applications and tools. Thanks for sharing your favorites.  I\'m curious about Slack. I don\'t have a team, but I have to learn what that product does. I\'m impressed that our school uses Google docs even from the elementary age.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13656, 28619, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-30 11:45:27', '2015-12-30 16:45:27', 'Hi, Mark - thanks for this useful and timely contribution:)\n\nTwo reasons why I find your post especially helpful:\n\n1)  I love lists ... especially those that contain helpful information.   As we slide gracefully from 2015 to 2016, the time is right to make changes and add tools that help us work more effectively.\n\n2)  I enjoy seeing what tools work for others and tend to trust their recommendations over a vendor\'s hype:).  Anyone who posts on LCG is a trusted resource, so I\'ll be checking out those applications you mentioned that I do not yet use.\n\nUp to this point, I have resisted Google Docs, but your affirmation of it makes me want to take a second look - thanks:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13657, 28619, 'Mark Ellis', 'mark@businessfiction.co.uk', 'http://www.businessfiction.co.uk', '86.187.143.16', '2015-12-31 07:42:17', '2015-12-31 12:42:17', 'Thanks for the kind comments. Slack and Google Docs are awesome tools. The former in particular *could* rid us of email. Imagine that!\n\nHappy new year!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 409),
(13658, 28619, 'Thomas', 'noreply@tmastore.co.uk', '', '94.197.120.109', '2016-01-01 13:18:24', '2016-01-01 18:18:24', 'Great post Mark, I\'m already using some of the tools you mention but I haven\'t tried Slack yet. Thanks for sharing it, will give it a go.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13659, 28661, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-23 13:38:56', '2015-12-23 18:38:56', 'Hi, Jane - great post:)\n\nYou had me at quoting Max Dupree:) ...\n\nAs I have come to expect, your observations are on target, your illustrations clear and compelling, and your tone collegial.\n\nYour story about revamping the New Employee Orientation brought back some similar memories for me, as I took over that responsibility from a no-nonsense and very admin-oriented person who retained a sense of ownership, even as she \"let go\" of this particular program,\n\nWe met similar pushback to our attempts to make the orientation about those coming into the company and their needs, as opposed to the needs of those already in place.  This was more difficult than I imagined.  I am remembering now a very earnest and good financial officer who thought that every employee would benefit from a complete review of organizational finances (With eye-bursting PowerPoint slides of Excel spreadsheets).   Another VP thought that reading the employee handbook (literally - page by page) would insure that employees follow the rules and meet our expectations.\n\nOur first and most major shift was to start with a one-hour Q and A with our president, who had a politician\'s gift for reinforcing our mission, vision, and values during every discussion, no matter the topic.  New folks had a much deeper grasp of who we were and what we stood for at the end of that hour, along with a sense that senior management was approachable ... distinct difference from previous orientations.\n\nI agree with you that in order to lead, we must first follow ... a person, an ideal, a value.\n\nI do have some stories about followers, but I am saving them for a future posting:)\n\nMerry Christmas!\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13660, 28661, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://talkkindnesstome.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-12-25 11:40:59', '2015-12-25 16:40:59', 'John, I can just imagine your experience! I know that just because I think something is awesome doesn\'t mean others will - but like you, I couldn\'t see the value in much of what was deemed \'critical\' for new employees. Hurray! for open minds that allow us, even though skeptical, to dash forward with an idea only we are sold on.\n\nI can not wait to read what you have to say on followers. I am a follower at heart - but not the type that blindly follows, willing to walk off a cliff. Instead I am to be the follower going along behind to tie up loose ends and make sure problems are viewed as possibilities. That\'s what followers do.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13661, 28664, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://talkkindnesstome.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-12-21 08:14:30', '2015-12-21 13:14:30', 'I love this! I was attracted by the infograph but was really drawn in by the suggestions following.  I\'m going to revisit Becky\'s 12 minutes article - which was my actual first introduction to her back in 2013.  Cheryl Bachelder\'s \'know why\' dovetails with my method of regaining momentum by asking myself, \"If this were my company, what would I want me to be doing right now?\" And oh my goodness! The tip about the tour guide? That is so me and my husband. I urge him to pay for the tour guide and get something from the tour.  Well, OK, urge is the mild version. Beg, insist, demand are a bit closer to reality.  Lastly, Chery\'s chronicle of her lion experience was one I read over and over. If you haven\'t read it, click the link and go there now.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13662, 28664, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.235.239.94', '2015-12-21 08:18:00', '2015-12-21 13:18:00', 'Thanks, Jane! It was fun going through a bunch of Leading Voice/Instigator posts to find ideas that matched up with the infographic steps! At first, I felt like it was a stretch to  match that map/tour guide one to Step 4 but it really did speak to me. I\'m glad the same was true for you!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13663, 28664, 'Haralee', 'haralee@haralee.com', 'http://www.haralee.com/blog-2', '24.22.91.220', '2015-12-21 10:43:16', '2015-12-21 15:43:16', 'I hope to use them all! Year end in my business means lots of compiling of data and analyzing the data to make the next year decisions.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13664, 28664, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.235.239.94', '2015-12-21 10:56:01', '2015-12-21 15:56:01', 'Glad to hear they may be of assistance, Haralee!!', 0, '1', '', '', 13663, 0),
(13665, 28664, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '205.132.110.2', '2015-12-21 17:56:48', '2015-12-21 22:56:48', 'Paula, this is a great tool and plan to end the year on a high note.  Mary Ila Ward wrote a great post last week on spending one of the last weeks of the year in planning out the next - this dovetails nicely. Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13666, 28664, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.235.239.94', '2015-12-21 20:06:46', '2015-12-22 01:06:46', 'Thanks, Paul! And I wasn\'t aware of Mary Ila\'s post -- I\'ll have to look it up!', 0, '1', '', '', 13665, 0),
(13667, 28664, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-22 10:27:57', '2015-12-22 15:27:57', 'Well, I hate to be the voice of dissent ...\n\nActually, I don\'t mind at all:)\n\nI DO appreciate these guidelines on how to be more productive and think that, with a little editing, work quite nicely for the entire year.  I remember one job where I lived approximately one block off campus from my office.  My habit was to go in to work early (4 AM) and I would have a large block of work done before anyone else showed up or the students began to stir.\n\nHowever, I do think that there is value in NOT being productive all the time, and especially during the Golden Week.   I have long treasured this \"time between\" as the bustle of Christmas fades and the New Year is not yet here.\n\nI find this a fertile time for thinking and reflection, but try to actively avoid doing much of anything.  In my experience, the time has been well spent, and overall I have come into the new year with a clearer idea of what I do need to get busy doing.\n\n... plus, I like to relax and just go outside a lot, while everyone else is busy returning and exchanging gifts and writing resolutions that will probably not outlast the first sunrise of the new year:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13668, 28664, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.235.239.94', '2015-12-22 10:31:21', '2015-12-22 15:31:21', 'I appreciate your perspective, John! I don\'t know if your comment is dissent so much as discernment! I think prioritizing \"the golden week\" as one for \"down time\" is a wise choice as well. In your case, I know it\'ll pay off in a bunch of awesome content for Lead Change in 2016, so I don\'t mind at all and in fact encourage it! :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 13667, 0),
(13669, 28707, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2015-12-28 15:15:38', '2015-12-28 20:15:38', '\"a good follower is courageous, not just compliant.\"\n\nBOOM!!!!\n\nWhat a powerful lesson for leaders to teach their team members, and for us to remember when we are following others.  Being a \"team player\" has become synonymous with being compliant or weak!\n\nThanks for the bold wake up call sir!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(13670, 28707, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2015-12-28 17:34:19', '2015-12-28 22:34:19', 'Wow, John. You have inspired me to read both books.\n\nTo address your question: Have you ever been challenged to courageous followership?\n\nI have good and bad news about this one. I can think of 2 separate significant occasions immediately, from my corporate career. Once was with the CEO, and the other with the VP of our division. The scenarios were the same. They were both talking about how great things were going in the business. It got to where I was getting sick to my stomach because I knew people were losing their jobs due to downsizing at this same time.\n\nI wasn\'t the only one who knew. Everyone knew. I told each leader that it was encouraging to hear how well we were doing. I then asked how we should reconcile knowing that colleagues would be losing their jobs at this same time. Both of them did exactly the same thing. Neither one answered my question. They both gave an answer, but I don\'t know what question they were answering. I was disappointed in them, and the persons who prepped them.\n\nI say \"good news and bad news\" because I didn\'t feel like I experienced any negative repercussions from asking those questions (good news). That\'s the bad news too though, which applies to many of my experiences with speaking up.\n\nWhen I spoke the truth, no one in a \"leadership\" role had the nerve to do anything about it. Not that I wanted to be disciplined or dressed down, but they only showed weakness and cowardice to me in their \"non-responses\" - not leadership.\n\nThat\'s why I talk my clients through courageous followership. Let\'s look at the reality of the situation. You can look yourself in the eye by speaking up and the repercussions may not be what you expect.\n\nReally thought-provoking post, John, and great tie-in to current pop culture.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13671, 28707, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-28 19:31:03', '2015-12-29 00:31:03', 'Hi, Paul - thanks for responding:)\n\nYeah ... somewhere in the process of emphasizing \"teamwork\", we butchered the definition and left out the important part about speaking the truth, even when it hurts.\n\nOf course, the truth is not always received with the honor and respect it deserves, as many of us know from experience.  This is a leadership failure of the first magnitude.\n\nThis is why I am so interested in these two titles.  I have found little else that addresses all this as clearly as Chaleff\'s work.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 13669, 376),
(13672, 28707, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-28 19:36:56', '2015-12-29 00:36:56', 'Hi, Mary - thanks for responding.\n\nKnowing a little of your background and beliefs, I can tell you are going to enjoy these titles:)\n\nYour illustrations are familiar to me, not in the details, but in the overall depiction of leaders who will not honestly and openly engage, for whatever reasons.  I think we are seeing this quite a bit in the political arena right now and into the rest of this election cycle, but it is way too common in most organizations.\n\nYour point about a lack of response being just as much a leadership failure is a great one.    We often make decisions about what we do or do not do based on our assumptions about the results or consequences.\n\nInteresting ... many followers keep quiet because they fear repercussions and many \"leaders\" are probably very relieved that they do so, because the leader is then relieved from having to dance around or ignore the issue.\n\nNot much fun for anyone involved ...\n\nEnjoyed your observations and looking forward to more as you dive into Chaleff\'s works.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 13670, 376),
(13673, 28707, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2015-12-29 12:21:10', '2015-12-29 17:21:10', 'Thanks John for the extra nudge to read these books.\n\nI\'m continuing to reflect on my stories and the non-leaders responses to me. I mentioned briefly that I was also disappointed in the people who prepped them. I used to pummel the leaders I served with real questions employees would ask. It occurs to me that those prepping the leaders in my story were out of touch AND/OR it was an \"emperor has no clothes\" situation. \"Handlers\" know the emperor doesn\'t want to hear it so they quit bringing up the important issues. In fact I know that was true in one of the stories I shared because I called that \"handler\" 5 times in the weeks before that leader\'s talk asking her if he was aware of what he was talking into. She said yes. I knew she was lying.\n\nMore parallels to your connection to the current political arena.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13674, 28707, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-29 13:36:05', '2015-12-29 18:36:05', 'Sorry, \"Page\" ... typing too fast and thinking too slowly ... I promise not to call you \"Paul\" again.\n\nJake', 0, '1', '', '', 13669, 376),
(13675, 28707, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-29 13:41:29', '2015-12-29 18:41:29', 'Hi, Mary - thanks for the additional comments.\n\nHmmm ... your experiences reinforce that courage is a commodity much needed, but more rare than we might think.\n\nIn the political arena, I believe this is especially prevalent.  Since the standard for success often includes winning an election, the non-heroic behavior is reinforced because the \"handler\" thinks that victory had to do with steering their candidate away from the controversy, instead of coaching them through it.\n\nConsequences do not always connect directly to behaviors ... and that is a problem.\n\nYou are probably right on target with your observation about the \"handler\" giving up when the \"leader\" resists.   This is exactly where courage becomes essential, but is also where the battle may be lost.\n\nAny thoughts on how to help people become more courageous?\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 13673, 376),
(13676, 28707, 'rehana mohamed', 'rehanamohamed2@gmail.com', '', '105.0.83.0', '2016-03-30 15:26:03', '2016-03-30 19:26:03', 'Interesting to read!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13677, 28716, 'Nirzie Aime', 'heavenhugs15@yahoo.com', '', '172.56.26.130', '2015-12-29 09:33:02', '2015-12-29 14:33:02', 'Register me! I can\'t wait to read.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13678, 28716, 'Cindy', 'cindy.woodcock@panalpina.com', '', '199.168.151.143', '2015-12-29 11:18:29', '2015-12-29 16:18:29', 'Tried to register by clicking on the link and it indicates that the \"page is not found.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13679, 28716, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.235.239.94', '2015-12-29 11:22:46', '2015-12-29 16:22:46', 'Hi Cindy, this is Paula - I work with Lead Change. There was a problem with the site earlier but it has been restored to functionality! If you still have problems registering please let me know. paula (at) weavinginfluence (dot) com.', 0, '1', '', '', 13678, 378),
(13680, 28716, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '70.194.29.81', '2015-12-29 14:33:18', '2015-12-29 19:33:18', 'Thank you for this, David. I already follow some of these leaders and highly respect their values and character.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13681, 28716, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-30 11:40:14', '2015-12-30 16:40:14', 'Hi, David - thanks for your leadership in collecting this awesome group of individuals:)\n\nThis is quite a gift to the leadership development community and I am looking forward to the learning that it will surely stimulate.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13682, 28716, 'muralimohanrao', 'rmmrao1961@yahoo.com', '', '49.200.244.134', '2015-12-30 19:40:33', '2015-12-31 00:40:33', 'A Leader first should be selfless', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13683, 27794, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-29 08:57:40', '2016-01-29 13:57:40', 'Hi, Krishna - interesting article:)\n\nThanks for introducing me to a term and a concept I had not heard before.\n\nI have indeed seen examples of both good and bad in this context.\n\nOnce, while working with an individual to organize her work space, we were trying to figure out how to identify a particular pile of documents which were in her files.  We finally determined that she was receiving these documents from another employee and merely passed them on regularly to a third employee.\n\nThe reason:   Years before, two other employees were unable to work together and the manager\'s \"solution\" was to include this step of having paperwork routed through a neutral employee (the women I was working with).   Added a step to avoid conflict seems like bad Jugaad to me.\n\nYour post was very helpful in delineating that shortcuts, work-arounds, and simplification can be positive or negative, depending on the context and situation.   This is very useful to remind us that a thing is not always either good or bad, but that we need to consider the whole picture.\n\nI appreciate your awareness building - now I have a way to look at things and make a clearer determination of their ultimate usefulness.\n\nBy the way, how do you pronounce \"Jugaad\"?\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13684, 28358, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-21 10:25:22', '2016-01-21 15:25:22', 'Hi, Chip - interesting post, as always.\n\nI think you are on to something with your description of the changing role of leadership.  As social structures change, so do the needs for different ways of interacting and using power.\n\nOne sentence really stood out for me - the one about your granddaughter\'s soccer team.  I also have qualms about the \"trophies for all\" mentality that seems pervasive these days.    Providing equal recognition to all when the contributions were not equal seems unfair and counterproductive, if the goals are to assure effective teamwork and build individual esteem.\n\nHowever, I do think that everyone receiving a trophy can be a positive thing.  After all, professional football players who win the Super Bowl ALL get rings, right?\n\nThe issue here may be more that individual performance is not always recognized, so those who work harder and give more do not feel their efforts are rewarded.\n\nIf you are on a children\'s sports team, you may stop trying as hard to help the team win.\n\nIf you are in a corporation, you may also just fade into the desolation of doing \"just enough\" or simply walk out the door, never to return.\n\nMaybe a more effective approach would be to do both:\n\n1)  Recognize the team\'s efforts, because nobody scores a touchdown completely on their own.  It\'s a team effort, as are most of our human accomplishments.  Even Olympic athletes depend on many others for support of all kinds.\n\n2)  Recognize the individual contributions that stand out as beyond expectations or unusally effective.   That quarterback who runs the ball in still has to get over the goalline without dropping the ball, even with half the people close to him doing whatever they can to stop that from happening.\n\nJust my thoughts on one small part of your excellent post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13685, 28507, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-15 10:20:05', '2016-01-15 15:20:05', 'Hi, Will - you nailed one of the most common issues for leaders.\n\nI was immediately reminded of an exercise which I have participated in and facilitated many times over the years with various groups.\n\nThe exercise seems simple - here\'s the version I most often use:\n\nTwo people (sometimes three) share their thoughts back and forth on topics that matter to them for a set short time period.\n\nThe first person to talk simply shares their thoughts on some topic either assigned or of great important to them personally.  They stop talking after 1-2 minutes when a buzzer or bell goes off.\n\nThe second person cannot begin talking about their topic until they have stated the first person\'s message back to them completely and clearly - to indicate that they were indeed listening to what was being said.\n\nThe second person then talks about their topic and the first person must do the same.\n\nThis continues until people start glaring at me or the alloted time runs out.   Then we talk about how it felt to have to clearly convey another\'s thoughts, rather than simply launch into our own.\n\nThis exercise always produces a great amount of discussion, mostly focused around how difficult it is to simply listen to another person and keep your own thoughts from bouncing into your head.\n\nThere is more to the set-up and the selection of topics, but hopefully you get the general idea.\n\nListening to others at a level that assures understanding is more difficult than we think.  Unless we make a determined and consistent effort to change our natural tendency to focus on our own message, we won\'t hear them and we won\'t understand them.\n\nGreat post, as usual:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13686, 28507, 'Will Lukang', 'Will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.com', '96.242.209.121', '2016-01-21 23:56:34', '2016-01-22 04:56:34', 'Hi John,\n\nThank you for sharing the listening exercise.  I agree that listening is harder than expected.  But in order for a leader to be successful, they need to exercise patience and practice active listening.  I still struggle to do a good job with listening, but my awareness help me focus on it.\n\nHave a great day!', 0, '1', '', '', 13685, 0),
(13687, 28522, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '70.189.113.117', '2016-01-22 13:44:47', '2016-01-22 18:44:47', 'Great presentation and valuable perspective Leigh. I appreciate how you lead into the concepts and then drive the point home. We, as employers, bosses, and business leaders, get way more than we pay for. Our people should not give their life for their career, they should get life from it.  Great post. Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13688, 28522, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-22 16:11:29', '2016-01-22 21:11:29', 'Hi, Leigh - excellent post and very on-target.\n\nWe tend to paint that \"ideal\" picture with the less tangible parts of the job as well.  I think about how often I have been interviewed (and unfortunately a few times when I was on the other side of the interview as well) and heard the interviewer spin marvelous tales of a workplace where initiative and creativity were valued, where achievement outweighed consistency, and so on.\n\nTo a young person, this sounds like heaven on earth ... until the reality hits in that they did not really mean \"creative\" or initiative, but really wanted someone to do what they were told, in an expected and traditional manner, and to not rock the boat.\n\nEveryone wants to be world-class, as long as they can do it without risk:)\n\nMuch work to be done to get what we say we want into alignment with what we really want.   It is not just being honest, but as you point out in your articulate post, we have to change what we expect and what we allow.\n\nGood stuff, Leigh:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13689, 28522, 'Leigh Steere', 'lsynthesis@aol.com', '', '97.122.179.20', '2016-01-25 09:46:50', '2016-01-25 14:46:50', 'Thanks, Mike. I started writing this post in 2001 and recently found the unfinished draft on an archive drive. What\'s interesting to me is I haven\'t seen much progress on this topic. I hope we\'re not reading the same call-to-action in 2031. There is a growing body of evidence pointing to the business cost of long working hours. Did you see: https://hbr.org/2015/08/the-research-is-clear-long-hours-backfire-for-people-and-for-companies?', 0, '1', '', '', 13687, 268),
(13690, 28522, 'Leigh Steere', 'lsynthesis@aol.com', '', '97.122.179.20', '2016-01-25 09:56:05', '2016-01-25 14:56:05', 'Alignment--great point, John. Sometimes, recruiters really believe their companies offer great work-life balance, flexible working arrangements, freedom to choose the \"how\" of getting a job done, and permission to be creative, even to fail. The key question: Does the company walk its talk, or is there a disconnect between good intentions and actual practice? Any disconnect is a breeding ground for employee discontent and cynicism.', 0, '1', '', '', 13688, 268),
(13691, 28522, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-26 13:47:13', '2016-01-26 18:47:13', 'Hi, Leigh\n\nRight you are about that disconnect between Marketing/Recruiting/Sales/Public Relations and those providing the services/making the products/doing the work:)\n\nSometimes our goals contribute to this misalignment.  For example, if the recruiting department\'s goal is to attract potential employess and they are judged on drafting a certain number per period, that might contribute to a tendency to oversell the benefits and culture, just to make the numbers.   If Operation\'s goal is to reduce time to shipping, that might contribute to a more pressure-driven environment.\n\nFor me, these examples reinforce the need for management around the organization to be in sync and talking to one another.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13692, 28565, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-15 09:49:18', '2016-01-15 14:49:18', 'Hi, Gleb - thanks for an informative and very timely post:)\n\nI appreciate the clear and useful way you explain our current understanding of neuroscience.  I have read a few books, sat through a few workshops, and still struggle a bit getting a full sense of how all this works.  Your article has been very helpful and I really like the Autopilot/Intentional model:).\n\nOne important point you make is about the Autopilot system, which I am used to naming as the lizard brain:).   This system often gets short shrift and is downplayed as a very old and very simplistic system.  The examples used relate to the basic \"Fight, Flight, and Fright\" options used by our early ancestors to avoid being eaten.\n\nHowever, as you state, the Autopilot system mostly gets it right and is essential for survival on occasion.   Maybe we need to give it a little more respect:)\n\nThoroughly enjoyed this post and have shared across my networks.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13693, 28565, 'Gleb Tsipursky', 'gleb@intentionalinsights.org', 'http://intentionalinsights.org/', '65.60.186.233', '2016-01-18 15:09:59', '2016-01-18 20:09:59', 'Hi John,\n\nVery nice to hear you appreciated the insights in the post! I do indeed strive to clarify the academic research on neuroscience, psychology, and behavioral economics, and derive strategies useful for daily life based on it. That\'s what my nonprofit organization, Intentional Insights, http://intentionalinsights.org/, is all about :-)\n\nOur Autopilot system does deserve a lot of respect. The crucial thing is to notice when it doesn\'t get it right using our Intentional system, and then nudge the Autopilot system into the right course of action. That way, we can rely on our Autopilot more often, make less mistakes, expend less cognitive energy, and achieve greater success in reaching our goals!\n\nYou might enjoy this article on building will-power, which is just a way of improving our capacity to manage our Autopilot system better: http://intentionalinsights.org/7-surprising-science-based-hacks-to-build-your-willpower\n\nBest,\nGleb', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13694, 28649, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-01-06 07:47:12', '2016-01-06 12:47:12', 'What a great message, Page! At the beginning AND end of each day, what we all have is choice, and you\'ve affirmed that reality beautifully.\n\nEight years ago I left corporate America to start my second act of life. 18 months ago I nearly died from a heart condition. Now I begin every day grateful for having the opportunity to do my second act better. So much can be done with that half-full glass!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(13695, 28649, 'Gary Gruber', 'grg@garygruber.com', 'http://www.garygruber.com', '189.182.52.249', '2016-01-06 08:43:45', '2016-01-06 13:43:45', 'Every new day is a gift, to be unwrapped, celebrated and shared.  Time is a construct, an invention for our convenience and it\'s not so much how we \"spend\" it as how we \"invest\" it and I think that\'s more than semantics.   The ROI of time is simply amazing and continues to be filled with glad surprises, moments of grace and monuments to love.  As I look toward beginning my 80th year, I am ever grateful for time, it\'s blessings and bounties and what I can give back to honor all those who gave to me.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13696, 28649, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2016-01-06 11:48:11', '2016-01-06 16:48:11', 'Thank you Jane!  Wow, I didn\'t know that about your history!  You probably more than most about the precious nature of the moment!\n\nI stole it from someone, but I remind people when they see the glass as half full...\n\nGLASSES ARE MADE TO BE REFILLED!\n\nHave a great day!', 0, '1', '', '', 13694, 282),
(13697, 28649, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2016-01-06 11:53:37', '2016-01-06 16:53:37', 'Gary,\nI agree that time is meant to be invested, and shouldn\'t be wasted!  Sometimes I think it\'s refreshing to SPEND the time... just wantonly use it up in abandon and passion!  We need both, and we need the wisdom you shared to understand the ROI on using whatever moments we have left wisely!  Thanks for your comment!  Enjoy your week!', 0, '1', '', '', 13695, 282),
(13698, 28649, 'Ray N. Adcock', 'ray_adcock@hotmail.com', '', '69.149.246.120', '2016-01-06 12:21:58', '2016-01-06 17:21:58', 'Great article.  A nice reminder that this life is just a vapor.  Gone in a flash.  We must not forget to live each day to it\'s fullest.  I\'m reminded that this world is not my home.  I hope I make the most of my life....starting right now.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13699, 28649, 'De', 'dritter@visitingangels.com', '', '24.117.17.61', '2016-01-06 12:53:36', '2016-01-06 17:53:36', 'I agree wholeheartedly with all you have penned. We choose each day\'s mood. Our attitude toward our days good or bad are ours to enjoy or despise. I choose JOY !', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13700, 28649, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.114', '2016-01-06 13:24:16', '2016-01-06 18:24:16', 'Page, thanks for a great post and reminder. We do make the choices and the choices we make determine our legacy and also they demonstrate our character. Thanks for choosing to take part and to make a difference. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13701, 28649, 'Bill', 'bpierce@baptistvillage.org', '', '184.178.179.211', '2016-01-06 14:11:29', '2016-01-06 19:11:29', 'Thank you for the great reminder to focus on the present and be a difference maker !', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13702, 28649, 'Bruce Neal', 'bwneal@pccaero.com', '', '104.129.200.61', '2016-01-06 14:20:04', '2016-01-06 19:20:04', 'Page,\nYou nailed it.  I, too, try to live each day to the fullest and not sweat the stuff that doesn\'t really matter in the big picture.  One of those things I cherish is the long, dear friendship with you and your precious family.  To watch our little girls grow up into the women they\'ve become is a blessing beyond measure.  To have four grown, successful children, and none of them in jail!!!  To be a PaPa, well, that is just undescribable.  Are there times that you don\'t enjoy?  Of course there are, that\'s just life.  I choose to keep those in there place and press on with my wonderful life.\nThanks for the reminder.  Like your previous commenter, I choose joy!!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13703, 28649, 'Chris Wall', 'chris@fbcowasso.org', 'http://www.fbcowasso.org', '70.164.58.194', '2016-01-06 17:32:07', '2016-01-06 22:32:07', 'Great word Page. I think it was Erwin McManus in \"The Barbarian Way\" where I first heard the idea: Are you going to count the days of your life, or make the days of your life count? When I read this article, I thought about the challenge of making sure that I take the time to consider how I am living my life and utilizing the days that God has given me.\n\nIt is interesting that you wrote on this. Just this week, our staff had a conversation about the realization that God is always a witness to our lives. In light of the sudden tragedy that I have experienced in my life, I try to be aware of the fact that there will come a day when I will see God face to face. When that day comes, I want no regrets from this life nor do I want to have wasted the opportunity God has given to me.\n\nI am grateful for you and am grateful for the thought provoking blog today.\n\nChris', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13704, 28649, 'Rhys Cole', 'Piedmontvet@att.net', '', '70.215.193.116', '2016-01-06 17:32:49', '2016-01-06 22:32:49', 'I am so proud to call you my brother ! Love Rhys', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13705, 28649, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2016-01-06 18:16:15', '2016-01-06 23:16:15', 'De,\nThe world would be a better place if more people WOULD choose JOY!\n(or at least not choose being a goober!)', 0, '1', '', '', 13699, 282),
(13706, 28649, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2016-01-06 18:17:04', '2016-01-06 23:17:04', 'Mike,\nThank you sir! And thank you for investing in me and so many others, because you definitely have made a difference in our lives!', 0, '1', '', '', 13700, 282),
(13707, 28649, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2016-01-06 18:18:18', '2016-01-06 23:18:18', 'Bruce,\nYou have chosen GOLD!  It\'s the moments we spend with our families, making a difference in the lives of our friends and the world around us that make the world we live in a better place!  Thanks for being a change agent for good!', 0, '1', '', '', 13702, 282),
(13708, 28649, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2016-01-06 18:22:01', '2016-01-06 23:22:01', 'Chris,\nI remember hearing Erwin McManus say that one time at a conference… he “steals” from the best! Originally it was Abraham Lincoln that said, “In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” Either way it’s a great truth, and it says what in just a few short words what I took an entire blog to say!\n\nThanks for leading and living this way in front of so many!', 0, '1', '', '', 13703, 282),
(13709, 28649, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '72.192.87.160', '2016-01-06 22:31:28', '2016-01-07 03:31:28', 'Bill,\nThank you for the encouragement!  Have a blessed new year!', 0, '1', '', '', 13701, 282),
(13710, 28649, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '72.192.87.160', '2016-01-06 22:32:35', '2016-01-07 03:32:35', 'The feeling is mutual little brother!  I love to watch you lead... your family, your workplace, in the FFA program as you mentor kids, and in your church family!  Keep up the good work!  Love you!', 0, '1', '', '', 13704, 282),
(13711, 28649, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '72.192.87.160', '2016-01-06 22:33:29', '2016-01-07 03:33:29', 'It amazes me... not that other people don\'t see how precious each moment is... but how many times I forget, and have to be reminded myself!  Thanks for the encouragement Ray!', 0, '1', '', '', 13698, 282),
(13712, 28649, 'Bill Shiflett', 'bill@lenexabaptist.com', '', '66.39.212.178', '2016-01-07 09:38:55', '2016-01-07 14:38:55', 'Thanks for the challenge, Page. Your reminder of daily choices is well received.\nBefore others will follow, they must see attributes of leadership in our lives throughout and not just \"on the job.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13713, 28649, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2016-01-07 11:02:49', '2016-01-07 16:02:49', 'Bill,\nThe influence you have over others is tremendous.  Your own upbeat and positive attitude has challenged others to up their game, to influence their world like you have yours!  Lead well my friend!', 0, '1', '', '', 13712, 282),
(13714, 28649, 'Joan Mayes', 'joancmayes@gmail.com', '', '76.254.208.74', '2016-01-07 11:15:50', '2016-01-07 16:15:50', 'Beautifully written.  John and I are in those years where health issues are always a topic but it has been our response to live each day without regret and to Praise God for each day.  Our blessings far outweigh our problems.  Through all of John\'s health issues he has never complained or asked why me.  Life is so very brief and as you so eloquently point out, we can waste our life by complaining and regretting and longing for yesterday or longing for what we do not have.  Or we can enjoy each day knowing it may be our last and when it is our last we can go knowing we have done our best and there are no regrets.\n\nThank you Page for this very thoughtful article.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13715, 28649, 'Spencer', 'sbrazeal@transitionslc.com', 'http://transitionslc.com', '70.191.158.194', '2016-01-07 11:44:53', '2016-01-07 16:44:53', 'Page, well done sir! Thank you for sharing...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13716, 28649, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2016-01-07 11:45:51', '2016-01-07 16:45:51', 'Thank you Joan!  You and John have a great testimony regarding faith in the face of adversity, and hope in the middle of discouraging times.  The moments truly are precious.  Bless you guys!', 0, '1', '', '', 13714, 282),
(13717, 28649, 'Chelsea Levo', 'clevo@cityofowasso.com', '', '98.175.228.131', '2016-01-07 12:07:26', '2016-01-07 17:07:26', 'I love this message.  Carpe diem!  I have done well forgiving and accepting others, but after losing my mom last year, I let go of things I didn\'t even realize I was holding on to.  Since then, I feel lighter.  Life has become more clear. As long as I acknowledge HIM in everything and love the way HE loves, I can lay my head down to sleep -- whether it is for a night\'s rest or eternally -- knowing I have lived my life sentence to the fullest.  Thank you for your wisdom, Page.  God bless and hug you!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13718, 28649, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2016-01-07 14:01:16', '2016-01-07 19:01:16', 'Chelsea, You have one of the kindest spirits I know.  All of us have Junk in our past, and that includes Junky People!!!  I\'m glad you\'ve found some release and peace in letting go of that stuff!  Your faith in God AND in others are two of the things I admire most about you!  Thanks for the encouragement buddy!', 0, '1', '', '', 13717, 282),
(13719, 28649, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2016-01-08 10:52:01', '2016-01-08 15:52:01', 'Thanks Spencer!  Have a super weekend!  Carpe Weekendus!', 0, '1', '', '', 13715, 282);
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(13720, 28649, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-12 12:13:42', '2016-01-12 17:13:42', 'Hi, Page - glad I hung in past those first few lines:)\n\nThis is something I have engaged with in company with others and now find myself dealing with my own mortality more often.   Your post is full of impacting statements, but the following seemed to sum up an important point:  \"To be certain there are things that are way beyond our control. Our mortality is one of those. But our humanity is under our influence, and how we spend the moments doled out to us are ours to manage, to spend and to embrace.\"\n\nI remember reading Viktor Frankl for the first time long ago, which led me to deeply question, for the first time, the powerful role of choice in how we live our lives.   Aging is \"not for sissies\", as they say, and much of what happens as we grow older and closer to our end that is not directly controlled by us.\n\nHowever, what goes on in our mind and our heart is always very much within our control and that can make a huge difference in the impact of an event.\n\nI sometimes think about how I would like to have my grandchildren react to my eminent departure from the planet ... not to be morbid, but to practice how to help them navigate what is, after all, just part of the life cycle.\n\nCue \"The Circle of Life\" and get those lions up on the cliff:) ...\n\nThanks for a thoughtful and useful post.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13721, 28649, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry/home', '70.184.252.138', '2016-01-12 18:56:46', '2016-01-12 23:56:46', 'John,\nMy educated and astute observation (all humility aside) is this...\n\nYour grandchildren will be saddened by your departure, and blessed having lived under your influence.\n\nBlessings to you my friend!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(13722, 28741, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-12-31 09:05:37', '2015-12-31 14:05:37', 'Thank you for your profound and inspiring post, Cassandra. I totally get what you\'re saying. First - just the power behind the quote, “Throw me to the wolves and I’ll return leading the leading the pack\" is incentive to move. A CEO told me once that he threw me into the deep end of the ocean to see if I would sink or swim. I was scared - but I think being thrown to the wolves would have been petrifying.  Win Without Fighting. That definitely fits my style. I don\'t have a competitive cell in my body. I liked this post so much I am going to read the full article you linked to. And I am going to look forward to your next article.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13723, 28741, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-12-31 09:36:17', '2015-12-31 14:36:17', 'Hi, Cassandra - thanks for an unexpected and very useful viewpoint regarding that monthly theme (the one I ignored).\n\nAs someone who has worn the uniform and studied the art, I was pleased to see you picking up on some of the best wisdom the military profession has to offer.   War is not about simple violence and destruction, as many think.  While most folks would not advocate going to war as the first solution, it unfortunately sometimes becomes the only option.\n\nI know we junior officers were exposed to the idea that you \"subdue without fighting\" whenever possible.   This can be accomplished tactically by things like these:\n\n1)  Training, training, training ... in situations where you do not have time to think, instincts honed by training take over.\n\n2)  Prepare, prepare, prepare ... if you wait until you face a situation or crisis, it is already too late.  While you cannot anticipate and prepare for every specific possibility, you can prepare for both those most likely and those most serious.\n\n3)  Lead, lead, lead ... unlike the mythological lone leaders who push others by brute force or intellect, the most influential leaders I have known, military and civilian, are those who lead by serving.\n\nQuick story:  I saw two types of leaders in my modest military experience.  You could determine which type someone was by what happened when they entered the mess hall or stopped in the field for a meal.\n\nOld-fashioned leaders went to the front of the serving line ... because they could.\n\nServant leaders were the last  to eat ... because they felt the need to insure that their soldiers were fed first.\n\nThanks for a post that really resonates with me on several levels and for the trip down Memory Lane:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13724, 28741, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2015-12-31 09:42:39', '2015-12-31 14:42:39', 'Hi Cassandra. I think I like your own tactic best of all, \"I have to get these jokers on my side.\" I like your sassy, yet non-aggressive approach.\n\nI can see why it was difficult to pick from among the 31 tips in the article about Sun Tzu. Thank you for picking some out and sharing them with us today so that we can rise to the occasion when thrown to the wolves.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13725, 28741, 'DANIEL OJODIBE WISDOM', 'Wisdan247@gmail.com', '', '141.0.15.152', '2016-11-01 12:29:36', '2016-11-01 16:29:36', 'Thanks for the inspiration', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13726, 28741, 'Armaghan', 'Armsaj@hotmail.com', '', '39.57.33.61', '2017-01-21 16:14:01', '2017-01-21 21:14:01', 'You Nailed It Sis.... I have been trow en in the deep ends to many times and its so true people are watching what you\'ll do......and my Mentor my teacher gave me this precious advice of the wolves and it gave me the courage to play along with \" The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting\". And yes i have been victories many times and believe it gave me a new perceptive to enduring rough people who can\'t care for a penny..........and i still here smiling to the last bite....and thank you for your courage\'s words... they helped alot.....', 0, '0', '', '', 0, 0),
(13727, 28741, 'Dan Guerriero', 'theomeo49@yahoo.com', '', '72.82.229.71', '2017-02-15 18:48:11', '2017-02-15 23:48:11', 'Great quote', 0, '0', '', '', 0, 0),
(13728, 28748, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@charter.net', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2016-01-05 09:21:36', '2016-01-05 14:21:36', 'Absolute bulls-eye, Chris! Being positive is sometimes the only thing that helps push us past the crud, then once we\'ve passed it, being positive looks forward and not back.\n\nI love the ahaBooks. I will unlock this one for sure so I can easily tweet the messages.\n\nIn my quiet time yesterday, I realized this to be true of me last year and I am not going to let that happen this year. \"Doing your best matters – your fingerprints are on everything you do. \"\n\nProverbs 29:18 - How about the HCSB translation? \"Without revelatio people run wild,\nbut one who listens to instruction will be happy.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13729, 28748, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '107.77.100.59', '2016-01-05 09:35:25', '2016-01-05 14:35:25', 'Chris,\n\nThanks for bringing this topic forward. I see the effects of positivity everyday and find the opposite to be so draining.\n\nPositive Physical Health has been on my mind for the last 18 months or so and it continues to be a focus area for self-improvement. I have found that it impacts all the other areas you mention and is, therefore, immensely important. I have made much positive progress, but have more work to do. Thanks for the reminder of why I\'m doing it.\n\nAlan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 323),
(13730, 28748, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '71.215.81.57', '2016-01-05 11:05:21', '2016-01-05 16:05:21', 'The opposite is indeed draining, Alan! Thanks for your thoughts about this -\n\nBest to you on your positive physical health targets! I\'m still working on mine but - man - much progress has been made in the last five years. Getting stronger every day!\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13729, 372),
(13731, 28748, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '71.215.81.57', '2016-01-05 11:07:35', '2016-01-05 16:07:35', 'We mustn\'t let the crud win, Jane! Trust, respect, and community are so much more invigorating for us each day -\n\nThanks for your comments &amp; insights!\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13728, 372),
(13732, 28748, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-12 12:01:25', '2016-01-12 17:01:25', 'Hi, Chris - as usual, your thoughts are spot on and very timely:)\n\nI particularly like your inclusion of these five somewhat disparate areas.  Each requires some different strategies and tactics to reach specific goals, but taken together, you have hit on just about every important area that a person needs to address in order to thrive.\n\nToo often, I see folks emphasizing one area to the exclusion of another - the gym rat who is in fantastic shape, but has no strong or meaningful relationships in their life, for example.\n\nThanks for some motivating words at the start of the year.  I\'m not into New Year\'s resolutions per se, but there is something about the beginning of a time period that opens the door to contemplation of change ... and that\'s a necessary first step.\n\nThanks for sharing:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13733, 28748, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '69.88.157.89', '2016-01-12 17:44:47', '2016-01-12 22:44:47', 'Thank you, John! I learned a great deal from Lisa Zigarmi through the research for our book - she\'d brilliant. She helped me realize that these pillars of positivity must be in dynamic tension - all tied for \"first place\" - in order for us humans to flourish!\n\nContemplation of change is a vital first step, as you say. I\'m grateful to hear that this post struck a chord with you (and hopefully, others).\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13732, 372),
(13734, 28785, 'Jane', 'Jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://InsiteSkill.com', '70.210.67.73', '2016-01-08 07:00:01', '2016-01-08 12:00:01', 'Mary, you asked the right thought provoking question. I hope the person on your story went on to make changes in his management style. I know the broken spirit that comes from working for a bully.  To change their spots, a Leopard first has to recognize they have spots and then want them to be different.  I\'ve seen a transformation in people.  For my husband who lived cantankerous for years, our conversations were more along the lines of, \"Is this how you want to be remembered? When people think back what are they going to recall? Do you really want your grandkids to remember you ornery?\" Like you pointed out in this article, we have to see the flaws or we have no impetus to fix them.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13735, 28785, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '64.20.179.190', '2016-01-08 10:01:17', '2016-01-08 15:01:17', 'While I haven\'t yet been - and probably never will be - accused of calling someone stupid, I have certainly fallen into the trap of saying things or behaving in ways that I later regret. Because I know this about myself, I\'ve taken to a little self-talk from time to time. For example, if I know that I\'m entering a stressful or high-stakes day I\'ll often spend the length of time it takes to drive to work to think through the day ahead and plan what I want to say and how I want to act. This kind of planning helps me more readily access the best part of me when the going gets tough.  That\'s one way I go about expressing who I want to be, every day.\n\nThanks, Mary!\nAlan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 323),
(13736, 28785, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-01-08 12:47:44', '2016-01-08 17:47:44', 'Those are some great questions too, Jane. I\'m encouraged to hear you have seen transformation. Thanks for commenting.', 0, '1', '', '', 13734, 252),
(13737, 28785, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-01-08 12:52:29', '2016-01-08 17:52:29', 'That\'s called emotional intelligence, Alan ;) I was talking with someone about it last night. You\'re showing self-awareness, self-reguation and social skills with that example you gave. Yes, sometimes we indulge ourselves, but as aspiring character-based leaders we try to think before we speak or act. I love the way you put it, \"This kind of planning helps me more readily access the best part of me when the going gets tough\"\n\nYou are also reminding me of motivational talk I was listening to today. The speaker said, \"It\'s not that we\'re not allowed to have negative thoughts or feelings. We just can\'t stay there.\" I know I struggle with NOT feeding my grievances, even if they are in my head.\n\nIt goes back to the central question: \"Who do I want to be?\" I\'m glad I hang around people who regularly ask that question.\n\nThanks for commenting!!', 0, '1', '', '', 13735, 252),
(13738, 28785, 'Valencia Ray M.D.', 'info@valenciaray.com', 'http://www.ValenciaRay.com', '75.22.129.88', '2016-01-08 14:28:37', '2016-01-08 19:28:37', 'Great article, glad to see you addressing self-awareness and self-Response-Ability...the ability to respond. When we feel/act like a \'victim\' and dodge taking responsibility to shift our mindset and behavior, we just perpetuate the cycles that limit our potential and promotes continued cultural \'dysfunction.\' Enjoyed this, thanks.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13739, 28785, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '73.13.204.222', '2016-01-08 15:16:08', '2016-01-08 20:16:08', 'Thanks so much for your comments, Valencia. I\'m all about self-responsibility and empowerment.\n\nLoved this: \"When we feel/act like a ‘victim’ and dodge taking responsibility to shift our mindset and behavior, we just perpetuate the cycles that limit our potential and promotes continued cultural ‘dysfunction.’ \" - SO TRUE!', 0, '1', '', '', 13738, 252),
(13740, 28785, 'Jon Stallings', 'jon@jonstallings.com', 'http://www.jonstallings.com', '66.147.172.7', '2016-01-08 16:35:26', '2016-01-08 21:35:26', 'Great topic Mary. How often do we allow the actions of others dictate how we act. It takes practice to make sure we stay true ourselves.  I have worked hard to change the way I think. I try to remind myself that at the end of the day I am the only person I can really change. I admit though I am still a work in progress.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13741, 28785, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-01-09 16:21:47', '2016-01-09 21:21:47', 'You summarized it perfectly, Jon. It takes practice. I am only responsible for me. I\'m a work in progress. Thank you for reminding ME! (and for commenting)', 0, '1', '', '', 13740, 252),
(13742, 28785, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-12 13:48:36', '2016-01-12 18:48:36', 'Hi, Mary - sorry I\'m late commenting on this engaging post - been a little sick.\n\nAs usual, you throw a bright light on another slightly seamy side of being humans.\n\nAs I read your experience with that manager, I was reminded of all the times I have heard someone say some version of \"What else could I do?\", usually followed by some version of \"They made me feel ......\" (fill in with \"mad\", \"hurt\" or any other negative emotion).\n\nThis type of talking, thinking, and acting is indicative of a lack of emotional intelligence, especially the part where we identify the source of an emotion we are feeling.  The trick?:  It\'s always us.\n\nNobody else can make us feel anything.  Emotions are always an inside job and we ultimately choose how we will emotionally react to a situation.   This is not always a well-received idea, especially by those who prefer not to own their emotional reaction.\n\nYour approach with your manager of helping him to consider the congruency (or lack thereof) between his actions and  his values was spot on.   I would bet he is a better manager today for having had this interaction with you:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13743, 28785, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '76.99.179.87', '2016-01-12 14:00:07', '2016-01-12 19:00:07', 'Thanks for commenting, John. Your comments just made me realize that I don\'t think we can be great until we fully see and own when we\'re tempted to not be great. Now that is not profound. The important part for me is to not belittle ourselves for our temptations. It\'s important to be humble and adjust bad habits, but we also need to own AND LOVE our humanity. Otherwise, if we can\'t have compassion toward ourselves, we don\'t do a very good job at being compassionate with others either. (I feel like I\'m writing another post... sorry.)\n\nYour mention of emotional intelligence is right on target. I\'ve heard that term so often since the start of this new year. It may be a overarching theme emerging.\n\nThanks again, John. As you know, I always look forward to you weighing in. Glad you are feeling better! Mary', 0, '1', '', '', 13742, 252),
(13744, 28802, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2016-01-11 11:10:55', '2016-01-11 16:10:55', 'I love your old friends, thanks for sharing them with us. You asked, Which of the 7C’s resonates most for you? Every one of them is necessary in leadership and followship - but a few of them stand out for me. The absolute non-negotiables are Character and Commitment. I\'m not just saying that because they are the ones I focus on most, even though that\'s where I want to always be on my game. If Cognition were related to having a quick brain, I would fail miserably, but I like that it means self-aware and seeking feedback. I wish more people would give me feedback - honest feedback.  I think another level of cognition, then is having confidence. Without it, you wouldn\'t want feedback, not really. I\'m working on the compassion.  I am a natural born encourager. You would think I would also be born with the compassion gene, but alas, I was not. I should get to work now so I can fulfill my commitments.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13745, 28802, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '75.112.181.42', '2016-01-12 07:47:17', '2016-01-12 12:47:17', 'Hi Jane!  Love this piece and want to add two of my old friends, creativity and collaboration!  Great \"C\" ing again here!\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13746, 28802, 'Gary Gruber', 'grg@garygruber.com', 'http://www.garygruber.com', '189.182.53.69', '2016-01-12 08:42:58', '2016-01-12 13:42:58', 'I wrote a similar \"Seven C\'s of Competent Leadership\" some time ago.  If you\'re interested, you can find it here:  http://tinyurl.com/jhvm39x\n\nEnjoy!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13747, 28802, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-01-12 08:48:38', '2016-01-12 13:48:38', 'Deb -- love\'em...great addition to all the ways to \"C\" leadership!!', 0, '1', '', '', 13745, 251),
(13748, 28802, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-01-12 08:49:20', '2016-01-12 13:49:20', 'Good stuff...thanks for sharing the link, Gary!', 0, '1', '', '', 13746, 251),
(13749, 28802, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-01-12 08:56:12', '2016-01-12 13:56:12', 'Jane -- I love that you\'ve befriended my old friends, and thank you for your warmth and candor. I\'m with you, in that if I was forced to select only one of the Cs, I would pick character. With it, so many other things are possible. Without it, well...maybe someone could get a job on Wall Street. (pardon my badness!) Big thanks for sharing!', 0, '1', '', '', 13744, 251),
(13750, 28802, 'Donna Boehme', 'dboehme@compliancestrategists.com', 'http://compliancestrategists.com', '100.8.112.90', '2016-01-12 11:02:36', '2016-01-12 16:02:36', 'Jane, v nice piece. This is a great topic for chief compliance officers (CCOs) and other compliance professionals,who lead teams under the most challenging of conditions. I agree with your selected 7, but for this group I would also want to see Courage, Collaboration and Communication incorporated.  Perhaps you might be interested in contributing a blog post on this topic for the CCO audience on our blog, available through our website. If so please let us know. Very relevant to our clients and networks.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13751, 28802, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-12 14:01:33', '2016-01-12 19:01:33', 'Hi, Jane - good post and an excellent list ... the responses show that you have hit on something important.  Let the \"C\"s continue to pile on:) ...\n\nI was personally torn between \"Character\" and \"Commitment\" at first for the most important \"C\", but like others, Character wins out, given the way you define that quality.  Much more active and engaged, so incorporates what I find important about Commitment.\n\nSometimes when Commitment is lacking, the other sterling qualities seem to fade quite a bit.\n\nMaybe we shouldn\'t try to pick just one as the most important ... they all work nicely together:).\n\nBTW, someday you need to explain to me how one becomes a \"well-mannered maverick\" ... does that mean you have mastered the art of calling someone\'s ideas idiotic with a smile on your face and without them taking offense:)?\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13752, 28802, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-01-13 15:21:47', '2016-01-13 20:21:47', 'Donna -- thanks for your kind words and for sharing. Agree that courage, collaboration and communication are all important parts of leadership. I\'ll follow up in an email regarding your invitation to share a post with your CCO audience.', 0, '1', '', '', 13750, 251),
(13753, 28802, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://braithwaiteinnovationgroup.com', '76.26.198.226', '2016-01-13 15:27:17', '2016-01-13 20:27:17', 'John -- it turns out I\'m finding a multiple of \"C\" words to describe different facets of leadership. \'Tis time, it appears, to expand beyond seven, despite that being such a lovely number (from my point of view *smile*). I agree with you that force-ranking isn\'t going to work with the \"C\'s\" -- they\'re a bit like a pile of Jenga blocks that build on, and support, one another. And, as to the \"well-mannered maverick\" part, that\'s going to be a fun explanation! Thanks as always for weighing in and making the discussion richer!', 0, '1', '', '', 13751, 251),
(13754, 28813, 'Jane', 'Jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://InsiteSkill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2016-01-07 07:10:55', '2016-01-07 12:10:55', 'This is an impressive list and every one of them true. I used to do training, but even without that role, I can see how these principles work to create an optimum learning experience.  Item 6, though, can be a challenge. Some adults are not mature enough or lack the ability to see mistakes as learning opportunities.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13755, 28813, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '64.20.179.190', '2016-01-07 13:45:38', '2016-01-07 18:45:38', 'Scott, great list. Related to #4, I find that focusing the learning on solving existing problems is a favorable way to ensure that learning is happening. The act of problem-solving helps build relevance and show value. For example, I try to ask something like, \"what challenges are you facing in your workplace that we can address using what we\'re learning today?\" I find this useful to ask at the beginning, middle and end of a learning event. If done well, this can also help keep the learner engaged and provide an opportunity for immediate practice.\n\nThanks!\nAlan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 323),
(13756, 28813, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://makeitmatterbook.com', '65.185.19.119', '2016-01-08 18:46:05', '2016-01-08 23:46:05', 'Jane, thx so much for taking the time to engage in this article!  Indeed you are correct, #6 on the list is the trickiest by far.  Many adults first instinct is to hide their mistakes, not embrace them head on!  As leaders, we can at least remove fear from being reprimanded unjustly for one\'s mistakes.', 0, '1', '', '', 13754, 0),
(13757, 28813, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://makeitmatterbook.com', '65.185.19.119', '2016-01-08 18:49:51', '2016-01-08 23:49:51', 'Alan,\nThx so much for taking the time to read and respond to this post.  You make a great point.  Indeed, adult learners almost instinctively understand and appreciate the value of learning that comes from problem solving.  Your advice is good - Lead Change Readers:  as Alan says, build direct problem solving opportunities into your portfolio of learning for your team!', 0, '1', '', '', 13755, 0),
(13758, 28813, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-12 12:30:49', '2016-01-12 17:30:49', 'Hi, Scott - great review of adult learning principles:)\n\nI was struck most by number 2, since I still see a fairly large amount of presentations or classes where the lead instructor talks for an extended period of time, before (if ever) breaking into groups, engaging in discussion, or doing anything else different.\n\nOne thing I have noticed is that some folks have developed a conversational style of presenting information.  This style is based on asking questions to evoke responses and managing the resulting discussion, rather than simply providing information in some logical sequence.   Those who use questioning most effectively often come from either an educational or therapeutic background, as opposed to a business framework.\n\nHave you noticed this?\n\nI also have to throw in a comment regarding learning styles.  Much of what I read tends to put learning styles into the \"myth\" category, indicating that research does not support the existence of such clear-cut styles.\n\nI believe that varying one\'s approach using \"learning style\" frames, such as you noted, is a very useful learning strategy.  Not so much because we are addressing individual learning styles, but that we are varying our approach - it\'s the change-up that keeps folks engaged.\n\nAny thoughts re this?\n\nEnjoyed this post quite a bit - thanks for sharing:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13759, 28813, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2016-01-12 20:34:12', '2016-01-13 01:34:12', 'John - thx as always for the engagement.  Regarding your point on a conversational style of presenting:  Indeed I have seen this and have even engaged in it myself when presenting.  One good twist on this I\'ve tried is when people ask questions of me during my presentation.  Before answering I often turn it back to them and ask others in the audience for their points of view on the question being asked.  Quite often you uncover the latent expertise that sits in the room, amongst the very people you are presenting to.  Everyone gets involved and is eager to share what they\'ve learned.  It further enriches the overall learning process.\nRegarding your question on varying learning styles - you are 1000% right.  Some scholars refer to this as situational learning - similar to the situational leadership style definition made famous by Drucker.  I find that if you switch up the approach to learning, it definitely keeps folks more engaged.  And you need every trick in the bag because multiple studies have now confirmed that the average attention span of an adult is, are you ready for this, 8 seconds!\nThx John,\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13760, 28815, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-26 11:15:57', '2016-01-26 16:15:57', 'Hi, Scott - as always, you have gone far beyond simple learning observations here.\n\nI agree with just about everything you said, but several points really resonated with me:\n\n1)  \"Not Yet\" vs \"You Failed\" mindset - not the first time I\'ve seen the concept, but your phrasing is particularly apt.  \"Not Yet\" implies a journey, which might help some people move from the viewpoint of learning as something you accomplish at a particular time by being present while knowledge is poured out, to a more dynamic and ongoing process.\n\n2)  \"I think\" and \"I know\" - you have nicely identified what some woud see as paradoxical thinking.   The idea that generally we move from sensing a truth to knowing that truth is important, but your tag-on about not letting knowing get in the way of sensing is gold.\n\nKnowledge can and does change, as we learn and develop more effective ways of looking at our world.  While being able to support your perceptions with data and knowledge is usually essential and always welcome, the ability to use our intuition is also very valuable.\n\nI am reminded of the old hand who says \"I just know ...\", when she really means \"Based on years and years of experience, along with studying and data gathering, my intellect pushes me toward this answer ... even when it seems counterintuitive or off of the known facts.\"\n\nGood stuff - always enjoy your contributions, because they make me think:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13761, 28815, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2016-01-26 21:05:31', '2016-01-27 02:05:31', 'Thx as always John for your uplifting and insightful commentary!  I really appreciate the time you take to provide such thoughtful comments.\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13762, 28871, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.114', '2016-01-14 09:30:09', '2016-01-14 14:30:09', 'Alan, thanks for an engaging post. I agree curiosity is generally worth the risk. For me, I just need to find the lowest risk methods to achieve discovery. On the other hand, ignorance is always more costly than we think.\n\nThanks again for challenging us and making us think. Much appreciated. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13763, 28871, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '73.13.204.222', '2016-01-14 11:17:55', '2016-01-14 16:17:55', 'Alan, thank you for that deep dive into the origins of perspectives and idioms about curiosity. Great stories from you on your experiences. I\'m glad you are still with us and here to teach us how curiosity connects to leadership.\n\nP.S. I\'m SO delighted to learn there is more to the phrase, \"Curiosity killed the cat...\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13764, 28871, 'Leigh Steere', 'lsynthesis@aol.com', '', '97.124.168.16', '2016-01-14 13:56:36', '2016-01-14 18:56:36', 'Amen. Curiosity is vital. It leads to exploration, questioning the status quo, expanding our knowledge, and invention. I agree with Mary--it is delightful to learn there is more to the phrase, \"Curiosity killed the cat...\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 268),
(13765, 28871, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-15 10:08:20', '2016-01-15 15:08:20', 'Hi, Alan - very enjoyable and thought-provoking post:).\n\nActually, it\'s more of a memory-provoking post for me.   I served in the US Army Reserve for a number of years.  While my service was completely peaceful, totally in the US, and mostly short periods of weekends, two-week periods, and a few longer stretches, I retain sharp memories of many of these experiences.\n\nI had the opportunity to observe leadership at the enlisted and officer level, from man-to-man through large group actions.  I saw some of the best and some of the worst leadership during this time and still use examples from that on occasion as appropriate.\n\nYour question about curiosity reminded me immediately of Major Evans, who I was shadowing during a short tour with the Big Red One (lst Infantry in Fort Riley, KS).  Major Evans was a battalion operations officer, so was responsible for the training and  operational deployment of this armor unit.\n\nIn the field, Major Evans learned a great deal about what was going on during exercises by repeatedly employing one simple tactic:    We would drive up to a couple of tanks sitting somewhere, Major Evans would hop out and climb up on the tank.  He would then smile broadly and say \"Hi, how are you guys doing?\", followed by \"What are you all doing here?\" - all spoken in a \"just folks\", friendly, and open manner.\n\nThe man learned all kinds of things about how the exercise was really going by doing this versus the information gained through reading formal reports or talking only to the commanders, who were usually not the most objective folks on site.\n\nI took this learning with me into my civilian work and emulated Major Evans\' folksy and open approach, which has paid off nicely throughout the years.\n\nOne important thing:  This was not asking questions with an agenda or a certain answer in mind to hear.   Major Evans was the epitome of curiosity and simply followed up on whatever was said with more questions.\n\nOne example of curiosity possibly saving lives down the road, as opposed to killing cats:)\n\nAppreciate your contributions.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13766, 28871, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '173.174.200.45', '2016-01-16 11:35:58', '2016-01-16 16:35:58', 'Thanks, Mike. Good point about the cost of ignorance.  And, I\'m with you - I much prefer low-risk methods.  But, then again, sometimes high risk can be a whole lot more fun!\n\n- Alan', 0, '1', '', '', 13762, 323),
(13767, 28871, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '173.174.200.45', '2016-01-16 11:37:45', '2016-01-16 16:37:45', 'Thanks, Mary. I\'m so glad to still be here too!  It is a good thing I was fast enough to outrun those bees. :)', 0, '1', '', '', 13763, 323),
(13768, 28871, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '173.174.200.45', '2016-01-16 11:40:22', '2016-01-16 16:40:22', 'Thanks, Leigh. I just love discovering new things. And, imagine my delight when I learned  there was more to this phrase. Makes me wonder what other phrases we\'ve morphed over the years.  Something to look into, I suppose. :)', 0, '1', '', '', 13764, 323),
(13769, 28871, 'Alan Derek Utley', 'alanutley@me.com', 'http://www.alanderekutley.com', '173.174.200.45', '2016-01-16 11:42:02', '2016-01-16 16:42:02', 'Thanks, John. What a wonderful story about the live-saving benefits of curiosity. I really appreciate you sharing.\n\n- Alan', 0, '1', '', '', 13765, 323),
(13770, 28871, 'Barry', 'barry@freedtosoar.com', 'http://freedtosoar.com', '64.121.47.55', '2016-01-18 16:47:45', '2016-01-18 21:47:45', 'Hi,\n\nI envy your curiosity. I seem to be lacking in wanting to know how or where.\n\nGee, I wonder why that is? See what you have inspired?\n\nThanks\n\nBarry', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13771, 28910, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-12 14:14:40', '2016-01-12 19:14:40', 'Hi, Paula and Marcella:\n\nNo question to ask, but a response to some of the things I did not know about Marcella until I read this profile.\n\nFirst, your choice of books for others to read really resonated with me, since both the authors and those titles are among my most valued.  Hofstede\'s work is not often mentioned in the US-centric circles I run in, which is unfortunate.  His focus on cultural aspects of work and leadership should be required reading for us all.  Brown is simply a real powerhouse of energy around human interactions and a dynamite speaker.\n\nYour story about being authentic with angry employees shows clearly the humanity and caring that you bring to your work.  I was smiling as I read your statements about being in business work, but feeling somewhat out of fit because you were not there in sole pursuit of the almighty dollar/euro.   My impression of you from your other contributions online is that you understand both the realities of the workplace, but also the aspirational possibilities.\n\nI enjoy your contributions and look forward to the next post.  Shoot, I might even try to find a copy of your book and read it when I have some extra time ... before you write that next one:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13772, 28910, 'Margy KJ', 'Margy@weavinginfluence.com', '', '37.26.146.224', '2016-01-13 04:12:39', '2016-01-13 09:12:39', 'Great job on this post, Paula! I love how you crafted it. Marcella- it\'s great to learn more about you! I love your favorite quote AND that if money were not an object you would do the same thing you are doing now--that is definitely the career I strive to have, and it seems that you are certainly sharing your gifts with others! I\'m wondering, what caused you to take the shift from journalism to coaching/leadership?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13773, 28938, 'Duncan M.', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '95.76.171.184', '2016-01-19 12:41:46', '2016-01-19 17:41:46', 'Very interesting article Marcel! Leaders need to focus on the well-being of their employees in order to achieve the results they expect. If you don\'t only talk, but also lease, you can only ask for the best.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13774, 28938, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-23 09:46:39', '2016-01-23 14:46:39', 'Hi, Marcel - rich and in-depth post:)\n\nI particularly appreciate that you start by reinforcing the \"long haul\" nature of effective leadership.  Too many folks are selling short-cuts or magic bullets to instantly transform someone into a good leader ... and as you say, this takes much time and much work.\n\nAll three of your points today are excellent and well-stated.\n\nWith regard to number 3, I might add that this is a great question ... which the person asking cannot always answer about themselves.  This is why some turn to credible and trained professional coaches to help them address their own leadership persona.\n\nGreat stuff - looking forward to the next post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13775, 28938, 'Acton Ace', 'worldpatentmarketing23@gmail.com', 'http://mythreecents.com/reviews/world-patent-marketing', '43.231.58.182', '2017-01-29 10:40:50', '2017-01-29 15:40:50', 'I’m not on any board, but this article resonates with me on a very professional level given my eights years overseas with international development programs.  The disciplines set forth by the authors for a mindful board - leadership by the group,expanded consciousness, and fearless engagement – are especially important in my work because the international environment *demands it*.  This is a field of work that is hungry for a new outlook on leadership!', 0, '0', '', '', 0, 0),
(13776, 28984, 'Bill Coleman', 'Stretch@StiltWalker.com', 'http://www.stiltwalker.com/', '24.8.247.185', '2016-01-21 09:37:27', '2016-01-21 14:37:27', 'Let me add one more: acoustics. While the Eskimos may have 100 words for snow, we have only one word for deaf. Bad acoustics, or an over amped sound system will defeat the perfect message every time.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13777, 28984, 'Bob Farnam', 'rfarnam@ameren.com', '', '199.38.133.55', '2016-01-21 10:29:33', '2016-01-21 15:29:33', 'Thank you', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13778, 28984, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-21 11:30:08', '2016-01-21 16:30:08', 'Hi, David - excellent post:)\n\nI heartily endorse just about every single word of your thoughtful and valuable  observations ... I just wish we were not still having to concern ourselves with doing meetings better.  It seems this has been a topic throughout my professional life ... (Insert heavy sigh here).\n\nOne thing I might add, since I do not see it clearly stated anywhere is an assumption that flows throughout your thoughts:\n\nWhen you take the time to strategically plan a meeting by identifying clearly who is gathering and what they are to do, you need to clearly communicate that IN ADVANCE so people can prepare.\n\nI have heard the idea that a best meeting practice is to have a one-page agenda.  I respectfully disagree a tad.\n\nThe agenda, published well in advance of the meeting date, should contain the information needed for the person to come ready to contribute.   I think agendas should include:\n\n1)  Who is coming, and if necessary, their title and function.\n\n2)  The Bottom Line purpose of the meeting (as you say deciding to do something and deciding how to do that something are two very different discussions).\n\n3)  The specific expectations for participants regarding each activity of the meeting.\n\n4)  Any pertinent information that participants should have that is not within their ability to find out themselves.  If you do expect people to come prepared, help them by telling them what you expect them to know and share.\n\nI still attend meetings where an agenda with topics is handed out, often at the meeting, which makes it useful only as a Tick List to tell me how much more we have to go before I can leave.\n\nWhen people know clearly beforehand what is to be done at the meeting, they have the opportunity to prepare to do exactly that.  Otherwise, we are just guessing at what we are supposed to do.\n\nThanks for sparking my thinking this chilly morning:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13779, 28984, 'Mary Kelly', 'Mary@Productiveleaders.com', 'http://www.ProductiveLeaders.com', '140.32.16.52', '2016-01-21 14:30:18', '2016-01-21 19:30:18', 'Great article by David Dye!\n\nI have his book, The Seven Things Your Team Needs to Hear.  It is one of the best business books EVER!\n\nI read everything David writes.  Always great content and helpful information.\n\nAwesome article.  Love the zombie analogy.\n\nWarmly,\nMary Kelly\nwww.ProductiveLEaders.com', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13780, 28984, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '166.255.35.31', '2016-01-21 17:51:34', '2016-01-21 22:51:34', 'John, what great points!\n\nYes, I fully agree: if a meeting requires input and discussion (and most of them should), get everyone the information they need in order to make the most productive contribution - and expect everyone to honor each other\'s time and commitments by coming prepared to engage well.\n\nRegarding the ongoing quest to \"do meetings better\" - I look at it a bit like parenting. While we\'ve been having and raising children forever, each generation must learn how to do it well. Mix in changing context (eg: touch screens) and we\'ll never fully master the subject. Leadership and management skills are very similar - Only a very small minority of frontline and middle level managers who are given the skills they need to be effective.\n\nAddressing that need is my passion - thank goodness for Lead Change Group and all the other folks out there like you who are helping people get the tools they need to be effective!', 0, '1', '', '', 13778, 307),
(13781, 28984, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '166.255.35.31', '2016-01-21 18:02:40', '2016-01-21 23:02:40', 'When I\'m in a meeting with a microphone, the sound person becomes my best friend. Coffee, chocolate, whatever it takes!', 0, '1', '', '', 13776, 307),
(13782, 28984, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '166.255.35.31', '2016-01-21 18:02:57', '2016-01-21 23:02:57', 'You\'re welcome - I\'m glad it was helpful!', 0, '1', '', '', 13777, 307),
(13783, 28984, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2016-01-22 00:14:13', '2016-01-22 05:14:13', 'Mary, thank you for those kind words. Everything\'s better with zombies!', 0, '1', '', '', 13779, 307),
(13784, 28984, 'Peter Tietjen', 'ptietjen@ifes.org', '', '38.100.25.196', '2016-02-11 13:47:50', '2016-02-11 18:47:50', 'At my organization, no matter how carefully you might curate and select a list of attendees, one or more of them will decide to forward the electronic invitation to one or more other people, just \"FYI\".  Those people then deem it important for them to be part of the discussion and decision and attend the meeting.  The next thing you know, a 6 person meeting becomes a dozen or more.\n\nDespite telling people not to do this many time, the practice continues.\n\nAm I the only one to experience this phenomenon?\n\n(Sorry, no zombies... :-))', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13785, 28999, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-23 11:51:50', '2016-01-23 16:51:50', 'Hi, Marcel - thanks for two more powerful observations.\n\nI would nominate the trait of Honesty as most essential for leadership success, for several reasons.\n\nFirst, Honesty is required both for self-knowledge and awareness of others.  If you would truly know yourself, as you advise above, you have to be willing to be way more honest than most of us would probably choose to be about our own motivations and actions.\n\nSecond, Honesty generally improves all leadership behavior and thought, when mixed with compassion and emotional intelligence.  The ability to .appraise a situation, consider alternatives, and choose an effective path forward requires that level of honesty.   Hard situations are seldom improved by any level of dishonesty, whether as fluffy as sugarcoating bad news or as devastating as intentionally withholding or actively revising really bad news.\n\nThanks for both parts of this series ... much to consider and appreciate:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13786, 29047, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '69.137.143.228', '2016-01-26 10:38:45', '2016-01-26 15:38:45', 'Hollis, thank you so much for writing this. I relate. It\'s so good to hear from someone who articulates it like I experience it.\n\nI know this attribute has impacted my career. Struggling with \"I don\'t know why they don\'t get it.\"\n\nI\'ve been working at spreading the message that treating people like human beings at work is not only the right thing to do, but is good business for more than 15 years. People think they get what I\'m talking about, but not precisely. This year I\'m happy to see there\'s conference titled \"WorkHuman\" being held. At the same time, there\'s a little voice in me whispering, \"Why was I unable to ignite this flame?\" I relate to everything on your list of \"why even try,\" and yet something internal compels me to continue.\n\nYour post reminded me of a post by Seth Godin. He tells a story which concludes with, \"Before a marketer or organization can sell something that works in the future, she must sell the market on the very notion that the future matters.\" I will keep adjusting to sell that \"the future matters.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13787, 29047, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2016-01-26 11:29:41', '2016-01-26 16:29:41', 'Hi, Hollis - excellent post on a fascinating issue.\n\nI am not necessarily an early adopter or innovator, but I try to recognize smart ideas when other people come up with them.   My frustration is similar to Mary\'s, in that it seems that in the field of leadership and leadership development, we know what is more effective, but the change in thinking and approach tends to stretch out interminably.\n\nThis creates career issues for those of us who lack patience and desire to live and work in the world we can see clearly in our heads and experience in a few actual places.\n\nBottom Line question:  Why don\'t more people support innovation and positive change?\n\nMy thought:  This is not just about accepting an idea, concept, process, or product.\nIt\'s about change on a very broad basis and this is scary for many people, although they might to reluctant to admit that.\n\nChange brings promises, but no guarantees, requiring a risky leap of faith.\n\nWorst of all, successful change might mean that people have to actually step up and work better, in the absence of some or all of the barriers you described.   Sometimes it seems easier to complain, as we all continue to plod in place or tread water.\n\nYour list of barriers is great and I cannot think of much to add, other than my above comment.\n\nThanks for a thoughtful and useful post.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13788, 29047, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '73.13.204.222', '2016-01-26 12:46:58', '2016-01-26 17:46:58', 'Hi John. Can you claim the role of \"visionary\" if not \"early innovator?\" You speak like you are one or the other or both!\n\nCalling out a colleague to claim his space,\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 13787, 252);
