Enjoyed your post Mike and I agree that love is a verb and that much of what we ascribe to love is really what "fairy tales" were made of.  I also have found that self love/acceptance/compassion has made it much easier for me to have compassion for others so that I can offer constructive support - love - without judging them.  I also know that in addition perhaps to laziness, that many times we don't hold people accountable because we ourselves are afraid of their rejection.  It takes real courage to practice "love leadership" - and courage is of the heart.  So, as we treat ourselves with respect, compassion and love we are better equipped to have the confidence and courage to support others - whether our attempts are rejected or not.  Though, I must add that most people, when they feel your authenticity and sense you are coming from their best interest and they've seen you walk the talk, they are much more receptive to being called on their accountability issues.  In other words, relationship is key and we are all growing from our relationships with others.