I'm a retired defense engineer still active in my professional organization and learning as much as I can about personal development so I can pass it on to younger professionals. Your statement in the first paragraph that "Our brain doesn't develop neuropathways at the flip of a switch." should be framed. I've understood that for a long time, but this is the first time I've seen someone say it. We are all displaying what's inside of us, good or bad, and its the internal wiring that we need to change if we want to be more effective. Understanding oneself, deciding what needs to be changed, and working at it until the changed thinking or behavior becomes habit is the process one has to go through. At least that's what I've concluded.