I love the contradiction! In fact, you have provided further evidence of how "competency models" of leadership and leadership development are so misguided. Ask successful leaders to list characteristics and qualities of leadership and you very often end up with contradictory competencies on the list, such as having control and creating independence.  It's because different styles of leadership - different profiles of leadership - are not only effective in different contexts, different leadership approaches can be effective in the very same contexts.

On a completely different note, by the way, there are many examples of highly effective "command and control" leaders, particularly in military and public safety organizations.  There is nothing inherently wrong with "command and control" in appropriate situations and given those aren't the only defining qualities of the leader's style and approach.  Teri appropriately qualifies ineffective leadership as "dictatorial command and control", another style altogether that doesn't even work in military-style organizations.

As for leaders who coach - right on all the way, Teri. "‘Leaders who coach’ balance their concern with people performance with the goals of the company."  And everyone has the potential to become a leader who coaches. The best way may be to have a coach themselves.