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(8414, 4855, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '24.127.150.159', '2011-04-20 19:52:07', '2011-04-21 00:52:07', 'Deb, it IS easy for people to dismiss resistance as foolish - at best, annoying, or even punishable at worst. Oh if we could all cultivate a little more compassion. Thanks for the feedback.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(8415, 4863, 'Dean', 'Dean@Clevett.net', '', '74.198.9.202', '2011-04-23 07:31:30', '2011-04-23 12:31:30', 'Great post.  I would only change one thing about it.  Instead of saying \"They truly care about their constituents.\" , I would suggest that they \"truly care about their\" stakeholders.  I believe that better represents the larger worldview that is characteristic of an authentic leader.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8416, 4863, 'Gil Pizano', 'gpizano@yahoo.com', 'http://helpfulinsightsonline.com', '71.235.53.68', '2011-04-24 21:28:17', '2011-04-25 02:28:17', 'Very good post with down to Earth wisdom for those who wish to have it. Thanks for taking the time to write it!\n\nI agree that the time for \"Authentic Leadership\" is now (as though it wasn\'t before :)  ) more than ever. Too many people in leadership positions in business and society are forgeting some of the basics of leadership and that is very dangerous. Especially to the organization those people may be part of. Why? Because with social media, and the means of communication today being so much easier than ever before in history, what a person in a leadership position does or doesn\'t do can be shared by others in a matter of moments. If a leader makes a good choice, that person\'s supporters can share it with many people quickly if they want to. If a leader makes a poor choice, that person\'s enemies will communicate it just as easily. People in leadership positions are more transparent today whether they want to be or not so authentic leadership is truly needed now more than ever!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8417, 4863, 'Guy Farmer', 'relguy@ymail.com', 'http://www.guyfarmer.com', '69.227.142.139', '2011-04-25 14:03:07', '2011-04-25 19:03:07', 'Great post Will.  I\'m reminded of how much power leaders have to practice any leadership style they choose and create any kind of organization they wish.  I\'ve found it helpful to be a whole person first and help other do the same in order to create happy workplaces.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8418, 4863, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/willlukang/', '69.125.141.196', '2011-04-26 22:15:39', '2011-04-27 03:15:39', 'Hi Dean,\n\nI agree with you that stakeholder is the proper word to use in this situation.\n\nRegards,\n\nWill Lukang', 0, '1', '', '', 8415, 276),
(8419, 4863, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/willlukang/', '69.125.141.196', '2011-04-26 22:21:17', '2011-04-27 03:21:17', 'Social media provides an instantaneous way of connecting with your audience.  It enable us connect and engage the people whom we like to establish a relationship.', 0, '1', '', '', 8416, 276),
(8420, 4863, 'James Ginther', 'mrgoodsheet@hotmail.com', '', '69.31.160.90', '2011-04-27 21:37:29', '2011-04-28 02:37:29', 'The  qualities you describe as great leadership could be seen to directly parallel the qualities of a great coach or teacher as described in The Talent Code; soft spoken, a great communicator, with an intimate knowledge of the steps to be performed, establishing trust by the constancy of their message, which starts with their love for the thing taught and the character of the teacher.\n\nA leader has the additional role of understanding any great endeavor is the leveraged efforts of a team, each member bringing their own skill set and understanding of the direction of the organization.\n\nJames\n\n\"The leading of the many is like the leading of the few, it is a matter of planning the divisions.\" Sun Tzu', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8421, 4863, 'William Seidman', 'william.seidman@cerebyte.com', '', '98.246.36.97', '2011-05-14 19:57:16', '2011-05-15 00:57:16', 'This post really got me thinking about the meaning of authenticity.\n\nWhile I agree that authenticity is a key element of leadership, I don\'t think that it implies either caring or integrity. Take the Wall Street CEOs who almost bankrupted the world. I am sure that they authentically cared about their employees (who made lots of money) and their shareholders (who also made lots of money). While it is clear that Goldman Sachs systematically abused their customers, I would suspect that the GS leadership genuinely felt it was their right to do whatever it took to make a lot of money. The concept of authenticity does not imply anything about the social good, only that someone is genuine. In that sense someone can be authentic even if they are a jerk as long as they are a genuine jerk.\n\nJust to give this more perspective though, a short while ago, I was asked to work with the Japanese team of a multi-national company to create a leadership development program that would be proliferated globally if it worked in Japan. To do this, we assembled 8 positive deviant Japanese leaders and conducted a 3 day workshop that produced a set of best practices on how to be a great leader in their organization and a learning program for becoming a great leader. Authenticity was a critical part of both the best practices and the development program. They felt very strongly that a great leader had to be authentic.\n\nHowever, we immediately ran into 3 problems:\n\n1. The Japanese have many words for authenticity that do not have American English equivalents. The Japanese have a much more complete and nuanced perspective on authenticity than Americans, and it was reflected in the language and to a degree in the culture.\n2. The Japanese had some specific ideas on how you could guide someone to be authentic that were also a little different from US approaches. Specifically, the Japanese recommended that all prospective leaders spend several days meditating in a Budhist Temple. Their view was that self-reflection was the road to authenticity and meditation is great self-reflection.\n3. Given the first two issues, it was very unlikely that the program, which was tremendously successful for the Japanese management team, could transfer to the US. Can you imagine US CEOs giving their teams 2-3 days to go meditate (and the reaction of the teams to the request)? It just wasn\'t going to happen.\n\nSo we ended up creating a separate leadership development program for the US, which was also quite succesful, but it only briefly touched on authenticity. Overtime, we did many such programs in the US and the results were always similar.\n\nThe conclusion of all of the work is that authenticity is actually critical for effective leaderhip, but in US corporations, authenticity does not mean there is caring and integrity too. For most organizations, it is just luck if their leadership has even one of these attributes, much less all three.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8422, 4872, 'Jean Latting', 'jeanlatting@leadingconsciously.com', 'http://jeanlattingblog.leadingconsciously.com', '99.13.212.128', '2011-04-20 16:09:44', '2011-04-20 21:09:44', 'I find: \"I believe I would have to become “meaner” to be more Requiring and that would be very uncomfortable.” also to be the case that lots of managers falsely believe in. I also like you\'re explanation of nice vs mean. Great point.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8423, 4872, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-04-21 05:10:07', '2011-04-21 10:10:07', 'Pete, thanks for a great post.  Your perspective lines up with mine 100%!  The least-nice thing any manager can do is allow their team to under-perform their potential.  It\'s not fair to the high-achieving people.  Every manager needs to decide who will approve of their performance.  If you want mediocre performers to approve of you as a manager, you\'re playing to the wrong audience!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(8424, 4872, 'Kevin Owens', 'kevinowens44@gmail.com', '', '66.104.152.10', '2011-04-21 07:00:08', '2011-04-21 12:00:08', 'This post brings excellent perspective to what is obviously a widespread challenge many managers face. I am presently coaching a manager who has taken the pendulum so far to the relating side that she has begun making excuses for the substandard performance of team members from which she has failed to require better results. I will be sharing this post with her today. Thanks for a great post.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8425, 4872, 'Peter E. Friedes', 'pfriedes@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/petefriedes/', '68.175.120.48', '2011-04-22 07:35:09', '2011-04-22 12:35:09', 'Thanks, Jean, Mike and Kevin. I have not thought about the concept of thinking about which employees you are trying to please as a manager, but the idea of playing to the best performers is an interesting idea. That would suggest that when getting employee input, it would be nice, but probably impossible, to get input from the best performers. We routinely get input from all employees working for the manager.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 277),
(8426, 4872, 'John Ikeda', 'john@leadwithhonor.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jtikeda/', '199.164.58.10', '2011-04-22 12:21:19', '2011-04-22 17:21:19', 'Hi Peter. Great post! I have often been described as \"the nicest person I\'ve met\", and sometimes struggle with holding others accountable. Knowing this is a challenge for me, I continuously strive to focus on requirements. On the flip side, my patience with people has allowed me to \"salvage\" a handful of employees over the years. I\'ve been successful where others that are more \"Requiring\" have failed. I\'m curious, of the Requirers, how many under Relate?\n\nThanks for the post!\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 264),
(8427, 17895, 'Connie McKnight', 'connie@conniemcknight.com', 'http://conniemcknight.com', '70.65.169.59', '2011-04-04 16:19:09', '2011-04-04 21:19:09', 'Wonderful post Georgia.\nI couldn\'t agree more. The best leaders are authentic, have strong values, and lead with integrity.\n\nI am a Canadian and we are about to have the 3rd federal election in 4 years. Because the current government failed to get a majority, the opposition leaders keep finding ways to call for another election. They are not acting out of integrity, they are totally egotistic and simply want to be Prime Minister themselves. Their actions have not gained my trust and I know they are not spending millions of dollars for my good.\n\nThank you so much for expressing my feelings in such beautiful words.\n\nConnie', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8428, 17895, 'Georgia Feiste', 'Georgia@Collaborativetransitions.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/gfeiste/', '71.31.210.224', '2011-04-04 17:01:43', '2011-04-04 22:01:43', 'Connie, thank you for your comment.  It is disheartening when people we most want to trust show us that they are not leading from their heart and for the greater good.  I hope your country settles down politically, as I hope ours does.  We are headed for some rough seas if they do not.\n\nTake care!\n\nGeorgia', 0, '1', '', '', 8427, 266),
(8429, 17895, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '166.187.185.222', '2011-04-04 19:27:21', '2011-04-05 00:27:21', 'Georgia,\nIt is my hope and wish for all of us that this conversation occurs in organizations around the world. We are witnessing a slow, awakening understanding that the \"gulf,\" as you mention, between leaders and employees is not good business.  In fact it has helped dismantle quality businesses.\n\nGreat insights. Fantastic message.\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8430, 17895, 'Stephan De Villiers', 'stephan@incrementalsuccess.org', 'http://www.incrementalsuccess.org', '196.210.211.230', '2011-04-05 08:44:54', '2011-04-05 13:44:54', 'You are quite correct about the inward analysis being painful.  I believe however that the extent to which a Leader is prepared do this analysis is a measure of the Leader’s maturity.  Looking honestly at your motives will put you well along the path from Greed to Generosity', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8431, 17895, 'Georgia Feiste', 'Georgia@Collaborativetransitions.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/gfeiste/', '71.31.221.171', '2011-04-05 14:32:36', '2011-04-05 19:32:36', 'Ah, yes, things are changing slowly.  I think one of the things I am meant to learn in my lifetime is patience.  They can\'t change quickly enough, for me.  Thanks for the encouragement.  I\'ll keep working on it!\n\nGeorgia', 0, '1', '', '', 8429, 266),
(8432, 17895, 'Georgia Feiste', 'Georgia@Collaborativetransitions.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/gfeiste/', '71.31.221.171', '2011-04-05 14:35:43', '2011-04-05 19:35:43', 'Stephan - I like your statement that the willingness to do the inward analysis is a measure of the Leader\'s maturity.  I could agree with you more.  Integrity is so important, and we can\'t attain that without being willing to look at who we are.\n\nGeorgia', 0, '1', '', '', 8430, 266),
(8433, 17895, 'Heidi', 'hgarrett@atlasmassageservice.com', 'http://www.atlasmassageservice.com', '174.47.41.206', '2011-04-07 13:01:19', '2011-04-07 18:01:19', 'Doesn\'t all leadership start with leading one\'s self? For me, that is where leaderships starts. I cannot, in good faith or integrity, ask anything of another that I am not already doing for myself. Yes, that does mean the introspective as well as they physical actions required in any task and obligation that must be done.\n\nI recently heard from a speaker say, \"I\'d rather see a sermon that hear one any day.\" It is our actions and behavior that determine the mark of a true leader. If we\'re doing the right things consistently, others will take notice and follow.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8434, 17901, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '76.26.161.97', '2011-04-08 11:14:43', '2011-04-08 16:14:43', 'As you point out Lisa trust and values are inextricably linked.  And unless we consciously explore our values and beliefs with others we are left to develop trust based on a feeling we can\'t quite put our finger on rather than having access to building (and repairing) trust mindfully.  I think we also have to allow for a diversity of values among the people who work with and for us.\n\nWe tend to be drawn and more naturally trust people who have the same values as we do and surround ourselves with those people.  This opens us up to perceptual blindness which can inhibit our ability to communicate effectively with a broader audience as well as make good decisions for the whole.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8435, 17901, 'Deb Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '138.210.92.134', '2011-04-08 12:44:53', '2011-04-08 17:44:53', 'Lisa,\n\nI could not agree more about the relationship between values and trust.  I think most people have values, but sometimes don\'t take the time to both define what they are clearly and then apply them in our daily lives.  For example, I bet that most people think that compassion is a good thing.  But it is not always a core value, a guiding principle in a person\'s life.  If we don\'t actually define it as such for ourselves, then when faced with a decision in which we could act with compassion or not, we might not.  We have to really DEFINE our values first and then APPLY them consistently.  When we do so, our behavior is consistent and fair and the trust that follows in inevitable.\n\nThank you for reminding me of this important idea.\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8436, 17901, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisa_mengpd@comcast.net', 'http://www.LisaPetrilli.com', '98.222.78.7', '2011-04-08 13:05:58', '2011-04-08 18:05:58', 'Susan,\n\nBeautifully said.  I think what you are ultimately getting at is how critical it is for a leader to genuinely know their team, and for them to be open to having a diverse team with diverse values and thus diverse perspectives from which the team may learn and grow.\n\nThank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts - I sincerely appreciate it!', 0, '1', '', '', 8434, 0),
(8437, 17901, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisa_mengpd@comcast.net', 'http://www.LisaPetrilli.com', '98.222.78.7', '2011-04-08 13:08:58', '2011-04-08 18:08:58', 'Deb,\n\nI appreciate how you really lay out for the readers how to truly execute this idea in their companies - thank you so much for that.  I agree with you, we must not just have words but a deep understanding of what they mean and what they look like in action as our first step to seeing them brought to reality on a daily base in our organizations.\n\nI genuinely appreciate your insights, Deb.  Thank you for taking the time to read and to share.  All the best!', 0, '1', '', '', 8435, 0),
(8438, 17901, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-04-13 09:17:45', '2011-04-13 14:17:45', 'Lisa, I love this line in your post!  \"What you really believe in is the heart – the North Star – of your larger vision.\"\n\nA friend of mine included something he called \"A Stand\" in his business plan.  When I asked about it, he emphasized how important it was to him that he had articulated to himself and his employees what they stood for, before they were put in a position that may cause any of them to make inappropriate choices.  The things he chose to list in \"The Stand\" were not the run of the mill \"values list\" that is printed and placed on a wall to collect dust.  They were uncommon, &amp; well-thought out.  They made a huge difference in creating a very special culture for his organization, and greatly impacted my own business planning.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 270),
(8439, 17901, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisa_mengpd@comcast.net', 'http://www.LisaPetrilli.com', '98.222.78.7', '2011-04-16 15:01:59', '2011-04-16 20:01:59', 'Chery,\n\nI absolutely love this idea!  What resonated with me was your description of what went in the stand as \"uncommon\" and well thought out.  I can imagine that in order to help the individuals within the organization make appropriate decisions that it was written in language that was easy to understand and implement, rather than the lofty language of those often-dusty lists. :)\n\nThank you so much for sharing your experience with me and the readers, Chery - it is most sincerely appreciated!', 0, '1', '', '', 8438, 0),
(8440, 17902, 'Rich Landosky', 'rich.landosky@auc.org', 'http://www.leadership101.wordpress.com', '173.161.168.13', '2011-04-05 09:12:24', '2011-04-05 14:12:24', 'I think you nail it on this issue of culture change.  The next article, however, is how to go about making the change. Yup - gotta give it priority and time, but what are the steps to begin making that change? The reality, as Mark Twain so eloquently put it, is that \"no one likes change except a wet baby.\"  Yet, there is not growth without change.  So how does the leader go about changing their culture?\n\nI also think its important to note that changing a culture looks similar but vastly different in different contexts. For instance, in my context which is the local church, there are few employees (we\'ve got 4 FT pastors, 1 PT pastor, 2 PT secretaries, 1 PT Office Mgr, and some maintenance guys). The rest are all volunteers.  Elders, Trustees, youth workers, childrens\' workers, Sunday School teachers, greeters, parking lot guys, etc.  All volunteering their time.  Then there are the people who sit in the pew each week. Many are there because they were drawn by the particular culture of the church. Start changing that culture and things gets really messy and complicated. People don\'t have to stay. There\'s no paycheck to keep them there.  Or, they grew up here and changing the culture is akin to re-writing the Bible to them.  Some of the same issues but still very different.\n\nI think step one for the leader in changing culture is to remember what John Maxwell has stated a million times: \"Leadership is influence.\"  And influence happens one person at a time by spending time.\n\nI think it\'d be fun to start a conversation on what the \"next steps\" are in changing culture.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8441, 17902, 'Deb Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '138.210.92.134', '2011-04-05 10:39:59', '2011-04-05 15:39:59', 'John,\n\nI like this post because it illustrates an important point about leadership.  I think that leaders are often great at creating a vision or a plan and then delegating the components to others with the expectation that when all the moving parts are finished, the overall vision will be implemented. (i.e.  Let\'s cut our budget by 5% this year.  Work with your teams to do this and report back.)    I think the kind of culture change you are advocating requires more than delegation.  If you want to create a collaborative, compassionate culture, I don\'t think you can delegate this from behind your desk.  You actually have to live the vision, to BE this change.  This idea flies in the face of our traditional view of leadership as an elevated position in which others have limited or no access.\n\nPerhaps this starts to address Rich\'s comment above as well.  HOW do we create culture change?\n\nThank you for the thought-provoking post John.\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8442, 17902, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '65.8.179.56', '2011-04-05 11:47:14', '2011-04-05 16:47:14', 'Wise words John.  As a consultant getting the key leaders to embrace what you say here is the essential first hurdle.  Until they get that change is real work that must be tended to daily there will be no meaningful change.  In fact the consequence of not following your advice has even  worse consequences - a promise to change that is not backed up by sincere and repeated action create more skepticism, resignation and cynicism than ever before.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8443, 17902, 'Lolly Daskal', 'lollydaskal@mac.com', 'http://www.lollydaskal.com', '68.173.55.7', '2011-04-05 12:29:54', '2011-04-05 17:29:54', 'John\n\nWhat a brilliant post.  You have touched on some very important aspects concepts that I admire!\n\nLetting go of previous boundaries, transforming competition into compassion and cooperation, and supporting the unlimited growth and change of the individual may be some of the greatest challenges that face the business world.\n\nNew attitude. Promise of change is not enough. We must take the actions to create the change and learn from each other how to make our world a better place.\n\nThere is a paradigm shift in our culture.\n\nAre we ready to embracing it or not?\n\nAre we ready within our organizations to promote integrity, creativity, trust and cooperation.\nAre we ready to reduce the bureaucracy within large organizations - beyond the concept of \"trust is good control is better?\"\nAre we ready to promote values that foster life balance support?\nAre we ready to to accept that we are spiritual beings and the more we deny that the harder we fail?\nAre we ready to understand that this process is never ending?\nAre we ready to be ultimately responsible for ourselves?\nAre we ready to lead from within - so it can shape ourselves and our life.\n\nAs you can see John, your post has brought out some deeper questioning and thoughtful exploration.\nThanks for sharing.\nLolly', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8444, 17902, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '166.187.119.12', '2011-04-05 12:48:11', '2011-04-05 17:48:11', 'Hi John,\nSo many of us who do this work have broken our arms, bruised our knees, blackened both eyes metaphorically speaking.  As you said, culture change is disruptive.  It becomes a contact sport, just no tackles.  You do a good job explaining just how culture change is a contact sport.  And since we\'re running with the sports themes, the patience you advocate is key to winning the game. You run plays, see how it goes, and readjust as needed. Changing the context in which people do their work is no different.\n\nThanks, John, for keeping this important topic in our conversations.\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8445, 17902, 'John Howard Hatfield', 'johnhowardh@yahoo.com', 'http://whathowardsaidtoday.blogspot.com/', '173.174.86.166', '2011-04-05 14:34:19', '2011-04-05 19:34:19', 'Culture change has to be daily. It can not be weekly. A leader has to be in touch with the employee base close to constantly. I found this to be a much easier task during my tenure in the Army, as you might imagine. I also found that my military background (closeness of the group) to be of extreme value when I started working once again in the civilian world.\n\nMy first position entailed a complete culture change and a significant overhaul of the training base. The management team that hired me did so largely due to my military experience. I soon found that they were just as clueless as the team I had been hired to take over. The entire organization was in need of a culture change and a military approach was not close or even appropriate for the situation at hand.\n\nAs an outsider coming in to attempt “culture change,” the task is several levels of magnitude more difficult than an insider, with influence of course, taking on a project of this nature. This is the situation I found upon arrival.\n\nJohn, as you mentioned, the process of change wasn’t exactly overnight but did not take very long in the grand scheme. Team members soon discovered the benefits of the new direction and became champions of the process very quickly. Falling backwards was a considerable problem early-on and required multiple “let’s-stop-and-discuss-the-situation” type meetings, but soon the backward trend was just a memory.\n\nAs a matter of fact, I just recently posted (http://whathowardsaidtoday.blogspot.com/) a short discussion recounting a very similar “change” I experienced early in my career.\n\nGood posting and discussion.\n\nJohn Howard Hatfield', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8446, 17903, 'Living the Balanced Life', 'bernicemwood@gmail.com', 'http://livingthebalancedlife.com', '98.88.198.107', '2011-04-14 22:50:36', '2011-04-15 03:50:36', 'Awesome Max!\nYou did the most important even though it may not have been the most urgent at the time. You did what so many have not done, you defined your priorities and are choosing to live by them. Good for you!\nBernice', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8447, 17904, 'Dan Rockwell', 'dan@leadershipfreak.com', 'http://leadershipfreak.wordpress.com/2010/12/02/withhold-i-say-you-2/', '64.134.66.47', '2011-04-25 08:01:30', '2011-04-25 13:01:30', 'Hi Susan,\n\nThanks for your post.\n\nI suggest we can encourage collaboration is by rewarding collaboration. Most reward systems are designed to point out individuals rather than teams.\n\nThe on going struggles include inclinations for some to let others do the work and group think. The only way to address these issues is facing them head on. In this case Collaboration takes intentional, highly focused training, courage, direction, and support from the entire organization.\n\nBest Regards,\n\nDan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8448, 17904, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '76.26.161.97', '2011-04-25 10:16:55', '2011-04-25 15:16:55', 'Thanks for your comment Dan.  I agree that rewards are key.  Yet I also think we need to look beyond purely extrinsic rewards and find ways to tell the stories that bring to life the more intrinsic rewards of collaboration so people begin to naturally seek opportunities to collaborate.\n\nI\'ve seen quite a few people raise their hand to be on a special project team because it was believed to be good for their career, not because they had any interest in being part of the team or in collaborating with others.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8449, 17904, 'Redge', 'Redge@Versalytics.com', 'http://www.versalytics.com', '76.65.225.85', '2011-04-25 11:28:34', '2011-04-25 16:28:34', 'I agree that collaboration will prevail. Your post addresses teams and internal \"collaboration\", however, I think we need to look beyond the walls of the organization as well.\n\nI think opportunities exist for companies / corporations to collaborate as many have established their respective niches that can contribute to the overall success of a larger, more complex, project.  I think of the Canadian Robotic Arm used on the Shuttle missions, Intel computer chips, automotive suppliers and so on.\n\nAlthough some of these relationships are strictly buyer-seller oriented, others are not.  When I take a look at some online communities such as Daily Dose of Excel, individuals from \"competing\" and independent businesses openly share thoughts, ideas, and programming code to advance the cause of all - including their readers.\n\nI can certainly appreciate the concerns that may exist with current reward systems and agree that must be addressed.  However, I think these are easily resolved in the greater scheme of things.\n\nOne of the traits that drives the success and resilience of Toyota is the focus on a greater vision that unites the team to a common cause and beyond the realm of personal gain.  Perhaps the military serves as a good example of winning the war while recognizing individual effort as well.\n\nGreat post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8450, 17904, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '76.26.161.97', '2011-04-25 14:16:24', '2011-04-25 19:16:24', 'Thanks for expanding the conversation Redge to outside the corporate walls.  I absolutely agree the conversation is much bigger and I appreciate you providing such great examples.\n\nAlthough I am not so sure the barriers to collaboration are as you put it \"easily resolved in the greater scheme of things\".  Unless of course you mean by greater scheme of things that those who truly embrace collaboration will be much more likely to succeed.  Time will tell.  Old contexts tend to die hard and require mindful and persistent intervention to change.\n\nYou also have me wondering whether the barriers to internal collaboration that are pointed to here are as strongly rooted in other kinds of collaborations?  Thanks for the food for thought!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8451, 17904, 'Ben Ziegler', 'ben@collaborativejourneys.com', 'http://www.collaborativejourneys.com', '24.69.74.184', '2011-04-25 17:29:59', '2011-04-25 22:29:59', 'Nice post Susan &amp; follow-on discussion.  To answer your question re: paradox of individual vs. collective rewards... From a WIFM perspective, we all want to be recognized for our contributions.  Yet, an even more basic need is one of belonging.  If leaders tell more stories that honor the value of the team, that is one way to nurture an organizational culture of collaboration. Its through that shared culture, individuals will more readily show humility re: their own accomplishments, and acknowledge the team angle.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8452, 17904, 'John Wenger', 'john@quantumshift.co.nz', 'http://www.quantumshift.co.nz', '118.92.107.130', '2011-04-25 19:50:48', '2011-04-26 00:50:48', 'Susan, I enjoyed reading your post!\n\nYou say, \"Can collaborative behavior prevail?  Not only do I think it can, I believe it will be the hallmark of successful organizations of the future.\"\n\nThinking bigger than the workplace, I\'d go even further and say that collaboration is an absolute imperative for the survival of the human race.  Until we, as a race, stop the daily hating and interpersonal violence that goes on everywhere, we will doom ourselves to \'mutually assured destruction\'.  Sad to say that that expression did not go away with the de-escalation of the Cold War.\n\n...and like you, I also think it CAN prevail.  I have immense hope for us humans and I get particularly excited when I\'m running one of our leadership development programmes.  When I see leaders take up the challenge to extend themselves (not for the faint-hearted), I think that things are really changing for the better, one leader at at time.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8453, 17904, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '76.26.161.97', '2011-04-26 08:25:49', '2011-04-26 13:25:49', 'Excellent point Ben - storytelling is a great strategy for \"nurturing the culture of collaboration\" now.  Building on your connection between the basic human need for belonging and the power of story telling, storytelling is a way to tap into that human need for belonging that can take us out of the survival mode of protecting the status quo (so we can belong, keep our jobs, hide in the perceived safety of what we know, etc) and connect us to something much more meaningful that makes it worth risking the comfort of the familiar.', 0, '1', '', '', 8451, 0),
(8454, 17904, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '76.26.161.97', '2011-04-26 08:28:54', '2011-04-26 13:28:54', 'Thanks John for emphasizing the bigger picture of the imperative for collaboration as well as the message of hope.\n\nI share this experience and sentiment: \"When I see leaders take up the challenge to extend themselves (not for the faint-hearted), I think that things are really changing for the better, one leader at at time.\"  I think this is what the Lead Change Group is all about.', 0, '1', '', '', 8452, 0),
(8455, 17904, 'Georgia Feiste', 'Georgia@Collaborativetransitions.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/gfeiste/', '75.88.80.233', '2011-04-29 15:39:40', '2011-04-29 20:39:40', 'Where would we be without collaboration?  Successful departments, divisions and companies know that when we listen to each other, and collaborate on the very best ideas from everyone in the group that we come up with the best possible solution.\n\nCollaboration will prevail - without it, what is the alternative?\n\nGeorgia', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 266),
(8456, 17904, 'Amanda Hebner', 'ahebner@guidedempowerment.com', '', '98.168.195.224', '2011-05-02 17:07:53', '2011-05-02 22:07:53', 'I appreciate your post and think that you make some great points.  I think that there is so much to be gained through collaboration instead of competition, but until we can move past the idea that in order for there to be a winner, there must be a loser, it will be difficult.  I also think if leaders would see their success through the success of others there would be more collaboration.  We tend to think that our success is deemed through what we achieve, but for those that invest is others achievements, they gain a much greater since of success.  We have to stop looking at the direct result and instead see that sometimes our results and rewards come in less direct ways.  Keep encouraging people to think differently.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8457, 17904, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '76.26.161.97', '2011-05-03 17:35:03', '2011-05-03 22:35:03', 'Good question! Where would we be?  i do think many organizations could be a lot further along an/or far more effective though if they truly embraced collaborative practices.  There remains a big gap between \"knowing\" and \"doing\" when it comes to collaboration.', 0, '1', '', '', 8455, 244),
(8458, 17904, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '76.26.161.97', '2011-05-03 17:41:14', '2011-05-03 22:41:14', 'Excellent points Amanda.  This statement really resonates with me:  \"for those that invest is others achievements, they gain a much greater sense of success\"\n\nTo your point about results and rewards coming in indirect ways - I agree we need to broaden our ability to perceive results beyond traditional metrics.  At the end of the day we may not be able to \"count\" every result, but every result does count!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 244),
(8459, 17904, 'Christian Mentoring: Collaboration is the Future | Christian Mentoring and Leadership', '', 'http://christianmentoringandleadership.com/2011/05/12/christian-mentoring-collaboration-is-the-future/', '66.147.244.192', '2011-05-12 11:01:32', '2011-05-12 16:01:32', '[...] http://leadchangegroup.com/can-collaboration-prevail/ There will always be people who just want to belong and will fight hard for the status quo so they can keep on belonging.  There will always be those who are primarily motivated by winning and/or individual achievement.  The human systems we have designed will likely continue to reward these values for some time to come.  Yet there is a groundswell of people who are focusing on contributing the best of what they have to offer and who want to create extraordinary value with others.  That is what gives me hope that we can and will continue to forge ahead to find new and better ways to collaborate to do extraordinary things. [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8460, 4762, 'Georgia Feiste', 'Georgia@Collaborativetransitions.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/gfeiste/', '75.88.80.233', '2011-04-29 15:34:09', '2011-04-29 20:34:09', 'Lisa!  Great post!  I like to tell people that when people tear up, feel their hearts swell, get goosebumps (I call them Godbumps), and generally get involved with what you are saying to their very core - you have managed to share a vision - and you have inspired them.\n\nA mission will motivate them, garner their support, and lay out how you are going to achieve that vision...\n\nWhat a world of difference.  Thanks for sharing your inner goddess.  I\'m inspired!\n\nGeorgia', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 266),
(8461, 4762, 'Jesse Stoner', 'jstoner@seapointcenter.com', 'http://jessestoner.com', '72.43.222.18', '2011-04-29 22:49:54', '2011-04-30 03:49:54', 'Mission accomplished with me, Lisa. You did a fabulous job defining and illuminating mission, strategies, objectives and goals and discriminating the essence of vision. AND you took a potentially academic subject and brought it alive through an excellent example and a very fun narrative. Thank you for a most illuminating and enjoyable read!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8462, 4762, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisa_mengpd@comcast.net', 'http://www.LisaPetrilli.com', '98.222.78.7', '2011-05-01 19:55:05', '2011-05-02 00:55:05', 'Georgia,\n\nWhat an eloquent way to express it; thank you so much for sharing that with me!  And thank you for such kind and inspiring words, they mean so much to me!', 0, '1', '', '', 8460, 0),
(8463, 4762, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisa_mengpd@comcast.net', 'http://www.LisaPetrilli.com', '98.222.78.7', '2011-05-01 19:57:10', '2011-05-02 00:57:10', 'Jesse,\n\nI\'m truly honored by your kind and encouraging comment!  Thank you for taking the time to read, reflect and to share your thoughts - it means so much to me.', 0, '1', '', '', 8461, 0),
(8464, 4875, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-05-06 09:26:47', '2011-05-06 14:26:47', 'Leigh,\n\nDo you think this is just a matter of not understanding or ignoring the strengths of idea people?  Or is it that change is too hard.  Everything is going so well.  Why rock the boat?\n\nI work with many different kinds of people, and it is clear that some are visionary, others are detail oriented, some think rules are general guidelines while other follow them to the letter.  Some play well with their collegues, others are confrontational or work best alone.  Some of these strengths fit well into the mission of our school while others create problems (maybe eopportunities?)\n\nThere is definitely a role being played by overall leadership and by those making decisions (not necessarily the same people).  What can leaders do to address this issue more effectively?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 258),
(8465, 4875, 'Leigh Steere', 'Lsynthesis@aol.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/leighsteere/', '97.118.110.19', '2011-05-06 12:26:08', '2011-05-06 17:26:08', 'Thanks for your questions, Deborah. Some people prefer not to rock the boat. The status quo feels comfortable and safe. But I think the comment I made yesterday about “difference” is at play here, too. People have a variety of work styles and communication styles. We tend to gravitate (unconsciously, I think) toward the people who are most like us. My next post includes comments from a wildly happy idea person. He shared the term “wild duck” to describe some idea people and said organizations need to find ways to embrace their wild ducks. Unfortunately, I think too many organizations shoot those ducks or ask them to relocate.', 0, '1', '', '', 8464, 268),
(8466, 4875, 'Dr. Marlene Caroselli', 'mccpd@frontiernet.net', '', '50.48.92.128', '2011-05-07 11:51:05', '2011-05-07 16:51:05', 'Dr. W. Edwards Deming noted that \"the greatest losses are unknown and unknowable.\" When a person like you becomes so frustrated that he or she no longer makes suggestions, the firm is losing in ways they cannot even begin to calculate. You have only two choice beyond non-involvement: wait until some shift occurs. It may be a new boss, a merger, perhaps even your promotion. The second choice is to continue proposing ideas on a periodic basis. Amuse yourself: try different time, different techniques, different choices of words. You may even consider approaching your boss as a team. There\'s undeniable strength in numbers.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8467, 4875, 'Timothy Thomas', 'timt@timothythomas.com', 'http://www.timothythomas.com/', '67.185.162.183', '2011-05-07 13:38:20', '2011-05-07 18:38:20', 'I am a person who was perpetually frustrated in the workplace, where my processes and methods were often misconstrued as disobedience, insubordination and insolence. It was very vexing, as I am extremely personable, effective, educated and well liked, especially by peers. Occasionally I would be reassigned to \"special projects.\" In corporations, \"special projects\" is synonymous with \"exit door.\"\n\nFinally I set out on my own and within 24 months I had replaced my salary offering only the best of my talents to several employers while actually working for myself. When I worked for one place, there was often resentment that I seemed to \"cherry pick\" projects and avoided projects that had high likelihood of failure or that were going to be a long slog that I knew I lacked the patience for.\n\nI found it remarkable that the same skills that have brought me fortune as a consultant were keeping my \"steady job\" in constant jeopardy.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8468, 4875, 'Tony Latimer,MCC', 'trainingdirector@ACCI.sg', 'http://www.ACCI.sg', '218.186.15.10', '2011-05-08 00:46:07', '2011-05-08 05:46:07', 'Thoughts inspired by Deborah\'s posted comment. In the last remake of Mutiny On The Bounty there was a scene where all was going well. Weather was clear, sky was blue and a brisk wind was moving the ship forward. The second in command and his crew were happily going about their routine work.  The captain, Bligh, was standing on the upper deck. Apparently doing nothing. Suddenly he turned to his second in command and ordered the sails to be brought in. A lot of work on a full sailing ship, particularly if it turned out to be a wrong choice and they had to be put out again.\n\nThe deputy objected strongly, the crew started to mutter (Blight was after all a bit of an autocrat and didn\'t generally win popularity contests with his crew). After waiting for a few minutes, Bligh snarled somewhat, then stepped back and bowed to his deputy\'s view. The order was rescinded. The captain turned and went down to his cabin. Within moments the sky turned black and as if from nowhere a storm arose. Of such ferocity that if the sails were not rapidly brought in, the ship would be in serious danger. A lot of frantic hard work ensued under very difficult conditions.\n\nOn our leadership courses we start by teaching our Leadership Behaviors model, which categorizes everything a leader should do into just three areas. The third area we introduce as \"Do Nothing\". Of course this generates some humor and the natural reaction of \"yeah, right. As if I have time to do nothing!\". We introduce it this way deliberately to generate this reaction, then explain that what we really mean is that a leader, at any level in the organization, has to spend a certain amount of time thinking. Smelling the horizon. Matching patterns in their brain. Considering, even though all is well today, what may be coming next. Speculating on what the organization might need from their unit a week, a month, a year from now. Observing and listening to what is happening amongst the crew. Did someone making a minor adjustment to a sail just have to put a slightly different effort in? Was that caused by a minor wind pattern change that might herald a coming storm?\n\nAnd all this is observing and thinking that takes time. So compared to how you currently spend time as a busy firefighting problem solving manager; you need to be able to free some of your current time to watch, listen and think.\n\nThen the ideas being generated within the organization can be valuable inputs.\n\nSo maybe the inhibitor to leaders giving due consideration to the idea generators is just a factor of the lack of Do Nothing time.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8469, 4875, 'Donna Wetterstrand', 'djwetterstrand@gmail.com', 'http://donnawetterstrand.com', '70.65.249.243', '2011-05-09 09:29:24', '2011-05-09 14:29:24', 'When idea generators are continually receiving \"no\", sometimes shifting focus from the outer situation to the inner process can bring unexpected change. In the above example, she might consider tweaking her presentation and/or examining her hidden assumptions about lawyers and creativity in general. It\'s not a stretch to guess that she might see lawyers (who are TRAINED into focusing on precedent) as conservative rather than innovative. She might have to be very deliberate about finding \"evidence\" in her world that lawyers can be creative and open to innovation; yet, the more evidence she collects, the softer her perceptual position becomes.\n\nSometimes the only power a creative innovator can have is the power to get creative with your own perception of the situation. That way, you aren\'t locked into a one-dimensional definition of the relationship between you and the \"other.\"  The question \"how can I make them more receptive to change?\" becomes \"how can I continue to exercise my creativity?\"\n\nThis is such a valuable shift! It increases your own sense of personal power and can have tangible and unexpected real-world results.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8470, 4875, 'Leigh Steere', 'Lsynthesis@aol.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/leighsteere/', '97.118.96.151', '2011-05-09 13:08:50', '2011-05-09 18:08:50', 'Marlene, I forwarded your comment to the real \"Mary\" and invited her to join the discussion here. I particularly like your thought of proposing ideas as a team. A team can help \"vet\" an idea and work with the originator to fine tune it. Since each team member brings a unique perspective to the dialogue, the final presentation to management is likely to be more balanced and hard-hitting than what an individual can deliver alone.', 0, '1', '', '', 8466, 268),
(8471, 4875, 'Leigh Steere', 'Lsynthesis@aol.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/leighsteere/', '97.118.96.151', '2011-05-09 13:36:39', '2011-05-09 18:36:39', 'Timothy, thanks for sharing your story here. I think managers and HR folks need to reflect on what you\'ve said. Even if an idea person is stepping on toes by pushing too hard, what is the correct response? To apply labels like \"disobedient\" and \"insubordinate\" (or \"unfocused\" and \"undisciplined\")? Or to engage in self-reflection and ask, \"Why is this person getting under my skin? Do I need to be more open? Am I being intolerant, because this person is so different from me? Can our company benefit from this person\'s thinking--and I just need to help this individual find a more effective way to package and present new ideas in our organizational culture? It\'s sad and expensive when employers lose idea leaders in the manner you described.', 0, '1', '', '', 8467, 268),
(8472, 4875, 'Leigh Steere', 'Lsynthesis@aol.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/leighsteere/', '97.118.96.151', '2011-05-09 13:49:15', '2011-05-09 18:49:15', 'Great story, Tony. Managers: how do you respond when an employee recommends \"pulling in the sails?\" Do you probe for and seriously consider the employee\'s reasons why? Or is your gut reaction to dismiss the recommendation, because it is inconvenient or the employee\'s proofs don\'t meet your \"show me\" criteria? What are you doing to proactively predict storms? Do you just wait for dark clouds and big waves before choosing a course of action?', 0, '1', '', '', 8468, 268),
(8473, 4875, 'Leigh Steere', 'Lsynthesis@aol.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/leighsteere/', '97.118.96.151', '2011-05-09 13:53:54', '2011-05-09 18:53:54', 'Donna, I am forwarding your comment to \"Mary.\" You\'re right. Often, we can\'t change the system, but we can change our own perspective. Thanks for this great reminder.', 0, '1', '', '', 8469, 268);
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(8474, 4875, 'Dr. Marlene Caroselli', 'mccpd@frontiernet.net', '', '50.48.92.128', '2011-05-09 14:46:14', '2011-05-09 19:46:14', 'The parallel to Timothy\'s story was told decades ago by management guru Tom Peters, who was fired from McKinsey and Company for showing up at the offices in less-than-professional attire. Peters is the man who avers, \"Every organization should have at least one weirdo on staff.\" He\'s also the man who assures the freethinking TImothys of our world that \"if you have gone a whole week without being disobedient, you are doing your organization and yourself a disservice.\" Alas, corporate America doesn\'t always appreciate the upstarts who ask questions. One final Timothy-inspired story; this, the story of how CareerTrak was founded. Jeff Salzman. After proposing an idea once at a staff meeting, his boss replied, \"Jeff that\'s the dumbest thing I ever heard.\" (It was also the last thing he heard because Jeff, like our Timothy, took his considerable talents elsewhere. I say, \"Vive les penseurs-libre!\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8475, 4875, 'Timothy Thomas', 'timt@timothythomas.com', 'http://www.timothythomas.com/', '67.185.162.183', '2011-05-10 12:21:09', '2011-05-10 17:21:09', 'I love Tom Peters and his consciousness-raising and challenging ideas, so that is truly a compliment.  I work in the Seattle area which suffers from the institutional pathologies of two major companies, Boeing and Microsoft.\nThere is something about \"the Microsoft way\" in general that is in opposition to where I am oriented, as many a Microsofter has shared an Russian proverb (which I paraphrase):  \"People are Problems, No Person, No Problem.\"\nThe underlying message is that individuals are disposable and the result is a groupthink that gives us liability proof EULA\'s and nearly unusable User Interfaces for products we barely need.  In  a society where culpability rolls down to the least well defended I think of another proverb that sadly rings true- \"I don\'t have to outrun the bear, I just have to outrun you.\"\nWe are incentivized to avoid attention, and by extension, blame. I moved my innovation out of house so if my ideas don\'t work, the purchaser can just stop paying my invoices.  I can\'t seem to lose a job now.', 0, '1', '', '', 8474, 0),
(8476, 4875, 'Dr. Marlene Caroselli', 'mccpd@frontiernet.net', '', '50.48.92.128', '2011-05-10 13:49:39', '2011-05-10 18:49:39', 'Don\'t lose your job, Timothy. But don\'t lose your creative inclination either. Take your ideas outside the workplace. There are so many places seeking (and willing to pay for) creative solutions.\nTo illustrate, my 11-year-old niece won $10,000 for her idea about water conservation. And my own mother (eighth-grade education only) was awarded $500 for submitting ideas re: how to recycle plastic.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8477, 4875, 'Steve Frechette', 'srfrechette@comcast.net', '', '76.118.195.14', '2011-05-11 06:50:03', '2011-05-11 11:50:03', 'The issue with idea people (and I am one of them) is that they have the ability to create a solution within in their own minds;  to actually see it in action or operation providing utility and benefits.  It is a skill as difficult as it is rare.  No matter how great the idea, a conventional mindset (80% of all managers in the world) will not act upon it.  Why?  Simple.  It induces some component of fear.  Fear is created anytime the mind cannot wrap itself around an idea.  Tell someone 1+1 = 2 and they\'ll agree.  Tell them 1+1 can also equal 3 and they\'ll hesitate.  Fear.  The brain simply cannot suspend prior logic.  It is like drinking 10 gallons of water.  The conventional manager\'s brain cannot do it one sitting.  It requires a \"glass by glass\" approach.  If you are willing to give your manager a glass of water each day, you will eventually convince them.  Who has the patience for this?  Business moves way too fast.  The most innovative companies understand this...led by post-convention thinkers who drink 10 gallons a day.  I\'d suggest hooking up with one.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8478, 4875, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-05-11 07:20:29', '2011-05-11 12:20:29', 'Timothy, I think most in this forum agree with you that people aren\'t disposable.  I\'ve also found that generally organizations don\'t have opinions, they simply have people who do.  I think the people who have shared that proverb with you should either leave, like you seem to have done, or complain about it to someone who can do something about it, like their manager.\n\nIn contrast too, I think we solve the problem not by focusing on the problem or the consequences, but by focusing on the solution.  Would you care to share about organizations that appreciate and empower their people?  Do you know of any companies who attract talent?  In my local area, there are a couple of large employers, like Bama Companies and QuikTrip who consistently win awards for how they treat their people and the positive contribution they make to the area.  For me, I tend to drive in the direction of my focus.  So I like to focus on those that do things well.', 0, '1', '', '', 8475, 243),
(8479, 4875, 'Cultivating Idea Leadership—Views From an IBM Fellow - Lead Change Group', '', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/cultivating-idea-leadership-views-from-an-ibm-fellow/', '174.121.64.152', '2011-05-17 12:43:55', '2011-05-17 17:43:55', '[...] a brick wall when they propose process improvements or new product concepts to their employers (see case study in prior post). They voice frustration with “we’ve-always-done-it-this-way” thinking and silo [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8480, 4900, 'John Bell', 'john_bell@telus.net', 'http://www.ceoafterlife.blogspot.com', '70.79.163.121', '2011-04-30 14:10:03', '2011-04-30 19:10:03', 'And when rise up the leadership chain, remember that you are going from knowing more about less &amp; less to knowing less about more and more. This is especially the case for new CEOs.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8481, 4900, 'Quixperito.com', '', 'http://quixperito.com/story/168/', '69.164.195.18', '2011-05-01 11:33:55', '2011-05-01 16:33:55', '<strong>5 Tips For The Brand New Leader...</strong>\n\nBecome A Servant Leader... this is the BEST piece of advice I can give you... A great leader, serves others. Others include… well… everyone. Your organization, your boss, your peers, your team, other teams, your client, your customers, your family and ...', 0, '1', '', 'trackback', 0, 0),
(8482, 4900, 'Dan Rockwell', 'dan@leadershipfreak.com', 'http://leadershipfreak.wordpress.com/2010/12/02/withhold-i-say-you-2/', '173.163.83.46', '2011-05-02 04:28:53', '2011-05-02 09:28:53', 'John,\n\nThanks for your insights. My experience indicates your unlearning it\'s not only new leaders that fail because they don\'t unlearn. Old leaders fail for the very same reason.\n\nBest wishes,\n\nDan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8483, 4900, 'Developing a New Leader | CallCenterBestPractices.com', '', 'http://www.callcenterbestpractices.com/developing-a-new-leader/', '66.147.242.83', '2011-09-29 20:06:48', '2011-09-30 01:06:48', '[...] Skills Training &amp; Tools for Pastors, Deacons and ChaplainsHow To Develop Leaders Around You5 Tips For The Brand New Leader - Lead Change Group  if (top!=self) { window.location = [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8484, 4912, 'Billy Kirsch', 'billy@kidbillymusic.com', 'http://kidbillymusic.com', '98.87.120.110', '2011-05-09 08:14:22', '2011-05-09 13:14:22', 'A good summary of important elements we all face when trying to change things. Indeed, change is the only constant we can count on. Many organizations talk about change or initiate it without \'giving it a chance\'. Thanks for this post.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8485, 4912, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-05-09 10:32:14', '2011-05-09 15:32:14', 'Will,\n\nOften, simply believing in the change is the single factor in actually achieving it.  Great post!\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(8486, 4912, 'Christina Haxton', 'christina@sustainable-leaders.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/sustainableleaders/', '12.175.230.36', '2011-05-14 07:00:10', '2011-05-14 12:00:10', 'Will,\n\nExcellent reframe ... change = learning, and who doesn\'t want to learn???\n\nChristina', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 281),
(8487, 4924, 'Laurinda', 'laurinda.bellinger@gmail.com', 'http://www.laurindaonleadership.com', '24.17.44.101', '2011-05-07 10:33:49', '2011-05-07 15:33:49', 'You should use that quote as a title of a book. The History Channel had a series on the Dark Ages. I found it amazing that the dark ages gave birth to the Renaissance.\n\nGreat article.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8488, 4924, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com', '68.13.251.23', '2011-05-07 21:22:36', '2011-05-08 02:22:36', 'Laurinda - Thank you for the response and the idea!  What an encouraging book that would be!', 0, '1', '', '', 8487, 0),
(8489, 4928, 'Dan Rockwell', 'dan@leadershipfreak.com', 'http://leadershipfreak.wordpress.com/2010/12/02/withhold-i-say-you-2/', '174.55.208.221', '2011-05-02 08:04:41', '2011-05-02 13:04:41', 'Chery,\n\nI\'ve read both the first and second editions of \"Full Steam Ahead.\" I didn\'t think I could enjoy the first one more than I did. However, the second addition is a genuine remake with major revisions, restructuring, and new content.\n\nIt is a leadership fable but it\'s a meaty fable. There\'s not much fluff in the story.\n\nI just love \"Full Steam Ahead.\" Thanks for reviewing it here today.\n\nCheers,\n\nDan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8490, 4928, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com', '68.13.251.23', '2011-05-02 08:45:35', '2011-05-02 13:45:35', 'Dan,\n\nThanks for your comments!  I agree it is a MEATY-fable!\n\nIt does a beautiful job of emphasizing that vision is so much more that words on a poster that has been hung on a wall to collect dust!\n\nChery', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8491, 4928, 'Jesse Stoner', 'jstoner@seapointcenter.com', 'http://jessestoner.com', '71.235.50.49', '2011-05-02 10:25:35', '2011-05-02 15:25:35', 'I appreciate your review because not only does it describe the book, but it also shares helpful information on why vision is important and what leaders can do. Thanks for helping get the word out!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8492, 4928, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com', '68.13.251.23', '2011-05-02 13:58:46', '2011-05-02 18:58:46', 'Jesse - I love your work and the history of how you discovered the power of vision with your students.  The book is fun to read, and at the same time the data you share in the beginning of the book keeps smacking me in the forehead, much like the old V-8 Television Ads.\n\nIf not having a vision is what limits managers from being great leaders, and only 10% of the leaders you and Ken worked with, around the world, have a clear sense of where they are trying to lead people...  It sounds like 90% of us share an opportunity to be more effective by developing that skill.\n\nCan you imagine the difference that could be made in the economy and on our communities if that percentage increased just 10%?  Thinking about it, gives me Goosebumps!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8493, 4928, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '76.26.161.97', '2011-05-02 14:35:32', '2011-05-02 19:35:32', 'I am really looking forward to reading this.  Always love a good story, especially one that facilitates learning of something so elusive yet essential.  Thanks for sharing your review Chery.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8494, 4928, 'Jesse Stoner', 'jstoner@seapointcenter.com', 'http://www.seapointcenter.com', '71.235.50.49', '2011-05-02 21:05:35', '2011-05-03 02:05:35', 'Susan, you asked me a great question on twitter that I cannot answer in 140 characters, so I\'ll respond here instead. You asked what my major discovery or insight was between writing 1st and 2nd versions. I\'d say that my biggest awareness is how easy it is to lose track of the vision, after we have created it and done all the work to set thing in motion. Circumstances change and we get distracted. Life happens. And then one day we look around and realize how far we have drifted off course without even realizing it.  This is true at a personal level as well as for teams and organizations. It\'s not enough to just create a vision. We have to put strategies in place to support our ongoing awareness and focus. For this edition we added a new chapter on \"Staying the Course.\"  Thanks for asking the question, Susan.', 0, '1', '', '', 8493, 0),
(8495, 4928, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '76.26.161.97', '2011-05-03 09:18:58', '2011-05-03 14:18:58', 'Thanks for your response Jesse.  I look forward to reading that chapter.  All too often after the initial \"big bang\" roll out of the vision, attempts to keep the vision present amount to little more than periodic e-mails, presentations, and superficial artifacts like posters, mugs, etc. Keeping the vision alive requires finding ways to keep it front and center in everyday conversation - it takes discipline and often requires a shift in context on the part of positional leaders.  One of the shifts in context I think leaders need to make to \"stay the course\" is that they don\'t need to keep presenting the vision, they need to be in consistent conversation with people about the vision, what it means to people, how it is being manifested today, and its impact and implications for the future as they see it.', 0, '1', '', '', 8494, 0),
(8496, 4928, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-05-03 15:37:25', '2011-05-03 20:37:25', 'Chery,  thanks for the awesome review.  I read the first edition of Full Steam Ahead and I\'m looking forward to the second.  You can tell when someone excels at what they do and Jesse has a gift for vision.  It\'s a great book!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(8497, 4928, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com', '68.13.251.23', '2011-05-04 04:29:32', '2011-05-04 09:29:32', 'Thanks for your response Mike!  I agree Jesse has a gift for vision and I\'m so glad she is sharing it!\nThis quote from an unknown author says it all, “We are limited, not by our abilities, but by our vision.”', 0, '1', '', '', 8496, 0),
(8498, 4928, 'Maybelle', 'mwv@maybellevictor.com', 'http://www.mybookside.com', '58.69.141.4', '2011-09-26 02:38:12', '2011-09-26 07:38:12', 'I just managed to finish this book and I can\'t help but feel very inspired.  Your review and the comments of everyone here attests how vision can help enlighten and simplify work and personal life.  Thanks for sharing these notes!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8499, 4928, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com', '70.167.30.24', '2011-09-26 18:17:51', '2011-09-26 23:17:51', 'Maybelle, It is great to hear from you!  So glad you enjoyed the book and the conversation.  As you begin to apply some of the learning\'s we invite you to share your vision journey and the impact it is having...', 0, '1', '', '', 8498, 0),
(8500, 4943, 'Ben', 'marketingtemp@na.drakeintl.com', 'http://www.drakepulse.com', '38.112.96.231', '2011-05-13 14:37:56', '2011-05-13 19:37:56', 'I really like your point about inviting employees to challenge obstacles - I think this can be great for developing ideas and solving conflict, and a good way to empower your staff.\n\nBen\nhttp://www.drakepulse.com', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8501, 4943, 'Lorna Donovan', 'lornad14@comcast.net', 'http://www.skyeassociates.net', '67.176.94.153', '2011-05-25 10:55:01', '2011-05-25 15:55:01', 'Leigh, Surely one of your best interviews and write-ups. Reminds me of Tom Peters’ admonition to “foster the fanatics, make room for weirdos; they will save your company” in paraphrase. He wrote In Search of Excellence about the time John Cohn joined IBM, too. Both men with ideas ahead of their time... choosing your own drumbeat may be the way back for corporate life and the way forward.  I’ll bet he inspires people around him just by showing up each day. Bravo for your choice, John!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8502, 4943, 'John', 'info@selfesteemgenerator.com', 'http://www.selfesteemgenerator.com', '101.108.34.236', '2011-10-19 10:56:45', '2011-10-19 15:56:45', '\"You need to use your passion for your ideas to stand up to the many constraints you may encounter in a large organization.\"\nTruly inspiring words! I didn\'t know that these kind of people work at IBM, which I always just thought of as \"the big, soulless corporation\".', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8503, 4943, 'Cultivating Idea Leadership - Views From an IBM Fellow | Future of Leadership | Scoop.it', '', 'http://www.scoop.it/t/future-of-leadership/p/619587717/cultivating-idea-leadership-views-from-an-ibm-fellow', '89.30.105.121', '2011-11-03 06:29:36', '2011-11-03 11:29:36', '[...]  Cultivating Idea Leadership - Views From an IBM Fellow           Literally hundreds of &ldquo;idea people&rdquo; are wilting in Corporate America today. Many feel they are talking to a brick wall when they propose process improvements or new product concepts to their employers (see case study in prior post). They voice frustration with &ldquo;we&rsquo;ve-always-done-it-this-way&rdquo; thinking and silo mentality. [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8504, 4953, 'Garry Trammell', 'gltram@me.com', 'http://gtramblings.com/', '50.33.219.181', '2011-05-11 06:47:17', '2011-05-11 11:47:17', 'Intriguing post and much truth here to act on, if a person is willing to take on honest look at themselves. I\'ve taken a number of assessments, but I\'m not sure if DISC was one of them. I\'d like to take you up on your offer Angie. My email is gltram@me.com. Thank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8505, 4953, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '173.23.60.141', '2011-05-11 09:00:59', '2011-05-11 14:00:59', 'Sounds great, Garry. And thank you for being the first to comment on my first blog post with Lead Change. Email or DM me your t-shirt size and mailing address, and I\'ll send you some Angie Chaplin Leadership Partners \"swag\" when the rest of the promo items arrive. Thanks again, and Lead On, my friend!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 279),
(8506, 4953, 'Barb', 'barb@kevineikenberry.com', '', '99.170.254.91', '2011-05-11 12:05:00', '2011-05-11 17:05:00', 'Angie, tools such as DISC, can help us as leaders to identify others and their learning and leadership styles.  To my mind, the best use of an assessment like this is to \"know thyself\".\nI\'ve personally taken and taught the Florence Littauer Personality Plus characteristics.  This is another opportunity to strength and reinforce my knowledge of self.\nI love the phrase \"character based leadership\"\nI congratulate you on all you are doing as you launch your new business brand.  You are making a difference in the lives that you are touching!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8507, 4953, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '173.23.60.141', '2011-05-11 22:06:11', '2011-05-12 03:06:11', 'Thanks for your comment, Barb. I chuckled at the phrase you used, \"Know Thyself,\" as that\'s what I call many of the DISC workshops, presentations, or keynotes that I give on the topic. I\'m glad to hear that you\'ve learned more about your behavioral tendencies through Personality Plus. Would you also like to take a free online DISC assessment (the Target Training International version) to see how the two compare?\n\nThank you for your kind words! I enjoy what I do, and I learn something new everyday!\n\nLead on!\nangie', 0, '1', '', '', 8506, 279),
(8508, 4953, 'Barb', 'barb@kevineikenberry.com', '', '99.170.254.91', '2011-05-12 20:17:36', '2011-05-13 01:17:36', 'I\'d love to take the online DISC.  Thanks for offering!\nAs always, this is a Remarkable day.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8509, 4953, 'Christina Haxton', 'christina@sustainable-leaders.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/sustainableleaders/', '12.175.230.36', '2011-05-14 07:09:02', '2011-05-14 12:09:02', 'Hi Angie,\n\nCertainly the DISC is one I hear my clients mention as an assessment they\'ve found gives them their personal \"Aha!\" moment ... yet I also wonder how the DISC has helped clients transfer their understanding into action that makes a difference back in the office?  What has been your experience?\n\nChristina', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 281),
(8510, 4953, 'Why Can’t We All Just Get Along? &laquo; Rodrick Makore', '', '', '72.233.61.70', '2011-05-15 13:26:06', '2011-05-15 18:26:06', '[...] Why Can’t We All Just Get Along?. [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8511, 4953, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '173.23.60.141', '2011-05-22 22:09:00', '2011-05-23 03:09:00', 'Thanks for your question, Christina! The accountability of carrying out action plans ultimately rests with each individual. That being said, I do assign accountability partners, have participants complete action plans, etc. The greatest results come from a fully integrated DISC program that is not just a \"flavor of the month\" training event.\n\nSome of my clients engage my coaching services on a one-to-one basis for employees who may need a nudge or someone to check in on their ongoing progress. These coaching calls typically take place every 3-4 weeks, and if the participant hasn\'t made the progress they\'d committed to in their action plan, we discuss barriers and strategies for overcoming those barriers.\n\nI hope that answers your question. If you\'d like to talk more about the on-going application of DISC, feel free to contact me at angie@angiechaplin.com.\n\nLead on,\nangie', 0, '1', '', '', 8509, 279),
(8512, 4953, 'chella', 'chellavignesh@yahoo.com', '', '117.240.242.163', '2011-07-28 11:35:26', '2011-07-28 16:35:26', 'hi\ni would like to take up DISC test\nthnx for offering it free', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8513, 4970, 'Research your idea thoroughly&#8230; &laquo; Lead Serve &amp; Encourage', '', 'http://garrytrammell.com/2011/05/21/research-your-idea-thoroughly/', '69.170.134.56', '2011-05-21 06:38:33', '2011-05-21 11:38:33', '[...] their ideas and use discernment communicating to management. I encourage you to read her fine post HERE. The above bullet points caused me to think how similar questions could be used in a personal [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8514, 4980, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-05-11 07:38:25', '2011-05-11 12:38:25', 'Guy, thanks for the great post.  I especially like the point about being immediate.  We do appreciate things we can value in the present.  Many managers have a challenge with this because they\'re not in and around their people.  For me the hard part about learning to be immediate was to Be Present (not just physically present but interested, engaged and paying attention to help).  Many middle managers are more \"present\' with their bosses than with their team.  We must Be Present to be able to Be many of the other things you mention above.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(8515, 4980, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-05-11 08:25:06', '2011-05-11 13:25:06', 'I was struck by the same point Mike.  By being immediate, we can first positively reinforce the things we would love to see repeated.  There is a direct connection between the speed of the reinforcement and the likelihood of repeat.  The second part is being able to head off potential problems before they spiral out of control.\n\nGood reminders in this post! Thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 8514, 258),
(8516, 4980, 'Ellen Eckhardt', 'Autumneme3@aol.com', '', '69.204.18.5', '2011-05-11 10:35:09', '2011-05-11 15:35:09', 'Thank you, Guy.  These are great!  I just jotted them down in my journal...with the acronym \"P.S. cc I\"  That way, I will always remember to remind myself of what I may suggest to someone else.  Great post!!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8517, 4980, 'Guy Harris', 'guy.harris@principledriven.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/recovengineer/', '99.170.253.155', '2011-05-12 13:08:00', '2011-05-12 18:08:00', 'Mike - Thanks for the feedback and the additional insights.\n\nDeborah - Thanks for adding your thoughts.\n\nEllen - Please pass them on. Thanks for the feedback. I\'m glad that you can find practical use for these ideas.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 271),
(8518, 4980, 'Ben', 'marketingtemp@na.drakeintl.com', 'http://www.drakepulse.com', '38.112.96.231', '2011-05-13 14:42:35', '2011-05-13 19:42:35', 'Thanks for this, Guy. This is a very informative post, and a great resource for managers. A great supplementary post for this can be found at DrakePulse, at: http://www.drakepulse.com/2011/the-changing-face-of-reward/', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8519, 4987, '10 Ways to Show Respect: Master the Art of Conversation &#8211; Lead Change Group &laquo; Tech4buziness', '', 'http://tech4buziness.com/2011/05/10-ways-to-show-respect-master-the-art-of-conversation-lead-change-group/', '213.251.189.204', '2011-05-15 23:14:47', '2011-05-16 04:14:47', '[...]  Lead Change Group        Cliquez ici pour annuler la [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8520, 4994, 'William Powell', 'wpowell@theleadershipadvisor.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/williampowell/', '184.57.165.110', '2011-05-05 08:34:03', '2011-05-05 13:34:03', 'I have to agree with you Deborah. While I\'m happy that this particular person will not be actively perpetuating the deeds he thought necessary and appropriate (however misguided that was), I simply cannot celebrate the death of another human being and look at myself in the mirror.\n\nFrom a more objective perspective, our celebrating in the streets over the death of Osama Bin Laden appeared strangely similar to the celebration in the streets by others when the Twin Towers collapsed. Not exactly the kind of affiliation we\'re hoping to have.\n\nThanks for having the courage to share a possibly not so popular viewpoint on a very delicate subject.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 260),
(8521, 4994, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '12.104.202.50', '2011-05-05 08:50:25', '2011-05-05 13:50:25', 'Hi, Deborah - interesting post and a wonderful quote.\n\nThe discussions you seek were happening, in my experience, but my social media network is front-loaded with people like Jim Wallis, Deborah Bolen, God\'s Politics blog, Diana Butler Bass, Rodney Allen Reeves, and Roger Lynn.    Some are well-known and some are just friends, but they are examples of people engaging in a difficult discussion about how our reactions and behaviors convey messages and values during significant events.\n\nI even chimed in with a blog post at http://bit.ly/kT9woA (The Strategic Learner).\n\nUnfortunately, I see little attention being paid in the mainstream media to this discussion.  They are absorbed by details of the operation and the usual analysis to nauseum.\n\nI think your point about silent leadership is well taken.  Silence from a leader indeed speaks volumes.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8522, 4994, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '12.104.202.50', '2011-05-05 09:03:14', '2011-05-05 14:03:14', 'Sorry - forgot to mention that you can see posts and links from all these folks and more on my Facebook Profile (John E. Smith), if you are interested.  If I had more time, I\'d compile a nice list, but gotta go baby sit my granddaughter:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 8521, 0),
(8523, 4994, 'Tara R. Alemany', 'alewebsocial@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/alewebsocial/', '68.191.55.98', '2011-05-05 10:05:36', '2011-05-05 15:05:36', 'Thanks, Deborah, for opening up this difficult discussion. When my 13-year-old daughter saw the rejoicing on the television, her immediate reaction was to question why anyone would celebrate the death of another individual. She and I then spent time in prayer, asking for enlightenment as to how to respond to the situation.\n\nThat night, as I went to bed, I wrote the following to a friend of mine: \"I hope the remainder of your weekend was enjoyable. Mine was, although the news of Osama bin Laden\'s death has me shook up a little bit... It\'s hard to rejoice in the death of anyone, even though I realize the War on Terror could never end while he was still alive. Yet, it will hopefully bring some closure for those still living with issues resulting from 9/11. All in all, very mixed feelings.\"\n\nYou see, I live 90 minutes outside of NYC. My Uncle lives in Times Square, and actually watched from his balcony as the second tower was hit. I have friends and neighbors who were in the City that day. I know people who lost loved ones there, and who survived Ground Zero. That morning is indelibly burned in my memory as I tried for hours to find out whether my family was safe. Simply hearing the words \"nine eleven\" in succession brings me back to the powerful feelings experienced that day. My then 18-month-old son was home sick with me that morning as we watched the news footage, and had nightmares for the next 2 years about \"the bad men flying planes into the buildings.\"\n\nI\'m a follower of Christ. I choose not to hate anyone, even though there may be people whose actions I don\'t like (or approve of). I have prayed for some resolution to this whole situation for years. Unfortunately, it seems as though there was no way the War on Terror could ever end when Osama Bin Laden was so set upon jihad.\n\nAm I grateful that he\'s dead? Humanly speaking, yes. Do I wish it had been of natural causes or something less intentional? Yes. Am I hopeful that the War on Terror has turned a corner? Yes. Am I afraid that Bin Laden\'s death increases our danger? Yes.\n\nPerhaps part of the \"silence\" you \"heard,\" was people struggling with a mixture of feelings that are hard to process. I don\'t rejoice in his death. But his death gives me hope that I didn\'t have previously, hope for healing and for peace. The only thing I posted online about it though was simply to thank my sister, who enlisted as a result of 9/11, and her military friends for their service during this time. In the long run, it\'s the sacrifices of our military troops, their families, and the victims of terror that I chose to focus on instead.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 259),
(8524, 4994, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-05-05 10:30:53', '2011-05-05 15:30:53', 'Thank you so much for your thoughtful response.  I too was struck by the similarity of our behaviors as compared to those we saw almost 10 years ago.  I know that this is a complex issue, and we all have more than one emotional response to this news.  I appreciate your willingness to talk about this here.  I am hopeful that by talking we can all come to greater understanding of ourselves and the larger world.  For me, this is our only chance at ever eventually arriving at peace.', 0, '1', '', '', 8520, 258),
(8525, 4994, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-05-05 10:39:56', '2011-05-05 15:39:56', 'I\'m wrestling with my response.  Well, no, I\'m really not.\n\nIt\'s wrong to take a life.  But it\'s also wrong to allow someone else who has proven a disposition for that behavior to do the same.  Bin Laden wasn\'t spending any energy trying to convince the world that he\'d turned over a new leaf.  So for whoever that would have been next, I\'m glad he\'s dead; I\'m glad they didn\'t hesitate; I\'m glad no one else was injured.  I have new respect for our President because of the courage he demonstrated to act.\n\nAnd, whatever else might happen as a result, also might have happened had we not killed him.  He asked many people to sacrifice for his \"holy\" war.  Now it\'s his turn.\n\nI agree it\'s probably not \"taking the high road\" to celebrate.  But that\'s a minor offense compared to the crimes committed.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(8526, 4994, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-05-05 10:41:00', '2011-05-05 15:41:00', 'I am grateful to know that these conversations are happening, John.  My hope here was to challenge the leaders in my life, some of whom are part of the #leadchange group, to participate in this as well.  I understand that Twitter is sometimes a difficult forum for use on more complex and challenging issues, but I KNOW this community cares deeply about character in leadership.  I am almost hyper aware of my words because I speak to about a hundred students daily.  Some of my Twitter leadership friends have thousands or even tens of thousands of followers.  Their impact can be incredibly significant.\n\nAs for the media focus, I agree that they have clearly had other priorities, but I found out about this event through social media rather than CNN or other news sources.  The role of social media, especially among our youth, is incredibly important.  I encourage all of us to remember that we have tremendous influence.\n\nI appreciate your words here and will definitely check out the sources you mentioned!  Thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 8522, 258),
(8527, 4994, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-05-05 10:53:27', '2011-05-05 15:53:27', 'Man Tara.  I think you summarize a lot of what people are feeling about this event.  You may be right in that It is this mixture of emotion that may well have silenced folks.  I am not suggesting it is an easy thing to know what to say here.  You said some powerful and deeply felt things in your letter.  I know that there are many thousands that were far more deeply affected than I was, and I cannot begin to fully understand their emotional journey, but I do know that this hatred must somehow end or it will destroy us all.  I sincerely hope you are right and that there is some good that can come of this death.  I struggle to see that right now, but perhaps it will take time.\n\nI appreciate your thoughts and willingness to discuss this issue.  I genuinely hope that as we wrestle with this as individuals and a nation, we come to greater understanding of ourselves and the larger world community.  As I have said earlier, I believe this is the road to peace.', 0, '1', '', '', 8523, 258),
(8528, 4994, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-05-05 11:24:49', '2011-05-05 16:24:49', 'First let me thank you Mike for allowing my post on this forum.  I appreciate your willingness to allow this discussion and for your candor in your comment.\n\nI want to be clear here. I don\'t believe that there was really any other alternative to what happened here.  As a nation we must protect ourselves.  Osama bin Laden made every effort to make it impossible to do anything but kill him.  I am truly grateful that we had the ability to find him and the well-trained, patriotic soldiers willing to sacrifice their lives for my safety.\n\nI guess the real issue for me is how to make his death something that furthers the real goal, peace.  There are a multitude of misunderstandings in the world related to religion, race, and culture.  The offense of the celebration of his death is indeed small in comparison to the evil that bin Laden wrought, but these celebrations are the images the rest of the world sees.  We were horrified when some in the Muslim world celebrated 9/11.  Not every Muslim celebrated, but we painted the Muslim community with a pretty broad brush as a result.  The Muslim community doesn\'t see all our good works.  All they see is us having a party.  That\'s not really who Americans are.  I want Muslims to know this.  We cannot stamp out terrorism alone.  It will only end when every religion, every race, every culture says no more.\n\nI know you are not alone in how you feel Mike.  Thank you for sharing your thoughts.  I think we can both agree that the real party can start when killing terrorists is no longer necessary.', 0, '1', '', '', 8525, 258),
(8529, 4994, 'Kevin McClave', 'kmcclave@twcny.rr.com', '', '74.71.162.219', '2011-05-05 12:23:11', '2011-05-05 17:23:11', 'I echo the thanks for your well thought and under-represented outlook, Deborah.\n\nOne of the reasons I hadn\'t spoiken up more about the issues you describe is that I was actually struggling to articulate exactly what it was that bothered me about the celebrations of Bin Laden\'s death. I think your one sentence tweet helped me to that clarity, and is perfect for that medium. Mikes response above also gives me further clarity on my own opinion of things.\n\nI do not mourn Bin Laden\'s death. I do not feel badly that he is dead. I do not wish that he was taken alive, nor did I have a prior preference that he not be. That they found him was the most important thing. His death is largely a symbolic one, but that does not take away the significance of it. I do worry that he has now become a martyr to his cause, which may in fact make him even more dangerous than he was alive.\n\nPart of me despairs about the outright celebrations of this turn of events as a comment on the fabric of our society. It is for the same primary reason I am against the death penalty that I think I am troubled by this: we cannot compartmentalize so easily the spilling of blood. That we are desensitized to it enough to cheer executions, by brave Special Ops or by our government, is a statement on us as a people.\n\nCarl Jung said that \"you alweays become the thing you fight the most.\" These are certainly words to keep in the forefront of our minds during these times in which we live.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8530, 4994, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-05-05 13:05:30', '2011-05-05 18:05:30', 'It\'s your forum too.  Besides, the best way to learn is to hear others\'  thoughts.  This is a great conversation.', 0, '1', '', '', 8528, 243),
(8531, 4994, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-05-05 13:32:12', '2011-05-05 18:32:12', 'Thank you Kevin for your thoughtful commentary.  I had not heard the Jung quote before.  I genuinely hope there is another route.  I tend to be more humanist in my philosophical thinking, that we are always striving to become our best selves, but we have many needs that must be met along the way. (i.e. food, safety, love, education)  It is only when we perceive our basic needs are unmet that we stumble and fall short of our best selves.\n\nThank you for joining our conversation and adding your insights.', 0, '1', '', '', 8529, 258),
(8532, 4994, 'Leigh Steere', 'Lsynthesis@aol.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/leighsteere/', '97.118.110.19', '2011-05-05 14:48:30', '2011-05-05 19:48:30', 'Deborah, I have had a whole mishmash of thoughts about this week\'s events. Complete coincidence -- but a leader from my son\'s Boy Scout troop was in Pakistan for a business trip last week and had arranged to meet with Pakistani Boy Scouts to learn about their programs. Last night, I watched a video the Pakistani Scouts had prepared to say \"hi\" to their Colorado counterparts. The expression of brotherhood and the sincere desire for cultural exchange was moving. I found myself looking at their uniforms and listening to their greetings and thinking, \"They are just like us.\"\n\nFor centuries, humans have been uncomfortable with \"difference.\" Different skin colors. Different religions. Different political views. We continue to kill one another over these things. I do not agree with bin Laden\'s views or tactics. But dancing in the streets to celebrate his death does nothing to create a world where we dialogue constructively about difference, instead of judging, attacking and purging.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 268),
(8533, 4994, 'Tanveer Naseer', 'tanveer_naseer@yahoo.ca', 'http://www.tanveernaseer.com', '74.58.0.109', '2011-05-05 14:51:47', '2011-05-05 19:51:47', '“Do not rejoice in the death of one man. Rejoice when there is peace.”\n\nBrilliant Deborah.  While I don\'t think anyone would argue that Bin Laden\'s death is bad thing, I do agree wholeheartedly that celebrating the death of anyone - regardless of how evil they were - shortens the gap between what we despise and what we aim to be as a society.\n\nIn terms of leadership, I think it also serves to remind us of the importance of focusing on purpose, which is why I loved your quote above.  Sorry I missed it, by the way, as I would have gladly shared that nugget on Twitter.  In fact, I\'m going to do so right now.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8534, 4994, 'Tara R. Alemany', 'alewebsocial@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/alewebsocial/', '68.191.55.98', '2011-05-05 16:47:11', '2011-05-05 21:47:11', 'Hi, Kevin.\n\nAs a surviving family member of someone who was a victim of murder, I am FOR the death penalty. Not because I cheer on death or the vengeance that drives some to seek the death of others. Instead, what I despise is the fact that my tax dollars went for 22 years to house, clothe and feed a man who ruthlessly killed another. While I love our country, that doesn\'t mean I agree with what we\'ve come to see as \"justice.\" How is it justice that this man is now free, after \"serving his time,\" when my uncle\'s life was cut short at the ripe old age of 24? Andy\'s gone while his killer gets a second chance at life. It\'s not to say that his life wasn\'t destroyed that day as well. But while he was waiting for his second chance, I paid (along with my fellow tax payers) for everything he needed to survive. How fair is that? My only hope is that this man makes something good come out of his own life.\n\nIn Osama\'s case, his path was clear. He followed it unwaveringly, and showed no signs of ever changing his direction. He\'s gone. That\'s an accomplishment, not a reason to celebrate. It\'s a step in the right direction, and now it\'s time to forge a new future.\n\nPeace isn\'t always about a lack of fighting among peoples. Peace must exist inwardly before it can exist outwardly. I think this step in our nation\'s history will bring greater inward peace to those who lost loved ones as a result of 9/11.', 0, '1', '', '', 8529, 259),
(8535, 4994, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '98.85.75.66', '2011-05-05 18:55:46', '2011-05-05 23:55:46', 'Tara, I am deeply sorry for the loss your family suffered, and I do hope that there is some kind of peace for all those that suffered loss and pain on Septemeber 11 and in the almost ten years since.  In the context of this piece I will not remain silent but will fairly state that I am not in favor of the death penalty.  However I will save that particular discussion for another day.', 0, '1', '', '', 8534, 258),
(8536, 4994, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '98.85.75.66', '2011-05-05 19:04:36', '2011-05-06 00:04:36', 'Thank you Leigh for sharing you story and adding to this discussion.  I learn from each person\'s post, and I especially love your phrase \"dialogue constructively about difference.\"  I believe that this is difficult and must be approached with openness and willingness to listen.  I struggle with this in class as we discuss difficult issues together.  My students are nearly adults and already have strong opinions about many issues.  My hope is indeed that we can dialogue constructively, just as we have done here, knowing it is not necesary to agree with every person, but only to listen and honestly consider another point of view.\n\nMy friend Lali once mentioned that she has respect for people that can disagree with her intelligently. I could not agree with her more.\n\nThank you Leigh.', 0, '1', '', '', 8532, 258),
(8537, 4994, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '98.85.75.66', '2011-05-05 19:10:19', '2011-05-06 00:10:19', 'Thank you for your kind words, Tanveer.  Let me return the favor by commenting on your phrase, \"celebrating the death of anyone...shortens the gap between what we despise and what we aim to be as a society.\" I have always struggled to express my fundamental dismay at some of society\'s seemingly acceptable behaviors.  Your words help me focus my thoughts.  Thank you for joining our discussion.', 0, '1', '', '', 8533, 258),
(8538, 4994, 'Tara R. Alemany', 'alewebsocial@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/alewebsocial/', '68.191.55.98', '2011-05-05 19:59:15', '2011-05-06 00:59:15', 'Hi, Deborah.\n\nThanks for having the courage to request a dialog around a topic you knew had to have many different viewpoints. I love the respect with which we have been able to share our differences and learn from one another.\n\nI think that\'s one of the marks of a true leader, to foster communication when it\'s easier to ignore things. It grows people together in ways that nothing else can. So, thanks for stepping out in courage today. I\'m sure that your students are blessed to know you.\n\nThis is going to be my last contribution today on the subject, but as I was reading through the other comments and your replies, I couldn\'t help but wonder what some of the discussions were like when Adolf Hitler died. He couldn\'t have become as powerful as he was without some supporters. Too bad we can\'t easily tap into the conversations they were having 60+ years ago to see what they learned from the experience...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 259),
(8539, 4994, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '98.85.96.192', '2011-05-06 05:27:07', '2011-05-06 10:27:07', 'For those following this discussion you might find this article from this morning\'s NY Times interesting. If you have further thoughts, you are welcome to share them here.\n http://www.nytimes.com/2011/05/06/health/06revenge.html?_r=1&amp;nl=todaysheadlines&amp;emc=tha22', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 258),
(8540, 4994, 'There IS a Difference . . . | THE STRATEGIC LEARNER', '', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com/2011/05/06/there-is-a-difference/', '76.74.248.199', '2011-05-06 06:07:12', '2011-05-06 11:07:12', '[...] We experience what we allow by our words and our actions.  We also experience what we allow by our silence.  For more around how silence affects leadership, see Deborah Costello&#8217;s great post and ensuring discussion at the Great Leadership website. [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8541, 4994, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-05-06 07:46:23', '2011-05-06 12:46:23', 'Tara,  I appreciate your kind words and too am grateful that we can have a respectful discussion without all of the posturing that is so common on so many sites.\n\nI cannot begin to know the conversations on Hitler and certainly there were celebrations.  Obviously the circumstances differed, but it would make for an interesting discussion.\n\nIf you are interested in finding out more about Hitler\'s supporters, particularly women in Germany, you might consider Claudia Koontz\'s challenging book, \"Mothers in the Fatherland: Women, the Family and Nazi Politics.\"  In it she discusses the roles of various groups of women inplayed in Nazi Germany, both in their actions and their silence.\n\nI wish you well.', 0, '1', '', '', 8538, 258),
(8542, 5010, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com/blog/together-you-stand-divided-you-fall', '68.13.251.23', '2011-05-13 09:58:58', '2011-05-13 14:58:58', 'Don - Isn\'t it amazing how ANCIENT wisdom is the key to unlocking answers for every generation including today?  Thank you for reminding us that the answers have already been found, they just need to be applied!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
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(8543, 5010, 'Dana Theus', 'dtheus@magusconsulting.com', 'http://www.reclaimingleadership.com', '71.191.251.22', '2011-05-13 21:52:03', '2011-05-14 02:52:03', '\"Too many of those who have learned how to be excellent leaders don’t step up to the plate when it’s really needed out of fear.\"\n\nDon - I agree with you about this. I believe the greatest challenge to our world right now is the fear gripping everyone - not just leaders, but everyone who COULD be a leader if they weren\'t so afraid of failure, shame, poverty, sadness etc. Fear is the biggest inhibitor of leaders\' greatest potential - the ability to stand in their personal power and seek meaningful outcomes in the world, large and small. Standing united for a higher good is certainly part of that. Leaders who know their power and are skilled at helping others around them step into their power too, will be the ones to save us. I think this goes beyond just being united in purpose and goes to a willingness to set aside personal ego in the interests of group power and potential.\n\nThanks for the thought provoking article. Look forward to reading more.\n\nDana', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8544, 5010, 'Denise W. Barreto', 'mdwilmer@att.net', 'http://www.relationshipsmatternow.com', '108.68.189.33', '2011-05-16 19:40:10', '2011-05-17 00:40:10', 'Great post. I agree with so many points. Character is in short supply these days and folks who have it often suffer but always sleep peacefully.\n\nI\'ll be tweeting this post and linking it to my Relationships Matter Now Facebook page', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8545, 5010, 'Don Shapiro', 'donshapiro@firstconcepts.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/donshapiro/', '71.121.43.189', '2011-05-16 19:58:28', '2011-05-17 00:58:28', 'Chery, yes I\'m always amazed at what I found when I start digging into the past. We are not the first people to experience troubles nor find ways to address them . There is a lot of wisdom out there. No need to reinvent the wheel. Just modernize it for today\'s times.', 0, '1', '', '', 8542, 261),
(8546, 5010, 'Don Shapiro', 'donshapiro@firstconcepts.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/donshapiro/', '71.121.43.189', '2011-05-16 20:04:41', '2011-05-17 01:04:41', 'Dana, it seems to me that there is more fear around us than I remember from the past. Maybe it\'s just a perceptual thing but our times seem to have made so many fearful about so much. Ego is a part of this but I\'m not sure it\'s the whole explanation. Many people are just trying to get by and protect what they have. Considering what they have seen happen around them, it is a natural reaction. Yet, things are not what they could be because not enough people have been willing to stand up and lead. Leadership does take courage. We have to trust ourselves and trust that others will believe us and follow along.\n\nWe also have to recognize that the act of leadership is not easy. Often times, people know there will be hardships, resistance and more to something. Today, many people don\'t want to make waves and so they shy away from these types of challenges.\n\nYou are right. When people can step outside of themselves and think of what\'s best for others, their fear can melt away and they can often find the strength to lead.', 0, '1', '', '', 8543, 261),
(8547, 5010, 'Don Shapiro', 'donshapiro@firstconcepts.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/donshapiro/', '71.121.43.189', '2011-05-16 20:07:25', '2011-05-17 01:07:25', 'Denise, Glad you liked it. I appreciate your sharing this with others. One of the things I keep thinking about is where does character start. Seems to me it starts in the home. So if we don\'t have enough people with character out there, what does this say about our current parenting practices? Maybe parent retraining is a part of the solution! I\'ll check out your Facebook page.', 0, '1', '', '', 8544, 261),
(8548, 5010, 'Denise', 'denise@relationshipsmatternow.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/denisewbarreto/', '108.68.189.33', '2011-05-16 20:25:06', '2011-05-17 01:25:06', 'Yes, Don you are correct... it starts at home and unfortunately, basic parenting are also in short supply due to the crushing trajectory of the \"family\". Family is not only about blood but it\'s also about community and accountability for one another. It pains me to hear of a family breaking apart and that is why I know my life\'s work - to revolutionize relationships on planet Earth  - is indeed my calling and I\'m working day and night to help folks proactively care for all the relationships in their lives', 0, '1', '', '', 8547, 0),
(8549, 5010, 'Sanjay', 'sg.asia@rediffmail.com', '', '59.178.130.36', '2011-05-17 02:26:57', '2011-05-17 07:26:57', 'I think apart from Courage and Character, Competence is of prime importance. Competence breeds confidence', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8550, 5010, 'Dana Theus', 'dtheus@magusconsulting.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/dtheus/', '71.191.251.22', '2011-05-17 19:40:44', '2011-05-18 00:40:44', 'There is more fear now than there used to be, but I don\'t think it\'s because times are tougher. Goodness, look at the conditions people survived through history. If I had to venture a guess at the reason, it might be because leadership is becoming democratized and more \"average bears\" can now be leaders. Leaders used to be groomed or self-made heroes, now leadership is accessible to EVERYONE. We used to let our leaders manage our fears for us, and with dispersed power and influence comes dispersed fear - and opportunities to overcome it.\n\nI haven\'t thought about it this way before. Interested in people\'s thoughts. Thanks for the good conversation!', 0, '1', '', '', 8546, 287),
(8551, 5010, 'Don Shapiro', 'donshapiro@firstconcepts.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/donshapiro/', '71.121.43.189', '2011-05-17 19:47:38', '2011-05-18 00:47:38', 'Dana, you have raised a very interesting question. I would like to hear from more people at Lead Change about what they feel is causing all this fear. While we do have a society where anyone can be a leader, there is still some type of filtering process for a leader to arrive at a very influential position. They have to go through a lot of hoops and have some credentials usually. Yet, those at this level are showing fear too....or the opposite...pandering the crowd.', 0, '1', '', '', 8550, 261),
(8552, 5010, 'Dana Theus', 'dtheus@magusconsulting.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/dtheus/', '71.191.251.22', '2011-05-18 21:40:52', '2011-05-19 02:40:52', 'Don - your question got me thinking on another blog post, but I too will look to see if other people have ideas about why all the fear. In the meantime, I pinged this post on another issue. I referenced this post in a blog that\'s going up tomorrow on Scwharzenegger and Strauss-Kahn (http://reclaimingleadership.com/?p=633). Let me know what you think.', 0, '1', '', '', 8551, 287),
(8553, 5010, 'Schwarzenegger and Strauss-Kahn Give Away Their Power Long Before The World Found Out | Reclaiming Leadership', '', 'http://reclaimingleadership.com/when-did-strauss-kahn-give-away-his-power-before-the-world-found-out/', '184.168.152.19', '2011-05-19 05:55:31', '2011-05-19 10:55:31', '[...] &#8220;They&#8217;re going to keep letting me get away with this as long as I can point to results and don&#8217;t get caught. And even if I do get caught, I&#8217;ll get a lot of attention.&#8221; Or. &#8220;How can I ever be perfect enough not to go down in flames if I achieve a position of worldly power? I don&#8217;t want that pressure.&#8221; (This latter point may be part of the answer to the question Don Shapiro posed in his blog post earlier this week &#8220;Where are the leaders with the courage and character to unite us all?&#8220;). [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8554, 5010, 'Jason T.', 'jasontapp1@att.net', 'http://trueaimconsulting.com', '99.72.223.96', '2011-05-20 15:18:09', '2011-05-20 20:18:09', 'I love this post, the thread of character, courage and \"connection\" through history.  I have a blog post about Character and Courage at Work at my company website.  Don I agree with you and the others about the paralyzing fear that grips most of our potential leaders.  I believe a large part of it is ego.  To develop power and influence these days it often requires a track record of visible results and many credentials in one\'s field.  The people who seek power usually do so as an ego-building or even kingdom-building process.  The over-inflated egos are like helium balloons on the verge of popping...the bigger they get the less they try to stray from the vertical path in order to avoid running into any sharp corners.  Power-mongers are not leaders...I like to think of them as sheep in wolves clothing.\n\nTrue leaders have humility and embrace the idea that others, no matter how big or small their balloon is, may have a valid perspective.  True leaders seek out the perspectives of others, in particular opposing perspectives, to help make their positions even stronger.  It also has the benefit of making their connections with others stronger.  And when they have exercised due diligence and mindfulness in crafting their position, they will stand up for what they believe with conviction.\n\nThese days too many potential leaders don\'t open themselves up to opposing opinions, and don\'t stand up for their own positions, for fear that they will lose the small sphere of influence that they do have...which eventually has the inverse effect as their world continually changes around them.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8555, 5010, 'MAPping Company Success', '', 'http://mappingcompanysuccess.com/2011/06/june-leadership-development-carnival%e2%80%94commencement-edition/', '72.167.93.81', '2011-06-06 03:18:58', '2011-06-06 08:18:58', '[...] post It Takes Courage and Character to Unify People by Don Shapiro appears on the multi-contributor site Lead Change Group Blog – Leaders Growing [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8556, 5010, 'Frank Bucaro', 'frank@frankbucaro.com', 'http://www.FrankBucaro.com', '97.118.16.129', '2011-06-06 13:12:18', '2011-06-06 18:12:18', '\"The crisis we face today isn’t about the techniques, methods and attributes of good leaders. We face a crisis of courage and character.\"\nThis is so true.   I always say that morale filters down, it never filters up.  If you don\'t have a leader with character and courage you are bound to see failure.\nThanks for the though provoking article.  I share it on my FaceBook Fan page.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8557, 5010, 'Schwarzenegger and Strauss-Kahn Gave Away Their Power Long Before The World Found Out - InPower Coaching -', '', 'http://dana-theus.preview136.rmkr.net/when-did-strauss-kahn-give-away-his-power-before-the-world-found-out/', '192.241.255.28', '2015-11-30 23:00:28', '2015-12-01 04:00:28', '[&#8230;] &#8220;They&#8217;re going to keep letting me get away with this as long as I can point to results and don&#8217;t get caught. And even if I do get caught, I&#8217;ll get a lot of attention.&#8221; Or. &#8220;How can I ever be perfect enough not to go down in flames if I achieve a position of worldly power? I don&#8217;t want that pressure.&#8221; (This latter point may be part of the answer to the question Don Shapiro posed in his blog post earlier this week &#8220;Where are the leaders with the courage and character to unite us all?&#8220;). [&#8230;]', 0, '0', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8558, 5024, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com/blog/the-heart-of-a-leader', '68.13.251.23', '2011-05-16 08:23:00', '2011-05-16 13:23:00', 'Great Post Mike!  I could not agree more!  \"It is about finding purpose in the misfortune and intentionally learning from it that makes the difference.\"\n\nFor me finding purpose in a time like that came from this quote From Bruce Wilkinson\'s book The Dream Giver:  “The single best way to develop leaders is to take people out of their safe environments, and away from the people they know, and throw them into a new arena they know little about.  Way over their head, preferably.  In fact the more demanding their challenges, the more pressure and risk they face, the more likely a dynamic leader will emerge.”', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8559, 5024, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '12.187.241.98', '2011-05-16 16:46:12', '2011-05-16 21:46:12', 'Thanks for the comment Chery.  The more I read about vision and purpose, like with Full Steam Ahead, the more I\'m convinced that great vision and purpose solve many ills.  I\'ve said before that problems focus us but it\'s not the problem so much as it is a focus on the solution.  When our purpose is noble and the gap between that purpose and where we are is felt and real, much can be accomplished.\n\nThanks again.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8558, 243),
(8560, 5024, 'Garry Trammell', 'gltram@me.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/garrytrammell/', '50.33.255.220', '2011-05-16 18:43:58', '2011-05-16 23:43:58', 'Mike, this post is an absolute gem of wisdom!\n\nI especially love \"And, the greater the purpose, the greater the misfortune it can help you overcome. Great misfortune inspires you to reach to a great purpose to pull you through. You won’t sacrifice for a wish, only a purpose. Great misfortune calls you to your greatest purpose – something outside yourself and greater than yourself. Focus on your greatest purpose to pull yourself through difficult times and achieve great results.\"\n\nThat kind of thinking, and purpose, has pulled me through several life \"crises\" and also resulted in the side benefit of shaping and maturing my children. Both types of thinking, with or without a purpose, leave a legacy. For those of us with children, I know which type of thinking, and purpose, I want to embrace.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8561, 5024, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '12.187.241.98', '2011-05-16 18:56:21', '2011-05-16 23:56:21', 'Garry, thanks for the comment.  You\'re correct, with or without a purpose, we will leave a legacy.  And we won\'t get to make excuses for it or blame anyone or anything for our legacy either.  Thanks for the great reminder.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8560, 243),
(8562, 5024, 'Denise W. Barreto', 'mdwilmer@att.net', 'http://www.relationshipsmatternow.com', '108.68.189.33', '2011-05-16 19:52:58', '2011-05-17 00:52:58', 'Mike - you are on point! It was from great misfortune in my personal life in 2008 that I recovered and found my life\'s work... revolutionizing relationships on planet Earth, one at a time. Now I am certain that no matter what comes my way - I can not only survive but thrive because I have a clear purpose for what I want to do the rest of my life. I would not trade the circumstances that got me here for anything.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8563, 5024, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-05-20 12:29:26', '2011-05-20 17:29:26', 'Denise, I\'m glad for you.  I often find myself wanting to trade, but realizing that I\'m probably better off.  I can \"remember\" concepts like this much better in the past or when they\'re not happening directly to me.  Thanks for making it personal.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8562, 243),
(8564, 5029, 'Pete Friedes', 'pfriedes@mac.com', 'http://www.managingpeoplebetter.com', '68.175.120.48', '2011-05-22 08:12:58', '2011-05-22 13:12:58', 'I have another example of the same principle. When we were selecting partners (when Hewitt Associates was a partnership), we\'d ask all existing partners to appraise all the candidates they worked with. Invariably, their evaluation would be centered on their own strong traits; actuaries would evaluate a candidate on the accuracy and precision of his/her work, or salespeople would evaluate a candidate on his/her social skills. The best evaluators were partners who appreciated strengths they did not possess themselves.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8565, 5029, 'James Coakes', 'james@coakes6548.fsnet.co.uk', 'http://www.teambuilding.co.uk', '95.149.116.190', '2011-05-22 08:44:28', '2011-05-22 13:44:28', 'Sometimes a fun team building exercise is just what a team needs. Time away from the office for some fun informal social bonding. At other times they need more than that; a facilitated session looking at issues within the team. I have been providing fun and serious team building events for more than 20 years and most of the times clients know what they need and choose the right approach.\n\nThe problem is that fun and serious team building are assessed under the same banner, when actually they are completely different things.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8566, 5029, 'Team Building Pro', 'bookings@victorsfood.com.au', 'http://www.victorsfood.com.au/food-teambuilding.shtml', '144.131.84.214', '2011-05-22 19:01:24', '2011-05-23 00:01:24', 'This is an interesting perspective on \'teams\' in general but somewhat negative! Teams can only be successful if lead with open, honest and clear communication and expectation I agree, but not every team is chosen by those that lead, there are oftent leadership and staff changes that require more consistent solutions. There are many highly recommended team building organisations who can support or maintain these goals so that negativity does not get in the way of teams reaching their common goals unimpeded by varying personality traits and attitudes.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8567, 5029, 'Why Your Team Building Exercise Won\'t Build a Team - Lead Change Group | All Things Management: People &amp; Organizations | Scoop.it', '', 'http://www.scoop.it/t/all-things-management-people-organizations/p/516080988/why-your-team-building-exercise-won-t-build-a-team-lead-change-group', '89.30.105.121', '2011-10-04 19:16:29', '2011-10-05 00:16:29', '[...]  Why Your Team Building Exercise Won&#039;t Build a Team - Lead Change Group           &quot;We teach what we know; we attract what we are.&quot; Those 10 words from Seth Godin at the Chick-fil-A Leadercast 2011 seem simple enough. Maybe...     Source: leadchangegroup.com [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8568, 17905, 'Mark Sturgell CBC', 'askthecoach@pdncoach.com', 'http://purposeandnow.com', '98.214.227.160', '2011-04-28 06:39:24', '2011-04-28 11:39:24', 'Chuck,\n\nYou\'ve touched on something that I discuss with people all the time, and given it excellent treatment.  Great article.  Sometimes called the Platinum Rule, that of which you speak is actually the Golden Rule properly applied, perhaps?\n\nGolden Rule: Do unto others as I would have them do unto me. I want to be treated like I want to be treated. So if I treat others like I want to be treated, I will treat them the way they want to be treated.\n\nIndeed, this is much more challenging (and rewarding) than just treating them with my preferences.  I must come to know them (I love the line and its special meaning from the movie \"Avatar\" - \"I see you.\").  Author Kevin Hall (\"Aspire\") would use the word Genshai to describe how we treat people.\n\nIn Christianity, the Golden Rule (Matthew 7:12, Luke 6:31) should be taken in the context of the 2nd Great Commandment (Matthew 28-29, \"Love your neighbor as yourself.\"), but even that is often taken out of context and is mistake as the Great Commandment, which is \'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.\".  Do the first and in doing the second you will indeed treat/love others as you treat/love yourself.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8569, 17905, 'Chuck Hebert', 'chuck.b.hebert@gmail.com', 'http://management411.net', '72.5.238.66', '2011-04-28 10:28:44', '2011-04-28 15:28:44', 'Mark,\n\nThanks for the comment and the great perspective.  I also appreciate the reference to the Avatar movie (\"I see you.\")  That is a great quote and has great meaning!  Cheers!', 0, '1', '', '', 8568, 0),
(8570, 17905, 'Leadership and The Golden Rule | Management 4-1-1', '', 'http://management411.net/leadership-and-the-golden-rule/', '184.168.193.70', '2011-04-28 16:17:45', '2011-04-28 21:17:45', '[...] 28th, 2011 Chuck Hebert Leave a comment Go to commentsToday’s blog entry is a quick summary of a post I guest authored for the Lead Change Group.  You can check out the original article, Does the [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8571, 17905, 'Susie Amundson', 'susie@wiseatwork.net', 'http://www.wiseatwork.net', '98.247.85.34', '2011-04-28 17:17:20', '2011-04-28 22:17:20', 'Hi Chuck.\n\nThanks for sharing your lessons and insights of the Golden Rule at work. Treating others as one would be treated means something perhaps different to me. Each human being desires respect, unconditional positive regard, and kindness. (It\'s pretty universal in all wisdom traditions.)\n\nWhen we enact this principle in the workplace, we certainly see our colleagues\' individuation, preferences, nature, and temperament. And then, our daily interactions in workplace activities are truly more in line with our colleagues\' wholeness.\n\nLeadership truly is not for the faint of heart! Each of us has so many lessons to learn.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8572, 17905, 'Connie McKnight', 'connie@conniemcknight.com', 'http://conniemcknight.com', '70.65.169.59', '2011-04-28 17:48:44', '2011-04-28 22:48:44', 'Chuck, That\'s brilliant really. I\'ve always tried to follow the golden rule, but I never really thought about it in the light your story showed. You\'re absolutely right. If a person is private, they would hate to be recognized. By getting to know them and treating them in the manner they would like to be treated, they would feel respected and cared for. I\'m sure they\'d end up a more loyal employee.\n\nThis makes so much sense, I think I\'m going to follow your rule and incorporate into my teachings. Thank you.\n\nConnie', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8573, 17905, 'Chuck Hebert', 'chuck.b.hebert@gmail.com', 'http://management411.net', '72.5.238.66', '2011-04-28 18:12:56', '2011-04-28 23:12:56', 'Connie, Glad you found this nugget of information valuable.  Best of luck implementing this new way of thinking!  Cheers!', 0, '1', '', '', 8572, 0),
(8574, 17905, 'Chuck Hebert', 'chuck.b.hebert@gmail.com', 'http://management411.net', '72.5.238.66', '2011-04-28 18:15:47', '2011-04-28 23:15:47', 'Susie, Thanks for sharing your thoughts - well said!  Best to you!', 0, '1', '', '', 8571, 0),
(8575, 17905, 'Monica Diaz', 'monica@e-quidam.com', 'http://www.e-quidam.com/theblog', '189.228.5.54', '2011-04-28 23:42:53', '2011-04-29 04:42:53', 'Nice article! I like to say that treating people in the organization fairly has to do with treating them as unique individuals. Getting to know them, understanding their needs, contributions and requirements is vital to good leadership.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8576, 17905, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.wordpress.com/', '69.125.141.196', '2011-04-29 08:16:23', '2011-04-29 13:16:23', 'Great post!  I think when recognizing our employee, it is best to treat them like snowflakes.  Each one is different therefore you need to find a way how that person wants to be recognized.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8577, 17905, 'Karah', 'aned@ucl.dk', 'http://www.bing.com/', '115.94.114.219', '2011-11-13 07:58:00', '2011-11-13 13:58:00', 'If I comumcniated I could thank you enough for this, I\'d be lying.', 0, '1', '', '', 8569, 0),
(8578, 17906, 'Deborah Connolly', 'deborah@creativeleadershipcoach.com', 'http://www.creativeleadershipcoach.com', '184.152.53.229', '2011-05-04 08:08:44', '2011-05-04 13:08:44', 'Thank you, this is a good read!\n\nTrue leaders can be cultivated as well, and well thought out collaboration with their team members will always increase overall effectiveness and morale.\n\nDeborah Connolly', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8579, 17906, 'Tara R. Alemany', 'alewebsocial@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/alewebsocial/', '68.191.55.98', '2011-05-04 10:16:17', '2011-05-04 15:16:17', 'Thanks for commenting, Deborah! I\'m glad you enjoyed the post.\n\nIt\'s true that leaders can be cultivated as well. I believe that there\'s a mentoring component to leadership that raises up the next generation of leaders. Being intentional in our interactions with others increases the bonding that takes place between us, and makes it possible to identify each others\' giftedness. By being aware of those talents, it helps leaders grow up other leaders, as well as helping leaders grow other unique talents as well.', 0, '1', '', '', 8578, 259),
(8580, 17906, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com', '68.13.251.23', '2011-05-04 14:13:58', '2011-05-04 19:13:58', 'I love the analogy Tara!  You paint a very clear vision of success!  Thank you for sharing!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8581, 17906, 'Tara Alemany', 'alewebsocial@gmail.com', 'http://alewebsocial.com', '68.191.55.98', '2011-05-04 14:28:18', '2011-05-04 19:28:18', 'I\'m glad that you enjoyed it, Chery! It was hard to resist the analogy at this time of year. :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 8580, 0),
(8582, 17906, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '76.26.161.97', '2011-05-05 07:38:26', '2011-05-05 12:38:26', 'This is a great metaphor for leadership Tara.  You have me thinking deeper about the notion of asking yourself what individuals really need from you - do people need light or shade?  Light can be encouragement, and it can also be putting someone in the spotlight.  Shade can mean keeping competing demands at bay so they can focus on a critical project, or perhaps even protecting them from political fallout.  Still thinking...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 244),
(8583, 17906, 'Tara R. Alemany', 'alewebsocial@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/alewebsocial/', '68.191.55.98', '2011-05-05 08:48:05', '2011-05-05 13:48:05', 'Thanks, Susan! I\'m glad you enjoyed it. This was a fun post to write. The idea first came to me during the winter months, but it really clung to me and clamored to be written when I started working on my garden this year. I love the concept of intentionality, of being purposeful in life and not just letting life pass you by. The more I thought about it, while getting my garden going, the more correlations I saw between the gardening process and being an intentional leader.\n\nThere are those leaders who can get by for some time on charisma alone. But over time, the attraction fades. Leaders who seek to learn and continue to refine the art of leadership, like those of us here in the Lead Change group, leave a lasting legacy, much as a master gardener plans for the future, harvesting and saving heirloom seeds for future plantings, cultivating the best qualities of the plants they grow.\n\nThe analogy just keeps going... :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 8582, 259),
(8584, 17907, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '12.187.241.98', '2011-05-17 06:33:46', '2011-05-17 11:33:46', 'Jane,\n\nI also loved their book by the same title.  We should ask it of ourselves much more frequently.\n\nMany times we think that \"WIn-Win\" means \"pleasant-in-the-short-run-for-all-involved\" and that\'s naive.  Much of the most beneficial lessons I learned were painful and some were costly.  Some of the leaders who helped me learn those lessons did so in a helpful way.  Some added baggage.  Being genuine and sincere and trying to understand things from my perspective helped.\n\nWe do need to let it be OK for people to fail, and I\'d add \"once\" rather than occasionally.  If you continue to make the same failures, that\'s a problem.  If each failure is new, keep learning.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(8585, 17907, 'Dale Lawrence', 'dale.quantumtrends@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/eaglesflite/', '75.47.108.122', '2011-05-17 08:02:17', '2011-05-17 13:02:17', 'So many great points touched on in this post that each could be addressed in a deeper perspective. For example, the \"intervene early and constructively\" was an excellent point which could even be said to begin the moment you first meet a new worker. If structure, expectations, and guidelines are established from the beginning from a warm and welcoming perspective and  the rest of the points are followed, then for many individuals there is an excellent atmosphere for growth and success.\n\nDale', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8586, 17907, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://getyourbigon.com', '76.23.122.124', '2011-05-17 16:07:36', '2011-05-17 21:07:36', 'Mike -\n\nI agree with you that leaders should be constantly mindful of their impact on others AND assess their worthiness to lead. Sometimes leaders take their leadership for granted and lose touch. That\'s painful for everyone!\n\nDebriefs to determine the \"teachable moment\" always worked for me after failures. Repeating the same teachable moment becomes a \"skill or will\" situation.\n\nWith a smile,\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8587, 17907, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://getyourbigon.com', '76.23.122.124', '2011-05-17 16:09:30', '2011-05-17 21:09:30', 'Dale -\n\nI\'m with you -- a huge fan of early assimilation exercises and communication. Putting things up and out there from the get-go can make all the positive difference!\n\nSmiling,\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8588, 17907, 'Friday Favs 5.20.11 &laquo; Get Your Leadership BIG On!', '', '', '76.74.255.104', '2011-05-20 06:12:49', '2011-05-20 11:12:49', '[...] It&#8217;s the ultimate leadership balance beam act between task completion and relationship. Being tough and tender. Having high standards and high touch. The article is a great reminder to periodically hit your own [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8589, 17908, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '76.26.161.97', '2011-05-18 08:23:29', '2011-05-18 13:23:29', 'What a fantastic interview Dan.  Thanks for helping us all to get to know Steve better.  He has continued to be an inspiration to me since meeting him last year at Leaderpalooza last year.  He is most definitely someone we can all learn a lot from about leadership and life.\n\nLooking forward to getting to know the Lead Change community through your interviews!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 244),
(8590, 17908, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-05-18 15:30:53', '2011-05-18 20:30:53', 'When you first started talking about the loafer, I thought <a href=\"http://dai.ly/irRph3\" rel=\"nofollow\">of this Abbott & Costello video</a>.  Check it out.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(8591, 17908, 'Tara Alemany', 'alewebsocial@gmail.com', 'http://alewebsocial.com', '68.191.55.98', '2011-05-19 12:26:01', '2011-05-19 17:26:01', 'Thanks for this interview, Dan. I enjoyed reading it. Steve was the first \"stranger\" I connected with when I delved into the world of Twitter. Soon after I started following him, I received a DM indicating that he was happy I was following him, and that he would never try to sell me anything. At first, I thought that was very odd. It gave me a bit of a \"heads up\" as to what I could expect from Twitter. But I loved the non-threatening nature of his content, and continued to follow him. As I learned more and more about Twitter and using it for business, I found myself continually returning to Steve\'s reassuring message. He was (and is) a significant role model to me as I developed my own personal \"Twitter style,\" and I\'ve always valued that!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8592, 17908, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-05-19 13:10:01', '2011-05-19 18:10:01', 'I also met Steve at Leaderpalooza and am continually struck by his twitter impact.  He is genuinely kind, sincere in his desire to promote leadership, and funny to boot.  Thank you for this wonderful interview.  BTW, Steve is from Minnesota.  I have a soft spot for midwestern folk!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 258),
(8593, 5021, 'Mike Myatt', 'm.myatt@n2growth.com', 'http://www.n2growth.com/blog', '76.115.133.249', '2011-05-21 11:25:59', '2011-05-21 16:25:59', 'Hi Jennifer:\n\nThanks for stimulating my thinking on this topic. I enjoyed your post and your 8 tips. That said, I found the HBS research less than credible. For a different perspective on the value of CEO time spent externally please read my thoughts here: http://www.n2growth.com/blog/valid-research', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8594, 5033, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com/blog.php', '68.13.251.23', '2011-05-23 18:44:51', '2011-05-23 23:44:51', 'Chad,\n\nYour McDonald\'s Big Mac analogy was awesome!  Ken Blanchard talks about how we have to impact someone\'s knowledge, before we can impact their attitude, and how we have to impact their attitude before we can impact their behavior.\n\nMcDonald\'s accomplished all of that by making it fun and repeating the message.\n\nBy the way, “Two all beef patties, special sauce, lettuce, cheese, pickles, onions, on a sesame seed bun\" is now playing over and over in my head!  Thanks!\n\nChery', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8595, 5045, 'Heather Coleman-Voss', 'heathercolemanvoss@gmail.com', '', '69.14.182.16', '2011-05-28 16:38:39', '2011-05-28 21:38:39', 'Note: The original title of this post was \"You Can\'t Fake Authenticity.\" My good friend Jacqui Barrett-Poindexter (<a href=\"http://leadchangegroup.com/members/valueintowords/\" rel=\"nofollow\"><a href=\"http://leadchangegroup.com/members/valueintowords/\" rel=\"nofollow\">@ValueIntoWords</a></a>) tweeted it out along with \"The Value of Being Active in Social Media.\" I loved it, and for this re-post changed the title accordingly.\n\nThanks to Jacqui for creating this new title, which I feel is much more descriptive of what Ron and I intended with this post!\n\n<a href=\"http://leadchangegroup.com/members/heatherecoleman/\" rel=\"nofollow\"><a href=\"http://leadchangegroup.com/members/heatherecoleman/\" rel=\"nofollow\">@HeatherEColeman</a></a>', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 262),
(8596, 5045, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-05-28 18:27:58', '2011-05-28 23:27:58', 'You\'re both right.  You can\'t fake authenticity either.  Thanks for the great post.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8595, 243),
(8597, 5045, '1pageproposal', 'joanna@1-page.com', 'http://www.1-page.com', '216.218.134.10', '2011-05-29 05:28:23', '2011-05-29 10:28:23', 'Great article! Thanks for showing the good and the bad of of social media. This is so important for job-seekers to know and implement! Glad to share a number of times :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8598, 5045, 'Stephan De Villiers', 'stephan@incrementalsuccess.org', 'http://www.incrementalsuccess.org', '196.210.238.241', '2011-05-31 08:13:43', '2011-05-31 13:13:43', 'I think it is important to understand, as indicated in your article, that social media can be both a blessing and a curse.  You make a valid point that on the social media platforms, \"Private\" does not mean Invisible.  In order to make social media work for you, you have to keep your potential unintended audience always in mind.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8599, 5048, 'Wayne McEvilly', 'mcevillymozart@gmail.com', 'http://waynemcevilly.blogspot.com', '108.85.121.20', '2011-05-26 06:32:17', '2011-05-26 11:32:17', 'Mike Henry:\nI was quite happy to discover this site - one of the graces of my morning twitter session - I am in the process of a total renewal of my mind and outlook on life. It is a subtle and yet massive enterprise. So much stands out in the body of your text but I will take this thought away with me as perhaps the most useful single point: \"Attention is scarce.\" The implications of this fact are vast, and one of them is that it serves as a vivid reminder-When someone pays attention to you and your work, your writing, your blog, you tweet, demonstrate grace by truly acknowledging that attention. Give yourself the gift of gratitude by expressing gratitude to others.\nI love blogposts that get me to thinking. This did that.\nThank you.\nWayne', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8600, 5048, 'Katie', 'katie.stroud@live.com', 'http://twitter.com/katiestroudpro', '75.165.24.128', '2011-05-26 11:19:49', '2011-05-26 16:19:49', 'A teacher once said about my sister: she\'s a leader who needs no followers, but she\'s also a follower who needs no leaders. She had a lot of energy to inject without any thought of reward. It simply makes her day to be connected. That\'s leading with grace.\n\nThanks for the post, Mike.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8601, 5048, 'Jennifer V. Miller', 'jmiller@people-equation.com', 'http://people-equation.com', '76.235.201.149', '2011-05-26 13:33:36', '2011-05-26 18:33:36', 'Hey, Mike,\n\nNow it\'s my turn to say \"thanks for the book review\"-- this one slipped passed me and I look foward to reading it.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8602, 5048, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-05-27 06:49:34', '2011-05-27 11:49:34', 'Thanks for the comment Wayne.  I\'m glad it got you thinking.  Seth Godin always does that for me too.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8599, 243),
(8603, 5048, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-05-27 06:52:20', '2011-05-27 11:52:20', 'Thank you Katie.  There are many ways to describe the way our energy produces benefit for others.  I appreciate the use of the word \"grace\" because it makes us think.  I don\'t use that word as often as I should, and that makes me think too.  It\'s a great little book.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8600, 243),
(8604, 5051, 'Juan', 'efu060n6cr@outlook.com', 'http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100003469659233', '83.173.140.20', '2015-12-10 06:10:09', '2015-12-10 11:10:09', 'Derek   Another great post!  My mantra sunrdunoirg culture has always been executive leadership commitment.  As an organic matter, cultures exist either with leadership direction or without; cultures can be developed and managed, but it takes a systemic, long term approach involving all aspects of the business.  Check out the  Conscious Capitalism\' movement; I think they have found the model for the 21st century.  Thanks.JB', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8605, 5054, 'Mark Sturgell CBC', 'askthecoach@pdncoach.com', 'http://purposeandnow.com', '98.214.227.160', '2011-06-10 09:51:15', '2011-06-10 14:51:15', 'Mike,\n\nNice job here. I have long been a proponent of \"there are only two ways to change an organization: 1) Change the leaders or 2) Change leaders.\"  Thanks for joining the chorus.\n\nMark Sturgell\nHelping people with dreams becoming leaders with vision.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8606, 5054, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-06-10 10:02:56', '2011-06-10 15:02:56', 'Mark, as always, you put it much more elegantly and succinctly than I did.  Thanks for that simple, yet profound phrase.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8605, 243),
(8607, 5054, 'Beyond Horizons', 'beyondhorizonspune@gmail.com', 'http://www.beyondhorizons.in', '61.17.75.116', '2011-06-15 02:42:40', '2011-06-15 07:42:40', 'A very insightful post. And very relevant as well.\nLeadership, these days, means so much more than it used to. It is not enough anymore to just be able to \'plan and execute\' business strategies, or see that work gets done. Wise leadership, that has a strong ethical and moral base, rather than just the ability to be efficient, has become the need of the hour. Wise leaders bring about changes and improvements in the people that work with and for them. As they move forward and grow, they take their people with them.It is only fair to ask the current leaders to incorporate these changes.\n\n- Sindoora (http://beyondhorizons.in)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8608, 5054, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '64.241.37.140', '2011-06-15 11:12:56', '2011-06-15 16:12:56', 'Thanks for the comment.  I agree it\'s fair and desirable that current leaders would recognize and adapt some of the changes that are happening.  But it\'s hard for people who aren\'t experiencing any \"pain\" to actually change their behavior.  Generally when we\'re comfortable is when we\'re least likely to do anything differently.  Here\'s to hoping.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8607, 243),
(8609, 5080, 'Jon M', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jhmertz/', '216.149.208.9', '2011-06-03 07:21:44', '2011-06-03 12:21:44', 'The two core areas you outline are essential. As Jim Tressel has fallen, I keep wondering how someone can lose their purpose and values when making some decisions. The conclusion I came to was accountability, and two types are really required -- internal and external. Given all this, I would suggest adding accountability as the third core area.\n\nGreat post and discussion. Thank you.\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 290),
(8610, 5080, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '99.17.7.206', '2011-06-03 11:22:04', '2011-06-03 16:22:04', 'Jon,\nAccountability is definitely core and a good addition to the list.  I believe, Jon, that we abandon accountability when our internal compass misguides us.  And this compass is informed by the values we stand for.  And when a person like Jim Tressel falls hard it\'s in part a betrayal of this own values.  As you added to this conversation, Jim turned his back on holding himself accountable to following his values, or he has never spent the time getting clear on what they are for him.\n\nOn Monday, the second part of the post will cover two additional core areas of Leadership on Purpose. Please come back and share your thoughts.  Have a good weekend, Jon.\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 248),
(8611, 5143, 'Speaking Agent', 'Saulfarber@gmail.com', 'http://Www.speakingagent.com', '198.228.194.36', '2011-06-02 06:15:08', '2011-06-02 11:15:08', 'Excellent Post!  I believe asking the employee if they are also aware if this limiting behavior is a key step.  In all honesty I think I have overlooked that myself in many situations.  Thank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8612, 5143, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-06-02 11:36:28', '2011-06-02 16:36:28', 'I think these steps are vital, no matter what you are trying to change.  People fail at all kinds of life changes...  trying to lose weight, quit smoking, start exercising, be more positive, change relationships, find a new job, etc., etc., etc..  There is definitely a failure of one of these steps in every failed change.  We all want things, but are unwilling to do the hard work to make the change.  Or we make chamge for others rather than for ourselves.  Sometimes we don\'t know what to do as well.  I think we can find the sources of our failures if we look hard at these steps and are honest with ourselves.  Thanks for a thoughtful post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 258),
(8613, 5146, 'Lissa Millspaugh', 'lmillspa@yahoo.com', 'http://www.winergyinc.com', '99.157.205.211', '2011-05-31 00:38:28', '2011-05-31 05:38:28', 'While I appreciate and celebrate the American military and their families, your question makes me think of a different kind of sacrifice, from which I\'ve directly benefited....\n\nHad it not been for the women in business who stood up for gender equality in the 60s and 70s, my life, and that of my children, would have been significantly diminished.  These women were demeaned and demonized; subjected to harassment and accused of destroying the fabric of our society.  In many cases, they were forced to choose between family and career.\n\nI never had to make such a choice.  I had the freedom to work hard and be judged on my own merits.  I was permitted to be the primary financial support of my family, and never discriminated against due to my gender, thanks to the pioneers of the women\'s movement, the legislators who championed their cause, and the everyday business people who recognized an injustice, and worked to overcome it.\n\nI will honor this sacrifice by striving to create business environments that celebrate diversity.  I was given a level playing field and will do all possible to ensure it\'s availability to all colleagues, present and future.  By being a leader who is color, gender, orientation blind, by being someone who builds meritocracies, I honor the sacrifices of the women who made this possible for me, and for my children.\n\nThanks for the thought exercise, Mike.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8614, 5146, 'Stephan De Villiers', 'stephan@incrementalsuccess.org', 'http://www.incrementalsuccess.org', '196.210.238.241', '2011-05-31 08:01:35', '2011-05-31 13:01:35', 'I like the way you discount the fact that those \"who make the most money, who are “in charge,” or who have the most authority\" is not necessarily the ideal Leadership model. I believe Leadership is exercised on an individual level as the small acts of ordinary people responding to the humanity in others. Leadership is not a concept but an action.  It is getting involved where it is sometimes uncomfortable, thereby increasing your circle of influence of one person at a time.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8615, 5146, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-05-31 09:42:11', '2011-05-31 14:42:11', 'Lissa, thanks for helping me finish the thought.  We all stand on the shoulders of those who went before us, for good or bad.  Sometimes I\'m tempted to whine about my circumstances and feel like a victim.  I\'ll take the good things, like an entitlement, provided by those who came before but I cry foul when confronted with solving a problem that was caused by those who came before.  Thanks for the great comment.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8613, 243),
(8616, 5146, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-05-31 09:47:33', '2011-05-31 14:47:33', 'Thanks for the comment Stephan.  The \"change\" we talk about in leadership (hence the name \"Lead Change\") is that leadership is not something you do; it is who you are.  We act like a leader because we are one, not simply because we\'re in the position of leadership.  It\'s hypocritical to behave like a leader on the outside; to go through the motions or to play the part because that\'s what we\'ve been assigned or that\'s how we think we\'re supposed to act.  We want to be a leader on the inside (character-based) and that means we exercise leadership on an individual level just as you mentioned above.  Thanks.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8614, 243),
(8617, 5155, 'Dana Theus', 'dtheus@magusconsulting.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/dtheus/', '173.66.99.148', '2011-06-08 07:05:46', '2011-06-08 12:05:46', 'Hi, Mary. I like your perspective here. I would add that to me, when you realize your decisions/ actions will lead to\" unliking\" you, its a signal that you may be missing an opportunity to use \"tough love\" or other approaches where people may not like what you DO but they will respect and/or like you more for doing it. This demonstrates the tension between what you do and how/why you do it. If you are conscious of these differences and manage them independently, you can also manage your likeability, which I agree is important.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 287),
(8618, 5155, 'Leigh Steere', 'Lsynthesis@aol.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/leighsteere/', '97.118.101.72', '2011-06-09 10:40:28', '2011-06-09 15:40:28', 'Mary, this post is a great discussion starter. I think all managers can benefit from thinking about this topic.\n\nSome managers (and employees) have a strong need to be liked. They make their decisions out of that need, sometimes erring toward the popular solution instead of the right solution. It\'s much easier and more fun to work with people we like and who like us. It\'s important, though, to think long-term. Sometimes, a \"tough love\" talk or an unpopular decision is the best course of action and the kindest thing to do--even if it results temporary relational discomfort.\n\nThat said, managers can take a tough stance too far -- by dictating instead of listening, by thinking results are more important than relationships. Deep down, I think these \"tough\" managers want to be liked, too, and may not recognize they are losing the benefit of their employees\' ideas and motivation.\n\nI agree with you: \"everything in moderation.\"\n\nBeing likeable at work doesn\'t mean being \"pals\" with everyone. It comes from being fair...being seen as a good listener who takes a variety of viewpoints into consideration...being viewed as someone who cares about the \"whole\" employee (respects work/life balance, wants to see employees grow professionally, etc.). If these things are in place, a manager can make tough calls, confront performance problems, produce great business results and still remain likeable.\n\nThanks for this thought-provoking post.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 268);
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(8619, 5155, 'Jon M', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jhmertz/', '72.48.93.4', '2011-06-09 17:34:31', '2011-06-09 22:34:31', 'Being likeable matters if it means being respectful. As you point out, making decisions just to be \"liked\" is not a solid approach. Challenging and tough decisions have to be made, but being respectful in how they are made and carried out is essential. Maybe this goes to the \"realness\" attribute.\n\nThanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 290),
(8620, 5155, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '69.253.58.224', '2011-06-09 18:06:57', '2011-06-09 23:06:57', 'Dana, that is a great additional insight to bring out: \"when you realize your decisions/ actions will lead to” unliking” you, its a signal that you may be missing an opportunity to use “tough love” or other approaches where people may not like what you DO but they will respect and/or like you more for doing it.\" - Absolutely agree.', 0, '1', '', '', 8617, 252),
(8621, 5155, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '69.253.58.224', '2011-06-09 18:10:51', '2011-06-09 23:10:51', 'Thanks Leigh!\n\n\"Sometimes, a “tough love” talk or an unpopular decision is the best course of action and the kindest thing to do–even if it results temporary relational discomfort.\" - Perfect.  I have said this to manager I coach so many times.  They are afraid of hurting someone or making them uncomfortable, but I remind them it\'s not kind to keep a hard truth from someone either.\n\nAlso: \"Being likeable at work doesn’t mean being “pals” with everyone.\" - People, employees and managers both can think being friendly means the same as being friends.  Good to pay close attention to all aspects of your intentions and how you are being perceived.\n\nThanks for continuing the discussion.', 0, '1', '', '', 8618, 252),
(8622, 5155, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '69.253.58.224', '2011-06-09 18:12:53', '2011-06-09 23:12:53', 'Thanks Jon.  Respect connected to realness. I like the thought and will think about it more.', 0, '1', '', '', 8619, 252),
(8623, 5160, 'Kate Nasser, The People-Skills Coach', 'info@katenasser.com', 'http://katenasser.com', '184.48.198.94', '2011-06-07 20:05:58', '2011-06-08 01:05:58', 'Hi Will,\nThis post inspires simple action with big results.  Love the four points because it shows the constant balance that every leader must develop.\n\nTruly an addition to the leadership discussion ..\nKate', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8624, 5160, 'Kelly Ketelboeter', 'kelly@theexperiencefactor.com', 'http://www.theexperiencefactor.com', '66.214.180.250', '2011-06-07 23:04:27', '2011-06-08 04:04:27', 'Hi Will,\n\nGreat post! I think you\'re point on failing to drop non-performing assets is a critical one. All too often I see leaders that accept poor performance in one area for excellent performance in another.  When they look the other way and ignore the poor performance they are actually endorsing it and others will follow suit.  This creates an unnecessary chain reaction.  Correcting performance isn\'t a bad thing.  It\'s actually what a leader does when they want to keep the employee.  Not a addressing a performance issue certainly doesn\'t help the employee, the team or the company overall.\n\nKelly', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8625, 5160, 'Beyond Horizons', 'beyondhorizonspune@gmail.com', 'http://www.beyondhorizons.in', '61.17.75.116', '2011-06-14 02:16:20', '2011-06-14 07:16:20', 'Hi Will,\nWell put!\nBut I\'d like to add one more mistake many leaders make - the failure to admit that, in certain cases, their employees might be more knowledgeable than them. Dismissing an input/opinion just because it comes from someone in a junior position may prove to be costly.\n\n- Girish (http://www.beyondhorizons.in)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8626, 5160, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.wordpress.com/', '173.63.233.110', '2011-06-14 12:56:56', '2011-06-14 17:56:56', 'Hi Kelly,\n\nLeaders are like anyone else, they need to address the non-performance to continue their quest to develop talent around them.  By not addressing the issue of non-performance, it will potentially affect their ability to succeed.\n\nThanks,\n\nWill Lukang', 0, '1', '', '', 8624, 0),
(8627, 5160, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.wordpress.com/', '173.63.233.110', '2011-06-14 13:03:13', '2011-06-14 18:03:13', 'Hi Girish,\n\nA true leaders know that they don\'t need to have all the answers.  It\'s their ability to inspire others to act is what make them leaders.   A leader motivate and help their constituents achieve goals they otherwise don\'t believe they can accomplish.   Thanks for sharing your thoughts.\n\nRegards,\n\nWill Lukang', 0, '1', '', '', 8625, 0),
(8628, 5178, 'June Topics &laquo; Leadership Chat', '', 'http://leadershipchat.wordpress.com/2011/03/04/this-month/', '72.233.96.150', '2011-06-13 10:54:42', '2011-06-13 15:54:42', '[...] 5 Things Every CEO Should Know About Talent Alignment – Lisa Petrilli (on the LeadChange [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8629, 5178, 'Meghan M. Biro', 'mbiro@talentculture.com', 'http://www.talentculture.com/founder/', '71.139.148.74', '2011-06-13 13:53:07', '2011-06-13 18:53:07', 'Important and impactful thoughts Lisa. You capture the idea of creating a magnetic leadership program succinctly here. Simulations are important for people to understand the dynamics involved. Often leaders who are \"magnetic\" have trouble when actually creating the next steps - this typically means attracting (recruiting) and nurturing (retaining) the right talent to support your business goals and dreams. Always a necessary step for growing leaders/organizations.\n\nI\'m particularly excited about our joint chat as we get an opportunity to collaborate our communities and merge intersecting ideas. Leadership, talent acquisition and retention = the vital ingredients that are essential to sustaining any workplace culture. People make this happen. Onward we go!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8630, 5178, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/lisapetrilli/', '98.222.78.7', '2011-06-13 14:08:51', '2011-06-13 19:08:51', 'Thank you, Meghan.  And I strongly agree with you in regard to simulations; they certainly bring natural leadership traits and weaknesses straight to the surface!\n\nI\'m thrilled to be joining forces with your community as well tomorrow night.  I know both communities are made up of people who want to excel at leadership and who know that a very critical piece of this is, as you say, recruitment and retention of the best people.  Yes, onward - and upward! See you tomorrow night.', 0, '1', '', '', 8629, 269),
(8631, 5178, 'Juan F Suarez', 'juanfsuarez@gmail.com', '', '208.100.40.37', '2011-06-13 16:00:03', '2011-06-13 21:00:03', 'Hi Lisa,\nI\'d like to add that meaning and purpose seem to be critical for better alignment. Sometimes organizational leaders pursue alignment of individual performance with organizational performance to achieve results, but I believe that aligning individual meaning and purpose with organizational meaning and purpose achieve greater levels of performance.\n\nAlignment is, no doubt, a critical leadership function. Meaning and purpose are, in my opinion, key references for leaders to achieve alignment.\n\nThank you for your very valuable contributions,\nJuan F Suarez\n<a href=\"http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jfsuarez/\" rel=\"nofollow\">@jfsuarez</a>', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8632, 5178, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/lisapetrilli/', '98.222.78.7', '2011-06-13 18:51:53', '2011-06-13 23:51:53', 'Juan,\n\nExcellent point and I absolutely agree.  I was getting at that a bit in point #5 - employees have to be the right fit, which includes knowing the role is aligned with their own sense of purpose in order to bring them a sense of fulfillment, which also comes from clarity of knowing that what they are doing is aligned with the greater vision for the organization.  You said it much more eloquently than I did. :)  All the very best and thank you for taking the time to read, reflect and to comment. It means a great deal to me!', 0, '1', '', '', 8631, 269),
(8633, 5178, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-06-14 06:02:28', '2011-06-14 11:02:28', 'Thanks for the thoughtful post Lisa.  One thing I thought of that you may have wrapped up in the \"fit\" bulled (#5) is that the role must fit the person too.  If the job doesn\'t accomplish the person\'s vision, they\'ll bail.  They might be capable and have the proper experience, they may enjoy their teammates, but if they don\'t like the work or if they feel the work takes them farther from their dreams rather than bringing them closer, eventually, you\'ll lose someone you thought \"was a great fit.\"  It has to fit them back.\n\nIf you can\'t tell, I just got finished reading The Element by Ken Robinson.  Thanks again.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(8634, 5178, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/lisapetrilli/', '98.222.78.7', '2011-06-14 06:26:15', '2011-06-14 11:26:15', 'Mike,\n\nBeautiful point.  I think you and Juan were both expressing this critical need for alignment not only from the CEO and company\'s point of view, but from the employee\'s perspective as well.\n\nAnd it\'s a poignant reality.  If we don\'t love our jobs and if they don\'t fit with our own personal vision and mission then our hearts aren\'t it in, and thus we\'re not really in it.\n\nThanks for your insights and inspiration, Mike!', 0, '1', '', '', 8633, 269),
(8635, 5178, '5 Things Every CEO Should Know About Talent Alignment &#8211; Lead Change Group &laquo; Tech4buziness', '', 'http://tech4buziness.com/2011/06/5-things-every-ceo-should-know-about-talent-alignment-lead-change-group/', '213.251.189.204', '2011-06-14 23:46:23', '2011-06-15 04:46:23', '[...] via Lead Change Group.        Cliquez ici pour annuler la réponse. [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8636, 5178, '#TChat Preview: Magnetic Leadership Attracts Top Talent | Career Management and Workplace Culture Blog | TalentCulture.com', '', 'http://www.talentculture.com/culture/tchat-preview-magnetic-leadership-attracts-top-talent/', '74.220.215.63', '2011-09-08 15:52:00', '2011-09-08 20:52:00', '[...] 5 Things Every CEO Should Know About Talent Alignment by Lisa [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8637, 5181, 'Erin Schreyer', 'eschreyer@sagestone-partners.com', 'http://www.sagestone-partners.com', '184.57.239.217', '2011-06-11 07:41:30', '2011-06-11 12:41:30', 'Thanks for posting this, Mike!!  This may be the most FUN project I\'ve worked on - bringing life to these important words that I know Lead Change lives and breathes every day!!\n\nLet\'s keep encouraging each other and the rest of the world...because we CAN make a difference!!!\n\nLEAD ON, friends!!!  After all, YOU ARE A LEADER!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8638, 5181, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-06-11 08:05:54', '2011-06-11 13:05:54', 'It\'s a great video and you clearly articulate the passion we share.  I hope thousands see it.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8637, 243),
(8639, 5181, 'Beyond Horizons', 'beyondhorizonspune@gmail.com', 'http://www.beyondhorizons.in', '61.17.75.116', '2011-06-14 01:29:57', '2011-06-14 06:29:57', 'Easier said than done! The thoughts that have been put across in the video are wonderful on paper. But, is it really viable in real life? The workplace environment in most organizations is stressed and most people are dissatisfied about their jobs. So how are people going to gather up the energy and positiveness to \'lead\'? And let us assume that people do muster up the required enthusiasm, how long will it last when their efforts go unrecognized? And, will their initiative be treated with respect or be taken as insubordination?\nThat being said, if people really do begin to \'choose to lead\' and the workplace environment reciprocates, then wonders will happen!\n\n- Sindoora (www.beyondhorizons.in)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8640, 5198, 'June Topics &laquo; Leadership Chat', '', 'http://leadershipchat.wordpress.com/2011/03/04/this-month/', '72.233.96.143', '2011-06-14 06:44:23', '2011-06-14 11:44:23', '[...] 5 Authentic Keys to Attract Top Talent &#8211; Meghan Biro (on the LeadChange [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8641, 5198, 'Shawn', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '99.17.7.206', '2011-06-14 10:37:30', '2011-06-14 15:37:30', 'Meghan,\nYou share some valuable places for leaders to \"investigate\" to attract top talent. If readers do any or all of the five items you list, they\'d be well on their way to strengthen how they show up as dynamic, effective, and relatable leaders - a magnet for attracting top talent.\n\nWell done.\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8642, 5198, '#TChat Preview: Magnetic Leadership Attracts Top Talent | Career Management and Workplace Culture Blog | TalentCulture.com', '', 'http://www.talentculture.com/culture/tchat-preview-magnetic-leadership-attracts-top-talent/', '74.220.215.63', '2011-06-14 10:41:23', '2011-06-14 15:41:23', '[...] 5 Authentic Keys to Attracting Top Talent by Meghan M. [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8643, 5198, 'mckra1g', 'mckra1g@gmail.com', 'http://twitter.com/mckra1g', '66.207.30.9', '2011-06-14 18:41:49', '2011-06-14 23:41:49', 'I\'m so frustrated by the ubiquitous use of \"authentic\" in the space, as it dilutes the power of the word. Besides, it\'s the most efficient and accurate word I can think of to describe the way someone\'s \"You-ness\" permeates who they are, what they do and what they represent.\n\nWhen a leader is able to distill these disparate elements, they exude a polarity that draws the right people to them. It is my opinion that a leader\'s first goal is to reconcile who they are, what they hope to achieve and what they embrace fully. Once those decisions are made, their message resonates with the right people. From that point, a confident leader is able to choose from various people to populate his or her team to the best effect (especially when choosing those who complement his or her skills).\n\nAuthenticity is a magnet. Looking forward to chatting later tonight! Best, M.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8644, 5198, 'Beyond Horizons', 'beyondhorizonspune@gmail.com', 'http://www.beyondhorizons.in', '61.17.75.116', '2011-06-15 01:19:30', '2011-06-15 06:19:30', 'For me, authentic leadership comes from confidence - in yourself, your work and in your ability to inspire and look out for \'your people\'. Many aspiring leaders go wrong when they try to mould themselves into being \'stereotypes\' of leadership. Each leader is different. Leadership is not a \'one size fits all\' deal. Successful leaders are the ones who infuse a little bit of themselves into their leadership style. Because when you\'re being who you are, its easy to sustain. And that adds consistency and credibility to your leadership\n\n- Girish ( http://www.beyondhorizons.in )', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8645, 5198, 'Meghan M. Biro', 'mbiro@talentculture.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/meghanmbiro/', '24.61.43.12', '2011-06-27 15:01:36', '2011-06-27 20:01:36', 'Hi Shawn! My never ending travel cycle finds me just responding to you now. It\'s nice to know I have a community like Lead Change to return to.\n\nThanks very much for taking the time to comment on my post. Even born leaders can overtly/inadvertently miss the basic steps and want to jump ahead to the \"more exciting\" parts = personal/workplace branding and the creative steps involved in advertising your voice to the outside world.  Beginning from within yourself and branding outward to the relevant social extensions is truly a lot less work in the long term. The primary work for leaders is self-analysis. Emotional intelligence holds so many answers in my opinion. Knowing your inner most resources and limits first encourages those around you who may be seeking more clear guidance in a way that is often even more compelling.', 0, '1', '', '', 8641, 280),
(8646, 5198, 'binary options brokers usa', 'francishwang@hotmail.de', 'http://gfprequal.com/binaryoptionstradinginusa74983', '172.82.168.235', '2015-11-22 22:50:37', '2015-11-23 03:50:37', 'This is not just like copy trading in which trades are executed into your buying and\nselling account by means of a hyperlink.', 0, '0', '', '', 0, 0),
(8647, 5198, 'Four Ways Leaders Ignite Engagement Culture - Switch &amp; Shift', '', 'http://switchandshift.com/four-ways-leaders-ignite-engagement-culture', '184.106.10.130', '2017-08-04 00:26:16', '2017-08-04 04:26:16', '[&#8230;] on top publications such as CBS Moneywatch, Monster, Dice and various other HR, Social Media and Leadershiphubs of your [&#8230;]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8648, 17909, 'Mike', 'Ebcpastor@Nefcom.net', 'http://Www.mikeramondetta.org', '166.137.10.68', '2011-05-25 21:06:42', '2011-05-26 02:06:42', 'Thanks for the post! I am a busy pastor who is endeavoring to call out train workers &amp; leaders so we can fulfill the vision. Most are volunteers. You gave great reminders to make sure we take care of the people that take care of us.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8649, 17909, 'Seven Ways to be a New Leader to Your Employees &#8211; Lead Change Group &laquo; Tech4buziness', '', 'http://tech4buziness.com/2011/05/seven-ways-to-be-a-new-leader-to-your-employees-lead-change-group/', '213.251.189.204', '2011-05-25 23:10:48', '2011-05-26 04:10:48', '[...]  Lead Change Group        Cliquez ici pour annuler la [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8650, 17909, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '69.253.58.224', '2011-05-27 08:04:05', '2011-05-27 13:04:05', 'Thanks Mike.  I\'m so glad you found this helpful.  I like the way you put this: \"take care of the people that take care of us.\"  Warmly, Mary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(8651, 17909, 'Steve Prothero', 'protheros@me.com', 'http://truetoyou.com.au', '202.46.139.82', '2011-05-29 00:38:45', '2011-05-29 05:38:45', 'I fully support your 7 suggestions. A key to all this is to set aside time to talk to your direct reports (one on one meetings) where the prime purpose of the meeting is building trust and understanding.  Over the top of all these suggestions is to have clear expectations that are reasonable and clear.  A good post – well done.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8652, 17909, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.203.124.74', '2011-05-31 10:50:05', '2011-05-31 15:50:05', 'Thanks Steve for your comment.  I couldn\'t agree more about one-on-one meetings with reports where, as you said, \"...the prime purpose of the meeting is building trust and understanding.\"  SO important.  I call it a preventive measure, and its value, inestimable.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(8653, 17910, 'Shawn', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '99.17.7.206', '2011-05-31 10:55:46', '2011-05-31 15:55:46', 'Georgia,\nThe most important distinction you point out is how important it is to find balance in the roles we all have in life.  I make a slight change to this belief by replacing the work balance with integrated. Balance implies some sort of \"equalness\" which in today\'s world is incredibly difficult to reach.  Instead, we must find ways to integrate all our roles in our lives, accepting that one role may dominate, BUT creating and recreating the discipline to ensure no one role dominates.\nAs you so accurately and describe the downfalls of not having balance or an integrated life.\n\nAlso, I loved reading the traps of compartmentalizing roles. Spot on Georgia!\n\nThis is an important message for all of us to hear and to know what our response is to it.\n\nNicely done,\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8654, 17910, 'Georgia Feiste', 'Georgia@Collaborativetransitions.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/gfeiste/', '69.171.163.28', '2011-05-31 12:38:22', '2011-05-31 17:38:22', 'Thank you for your comments, Shawn.\n\nI agree with you about balance.  We are never completely and equally balanced.  Our goal should be to create a conscious balance where at any point in time one aspect of our life may dominate.  For example:  When we choose to attend college - we give up time and money in order to do that.  It is a conscious decision, knowing that we will benefit in all areas of life when we have completed this task.  When we choose to be parents, we consciously know that our children will take a huge chunck of time that we may have previously expended for work, play, relationships, etc.  The challenge is in maintaining \"relative\" balance, I think, and consciously integrating all aspects well.\n\nHope you are having a great day!\n\nGeorgia', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 266),
(8655, 17910, 'carrie', 'chicks@fluidequip.com', '', '68.70.84.186', '2011-05-31 17:29:38', '2011-05-31 22:29:38', 'Georgia,\nI am touched by your topic and would love to bring this to a focus group at work.  Can you recomend a book on this topic?\nmany thanks.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8656, 17910, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '76.26.161.97', '2011-05-31 19:43:01', '2011-06-01 00:43:01', 'Excellent exploration of the notion of balance and the cost of our resistance to creating it in a futile attempt to be all things to all people.  You point to a context that I think is clearly in the way for many - that productivity is a function of being more and more efficient as our plate overflows so we can do more and more vs about learning to be effective which requires we make strategic choices in every domain so we leverage the best of what we have to offer and keep our attention on what is most important to us,', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 244),
(8657, 17910, 'Georgia Feiste', 'Georgia@Collaborativetransitions.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/gfeiste/', '98.16.145.97', '2011-05-31 21:25:51', '2011-06-01 02:25:51', 'Carrie - There are a number of books you could read about creating balance, but the book that inspired my blog is on Authentic Leadership: Rediscovering the Secrets to Creating Lasting Value.  The same author, Bill George, wrote Finding Your True North.  In addition, I recommend The Energy of Money and Mastering Life\'s Energies, by Maria Nemeth Phd.  All of these books speak to setting priorities, intentions and living your values.  Which is what balance is all about...\n\nHope this helps.\n\nGeorgia', 0, '1', '', '', 8655, 266),
(8658, 17910, 'Georgia Feiste', 'Georgia@Collaborativetransitions.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/gfeiste/', '98.16.145.97', '2011-05-31 21:30:57', '2011-06-01 02:30:57', 'Here, Here, Susan.  You hit the nail on the head.   Thank you for your comments.  I know that I struggled with this for years as I climbed the corporate ladder, and it is so ingrained in me that I continue to need a constant reminder to keep my focus on my priorities and my intentions and not get distracted by the \"golden carrot\" that gets dangled in front of me on a regular basis.  It saddens me to watch others struggle to the point of making themselves ill before they get it.', 0, '1', '', '', 8656, 266),
(8659, 17910, 'Stephan De Villiers', 'stephan@incrementalsuccess.org', 'http://www.incrementalsuccess.org', '196.210.190.199', '2011-06-09 08:06:29', '2011-06-09 13:06:29', 'All of life is a balancing act.  The key to keeping your balance is not to have one side carry more weight than the other.  Making sure you distribute your time and resources in a balanced way in order to avoid letting one side get to heavy is more art than science.  However you should actively focus on keeping this balance, since it will not happen on its own.  Sometimes you have to say no to an are in your life that demands to much time an resources.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8660, 17912, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '69.137.163.125', '2011-06-10 09:38:46', '2011-06-10 14:38:46', 'Great food for thought John!\n\nAlthough I would define failure differently.  I think failure is not delivering on the promise of the project.  Schedules and budgets are best guess estimates and need to be constantly monitored.  They have to be constantly looked at and adjusted given the actual circumstances because of exactly what you suggest - the more complex the project the more impossible it is to predict how it will go.  If things go too far off course the best choice may not be to adjust but rather to cancel the project and cut your losses.\n\nI do think a project manager is failing when they consistently go over budget and miss deadlines.  More often that not you can see the failure coming and a great project manager will be ahead of the breakdown and adjusting accordingly rather than trying to clean up the mess (or justifying the breakdown) after the fact.\n\nThe single biggest source of complex project failure I have seen though is a lack of leadership, specifically a lack of successfully managing the relationships among the groups who have to work together, and keeping everyone\'s attention on and commitment to the outcome of the overall project.  In the absence of leadership people tend to succumb to the natural tendency to get tunnel vision from focusing on their individual success as a function of doing their part rather than doing whatever it takes to deliver on the promise of the project.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 244),
(8661, 17912, 'Paul Reeves', 'paul@businessimprovementresults.com', 'http://www.businessimprovementresults.com', '76.11.95.19', '2011-06-10 10:04:34', '2011-06-10 15:04:34', 'Absolutely agree that we can\'t control all events &amp; that thinking that Project Management, for example, can always deal with that uncertainty just doesn\'t match the evidence. After all, the only thing that is certain about any Project Plan is that it is wrong.\nHuman Systems Dynamics teaches us that indeed life is unpredictable and chaotic, and control is just a dream.\nAs soon as we drop that expectation from our business, political, everyday affairs, and learn tools that help us readily adapt to the uncertainty - including honesty about it - we\'ll behave more rationally and be better off.\nThanks John for speaking out on this reality.\nCheers, Paul Reeves', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8662, 17912, 'ChrisW', 'chris.d.warwick@gmail.com', '', '24.64.122.233', '2011-06-12 00:37:14', '2011-06-12 05:37:14', 'But isn\'t there a problem with the definition of success? Is a project that meets all its \"requirements\", but is immediately discarded after delivery, a success or failure? Is a project that is over budget, late, and buggy, but immediately has customers clamouring for improvements, a success or failure?\n\nI think we lack a language to describe how long complex projects take, or how the definition of success may change during execution. I have seen work lost to someone who claims they can do the work for the budget, knowing full well they can\'t; I have seen cases where development had good evidence for the costs that would be incurred, only to be given budget of less than a 3rd of that; and I have seen the case where no one had any idea what the cost would be, but the program was deemed a failure when it exceeded the magic number pulled out of someone\'s butt.\n\nI don\'t think success is a fluke, and I think I have seen many very successful projects. But my trick is to stay focused on providing value to the end user, and let the cost/time/goals fight take care of itself. If nothing else it keeps the operational community on my side during the ditch/defer/do decision meetings.\n\nIf the issue was simply that bad things happen to good projects, then it would be a simple case of management reserve. I have never known a housing project to fit in the \"2 weeks\" the builder always promises.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8663, 5165, 'Billy Kirsch', 'billy@kidbillymusic.com', 'http://kidbillymusic.com', '98.87.124.151', '2011-06-15 10:02:21', '2011-06-15 15:02:21', 'Great post Chery. Many leaders do this all naturally, that\'s why they evolve as leaders. But some don\'t realize that the time then invest to do the things you describe in this post or vital, valuable and well worth it. Great summary of important traits, thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8664, 5165, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com', '68.13.251.23', '2011-06-15 10:49:36', '2011-06-15 15:49:36', 'Billy,\n\nThank you for your comments!  I agree.  Some people are great leaders naturally, many of us have to work hard to become one.  I am so very thankful for great examples!\n\nBaron Hanson recently introduced me to your website. http://kidbillymusic.com/  I love the concept of what you do!  Would love to attend a live event sometime.', 0, '1', '', '', 8663, 0),
(8665, 5165, 'Dennis Deaton', 'dennis@quma.net', 'http://www.Quma.net', '70.162.149.67', '2011-06-15 11:13:21', '2011-06-15 16:13:21', 'Chery,\n\nWell done.  Succinct and right on target.  I too believe that we talk too much about \"Corporate Culture\" and too little about Corporate Character.\n\nThanks for being an advocate,\n\nDennis', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8666, 5165, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com/blog.php', '68.13.251.23', '2011-06-15 11:37:26', '2011-06-15 16:37:26', 'Dennis,\n\nYou are one of those great leaders I referenced in the comment above.  Your message of Ownership Spirit encouraged tremendous growth in my life.  Thank You!  http://www.ownershipspirit.com/', 0, '1', '', '', 8665, 0),
(8667, 5165, 'Jon M', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jhmertz/', '72.48.93.4', '2011-06-15 15:03:47', '2011-06-15 20:03:47', 'Chery, This is an excellent phrase - \" everything you do is observed.\" Some times, leaders take some action, and they think it is an un-noticed one. These are usually the actions that bring on challenges and issues.  Keeping the idea that everything you do is observed may help leaders avoid trouble and stay on the right track.  Thanks for the post!  Jon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 290),
(8668, 5165, 'Erin Schreyer', 'eschreyer@sagestone-partners.com', 'http://www.sagestone-partners.com', '184.57.239.217', '2011-06-15 15:31:19', '2011-06-15 20:31:19', 'GREAT post, Chery!!  You\'ve done a wonderful job of describing a character-based leader, as well as providing valuable questions to help develop!!  Excellent!!  BRAVO!!  And WOO HOO!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8669, 5165, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-06-15 15:35:10', '2011-06-15 20:35:10', 'Jon,\n\nThank you for your time and your thoughts!  That one is a big one for me too.\n\nIt\'s a tough one to manage because you have to care enough to hold yourself accountable when you blow it, and at the same time, you have to give yourself enough grace to take the lesson but not the shame.', 0, '1', '', '', 8667, 0),
(8670, 5165, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-06-15 15:51:07', '2011-06-15 20:51:07', 'Erin,\n\nThank you so much for your comment.  As you know, I had the same reaction to your video last week, every part of me was cheering, hoping that because it is more visual it would help people understand what is really possible, not a FairyTale, but really possible.\n\nI am attaching the link to your video, believing that they are both pieces of a larger puzzle. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bxf_16pC-Z4', 0, '1', '', '', 8668, 0),
(8671, 5165, 'Steve', 'slstutz@aol.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/sstutzman/', '24.255.238.40', '2011-06-18 23:51:18', '2011-06-19 04:51:18', 'Great reminders on the \'mentality\' of leadership. Effective leadership requires approaching others with an awareness of things many others don\'t think about. You\'ve said it in a way that warrants extended reflection. Thanks for the post.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8672, 5165, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-06-19 14:14:35', '2011-06-19 19:14:35', 'Steve,\n\nThank you for your feedback.  I so glad if any part of it can be useful.  Everything I\'ve ever learned about leadership is because of others.  I would enjoy visiting with you about your reflections.', 0, '1', '', '', 8671, 270),
(8673, 5165, 'Becoming a Character Based Leader &laquo; Leadership.BlogNotions - Thoughts from Industry Experts', '', 'http://leadership.blognotions.com/2011/08/18/becoming-a-character-based-leader/', '209.133.56.3', '2011-08-18 16:53:19', '2011-08-18 21:53:19', '[...] It starts with a decision to lead with integrity, the understanding that everything you do is observed and evaluated by others as either authentic or as disingenuous, and the commitment to audit yourself.   [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8674, 5165, 'Developing Character Based Leadership - The Leadership Connexion', '', '', '184.154.88.218', '2011-10-17 06:31:40', '2011-10-17 11:31:40', '[...] Source: Becoming a Character Based Leader by Chery Gegelman on Lead Change Group [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8675, 5168, 'Oliver Mack', 'oliver.mack@commonpurpose.org', 'http://www.commonpurpose.org', '217.150.113.250', '2011-06-16 06:25:08', '2011-06-16 11:25:08', 'Great article Leigh,  really clear points.  We work with people to help them learn to \'lead beyond authority\'  I thought you might be interested in the concept.  Everyone has so many excuses and reasons why they stay in their silos or work as they do, but equipping them to lead differently is quite a journey.  Good luck with your work :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8676, 5187, 'David Zimbalist', 'dzimbalist@lawfaces.com', 'http://LawFaces.com', '65.204.3.58', '2011-06-23 15:13:50', '2011-06-23 20:13:50', 'Great article Kevin.  I read an interesting piece recently about foregoing having too many, and therefore shallower, relationships, and having fewer but more meaningful ones.  Any thoughts on that?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8677, 5193, 'Leaders, Are You Comfortable Being Held to a Higher Standard?', '', '', '74.117.222.41', '2011-06-20 08:37:45', '2011-06-20 13:37:45', '[...] Read full article Source: Lead Change Group   Filed Under: Article Tagged With: confidence, corporate culture, corporate leadership, employee expectations, feedback, leadership accountability, leadership strategy, leadership styles, talent visibility [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8678, 5193, 'Shawn', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '99.17.7.206', '2011-06-20 10:56:07', '2011-06-20 15:56:07', 'Mary,\nWow, some interesting nuances explored in your online conversations.  I like to simplify this for myself: I give respect (and trust) to those whom I meet. Its when there are behaviors, even words, that show negligence, bias, gossip, pettiness, favoring, and over/covert sabotage from employees when I withdraw trust and/or respect.\n\nThere is entitlement in organizations (public and private).  But it is hardly reason to disrespect an employee.  To dismiss entitlement behaviors and use it as a way to judge employees unfairly is like saying \"It\'s not worth my time to help this employee know how this behavior is limiting their potential.\"  To be balanced, only after repeated attempts to coach an employee to grow from entitlement-related behaviors does a manager begin to question his or her trust and respect for the person.  This, however, is not a one or two-shot deal.\n\nA bigger question we must ask ourselves is, \"when do we turn our back on another human being that needs coaching?\"\n\nGreat conversation.  I hope others join in.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8679, 5193, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.203.124.74', '2011-06-20 12:17:52', '2011-06-20 17:17:52', 'Wow Shawn.  Thanks for adding your comment.  I especially liked: \"To dismiss entitlement behaviors and use it as a way to judge employees unfairly is like saying “It’s not worth my time to help this employee know how this behavior is limiting their potential.”\n\nAND, \"A bigger question we must ask ourselves is, “when do we turn our back on another human being that needs coaching?”\n\nLove that you brought potential and coaching into the conversation.\n\nLet\'s drum up some more responses!', 0, '1', '', '', 8678, 252),
(8680, 5193, 'David Locke', 'Dave44000@yahoo.com', '', '70.114.15.111', '2011-06-21 01:41:52', '2011-06-21 06:41:52', 'It is this transition from expected respect to earned respect that one moves from manager to leader. I get tired of managers thinking they are leaders. Sorry, for a manager to become a leader, they must lead, and that is vastly different from just managing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8681, 5193, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.203.124.74', '2011-06-21 08:50:05', '2011-06-21 13:50:05', 'Thanks for commenting, David.  I couldn\'t have said it better myself.\n\nWarmly,\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 8680, 252),
(8682, 5196, 'Ed Han', 'ed.m.han@gmail.com', 'http://edmusesupon.wordpress.com/', '173.71.84.31', '2011-06-22 06:09:01', '2011-06-22 11:09:01', 'Becky, what an excellent source of inspiration. It\'s easy not to see opportunities in issues and what a great teaching moment for your daughters, too!\n\nIncidentally: where might one find such wristbands?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8683, 5196, 'Will Lukang', 'Will.Lukang@gmail.com', '', '166.137.139.14', '2011-06-22 06:13:18', '2011-06-22 11:13:18', 'Excellent post!  You gave Saul a nudge and let him know that there is hope.  Sometimes people need to be reassured and not to give up.  Thanks for sharing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8684, 5196, 'Jon M', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jhmertz/', '72.48.93.4', '2011-06-22 07:43:42', '2011-06-22 12:43:42', 'Spreading a spark of the possibility of not accepting indifference is an excellent approach. You may never know what change that gesture ignites, but it is much better to challenge someone to think and act differently. Great post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 290),
(8685, 5196, 'Becky Robinson', 'becky@kevineikenberry.com', 'http://www.weavinginfluence.com', '72.241.131.58', '2011-06-22 07:57:29', '2011-06-22 12:57:29', 'Hi Ed,\n\nThanks for your encouragement and your interest in the wristbands. You can find out more about the Remarkable Wristbands at youareremarkable.com\n\nI hope my daughters picked up on the lesson. They see me wearing my wristband daily and they see me giving them away. It\'s hard to know what they pick up from my interactions with other adults. I would certainly love to inspire them to make a difference, every day, where they are. You can do that at any age!', 0, '1', '', '', 8682, 0),
(8686, 5196, 'Becky Robinson', 'becky@kevineikenberry.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/beckyrbnsn/', '72.241.131.58', '2011-06-22 08:01:21', '2011-06-22 13:01:21', 'Thanks, Will. I hope that Saul followed through to see what he could do to make a difference.', 0, '1', '', '', 8683, 0),
(8687, 5196, 'Becky Robinson', 'becky@kevineikenberry.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/beckyrbnsn/', '72.241.131.58', '2011-06-22 08:02:20', '2011-06-22 13:02:20', 'Jon,\n\nThanks for taking the time to comment. I\'m glad you enjoyed the post and I hope it inspires people to action!\n\nBecky', 0, '1', '', '', 8684, 0),
(8688, 5196, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com', '68.13.251.23', '2011-06-22 08:30:27', '2011-06-22 13:30:27', 'Thank you Becky!  You consistently take an every-day experience and turn it into a leadership lesson that others can relate to with ease.\n\nThis story in particular provided both vision and encouragement to Saul, to use his experience, his knowledge and his voice to create a change ripple that will make a difference for thousands of people.  For the rest of us it is a reminder that every person at every level has something of great value to contribute and we should all be looking for way to unleash that potential in each other.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8689, 5196, 'Mark Sturgell CBC', 'askthecoach@pdncoach.com', 'http://purposeandnow.com', '98.214.227.160', '2011-06-22 08:34:53', '2011-06-22 13:34:53', 'Becky,\n\nWonderful message that is so simple yet so easily passed up in our daily lives.\n\nFirst, I loved the distinction that Saul makes in his response, \"We don\'t CONTROL that.\"  There are many things that are, truthfully, beyond our control. Yet our potential for INFLUENCE remains.\n\nSecond, it is all too easy to submit ourselves to the role of victim by announcing that the proverbial \"somebody should\" do something about it, whatever the circumstantial \"it\" is in life at the moment.  We need others like you to ask of us, \"Is there something YOU can do?\" (the ultimate role of a coach is to ask this question.)\n\nHere is my simple credo:\n\nMaybe I can\'t change what HAS happened, but by golly I sure am responsible for what happens next!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8690, 5196, 'John S', 'brandleadership@ymail.com', '', '66.0.28.250', '2011-06-22 09:31:25', '2011-06-22 14:31:25', 'Becky,\n\nSome great thoughts.\n\nA two questions come to mind....\n\n1.) Why didn\'t Saul get you and the girls transportation back to your correct gate?\n\n2.) If one of our associates responded, \"We don\'t have control over that\" to a customer, they would be looking for another job. Like Saul, we have to contend with unions and govermental agencies everyday on the trade show floor. I hope our response is not the same.\n\nI think you were trying to highlight how Saul was being a good representative of the Southwest brand.\n\nMy thoughts are the opposite.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8691, 5196, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '69.137.161.0', '2011-06-22 14:48:58', '2011-06-22 19:48:58', 'What a great example of committing an act of leadership on your part Becky and an opportunity for committing an act of leadership for Saul.  Wondering what he will choose to do...good for you for not letting the opportunity pass by.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8692, 5196, 'Sharon Reed', 'sharon_reed@live.com', 'http://www.heartpath.wordpress.com', '24.224.116.218', '2011-06-22 19:48:55', '2011-06-23 00:48:55', 'Great post, Becky!  Sometimes we all need a nudge, encouragement, or a simple green band to remind us that we are indeed remarkable; that we all have the power and opportunity to lead and influence change if we are willing to step outside of our comfort zone.  I am certain that regardless of whatever action Saul may or may not have taken that day, you planted an important seed that is likely to remain with him for some time to come - possibly just what Saul needed to grow the leader within.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8693, 5196, 'Erin Schreyer', 'eschreyer@sagestone-partners.com', 'http://www.sagestone-partners.com', '184.57.239.217', '2011-06-23 08:48:41', '2011-06-23 13:48:41', 'I love, love, love this post Becky!!!  \"Instigate.\"  My very favorite word, as it relates to our encouragement of taking responsiblity for leadership!  We CAN influence others in positive ways.  It CAN ripple out.  It CAN make a difference.  Why not try and see what happens?  I\'ll bet we WILL see a better world...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8694, 5196, 'Steve Browne', 'sbrowne@larosas.com', 'http://sbrownehr.com', '70.61.142.6', '2011-06-23 08:59:09', '2011-06-23 13:59:09', 'Becky - what a great example of how a simple conversation can allow people to be intentional. Thanks for modeling what you believe in to not only the attendant, but your daughters.  That\'s powerful stuff !!  Thanks for sharing how what we \"do\" can happen in all environments.  Great post.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8695, 5196, 'Christo Strom', 'cstrominvestments@gmail.com', 'http://www.orangeracecardangels.blogspot.com', '50.12.254.127', '2011-06-23 09:41:23', '2011-06-23 14:41:23', 'Becky,\nSimple every day interactions with people in a spirit of harmony does wonders\neverywhere.  Do they make those wristbands in ORANGE?\n\nRespectfully in TRUTH\n\nChristo Strom\nSole Owner of Orange Race Card Angels\nHead of Angel Promotions\n\nP.S. You are remarkable +(~~+~~)+', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8696, 5196, 'Becky Robinson', 'becky@kevineikenberry.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/beckyrbnsn/', '72.241.131.58', '2011-06-23 09:44:32', '2011-06-23 14:44:32', 'Hi Christo,\n\nThanks! You are REMARKABLE, also. We don\'t make the wristbands in orange. We make them in GREEN to remind us of the growth! I can see why you would want orange, though. :) I\'ll have to pitch the idea to my boss.', 0, '1', '', '', 8695, 0),
(8697, 5196, 'Paul Nicholas', 'paul54nicholas@yahoo.co.uk', 'http://www.soul-chaplain.com', '86.138.184.223', '2011-07-01 06:56:05', '2011-07-01 11:56:05', 'I enjoyed this - thanks Becky.\n\nI suppose the green wristband is a tangible or embodied metaphor for some intangible and subliminal behavioural signal that you must be imparting at the same time - what non-verbal messages do you think you are giving at these moments?\n\nAnd I liked Steve Brown\'s comment that \"a simple conversation can allow people to be intentional\". I\'m often telling people that \"a single conversation can be transformational\" - and I shall now add \"and it\'s the simplest conversations that are the most powerful\".\n\nBest wishes\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8698, 5196, 'Marvin LeBlanc', 'marvinleblanc@aol.com', 'http://www.marvinleblanc.com', '96.25.100.212', '2011-07-12 12:12:40', '2011-07-12 17:12:40', 'WOW!  Great story and very inspiring.  People in Saul\'s position must often feel very helpless and a simple conversation and an gentle but powerful reminder (the wristband) will make a big difference in his life.  I tell my clients all the time that everyday conversations are far more meaningful and powerful than \"sales appointments\".  Thank for the inspiring article.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8699, 5203, 'Paul Nicholas', 'paul54nicholas@yahoo.co.uk', 'http://www.soul-chaplain.com', '86.138.184.223', '2011-07-01 06:39:42', '2011-07-01 11:39:42', 'Hi Chad,\nThis is really interesting and enjoyable - thank you!\nI haven\'t thought in terms of \"disruption\" before - but I feel a strong resonance here with my pleas to developing leaders to \"be unreasonable\" and \"seek inspiration in chaos\". The first because it is unreasoableness that leads us to question and seek change - and the second because all creativity comes from a pre-existing \"something\" - nothing can be created from a vacuum.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8700, 5217, 'Leadership Development Training', 'chriss@ithakaleadership.co.uk', 'http://www.ithakaleadership.co.uk', '80.42.135.87', '2011-06-23 15:20:45', '2011-06-23 20:20:45', 'Very good article on leadership. I agree that a good leader has the engagement of everybody around them. As mentioned in the article, the second one party no longer feels the relationship benefits them', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8701, 5231, 'Diana', 'diabratical@yahoo.ca', '', '198.103.184.76', '2011-07-21 13:11:32', '2011-07-21 18:11:32', 'Thank you for a great title Mary!  I am a fairly new senior supervisor and was fortunate enough to have a mentor that shared your views!  I learned from him that the sharing of information, perspective and views are just that.  The inference from the receiver is the negative side, the defensive wall and what, as human being, we easily react to.    My mantra has been to \"put it on the table for discussion and do with the the right intent, not to humilate, hurt or attack, but to help, grow and open a mutually respectful relationship.\"\nThis was a lesson learned by me when, at my wits end with an employee who had performance issues and was not ameniable to making any necessary changes, I simply stopped my \'constructive feedback\', closed my notebook, put down my pen and leaned forward to ask \"You don\'t trust me, do you?\"  The shift in response was huge, and we started making steps towards a mutally respectful working relationship.\nDiana', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8702, 5231, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '69.242.114.141', '2011-07-21 14:37:41', '2011-07-21 19:37:41', 'Wow Diana, that is a *powerful* story about how you handled that difficult employee situation.  Your mentor is wise and my guess is that you have some intuitive leadership traits yourself even though you are a fairly new senior supervisor.  I would love to see a post from you on this!\n\nThanks for commenting,\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 8701, 252);
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(8703, 5232, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-06-29 09:51:57', '2011-06-29 14:51:57', 'Great post Jennifer.  I appreciate your perspective.\n\nAnother way to look at it is, if your point of view doesn\'t attract some criticism, you must be doing what everyone else is.  Making a difference almost requires some criticism. Expect it; even plan for it.  If you\'re ideas and pursuits can\'t stand some criticism, what are you doing?\n\nThanks!  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(8704, 5232, 'Jennifer V. Miller', 'jmiller@people-equation.com', 'http://people-equation.com', '76.235.201.149', '2011-06-29 19:08:18', '2011-06-30 00:08:18', 'Mike,\n\n\"Making a difference almost requires some criticism\"-- what a healthy perspective. Thanks for offering yet another way to look at this issue.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8705, 5232, 'Subha Balagopal', 'balagopal.subha@gmail.com', 'https://subhabb.wordpress.com', '50.90.5.50', '2011-07-08 12:01:14', '2011-07-08 17:01:14', 'Thank you for this post, and a great quote worth remembering. Recently, a mentor shared a quote from a speech by Roosevelt (the excerpt is called \'The Man in the Arena\'), which has freed me to be able to have a balanced perspective about criticism. I wrote about my reflections on facing criticism and shared the quote here: https://subhabb.wordpress.com/2011/06/15/unbound-from-here-on/ and it has taken me to a different level in my leadership role. It is ultimately about the beliefs and principles that drive our work and the learning and growing that happens along the way!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8706, 5237, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-06-29 07:25:45', '2011-06-29 12:25:45', 'Will, thanks for the great post.  Because I notice the differences between positional authority and character-based leadership, I also notice them in your post.\n\nSometimes we reach positions of authority because of our performance rather than who we are.  People give us the position, authority and influence because of our performance.  Whether or not we get the influence through our character or our performance, we choose to kick it into overdrive and let our position maintain our authority and influence and we drop our guard on the character front.\n\nAs a result, our selfish nature takes over.  We stop giving over and above the call.  The energy and life that once came from our leadership is gone.  As a result, our contributors must fend for themselves too.  And all of the life is sapped from our leadership.  The end result is some scandal or empty effort - no character-based servant leadership, no life.  It\'s simple, yet profound that we see so many examples every day.\n\nThanks for your excellent post that reminds us 6 ways to stay on track.  I appreciate it.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(8707, 5237, 'Jon M', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jhmertz/', '72.48.93.4', '2011-06-29 09:27:54', '2011-06-29 14:27:54', 'Will,\n\nVery insightful post! Being self-aware is essential, and it is often missed when people reach certain levels. Although we are all human, it does not dismiss the need for standards of conduct.\n\nOne element I would add is accountability. There is degree of self-accountability that needs to be present.  Additionally, we all need friends who will hold us accountable and challenge us.  We need to have these type of people in our networks, and we need to engage them proactively as well.\n\nThank you for post and insights!\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 290),
(8708, 5237, 'Jim Fierce', 'jfcqe@aol.com', '', '98.151.250.176', '2011-06-29 09:42:16', '2011-06-29 14:42:16', 'Such a great and timely post.  There are so many examples of so called leaders that are so full of themselves that they forget their purpose and calling.  It\'s sad because most of the ones who fall hard have been given a gift that most of us would cherish if we had it.  If that gift were used for good instead of just for personal benefit our society would be so much better for it. I believe this problem is so prevalent in politics today (in both parties) and corporate America  that our country is at risk.  I\'m not sure how we can start steering this ship away from the iceberg.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8709, 5237, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '69.137.161.0', '2011-06-29 19:55:15', '2011-06-30 00:55:15', 'Excellent Will.  Being self aware is clearly essential to keeping our integrity in tact as we rise on the ladder of success.  One way to make sure we don\'t forget is to continue to surround ourselves with people who will keep us honest and humble. If all we are hearing is accolades chances are we don\'t have a balanced view of ourselves.  We are after all human!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8710, 5237, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.wordpress.com/', '71.127.246.50', '2011-06-29 20:04:07', '2011-06-30 01:04:07', 'Hi Jon,\n\nYou brought up a good point about being accountable.   Leaders also need to surround themselves with people they can trust to help remind them to be true to themselves.\n\nThanks,', 0, '1', '', '', 8707, 0),
(8711, 5237, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://willlukang.wordpress.com/', '71.127.246.50', '2011-06-29 20:07:01', '2011-06-30 01:07:01', 'Hi Jim,\n\nI believe greed is partly to blame for it.  Some leaders end up putting their own agenda ahead of everyone else.  As a result, they failed to do what is right for their constituents.  Being self aware is essential in safeguarding ourselves from mental lapses.\n\nThanks,', 0, '1', '', '', 8708, 0),
(8712, 5237, 'Ernest Dieteman', 'Bodziony19163@yahoo.com', '', '184.82.48.94', '2011-09-12 16:34:23', '2011-09-12 21:34:23', 'This design is spectacular! You most certainly know how to keep a reader amused. Between your wit and your videos, I was almost moved to start my own blog (well, almost...HaHa!) Fantastic job. I really loved what you had to say, and more than that, how you presented it. Too cool!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8713, 5241, 'sethupathy', 'sethupathyts@gmail.com', '', '89.211.222.199', '2011-07-01 11:30:40', '2011-07-01 16:30:40', 'I agree understand the  opponent  emotion or step in their shoes when situation in very tense,\nyou will achieve 100 % success.\n\nYou rightly said here.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8714, 5241, 'Fergus Gibson', 'fergus@sustainablylush.com', 'http://www.sustainablylush.com', '74.198.150.219', '2011-07-02 07:45:35', '2011-07-02 12:45:35', 'I would tweak your conclusion slightly. In my opinion, the simplest way to understand it is that people who are emotional want their feelings validated. It might seem like I\'m splitting hairs, but I think there is a slight improvement in clarity to say that what you\'re describing is the process, the goal is validation.\n\nThe other person wants to know that their communication has been received, understood, and the emotional content validated. I believe the goal was achieved in your story by your focus on solving the problem -- thereby validating the emotion of the other party because your response indicated there was in fact a problem thus the concern was valid.\n\nThe process will never be as effective if the receiving party only reflects that they understand the emotion exists. \"I hear you\'re concerned,\" by itself has some value, but far less than, \"i understand your concern. There\'s a problem here. Let\'s work together to resolve it so that you needn\'t be concern anymore.\" The latter is far more effective because it acknowledges the essentially rightness of the feeling.\n\nIn his seminal book \"How to Win Friends and Influence People\", Dale Carnegie has a novel approach to the problem. He recommends that in every case we can sincerely say, \"If I were in your position, I\'d feel exactly the same.\" He rather cunningly points to be in the other person\'s position, we\'d have to BE the other person; thus we would experience precisely the same feelings.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8715, 5241, 'Christina Haxton', 'christina@sustainable-leaders.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/sustainableleaders/', '99.197.0.57', '2011-07-03 16:46:11', '2011-07-03 21:46:11', 'Guy,\n\nThank you for a spot-on post about how emotions are contagious. Remember the sage advice we all heard at some point ... \"Leave your feelings at the door when you come to work.\"  The latest brain science research tells us this is not only bad advice, it\'s impossible.  We cannot leave our \"human at the door\" when we come to work.\n\nIf we understand the strengths and limitations of our human brain, we can choose to either react (and fuel dissonance) or respond (and build resonance).\n\nUsing the power of acknowledgment, as you described in your conversation, you simply simply acknowledged his emotion which resulted in his feeling trust.  Effectively, you pushed in the clutch and took the gearshift out of high gear (conflict, dissonance) and wiggled it a bit to be sure you were in neutral, then thoughtfully selected the gear he needed you to be in.  It was only then you could go in a solution-finding direction.  Simple, not always easy.\n\nHow many opportunities do we have each day to choose to respond and acknowledge an emotion (your own or another person\'s) or to react and fuel the fire?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 281),
(8716, 5241, 'Guy Harris', 'guy.harris@principledriven.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/recovengineer/', '99.189.253.76', '2011-07-03 19:34:24', '2011-07-04 00:34:24', 'Fergus - Thanks for your additional thoughts. You\'ve added something to the conversation to encourage a slightly different way to look at the situation.\n\nGuy', 0, '1', '', '', 8714, 271),
(8717, 5241, 'Guy Harris', 'guy.harris@principledriven.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/recovengineer/', '99.189.253.76', '2011-07-03 19:35:59', '2011-07-04 00:35:59', 'Christina - Thanks for both your comment and encouragement. Great question to consider at the end of your comment - \"How many opportunities do we have each day to choose to respond and acknowledge an emotion (your own or another person’s) or to react and fuel the fire?\" That\'s definitely something to consider as we interact with others every day.\n\nGuy', 0, '1', '', '', 8715, 271),
(8718, 5241, 'Jeff Pitts', 'japitts59@hotmail.com', '', '216.196.190.114', '2011-07-05 09:54:47', '2011-07-05 14:54:47', 'Guy,\n\nI can\'t agree more with you in this. Acknowledging a person\'s current emotional state is effective in diffusing the \"charged\" situation. Although it might be just arguing semantics, and I\'m not a trained counselor/psychologist, etc., I would disagree with Fergus that we don\'t necessarily want to validate a person\'s emotional state. There are times where the anger may be misplaced and inappropriate, and to validate it says that you\'re right to be angry, which could give license to stay angry.  I have found that if you acknowledge a person\'s emotional state and seek to understand why, they are more likely to move to the solution phase much quicker. Especially in these times of virtual relationships and feeling like we have no control, just knowing we have been heard can diffuse most situations.\n\nJeff.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8719, 5241, 'Are You Sinking Ships With Your Communication Style? | CallCenterBestPractices.com', '', 'http://www.callcenterbestpractices.com/are-you-sinking-ships-with-your-communication-style/', '66.147.242.83', '2011-09-23 15:48:23', '2011-09-23 20:48:23', '[...] Lips Sink ShipsLoose Lips Sink Ships [Small Precaution]loose lips sink shipsLoose lips sink shipsEffective Communication Skills: Acknowledge Emotions Before Solving Problems - Lead Change Group  if (top!=self) { window.location = [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8720, 5253, 'Ed Han', 'ed.m.han@gmail.com', 'http://edmusesupon.wordpress.com/', '173.71.101.80', '2011-06-30 06:13:42', '2011-06-30 11:13:42', 'Christina, what a place to make a stand! I applaud your decision: I think that everyone got so gun-shy in the 90s that standing up to things like that are important.\n\nI\'m not sure that I would have had the courage of my convictions now to make that choice then, to be honest.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8721, 5253, 'Lee Schwarz', 'leeglx@gmail.com', 'http://www.blacklionmarketing.com', '173.49.94.232', '2011-06-30 06:42:44', '2011-06-30 11:42:44', 'Kudos to you for taking a stand and making the right decision at the right time.\n\nI am disappointed that you now question that decision- and wonder if it hindered your career.\n\nIt bolstered your integrity and created a better you to handle the world.\nBe proud you put yourself in a position to look forward with self confidence and hope and look backward with no regrets.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8722, 5253, 'Daud Yar', 'daud.yar@gmail.com', '', '98.250.74.6', '2011-06-30 10:10:03', '2011-06-30 15:10:03', 'I would have changed the title because:\n\n1) It is kind of misleading, especially at the time.\n\n2) By changing the name of the paper — and not the overall message or thesis — it would have been printed and still have the same effect on readers. It is far better to choose your battles carefully, than hold your ground most or all of the time.\n\nI did enjoy reading this post. Even though I suggested some things, I make the same mistakes from time to time.\n\nIf you still have the paper, in an electronic format, I would love to read it. The topic sounds very interesting. Again, the post was great, and thank you for asking for others\' opinions.\n\nHave a nice day. :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8723, 5253, 'Christina Haxton', 'christina@sustainable-leaders.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/sustainableleaders/', '70.41.0.38', '2011-07-15 13:31:44', '2011-07-15 18:31:44', 'Daud, Lee &amp; Ed,\n\nI appreciate your thoughtful responses to \"Professional Intimacy: The Secret of Sustainable Leaders\" post.  While I unfortunately no longer have the paper in electronic format (yes, it was that long ago), I am revising, updating and submitting part of the paper as a Chapter for the Lead Change Group Book Project on Character-Based Leadership ... stay tuned!\n\nChristina', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 281),
(8724, 5259, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.224.4.26', '2011-07-05 19:40:23', '2011-07-06 00:40:23', 'LOVE this Mike: \"What if our respect was measured by what we gave rather than what we got?  What if your respect was the total of what you gave?  How would you be doing?\"  So thought-provoking.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(8725, 5259, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-06 14:36:54', '2011-07-06 19:36:54', 'Thanks Mary. I\'ve thought a lot lately from your posts on this topic up to now on how respect comes from appreciation.  If we\'re grateful for others, we\'ll esteem them and respect them.  Focusing \"respect\" on ourselves just seems to hollow it out.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8724, 243),
(8726, 5259, 'Beyond Horizons', 'beyondhorizonspune@gmail.com', 'http://www.beyondhorizons.in', '203.124.166.179', '2011-07-12 02:34:45', '2011-07-12 07:34:45', '\"When someone demands respect, I am tempted to withhold it instantly.  (I’m rather contrary.)\" &lt;--- I know what you mean and I react in exactly the same way! I think respect isn&#039;t a one way street. You need to give to get.\nAlso, I believe that in order to get respect, you need to first develop a healthy sense of respect for yourself as well. No one will respect you if you don&#039;t consider yourself worthy of respect.\n\n-Sindoora (http://www.beyondhorizons.in)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8727, 5259, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-12 05:38:55', '2011-07-12 10:38:55', 'Sindoora, thanks for the observation.  I did leave out the necessity to have a \"healthy sense of respect for yourself.\"  Nice catch.  That\'s probably another post altogether because the traps associated with self-respect are the same as those with respect.  We can have too little or we can have too much.  Thanks for the reminder.', 0, '1', '', '', 8726, 243),
(8728, 5259, 'Dynamics of Respect in the Workplace | The QuickBase Blog', '', 'http://quickbase.intuit.com/blog/2011/07/20/dynamics-of-respect-in-the-workplace/', '174.143.108.98', '2011-07-20 09:06:17', '2011-07-20 14:06:17', '[...] Henry at the Lead Change Group wrote an article about respect that caught myattention. Here is a snippet:  “No one wants to have [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8729, 5269, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '67.97.209.36', '2011-07-06 10:15:53', '2011-07-06 15:15:53', 'Hmmm,\n\nYes, I do believe I\'ve been \"pointy-haired\" a time or two when giving choices, especially to my KIDS!  Time to flatten the \"do\" and honestly communicate, in advance, whether or not decisions will be collaborative, consensus or otherwise.\n\nThanks, Mike\n\nTristan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 253),
(8730, 5269, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-06 14:35:04', '2011-07-06 19:35:04', 'Thanks Tristan.  It\'s a great reminder to communicate honestly in advance.  It\'s part of my current focus on respect.  I often think of Monica Diaz\' Otheresteem too.  If we esteem others, we won\'t \"forget\" them when we\'re making decisions.  Thanks again.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8729, 243),
(8731, 5236, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '143.127.128.10', '2011-07-13 08:38:54', '2011-07-13 13:38:54', 'I flat out love this, Chery.\n\nIt reminds me of the show \"Undercover Boss\" as well as all of the modern moves made by leaders (political and in business) to understand and relate to those they lead.\n\nThe era of the servant leader is dawning.\n\nBravo.\n\nTristan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 253),
(8732, 5236, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-07-13 10:23:13', '2011-07-13 15:23:13', 'Tristan,\n\nThank you so much for the comment!  The Gardens at Versailles was supposed to be a great vacation spot,and ended up providing such an AWEsome leadership lesson I can\'t stop sharing it!\n\nI love that you tied the story to Undercover Boss, they do such a great job of providing visual examples of why it is so important for titled leaders to be involved and approachable. ...The way the show resonates with the public just emphasizes the need for leaders to listen and respond.\n\nThank you for being a Servant Leader Champion!  It is an honor to work with you!\n\nChery', 0, '1', '', '', 8731, 270),
(8733, 5236, 'Poul Andreassen', 'PoulAndreassen@live.in', 'http://tangoleadership.wordpress.com/', '27.251.16.70', '2011-07-14 04:10:45', '2011-07-14 09:10:45', 'The art of converting feelings into thoughts is very difficult.. Nicely written Chery :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8734, 5236, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-07-14 12:30:18', '2011-07-14 17:30:18', 'Thanks Poul!\n\nI appreciate the feedback!\n\nHave a great day!\n\nChery', 0, '1', '', '', 8733, 270),
(8735, 5243, 'Tara R. Alemany', 'alewebsocial@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/alewebsocial/', '68.191.62.10', '2011-07-11 10:10:15', '2011-07-11 15:10:15', 'Great post, Kevin! I first became aware of my walk when I became a parent. Suddenly, it became clear to me that I couldn\'t say one thing and do another because my kids would be getting mixed messages. It was only later that I started to see how this same principle applies in any leadership capacity. Being consistent, letting your actions speak louder than words, and listening to what others have to share are all critical to taking a walk that others will want to join in. Thanks for reminding us of that!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 259),
(8736, 5243, 'Connie McKnight', 'connie@conniemcknight.com', '', '70.65.252.201', '2011-07-11 11:15:03', '2011-07-11 16:15:03', 'Kevin,\nWhat a beautiful way of describing the leadership journey - the walk. I\'ve heard of \"walk the talk\" and \"actions speak louder than words\", but never \"the walk\". It\'s makes it so clear; something easily visualized.\n\nYour questions were spot on. Something we all need to keep asking ourselves as we continue to improve our leadership skills.\n\nConnie', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8737, 5243, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '69.137.161.0', '2011-07-11 19:33:40', '2011-07-12 00:33:40', 'Great Kevin. Love this line:  \"Ultimately it is your walk that matters.  Make sure you are watching your steps.\"\n\nThis doesn\'t mean you have to be perfect though.  In fact a sure sign that you are consistently walking your talk is when you misstep and someone actually points it out.  People in leadership positions can sometimes get false signals about how they really are perceived as leaders because it typically takes a lot of courage to tell the truth when a  leader does not seem to be walking their talk. Most people aren\'t willing to risk it.  Unless of course you create an environment in which you invite others to hold you accountable and thank them when they do.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 244),
(8738, 5243, 'The Tawdry Side of Testing and the Higher Road &laquo; Using Data for Meaningful Change', '', 'http://usingdata.wordpress.com/2011/07/17/the-tawdry-side-of-testing-and-the-higher-road/', '72.233.2.31', '2011-07-17 15:40:40', '2011-07-17 20:40:40', '[...] valued test scores over seeking pathways to better student learning, read this blog post about The Leadership Walk. We need to recognize that, in a way, we all are potential education leaders, so reflect on who [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8739, 5243, '3 Ways to Keep Your Next Meeting Out of the Weeds | CallCenterBestPractices.com', '', 'http://www.callcenterbestpractices.com/3-ways-to-keep-your-next-meeting-out-of-the-weeds/', '66.147.242.83', '2011-09-29 08:45:33', '2011-09-29 13:45:33', '[...] = &#039;&#039;;} } Keeping Your Meetings On Topic and Out of the WeedsYour Leadership Walk - Lead Change Group  if (top!=self) { window.location = [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8740, 5262, 'collegeloop.org', 'ward_langley@hotmail.de', 'http://collegeloop.org/l_page16.php', '5.18.233.123', '2017-04-25 05:09:34', '2017-04-25 09:09:34', 'A fantastic instruction essay engages the audience till the conclusion, the greatest secret for writing teaching essay is that the recommendations\nshould be logically organized by one what exactly there is no frustration left for that reader inside the training essay.\nHence, I will be providing you for writing teaching essays,\nwith some crucial strategies. Paul\'s cathedral created\nPrevious Agony\'s property|the property of Old Agony was\ndesigned by Christopher Wren, who was simply the seventeenth century\ndesigner A fallacy can be an argument or a claim, which\nprofesses to be crucial of the topic under research,\nwhile really it\'s not. Myths are meant to damage reasons reported by\nthe writer, as well as in totality the entire strength of the\nproject weakens. Article writing solutions in UK maintains a check up on writing\nprojects for pupils as a correct composition alternative helps retrieve good marks.\nPaul\'s cathedral|Christopher Wren, who was simply the seventeenth-century architect A CV\nwriting assistance should have knowledge in every areas. They have the ability to understand what businesses wish,\nthey\'ve the ability to display your functions, talents and achievements.\nShould you not have a well-written resume the fact is; it indicates you are currently dropped in the opposition. Actually,\neverybody really wants to be considered a winner should you find the help of professional publishing companies,\nand you may accomplish that. Paul\'s cathedral\ncreated Aged Unhappinessis house|the property of Old Unhappiness was created by Christopher Wren, who was\nthe seventeenth-century builder He also\nneeds to have exceptional communication skills.\nPaul\'s cathedral|Wren, who was simply the seventeenth century architect ___Start\nearly. When the program and article are due in three months, start working\nonto it. Paul\'s cathedral designed the residence of Old Misery|Christopher Wren, who\nwas A great essay does take time to get ready and write,\ntherefore begin to think about it and do the research properly ahead of the dissertation timeline (even yet in timed circumstances,\nsuch as exams, it is very important to take the time to prepare and design the essay prior to\nstarting to write).  Paul\'s cathedral designed the home of Old Agony|Wren, who was A conclusion should take on an essay together.\nPaul\'s cathedral|Christopher Wren, who was simply the seventeenth-century\ndesigner There may be a summary the essay\'s last part. It restates the thesis record and provides the primary ideas\nwhich may be drawn from reasons within the body.\nNevertheless, the thesis statement should not merely be rewritten; the theory needs to be enriched with the outcomes from your findings.\n\nPaul\'s cathedral|Christopher Wren, who had been the seventeenth-century designer\nAbout having a fundamental outline a negative article will also not adhere\nto the principles. A five part article must have an introduction, then the three section body and finally a finish.\nThe format must maintain that purchase. Distortion of this will\nmean that you just possess a composition that is negative.\nThe article cutbacks, with out a great format of being easily its quality comprehensible.', 0, '0', '', '', 0, 0),
(8741, 5263, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-07 08:47:24', '2011-07-07 13:47:24', 'Deb, I appreciate your thoughtful, challenging posts.  Leadership is a character-trait, or maybe a bundle of them.  You describe that so well as you write your thoughts.\n\nI realize you\'re traveling again today, so we\'ll all be watching for comments on this post.  I wanted to publish it rather than wait.  We can all see what thoughts others share in response.  Thanks again for a great post.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(8742, 5263, 'Herve Tunga', 'herve.tunga@gmail.com', 'http://hervetunga.com', '62.39.177.125', '2011-07-07 08:56:57', '2011-07-07 13:56:57', '\"Because we can\", a sentence which I first heard coming out of a joke few years ago gained new meanings into me through similar experiences.\n\nIt was not just me being the \"star\" of the show, there are also numerous people doing amazing things in a disinterested manner, making others benefit from their kindness just because they can, and sometimes it even cost to them though it didn\'t matter to them.\n\nI do think it\'s not just because we can, it\'s also because we want!\n\nThanks for this article...\n\nRv.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8743, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '98.85.131.197', '2011-07-07 09:32:27', '2011-07-07 14:32:27', 'Thanks Mike!  I love the opportunity to highlight some of the positive and wonderful things that go on in the world.  Too often I hear people lament about all the terrible news.  They ask, \"Why does the media focus on all the bad? Did nothing good happen today?\"  I think good happens every day.  People are kind to us and we are kind as well, but it is so rarely acknowleged.  Just today a friend once agani gave me a forum to speak on the internet.  I am grateful!', 0, '1', '', '', 8741, 258),
(8744, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '98.85.131.197', '2011-07-07 09:40:33', '2011-07-07 14:40:33', 'Herve,\nI definitely see your point, and it does make me think.  I think there are often unexpected and maybe even delightful benefits to being kind.  Perhaps these results do make us want to do more kind things, even if nothing comes of them, they are not \"cost effective\" and we are not even a \"star.\"  I hope we can at least direct our efforts knowing they do not always have to result in short or long term benefits to us.  Is it enough just to be kind?\n\nOn another note, I wonder what you think about how we actually work to increase acts of kindness.  Why do some people act in this way without thought while it never occurs to others?', 0, '1', '', '', 8742, 258),
(8745, 5263, 'Herve Tunga', 'herve.tunga@gmail.com', 'http://hervetunga.com', '62.39.177.125', '2011-07-07 09:51:28', '2011-07-07 14:51:28', 'Why do we act that way?\n\nWhen disoriented in an unknown city or town, which happen quite often... :) I welcome locals, even foreigners, helping find my way. So I find it normal to do the same when they visit known territories. Same goes with any kind of difficulty or challenge I could help others solving in my area of influence.\n\nIn my personal case, it came from a life choice I made when a teenager. Of course, there are influences and circumstances which eased my decision though it has to come from within. Relating positively to others, even unknown, is one of my way of being human.', 0, '1', '', '', 8744, 0),
(8746, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '98.85.131.197', '2011-07-07 10:10:57', '2011-07-07 15:10:57', 'Herve,\nPerhaps it is indeed a matter of people making a conscious choice.  It is true that a lot of the good in this world is a matter of acting consciously and deliberately.  Let\'s hope more people move in this direction!  Thank you for your comments this morning!\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 8745, 258),
(8747, 5263, 'Thomas', 'tmpastortom@gmail.com', 'http://www.lifebridge.tv', '12.5.83.18', '2011-07-07 16:14:43', '2011-07-07 21:14:43', 'Love it, love it, love it!  You inspired me to do more!  Because I CAN!\n\nThanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8748, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '166.137.10.81', '2011-07-07 17:20:26', '2011-07-07 22:20:26', 'Thank you Thomas!  Woo hoo! I hope you\'ll come back and tell us how it goes!', 0, '1', '', '', 8747, 258),
(8749, 5263, 'Shawn', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '99.17.7.206', '2011-07-07 17:55:11', '2011-07-07 22:55:11', 'Deb,\nThe world is not nearly as dismal as it seems when we stop long enough to notice such acts like you write about in this post.  And more importantly, when we step aside from the false perception that we are the center of the universe. Such an act opens up opportunities like the inspired examples you shared.\n\nGood share! Good reminder.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8750, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '166.137.8.14', '2011-07-07 18:44:30', '2011-07-07 23:44:30', 'You are absolutely right Shawn! What I loved was these acts didn\'t cost a dime, took only a little time, and no return was expected or really possible beyond thanks. But each event had impact, more than could really be foreseen. And more than the giver probably knows. That\'s my real hope. Maybe we are kind never expecting return or knowing the outcome. It\'s a gamble based on hope. Deal me in!\n\nThanks for your kindness, Shawn!\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 8749, 258),
(8751, 5263, 'Dale Burket', 'daburket@gmail.com', 'http://www.commerciallygreenflorida.com', '66.240.125.194', '2011-07-08 08:30:03', '2011-07-08 13:30:03', 'Deborah, this was a very insightful and interesting post.  It may also point out that when you are looking for opportunities to do good, you will most certainly find them.  And when you find them, you need ACT right away because the opportunity is fleeting.  In each of your examples, there was a split second where the good citizen could take action or not, and without much hesitation they did.  Thanks for observing and, more importantly, acting.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8752, 5263, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.203.124.74', '2011-07-08 08:57:10', '2011-07-08 13:57:10', 'I love the stories, Deb.  They warm my heart.  Thank you so much for sharing them, simply because you could!  And also thank you for reinforcing that we can find joy and gratitude in common and inconvenient moments.\n\nI think part of helping \"because we can\" is many times in the hurry of our day, we don\'t \"see\" each other.  I know when I do have the opportunity to help because I can, I am fulfilled by the gratitude I see in the receiver\'s eyes, but also bemused a bit because there is also there is an astonishment - which I can only guess is astonishment that they were seen.  I like surprising people like that.  And am sad that it is not more common.\n\nWarmly,\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(8753, 5263, 'Lissa Millspaugh', 'Lmillspa@yahoo.com', 'http://Winergyinc.com', '76.254.36.238', '2011-07-08 09:30:45', '2011-07-08 14:30:45', 'Great post! It\'s hard, sometimes, to be aware of these opportunities. If I were having travel drama, or wandering lost on a college campus, I might miss the chance to help someone else. It\'s a lesson in the Bhuddist concept of practicing non-attachment, I think. By stepping back from our own suffering and observing those around us, we get more chances to alleviate their suffering. Thanks for the post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8754, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '98.85.138.188', '2011-07-08 09:54:08', '2011-07-08 14:54:08', 'Dale,\n\nYou are absolutely right.  Time is often of the essence.  We blink and the opportunity is lost.  Perhaps this is why acts of kindness do not happen more often.  We look away, become distracted, or forget to act consciously and before you know it, the moment is lost.\n\nThanks for a really, important insight!\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 8751, 0),
(8755, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '98.85.138.188', '2011-07-08 10:00:53', '2011-07-08 15:00:53', 'Mary,\nI can totally see your point!  In the hurry of life, there\'s is plenty we don\'t see.  I think this astonishment you mention is so real.  I know I am stunned when people do kind things for me out of seeming nowhere.  I often wonder, what did I do to deserve that?  (We think that when life deals us an unexpected blow as well I think. What did I do to deserve THAT?)  Our world is so often cause and effect.  We believe we get what we deserve.  But is its also wonderful to get a good surprise, and I think even better if we can give one!\nThanks so much for pointing out our need to see each other, to take note.  It comes back to an earlier discussion of being counscious and deliberate.  You hit this nail on the head!\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 8752, 0),
(8756, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '98.85.138.188', '2011-07-08 10:07:24', '2011-07-08 15:07:24', 'You know, Lissa, I never even thought of that.  Caught up in my own problems and drama, I might very well have missed an opportunity to return the favor or at least pay it forward.  I was so grateful to have my own problem solved, that I may well have been blind to the drama of the next person in line or in the seat behind me, something I might have assisted with.  Keeping perspective is so vital in life.  I often have to remind myself that no matter how bad my problems are, someone else has it so much worse, and I wouldn\'t trade places for a minute.  Thanks for taking my thought processes one step further here and helping me think about this in a better way.\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 8753, 0),
(8757, 5263, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.224.6.134', '2011-07-08 16:54:18', '2011-07-08 21:54:18', 'Lissa, thanks for the reminder about non-attachment and realizing others have needs despite our own drama.  All good reminders shared today.\n\nDeb, congrats for penning such a thought-provoking post!  Mary', 0, '1', '', '', 8753, 252),
(8758, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '98.85.138.188', '2011-07-08 20:19:34', '2011-07-09 01:19:34', ':)  Thanks Mary!', 0, '1', '', '', 8757, 258),
(8759, 5263, 'Denise W. Barreto', 'mdwilmer@att.net', 'http://www.relationshipsmatternow.com', '108.68.189.33', '2011-07-10 20:44:12', '2011-07-11 01:44:12', 'Thanks for this post. I agree 100% and strive to be that \"person\" that takes your breath away with kindness and simple compassion. Not giving money to the poor (although that is part of my brand of compassion, too) but the everyday, greet your fellow man - make eye contact - SMILE and be thankful for your life brand of compassion.\n\nIt is coming back and I\'m leading the way.\n\nPeace', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8760, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '166.137.14.55', '2011-07-11 06:07:28', '2011-07-11 11:07:28', 'Denise,\nThank you for your thoughts and more importantly, your deeds. I wish more folks had the commitment you discuss. I wish you well and appreciate your kindness.\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 8759, 258),
(8761, 5263, 'Pam', 'pam_rogers_01@yahoo.com', 'http://www.rosewoodgraphics.us', '70.119.247.37', '2011-08-01 10:40:51', '2011-08-01 15:40:51', 'Deborah,\n\nThank you for this wonderful post.  In this day of constant negativity, it is a delight to read about kindness and consideration.  You have made my day.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8762, 5263, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '208.111.7.162', '2011-08-01 10:49:27', '2011-08-01 15:49:27', 'Thank you for stopping by and commenting Pam.  I am happy to report that since I wrote this post, I have been the recipient of many more kindnesses and have even found a way to make a little kindness for others.  I hope you find the same in your days.  Have an awesome week!', 0, '1', '', '', 8761, 258),
(8763, 5282, 'Billy Kirsch', 'billy@kidbillymusic.com', 'http://kidbillymusic.com', '98.87.38.227', '2011-07-18 08:38:01', '2011-07-18 13:38:01', 'Great post Peter. The more I learn, the less I speak and the more I listen. I used to generate conversation, now I try to invite conversation, listen after the invitation and then respond, making sure to show that I\'ve \'heard\' the people I\'m engaging with. This empowers action and initiative from others.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8764, 5282, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '67.97.209.36', '2011-07-18 09:14:09', '2011-07-18 14:14:09', 'Bravo, Peter.\n\nI\'ve long believed that wise leaders lean in to listen. Thanks for clarifying it so well.\n\nTristan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 253),
(8765, 5300, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://www.facebook.com/LeadershipPartners', '173.23.60.141', '2011-07-21 06:51:00', '2011-07-21 11:51:00', 'Excellent post (as always). One of The Five Practices of Exemplary Leadership in The Leadership Challenge by Jim Kouzes &amp; Barry Posner is Enable Others to Act. This practice requires investment in others, and one basic ingredient: TRUST. By enabling others to act, a leader willingly gives his/her power away, which makes the leader more powerful. That\'s one of the truths of leadership that many \"leaders\" haven\'t fully grasped -- the more power we give away, the more powerful we become.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8766, 5300, 'Simon Harevy', 'simongb@n2peopleskills.com', 'http://about.me/simongb', '67.237.186.145', '2011-07-21 07:34:15', '2011-07-21 12:34:15', 'Lisa,\n\nGreat post and I will have to write a book to answer all the questions it brings up for me. So for now as I have to go with this moment and get going away from this screen, I say thanks and don\'t let the moment get away.\n\nSimon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8767, 5300, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/lisapetrilli/', '98.222.78.7', '2011-07-21 07:36:01', '2011-07-21 12:36:01', 'Thank you so much, Angie. You bring up such a great point - the power of trust that is created when we are truly present with our teams.  By being present we tap into our own power, and then we are more capable of giving it away by empowering others.  The cycle itself is fulfilling and even more empowering.\n\nI genuinely appreciate you sharing that insight!', 0, '1', '', '', 8765, 269),
(8768, 5300, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/lisapetrilli/', '98.222.78.7', '2011-07-21 10:19:03', '2011-07-21 15:19:03', 'Simon,\n\nPerhaps in that moment the message for you was you are meant to write that book?  Pretty powerful... Thanks for reading and commenting!', 0, '1', '', '', 8766, 269),
(8769, 5300, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '64.134.234.49', '2011-07-21 12:02:12', '2011-07-21 17:02:12', 'Lisa,\nWhat an important message for all leaders today- positional or influencers. Getting present to today opens up our perspective.  We wonder why we didn\'t do it sooner the moment we do it and the more fluid things fall into place. It sounds foreign for those constantly battling the ghosts and the enemies we make of the future.\n\nI like the passion in this post.\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8770, 5300, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '143.127.128.10', '2011-07-21 12:33:49', '2011-07-21 17:33:49', 'Fantastic, Lisa. It\'s all about facing reality and responding accordingly. The best leaders take responsibility, not credit. They find solutions, not fault. Appreciating the reminder! :) Tristan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 253),
(8771, 5300, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/lisapetrilli/', '98.222.78.7', '2011-07-21 13:06:39', '2011-07-21 18:06:39', 'Shawn,\n\nI so appreciate that you felt the passion and love how you describe the battles with ghosts and the enemies we make of the future. What a compelling way to truly convey the reality of living somewhere other than the present moment.\n\nThanks so much for taking the time to comment, I genuinely appreciate it!', 0, '1', '', '', 8769, 269),
(8772, 5300, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/lisapetrilli/', '98.222.78.7', '2011-07-21 13:07:34', '2011-07-21 18:07:34', 'Thank you, Tristan! And...you\'re welcome. :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 269),
(8773, 5300, 'Garry Trammell', 'gltram@me.com', '', '50.33.212.141', '2011-07-23 09:35:18', '2011-07-23 14:35:18', 'Excellent Lisa, thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8774, 5300, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/lisapetrilli/', '98.222.78.7', '2011-07-24 14:39:50', '2011-07-24 19:39:50', 'Thanks so much for reading and taking the time to comment, Garry - I appreciate all the support you give me!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 269),
(8775, 5300, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '69.254.17.65', '2011-07-29 23:55:24', '2011-07-30 04:55:24', 'Very powerful message Lisa.  Your article had me think about a distinction from Christine Comaford - striding vs. striving.  When we are striving chances are we aren\'t being present in the moment because we are so busy doing stuff trying to get somewhere.  When we are present time seems to slow down just a bit and the experience is more one of striding.  Sometimes to use our power most effectively in the present moment we have to just stop doing and start paying attention.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 244),
(8776, 5300, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'Lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://www.LisaPetrilli.com', '98.222.78.7', '2011-07-30 08:28:31', '2011-07-30 13:28:31', 'Susan,\n\nThat\'s a lovely point! I appreciate you letting me know how it resonated with you.  I always enjoy knowing how my thoughts have led others down a complementary path.  Thanks so much for sharing!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8777, 5300, 'Randy Hall', 'randy.hall@4thgearconsulting.com', 'http://4thgearconsulting.com/blog', '98.24.26.38', '2011-07-31 18:32:36', '2011-07-31 23:32:36', 'Lisa,\n\nThanks for the thoughts and the great article.  So often we forget that choosing to do nothing when we have the chance to is a conscious choice as well.  The convenient part of that is if we fail to act we can blame bad outcomes on circumstances instead of our actions.  The truth is, in most cases, we caused the results either way.\n\nThanks for making us think,\n\nRandy', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8778, 5300, 'Lisa Petrilli', 'Lisamariap@comcast.net', 'http://www.LisaPetrilli.com', '98.222.78.7', '2011-08-01 07:23:39', '2011-08-01 12:23:39', 'Randy,\n\nI love that insight - it\'s fascinating to see how this concept resonates differently with readers.  Thanks so much for taking the time to read and to share your thoughts; it means a lot to me!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8779, 5300, 'Ashley S.C. Walls', 'ashleyscwalls@gmail.com', 'http://ashleyscwalls.com', '207.229.182.152', '2011-08-08 16:03:17', '2011-08-08 21:03:17', 'GREAT POST!\n\nThanks', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8780, 5302, 'Lisa D.', 'lisa@onboardlearning.com', 'http://blog.eboardsolutions.com/', '68.191.241.225', '2011-07-20 08:00:13', '2011-07-20 13:00:13', 'Wow. I\'m sure this list will bring up concrete memories in most folks; minds!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8781, 5302, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-20 08:04:08', '2011-07-20 13:04:08', 'It certainly did for me!  When I was writing the post about the ways to build trust over at Smartblog, I couldn\'t help but list the ways to tear it down.  Thanks for checking it out!\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8780, 243),
(8782, 5302, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '67.97.209.36', '2011-07-20 08:26:58', '2011-07-20 13:26:58', 'This is just KILLER content.  We must break the barriers. We MUST slay the siloes. In the name of all that is good and right and customer-centric!\n\nThanks Mike, you\'ve strengthened my resolve, again, to do whatever it takes!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 253),
(8783, 5302, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-20 08:35:41', '2011-07-20 13:35:41', 'Thanks back Tristan. I appreciate how you continue to encourage the revolution.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8782, 243),
(8784, 5302, 'Louise Sorensen', 'louise3anne@gmail.com', 'http://wordpress.com', '93.246.33.245', '2011-07-20 10:24:33', '2011-07-20 15:24:33', '1A) Don\'t Listen to anything anyone says.\n1B) Explode when anyone criticizes you, points out a mistake you made, or tries to have any input at all. Why this is good; spontaneous hissy fits discourage creativity, loyalty and team cohesiveness. Because who wants that, right?\n1C) Be a Non-Stop Talker. No one else has anything interesting to say, anyway. Note:You will have to learn how to talk while breathing both in and out.\n1D) Spread lies about your staff. This will keep them in a constant state of adrenaline anxiety and they are less apt to approach you with any questions. Downside: They probably wouldn\'t spit on you if you were on fire. But what\'s the likelihood of someone setting you on fire???\n1E) Never keep a confidence. If someone confides in you, make sure the whole office knows about it. Especially if it will get you ahead.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8785, 5302, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-20 18:33:55', '2011-07-20 23:33:55', 'Louise, thanks so much for the additional input.  These are great additions.  Much appreciated.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8784, 243),
(8786, 5302, 'Adam L. Stanley', 'connect@alswharton.com', 'http://alswharton.com/in', '98.206.144.237', '2011-07-21 00:22:11', '2011-07-21 05:22:11', 'Astounding how obvious these items seem yet how frequently people (myself included) forget themselves and demonstrate just these trust killing traits.  I believe leadership, teamwork, and collaboration are all manifestations of RELATIONSHIP and trust is a primary building block of relationships. You simply cannot have relationship without trust. Thanks for sharing this blog.\n\nPledging again to work hard to build trust and avoid the traps that destroy trust.\n\nIn relationship,\nAdam\n\n@ALSWharton on twitter', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8787, 5302, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-21 06:07:28', '2011-07-21 11:07:28', 'Adam, thanks for the honest comment.  When it comes to building trust and being trustworthy, we all go through cycles where we do well for a while and then we come up short because of timing, attitude, lack of sleep or a host of other reasons.  The list of why and how to drop the ball seems endless.  Being aware of when we drop the ball and working to make it right also builds trust, too.  Thanks again.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8786, 243);
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(8788, 5302, 'Stephanie', 'coach@lifebeyondsport.com', 'http://www.lifebeyondsport.com', '24.164.85.192', '2011-07-21 08:23:55', '2011-07-21 13:23:55', 'Great list. Another one is talking poorly about people when they are not present. When I hear people do this it always makes me wonder what they are saying about me when I\'m not there!\n\n—Stephanie', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8789, 5302, 'Michael Griffen', 'nygriffen@gmail.com', '', '24.213.146.240', '2011-07-22 13:50:29', '2011-07-22 18:50:29', 'Hello Mr. Henry,\n\nI find it very difficult to trust someone who doesn\'t listen after they ask a question.  Perhaps, not surprisingly, I have run in to a few of these individuals over the years.  If you are wanting me to trust you, slow down, listen, and stop trying to get your next comment out before I finish answering YOUR question...\n\nThanks for this post Mike.\n\n-Mike', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8790, 5302, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-22 14:12:19', '2011-07-22 19:12:19', 'Thanks for the great comment Mike.  It\'s so good, I included it even though you referred to me as Mr. Henry. You weren\'t trying to remind me of the times I did this to you, were you?  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8789, 243),
(8791, 5302, 'Michael Griffen', 'nygriffen@gmail.com', '', '24.213.146.240', '2011-07-22 15:04:21', '2011-07-22 20:04:21', 'I have learned and adopted a tremendous amount from you.  I don\'t think listening is a weakness in your playbook.\n\n-Mike', 0, '1', '', '', 8790, 0),
(8792, 5302, 'Mitch Mitchell', 'mitch@ttmitchellconsulting.com', 'http://www.ttmitchellconsulting.com/Mitchblog', '24.58.37.44', '2011-07-24 10:05:59', '2011-07-24 15:05:59', 'To start with, a trust killer is having a captcha that\'s hard for some people to read; a second trust killer is moderating comments, though I won\'t know if you do that until I hit \'submit\'.  Both of those probably covers #10.\n\nNow, you\'ll probably see what I did as #7, and you\'d probably be correct.  However, I think people underestimate #7 at times because it\'s not correcting people in general but in how you decide to do it.  For instance, what I\'ve pointed out can be seen as a correction, but I\'d explain myself further if that\'s what this post was about; I don\'t want to hijack the topic so I\'m leaving it alone.  But we do have this thing about constructive criticism and the principles of having crucial conversations as mentioned in the book of the same name.\n\nBeing more on topic, I tend to believe that true leaders, not temporary situational leaders or people put into leadership positions without the proper skills, have these 3 components:  loyalty, honesty, and trustworthiness.  I think these encompass indirectly some of your points above.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8793, 5302, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-24 11:33:47', '2011-07-24 16:33:47', 'Thanks for the comment, Mitch.  Thanks for persisting through the CAPTCHA and the moderation.\n\nI don\'t see what you did as #7, pointing out the mistakes of others.  This post was written speaking to a supervisor relating to their team or direct reports.  (Besides, the CAPTCHA and moderation aren\'t a mistake; they\'re both on purpose, although I admit that I don\'t have the programming skills to use a friendlier CAPTCHA.  Once someone comments or registers the behavior changes.)\n\nMy point about #7 is that there are some bosses or stakeholders who choose to comment about what can be improved almost to the exclusion of what was done well.  The supervisors I\'ve had that have done that have all done it claiming that it was a service to me almost as if they were serving me by being totally honest.  Honesty doesn\'t justify a critical spirit.  Over time, I\'ll share less with critical people and I trust them with less regardless of their reasoning.  If someone wants me to trust them, they will be honest in a way that makes me feel I\'ve been helped.  I\'ve never met anyone who didn\'t already have a pretty good idea what they could be doing better.  Most appreciate the opportunity to ask for the help rather than having it volunteered frequently.  I heard someone onetime say that all unsolicited advice is received as criticism.\n\nBeyond that, we agree that disloyalty, dishonesty and untrustworthiness are trust killers.  Thanks again for the comment.  I\'m glad that you read and commented.', 0, '1', '', '', 8792, 243),
(8794, 5302, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-24 11:37:23', '2011-07-24 16:37:23', 'This is a great addition Stephanie. Thanks for adding it.  I agree with you that the easiest way for me to stop trusting someone is gossip.  Unfortunately, gossip is also a weakness of mine that I must constantly struggle with so that may be why I left it off the list.  Thanks for the reminder that people often see us as doing to them the very thing we\'re doing.  That\'s why giving others the benefit of the doubt and appreciating them are on the list.  Gossip definitely needs to be added.  Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 8788, 243),
(8795, 5302, 'Mitch Mitchell', 'mitch@ttmitchellconsulting.com', 'http://www.ttmitchellconsulting.com/Mitchblog', '24.58.37.44', '2011-07-24 12:20:37', '2011-07-24 17:20:37', 'I thank you for your reply Mike.  And with the full explanation, now #7 makes a lot of sense; who could disagree with that?  And you\'re right about your last line as well; most of the time unsolicited advice is seen as criticism, so I\'m glad you accepted what I had to say in the manner in which I meant it.\n\nIf this is a Wordpress blog there are many other options to use rather than captcha that get the job done and encourage conversation; that\'s why I brought it up.  And then one can turn off moderation because you\'re more confident in what\'s going to show up on your blog.  I\'ll just mentioned Akismet &amp; GASP anti-spybot in case you\'re interested; those are the only two I need for all 4 of my blogs.', 0, '1', '', '', 8793, 0),
(8796, 5302, 'Pete Friedes', 'pfriedes@mac.com', 'http://www.managingpeoplebetter.com', '68.175.120.48', '2011-07-25 07:40:29', '2011-07-25 12:40:29', 'I\'m a little late with this response, but nothing makes an employee\'s distrust-antenna go up faster than the manager using \"I\" all the time, when it really should be \"we.\"  Whenever a manager says \"My group\" in front of his group, it shows he doesn\'t view it as a team, he views it as something he owns and runs and will do what he wants, probably without input from \"his people.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8797, 5302, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-07-25 07:45:42', '2011-07-25 12:45:42', 'Pete, great addition.  When a manager talks in the first person (as I have had a terrible time doing in the past) he or she shows that they think they are the center of the effort and the team (their people) exist to serve them.  Thanks for adding this.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8796, 243),
(8798, 5302, 'Trusting Leadership &#8211; A Blogging Perspective | Mitch&#039;s Blog', '', 'http://www.ttmitchellconsulting.com/Mitchblog/trusting-leadership-a-blogging-perspective/', '74.208.16.88', '2011-07-25 08:53:55', '2011-07-25 13:53:55', '[...] http://leadchangegroup.com/top-10-trust-killers [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8799, 5302, 'Katie', 'katie.stroud@live.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/katiestroudpro/', '97.126.67.7', '2011-08-12 18:39:50', '2011-08-12 23:39:50', 'Pete,\n\nYou think you were late with a response...here\'s mine: Minimize contact with the team and make sure feedback is non-existent (that way they can\'t accuse you of being negative).\n\nI\'m surprised this one hadn\'t turned up yet. I find it to be a very common problem among leaders.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 284),
(8800, 5310, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '67.97.209.36', '2011-07-25 09:02:16', '2011-07-25 14:02:16', 'Hi Will,\n\nExcellent thoughts: thanks for sharing them! I believe that, while good leaders plan for the future, the great leaders are busy shaping it via innovation and adjustment. Preparation is the great differentiator! :)\n\nHave an awesome day.\n\nTristan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 253),
(8801, 5329, 'Thomas Waterhouse', 'tdwclients@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/encouraging/', '70.126.196.29', '2011-07-27 17:12:33', '2011-07-27 22:12:33', 'How about people with GREAT strategies!  :)  Excellent thought, Larry. Thanks, Mike!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 254),
(8802, 5336, 'Jon M', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jhmertz/', '72.48.93.4', '2011-08-02 08:13:05', '2011-08-02 13:13:05', 'Your action points are so very accurate. It is easy to get discouraged and then forget to recommit, admit errors, or seek time for reflection and guidance. These are essential things to do to keep moving the mission forward.\n\nYour insights are inspiring and challenging, a wonderful combination. Posts like this is why I believe the Lead Change Group is one of the best!\n\nThanks.\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 290),
(8803, 5336, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-02 10:54:23', '2011-08-02 15:54:23', 'Jon,\n\nThank you for your feedback!  It is such an honor to be a part of Lead Change!\n\nI checked out your blog and discovered that we have both received lessons in leadership from toothpaste tubes!  Interesting how we see the same object, and yet observe different things.\nhttp://www.thindifference.com/2011/07/27/the-toothpaste-test/\nhttp://www.gianaconsulting.com/blog/people-are-not-toothpaste-tubes-', 0, '1', '', '', 8802, 270),
(8804, 5336, 'Jon M', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jhmertz/', '72.48.93.4', '2011-08-02 10:59:34', '2011-08-02 15:59:34', 'Chery,\n\nWhat a coincidence! I guess we think within a similar \"tube\" of sorts! I like your perspective as well on toothpaste leadership. Good people insights, without a doubt!\n\nThanks!\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 290),
(8805, 5336, 'Shawn', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '99.17.7.206', '2011-08-02 12:59:21', '2011-08-02 17:59:21', 'Chery,\nI have no doubts that your message today will remind others that we are stronger when we lean on others to help us make things happen.\n\nGreat message and examples.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8806, 5336, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-02 13:36:39', '2011-08-02 18:36:39', 'Shawn, Thanks for being one of the examples in the message!\n\nThe timing of our call that week was so perfect:\n\nEarlier in the week I read Lisa Petrilli\'s Blog and had been reminded how important it is for us to ask for help.  http://www.lisapetrilli.com/2011/07/14/when-leadership-means-leaning-on-letting-go/\n\nWithin in days you and I were sharing similar thoughts about our journeys through unfamiliar territory and finding encouragement simply from knowing that someone else was \"there\" too.\n\nThankful,\n\nChery', 0, '1', '', '', 8805, 270),
(8807, 5336, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-02 13:56:58', '2011-08-02 18:56:58', 'I just received this link from Jesse Lyn Stoner, the author I quoted in this blog.\n\nThis is a link to a blog she wrote about the creative tension titled:  \"The shortest distance between what is and what could be.\"  http://seapointcenter.com/creative-tension/\n\nThanks Jesse!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 270),
(8808, 5336, 'Jesse Stoner', 'jstoner@seapointcenter.com', 'http://www.seapointcenter.com', '76.119.118.214', '2011-08-02 14:05:24', '2011-08-02 19:05:24', 'Chery, I really appreciate your post. I love your examples of people who did not allow themselves to be limited by their present reality and your advice on how to deal with the \"creative tension\" is very helpful.\nJesse', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8809, 5336, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-02 15:26:08', '2011-08-02 20:26:08', 'Thank you so much Jesse!  You\'re examples have been teaching me for years!', 0, '1', '', '', 8808, 270),
(8810, 5336, 'Ryan Vet - Leadership', 'Ryan@ryanvet.com', 'http://ryanvet.com/blog/leadership', '96.10.22.122', '2011-08-12 15:14:57', '2011-08-12 20:14:57', 'Chery- Thanks for sharing this post. This tension you talk about is definitely something that I struggle with. However those people you mentioned, Columbus, Mandela, and so on was extremely compelling. They are stories we all know well, but I have never looked at them in this light. Thank you!\n-ryan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8811, 5336, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-09-02 10:23:59', '2011-09-02 15:23:59', 'Ryan - I apologize for the long delay in responding to you.\n\nIt is interesting to me that as humans we all struggle with this.  Yet so often we struggle in isolation instead of realizing that this tension is a normal part of living and celebrating that it is growth-causing.\n\nAlso so interesting how we stand back and admire someone who has achieved something that took years of dedication, without realizing that it was a journey, not an event.\n\nAmazing how vision can give us hope for the length of the journey...', 0, '1', '', '', 8810, 270),
(8812, 5348, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '208.111.7.162', '2011-08-01 11:00:50', '2011-08-01 16:00:50', 'Jane,\n\nMaybe our current political leaders need to read this post and take a lesson or two from you.  Somehow compromise is a dirty word and cooperation is the work of traitors.  Going to the mat over everything leaves us all angry, unproductive, and frustrated.  I would love to see more of this at every level of leadership.  Well said!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 258),
(8813, 5348, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/janeperdue/', '76.23.122.124', '2011-08-01 13:17:42', '2011-08-01 18:17:42', 'Deb -\n\nHow I would love to coach the folks in DC...the whole lead change group could pass along such wisdom - perhaps someday. As always, so appreciate your kind words and insights that enrich the dialogue.\n\nWith a smile,\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(8814, 5348, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '67.97.209.36', '2011-08-02 08:50:06', '2011-08-02 13:50:06', 'Thank you Jane!\n\nVery timely and effective. I often say, \"Wise warriors wait for the battles that matter.\"\n\nAppreciate the reminder in age of debilitating gridlock.\n\nTristan', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 253),
(8815, 5348, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/janeperdue/', '76.23.122.124', '2011-08-02 17:24:50', '2011-08-02 22:24:50', 'Tristan - love your wise counsel and kinds words...thanks much!', 0, '1', '', '', 8814, 251),
(8816, 5365, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '69.254.17.65', '2011-08-01 21:24:26', '2011-08-02 02:24:26', 'What a wonderful tribute to an amazing woman. Thanks for pointing to such a wonderful example of authentic leadership.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 244),
(8817, 5343, 'Matt', 'hellerm@cfl.rr.com', 'http://www.performanceoptimist.com', '184.91.144.218', '2011-08-05 20:51:10', '2011-08-06 01:51:10', 'Great post and great information!  I\'ve always wondered where people got the idea that ANY work was beneath them?  Maybe it\'s an ego issue... they don\'t have enough self confidence to perform that duty and NOT let it define them.  Really makes you think about some \"leaders\".\n\nThanks for sharing!\n\nMatt', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8818, 5343, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.224.4.26', '2011-08-06 11:34:20', '2011-08-06 16:34:20', 'Thanks so much for your comment, Matt.  I totally agree with you that some folks are letting a task define them, and that demonstrates problems with ego, confidence and I think insecurity is also part of the equation.  Sigh.  Well, in the meantime, we\'ll just go on leading. :)', 0, '1', '', '', 8817, 252),
(8819, 5343, 'Jon M', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jhmertz/', '207.239.83.130', '2011-08-06 17:48:15', '2011-08-06 22:48:15', 'As a farm kid, I can relate to your post! Growing up on a farm teaches you many solid life and leadership lessons. One I would add to your list is that you learn to deal with circumstances. In farming, much is out of your control, but you work through the challenging times and savor the good ones.\n\nI think spending a summer on a farm should be a required camp for future leaders!\n\nThanks!\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 290),
(8820, 5343, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.224.6.134', '2011-08-06 18:09:36', '2011-08-06 23:09:36', 'Really good addition, Jon. So true!', 0, '1', '', '', 8819, 252),
(8821, 5345, 'Ayesha Akram', 'ayesha.rocket.scientist@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/aish123/', '203.99.174.36', '2011-08-03 11:56:16', '2011-08-03 16:56:16', 'recently I had been through an interview and believe me what I noticed about the employer\'s thinking and job responsibilities was my communication to him about my past achievements. Everytime I spoke more about it, I myself felt how dramatically the mode of your communication can affect once you are truely aware of the term. All around the world they are researching and bringing up new technicalities of llinguistics. These days there is no denying the fact that expression comes best when we are focused . To sum it \"focus\" &amp; \"effective communication\" are two ways to actually know where you want to be in future. All it needs is little effort on thinking.\n\nGreat article! Have a good day.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8822, 5345, 'Leadership Lessons from the Horse&#8217;s Mouth &#8211; Sustainable Leadership', '', 'http://sustainable-leaders.com/leadership-lessons-from-the-horses-mouth/', '184.168.193.115', '2011-08-11 10:39:42', '2011-08-11 15:39:42', '[...] could tell some stories &#8230; well, here&#8217;s mine from a recent post I wrote for Leaders at The LeadChange Group Blog: &quot; ... a reining horse is willingly guided by seemingly imperceptible cues between horse and [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8823, 5362, 'Steve Riege', 'steve@ovationleadership.com', 'http://www.ovationleadership.com', '65.29.150.136', '2011-08-04 08:35:32', '2011-08-04 13:35:32', 'thanks Susan for a great article and insight on choosing to trust.  Trust is the foundation of teamwork, whether at home or at work, and it seems so many people today avoid it.  But you put it back on our shoulders to choose.  Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8824, 5362, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '208.111.7.162', '2011-08-04 08:58:29', '2011-08-04 13:58:29', 'I think the idea of setting clear expectations is really important.  If people know what is expected, then they can mindfully meet your expectations or choose not to.  When the process is vague, then they may willfully choose not to meet expectations or may not meet them because they do not understand.  Either way trust is lost.  In addition, failure to set clear expectations makes others lose faith in your ability to lead.  As a leader, your desire to help others be successful should result in you making your expectations clear.\n\nThanks for this reminder as I begin a new school year.  I will need to make my expectations clear in order to help my students become successful!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 258),
(8825, 5362, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '69.254.17.65', '2011-08-04 10:31:33', '2011-08-04 15:31:33', 'Love this point you make in particular:  \"As a leader, your desire to help others be successful should result in you making your expectations clear.\"\n\nYou also point out the importance of choosing to be trustworthy.  A leaders role is often to bring people to choice - setting clear expectations is one way to do that.  When you set clear expectations you remove the \"wriggle room\" someone has to justify why they didn\'t deliver and instead cause them to choose so they can be personally responsible for the consequences of their choice for better or for worse.\n\nThanks for adding your wisdom Deb!', 0, '1', '', '', 8824, 244),
(8826, 5362, 'Shawn', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '99.17.7.206', '2011-08-04 11:19:08', '2011-08-04 16:19:08', 'Susan,\nYou have a magnificent way of clearly distinguishing intangibles. And trust is one big intangible. Heck, Covey\'s son wrote a 300+ page book on the topic. You gave us a succinct, power-punch in &lt;500 words.\n\nWhat kept going through my mind as I read this is how all types of leaders could use this information to restore optimism in the workplace and strengthen relationships.\n\nMy favorite point: have the difficult or awkward conversations when trust is broken. Holding it in only weakens chances of building stronger relationships.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8827, 5362, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '69.254.17.65', '2011-08-04 23:35:53', '2011-08-05 04:35:53', 'Thanks Steve.  Interesting point that people \"try to avoid it\".  When it\'s there it\'s easy.  But when it is not or it gets broken it often requires a tough conversation.  the cost of avoidance is huge!', 0, '1', '', '', 8823, 244),
(8828, 5362, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '69.254.17.65', '2011-08-04 23:43:04', '2011-08-05 04:43:04', 'Appreciate your kind words Shawn. I think taking this point of view and putting it into practice can absolutely restore optimism in the workplace BECAUSE it strengthens relationships. Somewhere between trust and optimism is faith - if you don\'t trust the people you work with then you probably don\'t have much faith in the relationships or the future.  Without that faith how could you be optimistic?', 0, '1', '', '', 8826, 244),
(8829, 5362, 'Randy Hall', 'randy.hall@4thgearconsulting.com', 'http://4thgearconsulting.com/blog', '64.128.78.147', '2011-08-05 11:15:06', '2011-08-05 16:15:06', 'Susan,\n\nInsightful as always.\n\nI love the way you framed trust as the choice that it is rather than the way many people think about it - something that I have or don\'t, but can\'t control.  Trust is not a feeling, or a result, its a decision.  There are so many choices that we have that we leave to others to make for us when we can simply make them for ourselves.\n\nAll the best,\n\nRandy', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8830, 5362, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/susanmazza/', '69.254.17.65', '2011-08-05 15:25:47', '2011-08-05 20:25:47', 'Thanks Randy.  People seem to have a hard time taking personal responsibility for anything they think they can\'t control. especially other people\'s behavior.  While we of course can\'t control other people\'s behavior we can make personal choices that can influence behavior.', 0, '1', '', '', 8829, 244),
(8831, 5362, 'Barbara Kimmel', 'barbara@trustacrossamerica.com', 'http://www.trustacrossamerica.com', '184.6.216.58', '2011-08-07 12:37:01', '2011-08-07 17:37:01', 'Susan- this is a great article. It got me thinking about whether trust in personal relationships is different than trust in business relationships.\n\nIn both cases I think one must extend trust first. In personal relationships, the biggest \"trust buster\" for me is sharing information that should have been kept confidential. In business, the \"trust buster\" is lack of accountability- not doing what you say you will.\n\nI wonder if others make the same distinction.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8832, 5362, 'DragonLeaders', 'info@dragon-strategies.com', 'http://www.dragon-strategies.com/', '87.113.38.86', '2011-08-10 07:03:31', '2011-08-10 12:03:31', 'Yes, Susan. Trust is the cornerstone of relationships of all kinds. When a new boss is appointed, the first question staff ask is: \"what is he (she) like?\" Degrees and status are secondary to personality. The Chinese word for Trust is made up of: \"people\" and \"two\" referring it to a quality that binds people together! Thought I\'d share with you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8833, 5362, 'Randy Conley', 'randy.conley@kenblanchard.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/randyconley/', '68.8.218.245', '2011-08-20 19:21:25', '2011-08-21 00:21:25', 'Hi Susan. Thank you for this article. I think you make an insightful point about the value of setting clear expectations. I think there are times where we perceive someone as breaking our trust when in reality that person had a different expectation or understanding of the particular situation at hand.\n\nWhen it comes to building trust, I\'m a champion of the TrustWorks! ABCD model. It provides a common language and framework for understanding and building trust. A person builds trust by being:\n\nA - Able: Trust is built when we demonstrate competence by our expertise, establishing a track record of success, and knowing how to get work done in an organization.\n\nB - Believable: Acting with integrity builds trust. We\'re \"believable\" when we behave according to our values (walk the talk), are honest, and treat people fairly.\n\nC - Connected: Being connected is about showing care and concern for others which builds trust. Building rapport, appreciating differences, and recognizing &amp; rewarding individuals are trust-boosters.\n\nD - Dependable: Being dependable is about maintaining reliability. It\'s about being responsive to others, following through on commitments, and holding ourselves and others accountable.\n\nIf interested, you can learn more about TrustWorks! and the ABCD Model at http://leadingwithtrust.com.\n\nBest,\n\nRandy', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 334),
(8834, 5371, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-05 15:26:51', '2011-08-05 20:26:51', 'For all of you that don\'t live in Tulsa...  We would love you to join in this conversation as we prepare for the event.\n\nWhat was your defining moment in leadership?  What did you learn and how has it changed you?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 270),
(8835, 5371, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-05 15:35:24', '2011-08-05 20:35:24', 'I received this response from Tristan Bishop, through Facebook.\n\n\"My defining moment was last year, when I listened to encouragement from several mentors I\'d met on Twitter. I was scared to speak boldly within my company on the need for Social Media adoption, but knew it to be essential. Mike Henry told me to \"lead from WHO you are, not from where you sit.\" The choice to heed that advice has made all the difference.\"\n\nYou can follow Tristan on Twitter <a href=\"http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/\" rel=\"nofollow\">@KnowledgeBishop</a>', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8836, 5371, 'John Griffin', 'jgriffin@seniorsguide.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/johngriffintx/', '24.173.213.83', '2011-08-06 17:00:11', '2011-08-06 22:00:11', 'I just joined the site, so maybe I\'m reading this wrong.....but, when is this event?  Thanks so much! John', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8837, 5371, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-08-07 11:13:06', '2011-08-07 16:13:06', 'Sorry it\'s not clear.  The headline will take you through to the full post, but the event is planned for Thursday, August 25, 2011 from 7:30 - 9:00 AM at the TCC Center for Creativity, 910 S. Boston, Tulsa, OK.', 0, '1', '', '', 8836, 243),
(8838, 5371, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '64.134.234.1', '2011-08-09 11:51:55', '2011-08-09 16:51:55', 'My first defining leadership moment was in high school. I had decided to run for student body president. Though part of the reason was to be popular (I was 16), I had also grown frustrated by my not having coffee available to us. Serious stuff. This was before Starbucks was around. So, I ran on a platform of helping my classmates and coffee.  And I won.\n\nThe defining moment, however, wasn\'t winning. It was experiencing for the first time the power of being called forward to serve a group of people, and to develop a platform that meant something to those people. We did end up having coffee served. And I learned for the first time the magnitude of listening to people\'s needs and working to help them realize them.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 248),
(8839, 5371, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '24.249.156.71', '2011-08-10 12:09:16', '2011-08-10 17:09:16', 'I remember my defining moment like it was yesterday!  I was a sophomore in high school, and we had a brand new head coach.  I was on the 2nd string offense, playing against the defensive starters, and the Coach Cobble was playing quarterback.  This was in the late 70\'s in Oklahoma, so of course we ran the Wishbone offense (only the guys will appreciate that!).\n\nAnyway, we were running the option to the right- Coach and runners would run to the right, and then he would either hand it off, keep it, pitch it to a running back or pass.  My job as a lineman was to run to the right and block the defensive end, so he wouldn\'t kill the coach.  Problem was, he was one of the best guys on the team!  First time we ran the play, when I tried to block him he hit me so hard it knocked me backwards, and he gently wrapped up the coach... Coach Cobble yelled, \"Run it again!\", so we did...  The 2nd play I was determined to get lower than my opponent so I could block him out of the way.  But no.  He knocked me on my butt again, and again he stopped the play by grabbing the coach... so Coach Cobble yelled, \"Run it again!\"... and we did.\n\nThis third time I psyched myself up... \"I\'m gonna beat this guy!\", I told myself.  But this time I never got there to make my block, because the lineman between me and my opponent was knocked back into my path...  and something else different happened.  When the guy I was supposed to block grabbed the coach that play, he accidentally scraped his cleats down Coach Cobbles exposed shins, leaving several bloody track marks.  As you might imagine, Coach Cobble was not happy with me.\n\nCoach Cobble yelled, \"Cole, get your block!\"  Now, the smart thing, the wise thing would have been to respond, \"yes sir!\".  But I wasn\'t smart.  Or wise.  Instead, I responded by saying, \"I couldn\'t get there, Coach!  Rick was knocked back in my way!\"  And then came my defining moment...\n\nCoach Cobble came at me, eyes glaring and as angry as I had seen him in the short time I had known him.  He grabbed my facemask in front of 65 of my friends and other coaches, and these were his words.  \"Cole, all you seem to be really good at is making excuses!  If you want to make excuses your entire life, that\'s your choice, but you\'ll never amount to anything!  You have a choice, step up, take responsibility and get the job done, or make excuses!  What\'s it gonna be?!?!\"\n\nWow... time stopped for me.  It\'s like the universe was watching for my answer.  I don\'t know if it was 5 seconds or 5 hours (it seemed like both), but I responded \"Step up, take responsibility and get the job done sir!\".. And so he said, \"Run it again!\".  And we did.\n\nI learned in that moment that whether it\'s my fault or someone elses fault, no one likes the guy who always makes excuses.  But EVERYONE respects that guy that will step, take responsibility and get the job done.  Especially the guy who is getting it done.  I learned a new perspective on life, and new level of respect for myself.  It\'s shaped how I work as a member of a team, as well as how I deal with leading a team and mentoring others.\n\nOh, and what happened when we ran the play the last time?  I tackled the guy I was supposed to block... Coach didn\'t get tackled... I got the job done...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(8840, 5371, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-12 05:48:27', '2011-08-12 10:48:27', 'Shawn, Page and Tristan - Love your stories and the variety of lessons learned from business, school and football that have impacted your leadership:\n1.  Lead from who you are, not where you sit.\n2.  The power of being called to serve, and to develop a platform that means something to those you serve.\n3.  Step up, take responsibility and get the job done OR make excuses!  Page - The visual of your coach in your face was so strong that when I read it I was ready to block and tackle!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 270),
(8841, 5371, 'Randy Conley', 'randy.conley@kenblanchard.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/randyconley/', '68.8.218.245', '2011-08-20 19:25:38', '2011-08-21 00:25:38', 'This is a great discussion! Thanks to all for sharing your experiences - I learned something from each of you. I\'m publishing a blog article tomorrow (Sunday, August 21) that talks about this very subject:\n\nDefining Moments of Leadership: Will you define the moment or will the moment define you?\nhttp://leadingwithtrust.com/2011/08/20/defining-moments/ ?\n\nI\'d be honored if you checked it out and shared more of your stories with me.\n\nBest regards,\n\nRandy', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 334),
(8842, 5371, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-22 17:07:35', '2011-08-22 22:07:35', 'Randy - Thank you for sharing!  http://leadingwithtrust.com/\n\nSince you posted your blog yesterday, what responses have resonated with you the most and why?', 0, '1', '', '', 8841, 270),
(8843, 5371, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-08-22 17:08:24', '2011-08-22 22:08:24', 'Randy - Thank you for sharing!\n\nSince you posted your blog yesterday, what responses have resonated with you the most and why?', 0, '1', '', '', 8841, 270),
(8844, 5371, 'Randy Conley', 'randy.conley@kenblanchard.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/randyconley/', '12.175.64.145', '2011-08-22 17:38:05', '2011-08-22 22:38:05', 'Hi Chery. Thanks for the reply. I haven\'t received any comments yet, although the article is receiving a lot of views and tweets.', 0, '1', '', '', 8843, 334),
(8845, 5375, 'Kurt Scholle', 'kurt@webasylum.com', 'http://www.website-roi-guy.com', '71.57.76.126', '2011-08-16 13:43:17', '2011-08-16 18:43:17', 'Hi Mike,\nThanks for the link.  I understand that LinkedIn has now changed their policy and do not use your information by default.  Still, I think it\'s good policy to review setting on all social media sites.\n-- Kurt', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8846, 5379, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '69.242.114.141', '2011-08-22 09:35:57', '2011-08-22 14:35:57', 'Page, I absolutely love making the connection to popular culture.  So many do\'s and dont\'s to glean.  Thank you for making these connections.\n\nI was about to make a remark about the Jersey Shore\'s 15-minutes of fame, when I realize how very important character-based leadership is - it stands the test of time.\n\nThanks again Page for sharing with us an entertaining and educational read.  Mary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(8847, 5379, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '24.249.156.71', '2011-08-22 09:59:23', '2011-08-22 14:59:23', 'Thank you Mary... I\'m amazed daily by the things that we let influence and shape our culture.  It seems the more irresponsible or outlandish a person becomes, the more popular they are.  Lady Gaga wears an outfit made up of meat, and still someone asks her if she would want to be president??? ( http://bit.ly/nE7Zmp )  REALLY??? HAHAHAHAHA!!!  Anyway, I appreciate your comments!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(8848, 5397, 'Dale Burket', 'daburket@gmail.com', 'http://www.commerciallygreenflorida.com', '66.240.125.194', '2011-08-30 08:07:52', '2011-08-30 13:07:52', 'Great post, Deborah!  I have found, sometimes through painful experience, that all of my best insights into the world and people around me have come only through listening, and pondering what I have heard.  It is as though I turn off my receptors when I am talking.  It\'s even worse in a tense situation, because I often find myself thinking of the next thing to say while someone else is talking (receptors also turned off!).  We all need to listen more and speak less, and when we listen, we should do so deeply, because often what others are saying may not be what they truly mean or feel.  It\'s simple and complicated at the same time!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8849, 5397, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '208.111.7.162', '2011-08-30 08:46:26', '2011-08-30 13:46:26', 'You are so right Dale.  I never thought about it in this way before, but often people do not say exactly what they mean or feel and so part of the process of listening is figuring this out.  There is a great psychological principle called \"Next in Line Effect.\" In a group in which people are expected to say something in sequence, we stop listening to the person directly preceeding us so that we can construct our thoughts.  In this case we lose only a little in the series, but in a conversation, there\'s only two people so if we are always constructing what we want to say next, we lose a lot.  The process of leading by listening, constructing our thoughts AFTER we actually hear what\'s being said and letting others lead in this sense intrigues me.  Thank you for your insightful comments!', 0, '1', '', '', 8848, 258),
(8850, 5397, 'Rick Schwartz', 'SalesAddiction@gmail.com', 'http://www.SalesAddiction.com', '99.8.196.48', '2011-08-30 10:07:49', '2011-08-30 15:07:49', 'Deborah,\n\nThis is something that I have been struggling with for as long as I\'ve been struggling with weight loss.  I see a lot of similarities.\n\n#1  I know what I should eat.  / I know that I should listen more\n\n#2.  I always start each day with a good solid plan of eating well  / I always enter a human interaction with the plan of using my two ears more than my one mouth\n\n#3   Sometimes I do eat well / Sometimes I do listen.\n\n#4   When I eat well - I feel like I\'ve done something positive / When I listen I ALWAYS learn something.\n\n#5.  When I eat poorly I am disappointed that I wasted a day / When I don\'t listen properly I am disappointed that I missed an opportunity to enhance my mind and prepare myself better to share what I\'ve learned with others.\n\nGreat thought - thanks for posting.  Today, at least, I am going to use your thoughts to listen more.  Tomorrow - we\'ll see.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8851, 5397, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-08-30 11:08:25', '2011-08-30 16:08:25', 'Rick,\n\nWow...  what an interesting parallel...  as a person that has worked on weight management and fitness for a long time myself, I probably should have put that all together...  It\'s interesting how the philosophies we create to deal with one part of our lives can so easily flow into other parts, if we just pay attention and think and act deliberately.  There is no escaping that we are best when act in all ways from our core values, a philosophy embraced by the LeadChange group in particular.  I appreciate you reminding me that my success as a leader and my success as a heathy person are related and can be measured in similar ways.\n\nDeb\n\nPS: It\'s been my experience that people fail at weightloss or fitness goals when they focus on the failure of a single day.  They fall off the wagon and simply never get back on.  I love that you have goals for each day.  The mistakes of the past are simply that, past.  We all make mistakes.  What we do next says everything about us.  Have a wonderful, healthy day.  I will do the same!  Thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 8850, 258),
(8852, 5397, 'Mark Oakes', 'moakes@concentricsecurity.com', '', '70.88.159.217', '2011-08-30 15:07:57', '2011-08-30 20:07:57', 'Great insights, Deb!\n\nOur ability to learn/grow hinges on the orientation of our Focus (Us vs. Others). When we focus soley on ourselves we stifle the growth process. As you astutely point out, listening is an excellent example. The minute we shut down our internal dialogue and focus intently on another, we\'ve opened a channel to learn.\n\nThanks for sharing!\n\nMark', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8853, 5397, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '208.111.7.162', '2011-08-30 15:26:51', '2011-08-30 20:26:51', 'Thank you for stopping by Mark.  Your insights last week provided me with plenty to consider in writing this post and in moving forward in all that I do.  The idea of focus is one you talk about often, specifically on avoiding multitasking and giving each task undivided attention.  The idea of listening is a great example of why this wisdom is so true.  I tell my students all the time that they must listen in order to learn.  Clearly I need to do the same.\n\nI appreciate your continued wisdom!\n\nP.S.  Great run today!  ;)', 0, '1', '', '', 8852, 258),
(8854, 5402, 'Pete Friedes', 'pfriedes@mac.com', 'http://www.managingpeoplebetter.com', '68.175.120.48', '2011-08-29 10:13:17', '2011-08-29 15:13:17', 'Very clever post, Leigh.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8855, 5402, 'Tricia bowler', 'Tricia.bowler@shaw.ca', '', '206.108.210.76', '2011-08-29 10:25:51', '2011-08-29 15:25:51', 'All great stories display evidence of archetypical leadership/hero attributes. Thanks for taking the time to sift thru this amazing series and capture the threads!  Delightful.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8856, 5402, 'Melissa Taylor', 'melissa@imaginationsoup.net', 'http://imaginationsoup.net', '67.166.49.138', '2011-08-29 21:53:30', '2011-08-30 02:53:30', 'What a delightful way of looking at management through a new lens. Love this!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8857, 5402, 'David M. Dye (@davidmdye)', 'david_dye@comcast.net', 'http://davidmdye.blogspot.com', '76.25.27.121', '2011-08-30 00:36:23', '2011-08-30 05:36:23', 'One quality I admire in Dumbledore is his belief in people and ability to build a team of folks who might not ever associate with each other if it weren\'t for their shared vision. Every single person fills a role they are suited to, even if not everyone understands. In volunteer and nonprofit environments, this can be an important reality. Thanks for this fun post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8858, 5402, 'Leigh Steere', 'Lsynthesis@aol.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/leighsteere/', '97.118.93.122', '2011-08-31 10:19:53', '2011-08-31 15:19:53', 'Thanks for your feedback, Pete, Tricia and Melissa. This post was really fun to write.', 0, '1', '', '', 8855, 268),
(8859, 5402, 'Leigh Steere', 'Lsynthesis@aol.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/leighsteere/', '97.118.93.122', '2011-08-31 10:48:41', '2011-08-31 15:48:41', 'I agree, David. Thanks for your comment. I particularly like how Dumbledore gives opportunities to people others have written off. Few executives today would risk hiring folks like Remus Lupin, Hagrid or Firenze. Dumbledore focuses on talent and character. He overlooks appearances, \"disabilities,\" and differences in choosing the best person for a role.', 0, '1', '', '', 8857, 268),
(8860, 5402, 'Katie Stroud', 'katie.stroud@live.com', 'http://katiestroud.com', '97.126.66.24', '2011-08-31 12:30:37', '2011-08-31 17:30:37', 'In line with David\'s comment, I like tip #8. We\'re greater together than apart, but encouraging collaboration is easier said than done. It takes all the rest of the skills you list here to make it happen. It\'s worth the effort, though, isn\'t it.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 284),
(8861, 5402, 'MAPping Company Success', '', 'http://mappingcompanysuccess.com/2011/09/september-leadership-development-carnival-2/', '184.168.21.21', '2011-09-05 03:22:05', '2011-09-05 08:22:05', '[...] Henry Sr. presents 10 Management Lessons from Harry Potter posted at Lead Change Group Blog, saying, &#8220;Post by Leigh Steere of Managing People Better [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8862, 5407, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-08-31 07:20:17', '2011-08-31 12:20:17', 'Katie,\n\nI love this line from your piece:  \"Leaders, at any level, hold a piece of other peoples’ hopes and dreams. That responsibility should not be taken lightly.\"  It is an important reminder that leaders are not just responsible for goals being accomplished, but also responsible to the people on their team.  It is not a one way street, but a super highway of shared responsibilities, dreams, and accomplishments.  Clearly you are a well seasoned traveler here.\n\nThank you for sharing your story.\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 258),
(8863, 5407, 'Katie Stroud', 'katie.stroud@live.com', 'http://katiestroud.com', '75.165.25.164', '2011-08-31 11:49:48', '2011-08-31 16:49:48', 'Thanks for the kind words, Deb. It\'s true that the responsibility of the leader is not just to the goals being accomplished, but to the people on their team. But beyond the team and a specific leadership role, our everyday accomplishments contribute to something bigger. Getting out of bed this morning is part of making something happen for someone in the world--it\'s part of making an impact. How we live today matters--not just to ourselves, but to people in our lives and to random people we may never meet. That impact we make could be a defining moment in someone else\'s life. And that should not be taken lightly.\n\nI like how you define leadership as a shared super highway of responsibilities, dreams and accomplishments. It is a highway I travel everyday…but there\'s a long road ahead and a lot of traffic to be mindful of.\n\nThanks for your comment, Deb.\n\nKatie', 0, '1', '', '', 8862, 284),
(8864, 5407, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-08-31 17:49:12', '2011-08-31 22:49:12', 'Katie, thanks again for the great story.  I also appreciate the comments, both yours and Deb\'s.  We are responsible for more than we think.  I appreciate your sharing and being a part of Lead Change.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(8865, 5410, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/costelloland/', '138.210.92.134', '2011-09-01 07:53:05', '2011-09-01 12:53:05', 'An excellent call to action Mike.  Short of being a hermiit, we are all interacting with each other daily, creating and influencing, whether we want to or not.  The inevitable result is output, but what is our output?  Your piece reminds me that mindful, conscious, ever evolving and improving output is the goal.  And the means to this goal is mindful, conscious, ever improving input.  The leadchange group is a big part of my input.\n\nThanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 258),
(8866, 5410, 'Ken Garman', 'kgarman2000@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/leadpassion/', '63.233.93.66', '2011-09-01 15:54:03', '2011-09-01 20:54:03', 'Great article Mike.  If we\'re not careful our output can become stagnant in either of two ways.\n1. If we spend too much time learning and receiving input then our deliverable\'s go down.\n2. If we spend too much time giving and leading without enriching our knowledge base then our out put becomes stale and bad output is worse than no output.\nYour post was a reminder and a wake up call for me. Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8867, 5410, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-09-01 16:13:28', '2011-09-01 21:13:28', 'Deb, thanks for the comment and for being a part of Lead Change.  I\'ve been working on my core values and this is one; producing value in excess of what I consume.  I\'m glad to get to be associated with other great folks who feel the same way.  Thanks again, Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8865, 243);
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(8868, 5410, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-09-01 16:22:50', '2011-09-01 21:22:50', 'Ken, thank you for the comment.  I appreciate how you took the time to comment and generally don\'t want to \"pick on\" a small phrase in your comment.  However, as someone with a bias for action, I\'m challenged by the idea that nothing is better than something done poorly.  Part of me wants to agree with you.  I\'m sure that there are times when doing nothing would cost less, or forced fewer people to have to waste time fixing whatever problem you created. I agree going through the motions is bad.  But trying and failing is good.  As someone who often fails, I hold on to that belief to keep going.\n\nThanks again, Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8866, 243),
(8869, 5410, 'Ken Garman', 'kgarman2000@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/leadpassion/', '63.233.93.66', '2011-09-01 16:44:35', '2011-09-01 21:44:35', 'Mike,\nI agree with you completely.  I was merely trying to point out that we as leaders have no business with all the information available to us, to have poor quality offerings to those we lead.\nThanks for responding,\nKen', 0, '1', '', '', 8868, 0),
(8870, 5410, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-09-01 18:16:59', '2011-09-01 23:16:59', 'Agreed.  Thanks for adding to the conversation.  I appreciate your interest and feedback.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8869, 243),
(8871, 5410, 'Noraini', 'asleealision@yahoo.com', '', '203.82.95.2', '2011-09-02 11:54:45', '2011-09-02 16:54:45', 'Hi Mike,\n\nCouldnt agree more when you said \"Leaders are measured by their output\". Am fully agree with you. A great leader is one who are able not only to lead, but to be able to produce ideas and turns it into reality, into a success story benefited to all, as much as to make good choices in deciding things!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8872, 5410, 'Stephan De Villiers', 'stephan@incrementalsuccess.org', 'http://www.leadershipconnexion.com', '196.210.167.120', '2011-10-28 05:57:20', '2011-10-28 10:57:20', 'I agree with you basic theme that Leaders need to produce. However I also believe that sustainable leadership is only possible when the Leader has the ability to tap into the collective genius of the people he/she leads and produce through the followers new ideas, solutions to problems etc.  Leaders are measured by their output, but they should also be measured by the output of the group or organization they lead.  If all the production comes only from the leader with the group acting just as the implementers, the leadership model is not sustainable.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8873, 5410, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-28 07:12:41', '2011-10-28 12:12:41', 'Thanks Stephan for the great feedback.  Your interpretation of the post is accurate, but a bit more literal than I originall intended.  The output of the team and the output of the organization are the higher priorities.  We all work to produce a team outcome.  The positional leader of that team needs to get their team to do the work necessary to produce the team\'s output.  I agree with that.\n\nHowever a character-based leader is someone who doesn\'t let obstacles keep them from making a contribution.  They don\'t have to be the positional leader and they also don\'t have to make the end contribution.  They simply produce value for the team rather than simply draining energy and output from that same team.  A leader who\'s not in charge, creates value.  Their contribution matters.  That was the scope of the post and the original thought.\n\nThanks for extending the conversation.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8872, 243),
(8874, 5413, 'Leading Your Below Average Team Members | Coaching Leaders', '', 'http://www.leadwithhonor.com/blog/2011/09/04/leading-your-below-average-team-members/', '64.151.83.168', '2011-09-04 12:21:33', '2011-09-04 17:21:33', '[...] Personal Humility and Professional Will (leadchangegroup.com) [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8875, 5413, 'Stephan De Villiers', 'stephan@incrementalsuccess.org', 'http://www.leadershipconnexion.com', '196.210.167.120', '2011-10-12 09:38:50', '2011-10-12 14:38:50', 'Hi There Mike,\nThank you very much for the recommendation!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8876, 5419, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '12.181.61.90', '2011-09-06 09:46:49', '2011-09-06 14:46:49', 'Angie\n\nThank you for sharing your honest and thoughtful experience as you continue your leadership journey.  Your experiences, especially the observations about that depression thingie, resonate with me and I would guess with many others.\n\nSo many thoughts come to mind as I reread your words that I will be considering this post and the lessons in it for a while.  \"Stay tuned\", as they say.\n\nYou have done those who are willing to engage in reflective practice and self-exploration a great service ~ thanks:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8877, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '97.127.180.251', '2011-09-06 10:50:30', '2011-09-06 15:50:30', 'Heartfelt thanks to you, John, for your comments. I am grateful that you found value in my post. It was one of the most heartfelt and authentic posts I\'ve ever written. Long overdue, but I found myself in a place when I felt comfortable and safe sharing it. Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts.\n\nLead on,\nangie', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 279),
(8878, 5419, 'Zack Clinard', 'zack@americancriminal.net', 'http://AmericanCriminal.net', '76.27.205.104', '2011-09-06 12:56:24', '2011-09-06 17:56:24', 'Great post Angie.\nI have a challenging question to ask you,\nbecause it sounds like you struggled for a time\nand I am doing the same;\nhow does an unemployed leader\nremain an effective leader?\nLearning and personal development are wonderful,\nbut what practical steps do you take?\nKind regards,\nZack', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8879, 5419, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-09-06 13:52:04', '2011-09-06 18:52:04', 'Angie, thank you for this post.  You might talk more about the deck of values cards.  What is that?\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(8880, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '97.127.180.251', '2011-09-06 15:49:31', '2011-09-06 20:49:31', 'Zack,\n\nAs I look back on that time in my life, I\'d recommend something different than what I did. I disengaged from Facebook, Twitter, etc. I shut out many people and I regret having done so, even though I was humiliated and embarrassed by what had taken place.\n\nOne of my baby steps toward the new normalcy was to force myself to get \"out there\" once again. When I did, the support was remarkable even among those who didn\'t really know why I\'d left in the first place.\n\nMy greatest advice is to STAY CONNECTED. A support system is extremely critical for you to move forward. Like me, I suspect you will be amazed at the outpouring of support that will come your way. I scheduled lunch dates, attended community events, and started sharing my story with the select few whom are my inner circle.\n\nTo lead effective, one first must lead him/herself. Once I realized I wasn\'t leading myself, it was a wake-up call.\n\nFeel free to contact me directly if you\'d like to talk through your situation more in-depth.\n\nLead on,\nangie', 0, '1', '', '', 8878, 279),
(8881, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '97.127.180.251', '2011-09-06 15:54:34', '2011-09-06 20:54:34', 'Thank you, Mike. The Values Cards, part of The Leadership Challenge collection of products, created the turning point for me. The link for the product is http://www.leadershipchallenge.com/WileyCDA/LCTitle/productCd-0470559705.html; however, I can offer a discount to anyone interested in purchasing the cards.\n\nEach card has a value work or phrase written on it, i.e. freedom, dependability, respect, quality, trust, etc. The activity itself is to put the cards into three piles: very important, somewhat important, and not important. Focusing on the very important cards, the others are put away. The very important are then further narrowed down to the Top Five. This insightful process not only clarified my personal values, but also prioritized my company values.\n\nAnyone interested in purchasing a set of Values Cards can reach me at angie@angiechaplin.com.', 0, '1', '', '', 8879, 279),
(8882, 5419, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-09-06 16:06:13', '2011-09-06 21:06:13', 'I\'d add one other thing too... sometimes leading oneself means making the most of a situation.  And sometimes leadership is a result of being first.  If you simply help the next person, you\'re being an effective leader.  Leadership is an others-focused activity.  Therefore, like Angie stated above, keep your focus on others and look for ways to help.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8878, 243),
(8883, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '97.127.180.251', '2011-09-06 16:18:49', '2011-09-06 21:18:49', 'Admittedly, it took me many months to finally get the words from my head into words onto paper. Much support from Mike &amp; others associated with the Lead Change Group contributed to my strength in getting it written. Once the words started flowing, I couldn\'t stop. My second read-through shortened the piece which (hopefully) didn\'t sacrifice any of the content).\n\nAs I mentioned to Mike, the process was therapeutic. Even though the stress of building my business is a \"good\" stress, it\'s different from anything I\'ve ever experienced. Each day is a new day. YOU choose what kind of day it\'s going to be, and you choose who are the key support system members you will reach out to.\n\nangie', 0, '1', '', '', 8882, 279),
(8884, 5419, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '69.254.17.65', '2011-09-06 17:31:32', '2011-09-06 22:31:32', 'Thank you for sharing your story Angie.  In the often intense activity of a job it is so easy to lose touch with who we are and what really matters.  Our values are our only true compass.  There is a big cost to letting our fear overrule our values, yet it is such an easy trap to fall into,  Happy to hear you have chosen a direction guided by your true north.  Your story is inspiring.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8885, 5419, 'Jennifer V. Miller', 'jmiller@people-equation.com', 'http://people-equation.com', '76.236.182.182', '2011-09-06 18:24:22', '2011-09-06 23:24:22', 'Angie,\n\nThanks for sharing your very personal story in such a public forum. It\'s encouraging to hear that you\'ve been able to read your \"compass\" again. It was always there, but for some reason, it got buried underneath some other \"gear\".\n\nBest to you and I look foward to reading more from you on Lead Change.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8886, 5419, 'Kate Williams', 'kate@katelwilliams.com', 'http://socialbizlocalbiz.com', '67.183.250.8', '2011-09-06 21:15:14', '2011-09-07 02:15:14', 'Hi, Angie. Thanks so much for your authentic, heart-centered post. I have taken that journey three times now: job to unemployment, finally another job...to \"time to go\" message and into my own business. Now, at a \"mature age\" and business dipping with every plunge of the economy, I\'ve put my feet on that path again. Your post was an enormous support for leadership from the inside out--and leading myself--stepping out onto the path of values.\nThank you,\nKate L Williams', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8887, 5419, 'Brian L', 'brian@loebigink.com', 'http://www.loebigink.com', '96.228.47.159', '2011-09-06 22:05:34', '2011-09-07 03:05:34', 'Hi Angie,\nWow, thanks for writing this unemployed leader blog. Your story and mine are remarkably similar esp. since we both have had a faith-based non-profit departure. I have been going my own way as an independent contractor/entrepreneur as well and God continues to bless and bring continuous opportunities and connections through so many of my friends and colleagues from around the country.  It\'s definitely a much more risky feeling venture, but also more freeing and exciting. I just completed a website for a new non-profit serving young adults on the autism spectrum (www.vergeofindependenceproject.com) and the connections that are being made through that project are continuing to grow. :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8888, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '173.23.60.141', '2011-09-07 07:22:53', '2011-09-07 12:22:53', 'Thank you, Susan. It was an eye-opening experience. I know many others who have or are going through the same thing, and there\'s no one \"right\" way to get though challenges other than to keep moving forward. Took me a while to get that figured out. =)\n\nThanks again,\nangie', 0, '1', '', '', 8884, 279),
(8889, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '173.23.60.141', '2011-09-07 07:24:35', '2011-09-07 12:24:35', 'Thanks for making a good point, Jennifer. You\'re right that our compass is always guiding us, but for someone reason we may not read it right, know what direction it\'s pointing, or \"see\" the signposts along the way. I appreciate your comments!\n\nTake care,\nangie', 0, '1', '', '', 8885, 279),
(8890, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '173.23.60.141', '2011-09-07 07:26:40', '2011-09-07 12:26:40', 'Wow, Kate, thank you for sharing your journey with me. I hope you have a strong support system walking beside you every step of the way. You\'re exactly right about leadership from the inside-out; we need to work on ourselves before we attempt to work with others. Thanks for taking the time to respond.\n\nLead on,\nangie', 0, '1', '', '', 8886, 279),
(8891, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/angiechaplin/', '173.23.60.141', '2011-09-07 07:28:16', '2011-09-07 12:28:16', 'Hi, Brian,\n\nThanks for stopping by the blog. You &amp; I do share many similarities along our career pathways, and there\'s much I can learn from you and your experiences. I will check out your website, and look forward to the many differences I know you will make in the world.\n\nBlessings,\nangie', 0, '1', '', '', 8887, 279),
(8892, 5419, 'Sharon Reed', 'sharon_reed@live.com', 'http://www.heartpath.wordpress.com', '24.224.116.218', '2011-09-25 09:45:56', '2011-09-25 14:45:56', 'Angie, bravo to you for having the courage and heart to share your story with others. What struck me most was how you once defined yourself (and your role as a leader) by your former position.  My observation is that you are not a leader because of your past role, but because of how you are leading yourself (and others) by the act of sharing your story and stepping up and out to share your knowledge and experience with the world.  Keep up the wonderful work.  I wish you much success in your new endeavors! -Sharon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8893, 5419, 'Angie Chaplin', 'angie@angiechaplin.com', 'http://www.facebook.com/LeadershipPartners', '208.102.20.116', '2011-09-26 08:42:01', '2011-09-26 13:42:01', 'Sharon,\n\nYou\'ve made my day with your comments, thank you for encouraging my heart. Like many leaders, I find myself referring to my values on a regular basis particularly when faced with difficult decisions or courses of action. The power of values-based leadership cannot be overstated -- from a personal and professional perspective. Many of us define ourselves through the outside-looking-in -- I\'m a ________. I work for _________. While that\'s not a bad thing, it\'s not the only thing. We need to define ourselves from the inside out. I am a mom. I am intuitive. I am expressive. I am loving.\n\nThanks again for your comments. Leadership blessings to you!', 0, '1', '', '', 8892, 0),
(8894, 5419, 'Sharon Reed', 'sharon_reed@live.com', 'http://www.heartpath.wordpress.com', '24.224.116.218', '2011-09-26 08:49:01', '2011-09-26 13:49:01', 'Angie, I would add one more comment to your reply:  It is precisely when we are able to finally shed those external definitions of ourselves, whether by choice or circumstance, that we are finally able to lead from a values and heart-aligned place.   Wonderful post! -Sharon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8895, 5419, 'Rishi Raj Gupta', 'rishiraj.gupta@yahoo.com', '', '182.64.137.220', '2011-10-15 07:01:57', '2011-10-15 12:01:57', 'Angie,\nThanks for posting this wonderful piece. You words, they really have deep insights, they do.\nRegards,\nRishi Raj\nrrgwrites.wordpress.com', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8896, 5442, 'Sonia Di Maulo', 'sonia@harvestperformance.ca', 'http://www.harvestperformance.ca', '96.23.197.125', '2011-09-13 15:08:42', '2011-09-13 20:08:42', 'Hi Monica!\n\nGreat exercise.  I will begin the 1 week challenge right now! Great to learn more about what activities energize me and I should keep doing. Thank you for sharing this with us.\n\nGetting a handle on our energy (physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally) will definately help us be on fire to inspire!  Since the crazy busy summer, I have been focusing on all these aspects as well... looking for more energy... more ways to be grounded and inspired, so that I can inspire those around me to greatness.\n\nSO great to stay connected here!\n\nSonia', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 246),
(8897, 5442, 'Monica Diaz', 'monica@e-quidam.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/monedays/', '189.189.10.109', '2011-09-13 18:18:55', '2011-09-13 23:18:55', 'Hey, Sonia! Great to hear you will be taking on that challenge! You are such a dynamo...no doubt you will discover some great energy sources that you can tap into. Let me know how it goes!', 0, '1', '', '', 8896, 263),
(8898, 5442, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/willlukang/', '96.234.78.152', '2011-09-15 21:49:06', '2011-09-16 02:49:06', 'There is a saying if you do what you love, you\'ll never work another day in your life.  You brought up a good point about \"Their energy is replenished by their work.\".   If you doing something that you\'re passionate about, you can work for an extended period of time without feeling tired.  Your enthusiasm keeps you going.    Great post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 276),
(8899, 5442, 'Monica Diaz', 'monica@e-quidam.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/monedays/', '189.143.117.163', '2011-09-16 07:54:58', '2011-09-16 12:54:58', 'Thanks, Will. You capture the point beautifully! Plus, you can do what you love, wherever you are now. No need to wait for the perfect job or timing. You can work towards having your dream project, while still doing things in ways that express what you love. Thanks for your comment!', 0, '1', '', '', 8898, 263),
(8900, 5442, 'Dr. Ben', 'drben@doctorbenlo.com', 'http://doctorbenlo.com/blog', '99.37.86.163', '2011-09-16 14:57:46', '2011-09-16 19:57:46', 'Excellent and very timely post, Monica!  This has been an area I\'ve been paying more attention to lately...and I\'m finding that taking a moment to \"step back\" and be intentional ...and appreciative...throughout my day keeps me \"on track\" and energized...as does connecting with my wife and kids and exchanging smiles and hugs - or squeals - when possible! :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8901, 5442, 'Monica Diaz', 'monica@e-quidam.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/monedays/', '189.143.117.163', '2011-09-16 16:47:52', '2011-09-16 21:47:52', 'Sounds like you\'ve GOT it! Balance is such a precious thing, we need to keep aware to feed it.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 263),
(8902, 5452, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '69.254.17.65', '2011-09-21 08:47:13', '2011-09-21 13:47:13', 'This is brilliant Chad.  For me this is the essence:  \"It’s the ‘Go With’ Principle that gives character-based leadership it’s strength.\"  ti doesn\'t matter if people are following you either - what matters is that you have in some way breathed life into a stand others wish to invest themselves in as well.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8903, 5452, 'Chad Balthrop', 'cbalth28@hotmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/chadbalthrop/', '70.164.58.194', '2011-09-21 16:39:51', '2011-09-21 21:39:51', 'Hey Susan,\n\nThanks for the comment. Self leadership is the first principle of character-based leadership. Once someone begins to do that I believe they will find others excited to go with them!\n\nGod Bless,\nC', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 265),
(8904, 5452, 'The Leadership Illusion | theFarpoint', '', 'http://thefarpoint.org/2011/09/the-leadership-illusion/', '207.45.187.74', '2011-09-22 12:07:01', '2011-09-22 17:07:01', '[...] You&#8217;ve seen the illusion, now read the original article @ LeadChangeGroup.com. [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8905, 5452, 'LeadChange | theFarpoint', '', 'http://thefarpoint.org/', '207.45.187.74', '2011-09-22 12:44:37', '2011-09-22 17:44:37', '[...] The Leadership Illusion [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8906, 5452, 'Ken Garman', 'kgarman2000@yahoo.com', 'http://www.leadpassion.com', '63.233.93.66', '2011-09-23 14:53:04', '2011-09-23 19:53:04', 'Hi Chad,\nGreat post. It definitely presents  a different view of leadership than I\'ve had before, but I believe you\'re right. I would submit one more reason people follow someone else.\n   \"I like how you make me feel\", or \"I\'m better because of our relationship\".\nMaybe this falls into one of the categories you mentioned, but I didn\'t come to that conclusion as I read back over it.\nAgain, I really liked the post. God Bless\nKen Garman', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8907, 5452, 'Chad Balthrop', 'cbalth28@hotmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/chadbalthrop/', '70.164.58.194', '2011-09-27 20:50:12', '2011-09-28 01:50:12', 'Hey Ken,\n\nThanks for the comment and the observation. I agree with both of your suggestions. The leadership challenge with, \"I like how you make me feel\", is that it has a limited shelf life. How I feel about you today will change tomorrow - and may have nothing to do with the vision you cast or the cause you champion. Politicians are the perfect example of this. Feelings may get them elected, but genuine leadership keeps them in office. For me, \"I\'m better because of our relationship\", slips well into 1, 2 or 4. Leadership relationships are like dating relationships - they mature over time. Some times our leadership requires immediate action from people who don\'t really know us that well. It\'s hard for them to buy into they idea that our relationship will make them better. However, in long-term leadership settings \"I\'m better because of our relationship\" is the natural outcome of what it means to be a true servant-leader.\n\nVery thoughtful, Ken - I appreciate it!\n\nGod Bless,\nChad', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 265),
(8908, 5452, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '184.186.82.130', '2011-09-29 20:51:26', '2011-09-30 01:51:26', 'Absolutely amazing principles and insight.  It may very well revolutionize the way I look at leadership... Thank you. It\'s all I can say.  Thank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(8909, 5454, 'Kate Nasser, The People-Skills Coach', 'info@katenasser.com', 'http://katenasser.com', '151.198.21.189', '2011-09-27 06:56:15', '2011-09-27 11:56:15', 'Christina,\nThe power of a shower is so common, that a company created \"Aqua Notes\" for people to capture their thoughts in the shower.  No joke.  I am a Shower Thinker and own the these little gems of shower productivity.  Http://twitter.com/showerthinker to find their powerful shower! :)\n\nYou ask, what type of mental shower can we create throughout the day?  For me, I can now get a mental shower anywhere by pausing -- just for a minute -- and asking focusing on one or two words.  I silently ask myself \"what goes with these words\" and the mental shower starts to flow.\n\nUnique post with great insight for all.\n\nMany thanks,\nKate', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8910, 5454, 'Kate Nasser, The People-Skills Coach', 'info@katenasser.com', 'http://katenasser.com', '151.198.21.189', '2011-09-27 06:56:56', '2011-09-27 11:56:56', 'Sorry for the typo in the previous comment.\nKate', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8911, 5454, 'Sonia Di Maulo', 'sonia@harvestperformance.ca', 'http://www.harvestperformance.ca', '96.23.197.125', '2011-09-27 09:00:03', '2011-09-27 14:00:03', 'Hello Christina!\n\nExcellent post. All my ideas or solutions come when my brain, mind and body are at rest - so I am always careful to have my smartphone on record-ready mode so I can capture it...!\n\nYours in growth,\nSonia', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8912, 5454, 'Tara Alemany', 'alewebsocial@gmail.com', 'http://alewebsocial.com', '68.191.62.10', '2011-09-27 11:34:43', '2011-09-27 16:34:43', 'Great post, Christina! I have always found the shower to be a very productive thought-place. I think there, pray there, and come up with some great insights there! Perhaps I shouldn\'t admit this, because you may think I\'m not paying attention then, but I find driving to have a similar effect for me. I learned long ago, when I was frequently writing poetry, to keep a recorder in the car, so that I could record my thoughts to save for a later time.\n\nHowever, neither of those solutions work very well for the company setting. But one place I worked was great! We had a Foosball table in the break room. It was common to find people there for 10 or 15 minutes at a time, playing the game, but working as well; brainstorming, sharing ideas, discussing things openly, and having fun. Somehow the competition of the game took away the competition of the conference room table. It didn\'t matter who had the best idea or the winning solution. The playing field was level, and anyone who wanted to join in (whether part of the team charged with finding the solution or not!) could contribute.\n\nThat was probably one of the most effective, corporate setting, productivity tools I\'ve ever experienced!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8913, 5454, 'Deb Costello', 'Costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '166.137.11.10', '2011-09-27 20:26:48', '2011-09-28 01:26:48', 'Love this post Christina! I have solved a lot of problems by getting up from the computer, paper, or book and going for a walk, taking a shower, or getting a snack. Did you know that movement spurs brain activity helping us to solve problems, process information, or make memories. This means the solitude of the shower plus the inherent movement makes it a great place for new ideas!\n\nThanks for an intriguing post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8914, 5454, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://www.gianaconsulting.com', '68.13.251.23', '2011-09-28 11:31:38', '2011-09-28 16:31:38', 'Fun and thought creating post - Thanks Christina!\n\nKate - I love the aqua notes!', 0, '1', '', '', 8909, 0),
(8915, 5454, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '184.186.82.130', '2011-09-29 20:54:30', '2011-09-30 01:54:30', 'Mental showers... I think I get it!  I can encourage my team to do that!!!  That\'s awesome!  We get in a rut as leaders of companies to say \"produce, produce, produce\", that we forget to give our team members the flexibility to dream, get a vision, take that mental shower!  Thanks for the encouragement!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(8916, 5458, 'T S SETHUPATHY', 'sethupathyts@gmail.com', '', '78.101.219.243', '2011-09-22 08:52:37', '2011-09-22 13:52:37', 'Good points about leadership.Worth reading', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8917, 5458, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-09-22 09:12:09', '2011-09-22 14:12:09', 'Thank you for reading and for the comment.\n\nThe little guy in the photo is my nephew.  As I wrote the 5 Reasons Curious Leadership Matters, I tried to imagine what he was thinking as he was looking under those rocks.\n\nWhile I am not sure I share his interest in worms and bugs, I completely identify with the discovery, the problem solving, and the joy that comes from turning organizational rocks over.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 270),
(8918, 5458, 'Billy Kirsch', 'billy@kidbillymusic.com', 'http://kidbillymusic.com', '74.179.43.201', '2011-09-22 09:52:10', '2011-09-22 14:52:10', 'Chery - As a creative person so much of the work I do is based on maintaining a curious mind-set. Great leaders are curious and not afraid to be playful. Great metaphor here. I once came up with a song idea while playing in the garden with my son, the title was \'Cocoon\' and the song was recorded by Steve Wariner. An example of playfulness and curiosity leading to real results.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8919, 5458, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/cherygegelman/', '68.13.251.23', '2011-09-22 10:17:39', '2011-09-22 15:17:39', 'Thanks for the comment Billy!  I can\'t wait to track down that song!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 270),
(8920, 5458, 'LeadChange | theFarpoint', '', 'http://thefarpoint.org/', '207.45.187.74', '2011-09-22 12:44:20', '2011-09-22 17:44:20', '[...] 5 Reasons Curious Leadership Will Strengthen Your Organization [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8921, 5464, 'Digital Nino', 'cleosie@bluefountainmedia.com', 'http://www.exec-comm.com/blog', '65.112.118.122', '2011-09-19 10:49:22', '2011-09-19 15:49:22', '\"The Individual Age?\".  Very interesting concept.  Especially when you consider who technology has created informational and entertainment silos.  I can, for instance, access any piece of data, watch any show, and speak with anybody--all from the comfort of my bed.  Amazing how far we\'ve come from the Industrial days.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8922, 5464, 'Christina Haxton, MA', 'christina@sustainable-leaders.com', 'http://sustainable-leaders.com', '70.41.6.193', '2011-09-19 23:44:39', '2011-09-20 04:44:39', 'Your points are spot-on, Fred.  Small companies have an advantage, as I see it.  And the advantage is they are small and intimate enough to still be mindful of the value of the relationships built in the process of building the business.\n\nP.S. I won\'t be surprised when \"From Bud to Boss\" becomes an acclaimed resource for entrepreneurs comparable to Michael Gerber\'s \"The E-Myth Revisited.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8923, 5464, 'Fred Schnook', 'fschnook@workforcetulsa.com', 'http://www.workforcetulsa.com', '199.245.163.1', '2011-09-21 17:57:01', '2011-09-21 22:57:01', 'Christina:\n\nThanks for your kind words.  I sure do appreciate it!\n\nEntrepreneurs are the engine of economic &amp; job growth and human capital is the coin of the realm in the new Individual Age Economy.  The economy is not changing.  It has changed.  Therefore, events like Boss to Bud that assist small firms and entrepreneurs in understanding how to best utilize human capital is critical; not only to in individual businesses, but to communtiy and national economic development.  Thanks again!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8924, 5464, 'Fred Schnook', 'fschnook@workforcetulsa.com', 'http://www.workforcetulsa.com', '199.245.163.1', '2011-09-22 16:37:40', '2011-09-22 21:37:40', 'Digital Nino:\nThanks for commenting.\nI like the term Individual Age as it probably best describes what is happening with the workforce and the explosion of small firms and private consultants.  Another descriptive term could be the Free-Agent Age.  The end of the Industrial Age connotes much more than the shift to service sector work; there is also a fundamentally different structure in the employer-employee relationship.  Where many of us once worked for the same firm for 30 years, now we switch, not just jobs, but careers many times.  Furthermore, workers are now are much more likely to start their own business and/or consult.  Workers now move in and out of these two realms (working for themselves or working for someone else) frequently.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8925, 5464, 'Importance of Leadership, Customer Satisfaction and Benchmarking in Total Quality Management (TQM) | CallCenterBestPractices.com', '', 'http://www.callcenterbestpractices.com/importance-of-leadership-customer-satisfaction-and-benchmarking-in-total-quality-management-tqm/', '66.147.242.83', '2011-09-29 20:23:58', '2011-09-30 01:23:58', '[...] = &#039;&#039;;} } Enhancing Organizational Performance Through Total Quality Management (TQM)Importance of Leadership Development in &quot;The Individual Age&quot; - Lead Change Group  if (top!=self) { window.location = [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8926, 5466, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry', '24.249.156.71', '2011-09-28 09:33:54', '2011-09-28 14:33:54', 'I\'m so excited about this event!  Thanks for leading out in promoting it, and thanks for all you do for Lead Change Group, and for leadership development in the Tulsa metro area!  You\'re great at what you do, and I truly do value our friendship!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8927, 5474, 'Kate Nasser, The People-Skills Coach', 'info@katenasser.com', 'http://katenasser.com', '151.198.21.189', '2011-09-26 11:05:20', '2011-09-26 16:05:20', 'Dear Deborah,\nYou ask a *very deep question.  Does everything we do matter?  Yes.\n\nYour second question: What do you we do with the enormity of this responsibility?\n----\n#1 - Think of impact before taking action.\nA simple quick pause where you picture those in your work or life provides instant perspective.\n\n#2 - Own what you do.  None of us is perfect.  Being accountable for our actions can actually start the reversal of negative impact.\n\n#3 - Learn how to sincerely apologize.  Here\'s one of my posts that has helped many with this\nhttp://katenasser.com/the-perfect-apology-the-one-word-that-destroys-it/\n\n#4 - Get up in the morning and set an intention to have a positive impact on others not a negative one.  The mind is very powerful.  It can change what we say and do.\n\nI love your post and I think it would make a great #leadfromwithin chat topic on Twitter.  If you want to submit it there, get in touch with http://twitter.com/lollydaskal.\n\nMany thanks for this post.\nKate', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8928, 5474, 'Deborah Costello', 'Costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '166.137.11.14', '2011-09-26 12:16:18', '2011-09-26 17:16:18', 'Thank you so much for your support Kate. I think it is so easy to be overwhelmed by the idea that every single thing we do has significance and importance. There is nothing I love more than an actionable list of intentional thoughts and behaviors that help us make better choices day to day. You mention an important part if this in your post,  what to do when you mess up. We all make mistakes, and it is easy to throw in the towel, but the idea of apologizing, owning our actions,  good and not, and finding ways to move forward and improve are definite keys!\n\nI so appreciate your comments and will think on the twitterchat as well. I attended one last month and it was an amazing experience.\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 8927, 0),
(8929, 5474, 'Sarah Secoy', 'secoy_sarah@columbusstate.edu', '', '174.254.130.172', '2011-09-26 19:44:42', '2011-09-27 00:44:42', 'Wow, I have thought about those very questions so often. As I work with the students in the college setting, and so often when the get to me, they are either student leaders or in trouble.  With the students in the judicial process I have to put myself in their shoes, is this because of peer pressure? Are you just not yet mature enough to make the right decisions? And what can I do in an educational approach to discipline to help you become the person in the crowd to speak up in that crowded football stand. And I am not sure if it is because I trust the educators of my children,  the age groups, or whatever it may be - but I feel more pressure to educate the students I work with than I do my kids (probobly because I expect more from college students ).  I would absolutely agree with Kate, those are some of the very principles I use everyday, both at work and in life, if only everyone could live by them, even sometimes.\n Great post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8930, 5474, 'Nickey', 'info@therightva.com', 'http://www.TheRightVA.com', '24.115.247.26', '2011-09-26 20:09:43', '2011-09-27 01:09:43', 'We all certainly hold a responsibility to be aware of what we say and do; the enormity of that is overwhelming at times when you stop to think how much something you say / do can shape the opinions - and maybe even actions - of someone.\n\nGreat food for thought, Deb', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8931, 5474, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '98.85.246.140', '2011-09-26 21:34:43', '2011-09-27 02:34:43', 'Thanks Sarah for stopping by.  Lots of research has shown that our youth lack the frontal lobe development required to make adult decisions all the time.  That being said, I think the more we expose them to good behavior, the more we will see it from them in the future.  I hope that I teach my students two important ideas.  First, act intentionally, as Kate mentioned above.  Sometimes bad decisions come because youth are impulsive. With intentionality comes better decision making.  Second, know that for every word and action there are consequences.  Some are anticipated, some unexpected, but all belong to you based on your own words and deeds.  As teachers and parents, we do not serve our youth well when we allow them to avoid the consequences of their actions.\n\nI too would like to see more people live by the principles Kate outlines.  I love the leadchange group because we agree that there can be a character-based model for leadership and members work hard to model these tenets and instigate this revolution in thinking.  I sometimes feel like a lone educator here.  Thank you for joining the discussion!', 0, '1', '', '', 8929, 0),
(8932, 5474, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '98.85.246.140', '2011-09-26 21:42:41', '2011-09-27 02:42:41', 'It is an enormous responsibility, but it is also an amazing opportunity.  Not only can our words and deeds have significant negative consequences, but they can also be life changing in a positive way.  And wouldn\'t you work pretty hard to do good if you knew that somehow, something you said or did was going to change someone\'s life for the better?\n\nWe humans are remarkably resilient and adaptable.  i see good happening underfoot in the smallest of deeds, the simplest of gestures.  Every single person has yet another chance every day.  Today your kind words made me smile, and I will sleep well knowing that our conversation furthered the discussion of how we might make our communities stronger and our lives better.  I appreciate the kind words of a stranger and wish you well.  Thanks, Nickey, for keeping on the journey to make a difference.\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 8930, 0),
(8933, 5474, 'Erin Schreyer', 'eschreyer@sagestone-partners.com', 'http://www.sagestone-partners.com', '99.47.230.228', '2011-09-27 08:25:45', '2011-09-27 13:25:45', 'Deb, I love the notion that \"you matter\"...simply because we all do.\n\nHave you heard of the \"Butterfly Effect?\"  Andy Andrews recently wrote a book on the scientific phenomenon.  Basically, researchers found that even the simple flapping of a butterfly\'s wings sends a ripple out that ultimately affects other things.  The point is that everything we do matters, whether we can directly see the difference or not.\n\nNow, if only we could all take responsibility for that effect we have on others.  Then, we\'d see some radical change in our world, don\'t you think?!?!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8934, 5474, 'Deborah Costello', 'costellod@trinityprep.org', '', '138.210.92.134', '2011-09-27 08:39:37', '2011-09-27 13:39:37', 'Oh my, Erin!  I am grinning ear to ear!  As a math teacher you have stumbled into a long held love.  Chaos Theory and the Butterfly Effect are wonderful examples of how mathemtics and life intersect in compelling and amazing ways.\n\nI know you didn\'t come here to talk about math and fractals, but I so love that you see this connection.  Maybe I should write a little something about that some day!  Hmmm...  you so have my neurons all firing!  :)\n\nYou are so right about the responsibility aspect.  Knowledge that we matter is the first step.  Then owning what we do is the second.  Maybe then as a third step we move toward making better and better choices.  Continual improvement!\n\nThank you Erin for stopping in and talking.  I am always so inspired by the leaders around me.\n\nDeb', 0, '1', '', '', 8933, 0),
(8935, 5483, 'Jennifer V. Miller', 'jmiller@people-equation.com', 'http://people-equation.com', '76.236.182.182', '2011-09-20 12:31:22', '2011-09-20 17:31:22', 'Mike,\n\nIt took Experience a long time to teach me about #3-- I was kind of a slow learner on that one :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8936, 5483, 'LeadChange | theFarpoint', '', 'http://thefarpoint.org/', '207.45.187.74', '2011-09-22 12:44:59', '2011-09-22 17:44:59', '[...] Old Men and Kick Scooters [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8937, 5486, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '69.242.114.141', '2011-09-19 11:18:27', '2011-09-19 16:18:27', 'Thanks so much for the mention, Mike.  I am overcome with how all of that came together with my coffee shop barista, Mollie, and with Don Shapiro, and his mention of my post on his FB page.  Serendipity + Grace = Gratitude.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(8938, 5496, 'WEadership: Workforce Leaders Remaking Policy and Redefining What it Means to Lead | Business Coaching | Scoop.it', '', 'http://www.scoop.it/t/business-coaching/p/486824660/weadership-workforce-leaders-remaking-policy-and-redefining-what-it-means-to-lead', '89.30.105.121', '2011-09-26 09:52:23', '2011-09-26 14:52:23', '[...]  WEadership: Workforce Leaders Remaking Policy and Redefining What it Means to Lead           The lone-hero leader joins the crowd. Findings from a one-year study of leadership in the public policy area concerned with work and learning (called workforce).     Source: leadchangegroup.com [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(8939, 5496, 'Marcia Peterson', 'marcia.peterson@ge.com', '', '198.169.188.227', '2011-10-13 15:45:40', '2011-10-13 20:45:40', 'great work...more!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8940, 5496, 'Kristin Wolff', 'kwolff@thinkers-and-doers.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/kristinwolff/', '166.137.142.115', '2011-10-13 19:31:25', '2011-10-14 00:31:25', 'Thank you! We are working on it. This is the first of a seven-part series. Stay tuned!', 0, '1', '', '', 8939, 286),
(8941, 5557, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '64.134.222.174', '2011-09-28 13:42:38', '2011-09-28 18:42:38', 'Hi Page,\nThese are good points and useful professionally or personally. What I like about your message is that relationships and introspection must be treated with great respect. Otherwise \"you\'re vulnerable\" as you point out.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8942, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://www.visitingangels.com/greencountry', '24.249.156.71', '2011-09-28 15:52:24', '2011-09-28 20:52:24', 'Thanks for the feedback Shawn!  I have not only personally experienced these challenges, but over the years I\'ve worked with lots and lots of people who are struggling through the process of working past a significant failure or shortcoming in their life.  Sometimes all it takes to push on through to wholeness and health is the encouragement of a good friend and a fresh perspective that they can bring.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8943, 5557, 'Anita Pickett', 'apickett@bristow.k12.ok.us', '', '67.142.163.31', '2011-09-28 19:52:14', '2011-09-29 00:52:14', 'Page,\nNice job. Along with making a plan not to repeat the mistake again, it might help to remember not to place yourself in a position that would allow for venerability. Great points.\nAnita', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8944, 5557, 'Tim', 'layinglow99@sbcglobal.net', '', '70.234.165.87', '2011-09-28 22:23:59', '2011-09-29 03:23:59', 'I can relate to people can\'t move forward till\nThey except I am doing this now for 2 yrs now\nIn depression cause I haven\'t admitted and accepted responsibity\nGood article', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8945, 5557, 'Todd', 'Bugman67@hotmail.com', '', '68.12.165.142', '2011-09-28 23:26:38', '2011-09-29 04:26:38', 'That is all good advice, people need to realize we are Human and we make mistakes. If you have never screwed up it is probably because you aren\'t doing much!\n\nOnly out of change comes growth, so when we make a Big Blunder, it isn\'t the end of the world but rather an opportunity to start over with a new prospective.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8946, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '184.186.82.130', '2011-09-29 20:35:03', '2011-09-30 01:35:03', 'Anita, what a great point... it\'s one that leaders tend to forget.  They sometimes begin to feel invulnerable, but we know they aren\'t...  The advice of \"an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure\" comes to mind!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(8947, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '184.186.82.130', '2011-09-29 20:37:20', '2011-09-30 01:37:20', 'Tim, glad the article was helpful for you!  I want to encourage you to find someone you trust, and ask them to talk through your situation with them.  Sometimes that \"admission and accepting responsibility\" can be easier with a nudge from someone you believe in, and that believes in you!  I\'ll be praying for you!', 0, '1', '', '', 8944, 282),
(8948, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '184.186.82.130', '2011-09-29 20:39:30', '2011-09-30 01:39:30', 'Todd,\nWith that kind of positive attitude, you\'re the perfect guy to find someone in your sphere of influence that is struggling, and encourage them, help them push on through to the other side.  That kind of energy, empathy and hope can be a life changer for someone who is struggling... Will you go be life changer?  Seriously?  I want to know!', 0, '1', '', '', 8945, 282),
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(8950, 5557, 'Todd', 'Bugman67@hotmail.com', '', '68.12.165.142', '2011-09-29 23:46:08', '2011-09-30 04:46:08', 'Hi Page,\nI am active In my sphere of influence :)\n\nAsside from my Real Job, I am in a Dance Studio seven nights a week working with people from all walks of life, helping change their life through Dance by developing confidence and personal growth while learning a new skill set.\n\nLearning to dance is a lot like life, you seldom get it right the first time, so learn to laugh at your mistakes and keep trying!', 0, '1', '', '', 8948, 0),
(8951, 5557, 'Susan Mazza', 'susan@randomactsofleadership.com', 'http://www.randomactsofleadership.com', '69.254.17.65', '2011-10-01 09:12:38', '2011-10-01 14:12:38', 'Really loved this post Page.  Sometimes it takes a \"huge failure\" - one we can\'t hide from or rationalize away in our own mind - to learn the lesson(s) we most need to learn.  That we were willing to risk big enough to fail big is an indication we are ready to grow - it is a sign of strength and courage.  That same strength and courage is what we can depend on to get us to the other side.\n\nIn terms of advice to add for someone going down this road now, I\'d add do what ever it takes to move past feeling ashamed.  This falls under the \"know you are human\" category.  Some people take themselves away with anger or bravado, but many slink into the background unable to fully recover themselves from the shame and embarrassment.  Holding onto shame not only robs us. but also robs those around us from the best of what we have to offer.  If you are a leader that people look up to it can rob others of hope.  The first step is forgiveness.  Forgiveness begins with you forgiving yourself - if you can\'t authentically get there, get help.  it may be the most important lesson you ever learn.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8952, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '24.249.156.71', '2011-10-01 12:47:06', '2011-10-01 17:47:06', 'Anita, what a great point… it’s one that leaders tend to forget. They sometimes begin to feel invulnerable, but we know they aren’t… The advice of “an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure” comes to mind!', 0, '1', '', '', 8943, 282);
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(8953, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '24.249.156.71', '2011-10-01 12:50:29', '2011-10-01 17:50:29', 'I\'m not sure, but you may have hit on the THE NUMBER ONE PROBLEM people face in trying to move on.  It seems that no matter how upset others might be about a failure, there is typically no greater critic for any of us than we are of our self.  We can find an escape from the criticisms and slams of other people, but it\'s difficult to shut off the condemnations you and I may self-inflict in those moments of solitude.\n\nThanks Susan, not only for the encouragement you offered to others with your comments, but to me too!', 0, '1', '', '', 8951, 282),
(8954, 5557, 'Elephants at Work', '', 'http://www.elephantsatwork.com/leadership-development-carnival-october-2011-edition/', '74.220.219.145', '2011-10-02 10:55:12', '2011-10-02 15:55:12', '<strong>Leadership Development Carnival: October 2011 Edition...</strong>\n\nReading time: &lt; 1 minute It is with great pleasure that I am able to host the Leadership Development Carnival (October 2011). Dan McCarthy at Great Leadership is the master host of the Leadership Development Carnival. He&#8217;s taken the month off ......', 0, '1', '', 'trackback', 0, 0),
(8955, 5557, 'Chad Balthrop', 'cbalth28@hotmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/chadbalthrop/', '72.192.80.181', '2011-10-04 01:22:30', '2011-10-04 06:22:30', 'Hey Page,\n\nGreat post. I especially like \'Know It\'. For each of us it\'s not a matter of \'if\' we\'ll make a mistake, but \'when\' and \'how big will it be?\'! What I like about your post is it gives everyone a step by step plan for dealing with the inevitable. Thanks!\n\nGod Bless,\nChad', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 265),
(8956, 5557, 'Christian Paulsen', 'paulsen-christian@att.net', 'http://christianpaulsen62.wordpress.com/', '69.210.248.95', '2011-10-04 08:22:20', '2011-10-04 13:22:20', 'We\'ve all been there at one time or another.  This is a good formula to get pack on the right path.  Thanks for sharing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8957, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '24.249.156.71', '2011-10-07 12:36:58', '2011-10-07 17:36:58', 'Thanks for the honest feedback my friend!  I hate to sound like a pessimist, but you\'re right in saying that it\'s inevitable... everyone has a hard time sometimes!!!', 0, '1', '', '', 8955, 282),
(8958, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '24.249.156.71', '2011-10-07 12:37:48', '2011-10-07 17:37:48', 'Thanks for the encouragement Paula!  I hope it can help someone sometime!', 0, '1', '', '', 8956, 282),
(8959, 5557, 'Stephan De Villiers', 'stephan@incrementalsuccess.org', 'http://www.leadershipconnexion.com', '41.177.12.159', '2011-10-15 13:34:22', '2011-10-15 18:34:22', 'The most important and I believe the most difficult of these five actions is to take responsibility for the failure.  The hardest part is not coming up with reasons to justify the fact that it is not so bad to have failed.  This is a natural human reaction, but one that negates your attempts to accept responsibility.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8960, 5557, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '24.249.156.71', '2011-10-15 14:57:30', '2011-10-15 19:57:30', 'Stephan,\nYou\'re right, self defense and justification seem to be two of the greatest hindrances to actually taking responsibility.  I think they are difficult to fight against because usually there is some merit to their arguments.  There WERE other causes, there WERE other factors that played a part, and may have influenced us.  But the key for us to remember is that we still had a choice... we still either made a bad decision, chose selfishly, acted poorly somehow to cause the failure.  Only when you and I are able to truly say to OURSELVES, \"I did it... it was my failure, regardless of anyone else or anything else... I was wrong, and I have to take responsibility.\", only then are we able to move past the failure in our life to find healing, a new start and joy.', 0, '1', '', '', 8959, 282),
(8961, 5560, 'Geetha', 'geetha@aeme.in', 'http://aeme.in/', '122.167.75.208', '2011-10-03 06:10:19', '2011-10-03 11:10:19', 'Leadership in Changing Landscape\nChanges during the past decade has been at much faster speed than ever before in all the aspects of life and business. Invention of mobile phones and internet has changed the communication and speed of information exchange. Technology has given more and more start ups with the ability to compete head on with larger organisations by disrupting the status quo. The need today is to provide better leadership for people, for organizations and most recently partnerships and communities. This makes difference to performance.\nThis write up seeks to explain readers about how leadership differs from management. The managerial roles are based on knowledge, techniques, skills and emphasis on results within the parameters of organisation’s principles and policies where as leadership roles focuses on imagination, passion, commitment and fulfillment of dreams. Traditional management approaches based on scientific analysis do not contribute much towards understanding leadership. Understanding leadership is really about understanding life and this starts with gaining and understanding of self and people.\nLeadership is to view a bigger picture where new creative ideas can invent new and dynamic organizations. A new perspective on leadership concept emerges from IMAGE Model which is highlighted below:\nI: Innovative imagine and  inspiring\nM: Making Vow\nA: Authentic\nG: Guts\nE: Ethics and Excellence.\nPractices of exemplary leadership, which need to be displayed everywhere, be it at home or work place, are as follows:\na.	Modeling the way: Setting the example, leaving out one’s professed values and creating win-win situation.\nb.	Challenging the process: Searching for and accepting challenging opportunities and taking risks.\nc.	Inspiring a shared vision: Holding and communicating a vision of what is possible, and getting everyone aligned to a common purpose.\nd.	Enabling others to act: Fostering collaboration and building energetic, winning teams based mutual trust understanding and shared goals.\ne.	Encouraging the heart: Recognising contributions and celebrating accomplishment.\nAEME Leadership Center (ALC) is the only institute which provides education and training for holistic development for youth so that they are found to be very effective and have competitive edge on entering corporate world. ALC provides maximum values to the life with minimum cost.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8962, 5564, 'Rob Wright', 'reawright@aol.com', '', '188.220.116.109', '2011-09-29 08:13:40', '2011-09-29 13:13:40', 'If the biggest clues are in the story (things appear worse since the lay-offs) then it\'s useless trying to deal with the symptoms without dealing with the cause. When initiative &amp; the passion for the cause wanes, it\'s only retrievable when the passion violation has been dealt with.\nSo, first things first:\n• Engage. Let messy be messy. Give staff permission to discuss their feelings. Anger, shock, disappointment, grief; any -ve emotion needs space to be articulated &amp; acknowledged appropriately\n• Next, Listen. Actively. The silence is often the killer; where people have to carry on working as if nothing happened because they feel they can\'t talk about it. Listening means people are free to express their unease without feeling like a turncoat, insubordinate or cannon fodder\n• Recommit. Whether we like it or not, redundancies violate The Contract; ie, \"I work for you &amp; you give me ££.\" Affirmation &amp; recommissioning can help heal the bruise of \"If we keep our side of the bargain &amp; you get rid of us, what does that say about you &amp; me…??\"\nWith all that in place, then you can start to think about re-envisioning &amp; strategising about who best to take the lead with behaviours that inspire culture change, or launch motivations that encourage leadership AND followership.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8963, 5564, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-09-29 10:08:53', '2011-09-29 15:08:53', 'Rob, thanks for the great suggestions.  Engage, Listen and Recommit is a great three-step process to begin turning things around.  Great advice.  Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 8962, 243),
(8964, 5564, 'Rob Wright', 'reawright@aol.com', 'https://twitter.com/#!/Copywrighting', '188.220.116.109', '2011-09-29 10:36:00', '2011-09-29 15:36:00', 'You\'re very welcome, Mike! Thanks for the well-framed question!', 0, '1', '', '', 8963, 0),
(8965, 5564, 'Jon M', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/jhmertz/', '72.48.93.4', '2011-09-29 16:49:31', '2011-09-29 21:49:31', 'Engage, Listen and Recommit - great approach. One thing I would add is to ensure that you are exemplifing the actions you want taken. So, part of the 45 minutes would be to sketch out what you activities, attitudes, and actions you want the team to take, and then identify how you can demonstrate these in your own work (starting the next day). It is not about being obvious about them, just doing them...\n\nGreat questions! Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 290),
(8966, 5564, 'Dana Theus', 'dtheus@magusconsulting.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/dtheus/', '108.28.244.155', '2011-09-30 06:56:20', '2011-09-30 11:56:20', '1. Take out a blank sheet of paper and draw a line about 1/4 down the page horizontally.\n\n2. Above the line write a short list of the fewest things that will move the ball forward for your business.\n\n3. Below the line write everything else that \"has to get done\"\n\n4. Leave it on your desk and the next morning call the team meeting and share the list with them. Let them know that you expect 100% effort on the top items, and their best effort on the rest. Let them know you expect each one of them to have a 25%/75% list on their desk at all times too.\n\nThis is what I call an \"ugly but useful\" technique. Leadership isn\'t always about thinking like a leader - it\'s more about doing like a leader. Focus on doing what matters in integrity and most of the other stuff will come along.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 287),
(8967, 5564, 'David', 'david_dye@comcast.net', 'http://davidmdye.blogspot.com', '76.25.27.121', '2011-10-01 16:05:30', '2011-10-01 21:05:30', 'With 45 minutes available, my advice to this leader would be:\n\n1) Look in the mirror (3-5 minutes) The symptoms described did not happen in a vacuum. The team\'s culture exists because the leader has allowed it (or even contributed to it). The good news, and reason for the long stare in the mirror, is that this leader can also take responsibility for, and influence, the change he/she wants to see.\n\n2) Articulate dreaming. (15-20 minutes) Close your eyes and envision what the team would look like when it\'s working well. Dream in specific. Avoid critical or sarcastic descriptions. Force yourself to articulate two or three main ideas and really see them in your mind. Next, write down the behaviors that you \"see\".\n\n3) Gap analysis. (10 minutes) What do team members need in the way of skill or motivation to begin implementing those behaviors. Write down this list.\n\n4) Personal responsibility. (10 minutes) What specific actions can the leader take tomorrow to begin contributing to the outcome they hope to see? If the outcome is clear, but the leader does not know what they can do to positively influence it, then the personal responsibility action step is to learn how - use the web, a coach, a mentor, a colleague...someone who has demonstrated the ability you are looking for. Write a big note and tape it to your desk with one and only one specific behavior to undertake tomorrow.\n\n5) Go home and rest, knowing that tomorrow will bring a permanent change.\n\nIn the situation described, the leader could choose from one of these two action step:\n\n1) in the morning, speak with the team, assume responsibility for allowing things to be where they are and make a public commitment to work on changing. You expect progress (not perfection) from yourself and the team. Ask for their support and to identify when you act inconsistently with the values you espouse.\n\n2) Encourage and affirm people\'s ability to problem solve. When problems are brought to you, validate their ability to take care of it and ask them to do so and report the results to you (so that you can celebrate with them later).\n\n3) Work with project leaders to ensure that project success criteria are clear. If projects where you are not consulted are failing, it is likely because the teams either are not aware of what constitutes a successful solution or lack motivation to ensure the solution is successful. Start with clarity. Then assess for motivation.\n\n4) Find five specific things to encourage and appreciate in your team either individually or corporately, every day.\n\nThat\'s a start. My final suggestion would be patience. Changing culture doesn\'t happen overnight. But one behavior repeated daily can make an amazing difference!\n\nTake care,\n\nDavid M. Dye', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8968, 5564, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-03 18:36:50', '2011-10-03 23:36:50', 'Jon, great response too!  Writing out what actions you\'d want them to take and then making sure that you demonstrate those behaviors is an excellent first step.  We must be the change we want to see.  In fact, I\'d also examine how my actions have contributed to the drama I am experiencing.  Great suggestion!  Thanks.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8965, 243),
(8969, 5564, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-03 18:38:39', '2011-10-03 23:38:39', 'Dana, great comment about \"doing like a leader.\"  Helping each member remember to keep the main thing the main thing.  That\'s a great suggestion for helping everyone focus.  Thanks. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 8966, 243),
(8970, 5564, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-03 18:43:33', '2011-10-03 23:43:33', 'David, very comprehensive list.  I got one idea when reading it too.  It happens to also line up with some other books I\'ve read.  And that would be to ask your people to dream a bit about what they\'d like their future to look like.  I\'ve found that when a leader can honestly connect present performance to the strategic dreams and visions of indivudal members of the team, each member becomes more engaged, energized and creative.  But the key is honesty.  If the leader tries to make themselves or others believe the job will get them where they want to go, eventually they\'ll figure that out and feel betrayed.\n\nYour list and tactics are a great start.  I also agree that patience is key.  Thanks for the great comment!', 0, '1', '', '', 8967, 243),
(8971, 5564, 'David', 'david_dye@comcast.net', 'http://davidmdye.blogspot.com', '64.140.73.195', '2011-10-04 09:21:13', '2011-10-04 14:21:13', 'Mike,\n\nI agree with regard to asking people to dream with you - it\'s got to be authentic and sincere or it\'s better not to do it. Thanks for the thought-provoking post!\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 8970, 0),
(8972, 5572, 'DragonLeaders', 'info@dragon-strategies.com', 'http://www.dragon-strategies.com/', '87.112.10.158', '2011-10-05 05:46:05', '2011-10-05 10:46:05', 'Great insights Dana, when more and more people speak about what they really stand for and stand up for it, there is hope for our economy; and there will be more leaders than bosses.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8973, 5572, 'Dana Theus', 'dtheus@magusconsulting.com', 'http://www.reclaimingleadership.com', '108.28.244.155', '2011-10-05 06:59:03', '2011-10-05 11:59:03', 'Well, said. \"More leaders than bosses.\" The key, I\'ve found, is learning to stand for something and do it well - without pissing off your audience unnecessarily or unintiontionally. If you just piss them off and poke them in the ego, they can\'t really hear what you\'re standing for very clearly. And it\'s not all that hard once you understand the dynamics of truthtelling, but it takes a little work!', 0, '1', '', '', 8972, 0),
(8974, 5581, 'Mike Myatt', 'm.myatt@n2growth.com', 'http://www.n2growth.com/blog', '76.115.133.249', '2011-10-06 09:39:41', '2011-10-06 14:39:41', 'Hi Chad:\n\nThis is one of the best posts I\'ve read in recent times. You address a key point that simply eludes many leaders - how to put their arms around the expectation gap. However I think it\'s also important to understand that patience is only a virtue when not confused with complacency or apathy. Not all problems, issues, or circumstances can or should be \"corrected\" and sometimes it takes a lack of patience to blow through to a better place. Tolerance can be both a productive and unproductive thing and smart leaders are capable of discerning between these two divergent positions. Great post Chad...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8975, 5581, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-06 19:18:51', '2011-10-07 00:18:51', 'Chad, great post.  Very well thought out.  We were joking the other day about patience.  Almost nothing fixes itself.  However the first mistake should be understandable and subsequent mistakes of the same type must cause a leader to examine whether or not the correction is effective.   Eventually, if the same mistakes continue, correction must escalate.  Patience creates an escalation.  Stewardship and responsibility force a leader to create boundaries and eventually take more direct action to eliminate repeat mistakes.  If we let people adjust expectations by poor performance, eventually poor performance become acceptable.\n\nThanks for the great post.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(8976, 5581, 'Chad Balthrop', 'cbalth28@hotmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/chadbalthrop/', '72.192.80.181', '2011-10-06 22:54:13', '2011-10-07 03:54:13', 'Hey Mike,\n\nThanks for the kind words. I agree that patience shouldn\'t be confused with complacency or apathy. In Koine Greek the word is \'hupomeno\' - it literally means \'to remain under\'. You might think of the phrase, \'under these circumstances\'. A leader has to ask the question, \"How long am I willing to let my vision or organization \'remain under\' these circumstances. Once that\'s decided the rest is about execution. Complacency never identifies the problem. Apathy never drives toward a solution. Real patience identifies the problem and drives toward the solution either through correction or development. Thanks again for the comments...', 0, '1', '', '', 8974, 265),
(8977, 5581, 'Chad Balthrop', 'cbalth28@hotmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/chadbalthrop/', '72.192.80.181', '2011-10-06 22:59:08', '2011-10-07 03:59:08', 'Hey Mike,\n\nGreat comments. Too often we use the word patience to mean something else. We take a noble word and use it to mask an ignoble action. I agree - we should foster a culture where mistakes are acceptable - once. But don\'t waste anybody\'s time making the same mistake over and over again and expect people to be patient with you or use patience as an excuse for poor performance - that\'s just foolishness.\n\nMy biggest challenge with patience in leadership is that I want what I want when I want it and I want what I want right now! Thanks Mike!', 0, '1', '', '', 8975, 265),
(8978, 5591, 'Frank Sonnenberg', 'Frank@franksonnenbergonline.com', 'http://www.franksonnenbergonline.com', '67.86.177.248', '2011-10-11 13:04:03', '2011-10-11 18:04:03', 'Great post Shawn. If we want to see whether it\'s possible to be people-centric AND goal oriented, all we have to do is look at our non-profit organizations. People come to work everyday excited about what they do and motivated to make a difference. As George Bush (41) once, said, \"It\'s the vision thing\"\n\nHave a great day!\n\nFrank', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8979, 5591, 'Mary C Schaefer', 'artemispath@mac.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/maryschaefer/', '71.224.4.26', '2011-10-11 13:26:39', '2011-10-11 18:26:39', 'Shawn, you know that this is close to my heart.  I love this: \"We’re hard-wired for community. When people collide overlooking this simple truth there is conflict.\"\n\nStated so simply and beautifully.\n\nWe may have to collaborate on this topic some day.\n\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(8980, 5591, 'Susan Mazza', 'Susan@randomactsofleaderrship.com', '', '198.228.199.189', '2011-10-11 13:40:26', '2011-10-11 18:40:26', 'Very compelling Shawn.  So many believe that wall is protecting them from the collisions happening to begin with, when the truth is we can\'t prevent \"collisions\", especially if we want to be an instigator of progress.  You have me thinking that it is perhaps the glaas and metal walls we construct and maintain that makes\"colliding\" a damaging exeperinece rather than simply an opportunity to learn and grow both individuqlly and together.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8981, 5591, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/janeperdue/', '76.23.122.124', '2011-10-11 16:45:02', '2011-10-11 21:45:02', 'Shawn - super post! Far too many workplaces focus on just logic - numbers, the bottom line, return to shareholders, etc., etc. The paradox/polarity counter-balance to logic is emotion...and workplaces need a major dose of it. There\'s plenty of room for accountability and compassion...we just have to want it more and reward it more than we currently do.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(8982, 5591, 'Peggy Fitzpatrick', 'peggylynf@gmail.com', 'http://www.pegfitzpatrick.com', '74.75.127.83', '2011-10-11 18:54:57', '2011-10-11 23:54:57', 'Wow - thought provoking piece. This especially strikes me: \"Take one side-step away from the distraction. Look.\"\n\nWe are so distracted by everything that we aren\'t noticing anything. I see people talking on their cell phones at all hours of the day and night. We are a society of over-connected, non-communicators. The basic messages of being human: make eye contact, be polite etc are going by the wayside.\n\nLet\'s become less distracted and focus on the present.My very best ideas and inspiration come from conversations with my friends and family.\nThanks for making me think!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8983, 5591, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/pagecole/', '184.186.82.130', '2011-10-11 21:27:24', '2011-10-12 02:27:24', 'Thanks for the reminder that business can be, and should be win/win... That truth can get lost in the busyness of business, when it should be the central truth!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(8984, 5591, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-11 21:57:12', '2011-10-12 02:57:12', 'Indeed. That \"vision thing\" is key. Reinforcing it even better. I appreciate your support, Frank.', 0, '1', '', '', 8978, 248),
(8985, 5591, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-11 22:07:23', '2011-10-12 03:07:23', 'Mary,\nI welcome a collaboration. =)', 0, '1', '', '', 8979, 248),
(8986, 5591, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-11 22:19:02', '2011-10-12 03:19:02', 'Excellent, Susan. Going with your thought about the glass and metal causing the damage, their genesis come from the choices we make that put them there in the first place. There\'s pain, fear, anger. Left unresolved, colliding makes for fireworks.', 0, '1', '', '', 8980, 248),
(8987, 5591, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-11 23:18:09', '2011-10-12 04:18:09', 'Jane,\nThe tension between profit and people is indeed one that managers in the 21st century must learn to \"balance\" better.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 8981, 248),
(8988, 5591, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-11 23:35:29', '2011-10-12 04:35:29', 'Peggy,\nWhat a great line: \"We are a society of over-connected, non-communicators.\" Thanks for checking out this post, Peg.\n\nDance on my friend,\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 8982, 248),
(8989, 5591, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-11 23:44:00', '2011-10-12 04:44:00', 'Page,\nAn image comes to mind with the \"busyness of business.\" It\'s an image of a hamster wheel. Running faster and faster and going nowhere. So much we miss running in the busyness.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 8983, 248),
(8990, 5591, 'Bruce Sallan (@BruceSallan)', 'bruce@brucesallan.com', 'http://www.brucesallan.com', '76.89.140.16', '2011-10-12 10:47:41', '2011-10-12 15:47:41', 'Wisdom in your words, pure and simple! I\'ll \"collide\" with you, any day Shawn!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8991, 5591, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '64.134.235.134', '2011-10-12 11:59:02', '2011-10-12 16:59:02', 'Bruce,\nI think you made a new phrase. I like it. Here\'s to colliding!\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 8990, 248),
(8992, 5591, 'Tony Crabbe', 'mail@tonycrabbe.com', 'http://tonycrabbe.wordpress.com', '85.189.249.151', '2011-10-13 12:58:24', '2011-10-13 17:58:24', 'Shawn\n\nLovely blog.  Insightful and beautiful.  Wonderful to read a business blog that reads like poetry.\n\nA real pleasure to read\n\nTony', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8993, 5595, 'Becky', 'becky@kevineikenberry.com', 'http://www.weavinginfluence.com', '72.241.131.58', '2011-10-10 06:48:15', '2011-10-10 11:48:15', 'Jane,\n\nThank you for this thoughtful and thought-provoking post. I appreciate your vulnerability and openness here. All of the recommendations you make (and the steps that you took) require great courage. I would love to read a follow-up on this related to what happens next.\n\nWhat happens when we take steps to repair a relationship? What do we need to take care about to avoid future misunderstandings?\n\nThanks\nBecky', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8994, 5595, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-10 07:14:56', '2011-10-10 12:14:56', 'Jane, I\'m grateful for your post.  This is a great reminder that there is always another point of view or perspective in any conflict or disconnect.  Thanks also for the courage to share about how often it takes another person that we trust to help us see the first person\'s perspective.  Sometimes I think it takes problems to remind us we\'re not all-powerful.\n\nMike..', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(8995, 5595, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/janeperdue/', '76.23.122.124', '2011-10-10 07:40:41', '2011-10-10 12:40:41', 'Becky --\n\nI\'m touched by your comments and observations...and intrigued with your suggestion of a follow-up post(s).- something to consider, for sure! Those long nights of introspection do bring growth and do require courage. We\'re a disposable society and sometimes it\'s altogether too easy to dismiss what people have to say and remove them from our lives. Character-based leaders, however, don\'t do that...and I\'m trying hard to walk the walk in my second act!\n\nWith a smile,\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 8993, 251),
(8996, 5595, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/janeperdue/', '76.23.122.124', '2011-10-10 07:50:02', '2011-10-10 12:50:02', 'Mike - thanks much for your kind words. With today\'s technology, \"connecting\" with someone is quite easy and can set us up for some false expectations. As you so rightfully point out, we sometimes need what I call the \"cosmic two-by-four\" to deliver the whack across the head and get us thinking straight again. Sending smiles and thanks your way.', 0, '1', '', '', 8994, 251),
(8997, 5595, 'Shawn', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-10 22:00:27', '2011-10-11 03:00:27', 'Jane,\nThank you for sharing such a personal story. Indeed those situations are rough. What I admire in your retelling the story is how you owned your part in the breakdown. Somebody must be the first person to do so. What it tells me is that you care deeply enough about the partnership that you are willing to openly admit to your contribution. Heck, you even wrote a blog post about it, offering it up as a lesson for us all. That\'s noble.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(8998, 5595, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/janeperdue/', '76.23.122.124', '2011-10-11 05:29:17', '2011-10-11 10:29:17', 'Shawn - so appreciate your thoughtful words! Hey, what kind of coach would I be if I didn\'t follow my own advice?! With a smile -- Jane', 0, '1', '', '', 8997, 251),
(8999, 5595, 'Susan Mazza', 'Susan@randomactsofleaderrship.com', '', '198.228.199.52', '2011-10-11 16:18:52', '2011-10-11 21:18:52', 'Thanks for sharing your story with us Jane.  A great demonstration of character based leadership in practice. Sometimes we have to keep listening until we can hear.  Only then can we truly take responsibility for the relationship.  Great advice as always.\n\nOn the flip side, just because someone interpreted you as being self serving, doesn\'t mean you have to take it on as the truth about you.  You demonstrate how to walk that delicate line here.  When faced with an assessment that doesnt fit our self perception it is important to both be open to the possibility that we could be deflecting what we dont want to face about ourselves, and make sure we are not owning an assessment that may not be a truth about who we are.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(9000, 5595, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/janeperdue/', '76.23.122.124', '2011-10-11 16:40:44', '2011-10-11 21:40:44', 'Susan - just love your pragmatism! Just because someone say it\'s so doesn\'t necessarily make it so. Yet, it\'s obvious we both agree that character-based leaders must willingly take on the long dark nights and explore the validity of the issue from all angles. Thanks for adding to the richness of the discussion.', 0, '1', '', '', 8999, 251),
(9001, 5595, 'Gwyn Teatro', 'gteatro@telus.net', 'http://www.gwynteatro.wordpress.com', '75.155.251.38', '2011-10-11 17:30:07', '2011-10-11 22:30:07', 'Jane, what I take away from your story is the knowledge that regardless of the cause of the distress you are in, you have courage and integrity enough to look in the mirror first, really listen to what is being said to you and search for meaning even when it is painful for you. That makes you a leader to be admired no matter what your transgressions.\nAnd, no matter your findings and what you choose to do about them, while you no doubt have a share in the responsibility for how you got there, you didn’t take that journey all by yourself.  So remember to be kind to yourself.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(9002, 5595, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/janeperdue/', '76.23.122.124', '2011-10-12 06:47:06', '2011-10-12 11:47:06', 'Gwyn - Being kind to yourself is a great add to the action list, and thank you for your kind words. The busy pace of life sometimes leaves little time for introspection, yet one\'s emotional intelligence can\'t grow without it. I shared the story hoping leaders would be inspired to look within, find the answers, learn and grow - as I have!', 0, '1', '', '', 9001, 251),
(9003, 5626, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-12 11:39:28', '2011-10-12 16:39:28', 'Sonia, thanks for the great post and openly sharing about what you learned.  I agree with you, but want to emphasize the need to set expectations collaboratively.  Shared expectations are key to successful teams.  When everyone understands the goal, and each individual\'s expected contribution, teamwork becomes much less complex and much more enjoyable.  Thanks for a great post.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 243),
(9004, 5626, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/shawmu/', '64.134.235.134', '2011-10-12 12:06:00', '2011-10-12 17:06:00', 'Sonia,\nGood observation. In our efforts to complete a project on time, in scope, and within budget we flex the schedule and process muscle too often. Building into the DNA of a project are supporting processes to ensure people are heard and supported when breakdowns occur.\n\nI would add-on to your first item this: revisit the principles with pulse checks throughout the project. Have a conversation, albeit brief, on how we doing upholding the principals. Where area we falling down? And what do we need to do about it?\n\nI also think the project manager needs to keep a keen eye on personality or approach conflicts and establish an expectation that they need to be addressed. A conversation as to how that should happen is good to have upfront.\n\nGood topic.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 248),
(9005, 5626, 'Patricia Lotich', 'patricia@thrivingsmallbusiness.com', 'http://thethrivingsmallbusiness.com/articles/', '108.70.66.178', '2011-10-13 12:00:59', '2011-10-13 17:00:59', 'Great revelation about the difference between process and people.  Steps in a process are only as efficient as those people responsible for making those steps happen.  When those people are not comfortable speaking up when they encounter barriers it can slow or even stall the process to complete a project.  Consistent, open and honest conversations are the best way to deal with this.  I like the 3+1 feedback strategy! Great article!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(9006, 5626, 'Empowerment Leads to Efficiency &laquo; Zachary Fretz', '', 'http://zacharyfretz.wordpress.com/2011/10/13/empowerment-leads-to-efficiency/', '69.170.134.60', '2011-10-13 14:16:40', '2011-10-13 19:16:40', '[...] It is important to check your team. Are you as a leader focusing on your people? [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(9007, 5626, 'Sonia Di Maulo', 'sonia@harvestperformance.ca', 'http://www.harvestperformance.ca', '96.23.197.125', '2011-10-16 07:06:00', '2011-10-16 12:06:00', 'Thanks for your comment, Mike!\n\nI agree about the importance of setting expectations collaboratively.  I believe it allows everyone a chance to speak up and have impact on the next steps, process, and final results. It builds responsibility in a unique way and allows the leader to build rapport immediately. And, yes, gets everyone to relax and enjoy the rest of the process.\n\nI appreciate the opportunity to collaborate and share with the Lead Change Group.', 0, '1', '', '', 9003, 0),
(9008, 5626, 'Sonia Di Maulo', 'sonia@harvestperformance.ca', 'http://www.harvestperformance.ca', '96.23.197.125', '2011-10-16 07:10:39', '2011-10-16 12:10:39', 'Hi Shawn,\n\nI love your add-on!  100% agree. I also appreciate the suggestion for discussing how to have difficult conversations should they arise.\n\nThanks for dropping by and sharing your insight.  I appreciate it!\n\nSonia', 0, '1', '', '', 9004, 0),
(9009, 5626, 'Sonia Di Maulo', 'sonia@harvestperformance.ca', 'http://www.harvestperformance.ca', '96.23.197.125', '2011-10-16 07:13:20', '2011-10-16 12:13:20', 'Hi Patricia!\n\nThank you for your comment and positive feedback. I am glad we are aligned... you have now joined the Feedback Enthusiast club!  Welcome.\n\nHoping to stay in touch.\nSonia', 0, '1', '', '', 9005, 0),
(9010, 5626, 'Fanny Korman', 'fanzak@gmail.com', '', '72.28.136.240', '2011-10-18 13:06:43', '2011-10-18 18:06:43', 'Sonia,\nThank you yet again for your insights and for sharing so openly.  You lead by example!  Being self-aware is such an important quality of a great leader and being able to openly share what we learn about ourselves creates trust and respect so critical to a team\'s success.  I like your suggestion of collaboratively creating guiding principles that can serve to stay on track as the team moves forward on any given project.  I fully agree that once you have a clear idea of the process, the true measure of success is how well we integrate our understanding of the people involved.  The process is only as good as the people who implement the process and keeping each team member fully engaged is the key to success.\nGreat discussion!\nFanny', 0, '1', '', '', 9003, 0),
(9011, 5635, 'The Perils of Leadership &#8211; When Leaders Collide | Coaching Leaders', '', 'http://www.leadwithhonor.com/blog/2011/10/13/the-perils-of-leadership-when-leaders-collide/', '64.151.83.168', '2011-10-13 13:27:01', '2011-10-13 18:27:01', '[...] Bud to Boss Workshop Tulsa (leadchangegroup.com) [...]', 0, '1', '', 'pingback', 0, 0),
(9012, 5639, 'steve Werner', 'steve@livetowincoaching.com', 'http://www.livetowincoaching.com/', '24.12.194.90', '2011-10-13 10:02:41', '2011-10-13 15:02:41', 'Excellent article.\n\nI\'m actually happy when people just \"want to get by\" for two reasons\n1) I creates less competition for people like myself who want to excel\n2) Like you mentioned it is an eye opener for those who want to push to the limit. They are often convert able.\n\nThe best way to help people identify their areas of strength is to ask them what they are good at. Most people know deep inside but until they are put to the question often keep  their feelings buried.\n\nSW', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(9013, 5639, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-13 18:16:28', '2011-10-13 23:16:28', 'Steve, thanks for the great observations.  Your reasons for being happy about people who just want to get by are great ones.\n\nBut I\'ve taken several different assessments and learned about myself from most of them in some degree.  Some of us aren\'t as clear on our strengths.\n\nMike...', 0, '1', '', '', 9012, 243),
(9014, 5639, 'Mark McGuire', 'mark.mcguire@otago.ac.nz', 'http://markmcguire.net/', '203.109.208.28', '2011-10-13 23:08:07', '2011-10-14 04:08:07', 'Greetings, Mike\n\nI agree that many people are not aware that they have significant strengths. This is especially the case for those who, due to their position in the hierarchy or constraining job description, have never been given the opportunity to find out what they can really do. Leaders cultivate followers; rulers surround themselves with subjects; catalysts initiate change. The world needs more catalysts.\n\nCheers.\n\nMark McGuire\nhttp://markmcguire.net/', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(9015, 5639, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-14 08:12:45', '2011-10-14 13:12:45', 'I agree Mark that we need more catalysts.  For me, due to a number of factors including the way I\'m made and my experiences growing up, I under-appreciate the things I\'m good at.  Also, people who are reasonably good at a number of things find themselves focusing on what they\'re good at in a particular context rather than pushing through to their core strengths.  At least that\'s been my experience.\n\nCatalysts enable us to join causes and change contexts.  Both activities are key to discovering strengths and actually \"doing\" the thing will always trump simply taking some test.  The confidence that we did something and created a result cements our understanding of our strengths.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 9014, 243),
(9016, 5639, 'Justin', 'jtlawhed@memphis.edu', '', '70.145.141.234', '2011-10-15 09:10:29', '2011-10-15 14:10:29', 'I\'m in an environment where that is the norm. I agree with Steve in that you can move forward because your pace is greater than theirs, but in many ways it is like being on a team that is okay with having a .500 record all the time. You can superstar on a mediocre team, but that has diminishing worth after a while. At some you have to decide whether that is an environment is suitable for your personal development because self-motivation can only take you so far and believe you have to be connected to a community for a greater good. At least, that is why I need and currently searching for that.', 0, '1', '', '', 9012, 0),
(9017, 5639, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-15 11:01:17', '2011-10-15 16:01:17', 'Thanks for the great addition Justin.  It is difficult to be the star performer on a \"just getting by\" team and I think your observation that \"has a diminishing worth after a while\" is very astute.  Thanks for reminding us about the importance of community and the culture therein.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 9016, 243),
(9018, 5645, 'Tristan Bishop', 'knowledgebishop@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/knowledgebishop/', '66.193.171.129', '2011-10-13 13:22:17', '2011-10-13 18:22:17', 'Great post, Mike. Thank you for sharing.\n\nOne trend I see taking shape is that the selection of mentors (and those mentored) will become more organic, and less prescriptive.  Because it is increasingly easier for people to find and engage leaders they admire, mentoring relationships are forming outside of conventional boundaries.\n\nWhile large organizations will always have formal mentoring and training processes, many people will be seeking out guidance from those who specifically inspire them.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 253),
(9019, 5645, 'Shawn Murphy', 'shawn@achievedstrategies.com', 'http://www.achievedstrategies.com/blog', '99.17.7.206', '2011-10-13 13:58:01', '2011-10-13 18:58:01', 'Mike,\nA fave topic of mine. Your first observation under \"Three Changing Trends\" is intriguing. I can see it to be possible with budgets shrinking - public and private industries - and more carefully selected learning &amp; development solutions are sought. It certainly changes how vendors make available their offering. It\'s compelling.\n\nFor this to be successful, managers must alter how they support the learning and development of staff. A greater emphasis must be placed on development post-learning or development - period. Managers who can provide development assignments or opportunities to their leaders after a learning solution will increase the return on time. Patience, however, must also be learned. As you point out, leadership is learned from the successes and failures. I\'d add that principals, approaches, and such can be taught to aid the on-the-job development associated with successes and failures.\n\nShawn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(9020, 5645, 'Jim Kouzes', 'jim@kouzes.com', 'http://www.leadershipchallenge.com', '76.126.21.113', '2011-10-13 14:02:38', '2011-10-13 19:02:38', 'Mike, Thanks for sharing the lessons you\'ve learned about leadership development. One of the consistent findings in my and Barry Posner\'s research on leadership over the last 30 years is that \"the best leaders are the best learners.\" The more leaders engage in learning, the more effective they are at leading. Learning is the master skill. And, leadership development has always been self-development. Meaning, it begins with a inner journey to discover who you are. Love \'em and lead \'em, Jim', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(9021, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-13 14:58:07', '2011-10-13 19:58:07', 'I agree Tristan.  We can connect with more people more quickly.  Mentoring is the best form of the dialogue I mention above because the mentor takes some responsibility for the accuracy of the coaching and advice they propose.  In a dialogue, both parties can be wrong and encourage other to continue the error.\n\nThanks for being part of my leadership development.  I appreciate it.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 9018, 243),
(9022, 5645, 'Maranda Gibson', 'maranda@all.pro', 'http://all.pro', '208.49.241.197', '2011-10-13 15:15:51', '2011-10-13 20:15:51', 'Mike, thanks for these thoughts. I would add that leadership will be more personal as well as being more of a school of shared thought. Yes companies will stop spending as much on leadership development, so it will continue to be important that we share our leadership thoughts and ideas with each other.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(9023, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-13 15:16:38', '2011-10-13 20:16:38', 'Jim,\n\nThank you for the feedback.  A big part of my leadership development over the past 3 years came from both studying and teaching from Leadership Challenge.  I agree wholeheartedly with your comment that all leadership development is self-development.  It\'s a favorite quote of yours that I share.\n\nDo you see the market for organization-sponsored leadership development shrinking too?  Coming from the position of an individual, I just see corporate training decreasing due to lack of effectiveness.  And I see growth in the individual and academic pursuits around leadership, both as a result of the organizational cuts and as a cause for the organizational cuts.\n\nThanks again.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 9020, 243),
(9024, 5645, 'Terry Sexton', 'terry@creative-edge-consulting.com', 'http://www.creative-edge-consulting.com', '94.3.135.211', '2011-10-13 15:34:45', '2011-10-13 20:34:45', 'Mike,\n\nThanks for sharing your insights from your experience.  On reflection I think I\'ve seen the same trends, just used different language to describe them.  I think there has been a trend towards more \'Leader\' development than \'Leadership\' development.  This appears similar to your \'Leadership is becoming more internal trend\'.  With change being quicker and more complex the research is pointing towards leaders needing to develop greater cognitive agility, emotional intelligence, and moral judgement.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(9025, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-13 17:16:39', '2011-10-13 22:16:39', 'Shawn, I agree.  I think the most appreciated managers will continue to be those who help people iterate through the trial-and-error loop quickly.  Thanks for adding to the discussion.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 9019, 243),
(9026, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-13 18:06:10', '2011-10-13 23:06:10', 'I agree.  Thanks for the feedback.  I appreciate it.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 9022, 243),
(9027, 5645, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@leadchangegroup.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com/members/mike/', '98.178.138.219', '2011-10-13 18:10:51', '2011-10-13 23:10:51', 'That\'s another great way of saying it.  Leader development is a great way to describe the individualization going on.  It\'s the way our world will create more leaders than we have \"positions\" for them to fill.  Thanks for the comment!  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 9024, 243),
(9028, 5645, 'Mike Myatt', 'm.myatt@n2growth.com', 'http://www.n2growth.com/blog', '76.115.133.249', '2011-10-14 10:25:10', '2011-10-14 15:25:10', 'Hi Mike:\n\nBoth the post and the comment stream provided some interesting food for thought. Here are a few contributions to throw into the mix:\n\n1. Experiential learning has and always will exist, but only to those who seek it out. Learning only takes place where willingness and awareness are present.\n\n2. I disagree with those who believe leadership development budgets are shrinking. My experience is just the opposite. Our leadership development practice has been growing at more than 30% per annum over the last three years, during a tough economic climate where companies have supposedly not been spending. The world has experienced a leadership vacuum in recent history, which has served to awaken many to the value of reestablishing leadership as a competency. As the market becomes more complex and dynamic, smart companies are spending more on leaders not less - they regain an understanding that leadership is more than a title.\n\n3. As for new trends, I could list many, but here are a few to ponder:\n    a. Leaders will do more than talk about social capital, but they\'ll actually begin to understand it and embrace it by doing more than just having a social presence. Integrating social media into business process and leadership models will become the rule rather than the exception.\n    b. Leadership moves from a proprietary model to an open source model where principles of scarcity give way to sharing. This will happen in a way that takes the concept of distributive leadership to levels not previously experienced.\n    c. Leaders will realize the need to shift from the goal business to the discovery business. They will finally recognize everyone is now in the design business.\n    d. Companies will awaken the the fact that diversity has been misunderstood, if not abused. Rather than dealing with diversity as a compliance mandate to deal with protected classes, it will be embraced as a necessity for challenging paradigms and bending norms to more efficiently drive innovation.\n\nThanks Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
