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(12586, 21561, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2014-12-26 15:11:01', '2014-12-26 20:11:01', 'Hi, Mitchell:\n\nExcellent post and I wish I had read this one closer to the publication date ... I blame the eggnog:)\n\nThis is both a clear report on some fascinating research and a challenge for each of us to consider how we are engaging in social media, by asking us to take that proverbial step back and consider our style.\n\nI wonder how much of this is personal preference showing up and how much is strategic and intentional shaping of style?\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12587, 21614, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2014-12-04 09:20:08', '2014-12-04 14:20:08', 'The example that always comes to mind in discussions like this is a suggestion box I started once when I was in charge of a contact center. (The director reported to me). Our org\'s Executive Director took one look at it, threw it on the director\'s desk and said \"if anyone had suggestions they would come to me!\" // In all honesty, she had her many many strengths as an ED but people were not comfortable going straight to her (hence the suggestion box). I guess in retrospect (besides a total org culture re-do) setting up a suggestion box without vetting it with her fed into her anxieties. I enjoyed your post, Chris!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 378),
(12588, 21614, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', '', '71.215.87.170', '2014-12-04 22:26:19', '2014-12-05 03:26:19', 'That\'s a great story, Paula! You\'re exactly right - an open door policy doesn\'t boost trust and communication if the boss is not approachable!\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 12587, 372),
(12589, 21614, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2014-12-26 13:40:43', '2014-12-26 18:40:43', 'Hi, Chris\n\nCatching up on my leadership reading and thoroughly enjoyed this fine post.\n\nI particularly appreciated your distinction between \"operating\" and \"performing\".  Too often we assume that the two refer to the same things and further, that \"performing\" is the critical thing.   I know of several organizations where they squeeze out profits, but the costs from poor customer service force them to do so by constantly having to recruit new customers, instead of growing those they already have.\n\nI\'m tempted to simply your message by saying \"Practice what you preach\", but the idea that aligning our expectations and values with what we see and hear happening is critical.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12590, 21624, 'Bruce Colbert', 'bruce@brucecolbert.com', 'http://brucecolbert.com', '174.130.35.3', '2014-12-12 15:17:54', '2014-12-12 20:17:54', 'One of my favorite time quotes, by Annie Dillard:\n\n\"How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12591, 21624, 'denver', 'denver.daniel@odcs.org', '', '208.108.81.154', '2014-12-15 08:17:11', '2014-12-15 13:17:11', 'Great reminder!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12592, 21624, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2014-12-26 14:58:07', '2014-12-26 19:58:07', 'Hi, Brian:\n\nWhat a \"timely\" reminder of the importance of considering how and why we spend the time we spend:)\n\nI especially appreciate your distinction between times for reflection and times for action.  Too often, we emphasize one over the other, rather than both.\n\n\"To everything, there is a time ...\"\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12593, 21624, 'Brian Sooy', 'brian@aespire.com', '', '76.188.217.125', '2015-02-11 21:00:17', '2015-02-12 02:00:17', 'Thanks John and my apologies for the delay in response. I suppose I\'ve been reflecting; in reality there\'s been little time for more that managing the blessings of abundant work.\n\nBe still.', 0, '1', '', '', 12592, 354),
(12594, 21624, 'Brian Sooy', 'brian@aespire.com', '', '76.188.217.125', '2015-02-11 21:00:42', '2015-02-12 02:00:42', 'Thank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 12591, 354),
(12595, 21624, 'Brian Sooy', 'brian@aespire.com', '', '76.188.217.125', '2015-02-11 21:01:49', '2015-02-12 02:01:49', 'Yes... we don\'t want to spend time without wasting it, for to kill time is to risk injuring eternity.', 0, '1', '', '', 12590, 354),
(12596, 21646, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '70.135.28.150', '2014-12-15 19:28:05', '2014-12-16 00:28:05', 'Hi, Jane\n\nFirst, thanks for a really engaging description of the creative process, which appears like magic to many of us, especially if the person is highly skilled.  Behind the curtain, you note the planning, the practice, and the careful thought that goes into making something clear to others.\n\nI suspect this same process could easily be applied to the art of speaking - what looks easy for some comes from the same elements of planning, practice, and thought.\n\nThe application to leadership, beautifully stated by Jesse Lyn Stoner\'s words, is right on and ought to be memorialized (I would almost say \"memorized\") by all of us who care about becoming better leaders and helping others  to do likewise.\n\n... and the inspiration came from a church sign you \"happened\" to notice ... bonus:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12597, 21646, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.134.124.6', '2014-12-31 22:01:36', '2015-01-01 03:01:36', 'John, Thank you for reading and for sharing your insights as a visionary yourself. I\'ve worked on teams in the past where vision was so speculative it wasn\'t obvious until the project was complete and immediate rework begun. Clearly understood purpose and well defined vision are irreplaceable on a project level as well as the corporate level.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12598, 21672, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2014-12-08 11:00:21', '2014-12-08 16:00:21', 'Mary, I mentioned to you when I saw the preview of this post that I had a story. Many years ago, my daughter (who is now 18) and I were driving around. I think she was 13 or 14 months old. I was trying to fit in a grocery errand before her naptime, meaning I needed the entire process to go with precision accuracy so she wouldn\'t fall asleep in the car and mess up her naptime! It was the holidays, and the parking lot was horrible (of course). I was angling for a spot when another driver took it. Once I got parked, I confronted the poor lady! In retrospect I don\'t think she had seen me, and all I had seen was my exhaustion and my need to get my kid to a nap. I was never able to find her to apologize but hope karma treats her kindly; I definitely needed to cut her a break! :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 378),
(12599, 21672, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '166.216.165.16', '2014-12-08 14:24:08', '2014-12-08 19:24:08', 'Thanks for sharing that perfect example, Paula.  I can see myself on either end of that exchange.  No worries. Your self-reflection soothed that woman even if you didn\'t get to apologize.  Who knows.  She may be reading this!  :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(12600, 21672, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2014-12-26 14:06:04', '2014-12-26 19:06:04', 'Hi, Mary\n\nApologies for the late comment ... blame Santa Claus:)\n\nI was struck by the simple, but essential message that underlies this engaging post.  Maybe this just applies to me, but I take on the burden of the world in my interactions with others.\n\nMuch of the time, when certain behaviors occur or words are spoken in a particular way, I assume that those actions and words are directed at me, because of me.  I tend to always start from the position that I have offended, irritated, or confused the other.\n\nYour simple reflection reminds me of something we can all remember when dealing with others:   It\'s not always about me:)\n\nOnce we get past thinking we are the center and cause of all things, we are freed to look at people and events differently ... and in my experience, this usually results in ascribing more kindly and gently.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12601, 21672, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '71.224.4.26', '2014-12-27 20:05:57', '2014-12-28 01:05:57', 'John, thank you so much for following up and commenting.  A comment like yours reminds me that speaking from our hearts about these everyday occurrences is important, and there is nothing too small to take for granted.  It IS important to reflect on these things.  I\'m so glad you got something out of it, and can cut yourself a break a little bit :)', 0, '1', '', '', 12600, 252),
(12602, 21695, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2014-12-05 09:22:44', '2014-12-05 14:22:44', 'When I look back on the last decade+ at a job that did not always live out values friendly to the fact that we all had families (or personal lives and commitments at least) to nurture, I shudder at the effects it had on my relationships (so I agree w/the team member quoted). That said, I know a business has to do the business pieces too ... as a team member I value being held accountable for the concrete deliverables that contribute to that bottom line. It\'s always a balancing act, and I appreciate your approach to it, Becky!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 378),
(12603, 21695, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.134.124.6', '2014-12-05 10:00:49', '2014-12-05 15:00:49', 'Weaving Influence is wowsome! Every celebration you mentioned seems like a stellar level success to me. You asked “Whose life is different because I am doing this work?” Clearly the work you are doing has benefits that you will never know about. I believe that theory of six degrees of separation applies in reverse too. Six degrees away from what is visible, your work is impacting people. I\'m only one degree of separation and my life is changing now because of our meeting in 2013. There is no way to measure success in this environment. (that is the wrong word, but I\'m lost for the right term)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12604, 21695, 'David Pethick', 'pethick@bigpond.net.au', 'http://leading.io', '124.190.122.110', '2014-12-06 19:00:14', '2014-12-07 00:00:14', 'Hi Becky\n\nThanks for a great post. I just want to offer a little bit of encouragement. The world could do with a few more CEOs like yourself who understand that a business is not defined by the numbers on a P&amp;L statement, but instead by how well you are executing on the vision for the company (what Simon Sinek referred to as the \"why?\").\n\nHang in there, keep hitting milestones and you will build a great business.\n\nKind Regards.\n\nDavid Pethick\nCo-Founder, http://leading.io', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12605, 21695, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2014-12-26 13:45:05', '2014-12-26 18:45:05', 'Hi, Becky\n\nExcuse the lateness of my response,  but it\'s been that kind of EOY ...\n\nAs one who has valued the commitment and energy I sense in your organization, I was tickled to see you so clearly articulate what I see as the strength of all this.  The world could use a lot more CEO\'s like you and a lot less of the kinds we too often experience.\n\nLove this phrase:  \"More books = more great ideas = making a bigger difference.\"  Nailed it:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12606, 21695, 'Ajay Narasimhan', 'ajay3619@yahoo.co.in', 'http://www.ajaynarasimhan.com', '14.97.27.16', '2014-12-29 08:18:07', '2014-12-29 13:18:07', 'Dear Becky,\n\nThis is a wonderful post, more so because one sees it has been written from heart. Especially the anonymous feedback that reflected about what a free mind can accomplish. I think at the core it is always about \"Self Realization\", \"Awareness\" and \"Introspection\" - the sooner one reaches this combination, one gets mentally transported to a completely different orbit. It is this shift that is so critical in our individual journeys.\n\nI have always believed that leading from the heart is the only way to connect with the soul, which makes all the difference. You are not only living this through but obviously helping others build the right contours of leadership - at least the one that is sustainable, enduring and built to last. Best wishes\n\nAjay', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12607, 21713, 'Paula Kiger', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.210.98', '2014-12-09 08:28:07', '2014-12-09 13:28:07', 'I think #2 resonates the most with me. I worked for someone like that once. Although there was a lot more to her than the \"bull in the china shop,\" the fact that it was so prevalent in her public persona obscured a lot of her wonderful qualities.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12608, 21713, 'Frank Sonnenberg', 'frank@franksonnenbergonline.com', 'http://www.franksonnenbergonline.com', '24.44.212.61', '2014-12-09 09:49:55', '2014-12-09 14:49:55', 'I hear you Paula. Some folks want things so bad they can taste it. What thy don\'t realize is that they\'re hurting their efforts. That\'s a tough lessons for some folks to learn. Have an awesome day!  -- Frank', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12609, 21713, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2014-12-26 14:33:14', '2014-12-26 19:33:14', 'Hi&lt; Frank\n\nSolid set of effective and positive leadership principles here:)\n\nI especially like the skewering of &quot;Always Try to Get The Upper Hand&quot;.  I once worked in an organization where this was a common issue.  Most of our discussions were about how we could &quot;win&quot; and how to make everyone else, including those in other departments, &quot;lose&quot; ... The Silo Perspective gone Mad Max:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12610, 21733, 'Paula Kiger', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2014-12-10 07:04:30', '2014-12-10 12:04:30', 'Jane, I really enjoyed this post. Yesterday, I read another \"differences\" post ( http://spinsucks.com/marketing/unique-value-proposition/ ) and with both I felt the same thing -- it\'s easy to give lip service to appreciating differences and hard to practice that! I appreciate your ideas!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12611, 21733, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2014-12-26 14:51:38', '2014-12-26 19:51:38', 'Hi, Jane\n\nCatching up on my reading and I love this post:)\n\nThe phrase \"active inertia\" caught my attention as a great way to describe what I have experienced in some organizations.  Working hard, just to stay in the same place ...\n\nThis is not a new or unique message, but you have nicely stated it in a way that bears sharing.  This is a great contribution to our ongoing discussion of leadership skills and the importance of recognizing and embracing our differences.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12612, 21733, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-01-19 09:51:18', '2015-01-19 14:51:18', 'Hi, John --\n\nMy turn for catching up! Belated thanks for your kind words. Managing differences is a topic that bears repeating!\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 12611, 251),
(12613, 21749, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2014-12-30 13:12:56', '2014-12-30 18:12:56', 'Hi, Karin:)\n\nPowerful and useful post, using a metaphor that many of us can relate to easily.    Your fourth skill \"Juggle to Survive\" might well be the best description of daily life as a parent that I have read.    Much of value exists when we recognize how our skills from one part of our life can be useful in other areas and your post helps us do this beautifully.\n\nYour post did raise a question in my mind about how general this analogy is.  My experience as a parent was that the whole world seemed to be families with kids, but when I looked at the statistics, I found something surprisingly.  According to the 2012 U. S. government report \"America\'s Families and Living Arrangments\", only 20% of households include a married couple with children and including single parents with children only adds 9% more.  Although I am sure a significant number of parents live apart from their children, but still function in the parental role, this is still a much smaller number than I was expecting.\n\n... which brings up a somewhat tongue-in-cheek question:  Where do the single folks get leadership inspiration from:)?\n\nJohn\n\nPS:  Here is a link to the report I mentioned - long and dull, but with fascinating number-crunching:  http://www.census.gov/prod/2013pubs/p20-570.pdf.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12614, 21749, 'Karin Hurt', 'letsgrowleaders@gmail.com', 'http://letsgrowleaders.com', '181.36.5.50', '2014-12-31 18:12:00', '2014-12-31 23:12:00', 'John, That\'s a very interesting statistic. I imagine that some additional folks have children who are grown.  Of course lots of great folks without kids are strong leaders.  My main point here is sometimes I hear folks think that somehow they are worse off because of competing priorities, when in fact, they may be overlooking all the good skills that come from the crazy juggling act we call life ;-)  Happy new year.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12615, 21749, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '67.66.139.22', '2015-01-03 18:23:05', '2015-01-03 23:23:05', 'That\'s a very good point, Karen, and you made it well:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12616, 21767, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://consultgiana.com', '173.195.8.67', '2014-12-18 07:53:51', '2014-12-18 12:53:51', 'Chip - Your story is fascinating and your lessons are powerful.  Thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12617, 21767, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '71.224.4.26', '2014-12-18 10:04:44', '2014-12-18 15:04:44', 'Chip, what a story. Firstly, what a hard-hitting reminder of what our armed forces personnel are faced with. Thank you for sharing it.\n\nSecondly -- excellent parallels with the dynamics of managing change.  This is a great post to share that can get leaders attention when it comes to prepare for managing change. The prospect of eating snakes and rats gets a person\'s attention.\n\nMy favorite point: \"Leaders seeking change walk in a floodlight. Effective change management is not just achieved by leader conversation; it must include observation—leader actions that followers see as congruent with the change message.\"  SO important.\n\nThanks again, Chip.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(12618, 21767, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.134.124.6', '2014-12-19 08:32:48', '2014-12-19 13:32:48', 'Your analogies are meaningful and so easy to identify with. Not the combat or eating rats. Yikes! I can\'t imagine doing that - not even if they were cooked to mimic 5-star restaurant status. I love change. I\'ll be the first one to at least consider whether changing something at least deserves a chance. I love these two quotes best.\nChange is a door opened only from the inside.  People are comforted in knowing they are not a lone pioneer on the forefront of a challenging change.\n\nThanks for sharing your story.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12619, 21767, 'MILE Madinah', 'community@mile.org', 'http://community.mile.org/', '39.32.139.106', '2014-12-23 01:08:17', '2014-12-23 06:08:17', 'Very moving article Mr. Chip. I believe change process from inception to completion and identify key elements which require additional focus and management. Success rates for successfully managing change continue to be poor.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12620, 21767, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2014-12-26 15:30:27', '2014-12-26 20:30:27', 'Hi, Chip\n\nFirst, thanks for your service:)  I was in uniform during the Vietnam Era, but safely tucked stateside.\n\nSecond, thanks for a sometimes stomach-churning, but ultimately very useful reflection on how we learn and change.\n\nI was struck by your observation that \"Long military experience had shown that, faced with survival, soldiers would be far less likely to be repulsed by the idea of eating gross food if they had at least tried it once. \"  I think this holds true for much in life, as well as in the military.   I know from experience that the elements you mention in your post are important in getting people to \"try it\", whether this refers to baked rat, jumping from a very high platform, or moving out of our comfort zones into places we have never been.\n\nMaybe our leadership development should include more experiences where people can do something, at least to a degree, to prepare them more fully to do it in real life.  Probably why simulations are such popular items in the LD bag these days ... even when they do not simulate reality all that well.\n\nMuch to consider here - thanks:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12621, 21787, 'Paula Kiger', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.210.98', '2014-12-15 11:39:15', '2014-12-15 16:39:15', 'I found myself shaking my head \"yes\" to most of this post! It\'s a micro interaction in a way, but I find myself wishing more of us would take a \"first action\" in parking lots. When someone is backing out and hasn\'t seen that you are driving by the spot, is it really that difficult to pause for a minute and let them complete backing out rather than laying on  your horn? This may have touched a nerve!! :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12622, 21787, 'Karin Hurt', 'letsgrowleaders@gmail.com', 'http://letsgrowleaders.com', '206.196.186.159', '2014-12-15 14:56:11', '2014-12-15 19:56:11', 'Mike,\nI have been teaching an MBA course of managing difficult people, and this is a key topic of conversation.  One negative behavior often triggers another negative behavior, and the downward spiral continues. If there was more pausing and responding going on, workplaces would be much more productive', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12623, 21787, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '70.135.28.150', '2014-12-15 19:11:22', '2014-12-16 00:11:22', 'Hi, Mike:)\n\nYou had me immediately with all the passive voice statements, where the responsibility for actions, feelings, and such are thrown \"out there somewhere\".\n\nI like the idea of considering our behaviors as \"second reactions\", which forces us to acknowledge that something comes before our behavior or emotion, and recognizing that is important.\n\nEqually important in my mind is owning our behavior and emotions.  Someone else may really make you want to act or feel in a certain way, but you always have a choice.        The continuing popularity of Viktor Frankl\'s ideas reinforces the value of this notion:)\n\nNice and useful post - thanks!\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12624, 21787, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', '', '98.178.131.209', '2014-12-16 07:39:21', '2014-12-16 12:39:21', 'Thanks Paula for the great comment. When you think about it, if we don\'t \"touch some nerves,\" we\'ll always do what we\'ve always done.  Glad to challenge. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 12621, 243),
(12625, 21787, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', '', '98.178.131.209', '2014-12-16 07:42:56', '2014-12-16 12:42:56', 'Karin, thanks for the comment. Interesting, too, that you mention \"respond.\"  Seth Godin has a post today titled Retribution where he quotes Zig Ziglar and a comment he made about the difference between reacting and responding. Reactors are victims. Responders are heroes and leaders. Thanks again. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 12622, 243),
(12626, 21787, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', '', '98.178.131.209', '2014-12-16 07:46:30', '2014-12-16 12:46:30', 'John, thanks for the comment. You\'re right that we fail to own our behavior and emotions when we react. When we respond, we choose our actions, our behavior and our emotions. We never abandon responsibility. When we consider our actions and respond, we choose who we are.  We remain responsible and we take the lead.  Thanks again for the great comment. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 12623, 243),
(12627, 21793, 'John E. Smith', 'Strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '67.66.139.22', '2015-01-03 08:17:38', '2015-01-03 13:17:38', 'Hi, Chris:)\n\nFirst, thanks for your service.\n\nThis is a well- thought-out and comprehensivedissection of leadership essentials.  I cannot claim the \"Combat-Proven Leader\" descriptor, but my military experiences have been invaluable in my career and your sharing from this perspective is welcomed.\n\nI could happily comment on everything you have shared, but your thoughts in \"Actions\" around what your followers think about you reminded me of a Ropes Course I took my college student housing staff through one time.\n\nAs the facilitator explained the general guidelines and began the first challenge, he noticed that thirty sets of eyeballs swiveled on me, as I obliviously \"took charge\" and made all the decisions, unknowingly setting a top-down dynamic, which was the opposite of my intention for the day.  I was trying to help my staff become critical thinkers and problem solvers ... And this was not the way.\n\nIn the first challenge, I immediately took charge to explain how we would safely escape the Giant Poison Spider ... and blew our chances with a careless action fifteen seconds in.\n\nAfter a quick debriefing with the team, the facilitator creatively addressed this issue by tying my hands behind my back, gagging, and blindfolding me for the rest of the morning, taking me completely out of any leadership role and making me baggage for the team to haul around as they quite effectively solved various challenges.\n\nThis learning experience for both me and my team was one of the most thoughtful and productive I have participated in.  I learned about by eing helpless and totally dependent on others and various team members experienced clear boosts to their confidence - win-win:)\n\nThis was a clear lesson about paying attention to how your actions affect others and a turning point in my professional leadership journey.\n\nChris, thanks again for your excellent post and the trip down Memory Lane:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12628, 21793, 'David', 'tidalwaveleader@gmail.com', 'http://thetwleader.com', '216.16.48.135', '2015-01-09 19:47:19', '2015-01-10 00:47:19', 'Some logos can generate a strong emotions from their customers. Likewise, some leaders just by their mear presence can generate emotions in their followers. I think one test of this emotional response can be seen as soon as you enter a room.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12629, 21813, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', '', '64.134.11.211', '2014-12-17 15:42:50', '2014-12-17 20:42:50', 'Many to choose from, but I\'d add Karin Hurt\'s Overcoming an Imperfect Boss and Kathy Cramer\'s Lead Positive!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 307),
(12630, 21813, 'Paula Kiger', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.210.98', '2014-12-17 22:46:43', '2014-12-18 03:46:43', 'I haven\'t read those, David, but I trust your judgment when you say they should be on my list!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12631, 21813, 'Lisa Flowers', 'llflowers@yahoo.com', 'http://www.whenlifegetsinmyway.com/', '4.26.210.78', '2014-12-18 10:11:22', '2014-12-18 15:11:22', 'What a great list! I like that some information about each book was included. That makes me want to read them even more!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12632, 21813, 'Scott Pitts', 'smpitts77@gmail.com', '', '64.134.166.209', '2014-12-27 17:59:04', '2014-12-27 22:59:04', 'Great post!  I have all of our Corp University students read 8 books to graduate from the program.  The first boom they read I would recommend to all of you.  It is \"Onward,\" by Howard Schultz, the CEO of Starbucks.  The book is the corporate bio of the company since late 2007-2011.  The book is all about embracing the Vision, Mission, and Values of the company.  Great place to start for a Hi-Po program such as a Corp U.  Great discussions on the boom forum that we created that go along with the discussion questions I drafted.  Good stuff and Great Post!\n\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12633, 21846, 'Jon Stallings', 'jon@jonstallings.com', 'http://www.jonstallings.com', '66.147.172.7', '2014-12-23 10:09:01', '2014-12-23 15:09:01', 'What a neat analogy David- i will never see that show the same - and that is a good thing. Leadership lessons are everywhere. I just hope I am not blind to them.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12634, 21846, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.210.98', '2014-12-23 10:46:47', '2014-12-23 15:46:47', 'I really really enjoyed this piece, David! It is so easy to focus on weaknesses when you are a leader, because they are so vexing ... it\'s easy to feel that they can\'t be \"fixed\" or turn into assets for the team. Thanks, Santa, for the reminder about how to reframe!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12635, 21846, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://www.http://trailblazeinc.com/', '174.51.239.28', '2014-12-23 11:38:48', '2014-12-23 16:38:48', 'I hope I haven\'t ruined it for you Jon ;)\n\nYou are right - those lessons are everywhere for us!\n\nTake care,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 12633, 307),
(12636, 21846, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://www.http://trailblazeinc.com/', '174.51.239.28', '2014-12-23 11:41:17', '2014-12-23 16:41:17', 'Good point Paula. They can be vexing...the reframing of looking for what is right, good, and productive in a person - what they do contribute vs what they don\'t - can\'t help but change our leadership perspective.\n\nTake care,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 12634, 307),
(12637, 21846, 'Dale', 'dale@dalechoquette.com', 'http://www.dalechoquette.com', '205.250.49.145', '2014-12-23 12:24:14', '2014-12-23 17:24:14', 'Loved it. Sometimes the lightbulb just has to come on.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12638, 21846, 'David', 'David@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailbazinc.com', '174.51.239.28', '2014-12-25 11:07:57', '2014-12-25 16:07:57', 'Thanks Dale :)', 0, '1', '', '', 12637, 0),
(12639, 21846, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2014-12-26 15:59:10', '2014-12-26 20:59:10', 'Hi, David:)\n\nWell, giggling out loud at the creativity and learning in this one.   You have officially changed my perception of this Christmas Classic for the rest of my life ... I guess that\'s what we are all trying to do, isn\'t it?\n\nOthers have focused on the reframing aspect, which is very important.\n\nI\'ll just note that the song, with your new words, is now setled firmly in my ear ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12640, 21846, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://www.http://trailblazeinc.com/', '174.51.239.28', '2015-01-02 11:49:46', '2015-01-02 16:49:46', 'Hi John - with apologies for the ear-worm, I hope we\'ve elevated a Christmas classic :) Happy New Year!', 0, '1', '', '', 12639, 307),
(12641, 21872, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.134.124.6', '2015-01-02 11:54:27', '2015-01-02 16:54:27', 'This document is a excellent instruction guide for the AHA Amplifier. Thank you, Paula!  One of my goals for 2015 is to write an AHA book for an author. I still have 263 days to find an author who wants their book turned into 140 aha quotes.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12642, 21920, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.210.98', '2014-12-24 11:27:14', '2014-12-24 16:27:14', 'Full disclosure - so many of these suggested gifts touched a nerve for me. I had to restrain myself from tweeting out Susan\'s line about being known ... before this post went live. I groused about that type of thing at my previous employer, but in retrospect when I supervised I don\'t think I gave that freely either. Thank you all for these fabulously valuable gifts that can last all year long!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12643, 21920, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2014-12-26 16:12:20', '2014-12-26 21:12:20', 'Hi, Paula:)\n\nQuite the compilation here ... and I like this format as a change-up from the traditional single-author post.  Highly digestible, without falling into Bumper Sticker Land, this is leaership learning and sharing:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12644, 21920, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.210.98', '2014-12-27 06:46:22', '2014-12-27 11:46:22', 'Thanks,  John!!', 0, '1', '', '', 12643, 0),
(12645, 21920, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://talkkindnesstome.com', '75.134.124.6', '2014-12-29 12:50:23', '2014-12-29 17:50:23', 'It\'s impossible for me to choose which of the gifts I would most want to have. They are all precious and from the heart of the giver. The truth about each of these gifts is that everyone of them would fit perfectly, universally, and best of all each one of them could be regifted without guilt.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12646, 21941, 'Ajay Narasimhan', 'ajay3619@yahoo.co.in', 'http://www.ajaynarasimhan.com', '14.97.27.16', '2014-12-29 08:06:37', '2014-12-29 13:06:37', 'As I commented on this a bit earlier on Twitter, this is about making life more meaningful and better for people around us in our own small way. It is the small things that carry true emotions and empathy with them. At the end our existence has no purpose if it is not about \"Feeling, Caring &amp; Sharing\".\n\nAjay', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12647, 21941, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2014-12-29 11:04:40', '2014-12-29 16:04:40', 'Hi, Ajay - appreciate your comment.\n\nYou have nailed it ... doing little things, which often cost little or nothing, makes a stronger long-term impact than the splashy and usually one-size-fits-all incentives and initiatives.\n\nI try to be always mindful of one of my favorite Gandalf quotes via JRR Toilken:  \"I\'ve found it is the small things; everyday deeds of ordinary folk that keeps the darkness at bay... simple acts of kindness, and love.\"  I think this applies to today\'s organizations just as well as Middle Earth:\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12648, 21941, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://talkkindnesstome.com', '75.134.124.6', '2014-12-29 12:42:20', '2014-12-29 17:42:20', 'Observation of your question #3:  I believe so strongly in what you said in paragraph #3 \"We are each unique, every one of us. \" that I can\'t disagree with anything you\'ve observed. Because I have worked in a number of places the holiday season (which includes Christmas) I\'ve been immersed in all aptitudes, attitudes, and practices from traditional to rogue. In one company each wing and each floor had a decorating contest one year and the next year, even personal decorating was discouraged. (New leadership, new culture) One organization kicked off the holiday season after a Thanksgiving pot luck, then anyone who wanted to participate drew names for Secret Santa. The Friday before Christmas, the CEO played Santa and made a big deal out of passing out the gifts one at a time.\nI\'ve never worked at an organization where Christmas or holiday was not celebrated at all, but it seems that the larger the organization, the smaller the emphasis on making the holidays a memorable \'event\'.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12649, 21941, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '69.242.114.141', '2014-12-29 16:14:39', '2014-12-29 21:14:39', 'John, thank you for such a thoughtful post.  Your second question, \"How do you as a leader make life easier for others at this time?\" speaks to me the most.  I\'m a former HR manager from a Fortune 100 company and I was never able to get my head around what IS appropriate.\n\nIf I were to focus more on how to handle this practically, I think I would fall back on this quotation I ran across many years ago, AND gather input from my constituents.\n\n\"The paradox of diversity: Each individual is like all other people, is like some other people, and is like no other person -- all at the same time.\" - source unknown\n\nAgain, thank you for this post.  You wrangled down some thoughts that I know I have had and chose to put aside one too many times.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(12650, 21941, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://talkkindnesstome.com', '75.134.124.6', '2014-12-29 19:59:54', '2014-12-30 00:59:54', 'I really like that quote you shared, Mary. I\'ve never heard it before. I get frustrated with people who can accept others because of some difference they don\'t like. I heard someone say to another person once \"If you and I are exactly alike, one of us isn\'t necessary.\" Probably not 100% true, but true enough to make the point. We are different, but not so different that we can\'t coexist without all the drama over things that don\'t matter. Why can\'t we all just get along?  My dad used to tell me to think about things that had me frustrated. How much did it really matter and would the end result be worth the conflict? I just want us all to get along. :)', 0, '1', '', '', 12649, 0),
(12651, 22003, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '70.20.57.49', '2015-01-05 07:44:46', '2015-01-05 12:44:46', 'Chris, this a terrific post! It cuts straight to the heart of the matter in both culture, leadership, and individual performance.\n\nHow many times have we seen bad behavior tolerated, or even encouraged, because of the \"winning\" results? A true winning team has a win-win-win culture.\n\nI hope that leaders and organizations read this and realize the positive message they send when they stand up for winning value-based behaviors.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(12652, 22003, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', '', '71.215.87.170', '2015-01-05 11:48:41', '2015-01-05 16:48:41', 'Thanks so much, Paul - I\'m so glad this post rings true for you!\n\nMy charge on this planet is to help leaders create workplace inspiration - hopefully ideas like these will help leaders modify their team\'s expectations and behaviors to make it win-win-win-win for all involved.\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 372),
(12653, 22003, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-01-07 15:03:08', '2015-01-07 20:03:08', 'Hi, Chris - very well-stated and valuable post:)\n\nI particularly enjoyed your clear distinction between outcomes (Performance) and follow-through (Operations).  Too often we do not understand the difference between these two important and related functions.  Your beginning story about awards and body bags was a perfect example of what to avoid.\n\nWhat value an award if we lose our soul?\n\nAbout that sports analogy, I would add that another aspect of our mania about winning is the need for affiliation.  You mentioned fans, players, and coaches all whooping it up when the team wins.  This is the power of affiliation.  The coach provides leadership, the players provide skills and tenacity, and the fans support the coach and players.  Everyone is invested in the outcome and shares the emotional reward when the group prevails.\n\nThe dark side is when people are so affiliated with a group that they become emotionally distraught based on the ups and downs of what other people are doing.  I have seen otherwise sane people become enraged when their team does poorly.    I worked in one organization where the fortunes of the local football team (Texas:) would determine the attitude of many for the next week.  When a win occurred, the week was good no matter what, but when the team lost, tragedy struck and hung around.\n\nSometimes the affiliation thing can be a negative value.\n\nI wonder how the two-sided affect of affiliation shows up in our organizations and whether we ought to pay more attention to how we engage folks in healthy ways and positive relationships.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12654, 22003, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', '', '70.59.0.27', '2015-01-31 16:44:01', '2015-01-31 21:44:01', 'Thanks for sharing the affiliation need concept, John - that\'s very powerful! I\'ve seen it and been aware of it but never had it described so eloquently for me.\n\nI have absolutely seen the benefits and costs of affiliation in organizations - folks affiliate with a bully (with logical consequences) or they affiliate with a great boss (with different logical consequences). Very powerful.\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 12653, 372),
(12655, 21160, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.134.124.6', '2015-01-18 17:16:49', '2015-01-18 22:16:49', 'I know people don\'t believe me when I say attitude is everything. I don\'t waste my good attitude trying to convince them. I love this article. \"If we want a better experience, we need to better our attitude.\" 100% true. Change your attitude - change your life. I goes both ways too, for good or bad.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12656, 21160, 'Sharon Reed', 'sharon@sharonereed.com', 'http://www.sharonereed.me', '99.2.180.180', '2015-01-18 17:55:22', '2015-01-18 22:55:22', 'Thank you, Jane! We all get stuck from time to time, and I\'m no exception. A few years ago I went through a very painful period in my life, feeling victimized by circumstances outside of my control. Admittedly, it took an extended period of \'stuckness\' to begin to realize that my own attitude was keeping me \'stuck\' as much or more than anything else, but that by practicing the art of reframing and adjusting my attitude, I could in fact change my circumstances in the process. Thanks so much for sharing!', 0, '1', '', '', 12655, 0),
(12657, 21397, 'Christiane Shertz', 'cshertz@yahoo.com', 'http://christaneshertz.com', '63.241.40.131', '2015-01-29 18:38:23', '2015-01-29 23:38:23', 'As I saw this article on an art forum - I will respond as an artist, that I am.  It could be that CEO\'s are too busy for social media - but hopefully it will change.  I do hope that the new generation of CEO\'s has much creativity in them - from what I see, people who have a very creative side at the most likely to succeed.  And relating to that, it comes to education, to make sure, art and music, and other art forms are more prevalent in school, as people who are creative are better at solving problems, are more intuitive, and see things with a peripheral vision rather than a linear one.  Technology is wonderful and has become completely part of our life but ideas don\'t come out of technology, they come from a creative mind.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12658, 21641, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-01-07 18:46:29', '2015-01-07 23:46:29', 'Hi, Sean - thanks for an interesting article.\n\nYour example of lockerroom talk was a good one.  We see this in organizations and groups continually ... reluctance to engage in positive confrontation combined with a \"go along to get along\" attitude.\n\nI do think the tendency to \"follow the leader\" is a separate issue to some degree.  It is partly about failure to confront due to fear of conflict, but I believe that lack of engagement in the larger vision and a task-focused mentality are also responsible to some degree.\n\nI do not hear this as much these days, but a famous saying goes something like \"Not my job\".  This is probably one of the most irritating things an employee at any level can say, and when the thing which is not their job threatens the organization, it is downright stupid and short-sighted.\n\nThanks for a though-provoking post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12659, 21641, 'Sean Glaze', 'sean@greatresultsteambuilding.com', 'http://www.greatresultsteambuilding.net/', '166.102.231.101', '2015-01-08 08:35:56', '2015-01-08 13:35:56', 'John -\n\nGood point.  Yes, the issue of \"that\'s not my job\" is one I addressed on my blog many months ago, and is a definitely symptom of disengaged teammates...\n\nI think that initiative is a symptom of commitment to a compelling goal - and connecting people to each other (and encouraging uncomfortable conversations) is a huge part of igniting their willingness to speak up and contribute...', 0, '1', '', '', 12658, 0),
(12660, 21818, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-03 11:13:57', '2015-04-03 15:13:57', 'Wow, Peter... this article made me wish I was double jointed in the hip, so I could kick my own butt for letting my staff down in several of these areas!\n\nThanks for not just pointing out the causes of disengagement, but how I can fix it.\n\nI\'ll be working next week on that list!  Thanks again!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12661, 21818, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2015-04-03 12:01:23', '2015-04-03 16:01:23', 'Hi, Peter - great post, which shows you either have done your homework or been burned in the workplace by poor management ... maybe both:).\n\nI think several things might stop managers from \"doing what\'s right\", as you so clearly and comprehensively state above:\n\n1)  Lack of Awareness - some folks in leadership positions are just oblivious to the effects of their actions or inactions on those they lead.  They may be self-absorbed or just do not understand their role.\n\n2)  Lack of Motivation - we often describe the optimal state (as you do above) and assume that everyone wants to achieve that ideal situation, but my experience says \"Nay, Nay\".\n\n3)  Lack of Support - Sometimes we try to up our game, and we are thwarted by those in authority over us.  I know that many will say that you just have to manage up, work past, and overcome a lack of support, but reality tells me that sometimes you just have to move on.\n\nThanks for this thought-provoking post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12662, 21818, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '162.245.149.11', '2015-04-03 19:32:31', '2015-04-03 23:32:31', 'Great post Peter. Clear expectations are the foundation upon which all management (and then leadership) is built.\n\nTo answer your question - I believe the first thing that prevents the majority of managers from setting expectations as clearly as they need to is...that the expectations are clear - to them. They understand it, they asked if there are questions, everyone sat mutely, so they assume it\'s understood. I can almost guarantee that it is not.\n\nWhat we say is not what is heard. It makes sense in our head, but not to others. Your assumptions are not their assumptions.\n\nEffective managers check for understanding at every step. eg:  \"So what do you understand the expectations to be?\"  That way you know that they know...because they said it.\n\nThanks for a great post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 307),
(12663, 21998, 'Kathy @ SMART Living 365.com', 'kathy@smartliving365.com', 'http://smartliving365.com', '72.132.163.138', '2015-01-06 12:33:11', '2015-01-06 17:33:11', 'Found this link from Paula Kiger today.  Lots of good insights and some excellent ideas for creating a happy, healthy and leaderful life!  Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12664, 21998, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-01-07 15:05:51', '2015-01-07 20:05:51', 'Well, thanks for adding some new names to my Twitter, Feedly, LinkedIn, and Facebook streams:)\n\nQuite a line-up of leadership wisdom here - thanks for sharing with us:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12665, 21998, 'Bruce Harpham', 'projectmanagementhacks@gmail.com', 'http://www.projectmanagementhacks.com', '198.96.180.245', '2015-01-16 10:33:45', '2015-01-16 15:33:45', 'Discovered this excellent collection of articles via the Curious Cat Management Improvement Blog.\n\nI have a few ideas on contributing to a future festival. Is there a set theme or process you\'d like me to follow or simply share? :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12666, 22017, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '71.224.4.26', '2015-01-11 14:36:56', '2015-01-11 19:36:56', 'Good job, Paul.  I love this comparison between a vortex and a drain.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(12667, 22017, 'Vatsala Shukla', 'vatsala.shukla.delhi@gmail.com', 'http://karmicallycoaching.com', '14.98.42.250', '2015-01-16 01:13:34', '2015-01-16 06:13:34', 'I loved the comparison of the vortex and drain style of leadership, Paul. It got me thinking of real life examples and then, I found one from way back in the late 90s when I worked for a Vortex Leader. The ambiance in the office was wonderful and even though ours was a high pressure work environment, everyone was happy. We met our targets and there was a lot of goal achievement going on both for the company and the individual staff members.\n\nThen the boss changed. Vortex Leader had a difference with the owner and left. He was replaced with a very competent boss but things changed for all of us. The motivation and inspiration was replaced with fear of not reaching targets and the works. The new boss was a nice human being but looking back at the time and with 20-20 vision hindsight, I think he qualifies as the Vortex Leader. Quite a few professionals left and while the company did go from strength to strength, I doubt the workforce morale was ever the same. Thank you for the insight.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
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(12668, 22086, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-03 11:39:47', '2015-04-03 15:39:47', 'Mary,\nIt jumped off the page at me... that would be a \"page\" attacking a \"Page\"... HA!  This statement is what I\'m talking about...\n\n\"What the CEO did not do was engage employees about what those principles meant to them and for them in the culture he hoped to establish.\"   I\'ve lived on both sides of this exchange, and what motivates me to be a better leader of my teams is remembering what it was like when my boss treated us like pawns in his vision, not fellow dreamers.\n\nWhat would advice would you give the team members if they have a leader like this?  How should they address it?  Should they address it?\n\nI don\'t want guppies on my team... I want JAWS...  Thanks for the reminder to keep expanding my culture!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12669, 22086, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2015-04-03 13:00:15', '2015-04-03 17:00:15', 'Hi, Mary - great post and a powerful visualization:)\n\nThis whole concept of \"stunting\" is thought-provoking and the examples you used highlight one important way leaders can stunt someone\'s growth:  One-way communication.  If a leader is not interested in or capable of engaging in dialogues around key aspects of the organization or business in a culture of mutual respect, they should not last very long.\n\nUnfortunately, my experiences tell me that these type of leaders exist in far too many situations.\n\nIt seems to me that when we engage in open discussions around our mutual concerns and issues, we are growing our culture ... making the tank bigger, so to speak.\n\nThe ideal might be when we allow our culture to be so inclusive and engage everyone\'s best efforts, that we outgrow any container ... think of the possibilities then:)\n\nI think that leaders who want to grow their culture to grow their employees have to really take the lead by modeling open and honest communication.  Sometimes employees are afraid to grow, maybe because of past experiences, and sometimes they just need encouragement.\n\nEither way, the leader has to actually lead by example ...\n\nAppreciate this thoughtful and sort of inspiring post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12670, 22086, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '71.224.4.26', '2015-04-05 11:35:28', '2015-04-05 15:35:28', 'Thanks Page for your comment! I love this: \"what motivates me to be a better leader of my teams is remembering what it was like when my boss treated us like pawns in his vision, not fellow dreamers.\" - that\'s a blog post in itself. Go for it!\n\nWhat would advice would I give the team members if they have a leader like this? How should they address it? Should they address it? - Answering last question first... only if you think there\'s a chance they will listen, and even more importantly, that they won\'t hold it against you.  Aside from that, I\'ve always found the best approach is to get the boss to talk more, which could sound like,\n- Can you elaborate on what that would mean for an employee at my level?\n- How would you want me to interpret this and apply it to my everyday work?\n- How have you seen this work for you in the past with other organizations/teams you\'ve led?\n\nIf you are worried the boss will get defensive, throwing this in (only if it is sincere) at the right moment helps: \"Please know that I\'m asking you these questions because I want to do a good job (or maybe) be clear on what\'s asked of me and deliver on that.\"\n(http://bit.ly/mary-follow-on-LI)\n\nIf you are a boss, and you are worried no one is speaking up, one way to create a breakthrough is to work up to asking questions that are easy for an employee to answer about how things are going. Grow their trust in you when they see you aren\'t overreacting to the truth. A leader can tell people they are willing to hear the truth and that it is safe to share it, but they have to demonstrate it first. In fact, they may have to create opportunities to demonstrate it, as I described earlier in this paragraph.\n\nMore than you wanted, I\'m sure, Page. But thanks for making me think how to take this discussion even further!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(12671, 22086, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '71.224.4.26', '2015-04-05 11:42:25', '2015-04-05 15:42:25', 'Thanks for your comment, John.  I took this away:\" I think that leaders who want to grow their culture to grow their employees have to really take the lead by modeling open and honest communication. Sometimes employees are afraid to grow, maybe because of past experiences, and sometimes they just need encouragement.\"\n\nI coach managers all the time on how to be leaders. It\'s interesting that they want to demonstrate leadership, but don\'t always know how. They want engagement, but don\'t know to handle belligerence or anything but agreement. Too many managers just keep talking because they are afraid they can\'t handle what they hear back. What\'s a recipe for disengagement. The only way they CAN get that open and honest communication you mention is to learn to deal with whatever they hear back.  http://www.reimaginework.com/stop-talking/\n\nThanks for responding!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(12672, 22166, 'Yasheen', 'yasheen.nunkumar@smith-nephew.com', '', '196.15.203.110', '2015-01-12 06:25:30', '2015-01-12 11:25:30', 'careful now....there\'s a fine line between a numerator and denominator.....don\'t be just a common denominator, be an extraordinary one???\n\nGreat article! I am a leader of denominators...excellent tools to put into practice.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12673, 22166, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-01-12 12:07:08', '2015-01-12 17:07:08', 'Chip,\n\nYour post offers up a number of excellent mindsets and behaviors for individuals to adopt in becoming more effective. Leaders can’t go wrong solving problems, making connections, and carrying joy.\n\nHowever, the sentence, “I realized a stark but simple fact: those you serve do not care about how you do what you do; they only care about how your efforts create value” haunts me. I spent 15 years as a VP in Fortune 100 and 500 companies so I know what you say is true. That’s a reality I believe must be changed.\n\n“Worth comes with contribution” for sure, yet it also comes with caring…for those you serve and those who serve you.\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(12674, 22166, 'Brian', 'brian.sorge@wpsic.com', 'http://www.wpsic.com', '12.181.161.33', '2015-01-14 12:06:25', '2015-01-14 17:06:25', 'Very Punny!', 0, '1', '', '', 12672, 0),
(12675, 22166, 'Bob Climko', 'Drposspin@bellsouth.net', '', '70.193.128.28', '2015-02-02 08:41:58', '2015-02-02 13:41:58', 'Hmmm....Didn\'t you mean to say to Start Numerator Thinking and Stop Denominator Thinking?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12676, 22178, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-03 12:10:13', '2015-04-03 16:10:13', 'Susan Mazza... loved this-\n\"Interdisciplinary efforts only work well when there is a clear and compelling goal the participants share.  This creates the experience of being on one team which is essential to turning us and them into a we.\"\n\nCan you elaborate a little? How do we set that \"clear and compelling goal\"?  Is that something the leader does alone?  With a small group of leaders within the organization?   Also, does it have to just one goal, or can it be several?\n\nI want to be the leader that turns \"us and them\" into \"we\"!  Thanks for the encouragement!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12677, 22186, 'migs', 'migs0501@gmail.com', '', '49.144.210.134', '2015-01-20 07:58:57', '2015-01-20 12:58:57', 'Your trying not to be reactive loses its purpose if the people above you is reactive..dont listen or pretend to listen to your reason but already has their minds set on what they want to believe.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12678, 22186, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://www.http://trailblazeinc.com/', '174.51.239.28', '2015-01-21 11:47:37', '2015-01-21 16:47:37', 'Hi Migs,\n\nIt is definitely frustrating when your own supervisor or executives are behaving reactively. In those situations it is especially important to be purposeful and intentional in your leadership. To clarify with the decision-makers \"Just so I\'m clear, last week X was the priority. Are we shifting direction to go after Y? What are the reasons Y is #1 now - I want to make sure we do a good job fulfilling the goals.\"\n\nIn the end, the only thing you can really control is your own behavior - your interaction with your team. Even with crazy change, we can act intentionally or reactively...and how we react will definitely set the tone for our teams.\n\nAll the best,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 12677, 307),
(12679, 22193, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-03 11:57:06', '2015-04-03 15:57:06', 'Will,\nSounds like we have something in common... dads who were wise, and knew that building sons with character was their highest calling... loved the quote about your dad-\n\n\"My father taught me that there is no work that is beneath me.\"\n\nMy dad lived a life very similar...  I remember when he had just become the president of a community college, and they had just established the foundation, which would be a vehicle for people to donate to the school for scholarships and projects.  Believe it or not, they decided to do a \"bike-a-thon\" around the local lake.  Rather than show up as a dignitary, shaking hands and making speeches, my dad showed up in his maroon &amp; gold warm up suit (school colors), and rode my brother\'s ten speed bike the 5 mile course.  If others were doing it, he was going to lead by example.  That\'s stuck with me all these years.  Thanks for the reminder, from your dad and from mine that no job should be beneath us as leaders.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12680, 22193, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2015-04-03 12:46:46', '2015-04-03 16:46:46', 'Hi, Will - this post is Gold:)\n\nI believe you have just described the essence of servant leadership:  an attitude toward helping others, combined with acquiring the skills and tools to help you do so effectively.\n\nI especially like and will remember your terming of attitude as a \"key differentiator\".  A person can be equipped to serve, but if they do not also possess the will to serve, they will not use the tools.   Sort of like having that exercise bike in your basement ... if you do not have the will or motivation to actually use it, you just have a very expensive rack to hang things on:).\n\nYou mentioned continuous learning at the end, almost in passing, so I would add that I see this as essential for true servant leadership.  If we approach life as one continuous learning curb and use both formal and informal means to continuously learn, we are far better equipped to help others than if we just want to help.  Our lives are in continuous flux and if we do not embrace this reality, we will be emotionally stuck in the past and no good to anyone.\n\nEnjoyed your post quite a lot - thanks again for sharing your and your dad\'s wisdom:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12681, 22193, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-04-03 16:10:07', '2015-04-03 20:10:07', 'You wrote this, Will and did a fantastic job of expressing the thoughts in my head that I could never articulate so well. I have been blessed with a positive attitude. I have retained jobs when others were let go and I know it\'s because of my attitude when that was the only differentiating factor. But there is the whole enigma of ability that no matter how positive my attitude, it can\'t compensate for lack of skill. My attitude enables me to accept that fact though and find something I can do instead of what I cannot. One of my mottoes is \" Focus on what you have, not on what you don\'t. Capitalize on what you can do, not on what you cannot.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12682, 22209, 'Carol Cassara', 'ccassara@aol.com', 'http://carolcassara.com/webinar-tips/', '50.161.48.13', '2015-01-16 09:54:59', '2015-01-16 14:54:59', 'We\'ve got complimentary posts, today! I\'m all for webinars...but not all are executed well, in my experience. Haven\'t been to yours, yet!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12683, 22209, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.210.98', '2015-01-16 11:39:17', '2015-01-16 16:39:17', 'Carol, I\'ll have to visit your post! You are right though -- there\'s nothing like a poorly execute webinar to disconnect you from a group you think you like! I hope ours generates all good vibes!', 0, '1', '', '', 12682, 0),
(12684, 22248, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '70.20.57.49', '2015-01-22 08:19:52', '2015-01-22 13:19:52', 'Thank you for writing this Jon! I really like #3 where you remind us to breathe and discern - two actions that I see are becoming lost arts. These techniques are essential for anyone to stop and think, and process, what\'s going on around, and within them.\n\nGreat points in a very pertinent post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(12685, 22248, 'Jon Mertz', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://www.thindifference.com', '72.48.93.4', '2015-01-22 10:56:51', '2015-01-22 15:56:51', 'Thank you, Paul. Taking the time to think is becoming a more important thing to do. We have a lot coming at us, and we need to set aside time to discern what matters most. Glad you enjoyed the post. Thank you! Jon', 0, '1', '', '', 12684, 0),
(12686, 22262, 'Raymond Allen', 'mycaski@yahoo.co.uk', 'http://www.mycaski.com', '93.169.63.212', '2015-01-21 06:23:01', '2015-01-21 11:23:01', 'I agree on your take with regard to \'Integration\'. Whilst it sounds easy, it could if not thoroughly thought through be disastrous. I am sure there are many experts out there to guide those taking on the challenge. For my part I interpret \'Integrate Relationships\' simply as being two or more heads are better than one. As individuals we may fail; but together we will fail less. Best Regards Raymond', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12687, 22262, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '70.194.2.77', '2015-01-21 19:56:48', '2015-01-22 00:56:48', 'Raymond, I would have to agree that there are even varying degrees of disaster.  We can never minimize the benefits of clear and accurate communication. Sometimes even that isn\'t a silver lining.  Thank you for adding your perspective. Another version of two heads. Right?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12688, 22265, 'Chuck Stump', 'Chuck@PGroup.US', 'http://PGroup.US', '75.109.225.161', '2015-01-20 07:31:01', '2015-01-20 12:31:01', 'As a trainer who works with tons of leaders, your message really hits the mark.  Some of those in a leadership role are not as \"charismatic\" as others, but their commitment to the purpose engages others and inspires them to follow.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12689, 22354, 'D\'Anne Hotchkiss', 'danneh@hotexpresso.com', 'https://lifeishotblog.wordpress.com/', '75.176.73.49', '2015-01-28 06:23:45', '2015-01-28 11:23:45', 'John,\nHis quiet wisdom and perspective borne of terrible experiences is invaluable for anyone seeking to serve through leading and for all of us who mean to be the best we can be.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12690, 22354, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-01-28 15:17:33', '2015-01-28 20:17:33', 'Amen, D\'Anne - well-stated:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 12689, 376),
(12691, 22405, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-03 11:48:39', '2015-04-03 15:48:39', 'Chery,\nFirst, I miss your face!  I know your journey in the Middle East has been scary and exciting, and you\'ve been in my prayers!\n\nAbout your chapter... It really resonated with me.  Leaving my job as a minister of 23 years, and moving into a field where I really had very little training or expertise was very humbling.  I didn\'t realize just how much of my self-image was wrapped up in my \"position\".   Leading people who had a lifetime commitment to a religious cause was very different than leading a team of employees in a business, many of whom don\'t share the same core values.   Frustrated at first, I was genuinely at a loss as to how to lead.  It\'s been my involvement with people like you, Mike Henry and the rest of the LeadChange group team that has helped shape my leadership from a character based perspective.  Thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12692, 22416, 'De', 'dritter@visitingangels.com', '', '24.117.17.61', '2015-01-30 13:50:24', '2015-01-30 18:50:24', 'Great read! I plan to put several of the things mentioned into practice in my own life, both professionally and personally. Thanks for writing!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12693, 22416, 'Randy Thomas', 'randy@thomas.net', '', '67.67.24.1', '2015-01-30 14:44:39', '2015-01-30 19:44:39', 'Page, great article!  Thanks for reminding me that it is not to late in the New Year to celebrate!  I have this little sign in my office for everyone to see, especially me... it reads, \"Attitude is Everything... pick a good one!\"  You are a good \"picker\" because you have a great attitude.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12694, 22416, 'Tom McCloud', 'tom@mccloudmedia.com', 'http://www.communityspiritmagazine.com', '70.183.50.149', '2015-01-30 15:29:59', '2015-01-30 20:29:59', 'There you go, dreaming BIG again Page! No, the article is wonderful. The only other thing I thought of as I read it is the importance of OWNING our past, especially our failures. Though we love to blame the economy or others for our failures, we can\'t really move to the next level without owning our past. \"Yeah, I blew it there, but here is what I am going to learn from it.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12695, 22416, 'Bill', 'wmp95@yahoo.com', '', '184.178.179.210', '2015-01-30 15:38:39', '2015-01-30 20:38:39', 'very good.  a great reminder that we work together in teams and that individuals on those teams can do extraordinary things.  Thank you', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12696, 22416, 'Christian', 'christian@srhomecarebyangels.com', 'http://www.seniorhomecarelondon.com', '108.168.1.74', '2015-01-30 20:00:36', '2015-01-31 01:00:36', 'Great article Page. The years do pass by so fast. Setting goals ensures that those years will be memorable and worthwhile.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12697, 22416, 'Jay McSwain', 'jay@placeministries.org', 'http://www.placeministries.org', '107.77.66.46', '2015-01-31 12:08:29', '2015-01-31 17:08:29', 'Wow!  What a great article.  As I was reading it I kept thinking so simple, yet so profound.  My mind is spinning about the numerous areas I serve and work in that I can implement many of the ideas Page wrote about in the article.  Great job!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12698, 22416, 'Dean DeMarra', 'ddemarra@hotmail.com', '', '67.235.120.180', '2015-01-31 22:37:32', '2015-02-01 03:37:33', 'Awesome read! Thanks for the encouragement!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12699, 21663, 'Jon Mertz', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://www.thindifference.com', '72.48.93.4', '2015-02-05 11:02:12', '2015-02-05 16:02:12', 'Paul,\n\nSome great communication reminders and pointers, too. Tone is an important one as well. We may have a perception of what our tone is, but others may interpret it differently. We cannot be tone unaware.\n\nThe other element that can be frustrating is the fast-talkers or those who use a lot of words to say something simply. When the person trying to talk isn\'t one of these, it can be challenging to be patient for those who are.\n\nWe need to communicate and listen with empathy!\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12700, 21663, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '70.16.68.203', '2015-02-05 11:59:15', '2015-02-05 16:59:15', 'Jon, fast-talking is my biggest challenge. I\'m naturally a hi-speed person, and I have to consciously slow down in my presentations and teaching - not an easy thing for me to do. There are so many ways to get better at communicating, we just have to work on what is our biggest opportunities as individuals.\n\nAt the end of the day, you\'re right, we need to exhibit empathy in our communication. Without it, understanding and trust won\'t happen.\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(12701, 22163, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-02-26 20:29:58', '2015-02-27 01:29:58', 'Hi, Chip - excellent post and I continue to enjoy the \"sprinkles\" model:)\n\nYour story about Herb Kelleher hiding in the overhead bin did spur a thought, though.  I wonder if we can always equate \"fun\" with \"playful\".  Personally, I would not enjoy someone \"popping out\" on me.   It might be in the spirit of fun and to create that extra dash of excitement, but it might backfire too.\n\nSo, to my thinking, the actions we choose to do to create our \"sprinkles\" need to have a clear goal beyond just being fun.  I think the various examples of airline attendants spicing up that safety and airplane rules spiel we have all heard many, many times is a good example of adding some fun with much less risk of someone having a cardiac moment:)\n\nI think that authentic leaders can maximize the usefulness of spending some time on the front lines, while others are simply engaging in photo ops.  Every holiday, politicians man the soup kitchen lines or hammer a strategically posed nail on a Habitat house to show they are hands-on.  I would imagine that Tony Hsieh is not helping because of photo ops or to look good, but to clearly share his idea of what is important when things are busy.  That\'s authentic leadership ...\n\nThanks for writing a great book:) ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12702, 22289, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '70.16.68.203', '2015-02-09 12:37:53', '2015-02-09 17:37:53', 'Great post, Sean. And the eulogy certainly adds to the message you\'re making!\n\nImagine what the world would be if everyone could own this mindset. Most all workplace issues would simply vanish.\n\nThanks, a great thought to start the week!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(12703, 22289, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '148.78.254.249', '2015-02-09 13:49:42', '2015-02-09 18:49:42', 'Sean, thanks for a great post. I\'m sending this out to my entire team. Some of them will be sorry to see an old friend leave.  Great idea! Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12704, 22289, 'Sean Glaze', 'sean@greatresultsteambuilding.com', 'http://greatresultsteambuilding.net/', '98.219.51.148', '2015-02-09 19:44:15', '2015-02-10 00:44:15', 'Thanks Paul, and Mike!  I truly appreciate your kind words...\nProud to be part of the #LeadChange family -', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 380),
(12705, 22349, 'Mike Lambert', 'therealnavy@gmail.com', 'http://www.navycaptain-therealnavy.blogspot.com', '108.51.123.120', '2015-02-02 10:10:53', '2015-02-02 15:10:53', 'Karin,\n\nThis is a very nicely written article.  All great questions worthy of asking.\n\nThank you\nMike', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12706, 22349, 'Karin Hurt', 'letsgrowleaders@gmail.com', 'http://letsgrowleaders.com', '108.15.18.54', '2015-02-03 11:38:13', '2015-02-03 16:38:13', 'Thanks so much, Mike.', 0, '1', '', '', 12705, 0),
(12707, 22450, 'Christian Knutson', 'christian.knutson@engineerleader.com', 'http://www.engineerleader.com', '91.183.119.101', '2015-02-09 12:07:44', '2015-02-09 17:07:44', 'Jesse - concur fully that one cannot separate work/life.  After a career in the military, I\'ve seen people attempt to compartmentalize and it works for awhile...but isn\'t sustainable.  What you do for the majority of your life (i.e. work!) is going to permeate all other areas.  Whether you want it to or not!  The two cliches that come to mind are \"work-life balance\" (not possible!) and the story about the guy/gal who has a bad day the office, returns home, and kicks the dog.  Poor dog...\n\nSuccess comes from consistency in character and action across each area of our life and in each role we play.  That\'s what I\'ve experienced as an engineer, officer, husband, father Assistant Scoutmaster....etc.\n\nThanks for sharing your thoughts!  Best, Christian', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12708, 22450, 'Jesse Silva', 'lvprotector@gmail.com', '', '108.52.8.229', '2015-09-15 14:38:59', '2015-09-15 18:38:59', 'Christian,\n\nI lost this site for a while and I am glad to be back! Forgive my very delayed response which is - you said it better than I did, and with fewer words. Thank you for your comments, it is good to know that there are others out there!\n\nStay Safe,\nJesse', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 384),
(12709, 22452, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-02-26 18:46:03', '2015-02-26 23:46:03', 'Very nice post, Chris:)\n\nNow I really look forward to David\'s new book.  In my experience, the team-building strategy has been mis-applied and you provide some good examples.\n\nOne of the things I did for many years involved outdoor experiential activities, such as ROPES courses and even just good, old-fashioned rustic camping with my staff.  I have written often about the lessons learned, both individually and as a group, from those seemingly simple exercises and games.\n\nAbout the competition thing, we seem to sometimes lack a regulator to control our tendency toward \"winner take all\" behavior.  I have rarely seem this in entire groups, but often observed it in individuals.  Your story about the boss who got banned for overly-aggressive go-karting was a good example ... and when this behavior is displayed by the boss, in the environment of the organization where he can\'t be \"banned\", the results are seldom positive, especially in the long run.\n\nOn the other hand, many pleasant memories were stirred by your cooking example.  Everyone has to eat and the opportunity for mutual benefit is obvious.\n\nBottom Line:  How behavior is handled when team-building is critical.  I have seen some pretty shabby behavior used as a learning point for all involved, but I have also seen a team go belly-up because non-productive behavior was not addressed, either at the point of action or during the follow-up, within a safe environment.\n\nThanks again for an astute and memory-provoking post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12710, 22466, 'Bruce Harpham', 'projectmanagementhacks@gmail.com', 'http://www.projectmanagementhacks.com', '198.96.180.245', '2015-02-02 14:55:34', '2015-02-02 19:55:34', 'Thank you for including my article in the carnival. It\'s good to be in the company of other leaders.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12711, 22466, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2015-02-02 15:26:26', '2015-02-02 20:26:26', 'Thank you for your contribution, Bruce!', 0, '1', '', '', 12710, 378),
(12712, 22466, 'Jane McLeod MSN RN', 'jane@capstoneleadership.net', 'http://www.capstoneleadership.net', '96.42.159.253', '2015-02-03 05:56:04', '2015-02-03 10:56:04', 'https://scrubstocsuite.wordpress.com/2015/01/20/greatness-volume-eight-behave-perform-and-contribute/\n\n Love the Carnival!      Leaders need all of the resources we can get to hone our craft&gt;', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12713, 22466, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2015-02-03 17:28:45', '2015-02-03 22:28:45', 'So true, Jane! Thanks for joining us this month.', 0, '1', '', '', 12712, 378),
(12714, 22487, 'Kerri', 'Khthorn@hotmail.com', '', '108.19.87.183', '2015-02-05 15:47:31', '2015-02-05 20:47:31', 'Funny that you write about this now.  I just finished directing two smallish conferences in which probably 75% of my role turned out to be putting the right people in the right jobs.  My role in sight felt so easy because there was a solid team in place.  Things would have been so painful otherwise.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12715, 22487, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '71.224.4.26', '2015-02-06 17:17:59', '2015-02-06 22:17:59', 'Kerri, sounds like your insight served the situation well.  Thanks for sharing that!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(12716, 22487, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-02-27 09:14:11', '2015-02-27 14:14:11', 'Hi, Mary - enjoyed this post:)\n\nAs I read your analysis of cooperation, I was struck by the thought that this is how emotional intelligence provides value in real time.\n\nI tend to avoid using the phrase \"emotional intelligence\", not because I lack appreciation for the essential value that emotional intelligence brings to leadership and management, but because I try to avoid overused or \"buzzword\"phrases.\n\nYou are making me rethink my stance, because this clearly shows how the ability to sense, interpret, and respond to the emotional landscape of another makes us more productive and better leaders.\n\nBy the way, your experience with your supervisor (\"From The Mouth of Babes\" made me think two things:\n\n1)  This is a perfect example of \"managing up\" and coaching from below.\n2)  When people are approached with agreement, followed by a \"twist\", things happen:)\n\nThanks for a neat little post.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12717, 22513, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-02-26 18:54:22', '2015-02-26 23:54:22', 'Very thought-provoking post, Jane.\n\nI appreciate your willingness to use a personal example to illustrate some very important points.\n\nMy reaction would initially have been the same as yours:  \"What did I do wrong?\", followed at some point by \"How dare they do this to me?\"   We are so often captive to our own misconception that it\'s all about me.\n\nI used to work therapeutically and have experienced folks who were so wrapped into this worldview that they honestly felt a car accident on the Interstate happened just to make them late to work.   These folks are diagnosable, but the tendency toward this type of reaction exists in most of us.  We are just able to moderate it and think it out.\n\nI like your \"water\" analogy.  Water is soothing, flows everywhere, and helps one chill out.  Then the reframing can begin.\n\nI am struck by the application of what you describe to recent discussions around Milennials in the workplace and their tendency to exhibit this type of self-focused behavior.    We had all better pay attention.\n\nThanks for posting:\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12718, 22534, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '70.16.68.203', '2015-02-17 08:05:09', '2015-02-17 13:05:09', 'A great post Vasiliy. Keeping balance and joy in all aspects of our life\'s pursuits is the only true sense of accomplishment.\n\nAppreciate your contributions to the group. Look forward to more!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(12719, 22551, 'Jesse Stoner', 'jstoner@seapointcenter.com', 'http://seapointcenter.com', '50.1.104.136', '2015-02-06 14:29:48', '2015-02-06 19:29:48', 'Hi Bill, What a beautiful and heartfelt post. I love your description of Jamie: large, like a football player - soulful, like a yogi master, - and real, like a man who is comfortable in his own skin. And your personal experience with him. Much appreciation for all you are doing!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12720, 22557, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-02-26 20:20:11', '2015-02-27 01:20:11', 'Hi, Will - nice post:)\n\nYour list covers the waterfront on building trust - I cannot think of anything to add.\n\nI would comment that these actions have to be consistently done over a long period of time.  Some expect trust to be present and only worry about losing the trust they believe they already have, either because they think their title and position creates trust or because they do not clearly understand that trust is earned incrementally, rather than granted carte blanche.\n\nThanks:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12721, 22604, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '174.51.239.28', '2015-02-13 10:09:20', '2015-02-13 15:09:20', 'Thanks Paula - fun theme and great leadership wisdom across the board!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12722, 22604, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2015-02-13 10:20:29', '2015-02-13 15:20:29', 'Thank you, David! I was more than \"lucky\" to have such great material!', 0, '1', '', '', 12721, 378),
(12723, 22604, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '166.216.165.94', '2015-02-13 10:40:32', '2015-02-13 15:40:32', 'Great job pulling this together, Paula!  I was inspired :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(12724, 22604, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-02-13 11:02:20', '2015-02-13 16:02:20', 'You did some serious sleuting, Paula...woohoo! Thanks for including my post.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(12725, 22604, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-02-13 11:02:59', '2015-02-13 16:02:59', 'Sleuthing! (Goodness!)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(12726, 22604, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.210.98', '2015-02-13 11:51:09', '2015-02-13 16:51:09', 'Thank you, Mary. It was fun!', 0, '1', '', '', 12723, 0),
(12727, 22604, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.210.98', '2015-02-13 11:51:45', '2015-02-13 16:51:45', 'Well, Google is our friend, you know?!', 0, '1', '', '', 12724, 0),
(12728, 22604, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://talkkindnesstome.com', '70.210.78.41', '2015-02-14 20:26:45', '2015-02-15 01:26:45', 'Really enjoyed this post, Paula. Nice treatment of the word luck and every article used the word with a different connotation. Nice job!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12729, 22632, 'Jennifer Miller', 'jmiller@people-equation.com', 'http://people-equation.com', '162.207.64.180', '2015-02-16 15:08:35', '2015-02-16 20:08:35', 'Deborah,\n\nThanks for this great article. For years, the Lead Change Group has espoused that leaders are everywhere, not just in titled job positions. Your thoughts here eloquently support this idea.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12730, 22632, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '70.210.74.107', '2015-02-16 17:48:08', '2015-02-16 22:48:08', 'Debra,  I enjoyed your article especially since it closely aligns with many of the roles I\'ve played over many years, none with a leadership title.  Where i see a strong example of this topic is in training. Seasoned employees often take up the role of guide and mentor for the novice or less experienced.  Leading without official authority means you have garnered the trust of individuals. And in many cases you, yourself have earned the honorary title of goto person.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12731, 22632, 'Deborah L. Parker', 'dlparker6@verizon.net', '', '71.171.113.155', '2015-02-17 05:43:58', '2015-02-17 10:43:58', 'Appreciate your thoughts Jennifer and Jane...yes everyone can be or is a leader in some way...especially a goto person at work or even in the family...Lead on!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12732, 22653, 'Anne Louise Bannon', 'anne@annelouisebannon.com', 'http://annelouisebannon.com/blogs', '24.205.93.241', '2015-02-18 12:11:22', '2015-02-18 17:11:22', 'I sometimes find that when I dump all my lists and strategies, that I will often get more done by just plowing through on the project I most need to get done.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12733, 22653, 'penpen', 'plemov@gmail.com', 'http://www.grownchildren.net', '96.255.164.229', '2015-02-18 12:44:41', '2015-02-18 17:44:41', 'Now that I am working at home, I have time management issues--something i didn\'t experience when I worked out of a downtown office. So thanks for the tips--most of which seem to be saying, Set Your Priorities and enjoy the pleasure of moving something from the To Do list to the Done. I\'m going to work on it.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12734, 22653, 'Mick Ukleja', 'mick@leadershiptraq.com', 'http://www.leadershiptraq.com', '65.255.195.202', '2015-02-18 18:12:17', '2015-02-18 23:12:17', 'Don\'t schedule appointments and tasks.  Schedule values instead.  In other words, make sure you put what\'s important to you on your calendar.  Most people use their schedules to let other people set their agendas.  Schedule values.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12735, 22657, 'Ben Simonton', 'bensimo@juno.com', 'http://www.bensimonton.com', '96.228.161.120', '2015-02-19 07:03:57', '2015-02-19 12:03:57', 'Great thoughts, David. As a manager of people, I needed to know what actions to take to show that I respected and valued my people. Fortunately, the science of people tells us what those actions are and what leadership is. Sadly, that science or even that it is a science is not well understood.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12736, 22657, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '98.178.131.209', '2015-02-19 07:31:22', '2015-02-19 12:31:22', 'This may be the first Lead Change post with a \"beer\" tag.  Way to go.  Nice quote too.  Simon Sinek said that everything that doesn\'t come from inspiration is manipulation. Either we inspire people to give us authority or we have to manipulate it out of them. Your post is another great way of making the same point. Thanks for the thoughts.  Interesting reminder this morning. Much appreciated. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12737, 22657, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '98.178.131.209', '2015-02-19 07:35:17', '2015-02-19 12:35:17', 'Oh, and I forgot to answer your question. Nothing is more valuable than our lives or our time. When a leader makes a sacrifice for me, that\'s the best symbol of real leadership substance I can think of. When the leader can subordinate themselves to the goal of the team and the individual team member at the same time, that\'s the most compelling leadership inspiration. It\'s hard to manipulate others through sacrifice. You either give willingly or you (most often) simply don\'t give.  People who serve the team first are the most compelling leaders and they inspire me to grant my best influence.\n\nThanks again. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12738, 22657, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-02-19 08:08:11', '2015-02-19 13:08:11', 'Great article here Paula! Thanks for sharing.   Reading through the list of \"Imagine if I walked up to you and said…\" brought back memories. I recently read an article on a related topic.The author asked the question. If you say people are your most important asset why are you treating them like they don\'t matter?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12739, 22657, 'John Marcello', 'john.marcello@yahoo.com', 'http://john-marcello.com', '186.144.242.172', '2015-02-19 08:08:24', '2015-02-19 13:08:24', 'I will say that the practice of offering non-substantive incentives always infuriated me in the corporate world. I always perceived it on the level of bribery or more as \"opium for the masses.\" As David points out, it\'s both easier and cheaper to buy donuts than to lead.\n\nI praise those leaders who make the choice to invest in their employees and see them as partners. It is doing the right thing and even though the path to success may be a longer or more difficult road, the long-term benefits of this investment truly pay off.\n\nIt is leading by example. If you expect your team to respect your customers or clients, you must respect your team from the top down. Choosing to value those you lead and offering them some level of dignity and respect goes a lot further than those short-sited incentives ever will.\n\nAlso, ditto to Mike Henry...long live the beer tag!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12740, 22657, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://www.http://trailblazeinc.com/', '174.51.239.28', '2015-02-19 08:40:51', '2015-02-19 13:40:51', 'Thanks for that observation, Ben. To further illustrate your point: we all need encouragement, but you\'re right on that we all receive encouragement in different ways. I had a manager who used to say \'thank you\' to me with book store gift cards. She had me figured out! :)', 0, '1', '', '', 12735, 307),
(12741, 22657, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://www.http://trailblazeinc.com/', '174.51.239.28', '2015-02-19 08:41:58', '2015-02-19 13:41:58', 'Thanks Mike,\n\nI will add that crowning achievement to my bio ;)  Inspiration vs manipulation - great model from Sinek!', 0, '1', '', '', 12736, 307),
(12742, 22657, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://www.http://trailblazeinc.com/', '174.51.239.28', '2015-02-19 08:43:19', '2015-02-19 13:43:19', 'Great observation Mike - there\'s no faking or manipulation there. Love the symbols you chose!', 0, '1', '', '', 12737, 307),
(12743, 22657, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://www.http://trailblazeinc.com/', '174.51.239.28', '2015-02-19 11:46:38', '2015-02-19 16:46:38', 'Well said, John - those are infuriating.\n\nIt may be easier and cheaper...but in the long run it just doesn\'t work.\n\nAppreciate you!', 0, '1', '', '', 12739, 307),
(12744, 22657, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://www.http://trailblazeinc.com/', '174.51.239.28', '2015-02-19 11:47:36', '2015-02-19 16:47:36', 'Hi Jane,\n\nI\'m glad this was helpful. That\'s a great question you ask...alignment with words and actions is so important. Credibility is leadership currency!\n\nHave a great day,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 12738, 307),
(12745, 22680, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-02-26 20:43:27', '2015-02-27 01:43:27', 'Hi, Jane - thanks for a wonderful example of serendipity:)\n\nI shared this post on my channels, but wanted to comment a little more here.   NOt only is this a great story about how things develop into very good situations, but you have also given a clear description of why you, I, and many others continue to associate with Lead Change et al.\n\nThe quality of thinking here is impressive ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12746, 22680, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://consultgiana.com', '173.195.8.67', '2015-02-27 23:50:27', '2015-02-28 04:50:27', 'Ahh Jane!  I love your back story!  It is so cool to think that an email mistakes opened the door for new connections and your involvement in sooo many things!  Thank you for sharing!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12747, 22680, 'Jennifer Miller', 'jmiller@people-equation.com', 'http://people-equation.com', '162.207.64.180', '2015-02-28 21:43:49', '2015-03-01 02:43:49', 'Jane,\n\nIsn\'t it interesting how a misdirected email can have such a positive, far-reaching results? Truthfully, I don\'t recall that first email, but I *do* recall the wonderful review you wrote about the Character Based Leader. You have a steadfast supporter of this group. Thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12748, 22696, 'Dean Vella', 'dean-vella@bisk.com', 'http://notredameonline.com', '66.162.27.102', '2015-02-20 10:53:39', '2015-02-20 15:53:39', 'A very thought provoking article John. I have learned to take  other\'s opinions about another person with a grain of salt. That was their first impression and doesn\'t mean it will be mine. We all have different filters and perceptions based on past experiences that tend to shape thoughts possibly away from true reality. Has anyone ever misjudged a person? Sure, we all have for one reason or another. It was that moment in time that shaped our perception. Clarity is not always abundant depending on the state of mind.\n\nI am on the content team for the University of Notre Dame online and originate a variety of articles which you can find here: http://www.notredameonline.com/resources/leadership-and-management. I\'m glad I ran across your article. It has inspired me to create an article about communication.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12749, 22696, 'Chris', 'hello@thrivewp.com', 'http://thrivewp.com', '71.122.234.62', '2015-02-26 09:03:38', '2015-02-26 14:03:38', 'Great article.  So many good tips in here.  Communication is definitely becoming a dying art form.  Love that your son tried to word things that way!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12750, 22696, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-02-26 20:40:00', '2015-02-27 01:40:00', 'Hi, John - very interesting post.\n\nYour observations about the importance of context are right on.   The power of first impression biases or prejudicial statements cannot be overstated.  People hear your message based on the words you choose and the way you say them, which sets up expectations and perceptions which influence everything else.\n\nAnother aspect to all this is the environment in which the message is delivered.  It took me a long time and many mistakes to realize the value of having a discussion at the right time in the right place, rather than letting things happen whenever, which is closely tied to the influence of emotion on our actions.\n\nThe easiest example is when you get very mad about something someone else did.  At a minimum, mentally counting to ten and considering all the things on your list is essential before you open your mouth.   Ideally you can move the discussion to a more non-disruptive location, even if that means you have to wait a while to have it.\n\nThanks for another good post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12751, 22729, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-02-26 20:48:55', '2015-02-27 01:48:55', 'Hi, Jon:)\n\nGreat post - I love the phrase \"proactive influencer\", because it clearly recognizes several things:\n1)  Not all change is influenced.\n2)  Not all leadership is proactive.\nThe emphasis on intentional leadership action to influence makes sense for all change situations I can imagine, even the ones I can\'t control.\n\nNicely stated:) ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12752, 22729, 'Jon Mertz', 'jhmertz@yahoo.com', 'http://www.thindifference.com', '72.48.93.4', '2015-02-27 09:30:24', '2015-02-27 14:30:24', 'John,\n\nI agree completely with your three points. Leading with intention through change will enable us to learn more, grow more, and lead more effectively. By being intentional, we can set an example and influence others in the process.\n\nThank you for your key insights!\n\nJon', 0, '1', '', '', 12751, 0),
(12753, 22747, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-03 11:34:00', '2015-04-03 15:34:00', 'I know this is probably in the book, but how do you help dreamers find out what that \"thing\" is?  I find in my interactions with them that many times they are so overwhelmed that they don\'t know!  Any tips or advice for helping them find that clarity?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12754, 22747, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2015-04-03 13:17:06', '2015-04-03 17:17:06', 'Hi, David - thanks for this interesting article.\n\nI\'m enjoying reading your book, although I\'ve had to temporarily set it aside ... not from seasickness, but because of some urgent matters:)\n\nThe learning that comes out for me from your thoughts is that determining our purpose, creating a vision, and installing specific measures and action steps all give us one important thing;  Focus.\n\nThe \"Focus\" word is almost overused these days, but that does not take away from its importance.  If we take the time to clarify what we want, why we want it, how we will know we have it, and what we need to do to get it, we have truly focused on that thing.\n\nThis, in turn, makes it much more likely that we will actually achieve it:)\n\nGreat thoughts and I am looking forward to reengaging with your book.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12755, 22747, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '206.12.38.240', '2015-04-08 21:34:44', '2015-04-09 01:34:44', 'Page, you need to be relentless with dreamers when you need them to focus on outcomes or goals. I am not afraid to interrupt them with powerful questions:\n\n1. What do you want to get out of this time together?\n2. What\'s the #1 thing you want to achieve?\n3. What impact do you want to make?\n4. Of all the things you have mentioned, which is the one you want to choose now?\n\nIt\'s a skill for sure. As a coach I have built a toolbox with a lot of them.\n\nAs an entrepreneur, I\'ve worked with dreamers all of my career. Fortunately, I am a dreamer and a doer, so I can relate to the dreamer while making sure that a finish line is drawn in the sand for all of us, dreamers included.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 386),
(12756, 22747, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '206.12.38.240', '2015-04-08 21:36:04', '2015-04-09 01:36:04', 'Thanks John for you kind comments.\n\nAs I mentioned to Page in my previous comment, you have to help people to get clear on what to focus on. Then you need to work hard to everyone (including myself) focused on that one vision and goal.\n\nThe key is to start the process, write it down, and then share progress with everyone as you reach towards the goal.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 386),
(12757, 22176, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.118', '2015-03-17 09:15:05', '2015-03-17 13:15:05', 'Chip, thanks for a great reminder and an excellent post. The reminder of the end of Spartacus is a wonderful analogy of employee engagement. They each chose to die rather than admit that the insurrection was not their own idea. Every day we can choose to be the best we can be.  When we take responsibility for our choice the world instantly becomes a better place.  Thanks for making the choice to be a part of Lead Change and for this great post. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
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(12758, 22176, 'David', 'reach2him@gmail.com', 'http://sparkvoice.wordpress.com', '72.37.249.84', '2015-04-02 10:40:16', '2015-04-02 14:40:16', 'It created an amazing sense of trust and respect.  It pulled out vital information from those on the front line, and also helped people unite on a journey.  Everyone felt empowered.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12759, 22758, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-03 12:25:33', '2015-04-03 16:25:33', 'John,\nYour article reminded me of my days as a youth minister, and of my role as a dad.  Every kid I\'ve ever mentored or invested in was different, especially my own.  Understanding that my goal is not to get them to be more successful than others, but to be the most successful version of themselves is a great reminder for me for those I lead now and in the future.  I needed to hear that.\n\nI\'m going to be looking for ways to implement that in my current work environment.  Thanks for the encouragement!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12760, 22758, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2015-04-03 13:03:21', '2015-04-03 17:03:21', 'Thanks for reading and for your comment, Page.\n\nI think one of the issues regarding this is that actually working with each person as an individual requires a whole lot more effort than simply lining them up and doing the cookie-cutter thing ... and everyone is not all that interested in creating more work for themselves.\n\nMaybe the key here is to focus on the much more effective and larger payoff if you put in the time and effort.\n\nAppreciate your work ... onward and upward:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12761, 22777, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-02-27 09:04:21', '2015-02-27 14:04:21', 'Hi, Paula:)\n\nI am torn between commenting on the \"Least of These\" ministry and the incisive leadership observations in your fascinating post ... so I\'ll do both.\n\nThe idea of a runner\'s ministry for incarcerated folks is a great example of working with people in a challenging environment to build their self-esteem and prepare them for a better life.  I have to admit I only thought of prison ministries as individual therapy sessions or group sessions where those who have much try to convince those who have little that they can do more.   You have put sneakers on the ground with this one:).\n\nYour astute observations of both the obvious and the \"hidden\" leaders in this situation should help all of us see leadership with and without titles or overt responsibilities wherever we are.\n\nWith regard to my own experiences, I was fortunate enough to be introduced to the idea that \"leadership is behavior, not title\" long ago, so I am used to looking for the leaders within the group.   My background in group dynamics tells me that we ignore the natural leaders within a group at our own risk, whether they lead for positive or negative results.\n\nNice post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12762, 22777, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.210.98', '2015-02-27 09:24:55', '2015-02-27 14:24:55', 'Thank you for the kind words, John. This is a topic on which I could write for days and days. This particular institution does a great job, in my opinion, with incorporating activities (like the running club). There is a Toastmasters group. There are multiple \"traditional religion\" type of ministries. Fitness, yoga, and book clubs. I don\'t want to make it sound like a smorgasbord of \"extras.\" Ultimately, it is a place where people are fulfilling a debt they owe to society. However, they are still individuals/mothers/sisters/friends/daughters/etc. The women talk often of their plans once they leave, and I hope that these efforts make it more likely they will successfully transition to the outside world again (recidivism rates are high).', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12763, 22777, 'Annette N', 'Anaber99@aol.com', 'http://www.BeautyalongtheRoad.wordpress.com', '137.118.147.166', '2015-02-27 12:33:18', '2015-02-27 17:33:18', 'This is a heart-warming article.  I\'ve heard of gardening programs and poetry therapy conducted with prison populations.  But running - I love it because athletic activity provides so many benefits that the women would otherwise be missing:  Healthy workouts, but also the discipline and persistence necessary to complete a difficult workout or race, the team work that naturally evolves, and even the leadership aspect for a few.  Great job!  Thanks for sharing your work.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12764, 22777, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '70.20.32.26', '2015-02-27 12:55:19', '2015-02-27 17:55:19', 'Paula,\n\nI worked for a county jail for over 2 years and posted here about my observations:\n\nhttp://leadchangegroup.com/what-jail-taught-me-about-leadership/\n\nI think these programs and ministry outreaches to help inmates have a second chance at life, and to possibly become leaders themselves, should not be overlooked. Yes, the recidivism rates may be discouraging, but for the ones that are successful at re-entry, it is so worth it.\n\nTheir paying a debt for their transgressions should also be combined with compassion to help. They must make the choice whether to change behaviors or not, but to neglect these programs to empower and encourage them is not in society\'s best interest.\n\nGreat post that speaks to a passion of mine!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(12765, 22777, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2015-02-27 14:02:06', '2015-02-27 19:02:06', 'I didn\'t know this was a passion of yours! I look forward to reading your post!', 0, '1', '', '', 12764, 378),
(12766, 22777, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2015-02-27 22:48:41', '2015-02-28 03:48:41', 'Annette, thank you for your comment. You captured the advantages perfectly! Running provides such a healthy outlet for the inmates. On an additional note, the whole experience is a reminder that it\'s important to not get wrapped up in the \"latest and greatest\" shoes/clothes/gadgets for running. The shoes they have a very utilitarian to say the least. It\'s a reminder to persevere even without bells and whistles!', 0, '1', '', '', 12763, 378),
(12767, 22777, 'Margy KJ', 'margy@weavinginfluence.com', '', '82.166.22.50', '2015-08-17 10:30:55', '2015-08-17 14:30:55', 'I love this post, Paula! What an amazing group!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12768, 22777, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '71.203.97.10', '2016-08-14 11:02:19', '2016-08-14 15:02:19', 'Sorry for the delayed reaction, Margy, but I just saw this. Thanks for the comment -- it is the best of experiences, for sure.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12769, 22779, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-03-03 11:07:29', '2015-03-03 16:07:29', 'Hi, Mike - interesting post, which really makes me want to read Jon\'s book even more:)\n\nI am fascinated by the grid you shared and this difference between inspiration and aspiration.  For years, I have been relativley non-supportive of motivational speakers and you are helping me clarify why.   They too often inspire, but the aspiration (will to action) is usually lacking or glossed over at the end.\n\nI may just have to get copies of this for my four kids, all of whom loosely fall into the millennial range.\n\nThanks for sharing your insight and thoughts.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12770, 22796, 'Deborah L. Parker', 'dlparker6@verizon.net', '', '71.171.113.155', '2015-03-05 06:27:09', '2015-03-05 11:27:09', 'Nice John. Good reminders for those of us who lead and conduct training (make a living from the use of our words). Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12771, 22796, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.118', '2015-03-05 09:05:37', '2015-03-05 14:05:37', 'John, thanks for the great post. I especially like #3 Use \"I\" statements, and #6 Ask, Don\'t Tell. In fact many of your suggestions are things I\'ve had trouble with over the years.  Have you been following me around? Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12772, 22796, 'Robin A. Henderson', 'robin.a.henderson@gmail.com', '', '104.6.89.234', '2015-03-05 12:28:29', '2015-03-05 17:28:29', 'Great article.  Words are powerful.  Clarity, purpose, and intent are all factors of effective communication.  Thanks for this wonderful guide!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12773, 22796, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '166.137.240.47', '2015-04-01 10:37:06', '2015-04-01 14:37:06', 'John, as a \"words\" and communication person myself, I loved this post, and will share it widely.\n\nWelcome.\n\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(12774, 22796, 'John Stoker', 'jrsutah@comcast.net', 'http://www.dialogueworks.com', '98.202.247.144', '2017-03-01 12:46:23', '2017-03-01 17:46:23', 'Thanks Deborah. Sorry for the late response. I was never notified that anyone had commented.', 0, '1', '', '', 12770, 0),
(12775, 22796, 'John Stoker', 'jrsutah@comcast.net', 'http://www.dialogueworks.com', '98.202.247.144', '2017-03-01 12:47:28', '2017-03-01 17:47:28', 'Thanks Mike. I have to remember to do more asking with my children. j', 0, '1', '', '', 12771, 0),
(12776, 22796, 'John Stoker', 'jrsutah@comcast.net', 'http://www.dialogueworks.com', '98.202.247.144', '2017-03-01 12:48:29', '2017-03-01 17:48:29', 'The piece I didn\'t deal with has to do with the kind of person that one is. I really think that we add personal power to our messages by how we live our life. j', 0, '1', '', '', 12772, 0),
(12777, 22796, 'John Stoker', 'jrsutah@comcast.net', 'http://www.dialogueworks.com', '98.202.247.144', '2017-03-01 12:49:44', '2017-03-01 17:49:44', 'Thanks Mary!!', 0, '1', '', '', 12772, 0),
(12778, 22802, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-03-03 10:51:44', '2015-03-03 15:51:44', 'Hi, Karin - as always, useful and engaging information:)\n\nFirst, a quick story.  I once spent an entire day bound, gagged, and treated as baggage by my staff as they worked through an all-day ROPES course experience, because they kept looking at me whenever the facilitator asked them a question ... and he noticed.  Very interesting being taken completely out of the team role, as a leader and as a participant.  Taught me something about what you are getting at here.\n\nSecond, this is one dynamite list of \"Leadership Gotchas\" and one I am painfully familiar with, having committed most of these sins at one point or another.\n\nThe reality is that leaders too often, trust a little, but not enough.  We want our folks to be creative, dynamic, and independent ... but get real nervous when they start to display the behaviors we say we want.\n\nThanks for a great post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12779, 22824, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-03 12:15:27', '2015-04-03 16:15:27', 'Chris,\nLast year we hired a company to call 10% of our our clients and our staff each month to measure the metrics you\'ve discussed.  I\'m thankful that they are asking questions that give us feedback on engagement and customer service, as well as the metrics on results that we were already measuring.\n\nI can honestly say I don\'t want to be remembered as someone who made money.  I want my life, my company and my family to be remembered as \"difference makers\"...  I want to be a dad, husband and boss that engages, that listens and that invests in others.\n\nThanks for the reminders and the encouragement!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12780, 22824, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2015-04-03 12:24:51', '2015-04-03 16:24:51', 'Hi, Chris - good post about an important aspect of leadership - if a leader turns around and nobody is following (disengagement), they are just taking a walk.\n\nYou identified three important elements of building a culture of mutual trust:  Trust, Respect, and Dignity between the leader and the employee:\n\nTrust - Both feel that the other will keep their word.  Honesty and credibility need be present.\n\nRespect - Both see the other as a fellow human being, worthy of being listened to and heard.  You do not have agree, but you have to listen and try to understand the other\'s view.\n\nDignity - Both give the other the right to be part of the whole.  Different roles and responsibilities do not alter the basic equality that should exist between people.\n\nAs Page indicated in his response, you have to be willing to hear \"bad news\" through actually asking the hard questions, listening to the responses, and doing something about things that need to change.  Do this consistently and you will build trust, respect, and dignity.\n\nAppreciate your articulate and useful thinking:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12781, 22824, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-04-03 17:17:15', '2015-04-03 21:17:15', 'Of these three results, service, engagement I agree that the only word I remember hearing very often was results. In fact until the last few years, I don\'t think I ever heard the word engagement. I remember one boss telling us every time we reported a status, \"Show me. I\'m from Missouri\". I could never figure out why he said that until I, just by chance, saw a Missouri license plate that had \"The Show Me State\" along the bottom edge. Huh! Now I get it. Communication was not his forte. Getting back to the article though, results are tangible and as you pointed out results can be measured, monitored and rewarded.\n\nYou\'re right that only using results as an indicator of status can introduce competition and a winner/loser culture. One thing I see happening today is the customer survey. What was once a tool for measuring customer satisfaction is now potentially flawed as far as encouraging and inspiring the workforce. I know of several organizations where employee raises are based on how many surveys are returned from customers. They also use the ratings, but we all know that the surveys coming back are often the ones where a complaint, whether valid or not, are reported.\n\nTo put a reliable focus on service and engagement, we need solutionzs that include the full cycle and scale of engagement, service, results, and a way to accurately assess what\'s really going on. The culture of the workplace will improve when that happens because people will trust their employer and the employer will trust the employees.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12782, 22859, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2015-04-03 12:33:25', '2015-04-03 16:33:25', 'Hi, Page - great post:)\n\nFirst:  You win the contest for Catchiest Title ... very clever and engaging:)\n\nSecond:  You make strong and eloquent statements in support not of being \"mean\", but of being professional, focused, and a real manager.  Too often, we shrink from doing what is necessary to help another improve their performance because we fear their response (to a lesser or greater degree).\n\nAfter all, who wants to be known as a \"Mean\" person?\n\nI believe that in almost any situation involving coaching someone to a higher level of workplace performance, productivity, or behavior is going to include all three types of \"Mean\" that you describe.  Take the \"mean\" word out and what you have left is solid effective and professional management -  balanced, focused, and insistent on standards.\n\nReally like this post ... keep \'em coming:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12783, 22859, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-03 14:13:50', '2015-04-03 18:13:50', 'Thank you John!  You nailed it!  We let what we \"think\" might be a negative response keep us from doing the best thing!   I wonder how many of those times we failed to be the best kind of leader because we were afraid of a negative reaction that we were actually settling for sub par leadership?', 0, '1', '', '', 12782, 282),
(12784, 22878, 'Matt Weilert', 'mwei@stipress.com', 'http://stipress.com/langlev', '76.123.99.38', '2015-03-10 13:34:54', '2015-03-10 17:34:54', 'Since we agree on chocolate, I think the rest of the less important things will fall into place in our quest for eudaemonia…\n\nIn Csikszentmihalyi\'s \'flow\' concepts, the central part of that leadership bridge is cor ad cor loquitur (heart speaks to heart), which is the prime mover in our businessintimacy.com strategy: fostering a climate where folks tell us what we need to hear, not just what they think we want to hear.\n\nTrust is a rope that exercises its power under tension, so embrace the challenges as we used to say in martial arts.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12785, 22878, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-03-13 15:32:07', '2015-03-13 19:32:07', 'Love your rope metaphor and having a fellow chocolate devotee! Am fond of saying that character-based leaders use their head to manage and their heart to lead. Thanks for sharing!', 0, '1', '', '', 12784, 251),
(12786, 22886, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-03-24 15:14:53', '2015-03-24 19:14:53', 'Hi, Mary\n\nThanks for the inspiring story and the underlying message ... this ain\'t your father\'s world.  Things are changing and the \"rules\" we all grew up with do on always apply, at least as rigidly as they once did.\n\nThe most important takeway for me in all this is the idea that \"It Only Takes One\".  Everyone does not need to change their mindset, but when one does, the momentum ticks upward just a tad ... and so change sometimes goes:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12787, 22886, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '71.224.4.26', '2015-05-13 21:55:42', '2015-05-14 01:55:42', 'Thanks John, for this response. It helps me feel less silly about being a fierce idealist.', 0, '1', '', '', 12786, 252),
(12788, 22944, 'Jennifer Hogan', 'jhogan.hhs@gmail.com', 'http://thecompellededucator.blogspot.com', '68.117.148.166', '2015-03-16 07:13:37', '2015-03-16 11:13:37', 'Your first point, \"Scan the Horizon That is Your People,\" really resonated with me. As a former coach, we called this \"KYP,\" Know Your Personnel. Leadership goes back to relationships, and the greater those are, the more we understand and recognize strengths and talents in others. I also find that your point about personality is also spot on. Sometimes people are put in leadership roles (or not) because of personality. Sometimes those with favorable personalities can\'t produce results or lead.\nThank you for sharing!\nJennifer', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12789, 22944, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.118', '2015-03-16 08:14:44', '2015-03-16 12:14:44', 'Excellent post Paul and a wonderful reminder. If the senior person is the default solution to every problem, you identify your potential leaders as they leave.  It takes courage and energy to help others step into the role.  Thanks again. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12790, 22944, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '70.20.46.167', '2015-03-16 13:54:26', '2015-03-16 17:54:26', 'Thank you Mike! It\'s a great real life example, and I was privileged to be involved in Bonfilio\'s development.', 0, '1', '', '', 12789, 343),
(12791, 22946, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-03-11 11:52:10', '2015-03-11 15:52:10', 'Hi, Stacy - nice post.\n\nMy most interesting experience with new staff orientation was not an overwhelming success, but it was interesting.\n\nI was responsible for new employee orientation at a non-profit for several years, which included two somewhat separate tracks:   1)  New corporate headquarters staff, which included support positions, and 2) New management team members,  which included regional coordinators, administrators, Directors (Nursing, Maintenance, assorted others depending on size of unit), service coordinators, and senior staff.\n\nThe general orientation for both groups was usually 1-2 days, while the management staff continued for almost an entire week.  Since the second group traveled to our corporate HQ, we included a fair amount of individual sessions within the person\'s reporting area, as well as the general sessions which all new staff participated in.\n\nBecause we did these quarterly or at best monthly, employees often arrived for orientation with one of two profiles:  Brand new first-day-on-the-job OR been working in their department or at their facility for some time (up to several months)\n\nTwo observations:\nWe always started with everyone in the same room hearing the same welcome from the same person:  our president.   This was one of our better activities, since the president was comfortable engaging with each person and helping them understand how they fit into the larger corporate picture, as well as fielding sometimes challenging questions based on the reality of a new employee\'s experiences in the workplace which differed from their original expectations.\n\nSecond observation is that I am guessing that technology has resolved many of the issues we struggled with due to the timing of this sometimes late introduction to the larger organization., as well as eliminating the annoying distraction of new hire paperwork required by some departments (looking at you, HR).\n\nUnfortunately, most of my corporate experiences with new employee orientation have been negative - one organization took up an entire day every two weeks with completion of forms and watching several videos, but little other interaction with new employees.\n\nSmall companies with which I am familiar mostly do not have a formal new employee orientation, unless you count the 30 minute tour of the office/store/cubicle farm and perfunctory introductions to whoever is working close by at the moment.\n\nMaybe that\'s why I liked your blog post - you talk about how orientation can be a valuable link in the Talent Management chain.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12792, 22951, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '71.224.4.26', '2015-04-03 08:13:05', '2015-04-03 12:13:05', 'David, it\'s so interesting that you say \"you’re never fully ready.\" Last night a friend and I were finishing dinner and I asked, \"Are you full?\" My engineer friend said, \"The full condition is rarely permanent.\" Whaaaaaa?\n\nHe said it mostly applies to tanks (remember, engineer) and that they rarely stay \"full\" for long.  I thought it was a great metaphor for so many things, including readiness for leadership.  \"You are never fully ready\" = \"The full condition is rarely permanent.\"\n\nMy HR colleagues and I knew when we had some coaching to do when a manager presented him- or herself as knowing it all. We would say, \"They are all trained up.\"\n\nRarely are we fully ready and if so, it doesn\'t last long. It\'s so important to remain humble and proceed anyway. Thank you for sharing that, David.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(12793, 22951, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-03 11:27:50', '2015-04-03 15:27:50', 'David,\nI love the idea of giving our staff opportunities to \"practice Influence\"!  I brainstormed (Ok, maybe it was a quick sprinkle, not a storm!), and came up with my ideas for \"practicing influence\"... Let me know what others you have!\n\n1) Have them lead a meeting\n2) Partner them with a new employee to show them the ropes\n3) Before critical meetings with clients, assign them parts of the project or task to explain to the client during the meeting\n4) Work with them to lead a staff training time or staff meeting\n\nAny other ideas?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12794, 22968, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-03 12:06:11', '2015-04-03 16:06:11', 'Don,\nWhat a great story about Allan!  Most of us have been blessed to cross paths with someone like that, but exhibitions of that level of leadership are rare... but the next part of the chapter is, well, depressing!  But THANK YOU for not stopping there!  I love the challenge-\n\n\"When we believe that leading from good character is critical, we will apply that to ourselves and to those closest to us.\"\n\nI can\'t change the whole world... at once.  But I can change the world by being a character based leader, and leading my own family, friends and staff to be that kind of leader!  Thanks for the encouragement!\n\nI\'ve found that one of the best things I can do to develop this in my kids and my staff, is that during the decision making process of an incredibly difficult situation, that I explain along the way how my values are impacting my decision making process and my choices.\n\nWhat specific suggestions would you give a leader of a team in regards to developing that kind of leadership in the lives of his team members?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12795, 22968, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-04-03 17:38:15', '2015-04-03 21:38:15', 'I am glad to see this excerpt here. Awhile back I used the book The Character-Based Leader as a backdrop for an article and wanted to include this chapter as one of the summaries. So much of the book was good, it was a difficult decision of what to include.\n\nIt makes my heart hurt to realize that we are in a universal crisis of character on many levels. While character is not hereditary, it is learned behavior, it is cultural, it is familial, and its tentacles of influence are encompassing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12796, 22976, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-03-24 15:21:10', '2015-03-24 19:21:10', 'Hi, Will - thanks for this thoughtful and engaging post.\n\nThe thing that strikes me most is the idea of succession planning as a way of taking care of employees.  I had always framed succession planning as a smart organizational move and a great career motivator for individual leaders, but this is something different.\n\nMakes perfect sense ... succession planning effectively executed makes for a much more stable and productive work environment, which benefits both the organization and the individual employees.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12797, 24215, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-03-19 19:03:23', '2015-03-19 23:03:23', 'Great post David!  \"Be the leader you want your boss to be\"... not \"be the BOSS you want your boss to be\"!  Great insight!!  All of us who have a boss want him to be a LEADER!  Too many times they settle for the lazy option, which is to just be the boss!\n\nI love the hopeful encouragement... \"you can change YOU!\"\n\nI\'m working on that every day!\n\nThanks again!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12798, 24215, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://www.http://trailblazeinc.com/', '174.51.239.28', '2015-03-20 00:12:50', '2015-03-20 04:12:50', 'Great observations Page - thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 12797, 307),
(12799, 24215, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-03-24 15:34:32', '2015-03-24 19:34:32', 'Hi, David - excellent post:)\n\nI found my heading nodding in agreement with your opening story.  This is indeed a common comment in organizations today.   I once worked for a person who decreed that her senior staff was exempt from any mandatory training or development activities our department provided, because \"Senior staff should already know this stuff.\":)\n\nYour emphasis on taking responsibility for managing up is something I wish I had taken more seriously in the past when I ran into this attitude.  What you inferred without saying is that a person who wants their boss to be exposed to the ideas they have received, may be more likely to not try to change, because they have a ready excuse of something along these lines - \"Well, yeah, we all learned how to do it better, but the boss didn\'t and he\'s still the boss, so ...\"\n\nAppreciate your engaging writing style and strong ideas:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12800, 24215, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com/', '50.250.142.11', '2015-03-31 17:10:03', '2015-03-31 21:10:03', 'Hi John,\n\nThank you - I\'ve seen that \'exemption decree\' in more than one company, and it\'s almost always a guarantee that they really do need the help (otherwise their staff wouldn\'t be struggling the way they are.)\n\nThanks for the contributions!\n\n-David', 0, '1', '', '', 12799, 307),
(12801, 24215, 'clippingpaths', 'gertieshelley@gmail.com', 'http://clippingpathsilhouette.wordpress.com', '155.254.114.140', '2015-04-01 04:06:37', '2015-04-01 08:06:37', 'It\'s hard to come by educated people in this particular topic, however, you sound like you know what you\'re\ntalking about! Thanks', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12802, 24616, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '64.223.122.143', '2015-03-23 07:33:43', '2015-03-23 11:33:43', 'Like this post, Page! I look back on my experience and how many times I\'ve uttered or allowed others to say those phrases, and what it reaped. It wasn\'t until learning their toxicity that allowed my teams to focus on solutions and teamwork.\n\nA great list, and one that serves any training program on culture to keep positivity in the organization. Thanks for your insight, Page!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(12803, 24616, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-03-23 11:06:33', '2015-03-23 15:06:33', 'Thank you Paul!  I must admit that this post was as much a confession as it was a leadership post!  I too have heard several of these come out of my own mouth over the years!  Thanks for making not feel like I was the only one!  Have a great week!', 0, '1', '', '', 12802, 282),
(12804, 24616, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-03-24 15:43:11', '2015-03-24 19:43:11', 'Hi, Page - excellent post:)\n\nPaul said what I was thinking, so I will just say \"Thank You\" for reframing these common phrases so eloquently and pointedly.\n\nThis is one to share and to reread ....\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12805, 25220, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-03-24 15:39:43', '2015-03-24 19:39:43', 'Hi. Linda\n\nVery impressive report on what sounds like a wonderful program.  Too often, our youth are expected at a certain point to have leadership skills without ever having had the chance to really develop them.  This is a great example of how to do that and you get bonus points for wrapping it around a topic about which we should all be more concerned.\n\nThe particular group of young people you are working with here is also important.  Children whose home life has fewer challenges may get opportunities in other ways and these children can easily be forgotten and ignored.\n\nTruly a blessed program:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12806, 25249, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-03-24 15:50:15', '2015-03-24 19:50:15', 'Hi, Paula:\n\nThis is a very nicely done recap of Cheryl\'s webinar.  You have clearly stated the key messages and I appreciate having this to share with others to help them understand the valuable and positive message behind Dare-to-Serve Leadership.\n\nLike you, I was renewed by listening to Cheryl\'s story about how a large organization can practice effective leadership.  Since I have lived through more examples of how it should NOT be done, this is a real shining example for us to keep in our hearts and minds as we go forward.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12807, 25249, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2015-03-24 16:43:56', '2015-03-24 20:43:56', 'Thanks, John! I hope many others get an opportunity to hear this webinar (and continue learning from Cheryl\'s example)', 0, '1', '', '', 12806, 378),
(12808, 22903, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-17 11:36:46', '2015-04-17 15:36:46', 'Chip,\nThis story made my week, for several reasons!\n\nFirst, what an amazing campus and leadership team!  I\'m a little prejudices here, because both my father and father-in-law were college presidents in Oklahoma, so there\'s a high bar anyone else has to reach to compare!  But WOW!  I love the creativity, the value of the students and the educational process, and the culture they are creating now and how it will impact the future!  Makes me want to move and go back to school!\n\nSecond, I remember years ago when I was a youth pastor Nido had a youth ministry resource, and invited input (a newsletter I think).  Anyway, I was young and dumb, but thought I knew a lot more than I did.  I submitted something, and it got published!  I was stoked!  Not only that, but I got the nicest letter (I\'m sure it was probably a form letter, but that didn\'t matter!) from Nido thanking me for my submission!  It impacted me  30 years ago and is still a fond memory!\n\nThanks again for sharing!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12809, 25256, 'Kim Ledbetter', 'tekgirlkdw@gmail.com', '', '209.184.33.249', '2015-03-27 07:46:42', '2015-03-27 11:46:42', 'I love this post! It\'s definitely something to think about.... To me the answer to that final question can never be yes... because once I can do something without thinking about it, there is no challenge, and our goals and dreams should naturally progress to the next big thing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12810, 25256, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-03-27 16:12:45', '2015-03-27 20:12:45', 'Hi, Kim - thanks for reading and responding:)\n\nGreat point about how we should always be stretching toward the next level.  The kiss of death is when we think we are \"There\" and stop learning and growing.  Once we hit Unconscious Competence, we should choose our next challenge and start over in another box of the 2x2 grid.  The challenge is identifying those things we do not know we are not competent in, but need to be:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12811, 25256, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '12.206.138.194', '2015-03-28 13:23:16', '2015-03-28 17:23:16', 'John,\nThanks for the reminder!  I\'m currently working with my son to take my role in the family business and I needed to hear this!  Thanks for making a difference in my family today!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12812, 25276, 'Cassandra Ferguson', 'admin@cassandraferguson.com', 'http://www.cassandraferguson.com', '70.192.222.201', '2015-03-25 06:57:05', '2015-03-25 10:57:05', 'These steps are so clear. Thank you so much.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12813, 25276, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-03-27 20:25:15', '2015-03-28 00:25:15', 'Hi, Sean - excellent post:)\n\nNumber 4 about capturing and summarizing key points really resonated with me.  I have too often seen otherwise good presentations go south when this step is ignored or mishandled.\n\nThis is one of the reasons why I like the use of digital tools to capture thoughts, rather than easel pads.   I grew up (literally) writing on easel pads and have developed a comfortable and legible style with recording things on them.   Not everyone does so.\n\nI once was required by Higher Authority to copy and distribute the summary easel pad pages from 10 groups of 5 to 7 people each.  Many of these sheets were barely legible and the value of putting them in people\'s hands seemed minimal.\n\nI have also experienced recording the same type of report outs from groups on a laptop hooked up to a data projector.   As long as the person recording makes sure to validate their version of what is being said, this produces much more usable and clear information.\n\nVery good post - the information is right on:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12814, 25286, 'Paula Kiger', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.210.98', '2015-03-26 08:47:50', '2015-03-26 12:47:50', 'Becky, thank you for sharing these thoughts with us. I know I have said it privately, but it\'s a gift to be treated with grace, to be given specific feedback, and to have the opportunity to care for our families while also doing work we can be proud of with our clients. Proud to be part of this team and grateful for your leadership.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12815, 25286, 'Elizabeth Johnson', 'elizabeth.johnson@dogfuranddandelions.com', 'http://dogfuranddandelions.com', '74.248.225.183', '2015-03-26 09:44:32', '2015-03-26 13:44:32', 'Becky, you are the glue that holds our team together so wonderfully. It’s the little things – like your Monday emails and quick calls – that make the difference in unity and cohesion among a virtual team. As much as our work is about serving clients, it’s also about serving each other, and your example helps us make that a priority. So privileged to be a part of your team!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12816, 25286, 'John Marcello', 'john.marcello@yahoo.com', 'http://john-marcello.com', '186.144.242.172', '2015-03-26 13:20:37', '2015-03-26 17:20:37', 'Becky, I believe we are pioneers , blazing a new trail by embracing the virtual paradigm as a viable way to work in the modern world. As virtual work forces begin to become more common we have the opportunity to demonstrate to society as a whole that relevant businesses can be successful using a virtual model. As a leader of a virtual company you are in a position to set the standard for a new breed of leadership. An important aspect of this is creating a culture of communication and respect, which you have done effectively and elegantly, with grace, commitment and sincerity, inspiring all those whose lives you touch.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12817, 25286, 'Becky Robinson', 'becky@weavinginfluence.com', '', '72.240.18.100', '2015-03-26 16:33:57', '2015-03-26 20:33:57', 'Thank you, John! I am so grateful for your work on our team!', 0, '1', '', '', 12816, 274),
(12818, 25286, 'Becky Robinson', 'becky@weavinginfluence.com', '', '72.240.18.100', '2015-03-26 16:34:31', '2015-03-26 20:34:31', 'Elizabeth,\n\nI appreciate all you do! I\'m glad this work brought us together.\n\nBecky', 0, '1', '', '', 12815, 274),
(12819, 25286, 'Becky Robinson', 'becky@weavinginfluence.com', '', '72.240.18.100', '2015-03-26 16:36:23', '2015-03-26 20:36:23', 'I am grateful for you, Paula, and I appreciate the work we get to accomplish together.', 0, '1', '', '', 12814, 274),
(12820, 25300, 'Dr. Dwight Reimer', 'DocReimer@gmail.com', 'http://DocReimer.branded.me', '50.113.79.40', '2015-03-31 11:17:13', '2015-03-31 15:17:13', 'This is truly a breath of fresh air in the topic of leadership. As a disciple of Jesus, this is a way that we can enable the breath of the Holy Spirit to help us empower others. There is no greater leadership principle than empowering others, but we often need the Love of God to empower us to do so. Fresh air is the source of our ability to SOAR in life, to live life more abundantly. Love to connect with you.\nBlessings,\nDr. Reimer', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12821, 25300, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-03-31 16:05:00', '2015-03-31 20:05:00', 'Thank you for the encouragement Dr. Reimer!  I\'m passionate about helping people to connect with their gifts and passions.  When we partner those with their experiences in life and the unique personality God has given them, I think every person is uniquely designed for their own calling in life!\n\nI\'d love to be able to connect!  I saw where we connected on LinkedIn!', 0, '1', '', '', 12820, 282),
(12822, 25300, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '70.135.28.150', '2015-04-10 18:12:19', '2015-04-10 22:12:19', 'Hi, Page - just now getting around to reading this moving and useful story:)\n\nThis is one nicely phrased and powerful description of what happens far too often in our organizations.  Someone tries to make a difference and is ignored, and I wish your resolution was more common than I am afraid it is.\n\nThis is a nice contribution to leadership development.  The lesson here seems twofold:  if you are being ignored, explore other ways to make an impact, and if you are a leader, pay more attention to those in your sphere of influence who might otherwise go unnoticed:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12823, 25313, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2015-04-03 12:11:53', '2015-04-03 16:11:53', 'Hi, David -great post:)\n\nI was immediately reminded of an insight I received yesterday in a coaching class.  We were put into teams and challenged to create a teaching moment for the entire class on the use and value of planning questions in the coaching process we are learning.  No rules or structure - we were free to use whatever means we wanted as a team to get across the points.    We had 30 minutes to work together online to do this.\n\nI work solo most of the time and am usually in a leadership role with teams when I am on one.  I also like to take my time and perfect whatever presentation I am giving - although I can wing it, I prefer to have all my ducks in neat rows for comfort.\n\nIn the team interaction, I had no choice but to move quickly, go with the flow, and things worked nicely.   Here are some quick learnings from our effort:\n\n1)  I am not the only person in the world who can create an interactive and visually appealing PowerPoint presentation.\n2)  When everyone contributes, the end results may not look like any one person\'s contribution, but it embodies all our thinking.\n3)  A team can produce as well (or maybe even better) than I can on my own.\n\nSynergy is one of those words that sometimes sounds like New Age Babblespeak,  but when you experience the power of working together in a group to accomplish a goal, it becomes a goal for every interaction.\n\nThanks again for your thoughtful reinforcement of the power of synergy for us all.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12824, 25313, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-03 12:20:42', '2015-04-03 16:20:42', 'David,\nWow, what an encouraging post!  I love the concept of synergy... I have done more, grown more, changed more and invested more in others as a part of a team that challenged me, stretched and encouraged me!\n\nI would offer that the same underlying principle must exist in each of the four ways you suggested to create synergy (connect, shared vision, challenges &amp; control)... that principle is vulnerability.  I think for synergy to take place, we have to be willing to be vulnerable to those we partner with- transparent and open to input, challenges and yes, even criticism.\n\nThanks for the post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12825, 25313, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-04-03 16:00:42', '2015-04-03 20:00:42', 'Every time I see the word synergy, I think of community working together in a synchronized pattern. The pattern is created from the moving pieces in the practical ways you suggest. Connect...Shared vision...Challenges...Control.\n\nI\'ve been away from a corporate job now for over 18 months and what I miss the most is team work. I miss all the things wrapped up in the magic of synergy.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12826, 25313, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '206.12.38.240', '2015-04-08 21:38:10', '2015-04-09 01:38:10', 'John,\n\nThanks for sharing your experience. It is amazing what the collective wisdom can come up with. As you saw, it takes hard work to step out of the way to let everyone participate. And when you do magic happens.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 386),
(12827, 25313, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '206.12.38.240', '2015-04-08 21:39:15', '2015-04-09 01:39:15', 'Page,\n\nThanks for your comment.\n\nTo me, the opposite side of vulnerability is trust. In order to build trust with someone we have to be willing to be vulnerable with them first. Which is why the connection piece is so important.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 386),
(12828, 25313, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '206.12.38.240', '2015-04-08 21:40:13', '2015-04-09 01:40:13', 'Jane,\n\nI get a feeling of Synergy from your posts and shared experiences. You reach out to us as a group to encourage us by being brutally honest about what is going on for you and how you are overcoming your challenges.\n\nThanks for that.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 386),
(12829, 25324, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-03-30 20:06:53', '2015-03-31 00:06:53', 'Great article Scott... loved this...\n\"You shouldn’t underestimate the maturity of employees to be able to handle work in progress communications; nor should you underestimate the immaturity that can take hold in the face of radio silence. \"\n\nEliminate Radio Silence!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12830, 25324, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', '', '65.185.20.171', '2015-04-01 21:51:30', '2015-04-02 01:51:30', 'Thanks Page - it is so easy to go radio silent.  In times of change, our people need to be \"tuned into the frequency of change\" - with frequency!\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 12829, 389),
(12831, 25336, 'Josh Dragon', 'joshrdragon@gmail.com', 'http://joshdragon.com', '12.153.218.50', '2015-04-13 11:20:07', '2015-04-13 15:20:07', 'I work in the construction industry. To say that bullying is common place is an understatement. Bullying is usually used as a motivating factor to try and get workers to stay on schedule.\n\nI think my industry needs to completely re-examine this practice. I believe it is a lack of understanding and education about what actually motivates people. If managers and construction companies could begin to understand that this practice is likely slowing their workers down, they might begin to change their behavior.\n\nGreat post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12832, 25336, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-04-13 12:14:45', '2015-04-13 16:14:45', 'Hi, Chris - thanks for a helpful and timely post about a workplace issue that I really wish were in the rearview mirror.\n\nYou have covered this issue in a comprehensive fashion.  I can only add that I believe many employees contribute to workplace bullying because they do not resist it.  This applies to both those who are victims and \"laugh it off\" or just say nothing, and to those who see bullying and do not speak up.  The lack of company policies supporting these positive actions may be partly to blame, but everyone has their own ethical standards to consider as well.\n\nBullies are usually considered to be cowards in the main.  While bullies who hold power will often abuse that power for their own ends, they can and should be resisted.\n\nAs so often happens, we have to consider the role of workplace culture here.  Everything you identified contributes to that culture, along with individuals actions and inactions.\n\nGreat post on an important issue - I\'m sharing this one:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12833, 25336, 'Harriet Johnson', 'hjohnson13409@hotmail.com', '', '158.59.19.101', '2015-04-14 10:42:14', '2015-04-14 14:42:14', 'It\'s no surprise that the Workplace Bullying Institute found workplace bullying to be a prevalent issue.  While it may be common in certain industries, however, I find it a strain on credibility to believe that 72% of employees have legitimately been the victims of bullying.  The solution you imply - that by articulating their values and aligning plans with them, organizations can \"eliminate all possible bullying behavior\" - is even less credible.  A serious issue deserves a serious, balanced presentation, not this kind of treatment.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12834, 25336, 'Gerald Bates', 'gbates@jcsoky.org', '', '74.143.66.108', '2015-04-16 08:21:57', '2015-04-16 12:21:57', 'Great article!  I believe through my experiences, work place bullying occurs when you have one boss in a position of authority who is unqualified to be in that position where they are expected to lead by example and they lack the qualified training and or intelligence to achieve any level of expected leadership abilities.  This problem can be compounded when you factor in office politics and favoritism where the same boss cannot separate work from friendship loyalties.  Then the problem flows down to the self entitled \"friends\" of the boss who hold a level of informal authority if for no other reason than because they are friends with the boss and have his ear.  Thus effectively paralyzing an organization, assassinating the character of anyone who stands up to them and ensuring their informal status and power continues to protect their personal interests rather than the interests of the organization.  This alone has cost organizations in the loss of good professional employees.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12835, 25336, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-17 11:42:42', '2015-04-17 15:42:42', 'Shut up Chris, this is a stupid article...\n\nJust kidding... I was being a bully!  HA!\n\nIn all seriousness, I\'ve worked with the passive/aggressive bullies, the benevolent dictator bullies, and the incredibly insecure and scrambling to cover their own insecurities bullies.  Thanks for the encouragements on how to deal with them!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12836, 25336, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '71.215.81.57', '2015-12-24 11:50:34', '2015-12-24 16:50:34', 'Thanks for your comments, Josh!', 0, '1', '', '', 12831, 372);
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(12837, 25336, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '71.215.81.57', '2015-12-24 11:51:00', '2015-12-24 16:51:00', 'John, your insights are extremely valuable - thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 12832, 372),
(12838, 25336, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '71.215.81.57', '2015-12-24 11:51:39', '2015-12-24 16:51:39', 'Thank you, Gerald!', 0, '1', '', '', 12834, 372),
(12839, 25336, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '71.215.81.57', '2015-12-24 11:52:04', '2015-12-24 16:52:04', 'THAT\'S HILARIOUS, Page! Thank you for the chuckle!', 0, '1', '', '', 12835, 372),
(12840, 25336, 'Jane', 'Jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://InsiteSkill.com', '70.210.81.178', '2016-06-27 14:41:44', '2016-06-27 18:41:44', 'I worked for a bully. It takes a lot of fortitude to say, I\'m better than that and it\'s insanity to believe that I\'ve come this far with the defects I\'ve been made to believe I have.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12841, 25336, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', 'http://drivingresultsthroughculture.com', '75.166.208.124', '2016-06-27 15:06:14', '2016-06-27 19:06:14', 'Good for you to stand up to bullying, Jane! Bullying continues to be a huge issue in workplaces around the globe. For those I know and trust - like you - I wish only for servant leaders to surround you.\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 12840, 372),
(12842, 25387, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-02 11:24:57', '2015-04-02 15:24:57', 'Karin,\nGreat article... I have a question... any tips for those people who have trouble with their feelings showing up on their face?  Sometimes there is a poor reaction, but it\'s non-verbal.  Any tips on how I can encourage someone with that challenge?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12843, 25387, 'karin hurt', 'letsgrowleaders@gmail.com', 'http://letsgrowleders.com', '173.64.79.9', '2015-04-02 13:55:19', '2015-04-02 17:55:19', 'I think it best to point it out. \"I can see by the look on your face you are upset... why don\'t I give you a chance to think about this and we can schedule a time for a follow-up conversation.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12844, 25387, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '70.135.28.150', '2015-04-10 18:19:50', '2015-04-10 22:19:50', 'Hi, Karen - catching up on my overdue reading:)\n\nThis is a strong post about feedback, from both the aspect of how we sabotage the value of receiving it and from consideration of how to appropriately increase the feedback (i.e. gift) that we receive.\n\nYour lead story reminds me of a CEO I once worked for, who was so certain of her own ability to self-evaluate that she felt very comfortable ignoring the data I faithfully and consistently collected and presented to her.  Sometimes the person who needs to hear other\'s perceptions most is the one who is least interested.\n\nYour comment about reacting poorly also rang true with me.  I know I have had to work on listening to the perceptions of others regarding my performance without becoming defensive (or as I call it, \"explaining myself\").  This is an Achille\'s Heel for many of us.  We are trained and developed to become self-confident and independent leaders, but nobody helps us become open to what might be said.  I envy those who more naturally have this ability.\n\nThanks for an engaging and thoughtful contribution:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12845, 25418, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '71.224.4.26', '2015-04-03 08:16:20', '2015-04-03 12:16:20', 'Hi Paula. This post is so creative and such a great idea. Good job!\n\nI scheduled tweets about Pete\'s and Chery\'s posts. I commented on David\'s.\n\nHave a wonderful weekend!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(12846, 25418, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2015-04-03 08:44:46', '2015-04-03 12:44:46', 'Thank you so much, Mary! You get \"EGG\"stra props for being the first to comment! :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 12845, 378),
(12847, 25418, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-04-03 10:11:56', '2015-04-03 14:11:56', 'Clever idea, Paula...will be tweeting posts all weekend long!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(12848, 25418, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2015-04-03 10:15:54', '2015-04-03 14:15:54', 'Thank you, Jane!!! Really appreciate that! You\'re a good EGG! ;-)', 0, '1', '', '', 12847, 378),
(12849, 25418, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-03 12:27:16', '2015-04-03 16:27:16', 'Great Idea Paula!  I just decided to read all of them again, and commented and shared all of them again! (I didn\'t comment on my own, I thought that would be weird!)  Thanks again, and have a blessed Easter!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12850, 25418, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2015-04-03 12:33:26', '2015-04-03 16:33:26', 'EGGsactly what we were looking for (and more)! Thank you Page!', 0, '1', '', '', 12849, 378),
(12851, 25418, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '70.135.28.150', '2015-04-03 13:10:19', '2015-04-03 17:10:19', 'Paula, you are truly a sparkplug:)\n\nI\'ve posted comments on the posts by Peter, David (last one), Mary, WIll, Page, and Chris, and also scheduled sharing on several social media platforms over the weekend and into next week.\n\nAlso going to share this post on my blog in a little while.\n\nGoing to try to get to the remainder later.  I have been trying (with sporadic success) to keep up with the LCG posts and comment/share when I can, but that darned \"Life\" thing keeps getting in the way.\n\nThanks for the reminder to make this more of a priority in support of the group:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12852, 25418, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2015-04-03 13:35:35', '2015-04-03 17:35:35', 'Thank you, John. Your support is deeply appreciated!! Life certainly happens and we always appreciate your involvement!', 0, '1', '', '', 12851, 378),
(12853, 25418, 'Jane Anderson', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-04-03 18:01:06', '2015-04-03 22:01:06', 'That was fun, Paula, and the over achiever in me would have read and commented on all the articles but I am so out of time. I think I covered 4 and shared each of them at least on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn. I think I managed one on Google too. Done! And I noticed comments on the articles so I\'m not the only one playing for keeps.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12854, 25418, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2015-04-03 18:03:13', '2015-04-03 22:03:13', 'Thank you, Jane!', 0, '1', '', '', 12853, 378),
(12855, 25418, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '162.245.149.11', '2015-04-03 19:33:46', '2015-04-03 23:33:46', 'Great work everyone - excellent posts. Thanks Paula for putting this together!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 307),
(12856, 25418, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.210.98', '2015-04-03 23:04:44', '2015-04-04 03:04:44', 'Thanks, David!! I appreciate the fact that you\'ll still be involved this weekend! Your support is a gift!', 0, '1', '', '', 12855, 0),
(12857, 25430, 'Frank', 'frank.rock@harvest.ie', 'http://www.harvest.ie', '213.233.150.80', '2015-04-15 06:25:06', '2015-04-15 10:25:06', 'what an interesting concept and approach to organisational and employee energy.\nThis is something that is not featured at all from my experience on leadership /management programmes.\nWould love to find out more about this concept,\nGreat post thank you', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12858, 25430, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-17 11:23:38', '2015-04-17 15:23:38', 'Scott,\nWhat a great visual concept to wrap our heads around!  I\'m not sure most leaders have stopped to consider that they might actually be making things worse (negative ion) if they aren\'t focused, intentional and encouraging, and just as interested in building the team member as I am completing the project.\n\nOne more math note. Your formula nails it:\nEt = E1 +/- E2 – E3\n\nBut consider this...\n\nEt = ((E1 +E1)3 +/- E2) – E3\n\nI couldn\'t get the superscript to work on this note, but the observation I\'m making is that when more than one team member comes together, they synergy of that effort exponentially increases, and can minimize the overall effects a negative leader and the forces that drain energy from the organization.\n\nThat\'s why I think what you\'re saying is so critical!  When we see the math of relationships, we can overcome the obstacles in front of us!\n\nThanks for the encouragement!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12859, 25430, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-04-18 14:58:57', '2015-04-18 18:58:57', 'Okay , Scott ... nobody told me that math would be involved ...\n\nI will leave the mathmatical figuring to Page, who seemed to understan and this special type of magic.\n\nHowever, I do want to thank you for a set of powerful questions for any manager or leaderhip to consider.  The self-reflection required to make full use of these excellently phrased questions is not natural for everyone.  Some of us will have to really focus and let go of our ego a bit to answer honestly and usefully.\n\nI would consider this effort well spent ...\n\nThanks for a thought-provoking and useful post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12860, 25482, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-10 11:10:19', '2015-04-10 15:10:19', 'Jane,\n\nThat was brave.  Opening up your heart for the world to see the brave, pretty parts is easy.  Transparency that lets people see our warts, scars and fears is tough.  Thank you for having that kind of courage in this post.\n\nI too have argued with that inner coach.  Many times I\'ve heard him say, \"What right do you have to say/share/teach/lead (you fill in the blank, I\'ve heard it).  That inner coach loves to throw my failures and flaws in my face.  But I\'ve learned a couple of valuable lessons along the way, very similar to those you mentioned.\n\nTruth is truth.\nGrace isn\'t for the innocent, it\'s for the guilty and broken.\nHope is more than believing where I can go, it\'s seeing how far I\'ve come.\nAnd to quote the Beatles... \"I get by with a little help from my friends.\"\n\nI\'m thankful you\'re one of those friends.\nHave a blessed weekend!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12861, 25482, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-04-10 11:51:52', '2015-04-10 15:51:52', 'Page,\n\nFrom having worked so many years in corporate America, it\'s taking me a long time to learn to let my vulnerabilities show. Thank you for the support and encouragement to continue on that path. Good to have a friend like you on that journey!\n\nWith a smile,\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(12862, 25482, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-04-11 13:10:09', '2015-04-11 17:10:09', 'Hi, Jane:)   Thanks for an interesting and courageous post.\n\nI know that many of us do not consider sharing our thoughts in blog posts or articles to be brave, but your self-disclosure to a world that does not always receive honesty well is refreshing and a great example.\n\nYou have identified an issue for many of us.  My thoughts while reading this were similar to Page\'s, in that our inner voice is usually very well developed as a critic, but not so much heard as a compassionate observer of our growth.  The old trite saying that we are our own worst critics may be overused, but its accuracy cannot be overstated.\n\nI appreciate your sharing, because it has caused me to reflect on how I continue to sabotage myself with overemphasis on impossible standards and unrealistic expectations.\n\nMaybe I need to cut myself a little slack:) ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12863, 25482, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-04-13 20:28:15', '2015-04-14 00:28:15', 'Hi, John --\n\nA little slack can be a good thing...like giving ourselves permission to fail and learn from that failure! The social pressure to be perfect is enormous...a weight I\'m choosing to give up. Appreciate your kind words and support for being candid.\n\nWith a smile,\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 12862, 251),
(12864, 25492, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.161.205.176', '2015-04-06 07:53:58', '2015-04-06 11:53:58', 'Mike, great post! Like yourself, I also work to be cognizant of these behaviors in my approach and grow to minimize their existence. Sometimes I learn more about \"un-leadership\" from myself than from others, lol!\n\n2 other \"un-leadership\" signs I can add:\n\n* Don\'t waste time fact-finding; just rush to make a judgement.\n\n* Agree to a course of action and don\'t follow through on it. Even better, don\'t communicate at all and let everyone else fill in the blanks.\n\nLook forward to the input from others. Thanks for this jump-start to our week!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(12865, 25492, 'David', 'Dl314@hotmail.com', '', '68.174.73.45', '2015-04-06 08:30:48', '2015-04-06 12:30:48', 'Those are 2 great ones good thing I was there to give you the reply and take credit for your work', 0, '1', '', '', 12864, 0),
(12866, 25492, 'Tom Degnan', 'tommy347@aol.com', '', '166.137.244.91', '2015-04-06 09:01:45', '2015-04-06 13:01:45', 'Showing everyone how easy it is to fix things, but all they do is fix \"not broken\".\n\nNot adjusting the processes to technology.\n\nDemand without purpose.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12867, 25492, 'CJ Ewell', 'fnp_cj@hotmail.com', '', '205.123.113.51', '2015-04-06 10:35:43', '2015-04-06 14:35:43', 'Be sure to steal all your team\'s best ideas and promote them as your own. Especially after telling the team member that their idea was completely unworthy and impractical.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12868, 25492, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-06 11:02:11', '2015-04-06 15:02:11', 'Great post Mike... the only two that I would add are:\n\n\"Constantly on the hunt for the \'weakest link\' in the organization, not to help them, but to have a scapegoat to blame things on.\"\n\n\"Regularly chastises team members in front of others, rather than dealing with issues one on one.\"\n\nI am with you my friend, I\'m ashamed how many times I\'ve been guilty of more than one of these...  a great reminder and a warning for me to watch out for these weak spots of mine.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12869, 25492, 'Kay', 'Kaymails@gmail.com', '', '14.141.0.38', '2015-04-07 06:08:22', '2015-04-07 10:08:22', 'As a leader, intercept all the bouquets and get out of the way when the brickbats come in.\nDemand to be kept in the loop for everything, no matter how trivial it is and when your inbox is inundated with mail from people following your instructions, tell them \"I don\'t need to know everything\". Talk of sending out conflicting messages', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12870, 25492, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '12.168.167.66', '2015-04-07 08:29:25', '2015-04-07 12:29:25', 'Great additions Paul. Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 12864, 243),
(12871, 25492, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '12.168.167.66', '2015-04-07 08:30:10', '2015-04-07 12:30:10', 'Tom, 3 more great suggestions. Thanks for the additions.', 0, '1', '', '', 12866, 243),
(12872, 25492, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '12.168.167.66', '2015-04-07 08:31:01', '2015-04-07 12:31:01', 'CJ, I had that idea too! I just didn\'t think it was any good. :-)  Thanks, Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 12867, 243),
(12873, 25492, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '12.168.167.66', '2015-04-07 08:31:44', '2015-04-07 12:31:44', 'Two more great ones Page. Thanks very much. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 12868, 243),
(12874, 25492, 'Tom Dixon', 'tom53mba@gmail.com', '', '164.64.56.59', '2015-04-07 10:34:06', '2015-04-07 14:34:06', 'MIKE! YOU, AND YOU ALONE, FORGOT TO USE EEMPHASIS!!!!!!!!! WHY AREN\'T YOU SCREAMING AND FOAMING AT THE MOUTH AND TOTALLY OUT OF CONTROL WHEN YOU GIVE OUT MY ADVICE????????????!!!!!!!!!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12875, 25492, 'Yolanda Triplett', 'yotrip@bellsouth.net', 'http://www.yotrip.wordpress.com', '192.234.90.30', '2015-04-07 10:36:36', '2015-04-07 14:36:36', 'When you fail to engage with your people. A leader cannot spend all thier days sitting in the throne in the castle with not clue what is happening to the people in the kingdom.\nAlso when a leader has no clue about the work being done and does not look beyond the numbers. The people are the drivers behind the paper and the process. People are cricitial in the situation and should be given a higher pecking order.\nI learned from some great leaders this simple thing; you have to let people know that they matter and that you care.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12876, 25492, 'Tom Dixon', 'tom53mba@gmail.com', '', '164.64.56.59', '2015-04-07 10:39:06', '2015-04-07 14:39:06', 'I forgot to mention to be not only loud but loud and rude. Make sure that you look at your phone\'s text messages or play a game while in meetings. Your raw intelligence can multitask after all and still grasp what is being said. Show up late and leave early with all meetings but make sure your staff is punctual. When your employees show up at 8:25 for an 8:30 meeting, chastise them in front of everybody for being late and don\'t let anybody correct you that the employee was not late. Constantly move the meeting time until it is the most inopportune time for everybody, preferably Friday afternoon between 1 and 3. AND I\'M NOT GUILTY OF ANY OF THESE MIKE!!! YOU ARE. Plenty of projection of your guilt and emotions onto others is the sizzle on the steak.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12877, 25492, 'Dan Diehl', 'chfdfiehl@gmail.com', '', '199.87.224.109', '2015-04-07 10:46:40', '2015-04-07 14:46:40', 'Whine about how unfair your boss is or how un-(fill in the blank) another team in your organization is.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12878, 25492, 'Darkene P', 'UFDarleneP@yahoo.com', '', '207.203.28.2', '2015-04-07 11:27:27', '2015-04-07 15:27:27', 'More demotivators-\n\nTell your managers who complained about them and what was said, in the spirit of \'divide and conquer\'.  Keep repeating that same complaint year after year to keep it fresh in your subordinate\'s mind.\n\nTrash the reputations of those who move on to greener pastures, in front of others, to show that you didn\'t need the person who left, anyway.\n\nScream, shout, yell at the person who made an error so everyone knows you really mean business when you ask for quality.\n\nBerate people for not doing  assignments you didn\'t give them because their workload was already excessive.\n\nTell your professional staff that you \'know how to do their job\' and could do it better, even when you haven\'t had that training.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12879, 25492, 'Ron', 'ronald.belensky@microage.com', '', '67.139.14.66', '2015-04-07 13:27:53', '2015-04-07 17:27:53', 'Not realizing that you are doing any of these demotivators and ignoring the article and comments.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12880, 25492, 'Shawn', 'harris@islandtransit.org', '', '50.203.245.214', '2015-04-07 13:51:06', '2015-04-07 17:51:06', '1.) Shut down ideas from team members before you have had time to review them.\n2.) Not giving praise often enough to team members when praise is due.\n3.) Feeding into the rumor mill along with your team', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12881, 25492, 'Sean Sabet', 'shahrsabet@gmail.com', '', '208.87.233.180', '2015-04-07 14:36:25', '2015-04-07 18:36:25', 'Thanks to all for all the great examples.\nThe only one I could think of is to blame the deficiencies and critcisms on team members and throw them under the bus... Thanks, Sean', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12882, 25492, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '98.178.131.209', '2015-04-07 19:42:24', '2015-04-07 23:42:24', 'Kay, thanks very much.  I wonder how I send these signals sometimes.  Some members of my team think I read all of their email conversations.  I\'m trying to get out of the loop! Thanks for the comments. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 12869, 243),
(12883, 25492, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '98.178.131.209', '2015-04-07 19:42:48', '2015-04-07 23:42:48', 'Great comment Tom! LOL! Much appreciated. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 12874, 243),
(12884, 25492, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '98.178.131.209', '2015-04-07 19:43:46', '2015-04-07 23:43:46', 'Agreed Yolanda.  Thanks for the comment. I have to remember that I care much more about them than their tasks too.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 12875, 243),
(12885, 25492, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '98.178.131.209', '2015-04-07 19:44:33', '2015-04-07 23:44:33', 'Still LOL! Thanks.', 0, '1', '', '', 12876, 243),
(12886, 25492, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '98.178.131.209', '2015-04-07 19:45:21', '2015-04-07 23:45:21', 'Dan, isn\'t that the truth? Treat others in the organization in a way that deflates everyone. Great addition. Thanks. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 12877, 243),
(12887, 25492, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '98.178.131.209', '2015-04-07 19:46:57', '2015-04-07 23:46:57', 'Thanks very much. These are great.  I especially remember a boss who berated people because they were not fast enough to get done with their work so he had to do it.  Great stuff. Thanks.', 0, '1', '', '', 12878, 243),
(12888, 25492, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '98.178.131.209', '2015-04-07 19:47:15', '2015-04-07 23:47:15', 'Amen! Thanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 12879, 243),
(12889, 25492, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '98.178.131.209', '2015-04-07 19:48:08', '2015-04-07 23:48:08', 'Thanks very much Shawn. Killing ideas is a big one. Much appreciated. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 12880, 243),
(12890, 25492, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '98.178.131.209', '2015-04-07 19:48:38', '2015-04-07 23:48:38', 'Blaming and making excuses are huge.  Thanks for the addition Sean. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 12881, 243),
(12891, 25492, 'Dan', 'dcmuga@gmail.com', '', '76.122.99.20', '2015-04-07 22:55:27', '2015-04-08 02:55:27', 'How about when the boss emails directly to your customer (without telling you) \"just to make sure you are asking all the right questions.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12892, 25492, 'Andre Belcher', 'andre.m.belcher@gmail.com', '', '41.13.40.125', '2015-04-07 23:53:35', '2015-04-08 03:53:35', '1) Keep your office door closed and remain beyond reach when the team needs guidance.\n2) Avoid conflict at all costs, thus never addressing issues that need to be addressed.\n3) Believe that you are greater than your team.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12893, 25492, 'elizabeth', 'Elzbthclark@gmail.com', '', '73.50.79.195', '2015-04-07 23:56:40', '2015-04-08 03:56:40', 'Set up recurring one on one meetings &amp; then not show up to any or send Outlook cancellation 1 minute prior to start of said meeting.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12894, 25492, 'Elaine Cartwright', 'emcmn@yahoo.com', '', '173.11.43.169', '2015-04-08 15:15:27', '2015-04-08 19:15:27', 'Telling your employees that everyone is replaceable &amp; that you should be thankful you have a job.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12895, 25492, 'Sean Sabet', 'shahrsabet@gmail.com', '', '208.87.233.180', '2015-04-08 16:01:59', '2015-04-08 20:01:59', 'Good ones, Andre. I like them.\nThanks, Sean', 0, '1', '', '', 12892, 0),
(12896, 25492, 'Sean Sabet', 'shahrsabet@gmail.com', '', '208.87.233.180', '2015-04-08 16:04:58', '2015-04-08 20:04:58', 'Hah... one of the most common ones and very anoying! it is a clear indication of poor time management.\nThanks, Sean', 0, '1', '', '', 12893, 0),
(12897, 25492, 'Gerald Bates', 'gbates@jcsoky.org', '', '74.143.66.108', '2015-04-09 07:25:54', '2015-04-09 11:25:54', 'Great article!  We have all had leaders who fit into the 12 signs above.  Unfortunately we have had some that fit into ALL 12 and even more.  Through my experiences, this could easily be avoided if for no other reason than if \"in-competence\" had never been placed in a position of such great importance to begin with.  That, in and of itself is the great injustice to the organization.  The 13th sign that comes to mind would have to be a corrupt mindset of \"entitlement\" rather than actually being qualified for the position and this is where \"politics\" factor in.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12898, 25492, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '70.135.28.150', '2015-04-10 18:35:12', '2015-04-10 22:35:12', 'Hi, Mike - I am coming very late to what was apparently one of the best parties of the year so far:)\n\nYour original post was impressive enough on its own merits, but when the engaged responses from some pretty high-powered folks are factored in, you have really made an impact.\n\nI don\'t often say this, but when I do, it\'s usually about something to do with these rich leadership discussions here on LCG ... I have nothing to add to the conversation:).\n\nNicely done!\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12899, 25492, 'Steve L. Wintner, AIA Emeritus', 'slwintner@managementconsultingservices.com', 'http://www.managementconsultingservices.com', '75.108.34.101', '2015-04-10 20:31:12', '2015-04-11 00:31:12', 'Mike, these are excellent choices.\nIt is my belief however, that we, as influencers, cannot motivate anyone other than ourselves.  I can inspire, I can stimulate, I can suggest, recommend and offer options, but the only person who motivates me is me.\nThe biggest mistake managers make is accepting the \"we\'ve got a problem\" from anyone, as an invitation to \'fix it\'.  The best thing I could suggest would be to explain to the individual who brings this invitation to relieve them of their \'problem\', is to explain that I do not have time to deal with their problem.  On the other hand, I would have lots of time to work with them in reviewing any number of options for solving their problem if they come back to me with a well-thought out lit of a number of them.\nThis was the topic of a workshop I attended in 1976, \"Getting the Monkeys Off My Back\" (and creating more discretionary time).  I have never forgotten this important lesson.\nrespectfully,\nSteve', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12900, 25492, 'Theresa Nagle', 'nagletheresa@hotmail.com', '', '50.174.29.180', '2015-04-17 11:08:30', '2015-04-17 15:08:30', 'Hide the ball, then micromanage.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12901, 25496, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2015-04-14 12:44:57', '2015-04-14 16:44:57', 'I really enjoyed this post, Will. Especially --- we need people in our inner circle who, as you said, complement our strengths and weaknesses --- and will help us see ourselves honestly.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 378),
(12902, 25496, 'Will Lukang', 'will.lukang@gmail.com', '', '173.54.34.122', '2015-04-15 23:22:51', '2015-04-16 03:22:51', 'Paula,\n\nMany people failed to realize the importance of forming their inner circle.   It enable them to grow and develop at the same time help the people around them.\n\nThanks,\n\nWill Lukang', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 276),
(12903, 25496, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-17 11:09:24', '2015-04-17 15:09:24', 'Great article Will!\n\nQuestion- can you give me some insight on ways to \"add value to my inner circle\"?  It sounds great, but  what are some concrete examples?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12904, 25496, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-04-18 14:53:38', '2015-04-18 18:53:38', 'Hi, Will - nice article and in line with some thoughts I am developing.\n\nFirst, I would comment that I use the phrase \"circle of trust\" to refer to those with whom I have developed a special relationship.  This clearly reinforces an essential element of the relationship - trust.\n\nI believe that your circle has to have two other elements beyond trust in order to function well:\n\n1)  You actively seek and give (what I was talking about above)\n\nLike a circle, everyone standing around the campfire is equal ... equal in what they have to offer and equal in what they need.  Not in the details, but in the essence of both needing and having to share.\n\n2)  You connect other people within the circle to those to whom they need to be connected.\n\nFor quite a while, I considered my circle to be primarily my \"Go To\" people, who could help me.   After a few embarrassing moments, I realized that I needed to ante up and contribute to them.  Finally I noticed that person A might have something that person C needs.  Nothing to do with me, except I know both people and can connect them.\n\nThanks for prodding my thinking today:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12905, 25509, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-08 11:52:33', '2015-04-08 15:52:33', 'I love watching members of my team do the little things as well... encourage one of our the upset family members of our clients, or challenge one of our staff to step up to the plate, or even purposefully go out of their way to do something to build up one of their team mates.  Thanks for the article, and reminding us that leadership ought to be an everyday thing!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12906, 25509, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '166.216.165.17', '2015-04-08 13:48:33', '2015-04-08 17:48:33', 'Great examples, Page. Thanks for adding!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(12907, 25509, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-04-10 11:36:20', '2015-04-10 15:36:20', 'Mary,\n\nHonored and touched by your kind and generous words. Wouldn\'t the world be a lovelier and more friendly place if we had enough pixie dust to share all your concepts with everyone?!\n\nWith a smile,\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(12908, 25509, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '68.80.226.10', '2015-04-10 17:36:13', '2015-04-10 21:36:13', 'Jane, we will make a difference and we are making a difference. I was reminded of this when I saw this familiar quotation on a tv show this week:\n\n\"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good [people] to do nothing.\"\n- Edmund Burke\n\nLet\'s keep doing *something* :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(12909, 25509, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-04-11 13:03:55', '2015-04-11 17:03:55', 'Mary:)\n\nNice.  Very nice.\n\nI would take issue with this statement, however:\n\n\"It may be a stretch to call this leadership, but it is my goal for every person I encounter, to make their day better because they ran into me.\"\n\nThis is no stretch, but a great way to frame in simple and clear language what being a servant leader is all about.\n\nThanks for sharing your wisdom and that of the others ... we are all better off for you having done so.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12910, 25509, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '73.13.205.22', '2015-04-11 15:43:51', '2015-04-11 19:43:51', 'Thank you so much for your comments, John. You are right. I should not underestimate my aspiration. I am very familiar with servant leadership and it IS my goal every day.\n\nThanks for chiming in!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(12911, 25535, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-07 17:51:06', '2015-04-07 21:51:06', 'Thanks for the post, Paul!  A fantastic reminder of the servant leadership of Jesus!  An incredible bar for the rest of us to reach for!\n\nI\'m reminded at that end of that passage that it say,\n\"So when He had washed their feet, taken His garments, and sat down again, He said to them, “Do you know what I have done to you?  You call Me Teacher and Lord, and you say well, for so I am.  If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet.  For I have given you an example, that you should do as I have done to you.  Most assuredly, I say to you, a servant is not greater than his master; nor is he who is sent greater than he who sent him.  If you know these things, blessed are you if you do them.\"\n\nI\'m challenged by this that we need to be reminding our customers, our clients, and those we lead that the best standard THEY can have is also the one of humility and care!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12912, 25535, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '70.135.28.150', '2015-04-10 18:41:05', '2015-04-10 22:41:05', 'Hi, Paul - I really regret not reading this earlier in the week.\n\nYou have clearly laid out a vision for the nuts and bolts of servant leadership here, nicely framed by a Christian perspective, but useful to anyone who cares about leadership.\n\nI had to admit when I read the part about casual versus attentive stance that I was a little resistant at first.  I\'m a pretty casual guy ... but your image of the butler ready to serve struck a nice chord with me and made your point quite nicely.\n\nI appreciate and will continue to reflect on this post ... in my world, that\'s about as high praise as it gets.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12913, 25538, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-04-10 11:45:15', '2015-04-10 15:45:15', 'Page,\n\nFirst, I love the diversity of your play list...from folk to rock to rap!\n\nLove your advice to be slow to judge...that\'s an emotionally and mentally limiting quagmire to be avoided.\n\nLeadership is a participative sport, and you\'ve provided some great guidance in making the game a good one!\n\nWith a smile,\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(12914, 25538, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://consultgiana.com', '173.195.8.67', '2015-04-11 06:36:08', '2015-04-11 10:36:08', 'Page - This is a fun and very powerful post!  Thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12915, 25538, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-04-11 13:00:04', '2015-04-11 17:00:04', 'Well, thanks for the nostalgia blast - you used many of my favorite artists from over the years, Page:)\n\nYour nicely-written and entertaining post reminds me of two important things:\n\n1)  Learning about leadership and most everything else is where you find it.  We need not restrict ourselves to formal seminars, academically-phrased articles and posts, or erudite discussions.  All are valuable, but sometimes you learn best in an informal and enjoyable moment.\n\n2)  A natural and thoughtful curiosity helps us see these lyrical learning bits.  Otherwise, we\'re just bobbing to the music.  The learning richness you have given us goes way beyond grooving to a good tune.\n\nSo put another \"nickel in that nickelodeon\" and keep on rocking, buddy:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12916, 25538, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-04-11 14:11:33', '2015-04-11 18:11:33', 'Thank you Jane!  I am still learning and growing in each of these areas myself!  Thanks for the encouragement!', 0, '1', '', '', 12913, 282),
(12917, 25538, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-04-11 14:12:44', '2015-04-11 18:12:44', 'Thank you Chery!  I miss your face!  Hoping you\'ll be visiting the States soon!  If you\'re coming to Tulsa, be sure to let us know!\n\nI appreciate the encouragement you still give, even from half way around the world!', 0, '1', '', '', 12914, 282),
(12918, 25538, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-04-11 14:14:53', '2015-04-11 18:14:53', 'John,\nI\'m a HUGE believer that we can find leadership lessons everywhere!  Thank you for your encouragement!  By the way, what\'s a nickelodeon?  Isn\'t that a TV channel? HAHAHAHAHA!\n\nHave a great weekend!', 0, '1', '', '', 12915, 282),
(12919, 25538, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-04-11 14:16:23', '2015-04-11 18:16:23', 'Jane, Chery &amp; John,\n\nI\'d like to mail each one of you a free book for commenting!  Email me at pagecole@visitingangels.com, and I\'ll put it in the mail this week!  Have an awesome weekend!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12920, 25628, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-17 11:12:51', '2015-04-17 15:12:51', 'Paul\n\nBAM! You nailed it!  I hate it when I work with people who want to play \"guess my mind\" games, or knowingly leave big blanks in information or process as a way of later on playing \"GOTCHA\" with me or my team!\n\nI don\'t want to be a leader that leaves mean spirited blanks for people to fill in!\n\nQuestion... is there value in leaving some blanks, letting people know the blanks are there, and challenging them to fill them, coaching them along the way?  I worry about spoon feeding my team, but don\'t want to be \"that guy\" who throws them in the lake and yells, \"Sink or swim! It\'s on you!\"\n\nIdeas?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12921, 25628, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '66.87.116.2', '2015-04-17 16:06:54', '2015-04-17 20:06:54', 'Page,\n\nI think there is room and circumstances where the blanks can be left unfilled. In training or mentoring modes, or to foster creativity or innovation, there is definitely room to have gaps.\n\nI think the rationale and attitude of why gaps exist are the ultimate tell. If we let people fend for themselves, we do everyone a huge disservice. But a well placed, well though out blank with a purpose of discovering talents within certainly has its place.\n\nLove the question! Enjoy the weekend my friend!!\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 12920, 343),
(12922, 25628, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-04-18 15:10:32', '2015-04-18 19:10:32', 'Hi, Paul - interesting post:)\n\nI agree with your basic premise that some leaders/managers seem to play games with knowledge, withholding inappropriately and forcing employees to \"figure it out\" themselves, rather than work as a functional team.\n\nHowever, I have also experienced the poorly motivated employee who has little initiative or ability to critically think about and solve problems.   People bemoan the lack of good-paying jobs, but sometimes cringe rather than accept the responsibilities which go with the higher pay.\n\nSometimes a manager withholds information when they should share and sometimes they share when the employee should think it through ... neither end of this coninuum is optimal.\n\nThis strikes me as yet more evidence that a coaching-focused approach produces the best results.  I am talking here about treating the employee as a person who has skills and resources, and who will do well with the appropriate support, then engaging and helping that person think about issues and become self-powered.\n\nThanks for a thought-provoking post.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12923, 25628, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.161.205.176', '2015-04-18 18:19:08', '2015-04-18 22:19:08', 'John, I like that you see this from many angles. You\'re correct, sometimes the issue rests squarely on the employees hand, and they can create blanks on their own.\n\nYour conclusion is spot on, and a great summary of the overall dynamic that should be striven for.\n\nHave a great weekend John!', 0, '1', '', '', 12922, 343),
(12924, 25628, 'Raymond Huan', 'media@excelbizsolutions.com.au', 'http://excelbizsolutions.com.au', '105.237.237.231', '2015-04-19 07:51:54', '2015-04-19 11:51:54', 'Wow, I need to go over these questions again, and implement them for myself.. Thanks for the article, really informative for me!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12925, 25660, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-20 11:45:12', '2015-04-20 15:45:12', 'David,\nLoved the insight... it made me do some serious introspection about my own delegation skills, or the lack thereof.  I think one of my greatest challenges in delegation is the accountability aspect.  I believe in staff, challenge and delegate, and don\'t feel a need to micromanage the process.  But holding them accountable has always made me feel like I\'m the bad guy.  I need to shift my thinking, I think, to remember that NOT holding them accountable is the bad thing.  If I\'m ever going to expect my team members to grow, they need to be stretched.  They also need to be held accountable if they don\'t follow through or do what they were supposed to.\n\nI have had lots of great leaders in my life, and as I reflect, the best ones were ones that I knew would hold me accountable and deal directly with me.  I want to be one of those leaders.\n\nA question:  When having those moments of accountability, should location of that conversation be an important consideration?  By that I mean, should those conversations be a \"can you come to my office\" conversation, or a \"Hey, I dropped by your office/desk to follow up with you about...\".  Does that impact the seriousness of the level of accountability?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12926, 25660, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '174.51.239.28', '2015-04-20 11:51:33', '2015-04-20 15:51:33', 'Page,\n\nThanks for the reflective comment. You said alot here: \"But holding them accountable has always made me feel like I’m the bad guy. I need to shift my thinking, I think, to remember that NOT holding them accountable is the bad thing.\"\n\nThat is so important. One way to look at it is that you don\'t give over responsibility when you delegate...you share it. So you\'re still responsible for it at the end of the day.\n\nAs for location of accountability conversations, I try not to have one location become associated with \'bad stuff\'. My cat hates her cat carrier because the only time she sees it is for trips to the veterinarian. Culture, not cat carriers. (Definitely one on one for most of those accountability conversations, however.)', 0, '1', '', '', 12925, 307),
(12927, 25660, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-20 11:56:37', '2015-04-20 15:56:37', 'Thanks David!  I appreciate the encouragement...  I created a poster to hang near my desk that says,\n\"You don’t give over responsibility\nwhen you delegate…\nYou share it.\"\n\nFantastic reminder to step up to the responsibilities of leadership, but do it WITH my team, not FOR them, and not AT them.\n\nHave a great day!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12928, 25660, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-04-20 12:06:28', '2015-04-20 16:06:28', 'Hi, David - great post:)\n\nI remember (long ago and far away) as a young leader, i believed that being a leader meant being able to and actually doing it all.  I was finally brought up short by a more seasoned leader with a simple question for me:  \"Are you working harder than anyone else to get this done?\"\n\nMy first thought was \"Of course, I\'m leading the work\", but after some quiet discussion, I realize that I was just doing, not leading.  Your three elements (and pitfalls for the unwary or unwise) are right on target.\n\nThe thing I continue to struggle with is the inclination to not just describe the desired outcome, but to describe in detail how I think that outcome should be achieved.  Many will happily let me do this, since it takes the employee completely off the hook and gives them a perfect excuse - \"I just did what you told me to do.\"\n\nThis delegation thing is a bit tricky, but your thinking helps us all understand what to do and what not to do a little better - appreciate your sharing:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12929, 25660, 'Gord MacDonald', 'gord@gordmacdonaldsolutions.com', 'http://www.gordmacdonaldsolutions.com', '99.233.44.95', '2015-04-20 12:19:25', '2015-04-20 16:19:25', 'David\nGreat insight. Enjoyed reading the article. The one comment I have is around accountability; If you are delegating a project to the employee, you must be absolutely clear about where the accountability lies in completing the deliverable…..  the employee or  the manager??  If this message is unclear, perhaps the employee may assume it is their accountability to complete and now have their own established timeline because they think they \"own\" it…..I guess a lot of it does come down to clear communication.\nHave a good day', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12930, 25660, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '174.51.239.28', '2015-04-20 13:02:22', '2015-04-20 17:02:22', 'John,\n\nI resemble that remark :)  That is my challenge area as well.\n\nThanks for your contribution!\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 12928, 307),
(12931, 25660, 'Sergio Rodrigues', 'serpiro46@gmail.com', '', '200.201.166.175', '2015-04-20 13:29:30', '2015-04-20 17:29:30', 'In the example above, related to accountability, wouldn\'t be better to schedule the meeting prior to the deadline (June 30)?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12932, 25660, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '66.87.125.126', '2015-04-20 18:29:35', '2015-04-20 22:29:35', 'David,\n\nI always learn from your posts my friend! This one seemed to have resonated with a number of us.\n\nWhen reading the first point, \"delegate outcome\" I knew I heard that recently. It was in Mark Miller\'s new book \"Chess Not Checkers\" that he mentioned \"assigning outcomes\". It was in the context of good leaders adding value to their people rather than extracting from them. It was nice to hear that point stated in two different angles.\n\nGreat article David. Keep making an impact!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(12933, 25660, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '174.51.239.28', '2015-04-20 22:37:40', '2015-04-21 02:37:40', 'Hi Gord,\n\nThanks for the clarification. Yes, the delegee is responsible for their work and to deliver what was expected at the time agreed upon. The leader is responsible to ensure the work is completed and receive it back. Both are accountable, though for different aspects.\n\nTake care,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 12929, 307),
(12934, 25660, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '174.51.239.28', '2015-04-20 22:38:55', '2015-04-21 02:38:55', 'Hi Sergio,\n\nYes, scheduling ahead is often beneficial depending on the context, difficulty of assignment, and so forth.\n\nTake care,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 12931, 307),
(12935, 25660, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '174.51.239.28', '2015-04-20 22:40:29', '2015-04-21 02:40:29', 'Thanks Paul!\n\nI love the concept of leaders adding value. You\'ve given me a good reason to move Mark\'s new book to the top of the list (as if it required another one :)\n\nTake care,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 12932, 307),
(12936, 25660, 'Jai Thampi', 'jai.thampi@gmail.com', 'http://jaithampi.com', '203.125.244.246', '2015-04-21 01:43:34', '2015-04-21 05:43:34', 'Hi David,\n\nReally insightful post. Thank you.\n\nOne thing I\'d like to comment about Mistake #1 is that delegating the outcome could also have a downside. The more they focus on the outcome, managers tend to stipulate what they want done and how they want it done - especially when they are under tight deadlines. For instance, I have seen managers handing over an Excel template to their team and asking them to \"fill it up\". The team might have a better idea to improve the overall process and deliver a better outcome. But the way the task has been delegated to them, it stifles their creativity and prevents them from further learning and scope for improvement. Managers should also keep that in mind.\n--Jai', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12937, 25660, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '174.51.239.28', '2015-04-22 00:17:33', '2015-04-22 04:17:33', 'Hello Jai and thank you for the contribution. It seems to me that what you describe is a variation on delegating process and not really outcome. Your caution to not allow tight deadlines and pressure to stifle better solutions is well-heeded!\n\nTake care,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 12936, 307);
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(12938, 25660, 'Steve L. Wintner, AIA Emeritus', 'slwintner@managementconsultingservices.com', 'http://www.managementconsultingservices.com', '75.108.34.101', '2015-04-22 17:43:58', '2015-04-22 21:43:58', 'Hello again David, thank you for your excellent post about one of my favorite subjects.  The three mistakes you cite by those who delegate are wonderful additions to those I have always embraced.  The one that resonates most with me, as it seems to have with Gord, is \'Accountability\'.\nIt is my perspective that ALL companies would benefit by embracing and implementing the concept of accountability as the foundation of its daily operations.  Accountability, in its simplest form is getting everyone in the firm, from the top-down, to \'pull in the same direction\'.  That can only accrue to greater effectiveness and efficiency; two components that play a huge role in any company\'s long-term success.\nStephen R. Covey, in his best-selling \'7 Habits of Highly Effective People\', includes a chapter on Delegation.  Covey separates the process of delegation into two categories: \'Gopher\' and \'Stewardship\'. Rather than take the space to explaain, I would encourage anyone who has not read the book to at least look at this section to get Covey\'s full insight on the topic.  It made a huge difference in my management approach to this critically important process and its inseparable connection to \'being willing\' to be held accountable for whatever our assigned responsibility is for the work to be done.\nRespectfully,', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12939, 25660, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '174.51.239.28', '2015-04-22 21:54:54', '2015-04-23 01:54:54', 'Thanks Steve - definitely second your reading recommendations!\n\nI believe the healthiest way to look at accountability is that of keeping our mutual agreements to one another. As you say...full alignment, pulling in the same direction - and so accountability flows in all directions. Team to leader, leader to team, team to team, etc.\n\nThanks for your contribution!\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 12938, 307),
(12940, 25680, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-04-21 11:39:04', '2015-04-21 15:39:04', 'Hi, Page  - enjoyed this post immensely, along with feeling a little squirmy as your points hit way too close to home.\n\nYour very first point about accepting responsibility is especially interesting, since we see so many examples of how not to do it in the public arena.   Not quite sure why it is so difficult for so many to simply say \"I was wrong\", but the excuses and explanations tend to come easily for some.  When a particular excuse is successful, we can almost be certain that we will hear variations on that excuse in the future.\n\nOne thing that particularly gets my attention is when someone claims to have been misunderstood and attempts to \"rephrase\" the words that came out their mouth:).\n\nI have no particular comeback story to share, although I HAVE spent plenty of time recovering from various slips, trips, and falls in my career.   I would note that as long as our society accepts non-apologies, vague statements, \"extenuating\" circumstances, and doublespeak, instead of demanding clear and honest language in general, we will continue to see examples of people in leadership not taking a leader role and accepting responsibility clearly and concisely.\n\nThanks for yet another thought-provoking post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12941, 25680, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-21 11:55:14', '2015-04-21 15:55:14', 'John,\nI love to eat!  I\'m sure you\'ve heard the phrase, \"eating crow\", meaning, \"I had to admit I was wrong\"...\n\nAs a foodie, I\'ve learned one thing in leadership over the years... when it\'s time to \"eat crow\", it ALWAYS tastes better if you feed it to yourself!  Admitting I was wrong develops respect with others, and there is an inner healing that takes place for me too.\n\nPress on my friend!  Have a blessed week!', 0, '1', '', '', 12940, 282),
(12942, 25680, 'Vatsala Shukla', 'vatsala.shukla.delhi@gmail.com', 'http://karmicallycoaching.com', '14.98.124.8', '2015-04-24 02:41:46', '2015-04-24 06:41:46', 'Thank you for your thought-provoking post, Page. I cannot think of any favorite comeback story but I do remember as a child, my parents taught me to accept responsibility for my mistakes, admit it and try to make amends. Worked like a dream when I missed curfews or forgot to do something I was supposed to.\n\nIn my adult years, I\'ve found that it is much easier to apologize and make up for a goof up where I know I am at fault and to do it with sincerity. It takes a load off my shoulders and allows me to do the right thing without guilt.\n\nIn business, this is an invaluable quality and can affect goodwill. The company that was managing my Mom\'s art website for the last 10 years had informed us that after July this year they were changing their business model and closing down accounts. I thought I had time to look into the hosting and maintenance as well as updating it when a few weeks back, one of their technicians accidentally deleted the website. The owner not only took full responsibility but offered to transfer the website free of cost to my hosting and they spent quite a few days making sure that everything worked without a word. Needless to say, they know that if they ever go back to accepting outside clients, my Mom\'s account will be given to them along with referrrals.\n\nIntegrity and the ability to accept responsibility always ensure successful comebacks.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12943, 25680, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-04-24 22:01:11', '2015-04-25 02:01:11', 'Vatsala,\nGreat story about the website company!  It\'s encouraging to see companies that step up and not only admit a mistake, but go beyond and above the call of duty to make it right!\n\nSounds like our parents were reading from the same \"parenting manual\" as well!  You highlighted a critical point... parenting kids well, and teaching them the value of admitting it when they make a mistake, can be one of the greatest leadership legacies we can leave in our wake!\n\nHave a fantastic weekend!', 0, '1', '', '', 12942, 282),
(12944, 25706, 'Joseph Ludford', 'jludford@comcast.net', '', '73.201.64.52', '2015-04-24 13:54:40', '2015-04-24 17:54:40', 'I\'m concerned about decisions made by boards or committees by voting or other form of consensus that is based on individual opinions of members as to whether the proposed action is a good idea or not. Facts are not developed and the groups don\'t seem to know that they are deficient.  There is no critical thinking process because the members don\'t understand what that is. I don\'t think I understand how critical thinking should be applied.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12945, 25706, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '70.135.28.150', '2015-04-25 11:44:39', '2015-04-25 15:44:39', 'Hi, Paul - enjoyed this post:)\n\nYou have taught in one of my favorite ways - by giving me examples of language that displays both the emphasis on emotions and that which promotes a more balanced and thoughtful leadership approach.\n\nYour main point that emotions are important, but should not solely drive our behavior and thinking is well taken.  In my counseling days, I often used the \"Thinking, Feeling,  Behaving\" triangle to help others understand the connections of these basic human activities.  You have nicely shown how to apply this within the leadership context.\n\nThanks for sharing your thoughts with us:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12946, 25706, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '66.87.125.150', '2015-04-25 14:54:14', '2015-04-25 18:54:14', 'Thank you John! I have seen so many, myself included, stop short of thinking through things  and go on base emotions. I like the triangle approach you mentioned, because the final piece is putting it into play in our actions.\n\nGreat talking with you on the conference call yesterday! Enjoy the weekend my friend!\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 12945, 343),
(12947, 25709, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-04-22 13:49:45', '2015-04-22 17:49:45', 'Hi:)\n\nWhat a great collection of thinkers and the topic is very timely and important.\n\nAfter a little reflection, I think I would say to my sons and daughters (who are all enmeshed workplaces and have been for years) and to my grandchildren is this:\n\nWhatever you see or experience while visiting my workplace, remember this:\n\n1)  It\'s only one workplace of millions around the planet.\n\n2)  You are only seeing one day (and a special one at that) of what happens all year long.\n\n3)  The work I do and the jobs we have may well not exist by the time you enter the workforce.\n\n4)  Even if the title and the industry is still around, it won\'t be like it is now.\n\n5)  Work is an essential part of life, but not always the only or even most important part.\n\n6)  Pay attention to how people treat each other at work.  Decide not to do what seems mean or selfish and plan to be more like those who are happy and active.\n\nThanks for a whole bunch of thought-provoking material in this Carnival of HR edition.  I\'m sharing this one:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12948, 25709, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2015-04-22 13:58:22', '2015-04-22 17:58:22', 'Great observations, John. We appreciate your comments and your shares!', 0, '1', '', '', 12947, 378),
(12949, 25709, 'Rena McDaniel', 'rm29303@gmail.com', 'http://www.thediaryofanalzheimerscaregiver.com', '107.211.34.175', '2015-04-24 11:25:43', '2015-04-24 15:25:43', 'Great group of writers here! I would say to my grandchildren, \"a good work ethic will get you through life.\"', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12950, 25738, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-04-23 11:09:03', '2015-04-23 15:09:03', 'Thanks for the reminder and expanded comments on tomorrow\'s meeting, Paula.\n\nI\'m looking forward to listening, learning, and contributing as I can.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12951, 25738, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.210.98', '2015-04-23 13:21:07', '2015-04-23 17:21:07', 'I am excited about it, John!', 0, '1', '', '', 12950, 378),
(12952, 25748, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-04-27 21:06:12', '2015-04-28 01:06:12', 'Hi, Leigh - interesting post.\n\nYou have hit on one of my \"sore spots\".  As an official older adult, I know that the stereotype of older adults being technophobic and unable to learn new technologies is just plain wrong.  However, many people still believe the image of Billie for their thinking on older adults in the workplace and in life.\n\nYour call for each of us to identify and take down the barriers of perception that stop us from interacting and achieving is not only timely, but almost essential.  We cannot afford to let our mental models restrict ourselves or anyone else from full participation.  While some natural differences exist, especially with regard to learning speed and so on, most older adults I know are . perfectly capable of being Annas ... only their own barriers make them Billies.\n\nThanks for a timely and important message:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(12953, 25748, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-28 15:20:50', '2015-04-28 19:20:50', 'Great challenge to me about not accepting barriers, whether I created them or someone else did!  Made my day!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12954, 25748, 'Leigh Steere', 'lsynthesis@aol.com', '', '65.101.220.41', '2015-04-29 10:53:10', '2015-04-29 14:53:10', 'John and Page,\n\nI\'m glad the post resonated.\n\nThis week, there was a treasure in the newspaper--a story about a man who is retiring from his job as a fitness instructor at age 89. Look at his reasons:  http://www.coloradohometownweekly.com/news/lafayette/ci_27999778/weightlifter-lafayette-rec-teacher-retires-at-89', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 268),
(12955, 25756, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-28 15:41:38', '2015-04-28 19:41:38', 'Here\'s my rant... I too am irritated by the \"110%\"... it\'s not mathematically possible!\n\nAs an individual, I have to factor in lots of variables when determining how much of myself to give to a project or event.  If on a scale of 1 to 5, with 5 being the highest effort, I\'m working on something that is critical to the success of my team and my organization, I can &amp; should expect a 5 from myself.  If it\'s not as critical, say a \"2\" level project, it won\'t get the same effort from me.  I won\'t sacrifice time with my family, critical time needed for more important projects or just time relaxing on some project that isn\'t critical.  It doesn\'t mean I\'m lazy, or don\'t want to do things well.  It simply means I want to do the most important things extremely well, and that I\'m smart enough to know that my time, energy, resources and will all have limitations to them.  Since there are limitations on those things, there\'s no way I can or should go \"all in\" on everything I\'m associated with.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12956, 25756, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-04-28 22:46:26', '2015-04-29 02:46:26', 'Hi, Page - thanks for a thoughtful and very realistic response.\n\nI have found that even those things which could claim my entire energy output don\'t get everything.  Other things do not stop or recede just because I have a big deal going on.\n\nLove your comment that \" I’m smart enough to know that my time, energy, resources and will all have limitations to them.\".  That is the key.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 12955, 0),
(12957, 25784, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-04-30 14:08:02', '2015-04-30 18:08:02', 'Thanks for sharing , Scott.\n\nYour post is chock full of useful advice about coaching, but one thing really stood out for me.   The point entitled \"Transfer of Knowledge\".  Too often, I think organizations view this as simply updating and codifying processes and procedures, instead of the way you describe it.\n\nI love the image of someone sitting down with someone else and having a discussion about lessons learned along the way, especially when that involves more than just doing the job.    I know this is not coaching in the pure sense, but it seems to blend leadership, training, mentoring, and coaching quite nicely.\n\nMaybe we should call this \"Wisdom Transfer\" instead:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12958, 25784, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-30 14:11:47', '2015-04-30 18:11:47', 'Scott,\nWhenever I hear the word \"legacy\", I\'m reminded of the influence each of my parents have had on my life...\n\nEnduring Results\nTransfer Of Knowledge\nPassing On Values And Life Lessons\nRelationships And Lives Serviced\nStories Told About You\n\nThese are all areas where my parents excelled!  They are both in Heaven now, but your article was a warm reminder that the legacy they left in my life will always be there!\n\nYou couldn\'t have made it clearer, or drawn a clearer road map to successfully leaving a legacy that matters!  Thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12959, 25784, 'Joe Myers', 'jcmyers1942@gmail.com', '', '72.24.189.89', '2015-04-30 14:36:48', '2015-04-30 18:36:48', 'Scott...This is a great way of expressing the components of a legacy.  I have been working on a book explaining what I learned from summer and/or part-time employment before entering the full-time workforce after college graduation.  I\'ve concluded that I learned more about business, and the demands thereof; as a summer, part-time employee than I learned in college.  The lessons learned became a significant part of my business DNA.\n\nThanks again for your brilliant insight.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12960, 25784, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://www.makeitmatterbook.com', '70.194.66.112', '2015-04-30 17:31:22', '2015-04-30 21:31:22', 'John, \"Wisdom transfer\"- I like it!  What you say is so true.   So many view the transfer of knowledge as process driven,  not poignancy driven.\nThanks so much for your thoughtful reply.', 0, '1', '', '', 12957, 0),
(12961, 25784, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://www.makeitmatterbook.com', '70.194.66.112', '2015-04-30 17:34:26', '2015-04-30 21:34:26', 'Thanks so much Page and thanks for highlighting another important point, you can work at each of these 5 footprints to leave a legacy at work,  and in life!', 0, '1', '', '', 12958, 0),
(12962, 25784, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://www.makeitmatterbook.com', '70.194.66.112', '2015-04-30 17:36:29', '2015-04-30 21:36:29', 'Thank you Joe!  I too fondly recall the very formative days of summer/part time employment.  I\'ll keep an eye out for your book!', 0, '1', '', '', 12959, 0),
(12963, 25792, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-05-01 11:13:30', '2015-05-01 15:13:30', 'Chery,\nI\'m so proud of you, and excited about this new book!\n\nMy business has been struggling over the past year, but your story inspired me!  I\'m going to set up a meeting with my team and try to pinpoint where our struggles are, and how we can not only fix them, but move past them.  Thanks for the inspiration my friend!  Blessings on you and on your book project!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12964, 25792, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-05-01 11:25:20', '2015-05-01 15:25:20', 'HI, Chery:)  Thanks for an interesting post that hit way too close to some of my own memories, albeit outside the sales world.\n\nYour post contains much of value to those struggling to balance conflict demands, insufficient resources, and unhelpful processes.\n\nHowever, one phrase really popped out at me and it is not even your main message:  \"We recommended solutions. And then we shared our document. And shared it. And shared it again.\"\n\nI appreciate this reminder of something that I and probably others struggle with.  We come up with solutions, proudly present them to the powers that be, and upon initial rejection, derision, or simply disregard by those powers, curl up like crushed spiders, never to dare to share again.\n\nIf an idea is good, it bears repeating until someone else \"gets it\" and change occurs.\n\nReally appreciate your sharing and now I want to read this book even more:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12965, 25792, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://consultgiana.com/', '173.195.8.67', '2015-05-01 11:56:12', '2015-05-01 15:56:12', 'Thank you so much for the encouragement and support!\n\nI\'m pumped that the post moved you to action!\n\nWould you like to set up a Google Hangout with your team?  (I\'d love to see them again!)', 0, '1', '', '', 12963, 270),
(12966, 25792, 'Chery Gegelman', 'gegelmanjc@gmail.com', 'http://consultgiana.com/', '173.195.8.67', '2015-05-01 12:04:42', '2015-05-01 16:04:42', 'Thank you so much for the feedback John!   It always helps to know we are not alone in the struggle for change!\n\nI\'m attaching a link to another post because the story that the beginning of the post is another example of leading up - repeatedly before change happened.  And the link at the bottom of the post will take you to an opportunity for a free dowload about instigating change.  http://consultgiana.com/healing-the-racial-gap-between-the-dream-the-reality/', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 270),
(12967, 25806, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-04-29 12:19:11', '2015-04-29 16:19:11', 'Listening... it\'s what real leaders do.\n\n“Any problem, big or small, within a family, always seems to start with bad communication. Someone isn\'t listening.”  Emma Thompson\n\nThe same goes for companies, teams, offices and boards.\n\nGreat article Becky.  Thank you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12968, 25806, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.173.93.208', '2015-04-30 07:12:38', '2015-04-30 11:12:38', 'Becky, this is a truly powerful post.\n\nIf I was to break it down to one word, it would simply be - trust.\n\nYour story showed how much trust the woman placed in you, and that she could reach out in her greatest need.\n\nTrusts is the greatest leadership quality.\n\nThanks for inspiring!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(12969, 25806, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-04-30 09:57:40', '2015-04-30 13:57:40', 'HI, Becky - thanks for sharing this story with us.\n\nI think this speaks some to the value of emotional intelligence.  In my experience and apparently in other\'s as well, you are one of those who radiate an openness and connection which makes people feel trust in sharing with you on a very personal level.\n\nI also think it reinforces the value we can bring to others simply be being available.   Someone else might not have taken that call, but your compassionate nature told you that it was important.  It is not critical that you originally thought the importance was to do with you and your family.  What is important is that you answered and that you followed up in the course of time.\n\nCaring, compassion, and empathy ... those are all critical for real leadership in my opinion.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12970, 25806, 'Jesse Silva', 'lvprotector@gmail.com', '', '108.52.8.229', '2015-09-20 19:47:39', '2015-09-20 23:47:39', 'Becky,\n\nI agree with Paul - I believe in trust. Where your article goes it supports trust because great Leadership trust is based upon hope without fear, empathy and demonstrating that \"leadership\" is not the force behind a great Leader\'s actions, words or behaviors. A great Leader\'s behaviors, actions and words simply  demonstrate a veracious focus on raising others above and ahead of themselves.\nThank you for the great reminder.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 384),
(12971, 25840, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-05-04 16:13:44', '2015-05-04 20:13:44', 'Chris,\nI think most of us can identify with having both great and horrible bosses... I know I can!  I too worked in non-profits (church work).  My experience with a worst boss came when he ran rough shod over a team meeting of volunteers that I was leading, and when they reacted negatively, I tried to smooth things over and explain to him what the tension was.  He left our conversation and went to our Personnel Team and lied to the chairman, concocting a story of how I had been disrespectful, rude and unsupportive of him in this meeting.  Of course, the Chairman of our Personnel Team got to the real truth through interviewing the volunteers, but it made for a bad situation, and a rough next 3 years of working for him.  Ultimately, our church asked him to leave based on some of those same patterns.  I learned from his bad example that pride and dishonesty have no places in leadership, and that \"the ends justifies the means\" is a lie.\n\nMy best boss ever was a guy that listened to me, challenged me and even though we don\'t work together any more, continues to both encourage me and hold me accountable for those tough questions in life!  I appreciate someone like that, someone that doesn\'t let me off easy, but truly listens to me!\n\nThanks for the great article!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12972, 25840, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', '', '208.52.152.48', '2015-05-06 10:34:29', '2015-05-06 14:34:29', 'Thanks for your insights, Page. Pride and ego rarely allow us humans to serve others effectively! You had a tough three years under that self-serving boss.\n\nWe value honesty, respect, and contribution in our daily relationships. Leaders can inspire amazing results and great team spirit by modeling these in their interactions.\n\nCheers!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 12971, 372),
(12973, 25858, 'Kathy @ SMART Living 365.com', 'kathy@smartliving365.com', 'http://smartliving365.com', '72.132.169.85', '2015-05-05 13:35:53', '2015-05-05 17:35:53', 'Hi Paula!  I\'ve never managed large groups of people but I LOVE reading uplifting books of all kinds including business books like that.  Thanks for the heads up on this new edition and for some great reminders of how to work with others.  ~Kathy', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12974, 25858, 'Paula Kiger', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.210.98', '2015-05-05 13:59:53', '2015-05-05 17:59:53', 'Kathy, the largest I have managed was 10-15 (the number fluctuated) but I also had indirect/shared oversight of contact centers with 100+ people. I think these principles could have helped with the definite feeling of \"overwhelm\" that comes on sometimes when you are supervising so many. I have HUGE respect for bosses who can keep the big picture in their sight while making individuals feel like their \"small picture\" needs and challenges are being addressed. It\'s a hard balance I think. Thanks for your comment!', 0, '1', '', '', 12973, 0),
(12975, 25886, 'Chris Wall', 'chris@fbcowasso.org', 'http://www.fbcowasso.org', '70.164.58.194', '2015-05-14 11:29:44', '2015-05-14 15:29:44', 'Page,\n\nThe question: what does being creatively maladjusted mean to me? It reminds me that by myself, I am flawed. I have flaws in my perspective, my biases, my successes, and even in my hopes and my dreams. Because of those maladjusted realities, I need to recognize my need to submit to an outside perspective. When I say I need to submit to an outside perspective, I am not discounting my perspective, biases, successes, hopes or dreams. Those can be valid and correct. However, like Ephesians 5:21 says, \"submit to one another out of reverence for Christ\", all of us need to recognize the great benefit that comes socially and individually when we learn to submit to God and to submit to one another.\n\nI appreciate that Dr. King was a man who discovered his need to submit his life to the Lordship of Christ. It was his faith in Christ that gave him both the conviction and the boldness to stand against such great opposition. He allowed God\'s word and God\'s perspective to shape his perspective. As I have encountered his writings, God\'s word most definitely shaped his ideology both in public and in private.\n\nSecondly, Dr. King\'s example also taught us the great value in submitting to one another. Some view peace as an act of cowardice because there seems to be an unwillingness to fight. However, Dr. King modeled meekness which from a biblical definition means power under control. Our culture in America which is very diverse must learn from his incredible example of meekness. I pray we can learn from the great sins of our past and see the value of another person\'s perspective. In doing so, our maladjusted perspective could be creatively used for good rather than for evil.\n\nThank you for the thought provoking post.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12976, 25886, 'DeAnn Ritter', 'dritter@visitingangels.com', '', '24.117.17.61', '2015-05-14 12:20:49', '2015-05-14 16:20:49', 'Thank you for the post, Page. As always I found some things to ponder. Thank you to you as well Pastor Wall for the thought provoking response.\n\n\n\nEvery man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.\nMartin Luther King, Jr.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12977, 25886, 'Randy Thomas', 'randy@esp-tulsa.com', '', '67.67.24.1', '2015-05-14 12:21:06', '2015-05-14 16:21:06', 'Page,\nSome years ago, I had an employee come to me and say, \"I don\'t know what the right thing to do is..\" I told him that in my life I have found that the \"right thing\" is usually the hardest thing to do,  because you have to put yourself last and put others first.\n\nThanks for your post today.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12978, 25886, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-05-14 12:42:23', '2015-05-14 16:42:23', '\"When I say I need to submit to an outside perspective, I am not discounting my perspective, biases, successes, hopes or dreams. \"\n\nWhat a great reminder!  People can be so prideful, me included!  But beyond pride, they can talk themselves out of reaching out to others, simply because they do see it as a sign of weakness.  Remembering that \"in spite of\" our gifts and talents, we all could do well to heed the Scriptures, and the advice of the Beatles(or Joe Cocker, depending on how old you are!_...\n\n\"I get by with a little help from my friends!\"', 0, '1', '', '', 12975, 282),
(12979, 25886, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.118', '2015-05-14 14:53:32', '2015-05-14 18:53:32', 'I\'d comment with a famous quote about the maladjusted from someone very \"other\" than MLK.\n\n\"The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable man.\" George Bernard Shaw.\n\nDr. King was adapting the world, not to himself, but to what\'s right. To me, that\'s the best way to spend one\'s life. Thanks for the great post. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12980, 25886, 'Joan Mayes', 'joancmayes@gmail.com', 'http://leadchangegroup.com', '76.254.208.74', '2015-05-15 11:12:13', '2015-05-15 15:12:13', 'Page, thank you for sharing. I\'ve often asked The Lord to set a guard over my mouth. If I can control my tongue I have taken time to control my thoughts.  That allows me the time to consider the consequences of my words. If we all would step back and consider the consequences of our words and our actions, we would be a people that reflect wisdom and kindness.  In our home library we have a book titled \"1200 Notes Quotes And Anecdotes\" and quote #1071 says \"Sow a thought, you reap an action, sow an action, you reap a habit: sow a habit, you reap a character: sow a character, you reap a destiny.\"   Dr. King left a legacy that reflected a man of integrity and character.   There is doing what\'s good and doing what\'s best.  They aren\'t always the same thing.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12981, 25886, 'Stacey Teague', 'steague@visitingangels.com', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-05-15 12:03:39', '2015-05-15 16:03:39', 'You have taught me a lot of things through the years.  Hate is a very strong word. I don\'t think about how strong it is when I use it. My favorite of all is a bible verse. It has gotten me through every day. With out him I am nothing. Philippians 4:13... I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12982, 25886, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-05-15 18:16:29', '2015-05-15 22:16:29', 'Great quote from MLK De!  \"Each man must decide for himself\"... Dr. King understood that personal responsibility was key to the future!', 0, '1', '', '', 12976, 282),
(12983, 25886, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-05-15 18:18:24', '2015-05-15 22:18:24', 'Randy,\n\nMake a list of your options, and pick the hardest one?!  That stinks... but it\'s usually true!  Doing the right thing can be difficult to discover(maybe because we\'re not looking hard enough?), and harder to follow through with.\n\nWay to lead your staff my friend!', 0, '1', '', '', 12977, 282),
(12984, 25886, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-05-15 18:22:22', '2015-05-15 22:22:22', 'Mike,\n\nI find you to be one of my \"maladjusted\" heroes!  I love how your brain is working!  Your brain looks at ideas like an inventor who is buying  a used car, and wanting to modify it into multi-use vehicle/restaurant/lawn mower/jet ski!\n\nYou walk circles around the issues (like a guy buying a car), critiquing where necessary, always encouraging, throwing out unique, fun, blunt and insightful perspectives for the rest of us to consider!  I appreciate the Shaw quote!  Thank you sir!', 0, '1', '', '', 12979, 282),
(12985, 25886, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-05-15 18:23:25', '2015-05-15 22:23:25', 'BOOM!  \"There is doing what’s good and doing what’s best. They aren’t always the same thing.\"  That is so true!  I vote we do the best!  Thank you Joan!', 0, '1', '', '', 12980, 282),
(12986, 25886, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-05-15 18:25:46', '2015-05-15 22:25:46', 'Here\'s the insight I get from your comment Stacey...\n\nWe\'re challenged to do the right thing, to be our very best.... and many times, we probably question whether that\'s possible!  But your reminder rings true. When we worry about whether we\'re able, the Bible does remind us that there is a greater power within us that we can tap into to accomplish the impossible!  Thank you Stacey!', 0, '1', '', '', 12981, 282),
(12987, 25886, 'Erin C', 'erincole@cox.net', '', '108.171.132.189', '2015-05-26 18:04:04', '2015-05-26 22:04:04', 'GREAT gut-check! Thank you for your humility and honest with an issue we all struggle with from time to time.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12988, 25886, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-06-11 02:17:39', '2015-06-11 06:17:39', 'Well, Erin C, I know YOU!  You make me proud of the integrity you show and have shown in your career, regardless of how hard it\'s been or what the cost...\n\nYOU ROCK!', 0, '1', '', '', 12987, 282),
(12989, 25890, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-05-08 23:56:55', '2015-05-09 03:56:55', 'If a person can read this article and say, \"none of that describes me\", then they are in denial or dishonest!  WOW!  Talk about shining spotlights in every nook and cranny!\n\nI love that you point out the concept of \"critical consistency\"!  It\'s at the heart of being a character based leader!  Thanks for the reminder and the encouragement!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12990, 25904, 'Susan Mazza', 'Susan@susanmazza.com', 'http://randomactsofleadership.com', '69.247.236.21', '2015-05-08 11:01:47', '2015-05-08 15:01:47', 'Love how this article came together.  A terrific exploration of how to inspire others!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12991, 25904, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '166.216.165.128', '2015-05-08 14:48:47', '2015-05-08 18:48:47', 'Thanks Susan. And thanks for your contribution. You have a post there too!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(12992, 25904, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-05-09 00:02:50', '2015-05-09 04:02:50', 'I\'m inspired by ALL OF YOU!!!  I only wish I had read this early in the morning!  I\'m reading it at 11 PM and now I\'m all jazzed up!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12993, 25904, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '71.224.4.26', '2015-05-09 15:54:38', '2015-05-09 19:54:38', 'Hi Page. Thanks for commenting. Does \"jazzed up\" = inspired? :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(12994, 25904, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-05-09 22:52:54', '2015-05-10 02:52:54', 'Yes indeed!', 0, '1', '', '', 12993, 282),
(12995, 25904, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-05-12 18:45:59', '2015-05-12 22:45:59', 'Hi, Mary - very nicely organized and interesting post.\n\nSo the big takeaway I see is that to inspire others, you have to be inspired yourself, whether you find inspiration through self-reflection or from others.\n\nAs a goal, this beats the heck out of increased productivity, higher revenue, lower turn-over, and all those other measurements we throw around.\n\nNow the question becomes (in my mind at least), \"How or Can we measure inspiration?\"   Not an idle question - many of the essential leadership traits and qualities seem rather \"unmeasurable\", at least by normal standards.\n\nI don\'t think we can get away with just saying \"I know it when I see it\", even though that is undoubtably true.\n\nAny thoughts:)?\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12996, 25904, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '69.242.114.141', '2015-05-13 11:29:49', '2015-05-13 15:29:49', 'What a GREAT question, John! Exploring that might end up as a blog post itself.\n\nWhen I was an HR manager, and me and the managers I worked with tried to put our fingers on what makes someone inspiring (for instance), I tried to help them break down, \"I know it when I see it.\"\n\nDoes it look like people coming to a person spontaneously, to ask for advice? You could say that coffee shop employee (in my post) gave evidence that I was inspiring (to him) because he asked me for some directly :)\n\nI\'m reminded of those old EF Hutton TV commercials. (I am SO dating my age now...) The setting might be a loud, crowded restaurant, but when the EF Hutton rep began to speak, everyone hushed to hang on every word. In everyday life, would that mean listeners expect to be inspired? It could mean a number of things, but may be evidence of an ability to be inspiring.\n\nWithout conducting a study (maybe there is one out there), I don\'t know, but I do look for how other people respond to the person in question when I am looking for evidence of teamwork, ability to gain cooperation, and inspiration, for instance -- those things that seem difficult to measure.\n\nYou are reminding me of the book, Credibility, by Kouzes &amp; Posner. I\'ll bet they can answer your question better than me. Going to have to look that up today.  Thanks for the thought-provoking question, John.', 0, '1', '', '', 12995, 252),
(12997, 25940, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-05-11 11:10:21', '2015-05-11 15:10:21', 'Jane,\nI always come away with several HUGE take-aways from your posts!  Thank you!\n\nHere\'s my first one:\n\"Neither condition is a job title. They’re roles we willingly choose to fill.\"  I\'ve always known that being the leader was a role I choose willingly, but hadn\'t really thought about \"choosing\" to be a follower.  Most of the time I think people feel like being a follower is something that is forced on them, outside of their choosing.  Truth is that if that\'s the case, they truly aren\'t a follower... they may be a part of the crowd, a spectator or critic, but not an authentic follower.\n\n\n\"Both roles recognize the value of moral courage.\"  I think this is the most vital part of being a leader or follower.  Whether the person is a leader or a follower, there will be challenging times, times where their ethics and values will be tested.  Courage is not an accessory... it\'s a mandatory!\n\nThank you for the reminder and the challenges!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(12998, 25940, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-05-12 18:53:01', '2015-05-12 22:53:01', 'Hi, Jane - as always, your post is thoughtful and enjoyable to read.\n\nI had two thoughts:\n\n1) All through the first part, I was waiting for you to add \"... so I popped him on the chin and down he went.\":)\n\nI think your initial negative response would have been mine as well.  This reinforces something we talk about regularly here:   Words matter.\n\nYou did a fine job of deconstructing both your reaction and the realities of our current connected world.\n\n2)  I have read several things with the same general message that leadership and followership are more closely related than we sometimes think.  After all, if leadership occurs at all levels (and I absolutely believe this to be true), then following must also be occuring, usually in the same people.\n\nIf I met someone who claimed to only be a leader and not a follower, I would gently suggest he read up some on servant leadership, starting with Robert Greenleaf:)\n\nThanks for a very enjoyable post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(12999, 25940, 'Marcella Bremer', 'editor@leadershipandchangemagazine.com', 'http://www.leadershipandchangemagazine.com', '217.121.4.226', '2015-05-14 08:40:22', '2015-05-14 12:40:22', 'This post made me smile... You encountered an old-fashioned thinker :)\n\nNew leadership means to me that we change roles all the time. You can take the lead and I follow. Next time, in a different context, I take the lead.\n\nIt\'s not about us - it\'s about what wants to be manifested through our collaboration, whether we\'d like to label that leading or following. It doesn\'t really matter to me - but it still does to many people.\n\nMarcella Bremer', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 391),
(13000, 25940, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-06-08 10:11:04', '2015-06-08 14:11:04', 'Hey there, Page -- belated thanks for your kind words and great additions! The month of May evaporated for me in a swirl of family obligations. Love your admonition that courage isn\'t a leadership accessory but rather a mandatory state of mind (and heart). It\'s something we can help one another to have.', 0, '1', '', '', 12997, 251),
(13001, 25940, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-06-08 10:15:06', '2015-06-08 14:15:06', 'John,\n\nAs always, I appreciate your thoughtful reading, analysis, and comments.\n\nGiven my bent for paradox, the concept of leadership and followership have snagged my attention...and been added to my list of paradoxical situations leaders face. While I heartily agree with Susan Mazza when she says, you don\'t have to be THE leader to be A leader, more often than not leaders, both formal and informal, do have followers. Something for all of us to remember!\n\nMy apologies for the delay in responding and with a smile,\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 12998, 251),
(13002, 25940, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-06-08 10:17:04', '2015-06-08 14:17:04', 'Hi, Marcella --\n\nSo glad the post made you smile...and thanks for sharing that!\n\nRigidity of anything is what\'s old-fashioned! *smile* I\'m going to hold on to the belief that thinking never will be!\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 12999, 251),
(13003, 25945, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-05-13 22:35:13', '2015-05-14 02:35:13', 'Will,\nSuper insight here-\n\"Each path varies depending on the competency of its people, the time horizon available to get it done and the paramount goal of the leader. By paramount goal I mean does the leader want to cultivate the talent or just use existing talent?\"\n\nGreat reminder that my job as a leader is not just to get the job done...\nIt\'s not just to effectively manage the team members and their talents...\nBut it\'s vital that I\'m looking for every opportunity to grow the people on my team, to help them discover new talents, develop current ones and to continue to enhance the relationships of the team!\n\nThanks for the insight!!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(13004, 25945, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-05-14 09:26:24', '2015-05-14 13:26:24', 'Hi, Will - interesting post:)\n\nYou have nicely described the delicate balancing act of leaders as they seek to be supportive and engaged, yet helping the person grow.   Much like very small children learning to walk.  If we continually hold them up, they do not learn to walk by themselves, but we worry about them injuring themselves as they learn.\n\nI have faced this many times in my own career, but no particular instance stands out.  I believe that finding the \"sweet spot\" between coddling or controlling and nurturing for true growth is something that we just develop over time with practice and experience.\n\nOf course, you have to be aware that you cannot simply control or cut loose ... that\'s why articles like this are valuable, especially for young leaders.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13005, 25945, 'Shannon Wright', 'shannon@alchinlong.com', '', '203.149.73.10', '2015-05-14 20:27:04', '2015-05-15 00:27:04', 'Hey Will ,\nGreat post , clearly identifies the choice of leadership style lying on both extremes on the continuum , However I believe in reality a creative mixture of both styles , somewhere in the middle is what defines a great leader .\nFlexibility is what is called for in our dynamic environment , and the most effective leadership style must be contingent on the elements at hand .\nI agree with john that finding that  \"Sweet Spot\" in leadership is what fires up a campaign .\n\nShannon', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13006, 25966, 'Sean Glaze', 'sean@greatresultsteambuilding.com', 'http://www.greatresultsteambuilding.com', '166.102.231.101', '2015-05-12 09:16:51', '2015-05-12 13:16:51', 'Mike -\n\nTerrific post with nice reminders of what is always a great event.\n\nOne of my favorite Andy Stanley \"breadcrumb\" questions is \"What breaks your heart?\"\nIt forces you to focus on the WHY that drives you to do what you do, or is a powerful catalyst for helping to find a cause you can be passionate about...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13007, 25966, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.118', '2015-05-12 12:28:25', '2015-05-12 16:28:25', 'Sean, thanks for the addition. I had a ton of notes and that was another great thought from his talk. What breaks our heart is often the place where we have great energy to serve others. Thanks for mentioning it. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 13006, 243),
(13008, 25966, 'Paula Kiger', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.210.98', '2015-05-12 17:16:01', '2015-05-12 21:16:01', 'One of the most memorable quotes I took away from a talk by Cheryl Strayed, author of \"Wild,\" was (paraphrasing): Sometimes you have to break your own heart to get to where you need to be. She said it better than that but the idea really resonated with me!', 0, '1', '', '', 13006, 0),
(13009, 25966, 'Cassandra Ferguson', 'cassferguson@aol.com', 'http://johnmaxwellgroup/cassamdraferguson.com', '98.204.194.242', '2015-05-13 17:38:20', '2015-05-13 21:38:20', 'The event was awesome! I was one of the Co-host / MC for the Baltimore Leadercast event .  Andy Stanley had people in tears doing the break with that question ,\"What breaks your heart\"? The bread crumb questions. To sum it up that\'s the area of your calling.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13010, 26012, 'Robin Johnson', 'songbird4025@yahoo.com', '', '65.246.1.5', '2015-05-15 14:39:04', '2015-05-15 18:39:04', 'Very eloquently spoken!!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13011, 26012, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-05-15 18:27:59', '2015-05-15 22:27:59', '“Problems are the Prelude to New Discoveries.”\n\nI AGREE!!! Great perspective!  We\'re continuing to pray for the leadership to rise up in Baltimore and around our nation!  Thanks for the challenging article!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(13012, 26012, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '70.135.28.150', '2015-05-16 12:56:13', '2015-05-16 16:56:13', 'Hi, Cassandra - interesting post.\n\nSince we in the St. Louis area have experienced similar upheaval, your observations struck a particular chord with me.  I was particularly moved by your description of the intervention of faith leaders.  My own pastor was arrested at one point during the ongoing protests and demonstrations around Ferguson.   I have a deep belief that we do not hear enough from people of faith during these uncertain times.\n\nWise leadership is indeed what is most needed, but I can tell you that it is not what excites the media.   Much of what we see on television and the Internet is not the whole picture of what is actually happening, but a small and exciting sliver.  Given the bent of different media sources to broadcast from a particular POV, we can even get wildly different views of the same event, dependant on who is doing the talking and taking the pictures.\n\nWise leadership would seem to be exhibited by those who understand the power of communication and know how to positively use it to convey the realities that shape events, rather than just that which \"bleeds and leads\".\n\nThanks for a thought-provoking post.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13013, 25600, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-05-27 11:46:54', '2015-05-27 15:46:54', 'Hi, Paula, Chip, and Company:)\n\nI find the trend toward independent employment fascinating, on both a professional and personal level.\n\nThe issue I struggle with most is that of balance.  As an internal employee, my boundaries were easily set by the corporate culture ... fairly clear, if not always healthy, \"rules\" for how employees interact.   However, in the independent or entrepreneurial world, the rules are much less clear, or at least that is how I have experienced it so far.\n\nWhen one works under a contract for services, it is not always clear what lines exist that say either that the person is going \"above and beyond\", or conversely, \"under and below\"?\n\nI know results or fulfillment of contract requirements are part of this, but I am talking about the more human elements of working with others, especially as it relates to leadership influence.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376);
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(13014, 25930, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-05-18 14:11:56', '2015-05-18 18:11:56', 'Chip,\nI have met that person, many times!  He tends to move around a lot!  I am trying to challenge my team members to NOT be that guy!  As they lead others, I also encourage them to NOT CREATE that guy out of our current staff members!  I love your quote, \"Successful CEO’s find ways to instill the proper blend of wise caution with courageous risk-taking; consistency-producing standards along side an entrepreneurial spirit.\"   We have to balance our approach with quality customer service while at the same time NOT giving away the company store!\n\nMy encouragement to my staff is simple and three-fold:\nFirst, always ask yourself \"What is the right thing to do here?\"\nSecond, ask yourself \"How would I want to be treated?\"\nThird, ask yourself \"What if it was my own money I was spending to remedy this situation?\"\n\nI want my leaders to focus first and foremost on doing the right thing, and running it through the filter of their own preferences, and lastly, to realize that the cost for remedying situations is real, and I want them to be wise as they make decisions on the company dime.\n\nI appreciate your reminder about quality customer service!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(13015, 25930, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-05-19 11:44:23', '2015-05-19 15:44:23', 'Chip:)\n\nFirst, my condolences for your having to sleep on a less-than-optimal mattress.\n\nSecond, thank you for clearly and enjoyably stating two essential truths, at least in my mind.  I paraphase below:\n\n1)  Customer service is not for the faint-of-heart or rules-bound person.  Customer service that is not focused on creating and keeping customers indicates that company is not interested in service or the long haul.\n\n2)  Leading and Managing can and must coexist, ideally in the same person.  Sometimes we lead, sometimes we manage, and the best do both in an apparently easy manner, because they understand what is important when.\n\nAs always, your thoughts are highly entertaining and awfully educational:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13016, 25930, 'Peter Gibb', 'petergibb@safenbett.com', '', '81.152.156.26', '2015-05-21 05:36:26', '2015-05-21 09:36:26', 'Chip,\n\nThanks, insightful article.\n\nFirstly, we mustn\'t forget that Mr \'Rules \'R Us\' is not the source of the problems you had getting your replacement mattress.  He is doing what he is told to do to keep his job.  He might well be cringing inside as he tells you the \'Rules\'.  He might not be of course, but often I find that these days it is the salesman who suffers at the hands of the customer and not the people who can do something.  Of course he could put his head above the parapet every time he makes a sale and make himself unpopular with his bosses, but for many that is easier said that done.\n\nSecondly, and this leads on from my first point and refers to Page\'s comment.   Maybe we should put your first pint \"What is the right thing to do here?\" after the other two points.  That is treat others, speak to others, do business with others, as you would want to be done to yourself!\n\nPeter', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13017, 26006, 'Kristine Phillips', 'kphillips@mhsjvl.org', '', '139.177.226.54', '2015-05-22 09:05:05', '2015-05-22 13:05:05', 'I am a department director in a health care organization.  When I was initially hired 9 years ago, the leadership on the unit had reduced all self esteem and trust to the point that several staff were recording conversations with leadership so they had \"evidence\" or taking notes so they could prove what was actually said or done.  Needless to say it was a difficult situation to walk into.  But, with patience and by focusing on the positives rather than all the changes that need to take place, we were able to develop trust and create a very different culture.  September I will have been here 10 years.  I\'m happy to say, it only took about a year to lay down the foundation that has led to a department with very low turnover and very positive patient and partner satisfaction.  Kindness and a positive approach are key to creating a positive culture.  Regardless of an organization\'s culture or what\'s going on in other departments, you can change the culture in your work area.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13018, 26006, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '12.206.138.194', '2015-05-25 12:49:01', '2015-05-25 16:49:01', '\"You are there for your coworkers and teams. You give genuine attention. You compliment people and you mean it. It costs nothing. All it takes is you – the best version of you.\"\n\nGreat perspective!  I\'m convinced one of the reasons so few people actually lead this way is they don\'t believe in or see their own version of the \"best version of you\" in themselves.  Leaders ought to be about helping others discover and believe in that \"best version\".\n\nThanks for the encouragement today Marcella!  Enjoy your weekend!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(13019, 26006, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-05-27 11:40:00', '2015-05-27 15:40:00', 'Hi, Marcella:)\n\nThis is a very interesting post about a concept that seems to integreate appreciative inquiry, positive leadership, and a realistic, but optimistic view of people and the workplace.\n\nI enjoyed your explanation of how positive leadership displays and particularly like the \"abundance\" mindset idea, althought I am not taken with the word.  I have seen some problems occur when the idea of \"abundance\" is taken to represent a \"I should have all the money I want\" approach to life.  I believe that abundance is only truly reached when we share with others ... I have enought to give some to you.\n\nYour point about the need for patience is key.  To remain focused on the larger goals and not let the daily hassles wear one down seems to be an essential part of effective leadership.  One inspires by prevailing, so to speak, and models acceptance of the \"now\", while keeping the vision of \"Soon\" alive.\n\nSidebar:  You are the second person to mention Frederic Laloux to me in the last week and I have not been aware of him before this.  Thanks for adding another book to my already very long reading list:).\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13020, 26040, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-05-19 09:59:12', '2015-05-19 13:59:12', 'Great thoughts David!\n\nAnother analogy came to mind.  I\'ve had to tow a vehicle for some distance before.  There can be a HUGE catastrophe if either person, the tow-er or the towed, reacts too suddenly or overcompensates without good communication.  If the tow-er slams on the brakes without warning or drastically slows speed, it can cause the person being towed to ram into the back of the person towing them.\n\nThe critical analogy I see here is that it\'s incredibly critical that the person leading, or \"out front\" recognizes the need to overcommunicate about any changes in direction or speed.  Blaming the person you\'re leading for not paying attention doesn\'t \"uncrumple the bumper\" if a wreck between the two vehicles happens because of a lack of communication.\n\nThanks for the analogy!  My brain will be working on this one all day!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(13021, 26040, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-05-19 11:51:16', '2015-05-19 15:51:16', 'Hi, David:)\n\nFirst, thanks for the \"tow\" into some excellent leadership thoughts.  This is a great analogy and very visual.  I have images of bumpers flying off cars stuck in my head now.\n\nSecond, I thought immediately of my first Very Good Boss, who had a way of talking me through thinking out a problem and the solution.  It strikes me that his methods were much like a well-done tow:   I was stuck in the ditch and, with some planning and thoughtfulness, he could pull me right back up on the road and I would be on my way.\n\nI think it is important to remember, staying with this analogy a bit longer, that once you are out of the ditch, you can and should often proceed forward on your own power.   Every mistake does not require a trip to the garage or service station ... sometimes all you need is a little help getting going again.\n\nI plan to steal this analogy for my coaching ... thanks:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13022, 26040, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '70.16.68.83', '2015-05-20 06:25:15', '2015-05-20 10:25:15', 'David, I think if you observe any situation, you can find a universal truth of leadership principles and draw an application from it.\n\nYou certainly pulled that together from this example. Not only was the analogy great, but your observations give us continued insight in how to lead more effectively.\n\nThanks for all you do!,\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13023, 26040, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '174.51.239.28', '2015-05-20 09:20:23', '2015-05-20 13:20:23', 'Fantastic analogy extension Page! Reactivity and lack of communication make following very difficult.', 0, '1', '', '', 13020, 307),
(13024, 26040, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '174.51.239.28', '2015-05-20 09:21:26', '2015-05-20 13:21:26', 'John,\n\nI love the added \"once out of the ditch, proceed on your own power\" - of course!\n\nThank you :)\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13021, 307),
(13025, 26040, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '174.51.239.28', '2015-05-20 09:23:24', '2015-05-20 13:23:24', 'Hi Paul,\n\nI imagine that\'s true when you\'re looking for it. This one jumped up and grabbed me at the time. I had to take some quick notes and return to the task at hand :)\n\nAppreciate you!\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13022, 307),
(13026, 26040, 'Joanie Connell', 'jconnell@flexibleworksolutions.com', 'http://www.flexibleworksolutions.com', '76.88.62.54', '2015-05-25 15:35:01', '2015-05-25 19:35:01', 'David,\nIt\'s images like these that stick in people\'s minds.  I love the image of pulling the car sideways and ripping the wheels off.  I can relate to steering the team in the direction it was already headed to start them off with that image in mind.  I will share this with other leaders because it\'s language we can all relate to.  Thanks for bringing leadership to real life terminology!\nJoanie', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 394),
(13027, 26040, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2015-06-15 13:55:24', '2015-06-15 17:55:24', 'My pleasure Joanie - I\'m glad the image was helpful!', 0, '1', '', '', 13026, 307),
(13028, 26051, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-10 09:28:28', '2015-06-10 13:28:28', 'Hi, Katherine - nice post.\n\nGreat exploration of \"unknown territory\", since most of us have to start our leadership journey somewhere, usually without much in the way of guidance or roadmaps.\n\nI actually did study leadership in school, but this was a retrospective, rather than a journey into uncharted land.  I had already experienced leadership, with varying success, in college, the military, and various work environments, before undertaking graduate study.  This proved to be very helpful to me, because I already had actual experience to view through the lens of the theories and concepts I was learning.\n\nSometimes this was reinforcing, when I recognized that I had actually done something appropriate, even though I did not know the \"official\" name for it at the time.  More often than I want to admit, I experienced that \"WIsh I had known this then\" feeling, tinged with a dash of regret and sprinkled with remorse for how I had \"led\" others.\n\nPerhaps the thing I would most reinforce from your thoughts is the idea of \"Self-Leadership\".  This term is relatively new, as far as I know, but the underlying concept is age-old.  Leadership is not just something we do or provide to others, but rather a core skill that we apply to ourselves.\n\nThe person who finds motivating themselves to be overwhelming is a poor choice to lead others.\n\nEnjoyed this post tremendously - thanks:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13029, 26057, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-05-20 19:21:14', '2015-05-20 23:21:14', 'John,\nThank you sir!  Great inspiration for the day!  Goal setting is good, plans are essential, but dreams are the stuff that the embody the essence of living!  Kevin Costner said something one time very similar... he said, \"“I dream of big things. I work for the small things. If you\'re going to dream, you might as well dream big. A lot of that came from my mother. She was adamant about the work ethic---about how you can\'t just dream things.”  Dream for the big things, work for the small things!  Great counsel!\n\nI think you nailed it... as leaders we have to be dreamers... Not just goal setters, managers or bosses.  Even as we manage those tactical and strategic changes, it\'s the bigger picture that keeps us inspired and moving forward.\n\nMy favorite \"dream quote\" is from Mark Twain... only the author who captured our imaginations with Tom Sawyer, Huck Finn and a Connecticut Yankee in King Arthur\'s Court could spell it out this clearly for the rest of us...\n\n\"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(13030, 26057, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-05-27 11:31:24', '2015-05-27 15:31:24', 'Hi, Page:)\n\nPlaying \"catch-up\" after a long weekend trip celebrating wedding anniversary.\n\nYou got it ... the dreaming thing is essential, but not to be done in isolation.  The dreaming is the fuel to spur activity.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13031, 26081, 'Bruce Dreyfus', 'bsd@gtnj.us', 'http://get-that-next-job.com', '70.193.163.91', '2015-06-02 20:24:47', '2015-06-03 00:24:47', 'Right on!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13032, 26081, 'Brookhaven1', 'brookhaven@optonline.net', '', '130.199.3.165', '2015-06-03 12:01:49', '2015-06-03 16:01:49', 'Addressing \"Tough Love Conversation - second bullet\"   Suggesting a coach or counselor to an employee implies that the employer feels the problem is with the employee.  While this may be true it may be perceived as highly insensitive and offensive and could lead to other personnel issues.\n\nIt may be preferable to point out to the employee that, having attempted different arrangements\' within the organization without being able to satisfy the unhappy employee - perhaps the employee may want to evaluate if this is the right job for them, while the company values the persons services, and would hate to see them leave - the company does not wish to force people to work under unpleasant circumstances.\n\nIt is more of a win for everyone if people are happy or at least satisfied in their positions!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13033, 26081, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-04 08:20:15', '2015-06-04 12:20:15', 'Hi, Leigh - thanks for an interesting post.\n\nI particularly appreciate you noting that much of the motivation behind this type of behavior are \"not typical areas of expertise for a manager or humn resources representative\".  My experience has been that lack of competence has not stopped some folks from trying to deal with the background, rather than directly or simply with the behavior ... and this often ends badly for all involved.\n\nI would not that the ideal coaching situation is when the person recognizes the need and desires to change.   The type of coaching you are suggesting can be done in work environment, but it is not optimal.  As the previous commenter notes, this is coaching for organizational goals, rather than for the person\'s goals.\n\nThe best path, in my opinion, is always to stick to observable behavior and deal with that appropriately.\n\nBy the way, your list of possible drivers is excellent:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13034, 26081, 'Carr', 'vvvwvvvw@yahoo.com', '', '174.34.212.197', '2015-06-05 12:27:48', '2015-06-05 16:27:48', 'Nice piece :) ... to add a category (or a different article altogether!): Justifiable discontent.\n\nThis isn\'t a complaint session :) I do mean this in context with the article.\n\nSmall company (ie 30-50). Staff experience chronic discontent, but it is identifiable to HR and Top Management. For years, leadership has lived on unconscious goals not shared with the employees.  Further, have demonstrated inability to foster relationships within the company. etc ...\n\nWhat I\'m suggesting is, discontent is a two way street.  So, when HR and Leadership is/are the source, the pee-ons become the excuse for poor performance.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13035, 26117, 'Duncan from Vetter', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '95.77.161.206', '2015-06-05 11:55:14', '2015-06-05 15:55:14', 'John, you are so right when you say that in most cases, people leave the boss and not the company. Employees need to feel that their work has a purpose, and they can evolve. If the leadership is focused only on the company\'s benefits and forgets about the people, it cannot expect outstanding results.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13036, 26117, 'Christian LS', 'Xiztian@gmail.com', 'http://nitrosalesteam.com', '99.190.223.152', '2015-06-10 01:48:21', '2015-06-10 05:48:21', 'Though, it\'s been awhile since I\'ve had to deal with fake to and ill intended leaders, I just want to say that there\'s two types of leaderships positions.\n\n-A boss\n-A leaders\n\nA boss is the one who gives out the order and expects his underlings to follow without reasonable accommodations. He/she is a slave driver. A ruler. One that is in a position that more or less, the underlings respect or follow.\n\nI\'d say less.\n\nA leader is more leveled and grounded with his following and the pack. He/she listens to his/her followers. Understand their positions. Occasionally steps in their shoes. And is focused on bring you up and making sure you achieve your goals, as well as the pack as a whole.\n\nUnlike a boss, the people underneath a leader are not slaves... they\'re legit followers and supports.\n\n---\n\nWith the two, I expect the former to be overthrown, replaced, and banished eventually.\nAnd the latter to be honorably relinquished from his duties, and yet still be amongst his people and forever respected for what he has done.\n\nPersonally, like famous entrepreneur Sir. Richard Branson, I choose the style of the later - a leader.\n\nThanks for the read John. ;)\n\nChristian LS\nhttp://nitrosalesteam.com/', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13037, 26124, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-05-26 22:15:05', '2015-05-27 02:15:05', 'People... me... we do... we do what we want.\n\nThe problem for me is not that I have to do stuff I don\'t want to do.\n\nIt\'s that I waste chunks of my life doing stuff that doesn\'t matter.\n\nThanks for shining a light on lazy choices and the foolishness of giving the real stuff of living my leftovers.\n\nI\'m done with that.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(13038, 26124, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '166.137.126.22', '2015-05-26 22:38:47', '2015-05-27 02:38:47', 'Thanks Page. I agree. I want to spend more of my time doing the things that are most important to me. Moving the right direction. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 13037, 243),
(13039, 26124, 'Penny Clark', 'pennyclark@cox.net', '', '98.178.143.88', '2015-05-26 22:52:29', '2015-05-27 02:52:29', 'My problem is that I am the hamster on the wheel....running like crazy but getting no where.  I go from starting this to starting that and ending up doing the other......my mind has a million projects to do.....or think about doing.  Yep...I am just a small little hamster.....', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13040, 26124, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '70.109.135.223', '2015-05-27 06:07:48', '2015-05-27 10:07:48', 'A great reminder for us, Mike. Doing a few of the most important things is better than doing many of the insignificant things.\n\nA great post for us to recalibrate our focus!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13041, 26124, 'Max', 'smaxbrown@gmail.com', '', '65.130.245.90', '2015-05-27 10:30:59', '2015-05-27 14:30:59', 'Thank you for this post Mike! I appreciate your message and the consistency in your purpose. I appreciate you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13042, 26124, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-05-27 11:53:40', '2015-05-27 15:53:40', 'HI, MIke:\n\n1)  I hate when you spend the first part of your excellent leadership thinking describing me.\n\n2)  I hate even more when you drive the point low across the net right into my court.\n\n3)  I hate most when the best comment I can summon is \"Yeah, I know ... and I\'ll try to focus on the right stuff\".\n\nThis is a message I have heard before ... many times ... and yet the need to remind me to spend my time more effectively will continue.  We are humans, after all:)\n\nThanks for possibly the most useful suggestion I could hear this week.  Your wisdom is expressed clearly and with warmth.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13043, 26124, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '107.77.68.110', '2015-05-29 21:20:58', '2015-05-30 01:20:58', 'Thanks Penny. I hope you refuse to let yourself end there. I try to remember my most important work so I can spend my best time on it.  Hang in there...', 0, '1', '', '', 13039, 243),
(13044, 26124, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '107.77.68.110', '2015-05-29 21:22:10', '2015-05-30 01:22:10', 'Thanks for the comment Paul. I\'m trying to ask the question, \"Why am I doing this?\" more and more.  Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 13040, 243),
(13045, 26124, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '107.77.68.110', '2015-05-29 21:23:10', '2015-05-30 01:23:10', 'Thanks back Max! Great to hear from you. I appreciate you and the comment, too. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 13041, 243),
(13046, 26124, 'Mike Henry', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '107.77.68.110', '2015-05-29 21:25:21', '2015-05-30 01:25:21', 'Thanks for the honest comment, John. Many of us are going through the same phases and thought processes. I appreciate your encouragement. Thanks again. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 13042, 243),
(13047, 26128, 'Duncan from Vetter', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '95.77.161.206', '2015-05-29 08:05:06', '2015-05-29 12:05:06', 'Indeed, a leader needs to encourage, energize, and equip people. A leader is a person you admire. A leader cares for the people and is focused to help them evolve and support them throughout the process. We all have great leaders in our lives, and following their example, we need to become better persons ourselves. Not to mention that companies need to identify and support such employees in order to increase their productivity.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13048, 26128, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-05-29 09:09:15', '2015-05-29 13:09:15', 'Hi, Paul - thanks for a great post:)\n\nThree words struck me as I read your thoughts, especially the ending list of examples:  \"Personal\", \"Model\" and \"Everyday\".\n\nWe tend sometimes to focus on the epic and corporate type of leadership exhibited by tycoons of business, military and political leaders, and others who lead from the heights.\n\nYour post is a great reminder that leadership and opportunities to lead are all around us, every day of our lives.   We may not have the opportunity to lead \"brave men in a desperate struggle\" or change the course of economic or political history ... but we can demonstrate and live kindness, compassion, and regard for other human beings.\n\nThere\'s a fourth word:  \"Compassion\".  It strikes me further that you are describing those who have a particular mindset about the world and those in it.  This type of leadership is inclusive rather than exclusive, sharing rather than hoarding, and benevolent rather than suspicious.\n\nI do not have any specific examples to share, but it occurs to me that I have continually experienced these types of leadership in others throughout my life ... I just have not always recognized it as such.\n\nNow I have something to work on ...\n\nAppreciate your thoughtful and incisive leadership in helping us become better leaders and better people.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13049, 26128, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '64.223.210.186', '2015-05-29 14:24:56', '2015-05-29 18:24:56', 'John, thank you, and I couldn\'t agree more with the words you mentioned. I especially like \"Everyday\", it conjures up thoughts of consistency and accessibility.\n\nEveryday, unsung leadership gets it done in our world.\n\nHave a great weekend!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13050, 26128, 'Joanie Connell', 'jconnell@flexibleworksolutions.com', 'http://www.flexibleworksolutions.com', '76.88.62.54', '2015-05-29 15:14:24', '2015-05-29 19:14:24', 'Paul, thanks for taking time out to remember the unsung heroes and for calling on us to do the same.  A friend of mine told me this week that he carries two extra gallons of gas around in the back of his truck--regular and diesel--and stops to give it to people when they run out of gas.  He went on to tell me that he often finds young women on the side of the road who run out of gas.  I thought about how much of a service he\'s doing.  Not only is he getting them out of a jam, but he is protecting them from bad people who take advantage of stranded young women on the side of the road.  He\'s definitely one of my unsung heroes.  His name is Nick Fagiano and he is a personal trainer.  His company is Mobile Muscle and he trains people in their homes in San Diego.\nJoanie', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 394),
(13051, 26128, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '64.223.210.186', '2015-05-29 17:29:59', '2015-05-29 21:29:59', 'Joanie, Nick\'s example is precisely what we should be thankful for and recognize. We definitely need more people like him in the world. I\'m glad he\'s doing his part in my former home city!\n\nA great share Joanie, thanks so much!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13052, 26141, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-05-27 12:01:03', '2015-05-27 16:01:03', 'HI, Joanie:\n\nThis is quite a helpful synopsis of a major part of the change sweeping the modern workplace.\n\nI will admit that my focus tends to be much more on the ongoing saga of my own generation (Boomers) and how we are having to reinvent retirement as a continuation of work.   However, I was vaguely aware of most of what you have so clearly and thoughtfully described.\n\nI really like the way you point out that workplace changes important to all of us have been supported and enhanced by Milennials.   Most of my peers have spent much of their working careers so far talking about \"meaningful\" work, but we seem to forget our younger and more revolutionary selves as we have toiled in the workplace.  We demonstrated passionately for and against various social ills while in our formative years, but many of us rolled over and played the corporate game until we were burned late in our first careers.\n\nMaybe we ought to think in terms of working collaboratively with other generations, rather than viewing them as competition, clueless, or immaterial.\n\nNow you\'ve made me want to go back and reread your book:) ....\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13053, 26141, 'Joanie Connell', 'jconnell@flexibleworksolutions.com', 'http://www.flexibleworksolutions.com', '76.88.62.54', '2015-05-27 12:07:17', '2015-05-27 16:07:17', 'John,\nThanks for your perceptive inputs.  Collaborating across generations and taking the best from each would certainly strengthen the workplace and beyond.  I hope the Millennials come to that conclusion too.  There is so much wisdom to be learned.  I\'d love to keep the dialogue going.\nJoanie', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 394),
(13054, 26141, 'Cynthia B.', 'cbbb12@gmail.com', '', '50.140.59.167', '2015-05-27 19:20:33', '2015-05-27 23:20:33', 'Hi Joanie,\nI totally agree with John on the idea of generations working together as this will open up the opportunity to support each other. Milennials have so much to offer up front in perceiving things quickly, knowing how to prioritize work and moving ahead on a project; while Leaders have the wisdom and experience to know where to slow down  in area that needs details to be precise, where creativity can play a role, and where past experience  can help make final decisions.\n\nDuring this time Milennials may introduce new ideas, creative problem solving techniques, and where to find answers. Leaders may bring positive ways to interact with others, learn through the experience to delegate work with more confidence in Milennials, and appreciate a little extra time to unwind when the work is completed.\n\nI think the workplace should continue to find ways for employees to meet casually; be it sports activities, employee luncheons, yoga classes, or book discussion groups.\nI actually have a lot of faith in the newer generations as they have information more accessible than ever before, and they are creative in ways that we never imagined.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13055, 26141, 'Joanie Connell', 'jconnell@flexibleworksolutions.com', 'http://www.flexibleworksolutions.com', '76.88.62.54', '2015-05-27 22:53:43', '2015-05-28 02:53:43', 'Thanks for your words of inspiration, Cynthia.  I like how you suggest ways of working together to leverage the strengths of the different generations.\n\nJoanie', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 394),
(13056, 26141, 'christine Becker', 'christineb32012@gmail.com', '', '78.236.207.33', '2015-05-29 06:02:42', '2015-05-29 10:02:42', 'Hello Joanie\nI love your analyse of the curent situation in the workplace it is so true.  Having millenials myself I understand a little their ways of thinking, maybe\nWhen before we took our boss advise for granted, after all he has the wisdom being the boss, millenials double check it on the web, and after that with their peers.\nWhen we were making plans to stay in the company for several years, millenials are already double checking their possible exit after three months, and they say it is because the work place is not stable and they know that they are not going to stay with the same company forever, so lets look at greener pastures, maybe?\nThey value a lot their social time, they are born with the internet in the craddle, and by that are very creative and savy\nWe all need to work together and we as older need to include the younger generation in , and value them so they will stay in the same company.\nThanks again for your wonderful input!!!!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13057, 26141, 'Michelle', 'esmichelle@hotmail.com', '', '208.242.14.199', '2015-06-04 09:21:17', '2015-06-04 13:21:17', 'I agree with the thought of the generations needing to work together, in an effort to pull the strengths from one another.  There is no doubt that millennials come in the door well prepared and ready to progress in their career.  However, I feel that it\'s important for them to recognize that there can be some great learning opportunities as they climb each rung of the ladder and allowing time to get there is extremely important.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13058, 26229, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '64.223.210.186', '2015-06-04 06:43:21', '2015-06-04 10:43:21', 'Page, you are right that our intelligence can hold us back. We over-analyze, think we\'re better than what we are, and so forth. But intelligence can make us think we\'re sophisticated and mature, when our child-like entuhsiasm and curiosity are what propels our dreams.\n\nThanks for reminding us to cut loose and let loose!\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13059, 26229, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-04 08:25:53', '2015-06-04 12:25:53', 'Hi, Page\n\nYou had me at \"Willy Wonkanate\":) ...\n\nI think you have articulately hit on yet another strong aspect of leadership which I have not seen directly mentioned elsewhere:   Wonder\n\nWonder, to me and based on your thoughts, is a combination of curiosity, aspiration, and appreciation for all that is and all that can be, along with the motivation to be open to possibilities and willing to risk.\n\n... and that quote is solid gold.\n\nThanks for starting my day off with a great set of observations:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13060, 26229, 'Jane', 'jdunbar@tulsahabitat.org', '', '74.213.11.50', '2015-06-05 16:02:53', '2015-06-05 20:02:53', 'Page -\n Good Stuff  - Over thinking can really hinder our progress.  So many times the best things do not make any sense at all - until you are on the other side.\n\nThanks for twisting the norm...\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13061, 26229, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-06-06 15:23:19', '2015-06-06 19:23:19', 'I feel like I ought to break out in some Kevin Bacon moves with the soundtrack of \"Footloose\" in the background!  Now the only choice is do I pick the Kenny Loggins original version of the song, or Blake Shelton\'s remake?  Heck, I\'ll use both!  Cut loose Paul!', 0, '1', '', '', 13058, 282),
(13062, 26229, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-06-06 15:25:51', '2015-06-06 19:25:51', 'John,\nI just don\'t get it, how people can look at the majesty of creation or the people walking the aisles at Wal-Mart, and everything in between, and not have a sense of wonder!\n\nI do have a confession though... my curiosity and imagination have gotten me in trouble more than once!  But oh it was worth it every time!  Have a blessed weekend, and thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 13059, 282),
(13063, 26229, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-06-06 15:27:25', '2015-06-06 19:27:25', 'Jane, I know you deal with lots of people and organizations.  Have you had to deal with this topic before, and if so, are there any practical recommendations you could offer to other leaders who are trying to stretch their team in this area?\n\nAnd I\'ve been called twisted pretty regularly too... :-)', 0, '1', '', '', 13060, 282),
(13064, 26235, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-04 08:34:13', '2015-06-04 12:34:13', 'Hi, Chris - excellent post.\n\nI am particularly struck by the gaps between organization\'s views of the importance of cultural fit, their clarity (or lack) around what their own culture is, and how to measure it.  This reinforces what I think many of us feel intuitively ... mostly invisible, but highly powerful forces are at work when people gather to collaborate, which are largely not understood or used appropriately.\n\nBonus Point:  Noting the need to define \"citizenship\" as a job component.  Too often, I think we feel that making generic and vague comments about \"community involvement\" and \"Being a team player\" cover this important aspect ... and we fall short of clearly stating what it means to be part of that community.\n\nAs I reread your three-step solution, I am reminded of two facts:\n\n1)  This is basically a fairly straight-forward process, which is not difficult to understand theoretically.\n\n2)  This is incredibly complext to actually execute, since it includes the messy aspect of individual and group perspectives about how we work together.\n\nThanks for offering clarity and focus toward this important part of decision-making about who will work with whom ... useful for those hiring and those being hired both.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13065, 26235, 'Chris Edmonds', 'chris@chris-edmonds.com', '', '97.124.166.27', '2015-06-04 15:55:02', '2015-06-04 19:55:02', 'Thank you, John, for your comments, kind words, and insights!\n\nYou\'re exactly right - creating a high performing, values-aligned culture is complex, particularly for leaders who have never been asked to proactively manage culture.\n\nAnd, it is straight-forward. Define. Align. Refine. Defining your desired values &amp; behaviors doesn\'t take too long. Aligning? Quite a while - 18 to 24 months. And most leaders don\'t have the skills do to it today - they need guidance to ensure the execution happens!\n\nGracias!\n\nC.', 0, '1', '', '', 13064, 372),
(13066, 26250, 'Todd', 'Todd@the315project.com', 'http://Www.315project.com', '70.193.134.41', '2015-06-13 15:29:03', '2015-06-13 19:29:03', 'Great post and a fresh way to look at the path and journey we are on.  It takes courage to follow a calling.  I can clearly see how inexperience is a huge advantage.  If we are not careful experience can begin to become prison bars and keep us inside the box.\n\nPeace and hope\nTodd', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13067, 26250, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-15 11:27:33', '2015-06-15 15:27:33', 'Thanks for commenting, Todd and I appreciate your kind words:)\n\nI really like, and plan to appropriate, your useful analogy of experience as prison bars.  Excellent way to illustrate an important point about all this.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13068, 26250, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '166.216.165.128', '2015-07-08 11:45:58', '2015-07-08 15:45:58', 'John, this topic of this post is wonderful, and full of all kinds of juicy sound-bites. (Sorry I\'m just now getting to this...)\n\n- Let not knowing be an asset, rather than a barrier.\n- In leadership and in life, change does not depend on whether we like it or not.\n- We spend our entire lives changing, so you would think we would be better at dealing with it, given all that practice, wouldn’t you?\n- ...those things in which I engaged without adequate or realistic prior knowledge, have often been the parts of my life where the richest moments have occurred.\n- \"... some people have twenty years of experience, while others have one year of experience twenty times. There is a big difference between the two.\n\nJust marinating in those for awhile. Thank you for writing such a thought-provoking piece!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13069, 26284, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-10 09:15:20', '2015-06-10 13:15:20', 'Hi, Mary - great post and one that resonates personally for me.\n\nI enjoyed the whole piece, but particularly liked your clear and useful presentation of those three discernment questions from your trusted advisor.   They seem to get right to the heart of what we need to consider honestly as we make decisions, especially whether to engage or not to engage.\n\nThe first question provides perspective.  We tend to consider things only from our own point of view.  As you mention, we ask what WE want from a situation, often not considering what the other person\'s goals or desires might be.\n\nThe second question is one of the best examples of when a \"Yes or No\" question is not only appropriate, but essential.  I find that many tend to concentrate on those very valuable open-ended questions, but sometimes you just have to choose and act.\n\nThat last question is, as you stated, \"key\".  This can be answered \"yes\" or \"no\", but it is definitely not a straight-forward or simple question.  I wonder about time frames here.  For example, I might be just fine and dandy right now with severing a relationship, due to the proximity or severity of what caused me to feel that way.  However, down the road, I might be less OK or even regretful.  While we cannot always know how consistent our decisions will be, this does seem to reinforce that one should think deeply before answering that last one:).\n\nThanks for an enjoyable and thought-provoking post ... of course, I  have grown to expect nothing less from you.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13070, 26284, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '71.224.4.26', '2015-06-10 17:33:31', '2015-06-10 21:33:31', 'John, thank you so much for your thoughtful comments. Those comments could turn into a post in itself - of course, I have grown to expect nothing less from YOU!\n\nMy Best,\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13071, 26284, 'Manisha', 'Mantani24@yahoo.com', '', '70.192.230.190', '2015-06-10 20:24:40', '2015-06-11 00:24:40', 'John, thanks for the thoughtful analysis of those questions.  In the moment, they were just questions between two friends, but you\'re dead on in your assessment.\n\nM', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13072, 26284, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', '', '71.224.4.26', '2015-06-11 10:12:16', '2015-06-11 14:12:16', 'Thanks you to my gifted advisor, for weighing in :)', 0, '1', '', '', 13071, 252),
(13073, 26310, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-10 18:24:55', '2015-06-10 22:24:55', 'Hi, Jane - thoroughly enjoyed this post.\n\nYour description of the \"Both/And\" nurturing leader reminds me that leadership, like most things in life, is not absolute, all-or-nothing anything, but a delicate blend of often oppositional forces.\n\nI am envious of those who can apparently effortlessly move as needed between the type of opposites that you have so well described in your list of seven.\n\nI have not experienced too many leaders who could cover the continuums you suggest, but the few that come to mind were usually more humble in their default  behaviors than forceful.   I am not sure of the significance of this, other than to observe that those who truly know how to be forceful, do not need to demonstrate that just to show others they can.\n\nVery interesting and thought-provoking post - thanks:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13074, 26310, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-06-11 11:50:31', '2015-06-11 15:50:31', 'Hi, John --\n\nAs always, so appreciate your thoughtful analysis and comments!\n\nYour observation that leaders who can master \"both/and\" are humble is right in line with Jim Collins\' work about Level 5 leaders...that they\'re a paradoxical mix of confidence and humility. The handful of individuals I\'ve encountered across my career who walked the \"both/and\" talk had transcended ego. No small feat in today\'s corporate America!\n\nWith a smile,\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 13073, 251),
(13075, 26316, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-23 10:00:49', '2015-06-23 14:00:49', 'Hi, Paul ... interesting post:)\n\nAmen to your focus on how our fears (legitmate and made-up) can stop us from exploring and changing.  I have always been dogged by a nagging feeling that I was not good enought, not prepared enough, or just not right for opportunities.\n\nAs you note in your post, we need to examine and face our fears, clarifying where they come from, and analyzing them realistically.   A legitimate fear is one that can be planned for and overcome, while the \"made-up\" fears that dog us should just be identified and discarded.\n\nOf course, that\'s easier to say than it is to do:) ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13076, 26316, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '66.87.124.239', '2015-06-23 20:04:19', '2015-06-24 00:04:19', 'Thanks John! This example can fit each of us, and can rob us of many opportunities if we let it. hopefully the message can resonate in others as well.', 0, '1', '', '', 13075, 343),
(13077, 26340, 'Duncan M.', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '95.77.161.206', '2015-06-24 11:37:20', '2015-06-24 15:37:20', 'Entrepreneurship is definitely something that requires courage and lots of determination. People who decide to go on this path need to be brave and to be  able to take risks. However, the results are rewarding. It is important to start with fair expectations so you can handle success, but also failures.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13078, 26340, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-26 09:54:10', '2015-06-26 13:54:10', 'Hi, Sameer - thanks for the interesting post.\n\nSounds like you speak from experience:)\n\nIt is good to provide both some positives and some negatives about becoming an entrepreneur, as you have done.   I find that many people tend to concentrate on only one aspect or the other.\n\nThe results are predictable ...\n\nPositive Only:   Crash head-on into reality of working for yourself and give up, because it is not as easy or simple as you imagined.\n\nNegative Only:  Fear wins and you do not even try.\n\nA balanced approach which incorporates both the heart and the mind is best and my personal experience is that you cannot accomplish this yourself.  At the very least, I believe you need to do these things:\n\n1)  Talk with a number of people, both inside and outside your industry and market, about self-employment.   Some should be successful and some should be not:)\n\n2)  Probe for the negatives with open-ended, but targeted questions.\n\n3)  Accept the positives mentioned, but do not over-estimate them or focus exclusively on them.\n\n4)  Create a business plan.  Take a class from a local resource (Small Business Institute, community college in the US, or other credible organization), if you do not have formal education in doing this.  Do nothing else until you have done this.\n\n5)  Allow your business plan to be mercilessly analzyed, dissected, and examined by folks who failed and folks who succeeded with their own.   Do not restrict yourself to family and friends on this - seek out people who have walked the walk.\n\n6)  Revise business plan as needed based on feedback from all.\n\n7)  Take a few days or weeks to let what you plan to do sink in.  Do NOT work on revisions or tweaks - just let it settle in your mind.\n\n8)  Reflect on what your heart is now telling you about this revised and hopefully more realistic plan.\n\n9)  Take the appropriate action.\n\nSorry about being so wordy, but you sparked my thinking:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13079, 26348, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-06-12 09:45:53', '2015-06-12 13:45:53', 'I appreciate all the different perspectives our instigators bring today. I especially related to Mike\'s comment: \"Waiting is my trigger. I have learned that the desire to wait is my version of fear.\" I never thought of that. Fear can disguise itself in a variety of seemingly benign ways.\n\nJon\'s comment, \"My simple advice would be to just “go!”\" reminds me of the quotation from Wayne Gretzky, the accomplished hockey player, \"You miss 100% of the shots you don\'t take.\" I must use it weekly with my clients, and need to remember it applies to me too. I know this one has been around awhile, but it is communicates an important message so concisely, but not quite as concise as Jon\'s \"just go!\"\n\nWell done, everyone!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13080, 26348, 'Duncan M.', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '95.77.161.206', '2015-06-12 09:54:02', '2015-06-12 13:54:02', 'I believe that the worst decision is the one you are too scared to make. Just like Jon said if it is not life-threatening or does not involve compromising concerns, you better go for it. The worst thing it could happen would be to learn a valuable lesson.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13081, 26348, 'John E. Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-12 11:34:51', '2015-06-12 15:34:51', 'Nicely stated responses ... kudos to all:)\n\nThe presence of fear in our choice equation swas noted throughout, because this is probably the core ingredient that makes moving into unknown territory so difficult for many of us.   To see the power of fear of the unknown, one impacting example is the tendency for many abused women who stay with their abusers, rather than risk moving into unknown territory by leaving them, even when to do so compromises their safety.\n\nI particularly like Mike Henry\'s lead observation that \"The cost of any choice is what you give up.\"  While we cannot always know (especially when making a decision) what the costs of doing or not doing might be, we need to continually remind ourselves that the cost is there, whether we consider it or not.\n\nA final comment that notes a drawback to moving into unknown territory or at least a point for concern:  Back in the day, a favorite poster contained the message to \"Bloom Where You Are Planted\".  It connects to this theme in my mind because even unknown territory becomes familiar territory over time.  We would do well to remind ourselves to make the most of what we have, rather than continually seek the new and unknown.   Just a thought:) ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13082, 26348, 'Paula Kiger', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.235.230.69', '2015-06-13 00:00:33', '2015-06-13 04:00:33', 'I really enjoyed this topic! I am glad you found some use for it as well.', 0, '1', '', '', 13079, 0);
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(13083, 26348, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.235.230.69', '2015-06-13 00:00:58', '2015-06-13 04:00:58', 'This is true! Thanks for your comment.', 0, '1', '', '', 13080, 0),
(13084, 26348, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.235.230.69', '2015-06-13 00:01:41', '2015-06-13 04:01:41', 'All good thoughts, John.', 0, '1', '', '', 13081, 0),
(13085, 26348, 'Richard Rierson', 'richardrierson@gmail.com', 'http://www.doseofleadership.com', '70.169.125.20', '2015-06-14 16:07:34', '2015-06-14 20:07:34', 'Love this article...life begins on the edge of the comfort zone.  We should always push ourselves to get out of the comfort zone.  The growth zone is a muddy, sticky, &amp; uncomfortable place.  But we must spend most of our time there to experience a life of significance.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13086, 26348, 'Paula Kiger', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.235.230.69', '2015-06-14 19:46:26', '2015-06-14 23:46:26', 'Muddy, sticky, uncomfortable --- check! check! check! Very true but as you point out those experiences can be keys to a significant life! Thanks for your comment!', 0, '1', '', '', 13085, 0),
(13087, 26378, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-15 11:33:54', '2015-06-15 15:33:54', 'Hi, John - thanks for an interesting and very valuable post on an important aspect of workplace success.\n\nI believe that I have heard management and leadership (and the people who exercise either function) held up as the reason why something cannot be done more often than anything else.  Apparently many bosses have so much influence that their mere non-support can kill valuable ideas and initiatives.\n\nYou have not only identified this issue in more detail and depth, but have come up with some strong recommendations for how to improve relationships with those a little further up the food chain.\n\nIf more people read and reflect on what you are saying, and then actually try to \"manage up\", rather than manipulate their bosses, I do believe we would all win a few more workplace \"battles\".\n\nThanks again for more very helpful leadership wisdom.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13088, 26378, 'Duncan M.', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '95.77.161.206', '2015-06-15 14:36:23', '2015-06-15 18:36:23', 'I really like your idea of coming with arguments and solutions. Simply pointing out a problem won\'t lead to any change but maybe to an upset manager. It is important to tackle an issue with calmness and to accept ideas, even if they are not precisely what you expected. I also believe that it is mandatory to be open-minded and to acknowledge your position, no matter how good your explanations may be.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13089, 26378, 'Kelsey Edwardsen', 'kelseyedwardsen@gmail.com', '', '72.37.248.39', '2015-06-17 13:04:39', '2015-06-17 17:04:39', 'John,\n\nI appreciate your article, as you highlight a challenge that resonates loud and clear with folks on my teams in all organizations that I\'ve served, and this can fuel frustration and inaction for passionate individuals who innately possess leadership skills such as enthusiasm and creativity.  With the right preparation and coaching, these leaders can truly be \'unleashed\' to drive meaningful and high-impact transformation without stepping on toes through upward influence and engagement.\n\nI agree that persistent solution-focus is critical, and your recommended preparation questions to develop prior to bringing ideas up the chain are something that I will start using and encourage my teams to do the same.\n\nThank you for sharing such thoughtful advice.\nBest regards,\nKelsey Edwardsen', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13090, 26378, 'Mari J.', 'jaworskymj@cs.com', '', '192.234.122.28', '2015-06-18 14:04:00', '2015-06-18 18:04:00', 'I like what you said and I have done it both ways--diplomatically and cantankerously.  I can say that without a doubt, diplomacy wins as far as good will goes.  Unfortunately, sometimes the more visceral part rises to the surface.  These pointers are especially important when \"managing up\" with a challenging, forceful, headstrong individual.  You are correct, some of these ideas will involve overcoming some emotional factors.  I look forward to hearing more from you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13091, 26378, 'Alanea Kowalski', 'alaneakowalski@gmail.com', 'http://alaneakowalski.com', '83.197.90.120', '2015-07-21 06:00:06', '2015-07-21 10:00:06', 'Good article John with practical tips.  It\'s a topic of conversation which comes up quite often with my Coaching Clients.  I will share this across my network.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13092, 26382, 'John E. Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-17 09:12:48', '2015-06-17 13:12:48', 'Hi, Chip:\n\nThanks for an entertaining and useful reflection on the real heart of leadership ... being a human being, rather than trying to adopt the mannerisms of someone beyond us mere mortals.\n\nI have run into many leaders who felt they had to be superhuman, both visibly and emotionally, in order to lead others effectively.  Your words remind me once again that the best leaders are usually those who are most human, and who are comfortable being human in front of other humans, regardless of hierarchy or rank.\n\nPeople who believe themselves to be \"better\" than most probably struggle to understand the value and the power of being real.\n\nAs a reserve officer, I remember watching one active duty major interact with his troops in the field.  His manner was casual, friendly, and direct.  I would guess most of the soldiers with whom he interacted had no idea of the valuable and accurate information they were sharing with him.   He learned more about unit readiness, morale, and tactical knowledge with a few \"casual\" conversations than he could have by reading multiple after-action reports.\n\nHe also had the respect of those soldiers, as easily gauged in how they treated him with respect and connection.\n\nThanks for a great post reminding us of the value of just being who we are.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13093, 26382, 'Char Weeks', 'info@changechampions.com.au', 'http://www.changechampions.com.au', '1.136.96.134', '2015-07-02 03:24:02', '2015-07-02 07:24:02', 'Dear Chip\n\nWhat a refreshing and inspiring article.  Many CEO\'s distance themselves from people when things go awry, leaving it to someone else to sort people and problems out.  That physical and/or emotional distance generated by a disgruntled CEO undermines the confidence of its team.  That\'s because this brand of CEO is transmitting a take home message that all people are not equal and those who err will be frozen out, if not removed from the action.\n\nA CEO who shares their vulnerability also shares their passion for their people, their company and everyone\'s success.  They cultivate resilience among their people who simultaneous create and perpetuate a solid organisation with a \"can do\" culture.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13094, 26391, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.181.79.232', '2015-06-16 06:39:18', '2015-06-16 10:39:18', 'David, I enjoyed this inspiring look into your life\'s journey!\n\nOur lives are always filled with the unknown, and your progress through it all shows how we all can grow and learn and stretch each and every step of the way, and be the better for it.\n\nI\'m thrilled you opened up your life for all of us to get to know you better. Sometimes relating to each other helps us navigate those unexplored waters in life!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13095, 26391, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '173.180.23.33', '2015-06-16 12:23:34', '2015-06-16 16:23:34', 'Paul,\n\nThanks for your comments. My hope is that by sharing my stories you will be helped and inspired to try new things in your life. I\'m so pleased that this one worked for you.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 386),
(13096, 26391, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-16 13:42:06', '2015-06-16 17:42:06', 'David:\n\nFirst, thanks for your kind acknowledgement of my very minor role in all this.  My inspiration came out of my ongoing association with you and the other world-class thinkers who gather under this interesting professional tent that  Becky has built.\n\nSecond, Deep appreciation for your sharing of personal stories that really nail the concept that sometimes we are better off not knowing:)\n\nI think that is the lesson behind now knowing.  We are more willing to try things when we do not know everything we could know about those things.  Life is lived one day at a time, but when we worry about doing something, we usually cover a much broader scope.  I hope those beginning their leadership journeys are listening to your words.\n\nThird, Thanks a heap for reminding me of my own mostly-dishonored intentions to try \"this Yoga thingie\", as I call it.   It does not look painful, so I am taking a deep breathe and jumping in (figuratively, of course):)\n\nAs for your ending question, my wife often reminds me that I have been \"stepping in it\" for three decades plus now that she is personally aware of, and probably was before we met:)\n\nClear skies and smooth sailing ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13097, 26391, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-16 13:43:56', '2015-06-16 17:43:56', 'Minor typo in third paragraph:  Should read \"I think that is the lesson from not always knowing, before you engage in something.\"\n\nApparently, I was too busy being clever to spend a few seconds proof-reading:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13098, 26391, 'David Greer', 'david@coachdjgreer.com', 'http://coachdjgreer.com', '207.230.251.194', '2015-06-17 10:41:26', '2015-06-17 14:41:26', 'Hi John,\n\nI ask that you believe in the power of your own writing. I read through several posts on Lead Change Group looking for inspiration. Your post happened to be the first I read and the one that I most strongly related to. The result is the post you see.\n\nAs I have aged, I notice that I tend to get ever more entrenched in my own stories and beliefs. Getting back to \"the unknown\" let\'s me experience life in new ways. Not only does that keep me younger in attitude and outlook, it truly has let me appreciate and enjoy life in new ways.\n\nGood luck with yoga. Like most changes, getting started is the hardest part. That\'s a mental challenge--the physical part is easier. What I\'ve learned from yoga is that it is great for both my mind and my body. Go for it.\n\nCheers,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 386),
(13099, 26396, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-19 10:37:20', '2015-06-19 14:37:20', 'Hi, David - thanks for an great post.\n\nAs the old saying goes:  \"From your lips to God\'s ear.\"\n\nI hope that your clear and thoughtful analysis of the overlay between leadership and management helps move us past the discussions around this.   We need to spend our energy and time focusing on how effective leaders manage, how effective managers lead, and how to understand which is needed at a given time.\n\nI will admit that I see more of folks gravitating toward one role or the other, than the leader who \"hires\" management to cover all those little details of keeping the railroad running.\n\nRegardless, I appreciate your contributions here and elsewhere toward clarity in working with others as an influencer, whatever we call it:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13100, 26396, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2015-06-19 10:46:52', '2015-06-19 14:46:52', 'John, you said it well - we spend so much energy on either/or when, for the majority of people, it is a both/and.\n\nImagine if we spent the same energy arguing about the use of a knife or fork...?\n\nAppreciate you,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13099, 307),
(13101, 26396, 'Jack Durish', 'jack.durish@yahoo.com', 'http://www.jackdurish.com', '68.5.49.10', '2015-06-19 11:23:18', '2015-06-19 15:23:18', 'I wonder if we disagree. You aver that \"You can\'t influence people if they don\'t trust you.\" If you really mean what you say, then we must disagree. Of course we can be influenced by people who don\'t trust you. It happens every day.\n\nThey influence with guns. Not only directly but also with the mere threat. (If there were no threats, would we build defenses, avoid dangerous places, or arm ourselves - all indices of reactions to influence).\n\nThey influence us with force of law (in essence, with the guns wielded by our own government).\n\nThey influence us with paychecks. I may not trust you and firmly believe that you are leading us to perdition, but I\'ll follow until the paychecks stop coming (especially in these days when paychecks are very tenuous things). Sadly, I have watched the employees of many corporations march in lockstep behind leaders who led them into the abyss of financial ruin despite warnings born of their own good common sense.\n\nNow, if you care to distinguish between good and bad influences, good and bad management, good and bad leadership, I\'ll be happy to concur. Until then, I\'ll take my own path...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13102, 26396, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-19 14:47:52', '2015-06-19 18:47:52', 'I\'m sure David will have a response, but here is my two cents worth (along with a money-back guarantee:) ...\n\nI don\'t know the technical definition of influence, but when I use that term, it means to motivate to action.  \"Coerce\" seems like a better choice for the type of motivation provided by weapons or rules.    It is certainly involuntary, again as opposed to how I normally think of \"influence\".\n\n\"Influence\" just seems a kinder and gentler word ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13103, 26396, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '71.205.238.49', '2015-06-19 14:48:01', '2015-06-19 18:48:01', 'Hi Jack,\n\nThanks for the clarification - you are right in what I mean by the word influence. I would contrast influence vs compulsion.\n\nGuns, paychecks, and threats are compulsion. On average, compulsion generates only the least productivity from people and that productivity disappears when the threat is gone. Biologically, when we\'re afraid, we do the least possible to get out of the situation.\n\nOf course, I\'d be a fool to suggest that fear and compulsion can\'t accomplish things...of course they can. But I\'ve never worked with a manager or leader who wanted to work that way or was satisfied with the results it produces. Influence allows for sustainable results achieved over time.\n\nAppreciate the analysis!\n\nTake care,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13101, 307),
(13104, 26396, 'Debra Tolsma', 'DLTolsma@comcast.net', '', '68.41.238.15', '2015-06-24 10:57:36', '2015-06-24 14:57:36', 'From \"heresy\" to \"hogwash\"!  You\'ve given us a fun read.\n\nBut you\'ve also given us the truth.  Leading and managing are distinct yet complimentary disciplines (John Kotter said this)  and leaders need to execute both.\n\nAs I studied leadership/management in my previous organization, I was struck by how far the pendulum had swung toward management.  My theory?  In the decade of decline where survival was the goal, \"management\" helped organizations get things done and done quickly.  Was it done effectively?  Eh, maybe not.  But the pendulum has swung back.\n\nNow we just need to help organizations and leaders recognize the balance of both leading and managing so they can sustain the growth they are now enjoying.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13105, 26396, 'Paula Lucey', 'palrn@sbcglobal.net', '', '107.209.244.75', '2015-06-24 12:21:32', '2015-06-24 16:21:32', 'I completely agree.  The word management has gotten a bad name, a role to try to escape.  To me, it is impossible to lead if you do not have an idea how things actually work.  Not every detail but how does it work in general.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13106, 26396, 'Alonzo Mosley', 'amosley@gmail.com', '', '104.129.196.54', '2015-06-24 15:56:20', '2015-06-24 19:56:20', 'I would argue it\'s not that you trust the guy holding the gun, but you trust the fact that he will shoot you if you don\'t do as he says. Otherwise, you aren\'t influenced by the gun.\n\nYou don\'t trust the \"guns wielded by government\", but you trust that you will suffer discouraging consequences for not following the law.\n\nSo in that sense, you are only influenced by that which you trust.', 0, '1', '', '', 13101, 0),
(13107, 26396, 'James Pickett', 'jpickett@polarislabs.com', '', '50.195.225.141', '2015-06-25 15:50:53', '2015-06-25 19:50:53', 'David, I absolutely agree with your article! I am not sure how \"management\" became a dirty word in business circles, but it is absolutely a necessary component to being a successful leader. Being a great manager can be boiled down to effectively administering one-on-ones, coaching, delegation, and feedback. Leaders with sustained success know and practice the basics of management.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13108, 26396, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2015-07-01 08:39:44', '2015-07-01 12:39:44', 'Well said Debra!', 0, '1', '', '', 13104, 307),
(13109, 26396, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2015-07-01 08:43:31', '2015-07-01 12:43:31', 'Thanks James. As for why - I imagine it\'s due in part to managers that didn\'t treat people as people. That and the business-lit bookshelves are targeted toward executives or aspiring executives.', 0, '1', '', '', 13107, 307),
(13110, 26396, 'Rob Stevens', 'rob.stevens@beeline.com', '', '64.29.40.16', '2015-07-01 15:04:56', '2015-07-01 19:04:56', 'David - I too like what you\'ve written and wonder why so much time is spent trying to create a silo for leadership and a silo for management. I think some of the banter fails to take into account the reality of organizations today. Does anyone simply lead or manage in their role today? Maybe a few but most people have to balance how they lead and manage their teams as well as make an individual contribution, or performance, to their company.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13111, 26396, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '63.235.172.153', '2015-07-16 22:09:54', '2015-07-17 02:09:54', 'Thanks Rob - I think some of it is a natural result of splitting things up in order to study them. Some of it comes from people thinking of one as more fun or inspiring...and still more is the result of a lack of human-centered leadership, dignity, etc that many people reacted to by emphasizing leadership.\n\nTake care,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13110, 307),
(13112, 26429, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-18 19:48:34', '2015-06-18 23:48:34', 'Hi, Leigh – thanks for a very thoughtful and useful post.\n\nFirst, I am not planning to literally climb any mountains. Just wanted that out in front …\n\nThat said, I found much to appreciate in your analysis of how to plan to help others. While every step you highlight is important in its own right, I especially like “Pick A Specific Need To Focus On”.\n\nThe issue of focus always seems to dog us in these cases. Sometimes, we actually try to meet all needs and only succeed in thinning our resources to the point where few, if any needs are actually being meant. I think those of us who try to do “good work” are especially prone to trying to save everyone, in every situation, at every point in time.\n\nWhile worthy, but not chosen causes are undoubtably hurt in the short term by our  focusing on one or a \"vital few\" needs, the long-term effects should be more effective help for all.\n\nFor one thing, if we concentrate on addressing on a vital need, we probably do a much better job  of meeting that need.  The skills we learn can then be shared with others and also come with us to the next focus we choose ... Skills improvement on an ongoing basis.\n\nAnother reason to appreciate your thoughts has to do with the ephemeral nature of needs.  Driven by media that not only looks for what \"bleeds and leads\", but which creates an atmosphere governed by short attention span, we need to be reminded that most needs are not neatly resolved at the end of the news hour.  Just because we no longer hear about something does not mean that the need has diminished or gone away.\n\nAppreciate your thoughts and your highlighting of this specific vital and worthy effort:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13113, 26457, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-23 10:08:14', '2015-06-23 14:08:14', 'Hi, Paul and \"Chip Shot Gang\":\n\nVery interesting post and I appreciate the links to some potentially useful tools to help me keep my focus and forward momentum.\n\nWill\'s words resonated with me, since I have been around long enough to have worked quite a bit without any of the electronic support that we currently enjoy.  Nothing like having used carbon paper to make copies to help one appreciate SpellCheck and such:)\n\nThat said, I am a firm believer in using whatever tools are available to help us be more productive.   The issue I have with our electronic goodies is the same one as I have with modern cash registers that tell the cashier how much change to give the person.   While this is convenient, it also encourages people to depend on the machine (or the app), rather than develop at least a fundamental knowledge of the task themselves.\n\nI use SpellCheck ... but I could work without it and still spot the errors.\n\nOff in a slightly different direction than your thought-provoking questions, but that\'s where my brain took me this morning:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13114, 26457, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '8.26.250.186', '2015-06-24 16:55:10', '2015-06-24 20:55:10', 'Definitely appreciate your thoughts, John!', 0, '1', '', '', 13113, 378),
(13115, 26480, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-07-02 11:39:30', '2015-07-02 15:39:30', 'Kelli,\nGreat quote!\n“The job of a leader is to conserve the energy about to be consumed in drama and redirect it toward efforts that have better ROI.”\n\nIf leaders could grasp the concept that dealing with challenges proactively rather than reacting, it would totally transform their organizations.\n\nThanks for sharing!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(13116, 26480, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-02 19:56:11', '2015-07-02 23:56:11', 'Hi, Kelli - great post with a great deal of useful information, including that wonderful list of areas to assess for organizational alignment.  In general, I am in complete agreement with the approach you outline and the areas you identify as critical.\n\nI do have two questions:\n\n\"3.  Sense of Urgency\"l\nThis is indeed often lacking in organizations, where inertia and a tendency to just move through the day, combined with a focus on the minutia blunts any sense of getting it done.\n\nHowever, I have also experienced a sense of urgency become a sense of impending doom, which tends to have a negative affect on morale, energy, and focus.  How do you suggest making sure that the sense of urgency is not ... shall we say, TOO urgent:)?\n\n\"6.  Decision Stickiness\"\nBTW, I love this heading.  Organizations should remain focused on the longer term goals and ends, not letting daily stuff (as noted above) get in the way or divert energy and focus.\n\nAgain, where do you identify when a healthy resolve to make your decisions sticky becomes an obsessive attachment, regardless of changing environments and situations?\n\nAll in all, this is a very strong debut post and I am already looking forward to your future contributions:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13117, 26480, 'Jesse', 'jk.romeijn@gmail.com', 'http://kanbantool.com/blog/happy-teams-a-short-guide-to-change-management', '194.61.70.130', '2015-07-03 04:39:58', '2015-07-03 08:39:58', 'Hi, I really like your post.\nI think I would like to add a ninth factor, in the form of supporting the people involved and making sure they\'re on track and happy. Just read a nice little post on this: http://kanbantool.com/blog/happy-teams-a-short-guide-to-change-management and this is what they\'re advocating. If it\'s the people who make up a company, we should put emphasis on ensuring they\'re happy with what is going on in terms of changes, and that they\'re coping well.\nThank you for a great article.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13118, 26480, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '64.222.126.15', '2015-07-03 06:31:13', '2015-07-03 10:31:13', 'Kelli,\n\nWonderful post!\n\nItem #8 really resonates with my observations in organizational behavior. Unless someone, anyone, is truly willing, then change cannot occur. When a person, team, or organization has the willingness to make the necessary changes, then proper alignment can occur.\n\nWelcome to the group, and we all look forward to hearing more from you!\n\n- Paul', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13119, 26480, 'Kelli Hinshaw', 'kelli.hinshaw@avantas.com', 'http://www.linkedin.com/in/khinshaw', '174.74.0.242', '2015-07-03 09:58:31', '2015-07-03 13:58:31', 'Page,\nThank you for reading! I agree, and believe a first good step for a leader is to recognize when employees are heading for \"drama\" and challenge them to question their thinking/mindset.\nKelli', 0, '1', '', '', 13115, 397),
(13120, 26480, 'Kelli Hinshaw', 'kelli.hinshaw@avantas.com', 'http://www.linkedin.com/in/khinshaw', '174.74.0.242', '2015-07-03 10:11:46', '2015-07-03 14:11:46', 'Hi John,\nThank you for reading and your questions!\n\n3. Sense of Urgency\nI have a couple of thoughts. First, I think the important thing here in communicating urgency is to ensure leaders are communicating THE WHY behind the change.  Part of the job of the leader is to capture the hearts and minds of their team with the vision, and not just communicating THE WHAT. Simon Sinek\'s Golden Circle fits in nicely here.  Second, leaders have a responsibility to recreate mindsets in their organization that any change defines the new circumstances in which we must all succeed. To be successful in the new world of business, we must coach our teams to greet change with a simple, \"good to know\" and focus on the next best action that will add value. \'Simpler times\' are over, and change readiness is an essential core competency if you want to continue to be relevant to your organization. I agree that realistic, yet assertive, timelines should be kept in mind, there are some instances (safety, compliance, etc) we won\'t always have that luxury.\n\n6. Decision Stickiness\nI think the key strategic question here is, \"At what point is my decision no longer supporting the long-term vision of the organization?\" If they\'ve determined that it no longer serves it\'s strategic intent, leaders must have the courage to quickly modify the direction. Easier said that done as we often feel the weight of sunk costs! However, I don\'t feel all is lost here, great leaders can consolidate gains, learnings and progress made and focus on those wins as they shift organizational direction.   I agree with your point about not letting those daily small decisions derail the overall objective, and that is what the \'Decision Stickiness\' is intended to communicate.\n\nThanks for your comments, John!\nKelli', 0, '1', '', '', 13116, 397),
(13121, 26480, 'Kelli Hinshaw', 'kelli.hinshaw@avantas.com', 'http://www.linkedin.com/in/khinshaw', '174.74.0.242', '2015-07-03 10:26:14', '2015-07-03 14:26:14', 'Hi Jesse,\nThank you for reading! I like the Kanban post, especially the points that it makes about ensuring you roll out a well-communicated change and keeping in mind the cultural trends as you make changes.\n\nAn area I have a different viewpoint on than the Kanban article is the point about happiness,\n\"All in all, for as long as the change managers keep the team happy and save them as much stress as they can, any amount of change can be implemented with success.\"\nMy thoughts on this is that the job of a leader is to 1) communicate clear objectives and pursue clarity in goals and roles 2) teach employees that they are responsible for their own happiness and stop waiting for perfect, stress-free circumstances - They will never occur. Great leaders inspire their teams to succeed no matter their circumstances.\n\nStudies have shown that happiness is directly correlated with the amount of personal accountability we take in our lives. We are responsible for our own happiness - we cannot wait on others to create that situation for us. To close the loop on \'making employees happy,\' I think great leaders should focus on developing high levels of accountability in their teams, which correlate to overall happiness.\n\nThanks, Jesse - the happiness/personal accountability concept is a hot topic I am passionate about.\n\nKelli', 0, '1', '', '', 13117, 397),
(13122, 26480, 'Kelli Hinshaw', 'kelli.hinshaw@avantas.com', 'http://www.linkedin.com/in/khinshaw', '174.74.0.242', '2015-07-03 10:26:42', '2015-07-03 14:26:42', 'Hi Paul,\n\nThank you for reading and your warm welcome!\n\nKelli', 0, '1', '', '', 13118, 397),
(13123, 26480, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-03 12:04:33', '2015-07-03 16:04:33', 'Hi, Kelli - thanks for responding:)\n\nEnjoyed your clarifications and amplifications immensely.\n\nMy personal favorite line:  \"To be successful in the new world of business, we must coach our teams to greet change with a simple, “good to know” and focus on the next best action that will add value.\"   To me, this is a great way to perceive our role as coaches and as leaders through continual change.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13124, 26480, 'Kelli Hinshaw', 'kelli.hinshaw@avantas.com', 'http://www.linkedin.com/in/khinshaw', '174.74.0.242', '2015-07-04 10:45:37', '2015-07-04 14:45:37', 'All,\nThank you for your comments and interest in this topic! I resource I\'ve found helpful in my career in dealing with change is www.realitybasedleadership.com. I\'ve worked with the founder, Cy Wakeman, on various projects since 2005. She has several free tools and two best-selling books on this topic.\nEnjoy!\nKelli', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 397),
(13125, 26480, 'Jesse', 'jk.romeijn@gmail.com', '', '31.179.2.33', '2015-07-23 05:46:17', '2015-07-23 09:46:17', '@Kelli - thank you for the reply.\nYou have a point.. we cannot expect the managers to actually prepare a stress-free environment for the team. There is much truth in the fact that self-responsibility and accountability reflect on general happiness, at least this would agree with what I observed. Thanks for making me think about this.\nMaybe the best thing to do then is to leave as much autonomy to the teams as possible, this way they not only plan their own work for themselves (so no excuses when things get too hard) but also they then are the only people responsible for the actual stress levels?\nI might do some testing on this myself :)\n\nThanks again!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13126, 26489, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.118', '2015-06-29 08:25:27', '2015-06-29 12:25:27', 'John, Sometimes observing is action. Sometimes it\'s disengagement. I need to be a better observer for the purpose of action.  The action proves the purpose. Thanks for the post, the reminder and the challenge.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13127, 26489, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-29 13:17:45', '2015-06-29 17:17:45', 'Hi, Mike - thanks for commenting.\n\nYou are right on with your observation that observing is sometimes a good thing and sometimes, not so much.  I have found that the trick, as it so often is, revolves around being able to tell when you are observing in order to more fully grasp the situation in a comprehensive way and when you are just watching and hoping it will disappear on its own.\n\nWe are the only ones who can truly know when we are being thoughtful and when we are avoiding.  I know I struggle with this on a continuing basis.\n\nBTW, I have found your actions to be consistently thoughtful:).\n\nHave a great week and enjoy the upcoming holiday!\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13128, 26489, 'Duncan M.', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '95.77.161.206', '2015-06-30 05:32:08', '2015-06-30 09:32:08', 'This is a very inspiring post, and I really like the way you exposed the \"live life\" part. It is true that some of us enjoy taking risks while others feel better as observers. A true leader knows how to help both types maximize their qualities, without pushing them too far, to a point where they no longer feel comfortable.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13129, 26489, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-30 22:14:53', '2015-07-01 02:14:53', 'Hi, Duncan - appreciate your comments:)\n\nThe trick, of course, is for leaders to know when to push and when to ease off ... not always easy to determine.  How do you decide when to push and when not to?\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13130, 26489, 'Duncan M.', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '95.77.161.206', '2015-07-01 03:21:58', '2015-07-01 07:21:58', 'Hi John, good question. I believe that the art of being a leader is to find the comfort zone of your employees and to help them exceed it when needed. However, the trick is to respect their limits and help them take a step at a time when they feel that they cannot make it.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13131, 26489, 'Bruno Gebarski', 'Bruno@brunogebarski.com', 'http://www.brunogebarski.com', '93.213.29.232', '2015-07-18 16:39:17', '2015-07-18 20:39:17', 'Thank you for a fabulous article on creativity, courage and change management!\nI love every line.\n\nEcc_3:1  To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven (King James Version of the Bible)\n\nKing Solomon (David\'s son and the last King that led the united tribes of Israel) pronounced these very words! He is also the author of the book of proverbs where much can be found on Change Management, Character &amp; Leadership Principles...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13132, 26531, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-06-30 13:58:54', '2015-06-30 17:58:54', 'Hi, Cassandra - thanks for an interesting post.\n\nI could not and would not disagree with a single thing on your list.  These are all traits of strong and effective fathers and leaders.   I daresay these are excellent traits to develop and aspire to display for mothers, too:)\n\nThe \"Provider\" entry caught my attention.  At first, I thought that this might be a dated description of fatherly responsibilities, but upon reflection, it fits beautifully.  As leaders, we provide for those we serve, whether our children, our family, our team, or our organization.  An effective leader would have to be adept at providing, especially in times where needs outnumber resources.\n\nA good father and a good leader will identify what those he cares for truly need and do whatever is necessary to provide that.\n\nA second comment has to do with \"Accountability\".  In addition to the good father/leader exhibiting self-accountability, I think he also has to hold those he serves to their own accountability as well.  I remember well as a father having to sometimes display \"tough love\" to one of my children who was not progressing in an acceptably positive manner.  I also have had to treat employees who were not progressing, in spite of support, in much the same manner.\n\nI guess I didn\'t \"ground\" the employees, though ...:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13133, 26531, 'Cassandra Ferguson', 'admin@cassandraferguson.com', '', '162.129.251.29', '2015-07-01 11:37:24', '2015-07-01 15:37:24', 'John, as our younger generation will say OMG. You won\'t believe the feeling  I had as I was reading your comment.  I felt the love of a father leader. Thank you so much for you comment and I am sure those that have you in their life thank you too.', 0, '1', '', '', 13132, 0),
(13134, 26595, 'Kevin', 'kevinbroad08@outlook.com', 'http://www.twiggysflorist.com/', '103.15.80.132', '2015-07-09 08:58:45', '2015-07-09 12:58:45', 'Lovely post, Mary. Thanks for sharing with us.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13135, 26595, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-07-10 09:57:50', '2015-07-10 13:57:50', 'Thanks for commenting, Kevin!', 0, '1', '', '', 13134, 252),
(13136, 26595, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-10 12:01:02', '2015-07-10 16:01:02', 'Hi, Mary - thanks for a thoughtful and very enjoyable post ... I learn much better when I am smiling:)\n\nI especially like the subtle ways you encourage us to shift our perspective when we are feeling cranky about someone else.  LIttle phrases like \"...entitled to take “our” parking spot\' and \"... how much energy it took to “not participate” make me think more carefully about the times when I have been putting on the warpaint and hold off on the makeup.\n\nThis is very useful stuff in an easily digestible form - great job:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13137, 26595, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '166.137.240.83', '2015-07-10 15:47:19', '2015-07-10 19:47:19', 'Hi John. I was just waiting for you to comment because you are so thoughtful and have a genius for making me feel like what I share is worthwhile. Moreso than when I wrote it. You pick up little things I take for granted - things that do make a difference. Thank you for reminding me.\n\nI\'m so glad you found the post enjoyable to read, and that it put a smile on your face.\n\nMy Best,\nMary', 0, '1', '', '', 13136, 252),
(13138, 26595, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '98.178.142.102', '2015-07-11 10:33:25', '2015-07-11 14:33:25', 'Mary, thanks for a great post. These are great suggestions with very understandable, if not close-to-home, analogies.  I especially like the idea of swerving into another lane. We have to choose our conflict, for sure. Thanks again. Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13139, 26595, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '166.137.240.79', '2015-07-11 16:31:36', '2015-07-11 20:31:36', 'Thanks Mike. I had a lot of fun writing it. Fortunately or unfortunately I have plenty of examples of what not to do :) But that\'s what learning and growing is about I guess.\n\nThank you as always, for your support.', 0, '1', '', '', 13138, 252),
(13140, 26595, 'Vatsala Shukla', 'vatsala.shukla.delhi@gmail.com', 'http://karmicallycoaching.com', '14.98.90.252', '2015-07-12 04:36:29', '2015-07-12 08:36:29', 'Thank you for a most enjoyable post, Mary, especially the one about swerving into the other person\'s lane.\n\nSomething similar happened to me back at LinkedIn a few month ago when a junior alumni from a former employer sent a well worded and respectful connection request and in the very next email following our connecting, tried to sell me an Accounting Technician certification course which would help me get an entry level accounting job. That might have been of interest to me if I were not already holding the title of FCA from ICAEW! No comparison.\n\nNaturally I was irritated and after taking my dog for a quick walk (best way to cool down) I wrote a very polite email to her pointing to my profile and how I was not a good fit for her product but because she had wanted to connect with a senior for guidance, how she needed to check the profiles of her targeted prospects before she offends them. I never heard back from her but am quite confident that  she got the message.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13141, 26595, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-07-13 10:26:04', '2015-07-13 14:26:04', 'You clearly know what I mean, Vatsala. Thanks for commenting.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13142, 26631, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-10 12:07:49', '2015-07-10 16:07:49', 'Hi, Scott - great post and very useful.\n\nI love the question you suggest when considering consequences:  “What is the worst thing that could happen in the long run if this decision turns out to be wrong?”   This gets right to the heart of what I see as one of the more common causes of indecision - fretting about what might happen.  A disciplined consideration of the possibilities will probably always be less scary than just being afraid of the unknown.\n\nIn fact, if you identify the worst possible outcome, you now have a focus for consideration of how to not let that worst case scenario happen, with the result being a stronger and more thought-out plan.\n\nAll your points are strong, but I really liked this one:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13143, 26637, 'Bruce Harpham', 'projectmanagementhacks@gmail.com', 'http://projectmanagementhacks.com', '204.239.250.1', '2015-07-07 17:08:57', '2015-07-07 21:08:57', 'A great collection of posts. I like the themes of trust and self-knowledge that came out in this carnival.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13144, 26637, 'Paula Kiger', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.235.230.69', '2015-07-09 09:28:27', '2015-07-09 13:28:27', 'I agree! We appreciate your contribution this month too!', 0, '1', '', '', 13143, 0),
(13145, 26482, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-28 11:10:27', '2015-07-28 15:10:27', 'Hi, Kelli:)\n\nAnother very useful and well-articulated article - this one should be a discussion with leaders at all levels.   One good reason I liked this article is your focus on an aspect of our data-driven workplaces I had not specifically considered, as captured in this quote:  \"The thinking of \'never enough information\' causes us to believe our situation is full of ambiguity and stress, thus resulting in delayed decisions and project plans.\"\n\nWe all suffer from the pace of change and that feeling that we never get done collecting and analyzing.  However, you clearly point out the negative result of that in creating a perception of ambiguity and stress, which may or may not be objectively true.  However, if we feel it, we believe it, and if we believe it, we act on it.\n\nWe all would do well to remember this and check our assumptions regularly.\n\nI have a slight advantage when it comes to workplace ambiguity, due to some background in counseling and therapy, where concepts such as mindfulness, reality checking, and acceptance help folks (including myself) deal more peacefully with all the data, the lack of clarity, and just plain noise that comes our way every day.\n\nReally appreciate this post ... keep \'em coming:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13146, 26577, 'jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', 'http://insiteskill.com', '75.129.116.11', '2015-07-30 07:19:14', '2015-07-30 11:19:14', 'I can\'t think of anything you haven\'t identified. Good job on breaking down reasons for not getting ahead in a career. My favorite lines though are these, which puts the onus on each person to take control of their destiny.\n\nGather all your strength and passions to prove you are best.\nWhatever action  you choose, it has the potential to bring the best out of you.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13147, 26577, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-30 12:19:38', '2015-07-30 16:19:38', 'Hi, Ahmed - thanks for the comprehensive post.\n\nLIke Jane, I think you have done a nice job of covering the various perspectives from which we might approach a situation where our career appears stalled, at least in that one place.\n\nI might comment that I think another alternative exists, in addition to staying or going.\n\nYour description of deciding to stay includes a strong amount of self-analysis, renewing our motivation, and trying to more closely meet the expectations of that situation.\n\nUnfortunately, in my experience, Ir of a leader, but it is behavior I have personally witnessed in several organizations.   There\'s an old saying in the training field that goes something like the following, when managers try to decide whether training and employee development are worth the expense:\n\nManager A:  \"What if we spend all this money teaching Joe how to perform well and then he leaves us?\"\n\nManager B:  \"What if we don\'t train him and he stays?\"\n\nThanks so much for a very useful post, Ahmed:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13148, 26577, 'Ahmed Mujtaba', 'amkyz2014@gmail.com', 'http://www.amkyzonlineblog.com', '27.254.19.213', '2015-07-31 02:11:34', '2015-07-31 06:11:34', 'Thanks Jane for liking the post and encouraging comment.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 398),
(13149, 26577, 'Ahmed Mujtaba', 'amkyz2014@gmail.com', 'http://www.amkyzonlineblog.com', '27.254.19.213', '2015-07-31 02:14:37', '2015-07-31 06:14:37', 'Thanks John for commenting. Yes most of us have witnessed different and sometimes such horrible experiences in our career.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 398),
(13150, 26577, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.181.29.32', '2015-07-31 06:25:04', '2015-07-31 10:25:04', 'Ahmed, a very insightful post!\n\nYou\'ve identified the internal, victim-oriented thought struggle many people go through and have given ways to flip that thinking to an external, opportunity-based thought pattern. If people can identify their thoughts, and correctly interpret the situation around them, then imagine what they can do when they take the shackles off of their limited thinking.\n\nThanks so much for your contribution today!\n\nPaul', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13151, 26577, 'Ahmed Mujtaba', 'amkyz2014@gmail.com', 'http://www.amkyzonlineblog.com', '27.254.16.4', '2015-07-31 12:58:39', '2015-07-31 16:58:39', 'I am 100% agreed with you Paul. If we start realizing our situation then i am sure we start acting like employees rather than slaves. Thanks for the comment.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 398),
(13152, 26661, 'John Jacob', 'Jacobleadership@gmail.com', 'http://Jacobleadership.wordpress.com', '166.137.252.116', '2015-07-10 06:11:18', '2015-07-10 10:11:18', 'The key is to only engage in the conflict if you know you can keep your cool.\nQuestion and listen to both sides of the conflict intently to find the \'real\' sticking point, which usually isn\'t  what\'s being argued. What information/history is each party missing from the other.\nConflict management like, like you\'ve stated, when properly handled can bring teams together. Not always fun, but a reality of working with others.\nGreat article!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13153, 26661, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-07-10 12:04:22', '2015-07-10 16:04:22', 'Great advice, John, about keeping a cool head and looking for deeper issues. Sometimes I\'ve discovered a hidden agenda or an unknown misunderstanding was driving the conflict. Progress could only be made once everything was \"made visible.\" Thanks for your kind words!', 0, '1', '', '', 13152, 251);
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(13154, 26661, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-10 12:26:07', '2015-07-10 16:26:07', 'Hi, Jane - excellent and well-constructed post about a subject near and dear to my heart:)\n\n\" ... differences in terms of power, values, and attitudes ... \" seems to cover the reasons for conflict quite nicely, in my experience.  We bring ourselves to the table, as they say, with our diverse statuses and beliefs.\n\nHowever, a thing left unsaid is that we often expect others to act in accordance with our beliefs, while not extending that same expectation to ourselves.   If I have strong beliefs about something, it is easy for me to slip into \"crusader mode\", where my job becomes to convince others of my rightness and to force their behavior to match mine.   Of course, this way of interacting is doomed to failure.\n\nFowlett\'s take on the potential value of conflict is a solid position from which to consider conflict in organizations and groups.  When a leader/manager is able to release their fear of conflict and move away from seeing a need to convert others, conflict (defined here as differences regarding how to proceed or act) can be a very useful tool for innovation and creativity.\n\nOne important thing to remember is separation of person and belief.  This is core to interpersonal conflict in almost all environments.   Personal attacks are counterproductive and just fan the flames, so to speak.\n\nAnother consideration is that a hugh difference exists between problems and issues.\n\nIn classes I teach on creative and critical thinking, a problem is seen as something that most people with knowledge can agree needs to be addressed.  An increasing crime rate might serve as an example here, or an ailing economy that is heading the wrong direction.\n\nHowever, an issue is an expression of how an individual or a group feels that the problem should be resolved.   In the examples above, some folks might feel increased law enforcement is the answer, while others look at the root causes of crime, such as poverty and so on.  We have a great illustration of the second example, as people in our country divide roughly into the camps that think more government or less goverment will help cure the economy.\n\nToo often, instead of clarifying the problem definitively, we jump into discussions of the issues around that  problem.  This leads to long-term war between different schools of thought.  If the problem is explored, identified, and clearly stated as the starting point, especially as a \"How can we ...?\" question, rather than declarative statement (\"How can we best reduce crime in our society?\" leads to discussion, instead of \"We gotta get rid of guns\" or \"Put \'em all in jail and throw away the key\", which lead to\n\nAs usual, conflict is not the problem ... how we deal with conflict is:)\n\nThanks for a thought-provoking and nicely-stated post on an important topic.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13155, 26661, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-10 12:31:20', '2015-07-10 16:31:20', 'Sorry - meant \"Follett\", rather than \"Fowlett\" ... head was not securely fastened on this morning apparently:)\n\nJ', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13156, 26661, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-07-10 15:39:24', '2015-07-10 19:39:24', 'John,\n\nBIG thanks for your thoughtful and instructive comments...which should be required reading in many organizations and social groups.\n\nYour point about getting ensnared in our own \"should be\" orientation is particularly insightful. Brings us back to learning how to manage paradox:  don\'t get so caught up in the upsides of your position that you ignore its downsides when the strength gets overplayed into a weakness.  That government perspective you raise *smile*\n\nJane', 0, '1', '', '', 13154, 251),
(13157, 26661, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '98.178.142.102', '2015-07-11 10:27:11', '2015-07-11 14:27:11', 'I like the comment \"I think of conflict like kale—not my first choice but definitely good for me.\" Such a wonderful analogy. Conflict is a sign others are bringing energy. We don\'t want to squash it, we want to collaboratively direct it.  Thanks for the great post and reminder.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13158, 26661, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-07-21 11:19:39', '2015-07-21 15:19:39', 'Thanks much, Mike! Here\'s to kale as an inspiration for all of us in learning to manage conflict!', 0, '1', '', '', 13157, 251),
(13159, 26682, 'Julian', 'oliver.dodd83@googlemail.com', 'http://www.huge-relief-fast.com', '82.153.123.242', '2015-07-31 16:15:04', '2015-07-31 20:15:04', 'Great article...something that we should all be doing, walking in somebody elses shoes (for at least a short time)\nThis article is great at promoting compassion and tolerance. Thanks for posting', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13160, 26682, 'Rena McDianiel', 'rm29303@gmail.com', '', '107.211.35.107', '2015-07-31 20:41:43', '2015-08-01 00:41:43', 'I think that age has had the most influence in any conflict these days. When I was young I had a really bad temper. Things happened in the early part of life that I had to get over. That took age, wisdom, and maturity. Now, it takes a lot to ruffle my feathers.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13161, 26682, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.131.210', '2015-08-02 07:07:09', '2015-08-02 11:07:09', 'I agree, Julian! Thanks for stopping by.', 0, '1', '', '', 13159, 378),
(13162, 26682, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.131.210', '2015-08-02 07:08:30', '2015-08-02 11:08:30', 'Yes, age (and experience) definitely change how we handle conflict. Thanks so much for commenting!', 0, '1', '', '', 13160, 378),
(13163, 26682, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-08-03 10:51:13', '2015-08-03 14:51:13', 'Good job with this post, Paula. Just seeing it.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13164, 26682, 'Margy KJ', 'kerrjarrett.m@gmail.com', '', '82.166.22.50', '2015-08-23 07:30:57', '2015-08-23 11:30:57', 'Hi Paula- are you able to receive this comment?', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13165, 26682, 'John Marcelo', 'jm@john-marcello.com', '', '186.82.104.167', '2015-08-23 19:03:06', '2015-08-23 23:03:06', 'An excellent article...', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13166, 26682, 'Paula Kiger (Admin)', 'paula@weavinginfluence.com', '', '67.233.131.210', '2015-08-23 19:46:55', '2015-08-23 23:46:55', 'Thanks, Margy! Got it!', 0, '1', '', '', 13164, 378),
(13167, 26686, 'Bill', 'wmp95@yahoo.com', '', '184.178.179.211', '2015-07-13 14:03:30', '2015-07-13 18:03:30', 'There are some really good pointers here.  I love the old saying \"if you think that you have a problem, you probably do.\"  The question is usually....who should become involved and at what level ?  Don\'t you just love it when you ask someone to straighten things out and the problem just become worse ?  Misunderstandings eventually cause hurt feelings.  Often, these things can be avoided by over communicating up front.  It takes a little more time, but can stop conflict from ever happening.  Good article !', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13168, 26686, 'Chris Wall', 'chris@fbcowasso.org', 'http://www.fbcowasso.org', '70.164.58.194', '2015-07-13 15:41:20', '2015-07-13 19:41:20', 'As a leader who deals with a lot of people, I have discovered that conflict is not avoidable but it should be managed effectively. In the organization that I lead, if we are not having conflict, we are simply not doing our job. Don\'t get me wrong here, I am not a guy who just loves to fight but I have intentionally sought out highly skilled and highly passionate people to be on our team. When you surround yourself with skilled and passionate people, get ready for the conflict to take place.\n\nHowever, the conflict most often leads our team to the best solutions. When it comes to managing conflict in our organization, we strive for reconciliation over resolution.\n\nThere really is a big difference difference between these two concepts.  \"Reconciliation\" means to reestablish the relationship.  \"Resolution\" means to resolve every issue.  Sometimes you just can’t resolve every issue or any issue. Reconciliation keeps in mind that the relationship with the person takes precedence over the issue. There will be many times in life and in business when resolution is simply impossible.\n\nWhy?  Because we are different.  We have different backgrounds, different gifts, different personalities.  We see things differently.  So, it is inevitable that there\'s going to be differences in our relationship from time to time.  So, no matter how much we talk, sometimes we are just going to see things differently.\n\nHowever, We can agree to disagree in an agreeable fashion.  That is the key with dealing with many issues.\n\nWe can have unity in a relationship without having uniformity.  We can walk hand in hand in a relationship without seeing eye to eye on everything.  We can have reconciliation without having resolution of every difference.\n\nWhen two people agree on everything, maybe one of them isn\'t necessary, anyway. Those differences that we have can lead to some incredible results. So you have to get back on track by emphasizing reconciliation not resolution.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13169, 26686, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-07-13 22:53:59', '2015-07-14 02:53:59', 'I love the suggestion to \"overcommunicate\"!  I don\'t know if it\'s even possible, but the goal is a super way to avoid or minimize conflict!  Thanks Bill!', 0, '1', '', '', 13167, 282),
(13170, 26686, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-07-13 22:56:21', '2015-07-14 02:56:21', 'Chris,\nWhat an awesome comparison to offer, between reconciliation and resolution!  So many leaders I\'ve know feel like they are a failure if they aren\'t ever able to help team members achieve \"resolution\", but you nailed it!  Teams that work well, that minimize conflict and learn from it, those are the teams that have been led to work towards \"reconciliation\", without worrying about whether everyone ultimately sees the world the same way or not!\n\nThank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 13168, 282),
(13171, 26686, 'De', 'dritter@visitingangels.com', '', '96.19.212.164', '2015-07-13 23:38:35', '2015-07-14 03:38:35', 'Great article Page. I have found that using repetition repitition repitiion is the best way to avoid misunderstandings that lead to conflicts, especially those that arise from lack of expectations being communicated in a multitude of ways.  I encourage the ladies with whom I work to say it and then say it again and try not to tire of the process because all of us learn best by hearing and experiencing things many times.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13172, 26686, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-07-13 23:52:49', '2015-07-14 03:52:49', 'NAILED IT!  Leaders need to remember the power of the reminder!\nMore than that, they need to remember to remind their teams!\nAlso important, great leaders know that to help teams remember, remind them!\n\nThanks!', 0, '1', '', '', 13171, 282),
(13173, 26686, 'Bill Stinson', 'bill7840@yahoo.com', '', '71.12.108.253', '2015-07-14 09:29:45', '2015-07-14 13:29:45', 'Page, good article and thanks for reiterating some basics that we as leaders easily forget, especially when we get busy \"doing leadership\". Going to the source of the problem is always critical and going in a spirit of humility is so important because we all fail in many ways. The way we go to the source of the problem is modeling for those we are leading how to deal with issue, I think that is called \"discipleship\".  The next time it may be us that is on the receiving end of a rebuke and the one who needs to repent. That is if we have built a team where there is mutual trust and respect so that there is an openness to share so that we are spurring one another on to love and good deeds.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13174, 26686, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-14 10:58:55', '2015-07-14 14:58:55', 'Hi, Page\n\n1)  Thanks for another engaging and useful post.\n\n2)  Thanks for multiple rabbit trails, as I spent much time in reflection on just how much I enjoy a good sci-fi film and you evoked some of my favorites:).\n\n3)  I particularly enjoyed the connection of Jedi Master to effective leader.   While the Jedi are (unfortunately) fictional beings, the elements of training, preparation, and reflection which you highlight are real and necessary for any effective leader.\n\nNow if I can just figure out that Jedi Mind Trick to get free coffee every morning, I\'m set.\n\nThanks for a great example of how to get across important information in an entertaining fashion, which will enhance the likelihood we will all remember this just a bit better.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13175, 26686, 'John Roehrig', 'jroehrig@visitingangels.com', '', '50.4.173.86', '2015-07-14 14:43:26', '2015-07-14 18:43:26', 'There is a lot of wisdom in this article that I can use. Something that I have done starting when I was in a leadership role in law enforcement....when I was confronted with something that affected me emotionally (anger, frustration etc...) I would try to wait at least 24 hours before I made a decision. Almost any decision can wait 24 hours and invariably I made a better decision after the waiting period. I have shared this with other professionals and they all have commented on what a great piece of advise this is, which of course I stole from someone else.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13176, 26686, 'Lisa', 'tradingashes4beauty@yahoo.com', '', '166.137.126.110', '2015-07-14 16:10:52', '2015-07-14 20:10:52', 'Enjoyed the article and the comments very much. Thanks for allowing me to be a part.  I feel it begins with listening. Though I\'m not yet an expect at always remaining silent, it is something I try to consciously make an effort to do. I feel like when we listen to a person explain their concerns it enables us to listen to the possible underlying issues. I try to listen to what is being said, along with what is not being said. I watch their body language and listen for tone to gauge how serious the conflict is for them. I believe listening until the person is finished with their thoughts, not shutting them down and asking questions to verify understanding allows us to come to a quicker resolution and hopefully one that is effective and a resolution everyone is happy with.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13177, 26686, 'Marjorie Smith', 'marjoriesotheremail@gmail.com', '', '70.234.162.103', '2015-07-14 23:39:48', '2015-07-15 03:39:48', 'Great job, Page. Communication is key... not only talking but LISTENING as well... thanks for including me.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13178, 26686, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-07-16 22:34:46', '2015-07-17 02:34:46', 'Bill, thank YOU for the reminder that leadership is more about \"modeling and mentoring\", and less about ordering and judging.  Those we lead are desperately looking for authenticity and humility in their leaders!  Thank you!', 0, '1', '', '', 13173, 282),
(13179, 26686, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-07-16 22:40:51', '2015-07-17 02:40:51', 'John,\nThank you again!  You are an incredible encourager!  I try my best to say something worth saying, and have fun doing it!\n\nIn your list of \"training, preparation &amp; reflection\", it got my juices going... other Jedi traits that could be beneficial... mentoring(Yoda), self-sacrifice(Obiwan) &amp; really cool outfits (Darth)... ok, maybe not that last one!', 0, '1', '', '', 13174, 282),
(13180, 26686, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-07-16 22:42:53', '2015-07-17 02:42:53', 'John,\nI love the \"wait 24 hour rule\"!  I had an old medical doctor(he actually was a M.A.S.H. doctor in Korea!) who used to always say to me, \"Page, it never hurts to sleep on a big decision!\"\n\nGreat counsel, and thanks for stirring up that great memory for me!', 0, '1', '', '', 13175, 282),
(13181, 26686, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-07-16 22:44:26', '2015-07-17 02:44:26', 'Love the listening comment... listen, listen, listen!  It\'s a great lesson, but a skill we all need to work on it!', 0, '1', '', '', 13176, 282),
(13182, 26686, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '184.186.90.153', '2015-07-16 22:45:42', '2015-07-17 02:45:42', 'Marjorie,\nIf I could improve only one skill in my life, it would be LISTENING!  It\'s the \"stepchild in the family of Communication\"!  thanks for your input!', 0, '1', '', '', 13177, 282),
(13183, 26693, 'Paul LaRue', 'bppglarue@yahoo.com', '', '71.181.70.29', '2015-07-23 06:10:42', '2015-07-23 10:10:42', 'Appreciate the thoughts behind this post Mike!\n\nWhat I derive from this is the sense that we need to be perceptive beyond ourselves in order to sense and recognize conflict. And then we need to embrace it in order to fully resolve it.\n\nIf we can look outside of ourselves and our perceived needs to see the situation holistically, we will create much stronger engagement which will build our people up that much stronger.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 343),
(13184, 26693, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '148.78.253.14', '2015-07-23 08:40:19', '2015-07-23 12:40:19', 'Paul, thanks for the excellent suggestion. A holistic view almost requires us to remove ourselves so we can sense and see what others are experiencing. Great way to phrase it. Thanks! Mike...', 0, '1', '', '', 13183, 0),
(13185, 26693, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-28 11:19:04', '2015-07-28 15:19:04', 'Hi, Mike - excellent post and I enjoyed your analogy of cars, roads, and purposes.\n\nYour three focus areas are essential to create healthy and strong relationships.  I particularly believe that the second element, of engagement rather than withdrawal is key.  You are absolutely right that we tend to avoid conflict, which is why we have so darn many hallway conversations in muted tones after important meetings and sessions.\n\nI think power differentials play a role in this, but if we are to truly lead, we have to display the courage to engage, even when it might cost us.  Energy indeed comes from engagement, but sometimes we also have to use our energy to create that engagement (not to go all \"chicken or egg\" on you:).\n\nVery useful and powerful post, Buddy:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13186, 26697, 'Christian Knutson', 'cknutson@engineeringcareercoach.com', 'http://www.engineeringcareercoach.com', '84.161.69.47', '2015-07-28 01:52:24', '2015-07-28 05:52:24', 'Great article which I\'m sharing Paul.  The keys for someone to make conflict result in something positive is empathy and listening.  Without those two attributes, it\'s going to be hard to generate something positive for either party.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13187, 26697, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-28 11:25:45', '2015-07-28 15:25:45', 'Hi, Paul - another strong set of observations that contain much leadership wisdom for us - thanks!\n\nYou have created one powerful list of benefits and I believe that this might become the new standard for expressing the value of conflict.\n\nThe second benefit you list, that of creating new relationships, was not something that had occured to me before now.  I knew intuitively that finding common ground in the midst of conflict was a positive strategy for growth, but you have identified a real \"silver lining\".  I would imagine that finding common ground with another in a potentially negative situation might even make for a stronger bond than those forged when everyone is in agreement.\n\nSomething comes to mind about the strength of things tempered by fire ...\n\nExcellent stuff, which I enjoyed reading and take pleasure in sharing with others.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13188, 26705, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-14 11:07:25', '2015-07-14 15:07:25', 'Hi, Will\n\nExcellent post on a fascinating aspect of leadership competence ... if we do not have confidence in ourselves, why should anyone else?\n\nAll your points are valid and well-stated, but the one which really resonated with me was when you pointed out the importance and impact of our environments.  Who we hang around really does make a difference.\n\nAs a young leader, I sought out those who were most like me.  Whether in a military, academic, or business environment, I wanted to be with others who saw the world as I did and who would reinforce my perceptions.\n\nThat is OK, up to a point.  However, when I was forced by circumstances or structure to interact with and depend on others who were NOT just like me, that I grew in my own confidence.\n\nPart of this was because I was now forced to support and defend my beliefs, rather than have them reinforced without any effort.\n\nThank you for a thought-provoking and interesting post:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13189, 26723, 'Duncan M.', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '95.77.161.206', '2015-07-16 03:48:48', '2015-07-16 07:48:48', 'I believe that we all like to see ourselves as reasonable persons, always eager to act the right way. However, there are situations when we have such a good idea (at least this is how it sounds in our head) that we can accept no change to it. This is when the gap between our own interests and the company\'s interests occurs. At this point, we need to be able to rely more on the actual facts rather than on our stubbornness to see something implemented.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13190, 26723, 'Mike Henry Sr.', 'mike@mikehenrysr.com', 'http://mikehenrysr.com', '64.207.236.118', '2015-07-16 09:09:35', '2015-07-16 13:09:35', 'John, this is one of my favorite quotes. To me selfishness is the gauge for motive. The fewer people who benefit from the change, the less likely the change is good. But I consider change to be more of a crusade than a single battle. Sometimes I must adapt to reality because the fight isn\'t worth the effort. Everyone doesn\'t want what I want.  However if I can always want to make things better for the most people, eventually, over time, the battles add up and progress is made. I like to be unreasonable over time as much as possible to effect the most positive change possible.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13191, 26723, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-16 15:23:58', '2015-07-16 19:23:58', 'Hi, Duncan - thanks for commenting.\n\nI agree with you ... that pesky tendency to think our ideas are The Ideas, which leads us to become forceful advocates for what we believe to be right, has both positive and negative aspects.\n\nFacts are always useful in a situation, as is getting a second or third opinion from trusted sources.   Maybe this is one of the reasons why having a coach is seen as such a good thing:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 13189, 0),
(13192, 26723, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-16 15:26:36', '2015-07-16 19:26:36', 'Hi, Mike - appreciate your comments.\n\nGreat observation about change as a continuing process, rather than a discreet event.   I believe that learning which battles to fight and which things to let go of is a very valuable skill for leadership and for most every thing else, for that matter.\n\nHere\'s to being unreasonable, most of the time:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 13190, 0),
(13193, 26723, 'Page Cole', 'pagecole@cox.net', '', '70.183.52.136', '2015-07-18 12:41:08', '2015-07-18 16:41:08', 'John,\nOne of the things I love about your posts is that you are an \"optimistic tire kicker\".  You\'re the guy that walks all the way around the car 6 or 8 times, kicks every tire, then points out not only the bad stuff, but the good stuff as well.  I\'ve noticed that you never seem to only see one side of any issue, but rather inspect every facet.  I appreciate that in you.\n\nFor example, when considering the value of being unreasonable, you say, \"Adapting to reality is not a negative thing … it is a survival thing.\"  It\'s so true!  Live to fight another day!  Look at the long picture!\n\nAnd yet you point out that there are negative aspects of being unreasonable... I love this quote- \"Sometimes change only comes by openly confronting what is, to move to what could be…\"  LOVE IT!  My definition of authentic leadership has always been, \"Accepting people where they are, and caring about them enough to lead them to what they can become!\"\n\nThank you sir!  Well done!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 282),
(13194, 26723, 'Jane Perdue', 'janeperdue@comcast.net', '', '76.26.198.226', '2015-07-21 11:14:13', '2015-07-21 15:14:13', 'Terrific post, John!\n\nI\'m with you in being \"all in\" when it\'s obvious the status quo would benefit from some disrupting. However, this need is neither an invitation nor an excuse for someone to be disagreeably obnoxious and unreasonable in doing or leading the changes. One can still be kind yet have a different, and valuable, viewpoint. From my perspective, that\'s where folks drop the ball in being \"unreasonable\" - seeing it as an opportunity to be ungracious.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 251),
(13195, 26723, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '71.224.4.26', '2015-07-22 10:17:50', '2015-07-22 14:17:50', 'Hi John. I\'m just now getting to this terrific post. Thanks Jane Perdue for sharing it again recently.\n\nI could say \"ditto, ditto, ditto\" to all that has been said. So, I\'m going to respond to one of your concluding questions: When have you been unreasonable for a very good reason?\n\nYou know this appeals to me because I can be a bit willful. But this time it was for such a good reason :)\n\nAs many of you know I used to be an HR manager. I\'m going to have to be cryptic to maintain confidentiality, but you\'ll get the gist.\n\nI was asked by another colleague for a piece of personal information about an employee, \"for a very good reason.\" Well, I didn\'t  agree that it was for a very good reason. Given his job he needed to check a box on a report, and I wasn\'t giving him the information so he could complete his report.\n\nIt was a very sensitive piece of personal information. If it had gotten out that I shared it so this colleague could \"do his job\" and check a box, I would lose all credibility. It was my job to indeed keep employee information confidential and certainly not access it just because I could.\n\nHe got his boss involved. He got my boss involved. I still refused. In fact, my boss had recently told me it was my job to keep this information confidential, yet she now asked me if I just couldn\'t cooperate with the request. Well. No.\n\nI had said this to him before, but after a month, I said it again. I suggested he contact our Legal department to see if him having this info was really a good idea, just so that he could check that box on the report. He reported back to me that Legal told him to let it go for the same reasons I had been offering. He never acknowledged that.\n\nSo what. I did my job, despite that fact that to many I appeared VERY unreasonable. (THANK YOU LEGAL DEPARTMENT for backing me up.)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13196, 26723, 'John E. Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-26 19:57:50', '2015-07-26 23:57:50', 'Hi, Page:)\n\nThanks so much for your kind words - they are truly appreciated.\n\nLove the \"tire kicking\" image and have done that literally, although I could not tell you why we kick tires on a car before buying it ... maybe to see if they are ripe:)?\n\nThat ability to see other perspectives on an issue is one I have carefully nurtured over the years -appreciate you noticing.   While some feel that one should stake a claim based on a particular viewpoint and defend it vigorously, I have found that more progress is made when the other person realizes you \"get it\" from their point of view as well as your own.\n\nYou lose nothing by acknowledging someone else\'s position.  I actually believe you are even strengthening your own position by doing so.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 13193, 0),
(13197, 26723, 'John E. Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-26 20:02:00', '2015-07-27 00:02:00', 'Hi, Jane:)\n\nAbsolutely correct ... taking advantage of a situation to just push your own agenda is just wrong and I\'ve been on the receiving end of such behavior by bosses in the past.  Some folks just seem to think that they can excuse being ignorant and obnoxious - the reality is that good ideas may be damaged beyond repair by boorish behavior.\n\nHow we treat each other has to come from wanting the best outcomes for all involved.   When we act based solely on our personal agenda, everyone (especially us) loses.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 13194, 0),
(13198, 26723, 'John E. Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-26 20:06:29', '2015-07-27 00:06:29', 'Hi, Mary:)\n\nThanks for that fascinating and somewhat familiar-sounding story.  I\'m afraid this type of scenario plays out too often in our workplaces and sadly, your willingness to confront this type of behavior is more rare than I\'d like to think.\n\nSome people know that they can do and get things they should not by being aggressive or pushy.  This type of behavior often works ... but it shouldn\'t.\n\nI\'m not surprised that this person did not acknowledge you were right in your position - that would not have served his agenda.   Guess you\'ll have to just bask in our admiration for making the right decision and fighting the good fight, especially when others are pressuring you to \"just do it\":)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 13195, 0),
(13199, 26723, 'Mary C. Schaefer', 'mary@maryschaefer.com', 'http://www.reimagineework.com/LCG', '68.80.222.12', '2015-07-27 12:05:19', '2015-07-27 16:05:19', 'Thanks John for your response. I hope readers \"get\" that I didn\'t write it for the admiration. Ultimately I have to face myself in the mirror, and that\'s worth everything. I tell this story so others know it CAN be done.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 252),
(13200, 26735, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-16 15:38:53', '2015-07-16 19:38:53', 'Hi, Leigh - thanks for an instructive and useful post.\n\nI enjoyed the story of Leadville and imagine that our history contains other such stories, if we only look.   The tendency to plan in terms of what has worked in the past plagues many a business and leader.  Wars have been fought, as military leaders learned this lesson the hard way.\n\nHuman nature, I suppose ... we are what we know and we all know our pasts.  I\'m struck by your comment that Leadville still today struggles to diversify their economy.  This points up a very critical part of all this about failure.\n\nWe don\'t always die ... sometimes we just limp along in significant pain, hoping for better days without doing much of substance to bring them to us.\n\nWhile your discerning words apply quite clearly to the modern workplace and business, I am reminded of this reality as I experience church decline.  Plenty of groups trying to continue doing what used to work, but no longer does.  They worship regularly in smaller and smaller groups, while bemoaning the lack of younger worshipers and vibrance in their events.  They focus on how to maintain aging and outmoded structures and buildings, rather than let go and face the perceived risk of transformational change.   They have no Plan B, but instead insist on endlessly trying to make Plan A work.\n\nA good book about all this from a church POV, but applicable more generally:  From Our Doorsteps by Rick Morse at http://www.amazon.com/From-Our-Doorsteps-Developing-Ministry/dp/0827210442.  This might be interesting reading for anyone whose group needs to change.\n\nThanks so much for a very clear and useful statement about change and the cost of not changing.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13201, 26744, 'lasertest', 'penelope_grissom@letterboxes.org', 'http://adsagesafvrtnreg5tg3d.com/', '23.244.128.69', '2017-07-23 07:46:48', '2017-07-23 11:46:48', 'Attractive component of content. I just stumbled\nupon your site and in accession capital to assert that I get in fact loved account your weblog posts.\nAnyway I\'ll be subscribing on your feeds or even I success you access\nconsistently quickly.', 0, '0', '', '', 0, 0),
(13202, 26749, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '168.215.110.103', '2015-07-20 19:31:44', '2015-07-20 23:31:44', 'Hi, David - thanks for an entertaining and all too real-life post.\n\nYou have nicely highlighted a very real and very common problem within organizations:  Trying to fix the wrong problem with the wrong tools.\n\nThinking of team building as the \"icing on the cake\", rather than as the big fix, is a valuable way to shift our perceptions about this important, but not primary developmental task.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13203, 26749, 'Duncan M.', 'duncan@getvetter.com', 'http://www.getvetter.com', '95.77.161.206', '2015-07-21 04:09:38', '2015-07-21 08:09:38', 'Changes, if they are not approached correctly, can bring a lot of discomfort in an organization. This is why it is extremely important to assure proper internal communication and not rely on distractions hoping that the situation will get fixed by itself. It is mandatory to tell the employees what they need to know. It is true that there are various HR tools that can be used to improve engagement, built effective teams, etc. At the same time, it is a fact that they need to be used when the situation requires and not randomly.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13204, 26749, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '70.192.217.198', '2015-07-21 09:18:55', '2015-07-21 13:18:55', 'Thanks John - so much dysfunction occurs from \'wrong problem - wrong tool.\'', 0, '1', '', '', 13202, 307),
(13205, 26749, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '70.192.217.198', '2015-07-21 09:21:26', '2015-07-21 13:21:26', 'Duncan, what you say about change is certainly true. As John said - right tool, right time.\n\nThanks for your observation,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13203, 307),
(13206, 26749, 'Beth Minton', 'Beth@BethMinton.com', 'http://www.BethMinton.com', '108.70.132.48', '2015-07-21 12:52:15', '2015-07-21 16:52:15', 'I wish every leader would read this article and take your sound advice. Taking it a step further, even when there isn\'t an obvious problem, a team will always have needs that have to be taken into account in the design of a team-building event, or it will miss the mark.  In a high-functioning team, they might be relatively easy to address (e.g., update on an initiative or agreement on email protocol).\n\nEven the most perceptive leaders often don\'t have the full picture, which is why a discovery process is critical. Interviews with team members (or at the very least, a survey) will surface and prioritize the needs, leading to objectives that are on target and an agenda that clears the way so the team can focus on cohesion and collaboration.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13207, 26749, 'Dan Poe', 'daniel.poe@altran.com', '', '50.240.155.114', '2015-07-22 12:02:54', '2015-07-22 16:02:54', 'David,\nThank you for the insightful post.\nI believe you touched on a frequent problem in many organizations - executive/managers who unwilling or unable to LEAD.  Often team building is preferred because it allows the executive/manager to avoid the pain of making tough decisions.  The team becomes the focus of any ill will or scrutiny from those affected by the changes.  Leadership is often a lonely and thankless position in the short term but with great potential in the long term.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13208, 26749, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2015-07-22 23:47:30', '2015-07-23 03:47:30', 'Thanks Beth - I\'m glad it was helpful. You\'re so right - start with gathering information. Always. No one ever starts with the entire picture :)\n\nTake care,\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13206, 307),
(13209, 26749, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2015-07-22 23:53:03', '2015-07-23 03:53:03', 'Hi Dan,\n\nWell said. Real influence begins with personal responsibility.\n\nThanks for the contribution!\n\nDavid', 0, '1', '', '', 13207, 307),
(13210, 26749, 'Jerry Flach', 'jerry33@optonline.net', 'http://www.pminj.org', '173.220.136.26', '2015-07-24 15:28:30', '2015-07-24 19:28:30', 'Follow project management best practices especially with respect to planning e.g. include the people responsible for the work in the planning/meetings/discussions.  Project decisions made in the corner office with a couple of people are decisions made in a vacuum and often lead to unrealistic goals and reduced morale.  In the end this is really another communications problem!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13211, 26749, 'John', 'keystonerm@gmail.com', 'http://www.keystonetrainingltd.co.uk/what-we-do/course-list/', '81.136.220.176', '2015-07-27 04:44:15', '2015-07-27 08:44:15', 'Great post here David,\n\nIt\'s a very interesting take on <a href=\"http://www.keystonetrainingltd.co.uk/what-we-do/course-list/\" rel=\"nofollow\">team building</a> , I think companies make too many stereotypical mistakes, when it comes to deciding on a particular team building theme.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13212, 26749, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2015-07-28 09:46:17', '2015-07-28 13:46:17', 'Well said Jerry!', 0, '1', '', '', 13210, 307),
(13213, 26749, 'David Dye', 'david@trailblazeinc.com', 'http://trailblazeinc.com', '50.155.171.188', '2015-07-30 09:37:46', '2015-07-30 13:37:46', 'Thanks John', 0, '1', '', '', 13211, 307),
(13214, 26764, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-30 12:06:46', '2015-07-30 16:06:46', 'Hi, John - very interesting post:)\n\nI really enjoyed the entire essay, especially the step-by-step approach to clearly illustrating how to approach the sometimes delicate task of clarifying expectations.\n\nOne phrase that really stands out for me is when you said \"If they react emotionally, remember that asking questions to understand the meaning or source of their emotions is one of the easiest ways to defuse their defensiveness. \"\n\nToo often, I think we react to emotional responses by attempting to defend what we said that spurred the emotional response, which does not usually help the situation.\n\nWe also tend to assume that we know why they reacted as they reacted, but emotions are more complex than visible behavior.  We can easily see a person\'s face get red and hear the tone of their voice.  Understanding why the red face and the angry tone is a whole other issue.\n\nYour wise counsel to focus on questions (possibly the single most valuable tool in a leader\'s toolkit) and try to find out why a person is reacting is gold, in my opinion.\n\nI always appreciate your thoughts and words - thanks for continuing to share them with us.\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13215, 26764, 'Protective Equipment Cases', 'darindelacruz@t-online.de', 'http://cases2go.com', '192.3.246.116', '2017-08-30 21:35:05', '2017-08-31 01:35:05', 'There\'s nothing better than a well written post! Thank you incredibly for\nthis relief, I relished every second of the read. Will be looking\nforward to your next article :)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13216, 26770, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-28 11:00:42', '2015-07-28 15:00:42', 'Hi, Jane\n\nI shared this excellent post last week, but am just now getting around to commenting on it.\n\nYou have done a very nice job of describing both problems and solutions within a useful structure.  I really like the idea of addressing both withdrawals and deposits - too often we only concentrate on one aspect or the other.\n\nHad to smile when you used \"swim streams\" and a few other key words - I once dealt with process improvement tools quite a bit and they can be a challenge, for exactly the reasons you mention.  The tools work well, but people are a bit more complex and require some interaction:)\n\nThanks for a helpful contribution ...\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13217, 26770, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-28 11:01:50', '2015-07-28 15:01:50', 'Of course, I meant to say \"swim lanes\" - I get carried away typing sometimes:)', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13218, 26770, 'Jane', 'jane-anderson@hotmail.com', '', '75.129.116.11', '2015-08-13 20:37:41', '2015-08-14 00:37:41', 'John, Thank you for commenting on my post. I was looking for a different post tonight and somehow noticed Comment (2). It was a nice surprise.\n\nAbsolutely people are a lot more complex than artistic doodles on a page. For one thing, when you take a pencil to paper there is no emotion or ownership. If you don\'t like the way the line is drawn or where the bubble appears you can change it an the panic factor is nil.  I think I was sent to training on three methodologies, none of which leadership embraced. But for a person like me whose artistic talent stops at lines and circles it was all fun and games to me. Amazingly actual systems got designed as a side benefit.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13219, 26832, 'John Smith', 'strategiclearner@gmail.com', '', '76.201.89.215', '2015-07-28 11:59:29', '2015-07-28 15:59:29', 'Hi, Page\n\nGreat post ... short, focused, and very useful:)\n\nYou were talking directly to me this morning, as I juggle coming back from a week-long church convention, long lists of emails to go through, stacks (more than one) of books to either read, review, or convert to support for posts long overdue, combined with several family deaths within the past two days.   My cup runneth over, as they say ...\n\nYour wise counsel to cut through all the noise and focus on one thing at a time is gold.  I am one of those who marvel at all we can learn and experience in our world on a daily basis and it is easy and very tempting to lose ourselves in all this.\n\nWhile learning is good, and being aware is essential for global and local citizenship, we also need to remember the value of self-care.  Your list of strategies to make our lives reasonable again is welcomed and will be shared across my platforms:).\n\n... after I take some time to digest your post some more:)\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 376),
(13220, 26917, 'Ally Gill', 'ally@allygill.co.uk', 'http://www.allygill.co.uk', '86.17.196.162', '2015-08-05 06:08:22', '2015-08-05 10:08:22', 'I don\'t disagree with anything here but it\'s based on a predicate of a hierarchy and a gap between a manager or leader and their team. If you work on removing the need for this then everything else pretty much follows.\n\nIt may be a bigger mindset change and a more difficult sell within the organisation but it\'s much more powerful at the end of the day.\n\nAlly.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13221, 26917, 'Paula Kiger', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '67.233.131.210', '2015-08-05 15:28:47', '2015-08-05 19:28:47', 'Scott, I really enjoyed this post. I especially concur with \"help others see where they fit in the mission.\" That\'s critical for me. I will dig ditches, sweep floors, anything that contributes as long as I understand why it contributes to the success of the mission. Thanks for this post!', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13222, 26917, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://www.makeitmatterbook.com', '65.185.19.119', '2015-08-05 23:43:58', '2015-08-06 03:43:58', 'Interesting point Ally.  I believe Zappos is picking up what your laying down too as they\'ve gone to a \"holocracy\" whereby the traditional layers in a heirarchy have been eliminated.  Will be inteesting to watch how that pans out.  Thanks for the engagement!\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 13220, 0),
(13223, 26917, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://www.makeitmatterbook.com', '65.185.19.119', '2015-08-05 23:47:13', '2015-08-06 03:47:13', 'Thx Paula!\nI\'ve heard so many times the importance people place on knowing how they fit in the mission.  They are then even more energized if they believe that the mission serves their Profound Why - i.e. their Purpose (Why they are working so hard, for what higher order reason?)\nScott', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13224, 26917, 'John E. Smith', 'stratlearning@hotmail.com', 'http://www.strategiclearner.wordpress.com', '76.201.89.215', '2015-08-06 13:28:10', '2015-08-06 17:28:10', 'Hi, Scott - very useful and comprehensive post.\n\nI was going to comment on the importance of making sure employees understand how what they do contributes to what the organization does, but Paula beat me to it.  Fortunately, many other valuable observations exist to consider.\n\nI think perhaps that when you say \"Create A Caring And Authentic Culture, Where People Feel Free To Bring Their Whole Self To Work\" you are really getting to both an essential point for engagement and a very difficult thing to do in the real world.\n\nThe issue I see here is \"How authentic do you want people to be?\".  The old caveat about discussing politics, religion, and the quintessential question of life (Beatles or Stones?), being taboo at work comes to mind here.   I personally have fairly strong views regarding my identity as a liberal progressive Christian and often share those views, trying to keep things civil and respectful toward others who might disagree.\n\nHowever, I have only been truly forthcoming since I have primarily been employed by self.  As an employee inside an organization, I never felt that I could or should share so much of what makes me ... well, authentically me.\n\nHow do we make our organizations such that differences are allowed and maybe even celebrated as what make us human, while still maintaining the ability to work with others whose values and beliefs differ?\n\nJohn', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13225, 26917, 'Scott Mautz', 'scottmautz@gmail.com', 'http://scottmautz.com', '65.185.19.119', '2015-09-06 12:08:01', '2015-09-06 16:08:01', 'John, my apologies for missing your response to this post.  You pose an excellent question in how to maintain authenticity at work in the face of strong valuesyou hold that not everyone may share.  As luck would have it, I followed this post up with one on Authenticity and Genuineness and work - A Code of Conduct so to speak that by now I see you have read and commented (which I greatly appreciate).  I hope that helped to answer this great question you pose.  The only other thing I\'d add to that post on Authenticity in light of your question here is this: by living and practicing authenticity at work in a holistic manner (as outlined in the Code of Conduct I shared), I believe that it creates enough common ground that we bind with our fellow man (or woman).  Committing to such a holistic approach allows us to be more patient and accepting of working with others who do not 100% align wiht our values and beliefs.  I\'d argue crafting this common ground is essential becasue in almost every work place, finding perfect matches on values and beliefs can be challenging.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13226, 26956, 'Paula Kiger (Big Green Pen)', 'paulakiger@gmail.com', 'http://www.biggreenpen.com', '97.34.130.58', '2015-08-04 14:20:20', '2015-08-04 18:20:20', 'Chris, I know I have said this to you before, but it bears repeating. Every time I read something like, \"When asked what company leaders should do more of to increase employee engagement, 71 percent said leaders should communicate clear expectations,\" I nod my head yes. A previous employer did lots of \"perk\" type things, thinking we wanted to be taken care of (and knowing they couldn\'t raise our salaries). Those things were nice but I would have traded every single one for clear expectations and a heightened sense of involvement. Thanks for your insight.', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0),
(13227, 26956, 'Juilian', 'oliver.dodd83@googlemail.com', 'http://www.huge-relief-fast.com', '82.153.123.242', '2015-08-05 07:49:45', '2015-08-05 11:49:45', 'Good post. I liked the third part, where accomplishments need to be praised. While not every one can be (of course) it is nice when once in a while, someone does praise you for good work. These days, we can sometimes be too critical without being fair with the praise.\n\nThanks for posting', 0, '1', '', '', 0, 0);
