I've seen the kind of lady you wrote about Jane and believe it or not, there are men out there who do the same! They usually have a self-esteem issue somewhere.

In a speed networking situation, it is difficult to break the barrier and get to know the real person behind the facade. However, if there is a space of even a minute to actually talk to the person, one can actually break the barrier and know the person. I've tried it and often been surprised to find warmth and intelligence. Then again, I've had to count to ten and run away wondering why did I bother?

I do of course prefer substance and integrity and try to inculcate those qualities in myself. It helps bring out the inner radiance of others with whom I interact.