Thank you for replying.  I will continue to take the high road.  Betterment and elevated focus work well together.  Thanks also for recommending the women's rivalry book.  I will pick it up this week.  My dad used to always say that guys were team oriented because of sports and that girls were always striving for that Number #1 spot.  He told my 2 sisters and I to look at life and television (Top Model, Trump's show, and Lifetime- '???') to get his point...  Thanks again for introducing this topic along with solutions.  (P.S.  Mail was transposed with male in my post.  Proofreading... :-))