Thank you for your comment, Jodi.  Fearful leaders lead with fear.  And, their way of hiding their fear is often with anger and control.  Authority is the last resort of the frustrated and angry.  When leaders (or parents) resort to "because I said so" or "my way or the highway" it generally means they have long lost their ability to influence.  Unfortunately, they only get compliance, not commitment; movement, not motivation.  Keep the faith.  There are great leaders out there with the confidence and compassion to lead with heart!