Jane, first, thank you for offering this great activity to get in touch with our values, how we intend to play them out, and reflect on how we actually do.

Dare I say it, I'm not so sure I see a big disparity between your stated values and substantiated values. I read: "Work diligently every day. Act with integrity. Time with Family. Be a friend. Do what you say you will," and see those reflected in your comments on your calendar notes.

In training I have conducted we talk about the difference between values and aspirations. You are making me wonder if our values own us. We can't help but express them. That is clear to me from the stories and experiences you share in this post, and from my own experience.

I can see how comparing myself to my aspirations might be disappointing. I know when my clients have a hard time operationalizing their aspirations into values - we may need to rethink them. Not that we shouldn't have aspirations.

I like your final advice: "...give yourself an honest assessment of how you have served others and made a difference because you poured into them from your values-rich foundation." This can be an encouraging and nourishing activity. Thank you.