Hi Mike,

I've been taught that core values don't change unless something really big (usually traumatic) forces us to re-examine our beliefs. We modify our behavior as needed to disguise values that get in the way of accomplishing our goals but our values remain unchanged.

You point out that we can change our values if something becomes important enough that we are willing to overcome our natural resistance to change.

I'm wondering, using your example, does a people-pleaser ever stop being a pleaser at heart after the behavior has been modified or is it something we're stuck with, the thorn in our side?

Doug

PS: Coincidentally, I'm working on a new blog post about core values in the context of strategic planning.  You've added another dimension to my thinking and much food for thought.
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