Lisa, self-care is survival.  For people who consistently pour into others, they will be physically, emotionally,  and spiritually starved if they don't do something to replenish.

You are wise. You advised us to make a list of things we like to do to refuel and energize. Sometimes I forget what does that for me when I've come to the end of my stored resources.  A list of ideas would help me choose wisely what to do to fill up my soul.