Hi, Mike:)

You had me immediately with all the passive voice statements, where the responsibility for actions, feelings, and such are thrown "out there somewhere".

I like the idea of considering our behaviors as "second reactions", which forces us to acknowledge that something comes before our behavior or emotion, and recognizing that is important.

Equally important in my mind is owning our behavior and emotions.  Someone else may really make you want to act or feel in a certain way, but you always have a choice.        The continuing popularity of Viktor Frankl's ideas reinforces the value of this notion:)

Nice and useful post - thanks!

John